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What Is a Binding Spell? How to Use It Safely

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Born in deepest Cornwall, now living in wild Wales, Bev has been practising her personal brand of eclectic witchcraft for years and years.

Consequences of binding rituals

Consequences of binding rituals

Binding Spells

There are two common types of binding spells: one is to bind two people together in a love spell; the other is to bind or restrict someone’s actions. Binding spells must always be used with caution and with a great deal of thought beforehand.

Binding Lovers Together: Why You Shouldn’t

I would never recommend using a spell to bind two people together. It can cause untold misery and complications later on down the line. The one exception is when a couple embarks on a ‘year and a day’ hand-fasting where the ritual is specific and the period is limited. The couple can renew their vow year on year if they wish.

A friend of mine decided that it really was a good idea to work binding magic on a man she had been dating for a little over three months. She was convinced he was the one. She wanted to make sure that they stayed together forever. She explained to me that it was important that nothing should come between them. A few years later, when it was patently obvious that they weren’t suited, they were caught up in a legal wrangle over property. They could not escape each other. Eventually, she remembered the binding and had to work several ‘detangling’ spells before they could part permanently.

Someone else I heard of decided to kindly work a binding on her son and new daughter-in-law on the occasion of their marriage. It caused chaos. Her easy-going, gentle son became controlling and jealous. His young wife was heartbroken that her husband so openly distrusted her to the point that he tracked her whereabouts constantly. He couldn’t bear to have her out of his sight. The divorce was horrendous, but thankfully they hadn’t had any children.

Please be aware that I don’t provide binding spells for lovers—too risky, and I have a reputation to maintain.

Binding a Bully, Tormentor, or Controller

There is nothing worse than when someone decides to target you, frighten you or control you. You feel frustrated, powerless, and even terrified. It may be someone at work, your relationship partner, or even a parental figure. So there are certain circumstances where a binding spell is absolutely the right thing to do. Examples are:

  • A work colleague who needles and picks fault constantly, making life a misery.
  • A teenage bully is tormenting your child.
  • An ex-boyfriend or girlfriend who is unable to move on and tries to harass you into getting back with them.
  • A partner who tries to control your every move—a binding spell can be used to restrict them while you extricate yourself from the relationship.
  • A stalker or neighbor who spies on you.
  • Anyone who tries to harm you or your kin.
  • Someone who attempts to put you out of business.

When Not to Work a Binding

There are circumstances when you shouldn’t resort to binding someone.

  • When you are angry.
  • When you want revenge.
  • When the person has mental health issues.
  • When someone is acting out of character.
  • If you are overreacting.
  • If you are a young teenager.
  • When you are breaking the law.

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.

— Wayne Dyer

Think About a Less Powerful Spell or Action

There are other magickal techniques which are not as powerful as a binding spell. They place the power back in your hands rather than sending out negativity to the perpetrator. Remember that there may be a karmic price to pay by binding someone. Here are a few alternative suggestions.

  • Work a protection spell.
  • Carry a protective crystal, charm, or talisman.
  • Empower the person being bullied by teaching them a positive mental outlook.
  • Use the Feng Shui technique of placing a mirror in your home to reflect negative vibrations right back to their sender. You can also carry a small hand mirror in your purse to do the same thing. If that’s not practical, then visualize yourself surrounded by a reflective bubble.
  • Work a neutralizing spell on the other person rather than a binding. It takes all the oomph out of their negative intentions. Imagine watching an angry person scream and shout; they are quite frightening at first, but then you begin to notice how idiotic their antics are, and you see the funny side. Their ire has turned into powerlessness.

It Has to Be a Binding

So you’ve read right through the article, and you still think that a binding spell is the answer. Before you begin…

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Binding Spell Precautions

In most cases, wait several weeks before casting a binding spell. Explore all other non-magickal options first. For instance, in the case of a school bully, talk to the teaching staff. Or don’t—very often, children are able to work things out between themselves. An over-zealous parent jumping in with a bit of witchcraft can make things worse and might possibly hurt your child even more.

Do a basic risk assessment. To work out all the possible consequences of a binding, really stretch yourself to visualize the possible negative effects. It might be a good idea, if you are adept at tarot, to do a quick reading on the outcome. Another tool that is helpful in a risk assessment is a mind-map. You can use it to map out the consequences of a binding, both on yourself, the person you are binding, and also if you are casting the spell on behalf of someone else. No one can cover all the bases, but give it a good try.

Be sure in your heart that you are doing this for good. Your intention must be pure. You don’t want any physical or mental harm to come to this person; you simply want their vindictive behavior toward you to cease.

Don’t do a binding spell if the other person is familiar with magick. If they realize what you are doing, they will send it straight back at you. Find another way.

Risks of Working Magick When You are Angry

Magick is worked via your feelings and emotions. Therefore it is imperative you come at this from a place of peace. You can't feel angry, stressed, depressed, or guilty. If you try to cast a spell when you are in the grip of negative emotions, then you risk those feelings being magnified. Universal energy, which works on the like-attracts-like principle, will simply deliver you more circumstances that will cause you to feel this way. So be calm, be relaxed. Do not wish the person any harm whatsoever. Your thoughts and feelings should center around a calm inner core of peace and good will.

How To Cast a Binding Spell

Items Required

An object to represent a human figure: doll, clothespin, sturdy twig, wooden spoon, cardboard cut-out… you get the idea. It’s a bonus if the surface is suitable to write a name on. This object is called a ‘poppet’ or ‘effigy’. You can find out more about using poppets here: "Sympathetic Magic and Working with Poppets".

String, cord, ribbon, strong thread, 12–24 inches, depending on the object being used. The exact measurement isn’t important; it just needs to be long enough to be wrapped around the poppet several times.

Working the Binding Ritual

If you wish, you can cast a circle, but it’s not necessary.

Write the name of the person you wish to bind somewhere on the poppet. If the surface is unsuitable, don’t worry, simply say, “I name you, *their name*.”

Sit for a moment and work through some emotions. This is what gives energy to the spell. You can do this any way you like as long as you are peaceful within your center. One suggestion is that you deliberately think of the negative effect this person has on you. Conjure up the pain or fear they cause you. But only for a moment or two. Then quickly imagine the relief if they stopped. Know with certainty how free you will feel once they stop their bullying or stalking, or whatever it is. Get that emotion of relief and happiness whooshing up and down your body. Try to hold it there while you perform the spell and speak the words.

If you are right-handed, hold the poppet in your left hand with the cord in your right. Place the end of the cord against the effigy, hold it in place with your left thumb and begin to wind the cord very slowly around the poppet.

Speak, whisper, or shout these words as you wind the cord:

*Their name* you gotta stop
Your cruel behavior, I’ve had enough
No longer will you cause me trouble
Or Karma upon you will be treble
As I bind you, I am free
You never more bother me.

Repeat the verse three times, feeling those happy, relieved, peaceful feelings and then say once:

As I intend, so must it be.

Don’t worry if you get a word wrong. It really doesn’t matter. It’s all about your feelings, intention, and the energy behind them. Tuck the end of the cord into one of the turns. Breathe, relax, and the spell is done.

Put the poppet away somewhere safe. One day, you might want to unwind the cord, make up a little neutral unbinding spell, and dispose of the doll carefully.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Questions & Answers

Question: Can you dissemble the doll? I have handmade one and now I want to unwind the cord. But would it be safe enough to do so?

Answer: Yes, but you need to work a quick releasing spell. Go here: and scroll down to the section on releasing. Unwind the cord as you say the words.

Question: What if I need to bind myself from making bad decisions. And bind myself from causing myself and my family misery?

Answer: Instead of looking at it as prevention, you could use magick to replace your negative behavior with positive actions. So work spells to help yourself make good decisions, to think calmly and rationally, to be kind, to have a good day. You could work a well-being spell for the whole family. You might work spells for healing and good health, for abundance and prosperity. Think of bringing good stuff in that will drive away the bad.

Lots more information on positive spell-casting and other aspects of witchcraft here:

Question: I'm extremely serious about binding someone who has hurt my grandchild in one of the worst ways possible. He has harmed himself. Would I receive bad karma for casting a binding spell on this person?

Answer: Not if you follow the ritual as described. I, too, wouldn't hesitate to use every available method to prevent someone from causing harm to a loved one.

Question: There's a person targeting me with a binding spell because they are vindictive and angry that I simply don't want to know them. Is there a way to undo or protect yourself from a binding spell?

Answer: When a person knows they are being targeted by witchcraft, there are two ways to go about it. Either believe that the spell can have no effect and laugh it off, or believe it to your very core and allow it to affect your life. Which would you choose? In either case, it's a good idea to arm yourself with psychic protection. There are some suggestions in this article:

Question: I have a narcissist ex who is making my life hell, would a binding spell be a good option?

Answer: Yes, but a banishing spell might be better in order to get him out of your life altogether. But, frankly, you should also report him to the police.

Question: You said to work a protection spell, how do you do that? And would the person that I am binding feel anything when I bind him?

Answer: I haven't published a specific protection spell but you can use a basic spell structure to achieve what you want to :

When you bind someone, their behavior towards you changes. Either they leave you alone, or their attitude improves so much that the problem goes away. They probably don't feel anything physically. Additionally, when you work such a spell, your own energetic body (aura) changes too. You become stronger and more confident and the other person feels that on a level they can't explain.

Question: What if you do not want the person out of your life; you just want their vindictive ways to cease towards you?

Answer: That's what the spell in the article is about. It says, "Be sure in your heart that you are doing this for good. Your intention must be pure. You don’t want any physical or mental harm to come to this person; you simply want their vindictive behavior toward you to cease."

Question: Do you have to say the same words as those in the article when you wind the cord or can you make up your own?

Answer: It's preferable to make up your own in any spell. Just be careful that there is nothing that can cause actual harm to the person or to yourself.

Question: Could you do a binding spell on somebody who doesn't live near you and they don't know you; they never met you but you love them deeply and wish to have a life together?

Answer: No, absolutely not. It would be a singularly unwise and dangerous thing to do. Imagine the unintended consequences on your mental health when it doesn't work out (because it won't). You cannot force such things and you should never bind two people together by a spell. Binding spells are strong magic and hard to reverse.

Question: How do I remove a bully binding spell when I am safely out of the relationship?

Answer: It's always a good idea to remove, reverse, or neutralize such a spell when it is no longer necessary. Here is an article that explains how to do it:

Question: I don’t want this someone gone. It’s my son. And I want to help him break his bad habits. Like stop skipping class and start taking care of his diabetes. So can I bind him from doing harm to himself or bind him from neglecting himself?

Answer: I would not recommend any kind of binding spell in this situation. If you have exhausted all non-magical strategies then I would work a spell to promote a harmonious relationship between you. Use Switchwords (link below) to keep that harmony going. Then I would work individual spells dealing with one issue at a time. Again, using Switchwords in between to maintain the harmonious energy between you.

Question: Will a binding spell on parents work or not? Will, they only let the girl marry their son or daughter, or they can say yes to others too? Can a spell be put on parents for making them agree?

Answer: I am finding it hard to understand the nature of your question. I think you mean something to do with an arranged marriage. But no, a binding spell should not be used in this situation. In fact, no spells should be used to try to manipulate other people. It's seriously wrong to do so.

Question: I want to use the spell on my son's dad to get him to quit harassing me and stop using my son against me. He has custody at the moment. So if I do a binding spell will it affect me seeing my son?

Answer: I think you have to be careful in this situation. Think carefully and make sure the wording reflects your exact desire. You might be better off by using a different kind of spell - one that promotes a more positive interaction between you all. Think about creating a transformation spell that takes your current relationship with the father and your son, and turns it into a supportive, friendly one.

Also, I recommend you experiment by changing the way you deal with your ex. Don't assume a negative position, instead visualize a friendship developing between you. Smile and be more ready to agree to arrangements. Don't set yourself up as the enemy. When he acts up, let it go and instead try to be pleasant even if he isn't. At least you'll know that you have the higher ground and it might give him something to think about.

Question: Can I protect my family from someone I want to put a binding spell on? I do not wish any harm on this person, but desperately need them to stop their mental cruelty and relentless bullying. I have done my homework, but unsure if I can protect my family as a whole? Any advice would be welcomed.

Answer: Yes, a binding spell will prevent or dissuade the bully from acting in that way to anyone. However, there's no harm in doing an extra protection spell for your family. Witches do them regularly, just as a matter of course.

If you want to remove the person from your life - they will sort of lose their influence and gradually not be part of your circle - use a banishing spell:

Question: I have an ex who just keeps on popping up in my life and never in a good way. I tried to tell him to stop, but he won’t. He has told me he has people that keep an eye on me. Would a binding spell work well? I don’t want to cause any harm. I just want him to stop.

Answer: I would think a banishing spell would work even better. That would get him out of your life and you wouldn't have to think about reversing it at a later time.

Question: I have a niece who suddenly believes she is a goddess and controls fire. She has turned the lives of her children upside down and causes the family so much worry. She pulls children into her fire rituals. She leaves her children for days. Would binding spell work to keep her from hurting herself or others?

Answer: It might, but I'd be more inclined to intervene on a mundane level and call in professional help. This situation sounds very dangerous.

Question: My husband's ex has continually caused mental anguish during their marriage and since their divorce 15 years ago. Deep trauma of insecurity, self-doubt, overall sabotage of our present relationship. My own frustration stems from watching him react to it; feeling he's not worthy enough for anyone. Heartbreaking. I wish for the anguish to stop. Would a binding spell and protection spell assist in stopping our distress from my husband's ex?

Answer: I think you need to take a multi-pronged approach. Even if her behavior ceases immediately, your husband is not going to improve - the thinking and feeling are too ingrained now. It sounds to me as though he has underlying issues of self-worth and his ex is exploiting them. So, by all means, try a binding spell on her, but you also need to deal with his anxiety and doubts. Maybe you could get some non-magickal counseling? Also try a mental healing spell to speed his recovery... nothing intrusive, just something like a simple written spell to ease the way forward, if you know what I mean.

Simple written spells may be just the thing for you because you can do them discreetly. They can be adjusted on an ongoing basis as the situation changes, and you can design them yourself in minutes:

Question: The guy I was with fell in love with another girl, A few bad things happened and now she won’t talk to him and he is very depressed. I know they really liked each other and I want them to be together again and be happy. Is there some spell I can do to help conflicted lovers?

Answer: No, absolutely not. It is forbidden that you interfere in the path of love, especially between other people. Messing around with spells to bind people together is dangerous and bad for all concerned. Let them sort it out themselves.

Question: Regarding a binding spell, can a poppet be a paper with the person's name on it?

Answer: Yes it can. Anything will work if it is meaningful to you and you can make the connection between the image/representation and the person.

Question: Will this binding spell keep a bad person away from my husband and family? Also, what if you don’t know their name but have an item of theirs?

Answer: You need a banishing spell to get rid of them from your life. If the item is small or a small piece can be cut from it, you can incorporate it into the banishing and the rest can be burned or disposed of.

This article will help you:

Question: A family member of mine is bipolar and seems to want to make my life miserable when they get bored or have been drinking. Would a protection spell work better for this situation with my family member? Do I cast the spell on myself or the other person to alleviate their behavior?

Answer: Yes, a protection spell may be better (you'd work that on yourself), or you could probably devise a spell that is only activated when you need it. A sort of 'calm down' temporary binding. You will have to think about how you could create such a spell. All you need to do is adapt the one above, change your intention, change the wording and add in two words: an activation and a deactivation. Just play around with the idea and see what you can come up with.

Question: There is this person; they haven’t harmed me directly but have harmed people important to me. One even attempted to take their own life because of this person's actions; others have lost their sources of income. I fear if this person isn’t stopped they will continue this path. Is a binding spell appropriate?

Answer: If ongoing interaction with this person is unavoidable, then use a binding. If there's a chance you can get them out of your lives altogether, use a banishing spell:

Question: How do I undo a binding spell?

Answer: If you used a poppet or representation of the person and you still have it, you can reverse the spell by slowly unwinding the cord and saying something like, "You have changed and so have I. Our past issues have now gone by. I release you, **their name** from this spell. Be free and always treat me well.

If you haven't got the original item used for the spell, then simply write their name on a piece of paper. Say the words and then burn the paper (safely) in a candle flame or tear the paper slowly into tiny pieces. It's up to you whether you build it into a more complex ritual with a circle etc.

Question: You said not to bind two people together in love, but how about if both of them are in love but they just don’t know it?

Answer: Never, ever cast a binding spell on two people. It's one of the worst things you can do and you have no right to interfere in other people's lives no matter how well-intentioned. I explain why in the article above. Let nature take its course.

Question: How can I remove a binding spell?

Answer: I have an article that directly addresses your question:

Also, you can adapt the instructions in this banishing spell article to neutralize a binding:

Question: Do I need to keep the effigy and put it away for it to work? Then for it to stop working, take it out and dispose of it?

Answer: The article says, "Put the poppet away somewhere safe. One day, you might want to unwind the cord, make up a little neutral unbinding spell, and dispose of the doll carefully."

More information on using poppets here:

Question: Can a binding spell be cast for someone else? My significant other is being “bullied” by an unsavory person at work. Constant name calling, use of his supplies without asking (they’re tattoo artists), and also making very rude comments to him. I know you said the wording does not matter but it would be wise to change it in the case, correct?

Answer: Yes, it can. And yes, you need to change the wording accordingly. What I said was that it doesn't matter if you make a mistake and get a word wrong during the chanting of the spell. However, it is important that the words reflect your intention. Read through the instructions carefully before you go ahead. I hope this gets sorted - not a pleasant situation for your s.o.

Question: How can I do a binding spell on my girlfriend to keep her to myself?

Answer: Don't do it. You should be happy to have your girlfriend be with you because she loves you and not because you are forcing her. A binding spell to hold someone close can end up having all kinds of unwanted consequences--people have ruined their lives with this kind of spell.

Question: Could someone use an object of yours, say an alcohol bottle, to bind you to alcohol and make you an alcoholic?

Answer: Not really because you always have free will and are able to make a new decision about drinking in every minute. You can choose to drink or choose not to, especially in the beginning. If you are fighting alcoholism, make sure you reach out for all the help that is available to you. Remember with spells like this - they can only affect you if you allow them to. You've let this idea take hold but it is an illusion. You are in control of your own life.

Question: If two people love each other and want to marry but the man's parents don't agree, can we do a binding spell on them to prevent them saying no?

Answer: It would be better to do a positive spell to persuade them to agree. Try a written spell or Switchwords.

Also try to persuade them by your own responsible actions and behavior.

Question: The man I am currently with has been conjured with witchcraft. He is losing weight rapidly, unable to stomach whatever he eats yet he feels full. He says there is a constant battle in his mind with himself.. The woman who cast the spell was not an ex but wanted him really badly but he kept declining her. Now after almost four years he is showing symptoms of witchcraft. Can you advise as to what can be done?

Answer: Yes. He should go see a doctor immediately. It is unlikely that he is affected by witchcraft, however, once he has been to a doctor, you can try the suggestions given at the bottom of this page:

Medical consultation first. Don't delay.

Question: Could you tell me if there is a spell using water, salt, and seven leaves, then left hand stir?

Answer: I'm sure there is but I have never heard of it. It sounds pretty good though. You could adapt the technique to any spell, using the stirring part to build up the emotion and energy. You might have to choose the leaves according to the spell. Research the magical properties of trees to ensure they are aligned with your intentions.

Question: How does the banishing spell work? There is someone who is constantly placing my boyfriend's future at risk with his actions. I need it to stop.

Answer: If this person is unavoidable, i.e. your boyfriend has to interact with him due to work, then a binding spell, as detailed above, is the best option.

If, however, it's possible to get this person out of your boyfriend's life altogether then use a banishing spell to make him go away. More information on how to cast a banishing spell here:

Question: What is a good binding spell with regards to a job and money?

Answer: A binding spell would not be suitable for either of those things. A binding spell is for restriction not for attracting a job or money. You need an attraction spell.

Question: My sister and niece are freely taking advantage and physically abusing my 83 year old mother. Police are no help. Should I use a banishing spell to get them out of her house?

Answer: You can use a spell, but surely there must be a charitable organization that could also get involved? In the UK we have social services, the local town/city council, Help the Aged, our Member of Parliament, and others. Think of all the authorities you could report your concerns to.

Question: Would a binding spell be good to stop a witch who is doing harm to people?

Answer: If you are certain that the witch is the one causing harm, then you could try. However if s/he knows about it, then you might be the one to suffer. Be careful.

Question: I have a coworker who I have feelings for and she knows it. I have told her that her constant physical contact with another male coworker makes me uncomfortable and hurts my feelings. She continues this behavior and it is getting worse. Would a binding spell work for this?

Answer: No. Absolutely not. You have no right to interfere with her or her friend's behavior. The best thing you can do is to remove yourself from her presence (as she clearly isn't attracted to you) and leave her alone. Working magic on someone in this way will be detrimental to your well-being.

Question: I was told to bury the poppet when done with the ritual. If I bury the poppet will it affect the spell in any way?

Answer: You have to do what you feel is best. Personally, I wouldn't bury it, I'd keep it safe so I could undo the spell at a later time.

Question: My mom’s never hurt me and has my best interests in mind, but she oppresses me. She’s a helicopter parent with conservative, religious, and extreme views (an example: the earth’s flat). I won’t give detail, but as a teen, you’d think I’d rebel. I don’t want to rebel; I want my mom to stop making it feel toxic. I can’t have my own opinions and views or do things for myself. It seems small, but explaining more is too personal. Would a binding spell work for this?

Answer: I don't think a binding spell is such a good idea. It would be better to put a spell around yourself so that her influence is reduced but not entirely removed. Imagine her volume being turned down. So some kind of glamor spell that renders you less noticeable to your mom. Or maybe a distraction spell. I haven't got any examples to hand, but I'm sure you could find what you needed.

As an alternative, it might be a good idea to get a third party involved - your school counselor or someone like that who can intervene and mediate.

Question: Can you please share an invisibility ritual?

Answer: No, because you can't make yourself invisible. What you can do is find a spell to make yourself unnoticed. There's a difference. You can devise or create your own based on any basic spell structure. The aim is to change your vibrational presence to one that doesn't draw attention to yourself.

Question: Will this binding spell keep my mother from moving to another state with a bad man?

Answer: No. You cannot place a binding spell on your mother. It's wrong to try to manipulate someone else's feelings and behavior, so I strongly advise against it. Your mother is free to make her own choices, whether or not you agree with them or not. Remember that a badly cast spell can come back and cause problems for you later.

The best thing you can do is talk to your mom and tell her why you are unhappy about her move and the man involved. Simple communication can be magical too.

Question: I know you mention try protection spells first, using a mirror to reflect the negativity. Would you mind being more specific about what protection spells to start with? I want to do this and see if the negativity stops before anything else.

Answer: They are two different things. A protection spell might help by deterring unwanted attention. I have some suggestions here:

Using a mirror in your house, usually right opposite the main entrance is a Feng Shui technique to keep negativity out of your home. I found this article with some interesting information here:

Of course, there's nothing preventing you from designing your own protection spell that incorporates a mirror.

© 2019 Bev G


Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on September 21, 2020:

This kind of binding won't work for you, Topher. You would be better off finding some real-world coping strategies to manage your sensitivity. I would suggest using a grounding mat for several hours a day in order to rebalance your energies.

Topher on September 20, 2020:

What if I choose to bind myself, I am an empathy, and I tire of being syphoned, targeted, and drained.

My life experience, has entagled me with "succubi" more times then I can count, and I am tired of enduring. I would like to go on for awhile without having to guess if I am leaking a trail of energy, or drawing in monsters, I am honestly tired.

Thank you in advance.

Be blessed.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on August 20, 2020:

Hi Eileen, I wouldn't. You may want to remove the spell one day, so just put it away somewhere safe.

And it is advisable to remove the spell after some time has passed and the issue no longer exists. It sort of cleanses you spiritually.

eileen c stafferi on August 20, 2020:

can i bury my binding spell?

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 17, 2020:

Hi Alexa, it's pretty easy to block texts from unknown numbers on your phones, so do that first. You can Google how to do it for your particular phone - I did it yesterday on my Galaxy S9 by going into phone/settings/block numbers/block unknown callers.

It doesn't seem that your safety is compromised, so don't worry too much unless it escalates.

This needs to be dealt with on a 'real life' level. Contact the pizza places and ask them not to deliver to your address as you are being pranked.

I'll take a guess that the idiot will soon get bored.

Alexa on June 16, 2020:

I’ve been having issues with someone sending pizzas to my house and sending “prank” texts and calls to me and my roommate. We’ve both changed our numbers due to this but somehow they got her new number. I am getting increasingly worried about our safety and i have contacted the police but there’s not much they can do. I have been researching binding spells but i’ve run into a problem: i have no idea who it is or what their name is. Is it possible to do a binding spell without knowing who they are?

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 02, 2020:

It's all about control, Susana. Your partner is missing some essential part of his... soul? He has to make himself feel more important by controlling you. He will never be happy while he carries this ugliness inside him.

Be thankful you never married him. He may be the father, but he can't take your son away. Anyway, take care and do what you have to do.

Susana on June 02, 2020:

Thank you Bev, your words always help me. Im so scared of losing my child to him that I start to feel small and weak and really believe that he can do what he said. My sister is a cop and she told me the same, without a court order he can't take him. We are not married, we live together but he don't even have these address as his home. I need to calm down and seek for a lawyer as you said.

Are these people possessed by some evil souls? It seems like they are feed by our happiness.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 02, 2020:

Susana, you don't need to tell him anything. Please make an appointment to see a lawyer. You are going to have to file for divorce. Your husband is not allowed to take the child without consent of the court. If he takes your son, he'll be breaking the law.

Susana on June 02, 2020:

I know but when I told him I was going to talk to a lawyer to see the best for the child he exploded and said I was crazy and it was better for me if I didn't. He already defame me to his friends and family, and he is so malecious but everyone thinks he's a good person. How can someone be like that.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 02, 2020:

Susana, your husband is not legally allowed to do this. You must, must get legal advice as soon as possible.

Readings won't help you now, you have to take practical measures. Contact any citizens' charity or the legal dept of your local city hall. There are people and resources that will be able to advise.

Susana on June 02, 2020:

Hi Bev, I don't know if you remember me, I talk to you months ago because my abusive partner, the father of my son. So, this quarantine time was hell, it was starting to get better because he got some jobs that took him way most of the time, but than all went down when we had to be all together for so many time. Now he bought a house that is almost ready and he told me he will leave me (with all the bad words he could remember) and he will take my son. My son is "freaking" out with that idea, when he talks about it, he cries and screams and say he don't want to leave me. I already had conversations, despite he's only 3 years old, about it, saying he will be with mom and dad but in different houses but the fathers behavior is stressing him because he is "canceling" me. I'm feeling miserable right now. What can I do? Do you make readings? I really need to feel some hope, I know he will make my life worse and will not think about my son's happiness, because he told me he will not be my friend.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on May 27, 2020:

Clive, it's a stupid thing to do. You and she will regret it.

Clive on May 24, 2020:

I have a girlfriend that i love dearly and i want her to be bonded to me only. We have been experiencing a lot for angry and things. I really love her and want her to be mine alone and to stop her from doing things in looking for another person. I have done the frezzer binding spell.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on March 06, 2020:

Hello BeginnerWitch, I think a binding would work well here, as long as you are prepared to remove the spell once the 'good' behavior is established. And that will take as long as it takes.

I would also consider a non-magical course of action, such as getting someone to talk to this person to explain how much anguish they are causing with their outbursts.

Good luck.

beginnerwitch on March 05, 2020:


there is someone i know, who gets angry very often (and it's becoming more and more often.) anyway, when this person gets angry they target not only me, but the rest of my family. we've tried many other things and it's not like i can avoid this person because i have contact with this person every single day. (he is actually family)

for the last month and a half, I've been contemplating a binding spell, but i want to check out other magickal options too. for example a protection spell. problem is i can't find a lot about protection spells, either on this website or elsewhere.

what would you suggest? a binding spell or something else?

sorry for being vague, i didn't want to get to personal.


Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on March 04, 2020:

Hi Hazelme71, absolutely not. That's exactly what I warn against in the article.

Wouldn't you rather have someone be with you because they WANT to be with you, and not because they are forced to?

Then what happens when you've had enough? What if you are unable to undo the spell? Two lives ruined.

hazelme71 on March 04, 2020:

i started to see a man in a friends with benefit agreement but after 4 months, we are spending more time with each other and when he gets drunk he says the L word, we go out and do what couples do. I feel that he does love me cause i have tried to stop seeing him and he will not let go. I don't want to get hurt that's why i push him away. So i want for that love he feels grow into being in love with me. can i bind him to have what he feels grow into falling in love with me and not want to desire any other woman?

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on January 09, 2020:

Hi Mellanthe, by blocking, I mean simply preventing her from continuing the behavior towards you that you don't like. It's more of a protection spell for you so won't affect her in any negative way, apart from making her think twice about undermining you. As you said, it's about setting boundaries.

I can't give you this spell because it's not my situation, so you will have to work it out for yourself. Think about what you want to achieve. Journal about it, if it helps. When you have pinpointed what you want to stop, then think about how to work such a spell. If you set your intention clearly, then you are not going to deviate from it.

If you feel uncomfortable about it, then don't do it.

mellanthe on January 09, 2020:

Dear Bev, thank you so much for your reply.

When you say a blocking spell, what do you mean? Blocking out negative energies or intentions from them, rather than the person? Does blocking potentially actions count as blocking the person? Or does one block the person? Does blocking actions Do you have any examples on this site to use as a rough template? No worries if there isn't.

I read the link; A release spell sounds harsh (they don't have to go away forever, it'd just be nice not to feel negative energy and get on with them, I'm also prepared to do some work on myself to make me feel more resilient and positive so I can be a positive influence on them. A progressive spell sounds nice, though is it possible to write one about other people and the life you visualise for them? And would it refer to them as you, or they etc.I read about neutralising spells above but couldn't find them easily on the site; are those similar?

Also, I'm still trying to think of where I stand on 'interfering' with others' lives and karmic consequences; I don't want to draw negative energy to this person or myself (or the rest of the group) but to assert healthy boundaries, have them get on with their lives and maybe some protection or something to make me feel empowered so they don't bother me.

Also, I'm worried about releasing magic without realising, for example by thinking things about this person I'm quite an anxious person, so the way I dealt with past trauma was just by intensely wishing the person would spend less time with our friends, or go away entirely (or occasionally harm, but really just so they don't bother me or can understand how they hurt me). Those may be reflexive thoughts but they can be intense, but I don't want to send that energy out to that person. Is there anything I need to do to ensure I don't cause problems with thoughts like that.


Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on January 09, 2020:

Hi mellanthe, I completely see where you are coming from. I think what you need is a minor blocking spell - I would recommend a written spell. You'll have to work on the wording/chant yourself.

Another thing you could try is placing a charm on a piece of jewelry and giving it to your boyfriend, or even wearing it yourself.

I, personally, would go for the written spell because it keeps you in control.

mellanthe on January 08, 2020:

Dear Bev,

I've got a weird thing, it's probably pretty mild by most standards.

I'm with a person who has a large but close mixed gender friendship group, several of which have paired up within the past coouple of years, including ourselves. I have no concerns about faithfulness, but one of his female friends is overbearing, dominates conversation and makes us newest girlfriends in the group feel left out by dwelling on old times and in-jokes or talking to her friends (our partners) in a way that isn't inclusive. When you've been through it, you know there are ways people talk about things that include you, and ways that don't.

She's not touchy feely in the 'I'm stealing your man' sense, but her actions towards myself and the other new girlfriends in the group remind me of an abusive ex-friend of mine who found all sorts of ways to remind you subtly that they are closer, have a history, see each other often etc. My previous abuse makes me fear I'm disliked or being frozen out so her actions make me feel hurt. But she's someone who my partner sees a lot, and I'll see quite frequently too.

I get the impression she is unhappy (quitting her job, threatening to move) and as the only remaining singleton I don't feel she's adjusted to even her perpetually single mates pairing up, she's clinging to them and perhaps a little resentful or jealous that they have grown up and have other responsibilities (like partners or kids) to fill their time and have partners to be close to. Perhaps she's holding on too tightly because she doesn't have a partnership of her own. I'm not even sure that she's aware that she's sending negative vibes or making people feel unwelcome and I don't think she's a bad person necessarily. I'd really like to get to know her.

I don't wish her any harm; quite the opposite. I want her to be fulfilled and happy, go abroad if she wants to, and to move on with their life, find love if she wants it, get a job she loves, and still be friends with my partner and the others but without the clinging or subtle trying to put new girlfriends in their place. I want for those friendships to have healthy boundaries and for the rest of us to be respected, because it's hard for me to be happy he spends time with her if she treats me like that.

I don't want to banish her as a person physically (though she's threatened to move abroad!), she is important to the man I love and therefore to myself. But I wonder if It might help to banish the part of her that is overbearing, smothering, clingy, competitive, and non-inclusive so that she and I can grow a healthy friendship so that she doesn't do things to hurt me or the other ladies. And that she can stop holding on too tight to her friendships and find new friends and hobbies and happiness whilst she lets her friends be happy and respects their relationships. I'd like her to let go and live her life, and let he friends live theirs.

I just want to be able to deal with her in my life, and in my partner's life without feeling that she's trying to exclude me. Are there any spells or intentions you can recommend?

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on January 06, 2020:

You could do that, Lindsey, but be aware the new love may come to you rather than her. These things have a way of going wonky when you try to do them for other people.

Try this technique:

Lindsey on January 06, 2020:

Bev may i ask, i do t want to bind anyone but would i be able to do a spell that would attract a love partner into my daughters life. She is so lonely thank you

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on January 06, 2020:

Hi Amy, I'm not going to tell you how to a perform a love binding spell because they are dangerous. You can end up causing untold mental health problems (to yourself and them) by attempting to bind someone to you. Spells like this are very, very difficult to undo. I strongly advise that you don't do it. If the person truly loves you, they will stay with you... and that's the best kind of spell.

Amy on January 06, 2020:

How do i perform a love bunding spell?

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on January 06, 2020:

Hi Tets,

No, you can't do that. You will mess up your life and his. You are better off letting him go and finding someone who really loves you. Binding spells for love should be avoided.

Tets on January 05, 2020:


I want to cast a binding spell on my partner of 5 years who left me 3 days ago for a woman he has been cheating on me with. I want to bind him to come back to me. How do i go about it?

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on December 27, 2019:

Lindsey, you can use any words or phrasing that work best for you. The stronger it is, the better. The more you can feel it, the more likely the spell will be successful.

The banishing spell goes:

Your bad behavior is going to cease

Thoughts of me, you will release

My feelings for you are as stone

I command: you leave me alone.

So substitute names and alternative pronouns where necessary, or change it up completely.

lindseyosb19 on December 27, 2019:

Hi bev thank you for the information would this still work if i did it but saying about leaving (my daughter's name) alone. He truly is a horrible person i dont wish him harm just that he would leave her alone as does she

Thank you again

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on December 27, 2019:

Hi Lindsey, you could try a banishing spell to get rid of him from your lives permanently. People under a banishing spell tend to gently remove themselves over a few weeks.

Lindseyosb19 on December 27, 2019:

Please could i ask i wondered if a binding spell with a poppet doll would be an idea to use to stop a narcissist ex partner of my daughters from being so nasty, vindictive and controlling even though they have parted over 12 years ago. It just seems to go on and on even having people watching her. It has been through courts but nothing stops him. Please could you help

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on December 05, 2019:

Go for it, Sky.

sky on December 05, 2019:

my parents are divorcing sfter 40 yrs of marriage due to my father hsving a 10 yr affair with my mothers 1st cousin. he is now trying to destroy her retirement that she has worked towards her entire life by leaving her penniless after their divorce. i would really like to do a binding spell to stop him causing harm to my mum, myself, my son, and my sister.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on December 04, 2019:

Hi Susana,

Two things... do another binding and make it as powerful as can be. Or failing that, do a banishing spell to get rid of him from your life. No point him being around if he is setting a bad example and treating you like dirt.

The spell may weaken because you are giving him more leeway. In other words, it's working but you are loosening it by making concessions. It might be a good idea to do strengthen your spells on a daily basis by visualization or using Switchwords (see link below) to keep it thrumming on full power.

Take all the non-magical steps you can in order to lessen his influence on your son. Restrict access. Tell him he will need a lawyer. Don't interact with him unless strictly necessary and then always be pleasant.

Susana on December 04, 2019:

Dear Bev, first of all thank you for all your advices. Remember I wasn't too sure if the binding spell did work and than I made it again and I think it really worked. But in this last 2/3 days he is being more aggressive again and I'm thinking if the spell can lose power for some reason? He is very jealous of me and my son and when he thinks that my son loves me more he treats me really bad in front of him. I just want him to give good exemples to our son but it's not easy.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on November 27, 2019:

Hi Maria, sorry you are having to deal with this.

I don't think a binding spell is the answer here. If it were me, I would probably try a series of written spells, each a little different. For example, one to increase my personal power, one to encourage myself to ignore him, another to suppress his urge to goad, perhaps one to make myself be 'invisible', i.e. off his radar., etc. You can design them yourself as you see fit.

Perform them over a week or so, to give each one time to 'bed in'. Repeat as necessary.

This article might help:

Maria on November 26, 2019:

Hi, very informative article. I have an interesting question. I'm sorry for the length of this, but I want to give you as much context as possible to answer the question.

I am new to witchcraft (roughly a year). I've started a new job and have discovered a huge culture gap... I already decided before going in I that I would only be here 6 months, and I don't want to quit before then. I already knew it wouldn't be a perfect culture fit. I've done my best to keep on the down low and be kind and respectful and just work my butt off and most of my co-workers think very highly of me because of my work ethic, and we can banter and everything is fine, as frustrating as things might be for me. But one of my co workers in particular has intentionally not been respecting my boundaries. There are certain topics I simply won't talk about in the workplace and he can make ANY conversation about those things. I've told him multiple times not to. Recently he pushed me a little too far, and I said things to him about myself that are very personal. H kept pushing and pushing until I was shouting. After talking with some of my other coworkers, I discovered I'm not the only one he does this too, and have come to believe he is trying to provoke people into fighting with him. I've told my supervisor about the situation, apologized for my behavior and assured him it won't happen again. The provoker has told my co-workers about my personal information and frankly I expected nothing less, but the info may affect how the others think of me, and I'm already starting to see it (ex, suddenly they have been scrutinizing my work and finding very minor things to complain about, but won't tell me in person). I thought about performing a binding spell on the person that started this, but I figure it's a bit late for that as I am already experiencing the consequences of letting him get to me. What was once a decent job that is helping me further my career goals is now a toxic environment where I have to work very closely with the provoker everyday...

So now the question... Can I perform a binding spell on myself? Something that protects me from myself basically, like letting my rage get out of control again, and prevents me from letting out any more of my secrets? I don't want to be helpless, but I also don't want to hurt myself even more. I know I can't control the actions of others, but perhaps I can get some help controlling my own.

Thank you very much for any feedback

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on November 14, 2019:

Hi Thato, so let me get this right, you've cast a spell to bind yourself to someone who is not interested in you?

This is why people with very little experience should not be messing around with spells.

I advise you to reverse it as soon as possible as you could do harm to both of you. He won't come back, but the long-term effects could be damaging.

Thato on November 14, 2019:

Hi Bev G, so like I did a binding spell on my ex boyfriend and he has girlfriend so I am wondering when will he come bck and what are the signs i should look for?

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on November 10, 2019:

Personally, I wouldn't. I'd keep it somewhere safe so I could reverse it when the time is right.

Lily silly on November 09, 2019:

I just got binding and I put them in a peanut jar! Is it okay if I . Bury it

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on October 04, 2019:

Hi Karla,

I think if it were my mother, I'd be considering the same course of action.

Use the instructions given above and just think it through first. Try to work out the possible consequences and be prepared to 'undo' the binding if it turns out not to be the case.

You might try putting some psychic protection around your family first.

Karla Shaine Laurente on October 04, 2019:

My mom's being attacked with black magick by someone very envious of her. My mom doesn't know anything about these things but it look so clear that it was indeed a curse of some sort. Would it be okay if I'm the one to do this binding spell?? Also please help.. i don't know what else to do. The doctors aren't any help and her situations keep getting worse

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on July 11, 2019:

Rose, I can categorically say with the utmost confidence that you haven't been bound by your family. At least not in a magical way.

You must begin to direct your life in the way you wish it to go. You are not a victim of anything or anyone.

This might help you:

Rose on July 11, 2019:

I'd like some advice please even someone's number who can help me.

I've realised recently that I'vebeen bound since I was a teenager by my family and their friends. I'm still stunned by this level of evil , to me it's akin to taking someone's life - slowly.

All my life l blamed myself for my failure - at everything! I had no friends, little money, made the wrong choices it seemed, couldn't sustain a relationship.

I've been betrayed constantly & felt suicidal depression - with no relief in sight. Meanwhile my sisters all married, had children, money, friends ,traveled, & enjoyed crafts etc.

I have had some relief from going to church, but but l feel like it's never going to end & i know that I don't deserve it.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on July 11, 2019:

Hello Druantia, I would work the binding ritual as described in the article. Just change the wording to fit your situation - insert the family member's name instead of 'me' and 'I'.

There's another one that can put distance between the two people: It's down toward the bottom of the page.

The key is to be completely confident that the spells will work. May not happen straight away, so give it a little time and, meanwhile, try to persuade your family member not to focus on their tormentor.

Druantia on July 10, 2019:

Hi Bev G,

If there were a person who was causing great stress and anxiety because of jealousy and vindictivness to a member of your family. A person who could potentially destroy that family members reputation and career through lies. How would you deal with a situation like that??

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on June 13, 2019:

This is quite an article. I have not dabbled in the witchcraft area of dpells before, but it sounds quite interesting.

I am glad to see you point out all the dangers of creating a binding spell first. I will definitely not be starting out with one such as this.

Great read.

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 03, 2019:

Thank you, Michael. I am sure the binding technique is common to many cultures and faiths. It bothers me quite a lot that people think they can do this kind of thing without thinking it through. I suppose I am trying to make readers consider all the options and only use binding as a very last resort. Blessings in return.

Mike Parkes on June 03, 2019:

Bev G, I enjoyed your article on binding. I have a Christian background and remember all of the uses of "binding", and it was usually used to bind evil forces. It is interesting to see how it can be applied within witchcraft as compared to what remember in the church. Binding seems to point out how exasperating life can be sometimes trying to live at peace with this world. Blessings!

Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 03, 2019:

Agreed, Mr Happy. If you have to bind someone to you, that love isn't worth having. xx

Mr. Happy from Toronto, Canada on June 03, 2019:

I don't know about the UK but in Romania people pay thousands and thousand of euros for things like this: binding spells, love spells, love potions, etc. I personally think that's hurting (as in desperation). Either someone loves You, or they don't. If we have to go out and snare people into a relationship, that's just wrong in my books but hey: "to each their own".

I wouldn't do it for myself and I wouldn't do it for others and it is not about the consequences. It is about mingling into the Intent of others. I do not go there because as You wrote: "There is nothing worse than when someone decides to target you, frighten you or control you."

Well, I wish You are having a lovely day - all the very best to You and thank You for your indepth article. May Wakan Tanka walk with You.

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