How and When to Use a Binding Spell
There are two common types of binding spell: one is to bind two people together in a love spell; the other is to bind or restrict someone’s actions. Binding spells must always be used with caution and with a great deal of thought beforehand.
Binding Lovers Together: Why You Shouldn’t
I would never recommend using a spell to bind two people together. It can cause untold misery and complications later on down the line. The one exception is when a couple embark on a ‘year and a day’ hand-fasting where the ritual is specific and the period is limited. The couple can renew their vow year on year if they wish.
A friend of mine decided that it really was a good idea to work binding magic on a man she had been dating for a little over three months. She was convinced he was the One. She wanted to make sure that they stayed together forever. She explained to me that it was important that nothing should come between them. A few years later, when it was patently obvious that they weren’t suited, they were caught up in a legal wrangle over property. They could not escape each other. Eventually, she remembered the binding, and had to work several ‘detangling’ spells before they could part permanently.
Someone else I heard of decided to kindly work a binding on her son and new daughter-in-law on the occasion of their marriage. It caused chaos. Her easy-going, gentle son became controlling and jealous. His young wife was heartbroken that her husband so openly distrusted her to the point that he tracked her whereabouts constantly. He couldn’t bear to have her out of his sight. The divorce was horrendous, but thankfully they hadn’t had any children.
Please be aware, I don’t provide binding spells for lovers. Too risky, and I have a reputation to maintain.
Binding a Bully, Tormentor, or Controller
There is nothing worse than when someone decides to target you, frighten you or control you. You feel frustrated, powerless, even terrified. It may be someone at work, your relationship partner, even a parental figure. So there are certain circumstances where a binding spell is absolutely the right thing to do. Examples are:
- A work colleague who needles and picks fault constantly, making life a misery.
- A teenage bully is tormenting your child.
- An ex boyfriend or girlfriend who is unable to move on and tries to harass you into getting back with them.
- A partner who tries to control your every move - a binding spell can spell can be used to restrict them while you extricate yourself from the relationship.
- A stalker or neighbor who spies on you.
- Anyone who tries to harm you or your kin.
- Someone who attempts to put you out of business.
When Not to Work a Binding
There are circumstances when you shouldn’t resort to binding someone.
- When you are angry.
- When you want revenge.
- When the person has mental health issues.
- When someone is acting out of character.
- If you are overreacting.
- If you are a young teenager.
- When you are breaking the law.
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.— Wayne Dyer
Think About a Less Powerful Spell or Action
There are other magickal techniques which are not as powerful as a binding spell. They place the power back in your hands rather than sending out negativity to the perpetrator. Remember that there may be a karmic price to pay by binding someone. Here are a few alternative suggestions.
- Work a protection spell.
- Carry a protective crystal, charm, or talisman.
- Empower the person being bullied by teaching them a positive mental outlook.
- Use the Feng Shui technique of placing a mirror in your home to reflect negative vibrations right back to their sender. You can also carry a small hand mirror in your purse to do the same thing. If that’s not practical, then visualize yourself surrounded by a reflective bubble.
- Work a neutralizing spell on the other person, rather than a binding. It takes all the oomph out of their negative intentions. Imagine watching an angry person scream and shout, they are quite frightening at first, but then you begin to notice how idiotic their antics are and you see the funny side. Their ire has turned into powerlessness.
It Has to Be a Binding
So you’ve read right through the article and you still think that a binding spell is the answer. Before you begin…
Binding Spell Precautions
In most cases, wait several weeks before casting a binding spell. Explore all other non-magickal options first. For instance, in the case of a school bully, talk to the teaching staff. Or don’t - very often children are able to work things out between themselves. An over-zealous parent jumping in with a bit of witchcraft can make things worse and might possibly hurt your child even more.
Do a basic risk assessment. To work out all the possible consequences of a binding, really stretch yourself to visualize the possible negative effects. It might be a good idea if you are adept at tarot, to do a quick reading on the outcome. Another tool that is helpful in a risk assessment is a mind-map. You can use it to map out consequences of a binding, both on yourself, the person you are binding. and also if you are casting the spell on behalf of someone else. No one can cover all the bases but give it a good try.
Be sure in your heart that you are doing this for good. Your intention must be pure. You don’t want any physical or mental harm to come to this person; you simply want their vindictive behavior toward you to cease.
Don’t do a binding spell if the other person is familiar with magick. If they realize what you are doing, they will send it straight back at you. Find another way.
How To Cast a Binding Spell
An object to represent a human figure: doll, clothes-pin, sturdy twig, wooden spoon, cardboard cut-out… you get the idea. It’s a bonus if the surface is suitable to write a name on. This object is called a ‘poppet’ or ‘effigy’. You can find out more about using poppets here: Sympathetic Magic and Working with Poppets.
String, cord, ribbon, strong thread, 12 - 24 inches, depending on the object being used. The exact measurement isn’t important, it just needs to be long enough to be wrapped around the poppet several times.
Working the Binding Ritual
If you wish, you can cast a circle, but it’s not necessary.
Write the name of the person you wish to bind somewhere on the poppet. If the surface is unsuitable, don’t worry, simply say, “I name you, *their name*.”
Sit for a moment and work through some emotions. This is what gives energy to the spell. You can do this any way you like. One suggestion is that you think of the negative effect this person has on you. Really feel the pain or fear they cause you. Then imagine the relief if they stopped. Imagine how free you will feel once they stop their bulling or stalking or whatever it is. Get that emotion whooshing up and down your body. Try to hold it there while you perform the spell and speak the words.
If you are right-handed, hold the poppet in your left hand with the cord in your right. Place the end of the cord against the effigy, hold in place with your left thumb and begin to wind the cord very slowly around the poppet.
Speak, whisper, or shout these words as you wind the cord:
*Their name* you gotta stop
Your cruel behavior, I’ve had enough
No longer will you cause me trouble
Or Karma upon you will be treble
As I bind you, I am free
You never more bother me.
Repeat the verse three times and then say once:
As I intend, so must it be.
Don’t worry if you get a word wrong. It really doesn’t matter. It’s all about your intention and the energy behind it. Tuck the end of the cord into one of the turns.
Put the poppet away somewhere safe. One day, you might want to unwind the cord, make up a little neutral unbinding spell, and dispose of the doll carefully.
Please ask any questions you have regarding binding spells.Sympathetic Magic and Working With Poppets
Would you resort to using a binding spell?
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
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What if you do not want the person out of your life; you just want their vindictive ways to cease towards you?
That's what the spell in the article is about. It says, "Be sure in your heart that you are doing this for good. Your intention must be pure. You don’t want any physical or mental harm to come to this person; you simply want their vindictive behavior toward you to cease."Helpful 6
My mom’s never hurt me and has my best interests in mind, but she oppresses me. She’s a helicopter parent with conservative, religious, and extreme views (an example: the earth’s flat). I won’t give detail, but as a teen, you’d think I’d rebel. I don’t want to rebel; I want my mom to stop making it feel toxic. I can’t have my own opinions and views or do things for myself. It seems small, but explaining more is too personal. Would a binding spell work for this?
I don’t want this someone gone. It’s my son. And I want to help him break his bad habits. Like stop skipping class and start taking care of his diabetes. So can I bind him from doing harm to himself or bind him from neglecting himself?Helpful 2
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