Sage has been a witch for 25 years. She enjoys writing informative articles to teach others the craft of the wise.
Magic Spells to Return a Lost Love
Bring a lover back into your life, and give yourselves a second chance. This powerful spell using ancient candle magic may help you accomplish this goal. Candle magic is an ancient art, and one of the simplest forms of spell casting to learn. So if you’re new to Witchcraft, these spells are a good place to begin.
If you still have feelings for this person, it may not have been that the relationship was bad. It might have been bad timing, or bad circumstances surrounding you at the time. Either way, if you’re lonely and missing this person, it wouldn't hurt to try again and see if you can rekindle an old flame with candle magic.
Reunite with a Lost Love
Is This Spell Unethical or ‘Black Magic’?
Many people worry about the ethics of love spells—and you should be. Naturally, it’s wrong to try to manipulate a person for your own selfish desires. It would be wrong to try to force someone into emotional bondage and make them your own personal love slave.
But this spell does not mess with anyone’s feelings at all. It is designed to simply help old lovers cross paths again, so that you can see if the sparks still fly and let nature take its course. You’re not forcing anyone to do anything against his or her will; you’re simply trying to send energy out into the universe to open the way for a chance encounter.
Is This Love Spell Guaranteed to Work?
I'm not going to lie to you: no. Anyone who guarantees that a spell will work is conning you. Spells do work, but they don't always work and you can't guarantee it.
Seriously, how many things in life always work? Plans go awry sometimes. Things break down. Accidents happen. Stuff fails. Very few things in the world are fool-proof. A spell can fail for any number of reasons. If your concentration is interrupted, if you’re unskilled at raising energy, a spell can fail.
For the record—just because spells fail sometimes doesn't make Witchcraft any less real. My dishwasher fails sometimes. Sometimes I find bits of dried sludge on them, or sometimes it outright breaks down. That doesn't mean dishwashers don’t work or are a figment of our imagination.
If you don’t believe in magic, by all means, don’t bother doing it. You’ll never be able to work up the sincere energy you need to properly cast the spell. But if you do believe, don’t let failed spells discourage you. It’s all part of the learning process, and things going not as you expected sometimes is just part of life.
Keep in mind you might actually cross paths without knowing it—your ex might see you walking down the street and duck the other way to avoid you. Or your ex might come across your Facebook page and bypass it because he or she is happily engaged now. Just because you want to be reunited, doesn't mean your ex wants to be. So the spell might work, just not the way you had hoped.
If it doesn't work, you can repeat it if you like. But as I said, this spell isn't violating anyone’s free will— if your lost love doesn't want to be found, the spell is probably not going to work. So if you try it a couple of times, and nothing happens, you might want to give up— for now, at least (though you might revisit it in the future-- hope springs eternal).
What you Need for This Candle Spell
A clear space in a private area where your candles can be left undisturbed for nine days
One black* candle – pillar (no glass) or human-shaped
One white candle – pillar (no glass) or human shaped
One brown candle – taper, preferably
One small white candle – to use as a service taper
Candle holders – one for each candle
One 13-inch length of black ribbon, yarn or string
One 13-inch length of white ribbon, yarn or string
Candle Magic Preparation
If this is your first time doing candle magic, I recommend you read my article Witchcraft: Beginners Guide to Candle Magic before you get started. This will teach you the basic concepts, such as the all-important instructions on how to dress a candle.
Dress the black candle. The black candle should represent the woman/feminine person. Dress the candle keeping this person in mind.
- If you’re a woman trying to cross paths with a man, the black candle would represent you
- If you are a man trying to cross paths with a woman, the black candle would represent her
- If you are trying to cross paths with someone of the same sex, the black candle should represent the more passive/submissive person in the relationship
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Dress the white candle. The white candle should represent the man/masculine person. Dress the candle keeping this person in mind.
- If you’re a woman trying to cross paths with a man, the white candle would represent him
- If you are a man trying to cross paths with a woman, the white candle would represent you
- If you are trying to cross paths with someone of the same sex, the white candle should represent the more active/aggressive person in the relationship
Dress the brown candle. The brown candle represents your reunion, so visualize your reunion as you dress it. Don’t visualize falling in love, don’t visualize romance or sex—just visualize running into each other or hearing from each other again, and how happy you would be at that moment.
You do not need to dress the small white candle, as it’s just a service taper (the candle you’ll use for convenience to light the other candles).
Place the candles in holders. Set up your working altar like this:
Bringing Your Consciousness Into the Moment
Casting the Candle Magic Spell:
The first night of the spell is best done 9 days before the full moon, so that the spell will end on the night of the full moon. It’s very important to do it each night in succession, preferably at the same time.
Relax yourself and let go of intrusive thoughts and emotions. Bring your consciousness into the moment.
Light the service taper.
Sit before your altar and visualize yourself seeing your lost love again. See the two of you as happy to see each other.
Take the service taper and light the candle that represents you in the relationship, then light the candle that represents your lost love. At this time, DO NOT light the brown candle.
As I am drawn to you, so you will be drawn to me.
Let our paths cross again, to see what is to be.
Repeat the charm so you say it a total of nine times.
Visualize the future reunion you desire for a few minutes more.
Extinguish the candles.
Nights Two through Eight:
Move the white candle forward a tiny bit, closer to the brown candle. Move the black candle to the left a tiny bit, closer to the brown candle.
Repeat the steps outlined in Night One.
Warning: don’t forget a night— or you’ll have to start all over the following month with new candles.
Clear your head, relax and light the service taper.
Move the black and white candles yet again toward the brown one so that the candles (or at least the candle holders) are touching.
Do your visualization.
Light the candles, saying the chant 9 times.
Take the lit black and white candles and use them together to light the brown candle, so that the two flames touch the brown wick at once. As you do this, say:
The wheels are in motion; the dye is now cast,
Our paths shall be crossed—united at last;
For the good of all, by the power of three times three
‘An it harm none, so mote it be!
Repeat the charm so you say it a total of 9 times.
Sit and visualize the reunion for as long as you can.
Allow the brown candle to burn down and go out its own (this is why it’s better to use a small taper for this purpose—so it won’t be burning for days). You can leave the black and white candles to go out on their own, or extinguish them.
Return the wax remnants of the black, brown and white candle to the earth by burying them in the ground or in a flower pot.
The spell should take effect within one moon cycle if all went well and if your lost love is open to seeing you again. I wish you well.
Have a Magical Life!
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
© 2014 Mackenzie Sage Wright
David Brimson on April 18, 2020:
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Joyce Ahwireng. on December 02, 2019:
my sugar daddy who is Juozas Sudzuis, he used, abused and dumped me for other girls, I want him to come back, begging and crying for my forgiveness, he should follow my commands and do as I say, he should love me unconditionally and cater for all my needs.
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Jacquelyn on July 13, 2019:
I want a black magic that is simply and work. My son lived with me
Murana beagum on February 15, 2019:
my name Murana i love a gay whoz name is Raees khan he woz tolking to me aboht marige bat now he is not tolking to i dont what hapnt to he plz help me
Cancer2506 on February 11, 2019:
I’m going to try this out starting today but before I start, I actually tried googling and see when is Feb’s full moon and it says on the website I went to: 19 and 20 Feb 2019. So probably it is best to start today. However, I went to another website to check on the fullmoon - it only stated 19th Feb which is if I start on 12 Feb meaning it is only 8 days. Please tell me this is alright? I really want to bump into my ex or at least hear from him. Please help.
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White91191 on September 25, 2018:
can i do this in a full moon night ?
Matthew Chapman on September 17, 2018:
I'd like to try this spell out for the Hunter's Moon this October. I wish to reunite with a man who has known me as his "only love", and myself the same for him for the past five years, only to suddenly cut contact from myself, his family and friends 7 months ago. It's only been through his family I've been able to sense out his reasons, and understand at one point, he was willing to communicate, and even have me visit, but did not wish to speak directly (These last two indirect forms of communication were in August). Without speculating too deeply as I don't know the full truth, it was to my understanding his financial situation and inability to fulfill a promise to visit me (we are long-distance) played deeply in his decision to cut off.
It's my wish that he will remember what we loved for each other in the first place, and would be willing to open up to the mistakes that happened, and maybe, to plan how we can resolve our long-distance woes - It's difficult to live a life behind a computer screen. Though, I agree fully one mustn't manipulate another's feelings for something they may no longer want, I feel the potential for recovery is there and would like to try to encourage energy his way.
I feel too though, recovery is very necessary in other ways too - for myself,and for him. If we did recover our love, I'd like to allow for healing on both our ends, and I feel a spell would also do well in that regard too. Something you may recommend?
Blessed be, and best ,
Lilith Starr on September 05, 2018:
I had this spell done on me.
I have the candles and paper that he wrote. As I am drawn to you, so you will be drawn to me.
Let our paths cross again, to see what is to be.
How may I undo this spell?? This man has been harming my soul with lies and deceit.
Cheryl on July 16, 2018:
I would like your help reuniting me and the love of my life. Plz
hajimushtaqali on June 12, 2018:
Good day, My wife was recently in a tragic car crash that took her life.. I have been researching and looking for ways on how to get her back.. she was still so young with us having so much plans together.. just because of a drunk driver that pushed her to go with them. What I am looking for is an answer or anything that can bring her back.. I would be most willing to give anything and everything just to have her back and to spend more time with her
Anthony Gotia on April 12, 2018:
Good day, My wife was recently in a tragic car crash that took her life.. I have been researching and looking for ways on how to get her back.. she was still so young with us having so much plans together.. just because of a drunk driver that pushed her to go with them. What I am looking for is an answer or anything that can bring her back.. I would be most willing to give anything and everything just to have her back and to spend more time with her..
T Islam on March 24, 2018:
I am from india i currently live in UAE. I love my girl friend very much she also. But suddenly her family member forcing her to merry some where else. But she was not supporting them. So as a result of it they are try black magic on her. So no i am asking for help will you kindly help me to get back her please??
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on March 22, 2018:
Hi curious; yes, that could give it an extra little boost, I don't think it'd hurt. I'd give it a shot. Good luck!
Curious on March 22, 2018:
Would it benefit to put a photo of the both of us... place it underneath the brown candle and let the wax fall on it???
dolly on March 02, 2018:
Hey.can please help me to cast this spell to bring back my love? i want my boyfriend to love me alot and also marry me.
William on January 25, 2018:
I've decided to give this an actual shot
Silly question: Would it still be a Black ribbon and a black candle (representing feminine part) if I'm calling for my ex boyfriend? two guys....
lynn on January 14, 2018:
Hey.can please help me to cast this spell to bring back my love?
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tali on August 29, 2017:
can i substitute the brown candle to another colour? Unfortunately i cannot find anywhere in Adelaide
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on June 19, 2017:
Hi Sharon; sorry to hear about your tough situation. There is a spell for just about anything that can be realistically done... and if there is not, one can be written for your intent.
I personally don't write spells like that, because I have an ethical problem with trying to manipulate/control other people's behavior unless absolutely necessary. Necessary to me would be more like trying to stop a serial rapist, or stopping an ex who repeatedly harasses me. But just trying to get people to do what you want because it would be more convenient for you would not be absolutely necessary to me.
BELIEVE me, I FEEL for you... my husband and I recently broke up after almost 18 yrs of marriage, and more than 20 yrs of living together. He cheated... he screwed up bad. Instead of casting spells to control him, though, I cast spells to help myself heal and move on from the devastating situation. I don't deserve to be treated like that, and I shouldn't have to put a leash on him to keep him from treating me like that, kwim?
Personally, I don't think there is much hope for a relationship if one person can only keep it by controlling the other person with magic. If you guys can work it out, that's great... hopefully he'll learn to control his impulses and treat you with the respect you deserve. I'm not saying it can't work out. But if he can't choose you over an impulse, over a selfish desire, I just don't think trying force him is going to solve your problem... because the deeper problem with cheating is that it comes from a position of selfishness and disrespect. What happens in the next situation when he has to choose between you and what he wants? And the one after that? Cheating is usually a symptom of a bigger problem.
Some people do cast spells like that. And some people do want spells like that cast on their significant other. No judgement from me, to each his own. But it's not something I'm really interested in encouraging or helping along. Seems the person in question has free will to do what's right or what's wrong, and he's making his choice. Whatever his excuse, it's not for me to mess with that.
Sorry I can't help you but I wish you the best of luck with the situation.
Sharon on June 19, 2017:
Is there a spell to stop your boyfriend from cheating on you? I am with this guy but because of his job he is away for most of the year, he is always cheating but yet says he don't want us to break up because of that. Is there any help here for me. When we are together I don't have to worry about him cheating it's only when he is away at work but it still drives me mad.
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on May 08, 2017:
Hi Alina; sounds like you two are still in touch though, right? If you are, then this spell isn't what you're looking for, because it's to hep bring someone back who has been absent for a long time.
It's good that you don't want to force him to love you; but you also can't try to make him do things you want that he doesn't want to do right now; it's essentially the same thing, trying to force him to be with you against his will. If he's truly to come back to you and things are to work out, it has to be his decision. He has to find his own right way. At this point it sounds like your only real option is to be there for him and respect his wishes and let him go through what he's going through.
Alina on May 08, 2017:
Thank you for reply. I did not want to force him to love me, I just wanted to try to rekindle our relationship. I feel that he will come back, and I wanted to help him to find the right way. He seems to have a dificult period in his life.
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on May 04, 2017:
Hi Alina; I can't interpret your ex's dreams, or his feelings for you. I don't know him, so it would be impossible to guess.
The spell here is meant to help you cross paths again with someone from your past. Sounds like you are already in touch with your ex, so this kind of spell would not be much use to you.
The spell here doesn't force him to feel something for you... that would be manipulative, and ultimately those kinds of spells don't produce satisfying, healthy relationships (despite what thousands of con artist spell casters are trying to tell you, because they just want your money-- keeping someone in emotional bondage against their will does not make for happy endings).
Alina on May 04, 2017:
Hi, my ex told me that he had a dream about my death last week. Does it mean that I will be forever dead in his heart and that this candle spell will not help?
Adriane on April 02, 2017:
Hi, would it work if I will use tea candle for brown candle instead of taper one?
And if not, can I choose another color of this candle?
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on January 17, 2017:
Hi Lindsey, sorry about your pet. You can definitely adapt a spell like this toward crossing paths with your pet again. You might also try a honey jar spell.
LindseyLeigh3 on December 20, 2016:
Can this spell work to reunite me with a lost pet? If not, do you have a different spell suggestion?
Berenice on December 14, 2016:
Hi there! I'm the instructions; once the black and white candle have been lit and the mantra has been repeaded 9x, you mention to put out the candles after a few mins. In your experience have you found it more beneficial if you leave the candles on for say and hour or two before putting them out? And is the a size black and white candle that works best in your opinion. And one last thing (sorry) I'm thinking of setting up my altar in a movable container and doing all my work there so that I can put it away safely after I'm finished every night. (Reason being is that I don't have an actual space to work on without my work being disturbed.) In your opinion, do you think that would affect the out of this spell? I might glue or tape down the black and white string as well as the brown candle in the center. And then use the candle wax from both the black and white candle to "set" them every night so that they don't move until I move them. If you could give me your opinion that would be great!! Thank you!
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on November 15, 2016:
Hi there Green; Dressing the candle is essentially rubbing the candle with oils to charge it. I go into more step-by-step detail here: https://exemplore.com/wicca-witchcraft/Witchcraft-...
Green on November 14, 2016:
Hello, if you so kindly can explain what dressing the candles actually mean? Would like try this but I often mess up by not knowing or doing every detail. Thank you in advance.
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on November 08, 2016:
Hi Pisces; best place is on my website: wicclit.com
Pisces on November 04, 2016:
Hi how can I contact you? I'm new to this and want to learn more I'm very interested
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on August 14, 2016:
Sara, I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now and I understand your concern. If you think someone has performed harmful magic on you, you should perform an uncrossing ritual, either 7-day or for serious problems a 13-day ritual. These rituals can be found all over the internet but it's basically a bath & candle magic every day for the given amount of days.
If you need more help with that feel free to contact me through my website wicclit.com.
Sara on August 13, 2016:
Can you please help me everything going rong I belive my doughter God mother did something to me firstname.lastname@example.org please before I do crazy thing it is very scare I need help
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on August 13, 2016:
Hi Natasha; I'm not sure, but I think you mean do you need candles on the altar? Not in general, but as this is a candle magic spell, it's built around using candles. There are other ways to cast spells without candles, such as petitions, Witches ladders, container spells, mojo bags, etc. A lot of people live where they can't burn candles due to pets, children, fire codes (living in dorms, for example), etc... candle magic can be powerful and beautiful but it's not the only kind of magic. Some of my articles here at Hubpages give instructions on how to cast other types of spells, you can use them as a model to fill in your own intent.
Natasha on July 22, 2016:
Hi do you need candle altars to make this work?
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on February 08, 2015:
Blessings, Gemini, and wishing you lots of love in your future.
Gemini on January 05, 2015:
This worked and I truly believed it would. I felt it working from the very first night. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on September 23, 2014:
No problem, anytime. ;o)
RanaKm on September 23, 2014:
Ohh! It;s good to actually hear this from you, like to know about real experiences, to be honest. I have once tried a spell and it worked but not as quick as I wanted it and when it happened it was just too late and it was at the time when I didn't want it to happen anymore but it did.. Thank you for your reply :)
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on September 22, 2014:
Hi Rana; Yes, I have experienced success with many spells over the decades, but then it depends on what you are looking to happen. I believe magic is rooted in nature and is a spiritual art-- I don't believe it can make things like fiction happen. Like you're not going to turn yourself into a mermaid, or throw fireballs and such. There are no guarantees, but practice improves the skills and study improves the understanding of what can work. I understand some people don't believe Witchcraft works at all-- they have a right to their opinion. I believe it works for me, so I continue to use it. Thanks for your comments and vote!
RanaKm on September 18, 2014:
Did you ever make a spell and did it ever work? I really feel skeptical about these things but I do believe that once you believe in something to happen then it happens! Love how detailed and creative this was!
Voted up and interesting :)))
Mackenzie Sage Wright (author) on September 15, 2014:
Thanks Sparrowlet, I appreciate your comments. In my own BOS this is very brief but I try to write it all out in detail for those new to spell casting because I know how confusing it can be at first. I remember being a newbie, lol, so I try to think of what kinds of questions I'd ask. I wish you luck in your endeavors!
Katharine L Sparrow from Massachusetts, USA on September 12, 2014:
Wow, this is so detailed and wonderfully written for easy understanding. Diagram is great too. I may have cause to use this spell, but I want to lose a few pounds first! LOL Thanks for another informative and useful hub!