How to Connect With Your Spirit Guide
I’ve been a medium all my life. I’ve been in contact with my spirit guide since birth (or, it seems like it anyway), and have been communicating with him since I learned how to speak.
I admit I’ve had it easy when it comes to communication with spirit guides and animal spirits. Most people have to search out their guides and look for signs that they actually have one.
My guide made a point to make his presence known from the beginning, although, to be fair, it’s hard to hide the presence of a dragon.
Energy and Spirits
I have both clairaudience and clairvoyance meaning I can both hear and see spirits. Most of the time I just hear them since most spirits don’t have the energy to manifest a full apparition. Spirit guides can manifest rather easily if they are in a symbiotic relationship with the person they are guiding. My guide refers to this as “cycling energy.” In essence, this is a constant exchange of energy between two entities.
The majority of spirit guides will wait in the sidelines until their student is ready. They still protect the student, but will not reveal themselves until they feel the student can handle contact with the spirit world. If you’re observant, you can pick up on subtle clues that a guide is watching you. The most obvious sign is the sensation of being watched when you’re alone.
Although my spirit guide has been with me forever, I have had to search out and find my other guides. I have a total of four, three of which I had to find. Although I had help from my primary guide in finding them, each guide came to me at a specific time in my life as most guides do. Two of them came to me in dreams; the other came to me through a friend.
Finding Your Spirit Guide
This is probably the most difficult step. If you start looking, but your guide feels you aren’t ready, you won’t be able to find them. This can be very frustrating, but it can also be a test. If you become frustrated and give up, your guide will know you weren’t really ready.
Assuming you’re ready to meet your guide, observation will be the key to finding them.
Your guide will send you messages using something that will grab your attention. It could be a number of different things such as:
- An animal that seems very out of place, acts out of character, or just shows up every day
- A favorite item moved out of place
- Something in a favorite TV show that seemed to be written just for you
- Something said by a friend
- A gut instinct
Or it can be just about anything you can imagine. My primary guide used my car. He would move my driver’s seat forward just enough to drive me nuts. I’m the only one that drives my car, so the seat never gets moved.
Writing about your observations as well as your dreams and other interactions with your spirit guide in a journal can help you to understand what your guide is trying to tell you.
You can also ask your guide to send you a specific sign. My guide sent dragonflies, tons of them! If you do ask, be prepared to wait. Spirits work on their own time, and you may not get an answer until years later. Again, it depends on your readiness as perceived by your guide.
Once you find your spirit guide, it’s time to make contact. There are a number of ways to do this. You’ll have to decide which way is right for you.
- Casting an introduction or initiation spell can symbolize that you’re making a commitment to learning your guide's lessons.
- Cast a circle and invite your guide inside.
- Prior to falling asleep, when you’re in a period of twilight and your psychic mind is active, try to contact your spirit guide telepathically.
- Use guided meditation to take you to your spirit guide’s realm. Your unconscious mind will guide you straight to them.
- Try lucid dreaming. Many times spirit guides will appear in dreams, although we dismiss them as having some weird meaning. With lucid dreaming, you’ll be in control of the dream and again, your unconscious mind will lead you straight to your guide.
Once you make contact with your guide, you’ll spend time getting to know each other. Your guide will tell you about themselves, etc.
This introductory period is meant to make you feel completely comfortable with your new spiritual teacher. You should feel as if you could ask your guide anything and not risk judgment.
This is one of the most important things you’ll learn about the spirit world. Spirits need energy to survive just like us. However, they can’t get their energy the same way we do since they themselves are energy. In comparison, spirits are much like the Borg in Star Trek.
The Borg must take information from other species by assimilating members of the species into their “collective” consciousness. Spirits have to assimilate energy from their human counterparts and by doing so, create a collective consciousness.
This may make spirits sound bad, but most spirits won’t do this without your permission. Cycling energy with spirits is much more beneficial when both parties consent. It creates a continuous bond between guide and student which is essential when you’re first learning to communicate.
Try a Pendulum
If you're having trouble communicating with your spirit guide, a pendulum may be helpful. Although it is limited to short answers (typically "yes" or "no" answers), it can teach you how to open your mind to your spirit guide.
Your guide will show you how to cycle energy properly (all spirits prefer a different method), but to give you an idea of how it’s done I’ll explain how I do it.
I’ve always used my car as a conduit of sorts. Driving seems to easily put me in a meditative state, and I always had long drives to and from work, which were typically spent talking to my spirit guide.
To make it easier, I used visualization. I created a golden cord between myself and my car (the car was easier to find at first), and I imagined a constantly flowing energy traveling along the cord to and from the car.
After a bit of practice, this cord became permanent. Now, my subconscious keeps this link open constantly.
The Benefits of Energy Cycling
There are several benefits to cycling energy with your guide. For example, when you’re tired, your guide can give you a boost of energy, or if you’re sick your guide can easily help to heal you.
Interestingly, all the cord work I did in my car seemed to have a healing effect on it. I do have an older car, but unlike my husband’s car (which is only two years older), my car runs like the day I bought it, and I’ve never kept up on the maintenance. It also had an emotional side effect; I’m extremely attached to that car.
A word of caution with cord work: once you open the link, it’s very hard to close. While it is rare for a spirit to want to harm a human, it can happen.
Be aware of your intuition. If you feel like you shouldn’t do it, then don’t. You should feel completely safe with your spirit guide. You should know your guide will protect you no matter what. If you feel this, you’re on the right track.
When you first begin to practice cycling, your guide will provide protection for you and the link preventing any would-be attackers. After a while, however, you’ll need to help with this. I visualized my cord being encapsulated by amber light that not only protects the link and my guide, but it also shields the link from being found by other spirits. There are scavengers in every realm.
Using the Psychic Link
This link we’ve just created isn’t just for cycling energy, although that is its primary function. This link facilitates communication and will help you with any astral work you do in the future. It will also be a source of power for any abilities you may develop.
For example, as a fire element, I have the ability to heal. I can heal things on my own, but it’s painstakingly slow. Using the link and my guide’s energy, I can heal much more quickly. I can also see exactly what I’m healing.
I’ve actually used this on my car (and others) and have prevented major engine repairs by doing so. The link has also provided enough power to start a car on an all but a dead battery.
I’m a visual person by nature, but not everyone is. This psychic link can be developed using clairaudience as well, although your guide will have to teach you how to do it.
I know my link has a light hum to it, but I’ve never used sound to keep the link active, so unfortunately I can’t provide instruction on how to create an auditory link.
Learn to Protect Yourself
As I stated earlier, your guide will provide protection for you and the link initially. But you must learn to protect yourself as well.
Unless your guide is extremely powerful (like a dragon or phoenix) they won’t be able to provide protection forever. Here are a few things you can do to protect yourself and the link.
- The Bubble: this is the easiest way to start learning how to protect yourself. It is essentially a sphere of white light that negative energy can’t penetrate. This works in a pinch, but is not a permanent solution.
- The Elemental Shield: similar to the bubble, this is a sphere of energy formed from a particular element: Earth, Air, Fire, or Water. This provides protection from other elementals as well as any type of psychic attack.
- Invisibility: sometimes it’s better just to hide. I’ve found this to be the most effective way to avoid spiritual confrontation. This type of protection takes training, and it should be one of the first things your guide teaches you because it’s a lengthy process. It is dependent on your level of psychic power, however. Masking your energy signature on the astral plane is not an easy task.
- Banishing Spells: banishing spells typically work well on psychic attacks from other people, but they are also beneficial for banishing negative energy from the spirit realm. When attempting this type of spell, I recommend you allow your guide to show you exactly what to do. Banishing spells can be sticky, and you don’t want to accidentally create a karmic debt for yourself.
I Hope This Guide Helps You Find Your Guide
While psychic, or spiritual, attack isn’t as prevalent as many think, it is still a very real threat. This is just a brief introduction to protection. I will delve into this issue in more detail in another article, but your spirit guide should provide most of the details.
Hopefully, this has provided enough guidance for you to make contact with your guide. There are many secrets in the spirit world, and while I have learned quite a bit, I haven’t even scratched the surface. There’s only so much I can reveal as well, your guide has to teach you the rest.
The next article in this series will discuss animals and animal spirits including familiars.
© 2012 Melissa Flagg COA OSC