Traits and Signs of an Empath

Updated on March 27, 2018
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What an Empath Is Not!

1. Emotionally immature
2. Narcissistic, ego-driven, self-centered
3. Unpredictable and unstable
4. Overly-dependent
5. Demanding, attention thirsty, and drama creating

Empathy is not the same as compassion. Empathy should not be used for personal gain or manipulation.

The 5 Common Empath Types

  • Emotional
  • Physical
  • Animal
  • Global
  • Earth

Empath Positives

  • Instinctively knowing the energy from people and places.
  • Using sensitivity to promote peace, understanding and healing.
  • Can easily manipulate energy

What Is an Empath?

Everyone has empathy. We develop it naturally, usually around the age of two years, it is perfectly implanted by God. It's the ability to recognize and identify what other people are feeling, and respond accordingly and appropriately. Brain regions have scientifically shown where and how empathy functions in the brain, through MRI imaging. Empathy has both biological/genetic and spiritual aspects.

An Empath's ability to pick up others emotions, emotional states, energies, surroundings, even pain or suffering is heightened, above average. Also referred to as emotional hypersensitivity, or highly sensitive. Empathy is a true gift and hugely beneficial for relating to others and the universe as a whole. Empaths are often mislabeled as bi-polar or manic-depressive. Being an Empath is not a curse, although to many it can feel that way until they learn how to cope with all the stimuli they encounter. For an empath, a seemingly regular day can be overwhelming. Subtle stimulants encountered on a daily basis can be over-stimulating. Energies associated with touch, sound, scent, light, activity, conversation etc. are often too quickly or deeply absorbed, resulting in mental confusion, emotional upset, and potentially causing physical discomfort. Being an Empath is part of your genetic make-up, there is no cure for it. If you are an Empath, it's simply "how you were made", it has been said the 1 in 20 people are Empaths, which shows it's a lot more common than one would think.

Traits and Signs of an Empath or HSP (Highly Sensitive Person)

  1. Knowing: Beyond intuition and gut feelings, Empath's just know things. The more you become in tune with your ability the stronger this trait can become. Empaths frequently experience déjà vu and synchronicities. Synchronicity- think of it as a wink from the cosmos! Scientists see a theoretical grounding for synchronicity in fractal geometry, quantum physics, and the chaos theory. Its been determined that the separation and or isolation of objects from one another is much more apparent than real; at deep levels, everything -- atoms, cells, molecules, people, plants, animals – are all participating in a sensitive, connective flowing network of information. Physicists have proven, as an example, that if two photons are separated, no matter the distance, a change in one creates a simultaneous change in the other. Empaths are most likely to have had varying paranormal experiences throughout their lives as well. NDE's (Near death experiences) and or OBE's.
  2. Strangers unload emotion on you: An Empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own. It is not uncommon for an Empath to be told an entire life story by perfect strangers in a matter of minutes. People, animals, and children are drawn to Empaths like magnets. It's as if the Empath is a sudden sounding and solution board for other peoples issues, problems, or opinions. This is not a simple casual conversation with strangers. This is a big one for me. When out and about, I am randomly bombarded with the chatter of other people. It does not take long for me to get a whole life story in a matter of minutes. It could all be symbolic but I wear certain stones placed in pendants when I go out and it seems to prevent this. When I forget to wear them, I pay the price of being emotionally drained. The two that work best for me are Labradorite and Smokey Quartz.
  3. Absorbing others emotions: Empath's have a unique ability to pick up others emotional energy and take it on as their own. They also can change the energy in a room with their own moods and charisma. This could manifest itself in the form of any range of emotion, just from being near them or thinking of them, distance is no issue here. It is possible for an Empath to even pick up on negative thoughts from another miles away. You could find yourself suddenly brought to tears, or in a fit of rage, without much explanation.
  4. Public places are overwhelming: Any place that has collected or contains to much energy can be a miserable place for an Empath. Because of their ability to absorb others energies, places like shopping malls, concert venues, grocery stores, traffic jams, hospitals, retirement homes, even thrift stores, garage sales and graveyards etc...can be unbearable. Ever notice that you can hike in the woods for miles and not be exhausted, but a trip to the grocery store can be unbearable?
  5. Truth: An Empath just "knows" when someone is being dishonest or telling a lie. insincerity, phoniness, or fake behavior is easily spotted. Many Empath's are constantly seeking and looking for truth and just behavior in those they associate with. This becomes more prevalent when an Empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels just plain wrong.
  6. Physical pain, suffering, or illness: Many Empath's are bombarded with mysterious illness's or pain that cannot be diagnosed by modern medicine. Being an Empath is draining. They are often fatigued, suffer from migraines, sore throats, aches and pains with no discernible cause. But the cause is clear, and it is from absorbing others energies, and until you learn to diffuse the energy you contain, these ailments will not resolve. Empath's can also develop physical pains and ailments from others (especially those they are very close to). And more specifically in their throats and root chakra, as well as solar plexus. This is why grounding, staying true to yourself and voicing yourself is very important.
  7. Worldly news, radio, TV, newspapers, violence, cruelty cannot be tolerated: The more attuned an Empath becomes the harder it will be for them to listen or hear this type of information. It can become so intolerable that they have to halt receiving this information altogether.
  8. Digestive disorders, neck and back pain are common: The solar plexus chakra is based in the center of the abdomen and known as the seat of emotions. This is where Empaths feel incoming emotions of another, which can weaken the area and lead to stomach ulcers, IBS, constipation, eating disorders and lower back problems from being un-grounded. Most Empaths unaware of their ability commonly complain of these ailments.
  9. Addictive personalities: Alcohol and drug abuse are common for Empaths, by polluting the mind an Empath can block out and protect themselves from emotional energies they do not want to feel and absorb, in a sense "go numb", although this may feel good temporarily, it obviously causes a multitude of secondary problems. Additionally, substance attracts lower frequency energies, so it is especially important for Empaths to become addicted to sobriety, prayer, and God.
  10. Holistic, natural, herbal remedies and all things metaphysical naturally draw an Empaths attention: Empaths can be and often become natural healers (once they learn to use this trait properly) This may explain why so many Empaths are attracted to professions that involve healing; therapy, teaching, veterinarian work, psychiatry, and medicine. These are commonly chosen fields of work or study. However, you will also encounter those that wish to avoid these trades because of the overwhelming energies that can come from them.
  11. Creativity: Empaths are very creative: anything from music, drawing, painting, photography, acting, writing, singing and dancing to name a few are adored by Empath's. They have a gift for creating, paired with a vivid imagination. Their interests are vast, varied and ever seeking and changing! You will flutter from one thing to another never feeling like you can possibly learn enough. You may notice your side of the bed, stacked with books? Or you have a never-ending list of hobbies, or quest for knowledge.
  12. Need for solitude: Although it seems a contradiction (because of appearing extroverted), an Empath requires large amounts of downtime and solitude to shut out the world, process and rejuvenate. This is not to be confused with avoidance, depression, or something being "wrong". They simply need time to reflect and clear their minds. This is especially obvious in Empath children and is another reason many adult Empaths choose to remain single through their lifetimes. Empaths like to be alone. Being alone is not the same as being lonely for them. It is not uncommon for Empaths to remain single or childless throughout their lifetimes. And close relationships can be very challenging unless respected boundaries are established.
  13. Empaths get bored and distracted easily: Work, school, and home life has to be kept interesting and stimulating, or they tune out and daydream.
  14. A love for nature and animals; Nature and the outdoors are especially important for Empaths to feel grounded, and to have peace. Water is especially helpful, and owning a pet is almost always essential for their happiness.
  15. Always looking for answers and knowledge: Empaths are often problem solvers, seekers of truth, and study many things. To have unanswered questions can be frustrating and they will endlessly search to find an explanation. If they have a "knowing" about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this quality is information overload, and a brain that won't turn off and be quiet.
  16. Rooting for the underdog and underprivileged: Empaths are highly compassionate, anyone suffering, in emotional pain, handicapped, injured, or being bullied draws an Empaths attention.
  17. Cannot tolerate clutter: The immediate environment of an Empath is easily something they can control and is a reflection of their mental health. This is not to say they are OCD, but clutter is like mental weight for them and blocks energy flow so they remove it. Their homes are simple and clean, and unnecessary clutter is promptly removed. You typically will not find an Empath hoarder.
  18. Cannot tolerate restrictive clothing or jewelry: Some Empaths may find that types of clothing textures or jewelry can be too restrictive. They may feel uncomfortable, itchy, heavy, or just "not right". A lot of Empaths, therefore, may appear as "plain Jane's", or may prefer ONLY specific pieces of jewelry or clothing fabric, that they tend to wear all the time.
  19. Freedom, travel, adventure, and the road less traveled: Empaths are natural born free-spirits. Anything that takes away their freedom is crippling and even poisoning to their happiness. This includes routine, strict rules, and codependent relationships. It is not unusual for Empaths to have experienced many things in life, even if young, making them appear wise beyond their years and as if to have an "old soul". Many are born, and just skip childhood all-together, it is as if they were always an adult. Often many of their life experiences could be considered rather extreme, adventurous, or daring, allowing Empaths to be open and receptive to much more.
  20. Cannot tolerate narcissism: Overly egotistical people, or those that are self-centered and refuse to consider others points of view are intolerable and usually avoided as much as possible.
  21. Sensing the energy of food: Many Empaths don’t like to eat meat, seafood or poultry because they can feel the energy of the animal (especially if the animal suffered or was inhumanely treated before death), even if they like the taste. Weight issues can easily become a problem. There are also those HSP's that become over-weight, using food to dull their emotional sensitivity.
  22. Can come off as moody, aloof, or disconnected: Depending on how an Empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and when they've taken on too much negativity will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. When you feel this way, a good question to ask yourself is; what am I carrying right now? Is this emotion mine?
  23. Empaths detest doing things they don't enjoy: This is not to be confused with laziness, it's just that an Empath does not like to do or live in a way that feels like a "lie".
  24. The ability to feel time, days of the week/month, weather, or direction instinctively: It is not uncommon for an Empath to arrive at their destination without maps or directions, they can get there by "knowing", the same thing goes for time and days of the week or year. They are also extremely sensitive to climate changes.
  25. No antiques, vintage or second-hand: Some Empaths prefer to buy new when financially feasible, this is to avoid absorbing the energies from a previous owner. I personally do not have a problem with this trait, and almost prefer second-hand, mainly because these shopping locations are not typically overly populated, and I don't have a 6 figure income. I also find I become emotionally comforted by certain "used" items, but also repulsed by others. It just depends on the item.
  26. Great listeners: Empaths make great listeners another burden of too much socializing, despite their great listening skills, they can become over-energized from others. They often only share their personal information with those extremely close or with those they trust. Empaths make great friends but are crushed if the friendship is mistreated. Over time, they will become far more selective. Though they may have a large circle of friends and can blend in with just about any type of crowd or personality, they generally only have a few “close” friendships. Once those close relationships are established, however, Empaths find a good exchange of love and respect. These relationships often last a lifetime.

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Signs of an Imbalanced or Sick Empath

  • Physical pain, stomach issues, headaches, as well as over or under eating are HUGE warning signs. Don't ignore these. These are signs of imbalance.
  • Feeling spaced out, confused and disconnected (sometimes for extended periods, days or weeks).
  • Being around toxic people and taking on their energy, causing wild mood swings.
  • Feeling like you’re swirling around and around with nowhere to call home (ungrounded). The mind can go to very dark places if allowed.
  • Preferring solitude (this can become extreme, wanting to always be alone, and avoid places and people). Downtime and rejuvenation are necessary and healthy for an Empath, but going into complete "avoidance" mode is not.
  • Feeling alone when you are in a crowded place or feeling invisible to others.

Solutions and Coping Skills for Living With Empath Abilities

To avoid falling prey to mental over-load, drug addiction, depression, and a sense of disconnect follow these simple suggestions for coping with being an Empath.

  • Stay creative, whatever that means for you. Sing, dance, draw, etc...
  • Learn to guard your OWN energy, this is VERY important. How can you do this? Breathe, and when you do focus on your breath, reminding yourself of what is yours, and what is not. Make a point to meditate on a regular basis, even if you can only commit to a few times a week. The key is staying consistent.
  • Use your voice (many Empaths lose track of who they are because of emotions they absorb). It's very easy for an Empath to become sick, and disconnected from the self, (reducing their ability to speak for themselves and maintain their sense of individuality and health).
  • Get outside! Go for walks, take hikes, admire and involve yourself with nature, lay in the sun, put your bare feet on the ground.
  • Use water! If possible get near an ocean ASAP! Water is a huge emotional cleanser and energy remover for an Empath, drink plenty of water. When you feel you are covered in emotional slime, take a shower, or do a detox bath. I've included my personal recipe to the right of this column. Use it often! You can also add 1-2 cups of sea salt to a bath and soak for 40 minutes, that will bring great relief.
  • Keep your Chakras open. Again this means speaking up for yourself, taking time for solitude, stay balanced with yoga, prayer, and meditation. Give your worries and overwhelm to God.
  • Use stones and crystals. Smokey quartz is highly protective and grounding, as well as Labarodite, and Black Tourmaline (these are my personal favorites as my grounding has not been mastered). Although any object you determine is a talisman for you (the point is to change that tape in your head that begins to overwhelm, objects can help change attention), can be used. These can be found locally at Apothecary shops or online.
  • Avoid negativity and stress when possible, especially from people!!!
  • Limit time with TV's, news, electronics, and places that drain your energy. This also goes for people, some also referred to as "emotional vampires", keep them away.
  • When anxious, close your eyes, envision your Chakras and remind yourself of what is yours and what is not. This helps stay grounded. Use Chakra healing techniques.
  • Learn grounding, centering, and shielding.
  • Pray. Prayer is extremely healing, uplifting, and motivating. Pray often to Spirit/God. Pray with grace and gratitude.
  • Seek outside help from an energy practitioner or spiritual healer.
  • Find support groups, therapy, Churches (or whatever form of spiritual practice that works for you) as well as consider group fitness classes.
  • Try to look for at least one positive thing, Every day!

Embrace Your Ability

Above all, embrace your ability. People of all walks of life and animals and children are attracted to the warmth and genuine compassion of Empaths. Regardless of whether others are aware of one being empathic or not, people are drawn to them as a metal object is to a magnet!

I've finally started coming into my own with my Empathy and hypersensitivity and recently felt compelled to write this because of how unbearable things had become. For so long, I thought I was a sick co-dependent, which I am not. The journey has been long, confusing, and tedious, sometimes even sick and heart wrenching, but I wouldn't change myself for a second. And sometimes it is still very daunting to deal with. We are all unique souls on individual paths with individual lessons and purposes. I hope this article helps others who may or may not be aware of their ability. I hope the information will offer comfort and support and resources on how to deal with being highly sensitive. For so long, I thought of this as a curse, but am finally starting to look upon it as a blessing, and look forward to the path ahead.

Questions & Answers

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        Rebecca 6 weeks ago from USA

        Glad it had helped. It does get easier over time.

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        April Dawn 6 weeks ago

        Every word matches my heartfelt truth I feel about my own experience, always sounding crazy to others, everyone I know knows I am a metaphysical student, and thinks I am batshit. But I am a reclusive type, and avoid pretty much everything at this point. I have become addicted to cannabis and have even started drinking alcohol again just to feel anything. I feel absolutely broken. I quit jobs day one after having either panic attacks or uncontrollable crying spells in the restroom on break. I can be away from home in true wild for days, but can't stand the grocery store for 15 minutes. I feel like I am a spirit stuck in a cruel world, and yet I have become a monster myself, just to push away the drama and bullshit that others can't get a handle on themselves. I will start true to my praying and spontaneous meditation. I will complete my ministry training and focus on my art. Thank you for your words of simple and direct truth, blessings.

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        Rebecca 7 weeks ago from USA

        It's a strange ride isn't it? I was exposed to a really bad narc situation recently. Almost sucked my soul clean out. I'm glad to hear this resonated for you and appreciate you sharing.

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        Sean OMurchu 8 weeks ago

        Just got my first discard last summer and started researching narcissists at 49 years of age. Two other narcs in my past got dumped for cheating, so I never got the joy of a discard before. "Co-dependent", "people pleaser" and all the other terms didn't quite work. "Empath" fills in a lot of blanks for me; people telling me their family business without prompting, going for a walk for 10 minutes every couple of hours at a wedding, bailing on my friends at nightclubs when I was young, the connection with animals, and the synchronicities! Weird stuff that defies mathematical odds.

        As much research as I did on narcs to protect myself and my teenage son (whose mother is a narc too), I am inspired now to find out all I can about this gift

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        Rebecca 2 months ago from USA

        You're very welcome Lori Lee, thanks for the comment.

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        Lori Lee 2 months ago

        Thank you so much for this arrival. I'm so overwhelmed and it seems to be getting worse. This was exactly what I needed. So much negative energy around me is rare when I met someone with positive energy. I just found out I was an Empath with my therapist who isn't with me any more. Now I have a place to start. Thanks again.

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        Rebecca 2 months ago from USA

        Thanks for your comment. There are different types of empaths, just like narcissism, it is a spectrum. You may find most things I mentioned fit where others do not and that is ok. BTW, I love thrift and charity shops. I'm not a hoarder but I certainly have pockets of clutter in my home and it can be hard to let go of items. You may actually like psychometry, that may be an ability you have with your empathy. Thanks again for your comment I'm glad it helped.

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        EveryonesBigSistr 2 months ago

        All my life I have been described as highly sensitive and empathetic. About 15 years ago I read an article about HSP's and knew it was me, but that was a time before this became mainstream, and people disregarded it, so I kind of did too, assuming that what I was feeling was what everyone feels.

        However I have since learned not everyone has strangers approach them and share intimate problems. Not everyone gets sick to their stomach (like deep in their bones,) when others are hurting, not everyone is told they "know what Im feeling before I even do." Which is why, I'm pretty sure I am an Empath. I say pretty sure, because I am often plagued with self doubt.

        I identified with everything in your article except the part on clutter/hoarding. I am extremely cluttered, and a borderline horder. Is it that empaths dont have clutter? Or that they shouldn't?

        Also, creative types often havr lots of clutter and lots of "stuff" because they see value in everything. So how does this fit?

        I believe I gather so many items (especially vintage,) because my "mother" a deeply cruel person, threw away everything from my childhood and my grandparents. So perhaps that has more to do with abandonment issies, and doesnt exclude me from being an empath.

        Im just trying to better understand.

        Thank you for reading this "novel."


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        Rebecca 2 months ago from USA

        Completely agree. Salt baths are a life saver if you can't get to the ocean :)

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        Rebecca 2 months ago from USA

        I feel that way a lot also. I actually don't have an issue buying pre-owned anything. Thanks for your comment. I appreciate your input.

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        Oceans 2 months ago

        You mention that it's good to get close to water, but don't forget salt!! Salt is excellent for an earthly cleansing tool as well. That's why the ocean is so strongly purifying; it includes water and salt combined.

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        #25 2 months ago

        I think it's actually better for an empath to buy secondhand because it makes me feel better knowing the item is recycled; if it's brand new I'm thinking about the unethical practices the business may be perpetrating that my purchase is subtly endorsing. But with secondhand clothing, I know I'm not increasing the world's environmental pollution or other injustices.

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        Lucy 3 months ago

        Thank you for giving me clarity.

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        rjmac71 4 months ago

        Thank you for putting into words almost everything that describes myself. It was very insightful and informative and I appreciate you for it.

        Without going into too much detail about myself and telling you life story (which undoubtedly bore people to death lol) I have just a couple things. I will inform you that, throughout my life I have done things that add to my stress and mental health issues, mainly military experiences (and I'm not looking for thank you's or sympathy about them. I made the choices that led to those and I except them as my own.) just giving you some insight to how my mind thinks. That being said, I have always been an emotion person, even at young age, I was always looking to listen to people and trying to understand the world around me. I do see a mental health professional and take some very powerful medications to aide me in my day-to-day life and they an extent. I am happily married and we just celebrated our 15th anniversary and have been a couple for nearly two decades. My problem is this. I work in a very chaotic, loud, crowded environment for 8 years now and my sole purpose in my current position is to assist customers with technical aide. I am finding it increasingly difficult to get through my day at work. I am attending a very good college in the arts and am roughly half way through. My day at work is literally eating away at my soul. I am always depressed, tired, beat up, sore etc. etc. Meditation is pretty much impossible for me. I have gotten to the point where I avoid contact with people(with the exception of my wife, who's company I enjoy very much and maybe some family members) but even with family, I find that large groups of them just tear me down. It's affecting my very close friendships and I'm avoiding any contact with the outside (if and when I get any chance) My days off usually look like me staying at home and not even wanting to interact with people. I barely get enjoyment out of watching my favorite shows or movies and my health is becoming a major concern having had a heart attack last March. I just want to be the best person I can be, not only for myself, but for my wife and family as well. I want to be around for a long time. So , I'm left with a dilemma, quit my job, to which I'm only there now for the benefits and possibly hurt my family in doing so. Self medicating heavily, to make it through the day, without wanting to just scream at every person that I see that comes to me for help, or I don't even have another way. I don't think about hurting myself, so there's no need to worry about that. I'm just at wits end and don't know what to do. Im looking for other work, but that still means I have to interact with more people(which you already know I hate to do now). I just don't know what to do. I am so exhausted all the time and it takes every ounce of energy I have to be in social environments. I don't does help a little saying all of this to an impartial audience. But don't get me wrong, my wife is very supportive in everything I do and always tells me I can tell her anything, I just don't want to burden her with all this crap I go through every second of my daily existence. Any ideas? I know that is a ton of information and you already expressed in your article how being empathetic, we have the tendency to take on the emotions of those around us and people we don't even know. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad, I just am running out of ideas.

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        Rebecca 5 months ago from USA

        Thank you. Many blessings to you too, I'm glad you found this helpful.

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        PowerMechGuy 5 months ago

        This helped me out tremendously. I couldn't quite pin everything I was experiencing down. But now I get it. I also found that mental imagery helps tremendously when dealing with negative energy. And I never knew stones were that powerful. And the constant references to God were like a confirmation.

        Your work here is much appreciated. God bless you and may you have peace on your path.

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        Rebecca 5 months ago from USA

        We can get way to close to people and take on their "energetic" stuff. At which point it helps to ground and focus on knowing what is yours and what is not. Emotions don't care about gender and we all have masc/fem energy in us. I think if you try some of the things in this article you'll feel a lot better. Also FB has groups for Empaths if you use social media, these can be helpful. You're not a minority being male. :)

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        oldbasejumper 5 months ago

        I'm an ole guy, and only recently started searching for the word empath. I have been with my GF for about 7 years. I have a problem sleeping in the same bed with her or anyone for years. I do not know if that is normal and i just attribute it to having separate houses and being a single parent for many years. What i started paying to attention to is this. I can be in a different room and suddenly I will go from normal, to almost tears in my eyes from overwhelming emotion, the type of emotion when one is thinking about a parent that passed away, or a sad event. And, it comes out of nowhere and fast. I finally realized it was due to my girlfriend, she will be thinking about her mother that passed away, or she will be watching a sad movie, and I'm hit with the emotion. I started confirming this by coming out of my office/room and saying "are you crying again". 9 times out of 10, she is. Also, I sleep in a different bedroom, and sometimes, i can't fall asleep for a couple hours, just lying there, guessed it, I"ll go check in on my GF in the adjacent bedroom, and she is up, wide awake, and says she can't sleep and that she is worried about a situation at her job. Is this all the time?, of course not, but 90% of the time can't be coincidence. On a general topic.....I have attributed my somewhat anti-social to "smoking a little pot" when i was younger. Or, i would rationalize that it was because i was a single parent, going to night school, getting promoted at "a small company", or just being too busy to be an extrovert. I also was involved in skydiving, fast motorcyles , etc, as it makes me focus on "the moment" and every problem i might have going on in my life, is least for those moments. This might be politically incorrect of me to say, but I have always thought i have been way too emotional for being a guy. I now wonder if I have been an empath for many years and just been in denial. ...thanks for listening to me ramble.

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        Rebecca 5 months ago from USA

        :( you can't. You need to learn how to manage it.

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        Rebecca 6 months ago from USA

        Thanks Frank :) Hope you are well, been awhile since we spoke.

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        Frank Atanacio 6 months ago from Shelton

        what a very interesting hub Bishop.. somehow I missed it...:)

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        Rebecca 6 months ago from USA

        I appreciate your comment, but can't speak for every single empath or how they are raised/or specific personality deviations. Take what resonates for you, leave what doesn't.

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        Kacey 6 months ago

        I have so many problems with this post. I'm recently trying to figure out my issues and I believe it's because I'm an empath. You do NOT take into account upbringing or the ability of anyone with whatever upbringing or for that matter personality deviations. This definition of an empath leaves out so many people. A LOT of us aren't this description.

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        Rebecca 7 months ago from USA

        I'm so glad it helped. Don't worry, things get easier, and you're very much needed here for your empathy.

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        Tailor 7 months ago

        This literally brought me to tears. More than once.

        I've struggled with so many of the ailments listed for a long time. I've known that I was an empath for a while, but haven't ever done any serious digging into it all. Everything makes sense now. Thank you for sharing this information and advice. It's so, so appreciated.

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        Louise 7 months ago

        I've never felt moved to add a comment to anything in my whole life, but this was such a wonderful article that I had to thank you.

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        Rebecca 7 months ago from USA

        :) I will email you.

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        Rebecca 7 months ago from USA

        You're very welcome. Don't worry things will get easier.

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        Janet 7 months ago

        I think I am Empathy, and I have all the signs of imbalanced empathy and its scarey sometimes I went for a Chakra cleanse, and I am learning about stones and crystals to try and help Thank you for this reading page

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        Joel13 7 months ago

        Let me assure everyone, if you are an Empath, you will know and there's no debating with yourself. I've known for years, but couldn't define this self proclaimed curse. Rebecca, I need to speak with you. Please allow me the opportunity. It will not be a waste of your time, I assure you.

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        Rachael 8 months ago

        thanks for this article but am still confused if am one of them because few of them described me.

        Am still not quite sure.

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        Nic 11 months ago

        Hello, friend,

        Thank you for sharing this wonderful article. I've been aware of my intuition etc. for years, but wasn't aware of the label "empath" until last year. Since then, I've read extensively, and this is the best article about being an empath that I've encountered. I also appreciate you addressing the problems of being an empath with possible solutions - this I find very helpful! I'm going to read this to my mother so she has an even better idea about what I'm like, so again, thank you for sharing!

        Peace. x

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        Saul 12 months ago

        Interesting article, clarifies a few things.

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        Erin 12 months ago

        Thank you.

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        BonnieB 13 months ago

        Thank you for your article. I believe I am empathic. I have recently admitted to depression. A hugh need for privacy, and down time. I believe much of it has been caused by my sister unknowingly using me as her emotional dump. Do you have any additional advice or books that could help me

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        Sandra chaves 15 months ago

        I am sinsitive type of impath

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        Gaby 15 months ago

        Wow! This is probably the most detailed and interesting article regarding empaths I ever stumbled upon. Thank you so much!

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        Nameless 17 months ago

        This article was scary. Well thought out. And very frightening.

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        Sikestiffany 21 months ago

        I definitely think I am an empath.. but one thing that's throwing me is the clutter and the fact that I detest cleaning. I CANNOT stand a cluttered space.. but I also can't stand to clean. 9 times out of 10 the hatred of cleaning house wins out. So I end up feeling worse because of what everything looks like :[

        I want to say I am an empath, but I also feel like I must be imbalanced if I am one because I'm requiring a lot more alone time lately.

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        Brandyn 2 years ago

        So me but, I do not always keep a clean room, I guess it's just my time schedule and I am very grateful to this article now i know what I am and why

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        TmcD 2 years ago

        Excellent article, I am in retail and since I hit around 35 I have been so emotionally drained, but it us not a physical job, customers will come in and make a beeline for me, next thing I know I'm hugging them after long conversations, everything in this article makes so much sense , what an enlightening read. Will start meditating asap. Thank you.

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        Dem 3 years ago

        This is a great article. Thank for the eye opening read.

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        Rebecca 3 years ago

        This article really hit home for me. My name is also Rebecca and I am 35 years old and I can relate completely. Thank you so much for sharing.

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        Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

        Celina...are you on FB? find me at thrive happy on FB, we can talk more there. :)

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        Celina 3 years ago

        I've never really wrote online about my experience, but I really need some advice, and just like with everything else that is spiritual there aren't really any people around me who have similar experiences. They're religious, but they don't feel things to the extent that I do, or they just ignore it. I believe I am an Empath, I didn't use to, but now I've given in and realized that explains a lot about me.

        I don't know how to control it, I feel too much. It's the strangest feeling when I'll get so overwhelmed with anger or sadness, and I have no idea why I am feeling that way. I don't know how to separate myself from feelings and emotions of others. Especially with the world in general. The condition of the world literally hurts, I can feel the pain, my family and friends say that I have the "I want to help the world" thing about me, as much as I do, I don't want to constantly feel everything so much. I will feel a dying tree, and am overwhelmed by sickness and the dying aura, it's just so much to feel everything. I feel more negative things then positive, even though I work to even out both energies.

        To all the others out there who feel this, how do you control it? I mediate and do yoga and work on my chakras, all that, it doesn't help. In a way it just opens it up more, any advice?

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        Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

        Hi Holly, you can message ThriveHappy on FB and I'll be able to find you. :)

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        holly bentley 3 years ago

        Bishop55, thank you for your response means a lot..more then you know.. i am in recovery for 2yrs..which helps a ex boyfriend used to lie to me all the time..i of course knew every time..but instead of owning up..he 'd still say he wasn't..even though i had all aspects always tore me up..relationships can be very draining for me...i would love to be able to ask you questions or just chat..thank you!

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        Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

        Hi Holly, I went through addiction recovery too. I'm over a year now. You can do this. My suggestion would be to surround yourself with as much positive as possible. People, music, shows, jokes, laughter. Someone taught me the healing power of prayer as well. I'm still learning about myself every day, as we all do. Hopefully you are in a recovery program and working steps, that helped me too. Don't beat yourself up, take baby steps always looking for the silver lining. :) Thank you for your comment.

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        holly bentley 3 years ago

        My sister sent this hub to me..ive known that i was a bit different for many years..first and foremost..i must ask this question.. for im having a terrible time using my smart it true that my negative energy effects the way my phone fucntions????ive gone through many phones and learned sooo much from this hub.i have been going threw a horrible time for a long seems to me that im a sic 33 and i now think That since i never truly knew why ive been so depressed..emotional..withdrawn...and im now goin threw addiction recovery...i may now have the means to crawl out of this dark place ive been in..i want to so badly use this trait to the fullest..ive done nothing in my life..but make mistakes..ive always felt that i was meant to help others but the hardship of being empath and not knowing it my whole life has been an emotional struggle.. i truly wish i could get help from a person such as yourself to help me understand and become the person outside of this shell ive been in for sooo long...thank you so much for writing this column..

        Sincerely..holly b.

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        Unique 2 U 3 years ago

        Fantastic information and articles


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        Foreverhooeful 3 years ago

        I am an empath...I still have problems not taking in all emotions...and your right I have stomach problems ....however I am as I was created. ...peace

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        Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

        Hi everyone! Thank you so much for the comments. I need to revise this article a bit, in my continued growth, I'm learning I have a few things wrong. Just as a suggestion...the book The Mystery of Spiritual Sensitivity by Carol A. Brown you all may find helpful! I sure have.

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        Melissa Reese Etheridge 3 years ago from Tennessee, United States

        Thank you for such an interesting article. This is the first that I've heard of this.

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        Gina Banins 3 years ago

        I resemble all of this, except I love and sell antiques. My big problem...I need solitude and sometimes just can't take any more people. I want to retreat.

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        rainraven 3 years ago

        makes a lot of sense. But I find it helps to have someone like myself to talk to it about in person.

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        Dusti 3 years ago

        Wow i finally understand what has been happening to me my entire life. Thank you for the post.

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        Sheila Brown 3 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

        This is very interesting! I enjoyed learning more about this subject. I am sure this can be difficult at times. You explained this so well, I feel as though I have learned a lot by reading your hub.

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        Donna Wallace-Ruff 3 years ago

        Thank you so much Bishop, this article explains so much to me, I've been told before that I am an Empath, but never really understood what it meant, until now.

        I have always had the ability to heal from a young age, I remember finding injured birds and taking them home, thank goodness my mum understood me, and the next day or so, the bird would be flying around my bedroom, not all had a successful end.

        I am now a Reiki Master, however I enjoy my healing work, I do suffer from people moods, and also I feel their pain and together with my own pain (lower back mainly) can sometimes be overwhelming. I have already removed toxic people from my life as much as possible, and when I know someone is lying, I find it hard not to say something, but I manage to do so somehow.

        Again, thank you for taking the time out to do this article, and hopefully now I can stop feeling so drained all the time.

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        Natasha Keep 3 years ago from Kansas city, Kansas

        This hub was a wonderful read. It touched me because I always thought something was wrong with me.

        I felt like I was a bad friend when I needed time away to clear my head. I thought I had social anxiety before and also wondered about many of the other things you mentioned. I have some health issues and pain that this may just explain. Very enlightening and now that I know maybe like you said I can put the ability to good use instead of letting it constantly drain and confuse me.

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        Raceme 3 years ago

        I've often wondered if my mystery ailments were the side effects of my strong empathetic abilities. Being around large groups or even small groups with high tensions (even if it's positive tension) often gives me severe migraines.

        I'm going to try some of these things you've suggested, and I really hope they'll work. Thank you so much for the insight and advice! It's very comforting to know I'm not an alone in this.

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        Hendrika 3 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

        This is a very interesting article. I am not an Empath, but do have the problem that people "latch" onto me and dump their whole life's stories on me. Even strangers in malls approach me out of the blue and tell me their problems! So, even tho I am not an Empath I can "emphasize" with you.

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        Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

        Let me rephrase that. I think that empaths that don't come into full bloom with their abilities can sometimes use this trait to manipulate people. It's not difficult to do when you are tuned into others so easily. Evolved empaths won't act as narsisists, or eventually they grow out of it.

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        Mandi 3 years ago

        I'm having a hard time. When I read about empathy it seems to match up almost perfectly. But there are other places that stay narcissism is confused with being highly sensitive. Does anyone have good insight on Valid and distinctive differences.

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        sara 3 years ago

        I know I'm empathic, but I'm social just not that social. I hate loud crowds for long times and Ithe closer you are you me like my best friend, husband or any 4 of my kids, the more in tune I am. Thank you for this article. It really helps.

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        Rebecca 3 years ago from USA

        Thanks for your comment. I obviously relate and it took me 30 yrs to "get" it. :)

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        LT 3 years ago

        I'm 48 years old, and it's like I've been living in the dark all of my life.

        I've been told too many times to count that I'm "too sensitive". I love to be alone. I study science and visit museums by myself. I cannot stand any sort of social gathering. Sometimes, people will pour out their life story to me and I've never been able to figure out why. If I work in a negative environment, I will become overwhelmed and intensely negative. I'm very creative and a design engineer by trade. I must be near the water, and I am an avid outdoorsman and fisherman. I suffer from depression and intestinal maladies that defy medical explanation.

        Wow! It's like these points describe my personality 100%, but I just never knew that there was a specific quality or capability associated with my heightened sensitivity.

        The light just came on...

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        SKS 3 years ago

        Yes, I find that I'm at a point where I'm ok getting into peoples emotions. I actually like bringing peace to their being/feelings. When I am around people and I sense their emotions overpowering my senses I say in a calm internal voice that I will not own your emotions. I will help give peace to your emotions but I will not own them. After that everything stays calm and people open up and sense the peaceful calmness. Being an empath and using your intuition to guide you is truly remarkable. You can have complete trust that you are always guided in the right direction.

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        anna sun 4 years ago

        i have learned to diffuse some of my empathy bc it was making me physcially feel insane... i still absorb ppls energies/emotions and 100% feel their pains but i can control how badly it affects me now... and that took many yrs to figure out how to do

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        Rebecca 4 years ago from USA

        Thanks for your comment. Sorry to hear about your aversion to crowds, but I know exactly what you mean. I have a hard time even being in stores, I go with lists get in and out ASAP, or shop online. I'd rather just avoid a lot at this point and not even deal with the stress it causes. It's horrible to say, but sometimes even being around my husband and kids makes me very stressed out. Not because they do anything, it's just that I can't handle all the energy even they put off. My sister (who I love more than the world) also does this. I sense her thoughts and moods and I have gotten emotionally sick from it. Again...nothing they do intentionally. I just need a lot of time alone.

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        FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

        This was interesting. Although I wouldn't say I'm an Empath, I have a strong aversion to large crowds now because of the noise and people's lack of awareness of their body space. People are so big and they use their bodies and belongings carelessly, bumping into others and bustling about. Being disabled (but not visibly so -- I have balance and walking issues associated with MS), crowds of people can rush and push and it becomes really stressful. Crowds make me angry and miserable.

        I really enjoyed reading about this topic. Thanks for sharing your story. Stay well and connected to what matters.

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        Rebecca 4 years ago from USA

        Lanel do you have a private email you can give me? I'll email it.

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        Lanel 4 years ago

        What is the information you have on the spiritual healer/energy practitioner?

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        mathira 4 years ago from chennai

        Bishop, you have analyzed in detail the pros and cons of an Empath. Very interesting and informative hub.

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        Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

        This is an interesting and thought provoking hub, Bishop55. Thanks for sharing the information about Empaths.

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        Maren Elizabeth Morgan 4 years ago from Pennsylvania

        I enjoyed reading this.

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        Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

        What is an Empath? Traits, signs, solutions very interesting about the empath a useful and informative hub about this topic. I know of someone as an empath but I am not sure if I am may be a small part me I really enjoyed learning more about this kind person


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