All the Traits and Signs of an Empath: Are You One?

Updated on June 6, 2019
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What Is an Empath?

An empath is a person who has a paranormal ability to sense and absorb the emotions and energies of the people and surroundings they encounter. According to clinical psychologist Dr. Sharon Saline, "Empaths have strong intuition and use it as their primary lens for processing the world around them. They are highly intuitive people who feel emotional and physical sensations on an extremely deep level, and intellectualizing those feelings is tough for them to do."

Signs of being an empath are: high sensitivity, generous hearts who may give too much to others, quick to respond to someone's needs. Because empaths naturally internalize other people's feelings, thoughts, and pain, empaths have a very difficult time distinguishing between other people's emotions and their own, which leads to extreme anxiety and emotional burden. Empaths can be easily overwhelmed in intimate relationships or in highly emotional situations. They need time alone, especially in nature, to recharge.

What It's Like to Be an Empath

For an empath, a seemingly regular day can be overwhelming because subtle stimulants feel overstimulating or unbearable. Empaths are able to deeply and quickly absorb a lot of energies that most people can't even sense, so a typical day can feel like a bombardment of energies associated with touch, sound, scent, light, activity, and conversation, which often results in mental confusion, emotional upset, and even physical discomfort.

Being an empath is not a curse, although it can feel that way until you learn how to cope with all the stimuli you encounter. If you are an empath, it is just genetically how you were made, so there is no cure for it. It has been said that 1 in 20 people are empaths, which shows it's a lot more common than one would think.

20% of the population is genetically predisposed to being empaths. Being an empath is not a disorder. It is a character trait.

— Elaine Aron, Ph.D, psychologist at Stony Brook University, New York

Traits of an Empath

  • Highly intuitive: You can sense what others are feeling and thinking and can anticipate their reactions to various situations.
  • Compassionate, considerate, and understanding: You commiserate with other people's pain and suffering, and you feel strongly for other people's needs.
  • Caring and Giving: You like to help others feel better, whether it is volunteering for a cause, fighting for the underprivileged, or healing others.
  • Introverted: You tend to shy away from large crowds and enjoy regular solitude because taking on everyone's emotions is taxing.
  • Inquisitive: You truly care about everyone and everything, so you are instinctively driven to ask questions or to do research to understand people and things on a deeper level.
  • Creative: Because you have a keen ability to walk in other people's shoes, you are quite imaginative, and you are expressive of all the emotions that you are able to internalize. For this reason, you most likely enjoy writing, playing music, theater, or any other creative outlet that allows you to fully express your entire spectrum of feelings and imaginations.

The empathic spectrum. Narcissist cannot empathize with others because they are self-absorbed while empaths feel others' emotions as if those emotions were their own.
The empathic spectrum. Narcissist cannot empathize with others because they are self-absorbed while empaths feel others' emotions as if those emotions were their own.

33 Signs That You Are an Empath

  1. You're perceived as being highly sensitive
  2. You have a strong sense of knowing (you can read people and situations)
  3. You find public places overwhelming
  4. Strangers easily unload their emotions on you
  5. You absorb the emotions of others even when they're not near
  6. You are highly curious and are drawn to spirituality and the metaphysical
  7. You are drawn to ancient cultures
  8. You are naturally curious about your history and ancestral lineage
  9. You have a nose for the truth
  10. You experience sudden physical pain, suffering, or illness
  11. You cannot tolerate worldly news, radio, T.V., newspapers, violence, or cruelty
  12. You commonly experience digestive disorders and back pain
  13. You have an addictive personality
  14. You are drawn to holistic, natural healing and all things metaphysical
  15. You are creative and inquisitive
  16. You need regular solitude
  17. You get bored and distracted easily
  18. You love nature and animals
  19. You love being in water
  20. You sense the energy of food
  21. You seek answers and knowledge
  22. You root for the underdog and the underprivileged
  23. You cannot tolerate clutter
  24. You cannot tolerate restrictive clothing or jewelry
  25. You love freedom, travel, adventure, and the road less traveled
  26. You are an old soul
  27. You cannot tolerate narcissism
  28. You can be perceived as moody, aloof, or disconnected
  29. You detest doing things you don't enjoy
  30. You instinctively feel time, days of the week/month, weather, or direction
  31. You dislike antique, vintage, or secondhand items
  32. You are great listeners
  33. You only have a few close friends

1. You're perceived as being highly sensitive

Have you ever felt bad for someone and wanted to help them even when others around you didn't notice anything wrong? If you tend to get upset or sad over small and subtle things, then you may be an empath.

However, hyper-sensitive people (HSPs) may also be the exact same way and share many of the traits on this list. The difference between an HSP and an empath is that the empath can feel energies not only from people but from animals and nature as well. Furthermore, an empath cannot distinguish someone else's emotions from his/her own, whereas an HSP can.

2. You have a strong sense of knowing (you can read people and situations)

Beyond intuition and gut feelings, empaths just know things. The more you become in tune with your ability, the stronger this trait can become. Empaths frequently experience déjà vu and synchronicities. Synchronicity is a concept introduced by Carl Jung which purports that events have "meaningful coincidences," meaning things happen for a reason, and empaths can understand that purpose and work with it. With this gift, you can be a helper or a messenger because you can read and understand people and situations beyond what is obvious in the physical world.

Because of this, empaths are likely to have varying paranormal experiences throughout their lives as well, including near-death experiences (NDEs) and out-of-body experiences (OBEs).

Did You Know?

Scientists see a theoretical grounding for synchronicity in fractal geometry, quantum physics, and the chaos theory. It has been determined that at deep levels, everything—atoms, cells, molecules, people, plants, animals—are all participating in a sensitive, connective, and flowing network of information. Physicists have proven, as an example, that if two photons are separated, no matter the distance, a change in one creates a simultaneous change in the other.

3. You find public places overwhelming

Ever notice that you can hike in the woods for miles and not be exhausted, but a trip to the grocery store can be unbearable?

Any place that contains too much energy can be a miserable place for an empath. Because of your ability to absorb others' energies, places like shopping malls, concert venues, grocery stores, traffic jams, hospitals, retirement homes, thrift stores, garage sales, and graveyards can be unbearable.

It could all be symbolic, but I wear certain stones placed in pendants when I go out, and it seems to prevent this. When I forget to wear them, I pay the price of being emotionally drained. The two that work best for me are labradorite and smokey quartz, but many people say that black tourmaline works best to protect against overthinking. Crystals and gemstones definitely help protect and heal, so try to invest in these 10 Healing Crystals for Anxiety.

Clearing and Protective Crystals for Empaths

Clearing
Protective
Lepidolite
Smoky Quartz
Malachite
Black Tourmaline
Aquamarine
Aqua Aura Quartz
Rose Quartz
Chrysanthemum Stone

4. Strangers easily unload their emotions on you

An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if you're not careful, can end up as your own. It is not uncommon for an empath to be told an entire life story by perfect strangers in a matter of minutes. People, animals, and children are drawn to empaths like magnets. It's as if the empath is a sudden sounding and solution board for other people's issues, problems, or opinions. This is difficult for many empaths, myself included, as what many may assume is a simple conversation is actually an exercise in emotion overload. When out and about, I am often randomly bombarded with the chatter of other people. It does not take long for me to get a whole life story in a matter of minutes.

5. You absorb the emotions of others even when they're not near

Empaths have a unique ability to pick up other people's emotional energy and take it on as their own. This can occur whether an empath is near a person, far from a person, or just thinking of a person—distance is not an issue here. For example, it is possible for an empath to pick up on negative thoughts from another person who is miles away. It can feel odd sometimes, as you may suddenly find yourself brought to tears or in a fit of rage, without much explanation.

6. You are highly curious and are drawn to spirituality and the metaphysical

Does philosophy, religion, spirituality, or the paranormal interest you? Empaths are passionate about understanding the universe and all its complexities. They stop at nothing to find the "Truth," and have an intense desire to learn how the world works and understand the purpose for everything. They have a sense that there is more to this universe than the physical, tangible things that can be seen and touched.

7. You are drawn to ancient cultures

You view ancient cultures as possessing universal laws and old traditions that are simple yet enlightening. Because you are a truth seeker, you love unearthing and understanding the origins of these cultures and why people chose to adhere to the laws that governed those societies.

8. You naturally curious about your history and ancestral lineage

You enjoy listening to stories about your parents' or grandparents' past, and you possess a genuine interest in learning everything you can about your ancestors and your family culture. It is not unlike you to keep a family tree.

You hold onto family keepsakes and heirlooms, and you cherish family photo albums. You also have a strong desire to pass the knowledge and treasured family items down to your children and grandchildren.

9. You have a nose for the truth

An empath just "knows" when someone is being dishonest or telling a lie, and insincerity, phoniness, or fake behavior is easily spotted. Many empaths are constantly seeking and looking for truth and just behavior in those they associate with. This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels just plain wrong.

Scientists believe that mirror neurons are the anatomical source of empathy. We are hard-wired to be emotionally reflective of others’ feelings. In fact, neuroscientist Marco Iacoboni argues that the concept of “self “and the concept of “other” are meaningful only as they interrelate.

Empaths are hardwired with more extensive mirror neurons than most of us, therefore, they have a very fine-tuned sense of self and other, making them very accurate assessors of another's feelings.

— George Kraus, Ph.D., ABPP Board Certified in Clinical Psychology and in Group Psychotherapy

10. You experience sudden physical pain, suffering, or illness

Many empaths are bombarded with mysterious illnesses or pain that cannot be diagnosed by modern medicine. Being an empath is draining; it's unsurprising that they are often fatigued and suffer from migraines, sore throats, and aches and pains with no discernible cause. But the cause actually is clear—it is from absorbing others' energies. Until an empath learns to diffuse the various energies they have come to contain, these ailments will not resolve.

In addition to energy, empaths can also pick up physical pains and ailments from others (especially those they are very close to). They are more specifically prone to ailments in their throat, root, and solar plexus chakras. This is why grounding, staying true to yourself, and voicing yourself is very important.

11. You cannot tolerate worldly news, radio, T.V., newspapers, violence, or cruelty

The more attuned an empath becomes, the harder it will be for them to listen or hear this type of information because the world is constantly full of bad stories of crime, murder, rape, etc. It can become so intolerable that they have to halt receiving this information altogether.

12. You commonly experience digestive disorders and back pain

The solar plexus chakra is based in the center of the abdomen and is known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel incoming emotions from another, which can weaken the area and lead to stomach ulcers, IBS, constipation, eating disorders, and lower back problems (from being ungrounded). Most empaths who are unaware of their ability commonly complain of these ailments.

13. You have an addictive personality

Alcohol and drug abuse are common for empaths. By polluting the mind, an empath attempts to block out and protect themselves from emotional energies they do not want to feel or absorb.

Note: Although using substances to numb difficult energies may feel good temporarily, it obviously causes a multitude of secondary problems. Additionally, substances attract lower frequency energies, so it is especially important for empaths to turn to higher frequency coping tools, such as sobriety, prayer, and/or God.

14. You are drawn to holistic, natural healing and all things metaphysical

Empaths often become natural healers (once they learn to use their abilities properly). This may explain why so many empaths are attracted to professions that involve healing—therapy, teaching, veterinary work, psychiatry, and medicine are a few commonly chosen fields of work or study. At the same time, there are also empaths who wish to avoid these trades because of the overwhelming energies attached to them.

15. You are creative and inquisitive

Empaths are very creative and adore anything related to music, drawing, painting, photography, acting, writing, singing, and/or dancing. They have a gift for creating that is often paired with a vivid imagination. Their interests are vast, varied, and ever changing! If you are an empath, you will likely flutter from one thing to another, never feeling like you can possibly learn enough. You may notice your side of the bed is stacked with books or that you have a never-ending list of hobbies or things you wish to explore.

16. You need regular solitude

Although it seems like a contradiction (because they often appear extroverted), empaths require large amounts of downtime and solitude so that they can shut out the world, process all the energies they have absorbed, and rejuvenate. This is not to be confused with avoidance, depression, or something being "wrong." Empaths simply need time to reflect and clear their minds—this is especially obvious in empath children.

Empaths like to be alone because being alone is not the same as being lonely for them. It is actually not uncommon for empaths to remain single and/or childless throughout their lifetimes because close relationships can be very challenging unless respected boundaries are established.

17. You get bored and distracted easily

Work, school, and home life have to be kept interesting and stimulating or you will likely tune out and daydream.

18. You love nature and animals

Nature and the outdoors are especially important for empaths to feel grounded and at peace. If you're an empath, you often seek nature to feel cleansed, balanced, and even recharged.

You are also highly sensitive to the mistreatment of animals, and you care for animals as though they are have human feelings. Owning a pet is essential to your happiness.

19. You sense the energy of food

Many empaths don’t like to eat meat, seafood, or poultry (even if they like the taste) because they can feel the energy of the animal—especially if the animal suffered or was inhumanely treated before death. Weight issues can easily become a problem as there are some HSPs who become overweight because they use food to dull their emotional sensitivity.

20. You seek answers and knowledge

Empaths are often problem solvers who seek the truth and study many things. To have unanswered questions can be frustrating, and they will endlessly search to find an explanation. If they have a "knowing" about something, they will look for confirmation. The downside to this quality is information overload, and a brain that won't turn off and be quiet.

21. You root for the underdog and the underprivileged

Empaths are highly compassionate. Anyone who is suffering, in emotional pain, handicapped, injured, or being bullied draws an empath's attention, and the empath either tries to help or feels extremely sad and tries to avoid the situation so that they won't have to deal with the emotional trauma.

22. You cannot tolerate clutter

The immediate environment of an empath is something they can easily control and is a reflection of their mental health. This is not to say they are OCD, but clutter is like mental weight for them. It blocks energy flow, so they are inclined to remove it. Their homes are simple and clean, and unnecessary clutter is promptly removed. You typically will not find an empath who is a hoarder.

23. You cannot tolerate restrictive clothing or jewelry

Some empaths may find that types of clothing textures or jewelry can be too restrictive. These adornments may feel uncomfortable, itchy, heavy, or just "not right." Therefore, a lot of empaths may appear to be "plain Janes." They also likely prefer only very specific pieces of jewelry or clothing fabric, and they will tend to wear these all the time.

24. You love freedom, travel, adventure, and the road less traveled

Empaths are natural-born free spirits. Anything that takes away their freedom is crippling to their happiness. This includes routine, strict rules, and codependent relationships. Many of an empath's life experiences could be considered rather extreme, adventurous, or daring, and this ultimately allows them to be more open and receptive to various people, perspectives, and events.

25. You are an old soul

It is not unusual for empaths to have experienced many things in life, even when still young, making them appear wise beyond their years—it's as if they have an "old soul." Many are born and just skip childhood all-together, seemingly always having been an adult.

26. You cannot tolerate narcissism

Overly egotistical people or those who are self-centered and refuse to consider others' points of view are intolerable to empaths and are usually avoided as much as possible.

27. You can be perceived as moody, aloof, or disconnected

How an empath is feeling will determine what face they show to the world. They are prone to mood swings, and they can appear quiet, unsociable, or miserable when they've taken on too much negativity. If you are an empath and find yourself feeling this way, a good question to ask yourself is, "What am I carrying right now? Is this emotion mine?"

28. You detest doing things you don't enjoy

This is not to be confused with laziness—an empath does not like to do or live in a way that feels like a "lie."

29. You instinctively feel time, days of the week/month, weather, or direction

It is not uncommon for an empath to arrive at their destination without maps or directions—they can get there by "knowing." The same thing goes for time and days of the week or year, and they are also extremely sensitive to climate changes.

30. You dislike antique, vintage, or secondhand items

Some empaths prefer to buy new when financially feasible so as to avoid absorbing the energies from a previous owner. I personally do not have a problem with this trait and almost prefer secondhand, mainly because these shopping locations are not typically overly populated, and I don't have a six-figure income. I also find I become emotionally comforted by certain "used" items but also repulsed by others. It just depends on the item.

31. You are great listeners

Empaths make great listeners. This can become a burden when you socialize too much because you can become over-energized from engaging with so many other people and energies. You often only share your personal information with those who you trust and are extremely close to.

32. You only have a few close friends

Empaths make great friends, but are crushed if a friendship is mistreated. Over time, they learn to become far more selective—while they may have a large circle of friends and can blend in with just about any type of crowd or personality, they generally only have a few “close” friendships. Once those close relationships are established, empaths find a good exchange of love and respect. These relationships often last a lifetime.

33. You love being in water

Whether it be rain, a pool, the ocean, or a just a simple bath, empaths are drawn to water. You find water relaxing and cleansing, and you may even feel comforted by water.

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The 5 Common Types of Empaths

  • Emotional: You feel others' emotions as though they were your own. This makes you a highly compassionate person because you can feel and understand someone's sadness.
  • Physical or Mental: A physical or mental empath can feel the physical symptoms of another individual. These empaths usually become healers or medical professionals who can sense others' ailments and see blockages or pain points while treating someone.
  • Animal: You can sense exactly what an animal senses and understand what they're thinking. You may even be able to communicate with them telepathically.
  • Plant: You can sense what plants feel and need. You are someone who feels extreme emotional sadness when witnessing a tree getting cut down. You need to be in nature to recharge your batteries and heal your emotional well-being.
  • Geomantic: These people have a keen attunement to the earth. Geomantic empaths can feel happiness or sadness associated with a location because they develop deep connections with it. They can be sensitive to the history of a location and feel the emotions that occurred in that place.

The Pros and Cons of Being an Empath

Being an empath is hugely beneficial when it comes to relating to others and the universe as a whole, however, being able to feel everyone's pain and sadness can take an emotional and physical toll on you. For this reason, empaths are often times introverts and seek lengthy periods of solitude in order to shield themselves from the burden of compassion.

Pros
Cons
Good listeners
Emotional burden that can lead to depression
Compassionate, understanding, and caring
Reclusive
Extremely artistic and creative (poets, artists, writers, and musicians)
Easily overwhelmed
Can use highly keen intuition and sensitivity to promote peace and healing
Often have addictive behavior

Being an Empath vs. Having Empathy

Being an empath is having a hypersensitive ability to absorb other people's emotions and not being able to intellectualize those emotions. It is not to be misunderstood as having empathy, which is being able to sympathize with others.

What an Empath Is Not!

Empaths are highly sensitive people who have the capacity to tune into the energies around them. They are not:

  1. Emotionally immature.
  2. Bi-polar or manic-depressive.
  3. Narcissistic, ego-driven, or self-centered.
  4. Unpredictable and unstable.
  5. Overly-dependent.
  6. Demanding, attention thirsty, or creators of drama.

Empathy should never be used for personal gain or manipulation.

Signs of an Imbalanced or Sick Empath

  • Physical pain, stomach issues, headaches, and over- or under-eating are HUGE warning signs. Don't ignore these—they are signs of imbalance.
  • Feeling spaced out, confused, and disconnected (sometimes for extended periods of days or weeks).
  • Wild mood swings after being around toxic people.
  • Feeling like you’re swirling around and around with nowhere to call home (ungrounded). The mind can go to very dark places, if allowed.
  • Preferring solitude to an extreme (wanting to always be alone and avoiding places and people). Downtime and rejuvenation are necessary and healthy for an empath, but going into complete "avoidance" mode is not.
  • Feeling alone when you are in a crowded place or feeling invisible to others.

Solutions and Coping Skills for Living With Empath Abilities

To avoid falling prey to mental overload, drug addiction, depression, and a sense of disconnect, follow these simple suggestions to help cope with the effects of being an empath:

  • Stay creative: This can be whatever that means for you. Sing, dance, draw, or write. If you are working in a job with mundane tasks, remember to do something creative after work or on weekends. This includes cooking, gardening, or doing crafts.
  • Learn to guard your own energy: This is very important. How can you do this? Breathe, and when you focus on your breath, remind yourself of what is yours and what is not. Make a point to meditate on a regular basis, even if you can only commit to a few times a week. The key is staying consistent.
  • Use your voice: Many empaths lose track of who they are because of emotions they absorb. It's very easy for an empath to become sick and disconnected from the self, reducing their ability to speak for themselves and maintain their sense of individuality and health.
  • Get outside: Go for walks, take hikes, admire, and get involved in nature—lay in the sun or put your bare feet on the ground.
  • Use water: If possible, get near an ocean ASAP. Water is a huge emotional cleanser and energy remover for an empath. Drink plenty of water, and when you feel you are covered in emotional slime, take a shower or do a detox bath.
  • Keep your chakras open: Again, this means speaking up for yourself, taking time for solitude, and staying balanced with yoga, prayer, and meditation. If you are religious, give your worries over to God.
  • Use stones and crystals: These are easily found at apothecary shops or online. Smokey quartz is highly protective and grounding, as well as labarodite and black tourmaline (these are my personal favorites as my grounding has not been mastered). You can really use any object that you determine is a talisman for you. The point is to change the tape in your head that leads to overwhelm, and objects that hold meaning for you can help change attention.
  • Avoid negativity and stress (when possible): Avoid stress from people especially! Try not to get into arguments even when you disagree with someone, and don't allow others to unload their emotions on you. Walk away, if possible.
  • Limit time with TVs, news, electronics, and places that drain your energy. This also goes for people—keep people who are like "emotional vampires" away. Avoid social media as much as possible. People tend to post about their lives (troubles and problems) on social media, which can lead to emotional overload for you.
  • When anxious, close your eyes, envision your chakras, and remind yourself of what is yours and what is not. This helps you stay grounded. Use these chakra healing techniques.
  • Learn grounding, centering, and shielding skills. Grounding reinforces your connection to Earth and centering reinforces your connection to yourself. Practice these grounding and centering techniques to find your balance. Then, practice shielding to protect yourself from attack. Focus on your core energy and create a protective aura around yourself.
  • Pray. Prayer is extremely healing, uplifting, and motivating. Pray often to Spirit/God. Pray with grace and gratitude.
  • Seek outside help from an energy practitioner or spiritual healer. There are also guided meditation sessions you can attend.
  • Find support groups, therapy, churches (or whatever form of spiritual practice that works for you): You may also want to consider group fitness classes.
  • Try to look for at least one positive thing every day! It's best to think of something positive when you wake and before you fall asleep. In the morning, think of one thing you are thankful for, and before bed, think of one thing you liked about your day.

Embrace Your Ability

People of all walks of life, as well as animals and children, are attracted to the warmth and genuine compassion of empaths. Others may not be aware that someone is an empath, but they will still be drawn to them as a metal object is to a magnet!

I've finally started coming into my own with my empathy and hypersensitivity and recently felt compelled to write this because of how unbearable things had become. For so long, I thought I was a sick codependent, but I am not. The journey has been long, confusing, and tedious, sometimes even sick and heart-wrenching, but I wouldn't change myself for a second. Still, sometimes it is very daunting to deal with. We are all unique souls on individual paths, with individual lessons and purposes. I hope this article helps others who may or may not be aware of their abilities, and that the information included will offer comfort, support, and tools for dealing with being a highly sensitive and empathic person. For so long, I thought of this as a curse, but I am finally starting to see it as a blessing and am looking forward to the path ahead.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2013 Rebecca

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      Becca 

      12 days ago

      My son said he thought he was an empath and I thought um not to me! Lol I thought he suffered from depression and psychosis as his moods could fluctuate in a millisecond .. unfortunately my beautiful amazing kind hearted very handsome son took his own life last week and I’m reeling with all the info I’m getting from his friends that made me think he was “sick” mentally unstable or whatbthey fall depression psychosis but the empath makes total sense as well. I will say this. Our home was so sad all the time you could feel the negative energy .. I could others could my daughter and most def my son. I thought it was me cuz I’ve suffered from depression but I was fine away from the house. The first day I stepped foot in my home afterwards the first thing I noticed was that neg energy was gone. It saddens me terribly b/c I should have known to cleanse the house etc. my son said repeatedly he didn’t need prof help etc he knew what he was doing but now I just don’t know. We myth absorbed that energy immediately and he absorbed mine more than vice versa of could be both. He needed a lot of down time and during before and after his funeral (which I’m still completely devastated by) I had several woplevtell me how kind and generous loving tender and sweet he was but what really stuck out is how he was able to keep them from committing suicide or saved their lives .. how insanely honorable to have someone say that about you. ❤️ It started around age 16 and same time he started smoking pot so I just don’t know what to think. Is it empath or depression with psychosis .. ? He felt very list unworthy hopeless no matter what I tried .. or he tried .. it just kills me :(.

      Grieving mom

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      Rebecca 

      4 weeks ago from USA

      Thanks for the comment Ronald. I know mine were mostly found by trial and error.

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      Cole 

      5 weeks ago

      Thank You for posting this, and having explaining it so well. I am 20, but I feel like I have lived 100 more years. Being classified as an “old soul” is nice for the outside. But I always knew that it’s way deeper than that. I feel 100% aligned with everything you explained, and I now understand I am not alone, and to use this as a gift. It’s crazy how you say people won’t know you’re an empath, but they will still stick to you. I have experienced this time after time, but still have felt alone through it. I’ve called this power a curse since I was 16, some days I still think it is. But I know it’s for a purpose. Your words are touching, from one empath to another. Pure ❤️

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      Ronald Piper 

      6 weeks ago

      A wonderfully comprehensive article on empaths! There are many empaths out there who have fully developed coping mechanisms, and like me, have probably stumbled upon them accidentally.

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      brian 

      6 weeks ago from uk

      If I wondered back to my junior days of thought they were very non destructive inocent I used to wonder why school learning was so complicated and could be made easier a bit like what they got today. Born in wrong time I suppose. But jobs were plentiful in is to say you walk out of one job and into another next day if you did not like that job. Think Rb is concentrating more on FB these days but have you heard of that saying beware of the Wolf in sheep's clothing even empaths and clairsentients can get caught out

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      brian 

      8 weeks ago from uk

      Well this is the trouble there two types of thought patterns I know of the ego generated and the phychic thought which has no ego you have to know what your own thought patterns are

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      Pogostickers 

      8 weeks ago

      I think this applies to me. I have a hard time making friends. I feel like I can hear peoples real thoughts sometimes. I get very anxious because of this. I tend to stay to myself. I often feel misunderstood. My mother passed away last summer. She was in hospice for 9 days. It was very difficult. She could not speak or open her eyes but she was there. I could feel her. Because of what happened to her, she could not verbally communicate. But I could feel her and I knew her worries. I felt her sadness. I was overwhelmed by everyones emotions. My sister said you are an empath. Maybe I am? I am unsure. Sometimes I feel that I do not fit in. It's very difficult.

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      brian 

      8 weeks ago from uk

      I vist my niece an sister in law week since my Bro passed my niece is expecting her 2nd child I visted them again this week but for some reason I started feeling iratable and narky cause she's my fav niece we get on really well and we can talk about anything I said as I was leaving kez have you been feeling above cause of the pregnancy as it's a difficult one she said yes why brian oh i said it does not matter it pass might have s

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      Marisa 

      3 months ago

      This honestly explains everything that I've felt my entire life. Supposedly I get it from my dads side of the family since he's told me that he experiences very similar things to what I

      feel. With a lot of stuff going on in my life recently I've been wondering why I'm feeling more stressed out than usual. Thanks for the tip about limiting time on social media. Overall I'm happy to find a community who experiences the same way about there interactions with others as I do.

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      Anon 

      4 months ago

      Thank you for this article. It makes everything make more sense. I've used many unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the feelings I intuit from others, the overwhelmingness of it all, and the need to shut off from it. I've seen counsellors but never felt like they really 'got' me. I'm a skeptic but I feel an energy practitioner may be helpful! Also, water - yes! Thank you again.

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      brian 

      4 months ago from uk

      Hello Rebecca

      Thank you for the message. I have not used facebook for 3 years if I went back I would have to give them a different email address and name I don't trust them

      Thank you anyway

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      Rebecca 

      4 months ago from USA

      Hey Brian,

      Can you message me on FB? I have a group that you may find very helpful :) Rebecca Bishop is me on FB.

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      brian 

      4 months ago from uk

      Hello Rebecca

      Would empaths pick up things from people on a subconscious level first I recon this could or would apply to people with the clair abilities to I've just been trying to figure this out it also occured to me there could be a cross over think I mentioned that before a bit like empath and other abilities what do you think?

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      Rebecca 

      5 months ago from USA

      :) thanks for your comment glad it helps you.

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      KikiBear 

      5 months ago

      Wow. I have read a lot of empath articles but this one is hands down, the best and most accurate Ive seen to date. Thank you so much for this!

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      Rebecca 

      5 months ago from USA

      yes! Def a good sign to remove your energy from theirs. :)

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      Rebecca 

      5 months ago from USA

      I'm so glad Susanna, thank you for the comment.

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      brian 

      5 months ago from uk

      Do any of you other empaths get into situations were you suddenly feel unwell after talking to a stranger it's like your mind suddenly becomes foggy and you find it difficult to concentrate on what you was going to say and for it to clear when they move or leave the scene

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      Susanna1858 

      5 months ago

      This has been so helpful, in understanding why I have such strong emotions about some things

      I hate cruelity of any kind, many times I must walk away, but usually with tears running down my cheeks.

      Thank you so much for writing this, it has helped me more than you know.

      Susanna.

      I hate

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      Rebecca 

      6 months ago from USA

      Those healing modalities are great and popular. I would avoid putting Empath because it really doesn't matter, they will be beneficial to anyone. That's just my opinion. You could always do a meet up specifically on empathy though.

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      brian 

      6 months ago from uk

      Its funny i suggested advertising my therapists service for chakra,cleansing on meetup i hinted at putting esp for empaths she,said no dont put that i got the impression she, thought it was,a dirty word what do any one else think

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      brian 

      6 months ago from uk

      You know I think they should have an empaths convention and people who think there empaths can mix with to determine if they are or not I think it be a great day out comparing notes and experiences 15 to 20 percent of the population that's a lot of sensative people

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      Rebecca 

      6 months ago from USA

      Thank you Tim!

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      brian 

      6 months ago from uk

      Tim I agree with you about not having all the traits empaths normally if I get into a negative situation I have to walk out and as for floating in another situation I had I felt like I was been smothered in a light cloud that felt like fair ground candy floss I had to crack a joke to snap myself out of it

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      Tim Truzy 

      6 months ago from U.S.A.

      I loved this article. Indeed, many people are empaths, but few can recognize it immediately. Managing the empathetic skills requires developing "gates," to control and separate your emotions from others. Artists, musicians, counselors, teachers, nurses, - these are the fields and many others that empaths usually flock to in the long-run. It's important to note that being an empath doesn't require having all of the traits above, but a considerable number of those traits do show up in people who are empaths.

      Yet, with cognitive training and careful evaluation as to what really triggers those intense episodes of "tuning in" anyone could learn to float successfully in the most insensitive environments.

      Your article is very helpful and gives people some guidance in doing just that.

      Thanks for a well written, well researched, and interesting article.

      Sincerely,

      Tim

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      Rebecca 

      7 months ago from USA

      It's a great idea, Brian. I do this also, but did not include it in the article other than some references to learning to ground.

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      brian 

      7 months ago from uk

      Hello Rebecca i got one for the folks why not chakra visualization clearing its a bit difficult to master but the benefits can far out reaching. i have done this for a number of years now it does clean all the negative muck away if you can find a good chakra therapist your laughing dont know if you touched on this subject but it is powerful. it can sound hard to the lay person but anything is worth a try. the only advice i can offer with this type of clearing is patience to master

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      Rebecca 

      7 months ago from USA

      So true. Thanks for the comment Brian

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      brian 

      7 months ago from uk

      I recently took judith orloff md empath test I scored 16 out 20 when I first did the nearly 3 years ago I scored almost 20. You can learn to build up some immunity if you start to believe in your self this can empower you to new heights but don't stop learning and protecting your self it's a lifetimes on going experience and you deserve to have a life of hopes and dreams that will come true and you will experience things beyond what a normal pyschic experiences

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      Rebecca 

      7 months ago from USA

      Hey Brian,

      Yes empaths have gifts beyond physical senses. All I can suggest is to look into clair senses (all of them, because you'll likely have more that will emerge), and meditate or join a development circle if you are wanting to understand them more. I'll be writing about these topics soon also :)

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      Seamus 

      7 months ago

      I’m 51 years old and until yesterday I never even knew that there was such a word an Empath,it’s almost eerie reading that brilliant article as every single angle is so relatable and exactly true to myself,recently I’ve began to have serious difficulty sleeping with other people’s problems really burdening me and I was genuinely starting to feel I was going insane,thanks again for explaining all and helping me to regain my sanity,I’m so relieved that I’m not on my own!!

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      brian 

      8 months ago from uk

      the recent comment was because i ve never experienced anything so intense before this is why i asked if im possible clairsentient or empath i used to be very tidy at one time but that does not seem to matter so much as long as im clean and pots and pans are spotless. i tend to keep my thoughts in a neutral position as i feel it not far to make assumptions about some one unless you have the facts, then again they are who they are, i have seen a lot of people from all walks of life who have some sort of problem i don't now about you i seem to be a good listener sometimes you cannot always offer advice but to see relief in somebodies face is reward enough

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      brian 

      8 months ago from uk

      Hi again dont remember if i ever past this experience to hubpages before. i used to hacve a dear friend many years ago he's passed now most Sunday evening id visit him so that particular Sunday did not seem any different id knock on the door i mention his first name think he love that he opened the front door hello bri. cls the door as you come through mate i ok no problems he say oh we got tony here today. i shut the door as i started to open the living door i started to get only what i could describe as rays of searing pains in my head which got sharper and more intense as i moved into the living room as i passed tony it peaked and stayed constant roger said whats the matter Brian, i said roger i got to go i suddenly feel unwell i said to him i will tell you if get better as i moved out of the living room into the hallway then outside the pain started to go away. i must admit i felt re-leaf. much later in the evening i phoned roger he asked me if i was ok he what was t

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      Rebecca 

      8 months ago from USA

      absolutely :)

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      Rebecca 

      8 months ago from USA

      I am exactly the same Jay. Usually I'm very organized and I want things clean. I have mini spaces that tend to collect clutter. More like a pocket hoarder. But I agree, most HSPs are very organized and when they are not it's because their mental space is on overwhelm. Thanks for your comment.

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      Rebecca 

      8 months ago from USA

      Things do carry energy and impressions-positive or negative, what you're referring to is psychometry. :)

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      brian 

      8 months ago from uk

      were all slightly different

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      Jay 

      8 months ago

      I agree with almost everything except that empaths usually have clean homes and are not typically hoarders. I suffer from PTSD (Complex PTSD for ongoing abuse), and like you said, the way an empath keeps house reflects the state of their mental health. When I am doing well, I will clean up, but when I'm not doing too well mentally or emotionally or both, I become a bit of a hoarder. It isn't bad like what you are used to seeing on tv, but I would call myself a mini hoarder. It isn't anywhere near to like how you see on television at all, but a lot of times I need help cleaning up.

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      brian 

      8 months ago from uk

      I been reading some of the comments on second hand items picked up I think its because some items carry a negative vibration of which were are sensitive too I could explain but I do not think it's for this subject

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      Brian 

      8 months ago

      Thank you Rebecca for replying its so comforting to talk to someone that's experienced whats its been like. did you also know we can also experience the supernatural i don't know if you have but i have seen spirit beings on occasions it is something difficult to describe at first but when things clear in your mind there's that amazement of wow what was that i have just experienced good luck and keep up the good work

      god bless

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      Rebecca 

      8 months ago from USA

      Hi Brian,

      I think you may want to look into different types of energy healing it sounds like you'd be able to help a lot of people (beyond basic touch). We do take on others ailments, so make sure to take good care of yourself, mind body and spirit. You will connect well with those like you, it will feel easy and familiar, and sometimes we can talk for days. Thanks for your comment on this article.

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      Rebecca 

      8 months ago from USA

      I'm the same way :) There's energy in things some feels good some doesn't, I don't really mind it. Thank you for your comment.

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      Rebecca 

      8 months ago from USA

      You're welcome. Thanks for the comment :)

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      Samm 

      8 months ago

      Thank you for writing this! This is all so dead on and SO helpful. I am an empath but also enjoy thrift stores and buying second hand as well.. that's probably the one main exception that doesn't apply to me :)

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      Lynette 

      8 months ago

      Thank you! It's like you were writing about me.This article represents exactly who I am & my life. It feels good to know their are others just like me. Thank you!

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      brian 

      8 months ago from uk

      im still not sure if its empath or clairsentient seem to able sense the atmosphere of a buildings unless its because ive learned to protect my self used to be a really emotional be its almost when i come in close contact with another empath i know what they are almost right away is there such thing as a person with both or vica versa abilities. when i was married it was almost like i was mimicking the wife's symptoms at the time thats feeling unwell i did not know why. there was one other incident my wife at the time was complaining about a shoulder pain i suggested giving a massage after ten fifteen mins i thought that should help so i stopped the massage she complained why you stopped said don't you better, she claimed that there was warm gently heat emanating from my hands giving her a sense of well being the pain had disappeared. i was some puzzled and shrug it off as joke giving it no further thought. but like i said as ive got older things have changed as far as im concerned to anybody its just a story what you think rebecca

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      Rebecca 

      8 months ago from USA

      So glad it's helping you. Took me a long time to figure it out also. It won't feel so bad once you really get to know yourself. You have a lot to offer this world.

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      J.S. Longstreet 

      8 months ago

      Wow. This is ridiculous. I'm nearly 36 and considered myself to be an emotional sponge. As if I don't really exist, only chameleoning my way through this depressing fog called life. Every darn point here hit home. It's like, "is this you?" And then proceeded to deconstruct my personality down to over-eating to cope with stress.

      I have to delve deeper into this subject. Fascinating.

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      Zee 

      9 months ago

      Thank you for this. you are appreciated.

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      christian 

      9 months ago

      HI I don`t know if you can help but I've randomly been crying for 11 months now and most of the time there is no explanation for this. It feels like the atmosphere changes and then I just feel so sad and cry so intensely that its like someone is pulling a huge knott in my stomach. this lasts for a few minutes normally and then it goes as if nothing has happened. I've been for counselling, CBT, Prayer etc and nothing will shift it. Last night when I cried it felt as if I was being strangled and struggled to breath which was ridiculous as I was the only person there and I wasn't being strangled.

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      Rebecca 

      9 months ago from USA

      Glad to help Deb :) thank you for your comment.

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      Deb 

      9 months ago

      I thought that everyone could feel other people’s physical pain. I googled it and found Empaths. I found myself after 58 years. Incredible.

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      chrisy 

      9 months ago

      I always got confused why people always talked to me about personal things before we were even friends.

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      henry 

      10 months ago

      I thought I was crazy or loosing my mind.

      Atleast I feel at peace with myself now knowing im not. Thanks.

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      Carlos 

      10 months ago

      I cried, thank you so much. I'm definitely sick. I isolate myself. Work, home and errands, that's it. No sort interaction with the world, outside of those things. No friends, no partner, not even my family bc to them I am crazy, the odd ball. I had two dogs but had to put them to sleep this summer. Ever since then, my stomach drops from the the pull in my soul, the cosmic connection I have to everything tangible is overwhelming...

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      Julie 

      10 months ago

      I just wanted to say thank you for writing this article. It really resonates with me. The last year or so proved difficult for me (feeling raw and easily swept away by negativity) and after really nurturing myself I feel that I am on the upswing, so to speak. Through understanding that I am a highly sensitive person, energy healing and daily meditation I feel more centered, confident and gronded than ever before. Yoga and reconnecting with nature has also been incredibly helpful.

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      Troy 

      11 months ago

      Wow!!! I'm beside myself!! Got curious about a few weird things that happened to me often and felt compelled to get on the internet and look it up been through about 10-15 different pages about empaths. Every article seem to speak to me but this one was just beyond belief!!! Thank you so much for this post Rebecca

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      Rebecca 

      11 months ago from USA

      The moment you realize they are cluster B, don't doubt yourself and get rid of all connections asap. You need to learn to just trust your initial instinct.

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      Reay 

      11 months ago

      Thank you, your article is a keeper-thorough and 100% identifiable. I do seem to attract partners with Cluster B traits of the more sociopathic variety and 'on repeat'. Even when I can feel and sense, intuitively know all (perhaps, too many) of the details, I seem to grab onto kind of a compassionate hopefulness that trumps all. What are some tools I could use to eliminate my side stepping empathy traits and stop wasting time and energy for both.

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      Rebecca 

      11 months ago from USA

      :) so glad to help Bev. Thank you for your comment.

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      Bev 

      11 months ago

      Hi, very good article & thanks for sharing. I,ve been an empath all my life.That doeSn,t mean I,ve got my life right where I want it. Have 5 girls& in my 2nd marriage..... & all are narcissists to the max. Life has not been easy, however I,m now learning how to live with myself & love myself as well. I also love how you included God in your article. Am on my way to becoming more grounded than I,ve ever been. Thank you.

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      Gh kleiner, artist 

      13 months ago

      Hi,

      Great article, I’m a visual artist who is an empath. I have gifts of knowing how to make great art! I draw at Starbucks and I seem to be bothered by a lot of people in the store. I sense people trying to look at my art while I’m drawing and it bothers me. I like drawing in public but. I feel awkward while drawing. I’m not sure the positive things are so good. I guess it is what it is. Thanks for the article, I’m on the internet if anyone wants to see unique art. Blessings Gh kleiner

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      River Shine 

      14 months ago

      Thank you for this article. I dont see your recipe for the detox bath. Please share it with me

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      Rebecca 

      15 months ago from USA

      Glad it had helped. It does get easier over time.

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      April Dawn 

      15 months ago

      Every word matches my heartfelt truth I feel about my own experience, always sounding crazy to others, everyone I know knows I am a metaphysical student, and thinks I am batshit. But I am a reclusive type, and avoid pretty much everything at this point. I have become addicted to cannabis and have even started drinking alcohol again just to feel anything. I feel absolutely broken. I quit jobs day one after having either panic attacks or uncontrollable crying spells in the restroom on break. I can be away from home in true wild for days, but can't stand the grocery store for 15 minutes. I feel like I am a spirit stuck in a cruel world, and yet I have become a monster myself, just to push away the drama and bullshit that others can't get a handle on themselves. I will start true to my praying and spontaneous meditation. I will complete my ministry training and focus on my art. Thank you for your words of simple and direct truth, blessings.

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      Rebecca 

      15 months ago from USA

      It's a strange ride isn't it? I was exposed to a really bad narc situation recently. Almost sucked my soul clean out. I'm glad to hear this resonated for you and appreciate you sharing.

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      Sean OMurchu 

      16 months ago

      Just got my first discard last summer and started researching narcissists at 49 years of age. Two other narcs in my past got dumped for cheating, so I never got the joy of a discard before. "Co-dependent", "people pleaser" and all the other terms didn't quite work. "Empath" fills in a lot of blanks for me; people telling me their family business without prompting, going for a walk for 10 minutes every couple of hours at a wedding, bailing on my friends at nightclubs when I was young, the connection with animals, and the synchronicities! Weird stuff that defies mathematical odds.

      As much research as I did on narcs to protect myself and my teenage son (whose mother is a narc too), I am inspired now to find out all I can about this gift

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      Rebecca 

      16 months ago from USA

      You're very welcome Lori Lee, thanks for the comment.

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      Lori Lee 

      16 months ago

      Thank you so much for this arrival. I'm so overwhelmed and it seems to be getting worse. This was exactly what I needed. So much negative energy around me is rare when I met someone with positive energy. I just found out I was an Empath with my therapist who isn't with me any more. Now I have a place to start. Thanks again.

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      Rebecca 

      16 months ago from USA

      Thanks for your comment. There are different types of empaths, just like narcissism, it is a spectrum. You may find most things I mentioned fit where others do not and that is ok. BTW, I love thrift and charity shops. I'm not a hoarder but I certainly have pockets of clutter in my home and it can be hard to let go of items. You may actually like psychometry, that may be an ability you have with your empathy. Thanks again for your comment I'm glad it helped.

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      EveryonesBigSistr 

      16 months ago

      All my life I have been described as highly sensitive and empathetic. About 15 years ago I read an article about HSP's and knew it was me, but that was a time before this became mainstream, and people disregarded it, so I kind of did too, assuming that what I was feeling was what everyone feels.

      However I have since learned not everyone has strangers approach them and share intimate problems. Not everyone gets sick to their stomach (like deep in their bones,) when others are hurting, not everyone is told they "know what Im feeling before I even do." Which is why, I'm pretty sure I am an Empath. I say pretty sure, because I am often plagued with self doubt.

      I identified with everything in your article except the part on clutter/hoarding. I am extremely cluttered, and a borderline horder. Is it that empaths dont have clutter? Or that they shouldn't?

      Also, creative types often havr lots of clutter and lots of "stuff" because they see value in everything. So how does this fit?

      I believe I gather so many items (especially vintage,) because my "mother" a deeply cruel person, threw away everything from my childhood and my grandparents. So perhaps that has more to do with abandonment issies, and doesnt exclude me from being an empath.

      Im just trying to better understand.

      Thank you for reading this "novel."

      A

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      Rebecca 

      16 months ago from USA

      Completely agree. Salt baths are a life saver if you can't get to the ocean :)

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      Rebecca 

      16 months ago from USA

      I feel that way a lot also. I actually don't have an issue buying pre-owned anything. Thanks for your comment. I appreciate your input.

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      Oceans 

      16 months ago

      You mention that it's good to get close to water, but don't forget salt!! Salt is excellent for an earthly cleansing tool as well. That's why the ocean is so strongly purifying; it includes water and salt combined.

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      #25 

      16 months ago

      I think it's actually better for an empath to buy secondhand because it makes me feel better knowing the item is recycled; if it's brand new I'm thinking about the unethical practices the business may be perpetrating that my purchase is subtly endorsing. But with secondhand clothing, I know I'm not increasing the world's environmental pollution or other injustices.

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      Lucy 

      17 months ago

      Thank you for giving me clarity.

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      rjmac71 

      18 months ago

      Thank you for putting into words almost everything that describes myself. It was very insightful and informative and I appreciate you for it.

      Without going into too much detail about myself and telling you life story (which undoubtedly bore people to death lol) I have just a couple things. I will inform you that, throughout my life I have done things that add to my stress and mental health issues, mainly military experiences (and I'm not looking for thank you's or sympathy about them. I made the choices that led to those and I except them as my own.) just giving you some insight to how my mind thinks. That being said, I have always been an emotion person, even at young age, I was always looking to listen to people and trying to understand the world around me. I do see a mental health professional and take some very powerful medications to aide me in my day-to-day life and they help....to an extent. I am happily married and we just celebrated our 15th anniversary and have been a couple for nearly two decades. My problem is this. I work in a very chaotic, loud, crowded environment for 8 years now and my sole purpose in my current position is to assist customers with technical aide. I am finding it increasingly difficult to get through my day at work. I am attending a very good college in the arts and am roughly half way through. My day at work is literally eating away at my soul. I am always depressed, tired, beat up, sore etc. etc. Meditation is pretty much impossible for me. I have gotten to the point where I avoid contact with people(with the exception of my wife, who's company I enjoy very much and maybe some family members) but even with family, I find that large groups of them just tear me down. It's affecting my very close friendships and I'm avoiding any contact with the outside (if and when I get any chance) My days off usually look like me staying at home and not even wanting to interact with people. I barely get enjoyment out of watching my favorite shows or movies and my health is becoming a major concern having had a heart attack last March. I just want to be the best person I can be, not only for myself, but for my wife and family as well. I want to be around for a long time. So , I'm left with a dilemma, quit my job, to which I'm only there now for the benefits and possibly hurt my family in doing so. Self medicating heavily, to make it through the day, without wanting to just scream at every person that I see that comes to me for help, or I don't even have another way. I don't think about hurting myself, so there's no need to worry about that. I'm just at wits end and don't know what to do. Im looking for other work, but that still means I have to interact with more people(which you already know I hate to do now). I just don't know what to do. I am so exhausted all the time and it takes every ounce of energy I have to be in social environments. I don't know...it does help a little saying all of this to an impartial audience. But don't get me wrong, my wife is very supportive in everything I do and always tells me I can tell her anything, I just don't want to burden her with all this crap I go through every second of my daily existence. Any ideas? I know that is a ton of information and you already expressed in your article how being empathetic, we have the tendency to take on the emotions of those around us and people we don't even know. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad, I just am running out of ideas.

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      Rebecca 

      19 months ago from USA

      Thank you. Many blessings to you too, I'm glad you found this helpful.

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      PowerMechGuy 

      19 months ago

      This helped me out tremendously. I couldn't quite pin everything I was experiencing down. But now I get it. I also found that mental imagery helps tremendously when dealing with negative energy. And I never knew stones were that powerful. And the constant references to God were like a confirmation.

      Your work here is much appreciated. God bless you and may you have peace on your path.

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      Rebecca 

      19 months ago from USA

      We can get way to close to people and take on their "energetic" stuff. At which point it helps to ground and focus on knowing what is yours and what is not. Emotions don't care about gender and we all have masc/fem energy in us. I think if you try some of the things in this article you'll feel a lot better. Also FB has groups for Empaths if you use social media, these can be helpful. You're not a minority being male. :)

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      oldbasejumper 

      19 months ago

      I'm an ole guy, and only recently started searching for the word empath. I have been with my GF for about 7 years. I have a problem sleeping in the same bed with her or anyone for years. I do not know if that is normal and i just attribute it to having separate houses and being a single parent for many years. What i started paying to attention to is this. I can be in a different room and suddenly I will go from normal, to almost tears in my eyes from overwhelming emotion, the type of emotion when one is thinking about a parent that passed away, or a sad event. And, it comes out of nowhere and fast. I finally realized it was due to my girlfriend, she will be thinking about her mother that passed away, or she will be watching a sad movie, and I'm hit with the emotion. I started confirming this by coming out of my office/room and saying "are you crying again". 9 times out of 10, she is. Also, I sleep in a different bedroom, and sometimes, i can't fall asleep for a couple hours, just lying there,....you guessed it, I"ll go check in on my GF in the adjacent bedroom, and she is up, wide awake, and says she can't sleep and that she is worried about a situation at her job. Is this all the time?, of course not, but 90% of the time can't be coincidence. On a general topic.....I have attributed my somewhat anti-social to "smoking a little pot" when i was younger. Or, i would rationalize that it was because i was a single parent, going to night school, getting promoted at "a small company", or just being too busy to be an extrovert. I also was involved in skydiving, fast motorcyles , etc, as it makes me focus on "the moment" and every problem i might have going on in my life, is gone...at least for those moments. This might be politically incorrect of me to say, but I have always thought i have been way too emotional for being a guy. I now wonder if I have been an empath for many years and just been in denial. ...thanks for listening to me ramble.

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      Rebecca 

      20 months ago from USA

      :( you can't. You need to learn how to manage it.

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      Rebecca 

      20 months ago from USA

      Thanks Frank :) Hope you are well, been awhile since we spoke.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      20 months ago from Shelton

      what a very interesting hub Bishop.. somehow I missed it...:)

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      Rebecca 

      20 months ago from USA

      I appreciate your comment, but can't speak for every single empath or how they are raised/or specific personality deviations. Take what resonates for you, leave what doesn't.

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      Kacey 

      20 months ago

      I have so many problems with this post. I'm recently trying to figure out my issues and I believe it's because I'm an empath. You do NOT take into account upbringing or the ability of anyone with whatever upbringing or for that matter personality deviations. This definition of an empath leaves out so many people. A LOT of us aren't this description.

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      Rebecca 

      21 months ago from USA

      I'm so glad it helped. Don't worry, things get easier, and you're very much needed here for your empathy.

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      Tailor 

      21 months ago

      This literally brought me to tears. More than once.

      I've struggled with so many of the ailments listed for a long time. I've known that I was an empath for a while, but haven't ever done any serious digging into it all. Everything makes sense now. Thank you for sharing this information and advice. It's so, so appreciated.

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      Louise 

      21 months ago

      I've never felt moved to add a comment to anything in my whole life, but this was such a wonderful article that I had to thank you.

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      Rebecca 

      21 months ago from USA

      :) I will email you.

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      Rebecca 

      21 months ago from USA

      You're very welcome. Don't worry things will get easier.

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      Janet 

      21 months ago

      I think I am Empathy, and I have all the signs of imbalanced empathy and its scarey sometimes I went for a Chakra cleanse, and I am learning about stones and crystals to try and help Thank you for this reading page

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      Joel13 

      21 months ago

      Let me assure everyone, if you are an Empath, you will know and there's no debating with yourself. I've known for years, but couldn't define this self proclaimed curse. Rebecca, I need to speak with you. Please allow me the opportunity. It will not be a waste of your time, I assure you. daddycatie@gmail.com

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      Rachael 

      22 months ago

      thanks for this article but am still confused if am one of them because few of them described me.

      Am still not quite sure.

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      Nic 

      2 years ago

      Hello, friend,

      Thank you for sharing this wonderful article. I've been aware of my intuition etc. for years, but wasn't aware of the label "empath" until last year. Since then, I've read extensively, and this is the best article about being an empath that I've encountered. I also appreciate you addressing the problems of being an empath with possible solutions - this I find very helpful! I'm going to read this to my mother so she has an even better idea about what I'm like, so again, thank you for sharing!

      Peace. x

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      Saul 

      2 years ago

      Interesting article, clarifies a few things.

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      Erin 

      2 years ago

      Thank you.

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      BonnieB 

      2 years ago

      Thank you for your article. I believe I am empathic. I have recently admitted to depression. A hugh need for privacy, and down time. I believe much of it has been caused by my sister unknowingly using me as her emotional dump. Do you have any additional advice or books that could help me

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      Sandra chaves 

      2 years ago

      I am sinsitive type of impath

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      Gaby 

      2 years ago

      Wow! This is probably the most detailed and interesting article regarding empaths I ever stumbled upon. Thank you so much!

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