Spirit Guides and the Importance of Your Relationship With Them

Updated on August 7, 2018
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Before Reading Further...

Why is a main spirit guide relationship so important? I will list the points that I have been shown. If you are working to open your third eye, doing any kind of psychic or spiritual work, there are a few things you should do. These things are imperative for your mental health. First, the importance of grounding cannot be stated strongly enough. You must learn how to ground and protect yourself. Also, if you are in ill health, and do not generally have your life together, then working with Spirit should not be your priority. Ideally, you should not have any chemical addictions, using substances for altered consciousness is one thing, addiction is another. The reason for this is the law of attraction like attracts like. The last thing mental illness needs is a spiritual aggravation, seek help from reliable sources before you mess with energy. Your physical frame will adjust as needed by going this route first. If you cannot manage your own life, the last thing you need to do is to be asking for Spirits to make their presence known. Guides are always with you whether you feel them or not. We have main guides that are with us before we are born. Others will come and go, and no, not all guides bring positive influences. The majority of guides are dis-incarnate spirits, meaning they were once human, not all but most. This article is more about the relationship importance with your main guide (for psychic or spiritual work), and you will know them when you meet.

Anyhow, should you have your life in decent order and feel a very strong urge to explore human consciousness and spirituality, then proceed. This is a lifestyle of service and should not be taken lightly.


Learn to ground and protect. The intention is the main thing. You don't have to visualize this, but sense it, feel it, set the intention you are protected. Do this until you feel it without question. Do this 2-3x a day before trying to contact dis-incarnate spirits or guides. You can visualize this in many ways, some use robes, some use bubbles, some use mirrors. Whatever comes to mind that makes you feel protected beyond any doubts use that. There is no set way, and you may find over time your preferences change. This is all okay.

When you begin meditations to meet guides, always G&P before and after and only request the service from the highest good. Grounding visually is easy. Get yourself in a quiet relaxed state and start at the top of your head, going down to your feet, visualize a ball of white energy at the top of your head. Pass this through each part of your physical body. This ball will collect all negative energy as it travels. When you get to the base of your feet or root, turn the ball into black, or red cords. Visualize these cords going deep into the earth and connecting to the core. Wrap and tie them around the core. Once that is done, dump all your negative energy into the center of the core where it will recycle to pure clean energy. Now draw this pure energy back up in through your feet, in the form of white again, all the way up and out of your head. When you feel this energy about 2ft above your head, you'll know you are well grounded. Practice grounding before meditations. Ideally grounding and protecting should be done at least once a day.

It's Not for Everyone

Please keep in mind that we are not all destined to become psychics or mediums. Some people will explore this with genuine interest and just not get results, it's not negative or bad, it just may mean your path is not of this nature. Many working psychics have brought forward abilities from previous incarnations. Sometimes it is easier for others to do this type of communicating. The potential is there for everyone, and no one, even those naturally born with this escape developing. We are all always developing. However, don't feel discouraged if you don't get instant results. Your main guide will gladly make their presence known when the time is right.


Guides are always with us. They are there like the air you breath even if you can't see them. They act only when requested to do so. Good guides (yes there are bad ones) will NEVER mess with your free will, or try to get you to MAKE decisions. The guides you want to work with will only be there to lovingly support, encourage and teach you in your current incarnation. They want the best for you and will help you achieve it. Should you want their assistance, ask.

However...they will not prevent you from screwing up and making bad decisions. Some things are meant as lessons, and if you purposely put yourself in harm's way, they don't just jump in and rescue you, although angels have been known to do that, most guides will not. Harm's way in form is irrelevant, could be physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They are happy to encourage you to leave certain things alone. You'll understand this more once you have established a working, trusting relationship with them.

Guides do not care what you call them, or how you see them. When they show up, they will present themselves to you in a way that will just work for both of you. Sometimes they will speak, sometimes you will see them in your mind's eye or both. Sometimes they will give you a name, physical description, or other signs to let you know who they are. They will visit in dreams, during waking hours, in meditations, and they love synchronicity. Some are even identifiable by ancestry research. Over the course of our lifetime we have more than one working guide, often a whole team, it will depend on what purpose you are calling on them for. You may be familiar with mediums stating they have a "spirit team" they are referring to all of their guides.

What is a main spirit guide?

A "main" guide will become your partner in spirit communication and feel very much like a long lost friend. They know you inside and out, and over time you will learn you know them better than you think as well. Your main guide can appear in any form they feel is beneficial to you. They will "man" the spirit door when you are working, allowing only spirits through that they know you can handle communication with. They will help you translate the information you receive when doing a reading for someone else. At times they may also determine when communication is over, by "closing that mental door" Initially it may not feel this way, you may find you're completely overwhelmed with sensory data from the spiritual planes. If you are at this stage, please make your meditation schedule a priority and regimented. When we meditate with the intention of meeting our guides, it's like meeting a friend for coffee. Our guides will expect us to show up. If you're not taking the relationship seriously, either will they. They will assist you in becoming grounded, balanced and protected.

The purpose of the main guide is to be your partner in psychic or mediumship work. They will help you understand and use your spiritual senses and abilities. They will offer advice and guidance. They will teach and help you learn. They will feel loving and supportive. Any guide that doesn't should be mentally told to leave, and will not be the main guide. Any guide willing to work with you will respect any boundaries you have. It is a major blessing to get to know them as the relationship unfolds.

Some state that guides are just aspects of the higher self. I can neither confirm or deny this, but I do feel on this journey we encounter both. Even aspects of our former selves in previous lives lived. But the main guide will "feel" different, and you will just "know" when they are there. This is one very special relationship, and with time, trust and effort it will never let you down.

Signs your guide is around

  • Psychic impressions-these may come in various forms. Hearing, seeing, sensations.
  • Feathers. For some reason finding feathers in very odd locations guides like to do.
  • Very vivid dreams (lucidity) and visions in meditations
  • Hearing your name called when no one is physically there
  • Repeating numbers, songs, or animals crossing your path
  • Automatic writing or feeling the need to write down internal guidance you "hear"
  • Feeling "someone" is with you
  • Mentor-ship opportunities-receiving a book or other bit of information right at the exact moment you need it. Again you'll just "know"
  • Seeing lights, orbs or flashes that do not have an explanation in logic

How do I contact my main guide? And how do I improve communication?

Unless you were born a natural psychic or medium, the best way to meet your main guide is through meditations. Many working mediums, once they are fully aware of what they can do, recall guides from when they were children. Like an "ah-ha" moment. This may or may not happen with you. Often young mediums first meet a protector or main guide when very little.

Get yourself on a regular meditation schedule. "meet your spirit guide" meditations online are very useful. But the important part is being consistent. Plan to give at least 2 hours a week for meditation work, same time and day is preferable.

Results will vary, as stated before. Dedication and commitment to service are going to influence communication.

Begin a journal, either for just noting what you receive in meditation or info you receive from your guide(s) also. This is personal information and not something you need to share with everyone. Use your discretion. You will want to log what you see, hear, feel, and sense not only about your guide but also psychic impressions.

Another thing you can do is ask for your guide to come into your dream state. You can ask for assistance with a problem before dozing off to bed, and receive info either in the dream state or upon first waking up. A journal will be a big help to track this information, and well as decipher symbolism.

Relationship growth

As your ability to work with spirit unfolds, your relationship with your main guide will become very important. You can always request their assistance with issues not only in psychic work but also with life in general.

Even when you feel they are not around, don't doubt them. They are apt to back off communication during times in life when you need a break, when you are in a phase of deep inner development, or when you need to tend to other things.

The relationship with your main guide is truly a blessing, and will always continue to grow with commitment and your dedication.

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    © 2016 Rebecca


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