Is There a Positive Side to Being an Empath?
The Positive Side of Empathy
When researching Empaths and the associated indications online, it seems that the focus is always on the less than positive side. Although it is at times difficult to bear and can seem overwhelming, there are in fact some positive sides to being an Empath.
Knowing What Others Really Feel
In daily encounters with people, at times it is difficult to know what someone is trying to say or is feeling. Empaths are ahead of the game here. We can tell what someone feels and what they are really trying to communicate. Therefore, we can best help them find answers or assist them in what they need. We can also avoid many misunderstandings as we can usually tell when someone is either not explaining themselves correctly or being indirect about what it is they actually want. Of course, that also makes it difficult for people to fool themselves around us, or lie to us. This can be a two sided coin (good thing/bad thing) at times, but at least we can usually know the truth of the matter. We can see to the heart of what someone is really saying. In our relationships, it allows us to truly be present for those we care about in a way many cannot. We feel what they are feeling and while at times it may be unpleasant, it allows us to better aid that person. Ever notice that people around you (those you know as well as those you do not) tend to seek you out? It is the energy we send out to them that draws them, whether they realise it or not. How may times have you heard “I am not sure why I am telling you this”? They unconsciously know that we can help or at least understand where most others cannot.
Projecting Calming and Healing Energy
Most Empaths have the ability to project energy as well as absorb it. It often occurs without us having to do anything at all, as it seems to flow. Learning to control this can help calm situations and send peaceful, healing energy. Consciously channeling tranquil energy and pushing it into an environment where there is tension present can help all concerned calm down a bit. Although it is not okay to tamper with someone’s free will and force emotions on them, sending peaceful energy into a volatile situation can give everyone just enough breathing room to look at things more rationally. To do this, ground and centre. Then, imagine beautiful, tranquil energy streaming from your heart chakra into the area you wish to calm. You can imagine a stream of lavender or purple light (or whatever colour signifies tranquility to you) filling the room.
Healing energy can also be projected. Empaths make excellent Reiki practitioners and massage therapists or other healers for this reason. The channel is already open, sometimes it just needs activation. I remember when my mother was fighting cancer, she told me that whenever I came into the room she was immediately filled with a peaceful energy and felt stronger and better. I was not consciously aware of it, but somehow I knew that she needed healing energy and it flowed to her.
I am a bit hesitant to touch on this as if not shielded properly, you may experience the pain and/or symptoms of the person you are trying to send energy to. Before I studied Reiki and went to get my attunements and certifications, I would be able to send healing energy, but it often depleted my well. If properly grounded, centred and shielded however, sharing some of this energy can make someone feel a little better for a time. To do this, please have the person’s permission to help them. Again, free will comes into play. If someone has asked you to pray for them or to send positive thoughts this counts as permission. If the person is unable to give permission, ask your angels, Spirit, the Universe or whatever power you understand that your intentions be received for the best. Then, concentrate on sending energy to the person. I would always imagine a pink energy entering them. See it filling their body, then disconnect. You do not want to drain yourself. Give only what you can without depleting your source. Again, this is an advanced skill and takes practice. Start small and eventually you will be able to spare energy on a larger scale.
If you feel you have developed the person’s symptoms, ground and reconnect to the Earth’s energy. I found a simple way to do this was to touch a tree and send my own “roots” into the earth, letting the “symptoms” flow into the Earth where they are neutralised, and pulling up energy. If you cannot go outside, imagine your feet growing roots, extending into the earth, and allowing the “symptoms” to flow down through the roots into the Earth to be transformed. Then see a bright ball of white light above your head. Let the white light wash over you, filling you, infusing your chakras, and being absorbed. This will energise you again. Again, please do not attempt this if you are newly opening to your Empathic abilities. Of course, if you have been trained in Reiki, this will not be an issue.
Some More Thoughts
As I mentioned, Empaths can sense the mood or atmosphere of a room or place. That can give us an indication of what to expect in many situations where others are flying blind. Since we can feel what is going on with other people, we can sense how or when it is a good time to say something, or to let something go. If you use your imagination, there are many ways to use your Empathic gift to help others as well as yourself. Of course, Empaths are prime targets for psychic vampires, which I will cover at a later date. That doesn’t mean that we are always victims or at the mercy of our Empathic abilities. At first, yes, it can seem that way especially when we don’t know what is going on with us. But it is not all bad and in fact can be quite beautiful at times. Opening up to the love and positive feelings that are out there can assure us that the world is a wonderful place at most times. We also have the capacity to enjoy ourselves more than many people, to experience love, joy and pleasure more intensely and to truly feel connected to the world around us. That is an amazing feeling.