John Hollywood is a pop culture reporter that writes articles with a psychological twist or wellness slant.
Are You an Empath?
Do you frequently experience the intense emotions of other, particularly in public settings? Do you find that at times these feelings are intrusive?
Do you struggle with trying to push these emotions away, causing you to become drained and depleted?
Are you able to feel the physical distress of other living creatures, like aches and pains? When a major global event happens that involves significant loss of life, are you able to sense the enormity of the tragedy before it hits the news?
Do strangers approach you and share their personal problems without your prompting?
If you answered yes to these questions, you may very well be an empath. In plain-speak, these abilities are more commonly used to characterize a person who is empathic, a term that may describe you.
You are not crazy nor do you have bipolar disorder or some other kind of mental health issue. For empaths, these experiences described above are very common and occur on a regular, ongoing basis.
What Is an Empath?
Empaths are very special people who for reasons we do not yet understand have the ability to scan another person’s psyche for emotions and thoughts that are connected to the past or present. A good number of empaths are not concerned about where they gained this ability and have accepted this trait as part of who they are.
Empaths are not mind-readers or people who are involved with magic or any of other stereotypical non-sense that you see T.V. Instead, they are very much like everyone else except they have a “chip” that gives them the ability to tune into the feelings and emotions of other living creatures.
An empath will be the first to tell you that their unique abilities can be a double-edged sword, often carrying more minuses than plusses.
This article will provide the eight common traits and characteristics of empaths, which you can use as a self-assessment tool in order to gauge your own empathic abilities.
People who are empaths commonly involve themselves with different forms of mindfulness, which is a 25-cent term for being present in the here and now with the added characteristic of being focused on the moment.
One however does not need to be involved in activities like Zen Meditation in order to be an empath. You are either born empathic, or you are not.
Both women and men can be empathic but it is thought that as a population group, incidences of empathic traits occur more frequently in women. As a group, empaths struggle with romantic relationships and often confuse love with obsession because of problematic emotional bonding.
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Empath Zodiac Signs
Certain astrological signs may be more empathic than others, including Pisces, Cancers, and Scorpios.
The eight characteristics listed below are most commonly experienced by individuals who have the gift of being empathic. These traits however do not represent the complete list of skills. I am just touching upon the “biggies” here.
As a general rule, you will need to circle 3 out of the 8 traits appearing here in order to qualify as being empathic. Keep in mind, some empaths are more gifted than others and no two empaths are alike. I have included a rating scale towards the end of this article.
1. You Feel Emotionally Overwhelmed in the Presence of Others
This is a very common trait of an empath. When in public places, like a shopping mall, house of worship, school, or workplace function, empaths feel overwhelmed by the emotions of others for reasons they cannot explain.
Example: During a casual walk in the park, you pass by a group of children. Out of nowhere, you get a tingly feeling down your spine and begin to sense a myriad of emotions from one of the children in your presence.
You experience these emotions in a powerful way which can be overwhelming. Even though you try to block these feelings, they continue to stick with you, particularly if these feelings are profoundly sad. Needing to escape these emotions, you decide to go home in order to be alone and away from others.
2. You Are Drawn to Animals and Can Sense Their Emotions
Empaths are drawn to animals and vice versa. For the most part, animal emotions are experienced as happy by empaths, which helps to balance out some of the sad emotions felt in the presence of other people. Empaths however can tell when an animal is depressed or feeling blue—they can also sense if an animal is sick or in pain.
Example: A dog runs up to you that you have never met. As you begin to pet him, he looks into your eyes and makes strong eye contact. You begin to feel a bit strange and suddenly are able to experience the fullness of the dog’s feelings.
During the time spent together, you sense he has back pain. Later, the dog’s owner appears and tells you that the pooch has arthritis. He also shares that normally; the dog does not like other people and is confused about why he ran to you.
3.When Catastrophe Strikes, You Experience a Torrent of Emotions
One of the major signs that a person is an empath is their unique ability to sense that a tragic event has just happened, impacting many people somewhere on the planet. Empaths often know something “bad” has happened before they are ever told. While they may not know specifics of the event, they absolutely experience a torrent of connected emotions—primarily loss and sadness.
Example: You are out gardening when suddenly you start to feel a bit odd. Moments later, strong feelings of sadness begin to overtake you. It becomes clear to you that something tragic has happened somewhere on the planet.
Depending upon the intensity of feelings, you may even begin to feel like you are going to pass out because of their power. Suddenly, your cellphone rings. On the other end of the line is a friend who just informs you that an earthquake has happened, killing hundreds.
4. You Are Powerfully Drawn to People in Emotional Pain
As mentioned earlier, being an empath can be a double-edged sword. On the one hand, empaths are able to “be” with someone during emotional difficulty. On the other hand, empaths are often drawn to those in emotional turmoil, particularly folks who live in chaos or in emotional pain. Empaths often try to resist people who are experiencing these emotions but are unable to do so because they can’t help themselves.
Example: The lady down the hall seems to constantly be in and out of abusive relationships. Even though you have tried to help her in the past, she doesn’t listen to your advice. You swear that you are done with her and make the conscious choice to not engage in her drama. Your ability to do this however only lasts a week because you are compelled to listen to her problems and allow her to unburden her pain.
5. You Need to Isolate Yourself From Others on a Regular Basis
Another hallmark of the empath is their ongoing need for “alone time”. Empaths often need to isolate because they “feel” so much. The alone time allows time to emotionally decompress and clear the mind of thoughts and feelings. Isolation is a normal part of life for empaths and is not a sign of being arrogant, narcissistic, or “crazy”.
Example: You decide that this weekend you will spend time by yourself and away from others. You make it a point of disconnecting yourself from the world, meaning no television or Internet. You do this so that you can relax and detoxify your mind and body of pent up feelings and emotions. During this time, you find yourself draw to creative things, like writing or painting to help purge emotions. During this period, only your pet (pets) can be around.
6. You Struggle With Self-Care
This is yet another sign of the empath. Because these individuals are magnetically drawn to other people’s problems, feelings, and emotions, they often have little time or energy to engage in proper self-care. As a result, serious consequences can happen in the areas of general health and finance.
Example: Sandy tells her friend Helen that she needs to exercise more and eat a “clean” diet so that she can reduce her bad cholesterol levels. Helen is eventually able to do this with Sandy’s help however, Sandy has done very little to address her own weight and high blood pressure issues.
7. You Have the Power to Heal
One of the final traits that some empaths have is the ability to heal other living creatures. This ability however is not universally shared and does not manifest itself in the same way for every empath. Some empathic folks for example can heal animals. Others can heal people. Healing may be limited to different realms, such as emotional or physical healing.
Example (emotional): An old man walks up to you and begins to talk about how alone he feels since his wife died. After you spend time with him, allowing him to share, he tells you that he suddenly feels much “lighter” and as a result, better.
Example (physical): A young girl approaches you at the mall. You notice that she limped a bit on her way over. After spending time with her, you are compelled to touch her ankle. The little girl tells you that she feels heat coming from around her leg. She giggles and walks away, leaving you feeling a bit drained. Moments later, the girl’s mother approaches you and says, “How did you do that? She sprained her ankle last week at school. She seems totally fine now”.
Example (animal): You are walking to your car and notice a small bird on the sidewalk, trying to flap her wings to gain flight. You are drawn to the bird and bend down to pick it up. The bird doesn’t seem to flinch when you do this and makes no cries for help. As you cup the bird in your hands, you stroke her wing. Moments later, you empathically know to toss the bird into the air because she is healed. You watch as the bird disappears into the sky.
8. You Dream of Future Events
Many empaths are able to see future events unfold during sleep, particularly deep sleep. While not all empathic people possess this ability, those who do see blurry imagery that represents an event of something yet to unfold. Attached to the imagery, empaths will feel powerful emotions connected to the future event.
Example: You see flames shooting up from a building during a dream. You are unable to make out a bunch of detail however, you can see the outline of a brick house with a dark-colored roof. A week later, you learn that your nephew’s home caught fire where a pet cat was trapped inside and died. Your nephew and his family are devastated over the loss of the home and the animal. Somehow you sensed the loss before you were told about it.
Empath Assessment Results Based on Responses
|Low Empath||Moderate Empath||Strong Empath|
3 out of 8
5 out of 8
8 out of 8
You have some empath skills.
You have moderate empath skills.
You are a strong empath.
Skills may increase over time advancing you to moderate status.
Some people never advance from here while others can through self-training.
Highest level an empath achieves
Empaths are very special people. Many empaths can be found in the helping professions, including the worlds of counseling, psychology, medicine, and natural healing. If you are an empath, you already know the ability to experience the emotions of other living creatures can at times be overwhelming.
Empaths are encouraged to engage in as much self-care as possible. If left unchecked, your special abilities can get the best of you and cause you great personal, emotional, and financial pain. You have been given something very unique by the universe.
The rest of the planet desperately needs your special powers for karmic harmony. You may not have asked for these abilities but you have them anyway—it was never your choice to begin with.
brian from uk on August 20, 2020:
I tend to fall in that catogory but i dont clear my own baggage i suppose we just cannot help but like listening miss the the group meditations though it clear your negative energy built up over the days or week
Theresa on May 01, 2020:
I have noted that I have been helping people to clear their emotional issues for free even though I would like to earn small professional fees. I find this economic need less satisfying and has never allowed it to deter me to counsel those who need emotional support. I have accepted this natural trait I have and clearly had enabled me to read and empowered myself further through psychology.
Anna on April 30, 2020:
I am an empath and work as a spiritual healing coach and LMT , was not always aware of my gift till in my late 30. I discovered it when working on people I could feel in my body what was going on in theirs. It kinda challenged me at first till I realized it was the other persons issues.
Jay on February 10, 2020:
This..I've felt much of this all of my life. I had a dream of my mom's funeral when I was 9 years old....She died when I was 21 and the only difference was her casket was pink....I feel like I've tried to zone out most of these feelings but as a younger man they were extremely overwhelming...I had nauseas feelings whenever something happened or was about to happen. So much...I can still feel people's true intentions but it feels like the dreams have stopped. Also extremely sensitive feelings...
Human on January 15, 2020:
I am not sure I’m am Native American so I lucid dream, my life guide is always around not just sleeping, and I see what others think so it’s each their own I guess
brian from uk on January 13, 2020:
Theres a lot of videos on utube the best one ive seen so far is by christna lopes called Am i An EMPATH! [16 Signs of an EMPATh!] Id watch it several times enjoy but keep an open mind as there are different levels of empathic nature individuals show
brian from uk on April 11, 2019:
To budding people who trying to be empath. natural empaths are born and its no joke when feel what you feel from others ive picked up mental suffering from several individuals who are hurting badly and you can not switch it off what your feeling is so intense as if the pain is doubled towards you all you can do is walk away and hope they be ok, ill describe on this occasion what it felt like as i got closer into the room were this person who was suffering it starts as throbing pain in your head and as you get closer the pain gets intense and starts to come in waves one after the other until till you can feel it through all you body, i had to leave almost right away i could hardly speak to my other friend who asked what was the matter i muttered had to leave feel unwell tell you later when i feel better soon as i left it started ease off and i started to feel better, the person in question today is ok.
brian from uk on April 07, 2019:
That dreaming futuring events does my head events that dont give dates when it happens its like deja vu ive been here before feeling even its the first time
Come on people on March 21, 2019:
The fact that more than 25% of people posses 8 out 8 empath characteristics is enough to call bullshit imo... I am 8 out of 8 - I do not identify as someone with special abilities
brian from uk on January 04, 2019:
My wife was complaining about having aching pain in shoulder blade so I offered to give her massage to try releases so tension after ten mins I thought that so be ok now. She complained why have I stopped I told you she be ok now she described a feeling of gently warmth and sense of well being and contentment I was somewhat puzzled at the time know I now why it took most of my life to realise what I am
Tree Hugger on May 29, 2018:
I am very good at reading people. Sometimes before I walk into a room, I can feel the emotions of others. Like before my parents divorced, I could feel the sadness and angry and depressing feelings emitting from my mom. I could feel that something was wrong. But I didn't know what it was. However, since I was a small child, I have known that it would happen one day. Then the day it happened, I knew it was going to before my parents told me.
I can also tell when an animal is in pain and what they feel, though I can't ever tell what happened unless I experienced it.
And my best friend. She has a boyfriend and school got out recently. When she talked to me about how much she missed him, I could feel an aching in my heart. I don't know how because we live far from each other.
Since Empaths can feel emotional pain, in fourth grade I became best friends with my best friend. I didn't know why until I read this article because we are very different from each other. Recently, I learned that my best friend feels like killing herself. That's why I have been drawn to her. She's so important to me and that's why I convinced her not to kill herself. I healed her. Emotionally. I don't know how.
I constantly need to isolate myself from others. I'm not a very social person and being in a crowd is draining for me. Like in school, when there are so many people in the hallways. I just can't deal with it.
I also have dreams of the future. Only little snippits. At first, I thought it was deja vu. But then I read another article on this website and realized that it wasn't.
Thank you for posting this. It really helped me understand a lot of different things. It feels strange to know I am an Empath.
Theresa on March 25, 2018:
Two weeks ago I counselled an orphan who was very stressed and dealing with life-threatening diseases. After asking her to try to accept me as her own mother, she opened up. We prayed and within few hours she was able to laugh and talked more about her living relatives and a sister. We prayed more when we parted. I was left with overwhelming pain, and depression combined with powerful feeling of love and need to be closer to her. I cried continually while praying; not able to stop praying for her full recovery. The following day I felt better because I kept thanking God for he healing. She is making significant progress. What an experience!
Me on March 16, 2018:
Is it possible to block your empathy part from inside you?
I feel like it's done... on March 16, 2018:
So just now I felt overwhelmed with the feeling of excitement from my dog when he was running around my room and I then blanked out when this happens I go completely still even my breathing stops for a little while while I'm frozen and i m so scared also recently my friend didn't know the answer to a quiz I'm sure because suddenly I felt greif and embaresment and so I blanked for like half a minute then I felt overwhelmed with feeling from everyone in my class and then almost passed out from lack of oxygen so l isolated my self and lately my dog has been more attached to me but he was always attached to my mom so now I'm scared I mean I would like to help people but I'm scared I'll go crazy so I try to ignore but can't now those blank out moments have become more frequent and it is getting harder to stop the of you can can you please answer this because I'm so scared I want to lay down a wither up please help me I'm afraid to accept this can you please wright back?
I'm Scared on March 16, 2018:
I once saw the high school shooting but through some one else's body and I died I thought it was dejavo and now I'm starting to isolate my self again empaths we should wright what we feel from people and find out kind of casually and say "hey were you sad yesterday?" Or something just people !right think us dangerous sometimes so be careful.
angel on March 16, 2018:
I have known i am a empathic since i was a child. i have all of the " power point's", that are on here. I read individuals like a book and i don't even try to. To all of the empath's out there who are just realizing what you are you may freak people out at times. Do all above as your gifted with but, say less as possible. I love being an empath it's hard sometimes though.
Joelp77440 on January 16, 2018:
The dreaming of future events is probably the worst thing. I don't believe its psychic powers but more of a empathic intuition. I can't see fires or plane crashes but I can see a person's future outcome or what they will do to me. My wife dying and me being a single father to a 5 year old. I say that in high school. My girlfriend cheating with my best friend in my mid 40's, I saw that coming 20 years ago. One trick is, we can change the future for emotion is always the future "Yoda." I dreamt of moving into a house for years before my wife got sick and saw her sick in it and dying. When she got suddenly sick, I looked at the rental add and went to a house that was just like my dream. Instead of getting that house, I got one two house over. The same outcome happened but just in a different house because I made it that way.
Christa on January 03, 2018:
Since I was a teen I knew I was "different", just not how different. I could be minding my own business, and then suddenly a "crash" of foreign emotions would hit me. Usually being frustration, anger, sadness, weariness, excitement and fear as the strongest. Even though I hate being alone, I can't handle being around others for extended periods of time, because it ends up causing me severe "pain and anxiety" and makes me feel "trapped". The emotions I sense from adults are not so unbearable, it's the ones from minors that I can't handle. I suppose kids and teens emotions have more "potency" than an adults. I don't know. As I got older the stronger the "pain" became, and now it has gotten to where I don't want to leave my bed. I'm 27 now.
Nikki on August 30, 2017:
I knew something was wrong with me from a young age. I could walk pass houses and get the feelings of sorrow, sadness, anger, happiness, and longing. The worst is people, just random citizens minding their own business their emotions radiate just like the sun. I have a knack of just knowing. Having zero medical training i can pick up the cause severity and remedy to injuries I've never dealt with or want to . If I were to touch on my paranormal experience of use all 9,000 characters and not still have more. I think it's inherited my mother her mother all have it. I'm 32 now and it's growing stronger. Why so late ?
Brittany on August 06, 2017:
Thank you for this post it explains me to a tee. Sometimes I feel sad or have a stomach pain and find out either someone close to me has passed away or something bad has happened. When my childhood friend committed suicide I felt sad for days then blanked out for about 20 mins. I called my mom and asked her what was going on. She told me that my guy friend from school just killed himself. As soon as I found out my sadness went away.
I had a horrible stomach ache bad when I was like 18, I was swimming with my aunt and two of her daughter's. I told my aunt I wasn't feeling very well and she needed to call her oldest daughter, before she could ask why my cousin called her and told her she just had a miscarriage on her way home while driving.
I had a dream of being in a white room with my fiance, we had just met, and my long dead grandma, my step dad's mom, and my great grandma, my mom's grandma, walked in the room. There was no sound only mouth movements. At the end of the "conversation" we all stood up they shook his hand and walked out. I told my grandma about her mom visiting me a dream and she told me that was a good thing, she gave her blessings from beyond to me. My fiance and I have been together for almost 9 years now and have 4 beautiful children.
I even had a dream once of what my daughter was going to look like 5 years before she was born, she looks identical to my dream.
I knew something was odd about me now I know I'm not odd I'm special.
Thank you so much
Shell on April 12, 2017:
Mavic I feel the same way u do
Whitney Andrews on December 27, 2016:
This is me and also not just towards living goes well with dead as well
puvaneswary on November 10, 2016:
I have got 8 out 8. I'm not entirely happy. I knew i was different since young. I could understand people's feeling from the age of one atleast. I remember everything. I dream of future, have visions, i know if someone is lying or even when my bf was cheating on me, i knew he was cheating and i knew exactly where he was at that time. I just knew. Random people open up to me anytime anywhere, animals especially cats loves me for unknown reasons and so does kids. I can feel someone's pain so bad that i feel like I'm the very person. I have known so many things that i have no way of knowing. I attract to much trouble, including supernatural things like spirits and so on. The place i am currently is too toxic for me that i can barely function, the entire city was build on an old graveyard.( historical city)
If you ever read this, do let me know if there's anyway for me to control this. It's draining me too much and i dont know how long i can do this. Being in a park by myself , surrounded by trees and plants helps alot though. I isolate myself in my room or library but sometimes i need the presence of human to feel normal or alive. Especially when i need to study. If I'm around people in library, i study better as i feed on their thing or replicate their motivation or smthng...i dont know what you call it. I also understand about my own body and how it actually work and this helps in healing myself instantly.
alice on September 11, 2016:
just recently realized i to am an empath, now it all makes sense to me, why people open up to me, when they never met me before= just like yesterday at the mechanics, this man starts telling me of his divorce and what a rough 14 yrs of marriage he had, then he met another female who took advantage of him etc, The man then tells me he doesn't tell everyone his story... I never met this guy before in my life... People do this to me more often than not... I believe I am a moderate empath.
mavric on June 15, 2016:
I have often wondered about things like this and I've have many questions that go unanswered. It seems like something in my life is lacking and that I don't fit in. I want so bad to find my place in the world and I try very hard to be understanding and try and look at everyone's situation. I don't judge but often find that people are taking me they wrong way or misunderstanding the things i say and do. My intentions are always good and I have a bad habit of putting others before me even strangers. Like mentioned above I feel its like a double edge sword. I have always know that something has been different about me and I have always tried to do the right thing. No one is perfect and I've made my share of mistakes. I find that most find me intimidating or think that I'm trying to be better than them and its not the case. It is hard living in a world where everyone doubts you and your intentions and when you try so hard for so long it gets discourageing. I'm not going to change who i am regardless of anyone else or there opinions. We're all here to work together and build a world that our kids can grow up and be safe. People have a choice to make a difference and make things better but most are too selfish or have been through so much that life has damaged them. I came close to letting it get to me and when people do me wrong or assume accuse or threaten the people I care about I can feel my skin began to burn. God has been a big part of my journey and has carried me when I thought he gave up on me. My faith and my heart has been tested over and over and it is now stronger than ever. I'm ready to start living my life and finding my place in the world and I know God is revealing things in his time and when times get hard I will turn to him guide me through.
poncho on May 15, 2016:
People have told me I am empathic. One of the things that happens is when I am in an old structure that has been abandoned, I wind up standing perfectly still and "absorbing" something from inside the structure. It is always painful. There are old houses I will not go in even if the person living there is nice. If I get the feeling that something bad has happened there, I won't go in. With people, I feel like a sponge that absorbs pain.
Jeannie Marie from Baltimore, MD on April 23, 2015:
I've just recently learned the term empath. The more I've learned, the more it explains a lot about me. I always thought I was just very sensitive and introverted. I think I am actually an empath instead. I dreamed about the Oklahoma City bombing and other events before they happened. People I just met often tell me personal things they never tell anyone else. I feel like I almost absorb other people's emotions. It is good to know there is a term for this.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on April 15, 2015:
I'm glad this was helpful to you!
georgia on April 13, 2015:
Ive loved reading this and now understand why i seem to need to b alone with my thoughts for such long periods of time after being out in public.hoping to gain some more insight to hold off the exhaustion and drained feelings that seem to surround me at times.
Chelsea Rowe from Henrietta, New York on March 02, 2015:
Very interesting. I have often joked and called myself an empath. It is emotionally draining to be more in tune to other's feelings and pain.
Firefly on March 02, 2015:
I had a dream about the death of a man's mother. I had a terrible feeling about his future. I wished him a Happy New Year and told him that he was going to have a wonderful year, even though I knew that wasn't true.
I tried to distance myself from him, and even tried to be hostile towards him, but each time that I closed the door, another would open and reconnect me to him.
Then, a few months later, I had this terrible emotional feeling that made me physically unwell. I had terrible heart pain and even ended up in the A&E. They couldn't find anything wrong with me. After a few days, I checked his blog for a post that was due, but as I'd suspected, he hadn't posted. I knew that when I looked at the family notices in the paper that a notice about her passing would be there, and it was.
I've never even met this man in real life.
This is an example of the things that happen to me, a lot. I was aware of it very Early on in my childhood.
The story, above, was the most intense that I have ever experienced it though. I don't know why. I drew a mind map about it, and there were many connections to this man that I still don't understand.
I don't have contact with him now, but I still have this feeling that I need to keep a door open for him.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm normal. I feel so alone, even when among people. I don't know anyone that is like me. I feel like I'm the only person in the world that is like this.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on January 25, 2015:
Glad you liked!
Bobby on January 24, 2015:
glad there is somebody else, very well wrtietn article.i have always been able to feel the people around me, if somebody in my family has a nightmare at my house and wake up, i wake up at the same time feeling terrified even if i was having a good dream. i almost couldn't be at my grandmothers viewing when she passed because there was about 30 or so people there and it was like all those emotions and my emotions crushing me, i hate crowded situations.i actually have a small question, are withdrawals related to emotion, currently my mother is quitting smoking and i feel nervous, jittery, i can't sleep or eat, when i do eat i get sick. its just bad, if this is how it feels to go through withdrawals then i am never ever ever doing anything ever.i found that i do have to be in a mile radius for any emotions to come through though except people i really have built a bond with, then they can be 200 miles away and i can feel how they feel when there is a larger emotion, so im pretty sure that if i want to get away from my mother's emotions i would have to fly to another continent to get any kind of relief. but i don't ever want to get rid of it, it helps a lot when i know people need help.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on January 03, 2015:
I am glad you liked and I just started following you!
Smilealot on January 03, 2015:
A really interesting read, I never considered the possibility that people could be 'empaths' as I had never heard of the term before. Than you for sharing:-))
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on October 04, 2014:
I am glad you enjoyed Arachnea!
Tanya Jones from Texas USA on October 04, 2014:
I find this so interesting. Your information resonates on many levels with me and who I am. Great hub.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on September 15, 2014:
Thanks for sharing. I wanted to post this hub as a way of creating greater awareness around the phenomenon of empaths. It sounds like you are one for sure. Glad you liked!
Amy Casale Choisser from Melbourne Fl on September 15, 2014:
Great article. I am a newly self accepted empath. Previously not knowing why I was still different from other idealist in personality, learning about empaths has put the final piece together. I am also taking a course on how to effectivley block out others emotions so I can enjoy social events and such and be a better counselor. The only thing I noticed was empathic is defined as Highly sensitive people and they may not be an empath. That cmes from my own research. Thanks so much!
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on September 14, 2014:
LL Fugate from Central Virginia on September 14, 2014:
Interesting hub. Voted up.
(Not empathic at all.)
Theresa Jonathan from Maseru, Lesotho on September 06, 2014:
Needing to be alone could be complicated if you are married and cannot let your spouse understand this need. I remember I used to ask my spouse to take the children and visit his parents so that I could have that day alone. It could also sent wrong message! This is a personality trait spouses need to research on so that they could be supportive and not judgmental. What a complex life we have!
Sandy from Florida on September 05, 2014:
Excellent Hub. For a long time, I thought everyone could tell what everyone else was feeling. Once I realized they couldn't, I changed my perception of the world, (for the better). I also used to feel bad that I wanted to be alone so much. Once I realized that I was "re-charging" I changed my view on that too. Now I know it's one of the ways to take care of myself. Thank you for writing this. I shared it on my Facebook with another empath.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on August 31, 2014:
Thanks for sharing. I never even thought of the boundaries issue until you mentioned here. That makes a LOT of sense. I'm going over to your hubs now to check them out:)!!
CMHypno from Other Side of the Sun on August 31, 2014:
Very interesting hub misterhollywood. Like most things being an empath has good bits and bad bits and I think it is very important for all sensitive people to learn how to ground and themselves on a regular basis.
The trouble I have found is setting boundaries. For a lot of people it seems the more you give out to them the more they will keep taking, but I find it hard to say no. One of my life lessons and I just have to keep plugging away at it!
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on August 30, 2014:
Hi, Cheeky Kid,
Thanks for the share and for the self-reflection. A lot of people have mixed feelings on this topic for sure. I appreciate you taking the time to pop by and respond!
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on August 30, 2014:
Thanks for sharing. My sense, based on what you shared, is that you really are an empath. Very few people hit all 7 of the 8. I can imagine that at times that you gift really is a plus and a minus. I am glad you are in the healing professions. Goodness knows we need people like you!
Cheeky Kid from Milky Way on August 30, 2014:
I don't know if I'm actually an empath (mixed feelings on that). But I know that I'm apathetic. But that's also the reason why I can see farther the most and feel deeper than most. Empath or not, I don't know.
PDGreenwell from Kentucky on August 30, 2014:
I have seven of the eight traits, very strongly; I won't judge myself for healing as I have, to my knowledge, never done anything as theatrical and clear cut as make the lame walk or the blind see.
I have chosen a healing profession, which in many ways was a horrible mistake. For me. I am always told that I have a very calming and centering presence - that they feel safe and better in my care - but it exhausts me, physically and emotionally.
I require a lot of alone time. Or alone with my husband, who gives me rest.
My son does not exhaust me; I hate to say my daughter does. That girl (young woman now) saps A LOT of energy, and always has. Bless her heart.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on August 28, 2014:
Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing. It sounds like you have empathic abilities big-time! Sorry to hear about what happened in 1986 by the way.
I am going to check out the hub you mentioned right away. Thanks again!
Gloria Siess from Wrightwood, California on August 28, 2014:
I often feel overwhelmed and overly sensitive to others, especially in a group. I have often dreamed of coming events. In a local library I visit, I usually have to run out as a feeling of "something wrong" overwhelms me. It is nice to see a hub on this as I have always experienced these emotions. My sensitivity has saved my life many times (I was nearly murdered in 1986 but sensed it coming) but it is also somewhat of a burden as it makes life painful and difficult at times. Thank you for writing this--I invite you to read my Hub "What NOT to say when people are grieving," which also addresses the issue of empathy.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on August 26, 2014:
Thanks, Theresa for coming by to share:)!
Theresa Jonathan from Maseru, Lesotho on August 26, 2014:
I am grateful to read this article which explains me. I do not really like animals, actually I fear them but strangely I feel their needs and would sympathize with a chained dogs. This a good hub.
Rick on August 25, 2014:
I've got 7 of these. I always wondered why I felt odd around people and why animals run up to me. Now I know!
Jean Bakula from New Jersey on August 24, 2014:
I wrote a note back to you too. Of course, a Scorpio isn't the type for flings, fixed sign people fall hard and are in a relationship for the long haul. Both my husband and I have/had Scorpio Ascendants, and that means we felt the same way about the important issues in life. But we had enough aspects of challenge to keep it interesting. It's been rough, in the beginning there's so much to do to try to see how secure your life is, we spent what was his whole adult life together, and I was only a few weeks short of 19 when we met. Thankfully he left me in pretty good shape, I paid off our house and bought a new car. I'm going to Antigua for Christmas, since it will be too hard to be here.
Our 26 yr. old son is a teacher, and Scorpio Sun and Moon. He still lives at home, teaching doesn't pay well, and he's having some trouble finding a job in kindergarten or 1st grade, his passion. Kids just gravitate to him. But you know how people judge and get odd ideas in their heads, I'm sure. The U.S. has become so conservative, and parents think a children's teacher should be a middle aged woman. People really need to get into the 21st century. I'm happy he's here with me at this time though, we need to help each other through our grief.
What you say about my work is kind, and you insight is spot on. One man in my Clairvoyant group says I'm a Wounded Healer, and also encourages me to keep on. I will. People always begin telling me about their problems, and even though I'm a nervous person with my Gemini planets, for some reason I have the ability to calm people down and give them good advice.
It's true I get visitors who don't comment on the blog, I'm always shocked by the stats, since so few say much. So I'm not going to give up. Thanks for your encouragement.
John Hollywood (author) from Hollywood, CA on August 24, 2014:
You have one of the BEST blogs here on Hubpages, hands down! I sent you a note to share we have begun linking to your astrological posts here on Hubpages - they are that good!
I am sorry to hear about your husband. That has to have been devastating. To be with someone as many years as you were with your husband and to lose him is just hard to even emotionally digest. I am a Scorpio and have "fixed" relationships. I've been with my partner now for 25 years and cannot imagine what it would be like to experience the loss you have.
Going back to your blog - my sense is you just need the right exposure. I have been reading astrology for many years and know when I see garbage and when I see the real deal. The real deal is you!
Finally, I think you are a bit of a spiritual healer. I encourage you to continue working your blog here on HP as well as your website. People really need your help and guidance. While a lot of folks never comment on what they read, it is important that we remember they do read the information.
Thanks again for coming by to post here.
PS that course you are taking sounds amazing!
Jean Bakula from New Jersey on August 24, 2014:
This sounds like me! I cast and read astrology charts and do tarot readings for people who are trying to better understand themselves, and have waking psychic visions. Since they are normally about deaths of people I love, which will occur in the near future, I am currently taking a course in Intuition and Clairvoyance, so I can learn to use this energy and learn more positive things.
Early this year, my husband and lover of 39 yrs. passed on suddenly at 58. I am heartbroken and trying to keep busy, but there are days when I am paralyzed with grief. I received your email and will answer you soon, I appreciate the traffic you threw my way, and only have lately begun writing again here on HP. My blog needs a complete overhaul.
It is Spiritualitypathways.com, but I never made much money on it, even though Google seems to like it, it advertises it for a whole page. I am considering taking my better pieces from there and moving them here. I have written on a lot of sites, and this is the best, even with the changes the Squidoo people will bring, that should only bring us new readers. If you have any suggestions for new people for my "Famous People of the Zodiac" series, I'm all ears! I do switch them out to put new people in, but am in my 50's and am not always sure who younger people want to hear more about. The series has a Part 1 on here, and Part 2 on my blog.