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Do Our Loved Ones Stay With Us In Spirit ? I Think They Do

Updated on March 4, 2017
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Feeling Is Believing

If you have ever lost someone you truly loved, you may feel their presence with you still. Many times they will also be leaving you signs that they are there with you or have called in for a visit. All those strange things that keep happening, in my view, can only add up to one thing: your loved ones are letting you know that they haven't gone for good, but have just stepped out of view for a while.

Sometimes your loved ones will come back to you in vivid dreams. Sometimes you will smell something you associate with them; it could be a whiff of their favorite perfume or aftershave, maybe even pipe tobacco. Other times, you may notice things in the house have moved from their usual position, or electrical appliances may start to play tricks. You may hear their voice, feel the warmth of their presence, or have the overpowering feeling that they have just walked into the room. Everyone's experiences are different, but my advice is to accept these occurrences with pleasure, not fear. Know it's just their way of trying to let you know you are not alone and that they are with you still.

At first it may be hard to bear the feeling of their presence and not being able to see or touch them, but it will get easier and eventually give you comfort.

For many years now, I have felt the spirit of my late Husband with me, and the love we shared while he was alive is wrapped all around me like a snuggly blanket. I can honestly say that I rarely feel lonely — alone, yes, but there´s a big difference between that and loneliness.

Some People Will Think We Are Crazy
Of course, there will be those who think people who believe in such things are completely crazy, and that we generate these feelings of our departed loved one's presence to make ourselves feel better. I can understand this way of thinking. Let's face it. You either believe in these things or you don't (unless the jury is out and you are sitting on the fence).

It is an undeniable fact that there is no way of proving beyond doubt that these spiritual events do actually happen. But, I believe that once you have felt the presence of your loved one or loved ones, there can be no mistake that they really are with you in spirit.

My own experiences and feelings tell me when my Hearty drops in on a visit. The feeling I get is so strong it's like he has actually just walked into the room.

His Promise to Return

I think my Husband must have been psychic himself as he had seen various spirits throughout his life, both human and animal, and told me he actually felt his departed mother giving him a clip around the ear from time to time when he had done something out of line.

Shortly before his death, he made me the promise that if there was any way he could come back to me he would, and I believe that he does. I often tell people, "Oh, Hearty's just come in," simply because it feels like he has.

By the way, Hearty isn't his real name (just my pet name for him).

I Believe I Felt His Spirit Starting to Cross Over

When there was no denying that he was losing his battle with cancer, I had the strangest feeling that I was shrinking, and that when he died, I would become invisible altogether. I felt like Alice after drinking the shrinking potion, or as a good friend described it, "like that dot that used to appear on TVs when you turned them off way back when we were kids." The dot gradually faded until it disappeared altogether. It was a very strange feeling indeed, as though I was fading away . I have given this a lot of thought over the years and now think that our bond was so strong and our spirits so linked that as his illness progressed he was starting to cross over into the spirit world and my spirit was feeling this journey along with his.

Everyone did say we were soul mates.

His Family in Spirit Came to Take Him by the Hand

On the morning he was admitted into the hospital for what I knew in my heart would be the final time, I clung on to the hope that he would recover. He asked me if there had been anyone else but us in the ambulance. When I replied, "No, just us and the driver," he clearly didn't believe a word of it.

By this time, he was taking Morphine and was weak and confused, but I couldn't help feeling that he was seeing those waiting to take him by the hand to lead him from this life to the next. This feeling became even stronger when he later asked who all the people were standing around his bed.

When he died 5 days later, I found the thought of him passing into the company of loved ones something of a comfort. My feeling was that there were smiling members of his family and friends, maybe even pets, waiting in the light to love him and take his hand when he could no longer feel mine.

After the Battle Comes Peace

Anyone who has lost a loved one to cancer, any cruel and painful disease or illness, or through accident or natural causes will know just how hard a thing it is to get through, both for the sufferer and those around them.

If you have lost a loved one who suffered greatly before dying, your first feeling when they pass can be a mixture of both deep sorrow and relief that they are no longer suffering.

The first time I went along to see my Hearty just after he died, I really didn't think I could go through with seeing him in a coffin. But, my need to just see his face again overrode my fear. Even though he died in my arms, it still took a lot for me to see him again that first visit.

However, I began to realize on subsequent visits that the body I was looking at was just a shell. He wasn't there anymore. This feeling got stronger and stronger until the last visit before his funeral, when I had taken his brother and grown-up children to see him. On that day, I felt for certain he had truly left his body behind. When we later left the viewing room and got out into the sunshine, I had the most overwhelming warm and calming feeling that he was standing right there with us. This was his first visit in spirit. It felt so good, I smiled a huge great smile for the first time since loosing him.

Going Forward Without Him

Of course, even when you can feel your loved one with you, you still have to get through the grieving process. It surely is a long and winding road; take my word for it.

Feeling your loved one's presence during this time can be a bit of a mixed blessing because it can, and often does, make the longing to see them even greater. However, at other times, it can help a huge amount.

Don't forget to accept all the help and comfort offered to you during the grieving process from loved one's on this plane. Find something or some way that will get you up and out of bed every day and keep you engaged. I found I needed to work really really hard and lean on my friends. I got out of the house when it all got too much and found company and distraction. I am lucky in the fact that I have really fantastic friends nearby who stood by me through thick and thin and helped, not only emotionally, but practically too. As my family and my other friends live in another country, it was hard for them to do more than give moral support. Nevertheless, some gave just what was needed. I thank them all.

If you feel you are slipping into depression or anxiety and don't think you can cope, please do go and see your doctor. You can also talk with a bereavement counsellor or contact others in a similar situation. Please don't feel like you have to suffer in silence.

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Hello, Hearty. I Know You Are There.

I feel Hearty's presence, like when someone enters a room and says hello. It gives me a kind of warm feeling. I hear his voice in my head too. Not a conversation, but just things he would say.

He has also come to me in dreams, and once or twice through mediums. I have written about a very special reading in this article.

I had this reading on the first aniversary after his death, and quite honestly, it was so accurate you would have thought the medium had been married to him too.

During another time, it was a really bad day for me. I was holding onto the urn containing his ashes and wailing like a banshee when all of a sudden I felt the top of my hand warming up. It was so noticeable it stopped my crying, and I just sat staring at my hand. I felt sure he had his hand on top of mine, and later, I felt the same warmth across my shoulders. He was giving me a hug.

A number of years ago, I had a breakdown and was suffering very badly with anxiety. Things had been going wrong in almost all aspects of my life, and it got to be too much. I was in a state of constant anxiety and agitation. I wasn't sleeping, I couldn't eat, and I didn't know which way to turn. It got so bad one morning I actually threw up with anxiety; but then a really strange and powerful thing happened. As I was rinsing my face, I stood and stared at myself in the mirror and all of a sudden had this incredible feeling that forces outside of me were taking over and things would change. It was such a powerful feeling that I made circling motions with my hand and said out loud, "I can feel things moving. I know you are there, and I'm going to get through this." For those of you who have never experienced out-of-control anxiety, let me tell you, this is the very last thing you would think.

For me, these events are just more confirmations that my loved one or loved ones were right there with me when I really needed them to be there to help me get back on track.

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The Last Word

I know there will be many people out there who believe in the spirit world and our loved ones' ability to come back and help us when we most need them, and many who don't believe.

For the latter, I hope that you can be open-minded enough to at least think, "Well, maybe it can happen," and just maybe you will start to feel the presence of those who have gone on ahead. They are hanging about in the wings waiting to help us out and offer comfort and love.

I dedicate this story to my Darling Hearty. I will love you forever and then some. xx

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A Little about bac2basics

Hi.

I am bac2basics and have many articles here on Hub pages ranging from spiritual beliefs and events, to money saving hints and tips, gardening and pet care, health and the odd poem or two. Really I write about whatever takes my fancy or things I feel strongly about.

Thank you for dropping by to read this hub. I hope knowing your loved one´s are with you in spirit helps heal the wounds left by their passing.

Sending hugs your way xx




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      John Cernak 5 days ago

      I lost my soul mate Louise 7 months ago. The cancer slowly and methodically took her life over a seventeen year period. I was her caregiver as her needs gradually increased. I am now a lost soul with no meaning or purpose left in my life. I am fortunate that I have three loving daughters that have created a place for me in their lives. I am 78 years old, making it more difficult to start a new life without my Louise........

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      Deanna R 10 days ago

      Dear Anuj Awasthi, I am very sorry for your loss! I can relate to what you have said 99%! My beloved mother suddenly left me almost 3 years ago! She had a silent heart attack, but she was a healthy, active and a young looking lady. She wasn't just my mother but my best friend and my guide and I never thought she'd leave this early! She wanted to see my big big day as well and it was the dream she had for her only child and I have a big heartache that I couldn't fulfil her dream. But now I know her soul lives!

      To this day I see her in my dreams quite often! I see dreams of her every week. I also feel her presence, specially when I go through a rough patch in my life! With these experiences I know our loved ones are watching over us. Your Beloved mother is watching over you as well.

      If you are open minded you'll able to see signs from her. They can communicate to us through dreams and thoughts. There are times I am having a difficult times to find certain items my mother has kept hidden when she was alive. I would ask her them verbally hoping she'd hear me and I would get thoughts where to find it and surprisingly the first thought I get helps me to find the necessary item. This has happened to both me and my father many times so we understand it isn't just a coincidence.

      You are never alone! Your mother is there with you! Take your time to grieve and learn what you can from this experience. My mothers sudden death certainly changed me a lot! I grieved a lot and I still miss her so bad but the whole experience made me strong! I will do things to make her soul happy! Our moms are watching over us!

      I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers! This stranger knows how you feel! May God be with you and your family in these difficult times.

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      damond b 3 weeks ago

      when i was a kid i became friends with a beautiful strawberry blonde named Rita. she was unique, beauty with goodness, and charisma. people were in awe of her . one guy confessed to me years later when she left her desk and couldn't see he had to reach over and touch her stuff, they were like holy objects. Rita and i became close and in high school we had decided to someday marry. but my Rita died on my 16th birthday in an accident. it was instantaneous . my heart was shattered. but within months, Rita started coming in dreams. always happy, sweet, friendly, loving. and in over 40 years she has dropped in and has given me signs of her presence. she has been a part of my life . others tell me they also feel Rita's presence, so its not just me. in recent years she has become more sentimental and the dreams more elaborate, detailed, and we talk , hug, kiss, and she tells me things like "i love you." i replied to that; "well, that's nice. but i am old enough to be your grandfather." "that's not important. where i am age and time mean nothing." and i became close to Rita's baby sister. and when we first hugged after not seeing each other for 30 years i felt such happiness and love. i felt Rita's presence. i told my sister; "ITS RITA!" i bought Rita's tombstone, anonymously, after her parents could not force themselves to do so, almost 40 years ago. i told nobody. but i found out from her sister that they figured it out. and i then learned the plot next to Rita was available and i put down a deposit. i will be buried next to my Rita. after i did this i had her come and say; "i know what you are doing. i think its sweet. its like you're marrying me." i had never thought of it like this. i found a friend was a psychic detective , a medium. and she knew nothing of Rita. i showed her a photo and she told me things only Rita and I would know. it was stunning. she said Rita told her when its my time she will be there to take me to the next world. and she is always at my right. i never told anyone, when i talk to Rita i always look to my right. and in the dreams she always comes from the right. and i had to leave during hurricane Rita and made my way to where she is buried to visit. i stood there, nobody around, and said "sorry its been a while since i was here to see you. took a storm with your name on it to get me here." the medium told me, "Rita liked the joke about the storm." omgih. i had told NOBODY . things like these tell me Rita listens, is present, loves me and our souls belong together. i went to visit her on my birthday, her death day. i said a sign would sure be nice she heard me. a little brown bird landed on the tombstone and cackled 'RITA! RITA! RITA!. cocked his head , like "you get it?" oh, yeah. i looked up and said; Oh, you are GOOD!" her signs are blatant, funny and sweet and i walk around happy, knowing my Rita is with me always. the medium said about her; SHE'S FUNNY! I LIKE HER! well, EVERYONE who ever was in Rita's presence loves her still and worships the ground she walked on. they have called her an "angelic being" and things like this. and talk about how sweet and funny she always was. an ancient , beautiful soul. and i am privileged to be loved by her.

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      Jason 3 weeks ago

      Yes, my mum , i have blue light in the hallway, light was going off and on, i no who that was, my mum, who passed, few days,

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      Charlie 3 weeks ago

      My mom passed away last week I asked her before she passed that once she gets on the other to somehow let me know she is ok and she responds shaking her head up and down. It’s been almost 2 weeks and I’m still waiting for her to tell me she is ok

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      Samara ahmed 4 weeks ago

      my boyfriend have died last 10 days Back.. i cannot forget him i lost My soul i donot want to live in diz life ...at least if i was Feeling him i used to live the life but i cannot feel him .. i want to feel him how can i feel hm please give me the answer

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      Terry 5 weeks ago

      My Mother died last month and it feels very unbearable to live. I lost my Husband 20 years ago. When my Mother died, people keep telling me to "move on." But there is nothing to move on to. I can't feel her and I feel like I want to join her. I would be shocked if I get an answer.

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      shanon 6 weeks ago

      after we got my dads ashes back we went to where he used to go fishing and scattered them into the water. we took pics cause it was so beautiful. my mum had these pics put on to big paintings. she finally was ready to hang them in his tv room...

      and there he was... his face.. as clear as anything.. in the ashes in the water. now there is no doubt in my mind.. there is life after death...

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      katherine 7 weeks ago

      I miss my sweetie jon brandis so much **?

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      Sashila _yanger@yahoo.com 2 months ago

      I want my Sweetie pie to connect with me always. I miss him so much.

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      Anuj Awasthi 2 months ago

      I lost my mom due to stomach cancer last month which was only dedected a month back , she was so healthy and good looking it all happen so sudden , can't tell you the feeling of loosing my mom , she wanted me to be married and I could not even fulfil her one dream when she was alive

      so the guilt and the pain is all the more

      she was talking , seeing all of us and than suddenly she left us , I miss her so much I wish once i get to talk to her

      I just wish God gives me enough strength to fulfil all dreams my mom had for me and I can take care of my dad and do well in life

      she did tell me to take care of dad she some how knew she will be leaving us though she so wanted to live

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      bac2basics 2 months ago

      Hola Rudy p.

      It's my firm belief that when it's our turn to die, all those we have loved and lost are waiting for us on the other side. Tu Madre también. Condolencias y una brazo muy fuerte.

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      bac2basics 3 months ago

      Dear faydeang.

      I am so sorry you lost your grandpa,

      And it does hurt your heart, very very much. You must feel like you will never stop crying or enjoy life again, when you lose someone you love its very natural to feel like that. Please please belive me when I tell you that with time your heart will stop hurting and the tears and terrible sadness will stop too. Your grandpop will always be watching over you from a place where he is no longer in pain and suffering, and he will always have a special place in your heart, maybe you will be lucky enough to sense when he is with you in spirit too, but even if you can't, just know he is your guardian angel and the love you had for each other will be there always.

      Take care of yourself dear and trust that how you feel right now will get better. X

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      faydeang@facebook.com 3 months ago

      My grand pop hand been passed away because he got liver cancer and he is very weak and he can't walk he can't not eat anymore my family having a hard time without my grad pop i was crying all because he died its really hurts your heart no one is there for you i really having a hard time right now i can't focused at school every time its really hard for me thank you and have a great day...

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      bac2basics 3 months ago

      Dear Julie.

      I am so sorry to hear you lost your dear Ron. It's so very hard carrying on without the love of our lives, but please believe me when I tell you it gets easier in time, even though you must be thinking life will never get better , it does as we find our way to carry on without them. I am glad to hear you have your Grandson for company. Keep talking to Ron, I'm sure he will hear you.

      Take care of yourself Julie xx

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      Julie 3 months ago

      It's been 5 weeks now sins I lost my true love he was every thing to me he dead at home in my arms I still hear him calling me for a drink of coffee I fined my self talking to him at nite saying missing you n I love n I still got his blanket he had on is bed n is pilLow to I have some of his ashes here with me I am fined it very hard with out him my grandson stays with me some times n he ask how I am talking to I say my husband Ron

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      Bac2basics 3 months ago

      Dear Sandi.

      I am so sorry I didn't answer you sooner, I only just saw your message.

      How wonderful that you accepted so easily that your husband was visiting you in spirit. I certainly believe that once you have experienced the feeling they are with you there is no denying that they actually where. It's just such a strong feeling.

      I am unable to answer your question as I am not a medium, I can only go on my own experiences,

      But I believe once we are stronger our loved ones take a rest, but still watch over us and still let us know they are there from time to time. Especially when we need that the most. I don't think they ever leave us entirely and that's been proved to me when mediums have brought up names of people who died many many year's ago, people who died when I was only a child.

      I hope this helps to answer your question. :-)

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      bac2basics 3 months ago

      Dear Mrs. D

      I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

      2 month's into your grief is a very short time indeed and it is probably the hardest thing you will ever go through. I was and still am in a different country to the rest of my family but chose to stay here and work through it all. However I had really good friends here who's support was invaluable, I hope you have a similar network to help you too.

      Take care of yourself dear, and I am so pleased reading my story and comments has helped you a little.

      You will smile again, just accept whatever comes and know you won't always feel as bad as you do right now. It does get easier.

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      Mrs. D 3 months ago

      Hello,

      I am in the same situation as Carmen and Paula, I lost my Husband 2 months ago and have 1 older child. No family here and it is hard. I am glad to be able to read with other widows and by just reading this today, gave me a little comfort.

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      Sandi Stevens 4 months ago

      My husband died August 21, 2016.. I had a vision 2 weeks before he passed and one Thursday night of the week he passed and knew he wouldn't make it thru the weekend... He would visit me often. One night He visited and it was different.. I determined He was telling me It was his time to finally cross over as he could see I was going to BE OK.... Yesterday I was a black floating spot fly thru my backyard... I know it was my husband... Can deceased still visit after crossing over for final time?

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      Bac2basics 4 months ago

      Dear Debra.

      I am so very sorry to hear you lost your one true love, we have that in common and what both of us, in fact everyone who reads this hub, wouldn't give just to see our loved one's one last time, or have them back here with us. It's just heart breaking.

      I am so glad to hear you are a believer though and still talk to your

      Tall man. It is a small comfort isn't it? And as your son is very young it's possible he is seeing his Daddy, psychics do say that young children and animals can see the departed.

      I wish you well on the journey you never thought you would be taking. Hang on to those last wonderful words knowing that love stays.

      Sending hugs your way. Xx

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      Anne 5 months ago from Spain

      Dear Aimee.

      What a very sad message from you. I am so sorry to hear of your plight and the suffering. You need support and friendship through all of this and I urge you to find it, please. There will be support groups and others going through the same or having gone through similar, and it will help you fell less alone and afraid.

      I´m sure your son is seeing your guardian angels, they are there for you both, but we need tangible angels too, who we can lean on in tough times, and who can lean on us also.

      Take care dear and do find those friends.

      Love and hugs to you both xx

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      Aimee Nordin from Minnesota 5 months ago

      That was beautiful how you expressed loving and losing Hearty.....I have been where you have with anxiety... My son has been sick since 5 and now he is 13 but its not the disease that will take him....its all the meds that have created worse..... He is so sad... I've moved and its just him and I....struggling all the time. I take him to parks, agate picking serene quiet places all around us..... Your lucky you have friends to help you also..... He sees things around himself all the time....dark and light. Knows what to stay to the dark shadows to leave him. The light ones are everywhere he says. After 28 surgeries he should know. ..... He is angry at life, no friends etc and I keep trying to show him the good things...... Your writing was touching and it made me feel like Im not alone ....thank you and keep smiling.......

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      Anne 5 months ago from Spain

      Dear Josilyn.

      I feel your anguish , how very sad that you had so much to say and so many unanswered questions.

      There are very few of us who have lost a loved one, who don´t wish they had the opportunity to say or do things differently, If only we had known what was coming. I think it´s part of grief.

      However I still talk to my dear hearty, even though he´s been gone now for 13 years, and you can still talk to your baby, even if just to get out the words going round in your head that come from your heart.

      I wish you well dear, and hope you find peace within yourself very soon.

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      Anne 5 months ago from Spain

      Dear Donna.

      My heart goes out to you. Its terrible watching someone you love so much losing the battle with cancer, and I too was grieving before I lost my Hearty, how can you not when you know you are losing them?

      I believe wholeheartedly that what the medium told you was correct, and also that when someone passes they go onto a place so incredible that we cannot even begin to imagine the beauty and love they find there.

      Sending kind thoughts , strength and love your way dear, and the biggest hug. xx

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      Josielyn 5 months ago

      My baby passed away last Saturday May 20,2017. We haven't talk for 2 days before he left. I was really in deep pained,coz he left me hanging,so many questions unanswered. I want to see and talk to him,but how?I really miss him and I do love him so much.

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      Donna 5 months ago

      My mum is dying of a rare form of bowel cancer it's aggressive chemotherapy didn't work I feel l8je I'm grieving already feel bad mum's still here. I go to spiritual church and got a message from loved ones. A message only I could understand cause iv told no one there my mum is I'll but the medium knew I don't know how she spoke to me after and said always belive spirit is always sending things never loose hope. But now I'm doubting more than ever I just hope there is a paradise mum will feel no pain only love

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      Anne 6 months ago from Spain

      Hi Paula.

      How wonderful to hear from you, it really made my day :-)

      Your comment was very profound and sadly very true. While the immediate deep deep grief and terrible sadness fades with time and a new normal replaces it. Those of us who feel we had and lost our truest of loves and soulmates never completely move on without them. I know I haven´t, and still feel that palpable emptiness so very sharply at times.

      My dear Hearty was a musician and a few months ago his son sent me a video clip he had found on you-tube of hearty doing a live concert for TV , when he was with a rock band. It was a wonderful thing for me to watch, but oh the sadness afterwards when I once again had to face the fact that he had gone and wouldn´t be coming back this time. Watching the video almost had me convinced he was still with us.

      Neither you nor I will ever feel "Whole" again, but we both accept that and keep going.

      Good to see you again too effer :-))

      Take care love xx

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      Paula 6 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Anne.....I just came upon this thread and noticed a "Paula" commented. Maybe you know her, but the shadow photo usually indicates a guest/visitor. I wanted you to know it is not me...the Paula I know you know!.......:)

      I have lingered in suspended animation as a living example of the very permanent essence of "grief" for 55 years come January 2018.

      It never lessens nor does it change in any way. I so long ago accepted this fate, it is a part of my being, my every thought and movement. Deep...so very deep within the darkest most profoundly real & viable core of me.

      Life has gone on, I go through motions, continue with my current hopes, dreams and responsibilities to my loved ones and the world in general. I find moments of normalcy and pockets of joy of course....seeming to be and appearing to be a complete, moving, rational adult human being. This is a mysterious facade that I compare to the various changing cloud formations above us. I am not complete. I will never be. How can I be when the very reason for and meaning of my authentic life is gone?

      I am sorry I missed this article of yours when you first published it. However, my comment would be the same, whether 4 yrs ago or 4 years from now.

      It's good to see you dear friend. Peace & Love, Paula

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      Anne 6 months ago from Spain

      Dear Paula.

      Your message really struck a chord with me and I know exactly what you are feeling. I think I was in deep mourning for at least 4 and half years, and then it took another 3 to finally accept that he wasn´t coming back, and that took some getting through. There was a reason for the latter, you see twice in our relationship he had to leave me,circumstances forced that, but he came back as soon as he could, and after he died my heart was waiting for him again though my head knew it wasn´t possible for him to return other than in spirit.

      As for the longing, it gets easier to cope with but I still have it too and its now 13 years since my Hearty passed.

      I wish you well Paula in your journey. All any of us can do is to keep going.

      I send a hug your way xx

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      Paula 6 months ago

      Hello. It has been 6 years since my Pete Passed. I have not looked on the internet for years to find others who are widows and how they are processing. I was glad and grateful to read your notes. Thank you for keeping up with sharing your journey. I honestly never thought I would be reaching out after this time period. He has never felt too far away , it has been six years of trying to find my way

      Yet the longing for him continues. I wander if that ever leaves.

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      Anne 7 months ago from Spain

      Dear Cheryl ( guest user)

      I received your message but prefer to answer via Hubpages. Please know I don´t mind you messaging me and I hope I can help put your mind at ease.

      When someone chooses to take their own life, there is nothing anyone can do to stop them. My dear friends Dad did the same thing and he had a whole family on the doorstep to support him, but it made no difference at all. There was nothing you could have done, even had you still been in contact with your friend, and if he had wanted to come to you he would have. Please don´t feel that you could have done more, life changes and we move on and there would have been people around him to help if he had asked for it, or if they had known how unhappy he really was.

      I´m sure that our loved ones do see us and come to us from the spirit world, and also that when they pass, whatever pain they have suffered on the earthly plain is healed and they are in a happy place.

      Please allow yourself to grieve the loss of your friend, but do not blame yourself.

      Sending a hug your way. xx

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      Anne 7 months ago from Spain

      Hi Rony.

      Wow. That´s amazing. Thank you for sharing your experience :-)

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      Rony Wolfe 7 months ago

      I heard my husband calling me by his nickname for me as I was waking up. Also he was a theoretical and geophysicist and very intelligent; I woke up suddenly with a jerk someone was standing in front of me with a white astronaut-type suit. It went away shortly.

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      Anne 7 months ago from Spain

      Dear Molly.

      The shock of losing your husband so suddenly like that must be terrible and there is no wonder you don´t know if you will ever enjoy life, laugh or smile again. My guess is you are still in shock, I think it does take a while for it all to sink in, even when its an expected death. I am so very sorry.

      The process of grieving takes its time Molly, and everyone´s experience of it is different, but eventually we all learn to cope with our losses, and you will too. Please hang on to that even though there might be times you think it impossible.

      I wish you well Molly and send a virtual big hug your way. xx

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      Molly 7 months ago

      Hi anne, i just lost my husband 3 weeks ago and it was very painful as he died a sudden death. He had a heart attack and in less than 5 mins he was gone. We rushed him to the hospital but he didnt make it. I do not know if i can still laugh and happy the way i used to be.

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      Anne 8 months ago from Spain

      Dear Carmen.

      I am so very sorry to hear you lost your husband and your child lost their Dad.

      I didn´t want to live when I lost my hearty. I think this happens to everyone and is part of the deep grief we feel initially. Please believe me when I tell you that all you are going through, even this, will pass. I realised one day that I DID want to carry on living. You will too.

      I bet if you sit and close your eyes, you will feel his love around you, but even if you cannot, it will be there for you both.

      Take care of yourselves dear and know eventually you will start to enjoy life again.

      Sending love and hugs your way xx

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      Carmen 8 months ago

      I just lost my husband. I found this helpful. I miss him so much it is hard to want to live without him. I have a child that I must raise. It was a comfort to read and believe it possible that he can see how much we love and miss him and he can still love us back. thank you

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      Anne 8 months ago from Spain

      Amy.

      Please do not leave links to websites on my hubs. It is against hub pages rules and is considered spam.

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      Bac2basics 8 months ago

      Hello again Louise.

      I am so glad my words reassured you. Honestly I never thought I would ever feel normal again or stop crying but I did and so will you. My best advice to myself was just to accept everything I was experiencing as normal under the circumstances and part of the process.

      When your yellow rose and hairbrush signs click into place with you I wonder if you will do what I did. That was say out loud "Bingo.. shiney shoes. . Got it" all while sitting on the loo at around 4am in the morning lol . After that I thanked Hearty for sending the sign, and what it meant. Then I went back to bed with a grin on my face like a Cheshire cat.

      Once again I wish you all the very best.

      Night night. Sleep well xx

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      Louise 8 months ago

      Thanks, Anne - I do find reassurance that it won't always feel this bad helpful - how kind of you. I did read your article on your medium readings, and am glad you found out what your shiny shoes mean. In my first reading, Ken was seen giving me a yellow rose and a hairbrush. No idea yet what these mean, but I'll wait xo

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      Anne 8 months ago from Spain

      Hello Louise.

      I am so very sorry to hear you lost your ken in the same way I lost my Hearty. 4 months into the grieving process is a short while in the scheme of things, you must be feeling really raw but please do know it gets easier and we all learn to cope given time. Everyone will be telling you that time heals, I´m not sure if it does or if we just learn the coping skills needed, but it does get easier and you will laugh and smile again, and get past crying every time you think of Ken.

      I never questioned at all that some of the the things I experienced after hearty passed were " Signs" I concocted as a coping strategy. Each and every one felt far too real, and I felt his presence so strongly .

      I don´t know if the link still works but I had a reading with a medium on the 1 st anniversary of Hearty´s death and that´s also on Hubpages.com. Maybe on this satellite site too.

      I am so pleased to hear that reading my story has helped you a little. You have a road to travel for sure, but we all get there in the end and learn to live again, and you will too.

      Sending a big hug your way. Take care of yourself Louise xx

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      Louise 8 months ago

      Hi Ann,

      I just loved this post. My darling husband, Ken, died of cancer nearly 4 months ago, and my grief is still pretty terrible. You've put into words a lot of things that I think. I can't wait until I can have the same level of assurance that you have, that my Ken is still with me, but your post certainly helps. I have had things happen that I would call "signs," and sometimes put them down to being a grief-stricken widow whose mind isn't quite right... but I have had 2 readings with a terrific medium and while they haven't taken away my grief altogether, they have helped. My greatest hope is to be reunited with my Ken one day. Your love for Hearty comes through so clearly in your words. Like you, I love my Ken as much in death as I did in life. Refreshing to see a writing by somebody who isn't afraid of what others will think, and also no patronizing bollocks about bereaved widows who just want to make themselves feel better by imbibing nonsensical beliefs. I am a university graduate; I am not a ninny, and belief in afterlife is actually quite reasonable. Thanks, Ann xo

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      Anne 9 months ago from Spain

      Dear Maureen.

      I am so very sorry to hear about your mum. 7 months is a very short time in the grieving process so no wonder you are finding it so hard still. Everyone will be telling you that time heals but you might think you will never ever feel better again, let me assure you that you WILL.

      I am not a Medium but feel it makes no difference what so ever that your mum didn´t believe in such things , and it wouldn´t stop her sending you love through a reputable medium, maybe even a message. xx

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      maureen highton 9 months ago

      my mum has passed 7 months ago she didnt believe in all this will she not come to me when i go to medium finding it hard to get over it mum lived in a care home thought if i kept going their to see them it would help me but i was wrong xx

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      bac2basics 10 months ago

      Dear Maryann.

      I am so sorry to hear you lost the love of your life and soulmate, our stories are mirror images except that I was fortunate enough to be with my my soulmate longer.

      I cannot tell you definitively that your husband is with you, I am not a medium. All I can say like in my hub is " feeling is believing" and for me there is no mistaking when a loved one is letting me know they are there, its as though they just walked into the room.

      Please take care of yourself and be assured the gut wrenching feelings you are having just now and the deep deep grief will not be this intense forever. Eventually bit by bit life get´s easier as we learn to cope without our loved ones physically by our sides. I wish you well MaryAnn.

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      Anne 10 months ago from Spain

      Hi KJ.

      I only just saw your message and its rather worrying. Please get some help from somewhere. I am sure your family would rather care for you than not, no matter what´s thrown at them, wouldn´t you do the same for them? I´m sure the answer must be a very loud YES. Don´t deny them the opportunity to help you as you would help them. Take care dear.

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      kjforce 13 months ago

      hi ann...long time no hear from..I have reached the end with all my health issues..and doctors and friends appear non concerning also..so I have made up my mind before I become a burden to my family I will take responsibility and put this to an end... love my family, very much, but I feel I have failed them through this journey...they will no longer have to face the possibility of my care...as I will no longer exist in their world....your article was very poignant...I envy you...your friend and fan...kj

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      Anne 2 years ago from Spain

      HI Monte.

      I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. It seems to me that she is doing what she promised and is really letting you know she is still with you in spirit.

      I also see numbers repeated many times when I am needing to know my loved one´s in spirit are there supporting me. Usually I see this on my electric clock, 5.55, 4,44 etc. It´s uncanny when this happens time after time after time, but gives me such comfort.

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      Monte 2 years ago

      Several years ago, a very good friend who saw me as her little brother promised me that she would always protect me, even after she passed. Well... She lost her battle with cancer a few months ago and not too long after that, I began having vivid dreams about her between my sleep and waking state. It is a very warm and comforting feeling. And each time i get these dreams, when i awake, watch my videos, delete and renew my tv shows on my portable media device, the megabytes will read a straight '777'. I've noticed this whenever i get vivid dreams of her.

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      Anne 2 years ago from Spain

      Dear Nenita.

      I am so very sorry for your loss, what a horrible way to lose your dear husband.

      I cannot answer your question, but maybe a psychic medium could tell you more.

      It´s clear to me that your husband is coming back to reassure you he is very much alright on the other side, and his presence supporting you at a time when you most need it.

      I hope his killers are found and dealt with very soon.

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      nenita 2 years ago

      my husband died, shooting by unknown people, we don't know who ?my question is how to identify the killer if the soco or police are not cooperate with me even the bullestic result.is nothing. my husband soul is need a justice. because every morning since he died he always pushing a chair in dining . or smoke of tobacco in our room and also room of my mother in-law. and i will always dream a a big guys wearing a millitary uniform and saf. what is mean..is he the one who kill him..i believed that my husband is always with me where ever i go even in my classroom. i see his shoe print. and smell his ferfume.I think he want to protect me.

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      Anne 2 years ago from Spain

      Dear Nenita.

      I am so very sorry for your loss, losing a husband is so very hard, and after only 2 months I know how devastated you are feeling, but please believe me when I tell you it does get easier, you won´t always feel as heartbroken as you are doing right now, it's early days and you have a bumpy road ahead of you, but you will get through the pain eventually, and your husband is coming back to you in your dreams to help.

      I also send a great big hug your way, and strength to see you through xx

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      Nenita Aparis 2 years ago

      my husband died 2 month ago, he visit me in my dream he said , he come back ,and kiss me. after 3 days he visit again, i always crying on that day. on that night i dream that, he said don't cry because heaven and earth are different. i always there . he said. that's why i don't want to let him go.i love him so much.

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      Anne 2 years ago from Spain

      Dear Tania.

      I´m so sorry your mum was mistreated,but I cannot answer your question. Maybe you could ask a psychic medium. As far as I know once the spirit has passed to the other side all worldly pain is gone. My dear Hearty died from lung cancer and when I had a reading the medium picked up right away that he had lung cancer, but said it was his way of identifying himself and now he was cancer free and well on the other side. I hope this helps you.

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      Tania. 2 years ago

      If you have been mistreated by a family member , will their spirit go back to them . I just like to know as my mum passed just before Christmas and was mistreated by our nephew , so my sister looked after her for 6 mths , until she passed .. but she was happy in the end getting the love and care she deserved ..

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      Anne 2 years ago from Spain

      Dear Rose petal.

      I am so very sorry for your losses, especially the loss of your brother that was so sudden. The grieving will take as long as it takes I´m afraid and we just have to get through it as best as we can. It sounds like he was right there with you at the memorial service and my belief is that our loved ones are never very far from us and if we are lucky we will feel their presence from time to time, just as I do with my dear late husband. I hope you can find some comfort in this and soon your pain will lessen.

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      rose petal 2 years ago

      my brother passed away suddenly he was a very fit person wash into surfing a few years ago he came to christchurch to help the rebuild as we had a major eathquake i will tresure the time we had together since his passing i went to a mermorial at a funeral service just before christmas for people who have loved ones that have died i was sitting on my own when the service was about to end this song came on called angel the tears were flowing likemy brother was there with me then i felt these arms huging me like she was my angel what beautiful person she was she told me that kevin was standing beside me my father died 19 years ago xamas night my mum died 9 years ago so feel so alone i miss them so much still greiving for my brother taken to soon i live in new zealand

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      Anne 3 years ago from Spain

      Dear Nora.

      I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mum. 4 years is still a short time in the grieving process for some of us. I was the same, so I know there are days when the hurt is almost as bad as when our loved ones first died, thank goodness that pain isn´t all day every day as it was in the beginning.

      Reading of all the things your mum has sent you to let you know she is still with you in spirit made a lovely start to my day. I have read often that coins are something often left to let us know they are here and I can imagine how wonderful it must have been to find those favorite flowers growing in places where no one had planted them. The dreams too where you meet up must be such a comfort. I have them from time to time too and remember one where hearty and I met on a beautiful hillside in the sunshine, this had special significance for me because we did visit somewhere very similar when we first met and Im sure it was there that we both realised we had fallen in love at first sight. I don´t know if you are a writer here on Hubpages or anywhere else Nora, but if you aren´t you ought to be, and you should tell your story so everyone can read it. If this idea appeals both hubpages and Bubblews are great platforms.

      Thank you so much for sharing this with me and I hope you continue to be so in touch with your Mum. xx

      ps. Have you read my hub about my aunt in spirit who left me a white feather as a sign when she passed away ?

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      Nora 3 years ago

      In July of 2010 my mom passed away during a routine heart procedure. My sister and I were with her before she was taken back for the procedure. As we waited all of the sudden the room became very cold and I looked at my feet and they were both blue. All three of us kind of freaked out about it and I stomped my feet on the ground and the color came back. As the nurse came to roll our mom away, I reached for her and told her that we would see her on the other side. My sister punched me and said don't say that and we all laughed and said well you know what I mean. She died during the procedure and it was a terrible shock, not what we were expecting at all.

      Within days I started having odd things to happen. (When I was growing up my mom would always say, I'll give you a dime if you'll tell me what you are thinking. ) I started finding dimes everywhere. Outside my door at home, in my car, in parking lots where I parked my car. It was chilling. Then about a month after she died, my husband and I were working on our farm. Out in the field, next to the water a bunch of pink impatiens were growing. It took my breath away when I saw them because they were my mother's favorite flower. A couple of days later, my sister called to ask what Mother's favorite flowers were, and I said pink impatiens. She sent me a picture and wanted to know if the flowers that had come up in her flower bed were pink impatiens. They were identical to the ones I saw. We called our other two sisters and told them to look around. Neither of them had the flowers in their yards, but when my sister told our mom's next door neighbor about it, she started crying. She said, come look at what is growing under my banana plant. It was the same pink impatiens. None of us had planted them and my sisters and I lived miles and miles away from our mother.

      I also have had the wonderful experience of dreaming about my mother. The dreams are so real and so clear. It's like getting to spend time with her again. She is always pleasant and I'm always so happy to see her. The pain of my grief is still as strong some days almost four years after the fact, but I am so thankful for all of these little miracles that keep her close.

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      Anne 3 years ago from Spain

      Dear Asma

      First of all let me say how very sorry I am for the loss of your son. Knowing others who have lost a child I believe it's the cruelest and hardest loss of all.

      I'm sorry I was unable to answer your comment before now, I had a technical problem with my pc and the comments box was not downloading, therefore despite getting your notification and questions I was unable to respond.

      I cannot answer your questions, no one can, there is no concrete proof that our loved one's come back to is in spirit, but if you feel your son and fathers prescence, just trust that they are indeed with you. My own personnel experiences were so strong that I could not doubt for a second that my dear hearty was indeed with me, and I suspect you are the same.

      I hope you find some peace in yourself very soon, and some light at the end of the long tunnel of grief.

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      asma pasha 3 years ago

      Sorry for your loss.. 7 months ago I lost my only 11 yrs old son during cancer treatment. I miss him every second... I do get dreams of him which makes me feel he is connected to me.. I also feel connected to my dad whom I lost 14 yrs ago...and so I strongly feel souls connect... but if possible can you answer some of my questions. ..

      1. Where does this soul or spirit reside in our body. .when it is so important part of human existence, why can't we feel our own spirit.

      2. Why God gives so cruel diseases to innocent children and make them see and feel all that pain.. are those sufferings their trial or curse or punishments to parents who could do nothing to save their kids.

      3. Do innocent kids who die painfully with cancer come back again to their parents.

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      Anne 3 years ago from Spain

      Thank you Taanel for reading and your comment. I think you are right because I have had dreams where I am with my loved one and we have talked too.

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      taanel 3 years ago

      yesk i like your article, but i believe that the soul mate stays and talks. thanks

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      Anne 3 years ago from Spain

      Dear Stephanie.

      I am so very sorry to hear of your loss and the terrible circumstances which led to it. I can related very well to all you say and also that you don´t want to let go of your soul mate, I feel the same about my hearty. The dreams you have where you scream for him to come to you must be very upsetting indeed. I am no psychologist but feel that if this is upsetting you and making it hard to go forward maybe you need a little more help. I wish you all the best Stephanie and hope you find more tranquillity and happiness soon, I´m sure this is what your boyfriend would have wanted for you .

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      stephanie 3 years ago

      my fiancé killed himself in front of me and i held him till he died. I smelled his cologne everywhere the first couple years. I put his death in the back of my mind until 7 years later after therapy i started to grieve and remember the details. Since then i go to bed and in my dream i scream for him to visit me. Shortly after i feel a soul pass through me. I feel an energy touch my face and my body. I feel as if he is doing everything in his power to connect us. There are even times where i feel the covers being pulled down and something passes through my entire body making me feel as if he has just made love to me. I feel as though i am awake during theses visits but that would be crazy. He was my soulmate and i now scream for him every night. I don't want this to stop. I can't let him go he is my only true love.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi ShyeAnne.

      I am so sorry for your loss and know just how hard the first months and years are, finding this heart shaped driftwood and the feather beside it really is wonderful and must have given you not only a surprise but huge comfort, no matter how bittersweet. What possible explanation could there be for such things than signs that our loved ones are indeed still with us.

      I too was left a white feather just after my aunt passed away and have written about that in another hub called " I had a sign from the spirit world- My aunt sent it to me after she died" Strangely enough I was walking my dogs at the time too.

      Take care Shyeanne and just take one day at a time on your road through the grief :)

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      ShyeAnne 4 years ago from Deep Bay, British Columbia, Canada

      I was walking my dog on the beach this afternoon. It has been just 4 months since my guy left the planet. I always feel his energy at the beach. I looked down and spotted a piece of driftwood in the shape of a heart. As I bent to pick it up, I saw, laying beside in the sand, a beautiful white feather. Although they are rare, I believe it is a feather from a white Raven. A gift from my guy..

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hello Jean.

      First let me say I am so very sorry for your losses. Reading about the night you spent with your friend by the fire was really moving for me because I too just lost a friend after a fairly swift but horrible battle with cancer, all we could do was speak on the phone. It must have been a very bitter sweet night you spent together but you probably helped her more than you can ever know. There is no doubt in my mind and obviously in yours either that you friend came to see you a number of times after her passing. The door may not be still opening on it´s own, but you can bet she´s not far away and still with you when you need her to be. Thank you for such a detailed comment and also for following me now too. I will have a look at your hubs later today.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Thank you Sue for reading and your very kind comment. Hope all´s well with you in Yorkshire and you are still enjoying some good weather .

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      I have experienced so much like this, and definitely believe our loved ones keep an eye on us. My father had a massive heart attack when I was in my 20's, we didn't even know he had a heart problem. He always worried about me when I was driving. That was 30 years ago, but if my car ever does have trouble, I always break down across the street from a police station, a church, or can make it to a parking lot.

      My childhood friend who was like a sister died from cervical cancer in 2005. She fought hard, and it went into remission the first time. But it came back really fast the second time, and she didn't want to fight it again. It was awful, her Mom is still alive, but I kept visiting and telling funny stories about our childhoods, or anything I could do. I lived about a half hour away, and near the end, brought her to my house to enjoy the fireplace as it was fall. She was so weak. We talked for hours, sometimes serious and crying, sometime laughing about silly stuff we did. I asked her to send me a sign if there was an afterlife. She passed on, and for about 6 weeks, my back door kept opening by itself. Now, she was always the only one who came in that way when she visited. So I think it was her. Eventually she didn't come anymore, but I know it was her. I've been reading books by Michael Newton, and he talks about sessions where he puts people in trance states, and they recall what happens in between their incarnations. I have become a believer in reincarnation, because our loved ones do know what we are doing. Most writers say pretty much the same things, even Edgar Cayce. Thanks for sharing this, voted up, and will follow you!

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      Susan Bailey 4 years ago from South Yorkshire, UK

      This was such a lovely article to read. Voted up and shared.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Dear ShyeAnne. Oh my dear I am so very sorry for the loss of your mate. I can´t imagine how anyone copes with a sudden loss, but your loved one is coming through loud and clear and I know how much comfort this must be giving you and am so pleased that you can feel this. Sending a big hug your way .

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      ShyeAnne 4 years ago from Deep Bay, British Columbia, Canada

      I love this hub. My mate died unexpectedly just over a month ago. I feel his presence quite strongly the past few days. I was cuddling with my dog on our bed and I felt him put his arms around both of us. I feel him holding my hand. I feel him right square in the heart. Thank you for this Hub, it is a little ray of validation for me. I am so grateful for the thin veil between life and death.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Dear Amanda. I am so very sorry you lost your mammy. I know how hard this is as my Mam died when I was only 6 years old. I feel certain that your mammy is there holding your hand as you go to sleep, and will always be with you in spirit. I am sending you love and a big hug too. Take comfort in knowing that our loved ones will always be with us no matter what :)

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      amanda 4 years ago

      I lost my mum a month ago still missing her but everynight I go two bed my hand will warm up as if some one has there hand on m ine is it my mammy?

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Dear Megan. I am so very sorry for your loss, it must have been terrible to loose your friend like that. I´m also sorry that you can no longer feel her with you, that must be awful too. It´s been 9 years now since I lost my Hearty and like you I don´t feel him around as much as I used to, my own theory is that he goes traveling but comes back when I need him the most, maybe this is what your friend does. Perhaps also after a while we are not tuned in as much to the signals they are sending us as we move on with our lives.

      last year his daughter died very suddenly and with no apparent warning from a bleed in the brain, she left behind 3 little kids and her fiancé who she was planning to marry. Just a few weeks after getting this devastating news a forest fire hit my area very hard and I was evacuated for 6 days and returned to devastation of my once very beautiful area. During the time I was away and when I got back and started the clear up I had the feeling Hearty was not with me, but I also felt he needed to be with his daughter who must have been shocked to suddenly find herself in the spirit world and devastated because of what she had left behind. This feeling was so strong that I told my Hearty not to worry about me, Wendy needed him more. Maybe your friend is helping someone else out at the moment, and will pop in and see you again when she needs to. Don´t despair Megan, even when we can´t sense our loved ones are with us, I believe they are still there and for always. I hope this helps you feel better. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and for your heartfelt comment too.

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      Megan 4 years ago

      My best friend died in my car outside the hospital's emergency department. I performed CPR on her but it was too late. She died very suddenly of a pulmonary embolism. I used to feel her presence every day. In a song, a smell, a warm feeling, tingling, sometimes I could swear I could hear her voice. It's coming up to the 2 year anniversary and I can't feel her anymore. This upsets me so much and was curious as to your thoughts on why this might have happened. I miss her terribly, and all those little things brought me such comfort

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      My dear Kim.

      Your comment really struck my heart and I am so very sorry for your loss and the depression it has caused you, but depression and worry about your mom is quite normal and understandable and part of the grieving process.

      Of course I cannot answer all your questions with 100% certainty but it is my belief and that of millions of others that no one goes into the light alone, those we have lost before are all there waiting to take them by the hand and lead them on their final journey to the spirit world.

      If you read my other hub about the night a psychic medium passed messages on from my late husband you will see that sometimes when our loved ones come back to see us through a medium they will clearly present symptoms of what they died from BUT this is only their way of giving more identification of who is coming through and they are no longer suffering, once on the other side they become well again and the person they were before illness or accident or whatever took them from us.

      You say your sister felt your Mom giving her a hug, this to me is proof that she is now the person she was before she suffered Alzhiemers and was able to come back from the spirit world, find and indeed identify your sister ( which she possibly couldn´t always do before her passing, due to the disease) to pass on that hug, and it was her way of letting you all know she was safe and well on the other side.

      Kim the road ahead will be long and tough for you all, grief is hard to get through but it´s something we all face at sometime in our lives. I hope what I have said does help to start the healing process for you, but if you need more help go and have a chat with your doctor or there are many groups and societies out there to help. Maybe when you are feeling stronger or feel you can face it a visit to a spiritualist church or a recommended psychic medium will bring a message to you from your Mom and then you will know for sure that she is indeed with loved ones and is no longer suffering and confused as she was in this world.

      It was also a very loving and brave thing you did in letting your Mom know it was OK for her to let go, I´m sure she understood and appreciated that, she may have been waiting to hear this from you so she could go and find her peace at last.

      Take care my dear and trust that your Mom is now in a better place. Sending a big hug your way. Anne.

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      kimazy.hubpages.com 4 years ago

      Hi bac2basics ,

      My mom just passed away recently after 14 years battling Alzhiemer's disease. She passed away in my brother's arms. I came home from grad school to attend her funeral. My school is so far from home, and every time I have to leave home, I always tell her to wait for me. I facetime with her every day and a week before she died, I kept dreaming of her funeral. I knew she was getting ready to leave us. I was able to tell her over the phone that its ok to leave and not wait for me anymore. I don't know if she was able to listen and understand what I said, but I didn't want her to not leave in peace. She lost the ability to speak 2 years prior. I'm so worry because she has been sick for so long, how will she able to follow the light? will she still be sick in spirit? will she linger on in this earth because she's worrying about her families? I pray that she's able to leave in peace and go on to whatever the next phase it. My sister recently called me and said that she felt my mom giving her a back hug. She said that she somehow knew right away that it was my mom and that the sensation was very distinct: pressure on both of her arms and shoulder and felt something against her neck. My mother is a very devoted wife and mother. She never knew of anything else aside her families. I'm depressed and worry of how my mom is right now, and whether she is able to go to a better place. I know you don't have the answers to any of my questions. But based on your experience, does my mom's sickness carry over in spirit, will she be able to remember her family and realize that she has died? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you so much.

      Kim

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi Kidscraft. Thank you for your lovely comment. My mum died when I was only 6 and I didn´t feel her around either, my thought is until I lost Hearty I was too afraid of seeing ghosts ( still am) so maybe I blocked them coming through in one way or another, and this is what I feel may be holding your loved ones back, maybe they are letting you know in all sorts of ways but you are just missing the signs. As for the cat I have no doubt you are seeing him, maybe seeing an animal isn´t as scary in the imagination as seeing a person you have lost so you let them through. I also lost a much loved cat many years ago and I saw him too, he was asleep in his favourite place and so clear that I tripped trying not to step on him, when I looked again he was gone.

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      kidscrafts 4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      What a beautiful tribute to your husband, to the life you had with him and the contact you still have with him after his passing.

      I lost my parents in law who were always so kind to me but I never felt their presence after their passing.

      I lost a really good friend and I didn't felt her presence after she past away either.

      But I lost a cat about 2 and half years ago and often, I had the feeling I saw her shadow not to far.... very strange feeling. When I have the feeling she is there, I salute her. She was a very special cat!

      Thanks for sharing your story!

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Dear Jackie. Let me say first how sorry I am for your loss, losing one´s husband is like losing one´s future, I am so sorry.

      I have heard from others about finding coins and also from someone who read this hub and contacted me that she and her husband are able to talk and she also feels him holding her. The book I have added to my amazon products was in fact written by this lady and is called a breath away by Lynda Matthews.

      What your husband said to you must have been a real comfort, but I do understand that even with this knowledge grief is still a hard process to get through and I wish you well my dear. Sending you a big hug and many many thanks for relating your story.

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      Jackie 4 years ago

      My husband passed away 4 months ago and since then I have been getting signs from him that he is with me. The first week he passed I was finding pennies on the floor, mostly in the bedroom. When I go to bed after having a hard day and crying I can feel his side of the bed moving and actually feel him with me holding me. This seems to happen only after a bad day and has happened like 10 times . People have asked me if I was dreaming, I can tell you that no I was not asleep but wide awake. I did dream that second week , I was crying in my sleep asking him not to leave me when he said to me "don't look at my passing the the way you have been, but to look at it as something to look forward to, that we will be together again" those were his exact words. So yes I truly believe that our loved ones come to us in dreams, are with us in spirit and are watching over us. I find so much comfort when I experience these signs. Keeping a journal will help one to remember things about their loved one and also writing letters to them will make some feel better. May God be with all those who have lost a loved one and are hurting. I know that I couldn't handle this alone and asked God to help me through this most difficult time in my life, he will help you to just ask.

      Jackie

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi tebo.

      Firstly let me say how sorry I am for your loss. It actually took me 7 years to finally accept my Hearty was not coming back , my head knew it but my heart didn´t. I would have loved to see him again, but I can imagine it gave you a shock, I think this is why they sometimes come back to us in dreams. By the sound of it someone is letting you know they are there and I know you feel him around too, it is a comfort. Like you I had a friend who could also see spirits and when she came to visit me here saw him too, but I seemed to know when he was about and when he wasn´t anyway. Many thanks for telling me a little about your experiences tebo and for taking the time to comment. I wish you well dear :)

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      tebo 4 years ago from New Zealand

      I lost my husband seven years ago now and have felt him around at times. Sometimes I get a fuzzy feeling on my arm or a fizzy feeling on my head, not sure if its him, but it is something or someone. He did appear to me once when I was really upset, but i got a fright and he disappeared. I have a friend who sees spirit and she lets me know when he is around. Lovely hub and lovely how help came to you when you needed it.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi Catgypsy. Thankyou so much for your lovely comment. I always tell non believers that when it happens there is no denying that someone you love is indeed with you in spirit,I am pleased you feel this too, it is a comfort. :)

      Hi CS. many thanks for your kind comment too :)

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      catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

      I too, have had experiences where I felt the person I've lost is around. It is such a comfort. This is a wonderful hub on the subject, you did an excellent job. I'm so glad your Hearty is there for you.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Dear CS cart developers and Poshbytori. Thank you both so much for reading and taking the time to comment. I am so pleased you enjoyed this hub.

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      POSH by tori boutique 4 years ago from 1545 Union Lake Road, Commerce, MI, 48382

      ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL!!!! Thank you very much!!!

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      CS Cart Developers 4 years ago

      Long time follower and this is my first time posting. I’m not so good at this but; that your blog is very insightful and I’m always looking forward to your new content.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hello celafoe. I am not in the least religious so this wasn´t meant to be a scriptural hub. Everyone has their own opinions and I respect yours. There are however many who do believe and have certainly felt their loved ones returning in spirit and those who have experienced guardian angels too. I will not get into a debate about this, you are entitled to your views and I mine. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

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      charlie 4 years ago from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth. between the oceans

      so sorry to see you are so deceived. This is all about necromancy which is forbidden in scripture. and using a medium. This is definitely not a scriptural hub. these are demonic experiences as there is not one scripture that will confirm such.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Dear James. First let me just say how very very sorry i am to hear of your loss. Losing someone to illness or old age is terrible, but to have someone you love murdered, well I cannot even begin to imagine just how terrible that must be. Your account of seeing your beloved sister actually go to heaven is amazing , and I don´t doubt for one second that you were seeing it for real. My Hearty gets called upon too when I loose something, I smile as I´m writing this because in life it was me looking for his misplaced items as Hearty couldn´t see what was right in front of him, I always used to say it was a man thing, a bit like lady´s not being able to read maps LOL. I will pop over and look at some of your hubs James and want to thank you for taking the time to read and comment and also share your beautiful story with me. :)

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      James Mandolare 4 years ago from Hudson Falls New York USA

      A very touching and beautifully written story. Thank you. You write so naturally that I thought I was sitting with an old friend. I lost my sister to murder. The day after she died I saw her spirit go to heaven. I wasn't dreaming. I was wide awake. I was out of my mind with grief of course but I still saw her in the clouds shining with white light. Our eyes met and she smiled down at me as if to say: "Figures you'd be able to see me!" and then she stepped through a doorway of light and was gone! It was the most magical thing that ever happened to me in my long mystical life. (Check out my "Art of Spirit" hub.)

      Now whenever I lose something I ask her spirit to help me and she always finds it! Once I lost my precious and expensive "Rapidiograph" pen and couldn't find it anywhere! Finally I asked "Cin" and the second I asked I knocked into my Chess Set and sent a Pawn flying across the kitchen floor. When I bent to pick it up I saw my pen under some papers. It works every time.

      "We are not gnats that fly upon the air of one short life and then are lost in nothingness. We are undying parts of the eternal whole who come and go many times to the air of earth and the Great Beyond, only to unfold the God-Like Self" Aquarian Gospel of Jesus the Christ.

      "The Holy Spirit(s) are with us every step of the way until the end of time." Jesus

      ps. The feeling of buzzing above your head is a sign of being accepted by the Holy Spirit (The Pentecostal flame in the Gospels) which means you have earned eternal life in blessedness. See you on The Realms Within!

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi Anna. I couldn´t agree more. Many thanks for taking the time to read and comment, very much appreciated :)

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      Anna Haven 4 years ago from Scotland

      I think our loved ones never leave us when they pass on, and that they watch over us whilst we are on the physical realm. I think that love transcends the physical body and the bond we create with the ones we love doesn't break.

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi Parks. Thank you so much. I have also written about the night my Hearty spoke to me through a medium, she could not have been more accurate had she been a close member of our family and there when he died, it was awesome. Have a great day Parks or a good night, whatever the time is where you are, and thank you for reading and taking the time to comment :)

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      Parks McCants 4 years ago from Eugene Oregon U.S.A.

      Thank you for sharing your wonderful experience... To say that you are blessed is an understatement. Be well...

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      Anne 4 years ago from Spain

      Hi KJ. I couldn´t agree more. I would love to read some of your experiences, they do say those involved with life and death often have the gift of sensing spirit prescence, and this fits you to a T. Get writing when you feel well enough, I am waiting to read :)