Do Our Loved Ones Stay With Us in Spirit? I Think They Do - Exemplore - Paranormal
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Do Our Loved Ones Stay With Us in Spirit? I Think They Do

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My husband was my soulmate. Even after losing him, I frequently feel his presence beside me.

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Feeling Is Believing

If you have ever lost someone you truly loved, you may feel their presence with you still. Many times, they will also be leaving you signs that they are there with you or have called in for a visit. All those strange things that keep happening, in my view, can only add up to one thing: Your loved ones are letting you know that they haven't gone for good but have just stepped out of view for a while.

Sometimes your loved ones will come back to you in vivid dreams. Sometimes you will smell something you associate with them; it could be a whiff of their favorite perfume or aftershave, maybe even pipe tobacco. Other times, you may hear their voice, feel the warmth of their presence, or have the overpowering feeling that they have just walked into the room. Everyone's experiences are different, but my advice is to accept these occurrences with pleasure, not fear. Know it's just their way of trying to let you know you are not alone and that they are with you still.

At first it may be hard to bear the feeling of their presence and not being able to see or touch them, but it will get easier and eventually give you comfort.

For many years now, I have felt the spirit of my late husband with me, and the love we shared while he was alive is wrapped all around me like a snuggly blanket. I can honestly say that I rarely feel lonely—alone, yes, but there's a big difference between that and loneliness.

Some People Will Think We Are Crazy

Of course, there will be those who think people who believe in such things are completely crazy, and that we generate these feelings of our departed loved one's presence to make ourselves feel better. I can understand this way of thinking. Let's face it. You either believe in these things, or you don't (unless the jury is out and you are sitting on the fence).

It is an undeniable fact that there is no way of proving beyond doubt that these spiritual events do actually happen. But I believe that once you have felt the presence of your loved one or loved ones, there can be no mistake that they really are with you in spirit.

My own experiences and feelings tell me when my Hearty drops in on a visit. The feeling I get is so strong that it's like he has actually just walked into the room.

His Promise to Return

I think my husband must have been psychic himself as he had seen various spirits throughout his life, both human and animal, and told me he actually felt his departed mother giving him a clip around the ear from time to time when he had done something out of line.

Shortly before his death, he made me the promise that if there was any way he could come back to me, he would, and I believe that he does. I often tell people, "Oh, Hearty's just come in," simply because it feels like he has.

By the way, Hearty isn't his real name (just my pet name for him).

I Believe I Felt His Spirit Starting to Cross Over

When there was no denying that he was losing his battle with cancer, I had the strangest feeling that I was shrinking, and that when he died, I would become invisible altogether. I felt like Alice after drinking the shrinking potion or, as a good friend described it, "Like that dot that used to appear on TVs when you turned them off way back when we were kids." The dot gradually faded until it disappeared altogether. It was a very strange feeling indeed, as though I was fading away.

I have given this a lot of thought over the years, and now I think that our bond was so strong and our spirits so linked that as his illness progressed he was starting to cross over into the spirit world, and my spirit was feeling this journey along with his.

Everyone did say we were soulmates.

His Family in Spirit Came to Take Him by the Hand

On the morning he was admitted into the hospital for what I knew in my heart would be the final time, I clung on to the hope that he would recover. He asked me if there had been anyone else but us in the ambulance. When I replied, "No, just us and the driver," he clearly didn't believe a word of it.

By this time, he was taking morphine and was weak and confused, but I couldn't help feeling that he was seeing those waiting to take him by the hand to lead him from this life to the next. This feeling became even stronger when he later asked who all the people were standing around his bed.

When he died 5 days later, I found the thought of him passing into the company of loved ones something of a comfort. My feeling was that there were smiling members of his family and friends, maybe even pets, waiting in the light to love him and take his hand when he could no longer feel mine.

After the Battle Comes Peace

Anyone who has lost a loved one to cancer, any cruel and painful disease or illness, or through accident or natural causes will know just how hard a thing it is to get through, both for the sufferer and those around them.

If you have lost a loved one who suffered greatly before dying, your first feeling when they pass can be a mixture of both deep sorrow and relief that they are no longer suffering.

The first time I went along to see my Hearty just after he died, I really didn't think I could go through with seeing him in a coffin. But, my need to just see his face again overrode my fear. Even though he died in my arms, it still took a lot for me to see him again that first visit.

However, I began to realize on subsequent visits that the body I was looking at was just a shell. He wasn't there anymore. This feeling got stronger and stronger until the last visit before his funeral, when I had taken his brother and grown-up children to see him. On that day, I felt for certain he had truly left his body behind. When we later left the viewing room and got out into the sunshine, I had the most overwhelming warm and calming feeling that he was standing right there with us. This was his first visit in spirit. It felt so good; I smiled a huge great smile for the first time since losing him.

Going Forward Without Him

Of course, even when you can feel your loved one with you, you still have to get through the grieving process. It surely is a long and winding road; take my word for it.

Feeling your loved one's presence during this time can be a bit of a mixed blessing because it can, and often does, make the longing to see them even greater. However, at other times, it can help a huge amount.

Don't forget to accept all the help and comfort offered to you during the grieving process from loved ones on this plane. Find something or some way that will get you up and out of bed every day and keep you engaged. I found I needed to work really, really hard and lean on my friends. I got out of the house when it all got too much and found company and distraction. I am lucky in the fact that I have really fantastic friends nearby who stood by me through thick and thin and helped, not only emotionally, but practically, too. As my family and my other friends live in another country, it was hard for them to do more than give moral support. Nevertheless, some gave just what was needed. I thank them all.

If you feel you are slipping into depression or anxiety and don't think you can cope, please do go and see your doctor. You can also talk with a bereavement counsellor or contact others in a similar situation. Please don't feel like you have to suffer in silence.

Hello, Hearty. I Know You Are There.

I feel Hearty's presence, like when someone enters a room and says hello. It gives me a kind of warm feeling. I hear his voice in my head too. Not a conversation, but just things he would say. He has also come to me in dreams, and once or twice through mediums.

I had this reading on the first aniversary after his death, and quite honestly, it was so accurate you would have thought the medium had been married to him too.

During another time, it was a really bad day for me. I was holding onto the urn containing his ashes and wailing like a banshee when all of a sudden I felt the top of my hand warming up. It was so noticeable it stopped my crying, and I just sat staring at my hand. I felt sure he had his hand on top of mine, and later, I felt the same warmth across my shoulders. He was giving me a hug.

A number of years ago, I had a breakdown and was suffering very badly with anxiety. Things had been going wrong in almost all aspects of my life, and it got to be too much. I was in a state of constant anxiety and agitation. I wasn't sleeping, I couldn't eat, and I didn't know which way to turn. It got so bad one morning I actually threw up with anxiety; but then a really strange and powerful thing happened. As I was rinsing my face, I stood and stared at myself in the mirror and all of a sudden had this incredible feeling that forces outside of me were taking over and things would change. It was such a powerful feeling that I made circling motions with my hand and said out loud, "I can feel things moving. I know you are there, and I'm going to get through this." For those of you who have never experienced out-of-control anxiety, let me tell you, this is the very last thing you would think.

For me, these events are just more confirmations that my loved one or loved ones were right there with me when I really needed them to be there to help me get back on track.

The Last Word

I know there will be many people out there who believe in the spirit world and our loved ones' ability to come back and help us when we most need them, and many who don't believe.

For the latter, I hope that you can be open-minded enough to at least think, "Well, maybe it can happen," and just maybe you will start to feel the presence of those who have gone on ahead. They are hanging about in the wings waiting to help us out and offer comfort and love.

I dedicate this story to my Darling Hearty. I will love you forever and then some. xx

Psychic Medium Matt Fraser Giving a Live Reading on TV

Please Take a Moment to Answer These Questions

Questions & Answers

Question: how can I see my loved one who has passed away?

Answer: I don't think many people do. In my own experience, it was more like I felt him around, and certain things happened that I was sure were signs to let me know he was still around, just out of sight.

Question: Will I see my mother in heaven?

Answer: My belief is yes, you will. So sorry for your loss.

Question: Why does my boyfriend see my dead husband?

Answer: Maybe your boyfriend is psychic.

Question: There have been signs of a spirit in my home; CDs stating up, lights flickering, and recently a chair had been turned around. I hope it's my dear departed nephew, but how can I be sure?

Answer: Was your nephew a mischievous lad? I can't answer your question definitively as I'm not a medium. I have read that electrical appliances can start doing weird things, and it's not unusual for things to move or not be where you left them.

Question: How can I feel the presence of my boyfriend's soul who departed?

Answer: I don't think everyone can feel their loved one's presence, and sometimes we just don't recognize the signs. He will be forever in your heart though I am sure. So sorry for your loss.

Comments

bac2basics on September 19, 2020:

Dear Val.

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. It must have been such a horrible shock, even you felt there was something wrong, it doesn't make it easier to accept.

I really know what you mean about a spirit animal coming, and do feel that these type of things aren't always just a coincidence.

I am still in love with my husband and still married to him even though its been 16 years now, we are still connected and there has been no one else in my life and I doubt there ever will be.

I send you hugs Val, and strength to keep going xx

val on September 19, 2020:

thank you so much for this post. IT really helped me to read this.. I also felt, for almost a year before his passing, something was not right with my husband, that my gut was telling me something I could not understand. We had been high school sweethearts, married and spent many years together. I feel we were just connected on many levels, and I was sensing something. The day he passed, it was very unexpected, no warning, just happened quickly. What I call a spirit animal came at that time. I talk to him everyday, miss him so much, but deeply feel there are things we cannot understand and that if he isnt here physically,, perhaps there are other ways of ' being' and our love and relationship didnt just end because he moved on.

brian from uk on August 26, 2020:

I think spirit visit people today id just fitted a new low voltage fan in a customers property just tested it first time on what called overrun it went ok did some tyding and tried it again it cut out in less then two mins should have run for 15 to 20 mins i went out the property for some materials as i came back in it felt like somebody was following me know think id not got time for my imsgination to click in i was so busy therez has been other occasions but they dont happen on a regular bases depends if im practicing but not had the time. Think spirit drews energy from mains electricity to communicate they do say they like to play with it to let you know there still alive had experience of this when younger brother passed

bac2basics on August 26, 2020:

Dear Gene.

Maybe your wife knew how much you loved her even though you say you didn't show it. It's not lavish gestures that show love, it's the little everyday things. I am sure when your time comes you will meet again. X

bac2basics on August 15, 2020:

Hi Doris.

What a lovely thing to happen xx

doris on August 15, 2020:

my boyfriend passed and a day later i felt a kiss on my lips but nobody was there

bac2basics on August 07, 2020:

Dear Vanessa.

I think you need to sit down and talk to your husband just as straightforwardly as you talked to me. Reassuring him that he will always be loved and in your heart but you need to move on. Xx

Vanessa on August 07, 2020:

My husband died 4 years ago in August 2016. He shows up every August for weeks doing something to demonstrate he's still around, turning pictures sideways, turning fans on and off, this week the motion sensor light in my closet started turning on and off. I have a new, very serious and amazing relationship. This new man feels my husband's presence (and witnessed the light issue) and agrees with me that my husband is around. How can I tell my husband that it's time for him to move on and that I am okay?" I loved my husband very much, but I don't think it's fair to my intended to have a third person in the relationship. I am confused.

brian from uk on July 20, 2020:

I suppose it depends on what you want to know about spirit as interpreted differently by some

Tonya. Kaiser on July 19, 2020:

Can. My. Deceased. Guy. Friend. Still. Feel. Me. And. Kiss. Me

Jim Tannock on May 14, 2020:

My Wife Pam Died 2 yrs ago come oct 2020, I can relate to a lot of your comments .! for the first two months Pam called my name Jimmy throughout the night and her voice was not in my head it was in the room.! This conforms to my belief that we spend a certain time with the Good Lord and then are reborn into another life with the benefit of the Love that Pam brought into and are leaving, in this world.! I do find I don't feel comfortable when I visit her Grave seeing her name on the headstone ( I know it doesn't make sense ) because it somehow makes it more permanent.? I feel closer to her at home where her photos give me some comfort. I thank you for giving me the opportunity to ' voice ' the above.

Kelly on April 09, 2020:

Advice on spirit

brian from uk on January 23, 2020:

Essence of a spirit soul is so fine you have to be in medium mistic state somebody said to me oh thats rubbish its hypnosis i said no you cannot no be made to do see things thats are against your will so had the privalge to witness this and a good teacher plus i remember things before i became flesh and blood myself thats why one day some ask his there more then this life after i die id deaf say yes

Tim Truzy from U.S.A. on January 22, 2020:

I believe we know so little and such knowledge can only be felt through the soul. However, I don't doubt the power of God because He is Omnipotent, and if He wants it, it will happen. I sometimes suspect my dad gives me a visit from the memories and occasional reminders I encounter. Love is powerful and transcends all knowns and unknowns. Thank you.

David Randall on January 11, 2020:

I have read Anne’s comments about the passing of her husband I can understand all her feelings, Reading her comments has helped me to come to terms with what happened to me I lost my wife to cancer at a very early age we were together for just 12 years my children were just 4 and 6 years old it was a very tough time in my life, After 10 years I met another lovely lady with the same name as my wife Susan We were so happy together although we didn’t marry life was wonderful so yes Love can happen again, but again I lost her to cancer in 2014 she was just 60 years old we were together for 22 years It was like history repeating itself.

I have felt the presence of my loved ones particularly in 2019 I visited Susan’s grave as I stood there I had a warm feeling come over me and felt someone putting their hands on my shoulder it was if they were telling me to get on with my life, A similar experience happened at my wife’s grave yes I do believe there is another place we go to after we depart this world.

I have experienced 3 sightings of deceased people an elderly aunt, my partner’s mother and more recently my mother they appeared for a few seconds then just vanished I was wide awake at the time it was a comforting feeling did this really happen or was I just imagining it, I will keep an open mind. David. UK.

Daniel James on January 07, 2020:

My Mom passed away On November 4th with liver failure as the doctors removed the ventilator,two months ago.She was only 50 years old.She took care of me for most of my life, I wish she was still alive as we depended on each other since my Dad left. I still need her guidance, I wish I told her ‘I love you’ more. I believe in the afterlife, I hope she’s doing ok over there

Stepanie Wright on January 06, 2020:

In October I lost my best friend..she was only 52 years old..she has 3 beautiful children well 2 adult children and a 14 year old. She passed away in her sleep...I talked with her the night before...I had no clue she wouldn't be here in the morning...I was stunned when I found out..

Then Halloween night I was hit by a car going 45 miles an hour..I walked to the store cause it was a beautiful evening..I crossed the street and that's all I know..I didn't wake up until a day and a half later..I had 5 fractures in my back..4 in my pelvic I had to get long screws put in..two of them...and my ankle had 4 fractures as well...I was on the hospital for 3 1/2 weeks ..I was amazed and so was other people that I lived through like that..I just don't know why...but I can't question it...or I should say I didn't... until...Dec 10,2010... we took a little mini vacation .. Peter who I believed was my soulmate.. wasn't feeling good..I thought it was his COPD Or his diabetes acting up...I took his sugar..it was kind of the same how it usually is..so he gave himself a shot...we ordered pizza he wasn't hungry..or thirsty..that's when I asked him if he wanted me to take him to the hospital..he got upset and said NO .that he wasn't that sick...I did check on him a few times before I went to sleep..and before I did go we kissed goodnight...and he told me that he loved me very much (bunches and bunches..that was our thing) and then he said you know I'm in love with you right..I said yeah I hope so..and he put his arms around me and started to snuggle me...he was the best snuggler...

I woke up at 5-5:15am my normal time..went to the bathroom...most cases were very light sleeper..and on this day I couldn't understand why he didn't answer me..so I went over to him and put my cold hands on him..no response..I found that weird..so I put him on his back..I was going to check his sugar but then I checked to see if he was breathing..I couldn't tell (looking back on it I now realize he wasn't breathing...I would of heard him breath..his breathing was loud due to his COPD) So I started doing CPR..I couldn't get him off the bed...cause he was too big..6'2 230 pounds I was 5'2 1135 pounds.....I was doing CPR while calling 911... They got there with in 5 min..I remember telling them to save him..just save him...my friend comes to the hotel thank God..she takes me out of the room..I was in shock..I wasn't crying..I wasn't yelling.. nothing.. until they told me that (an hour of trying) that he was gone..I lost it...I keep saying no..I went back into get my stuff and he was laying there covered up..

I wonder if he heard, saw or felt me ...while or after he passed away....if he felt me slapping him..or the coldness on him...if he heard me call his name.. telling him to come back...did he feel me giving him CPR...

He and I had plans..I wonder if he wanted to go..or did he fight it..did he try to wake me up ..did he know how much heart break I would feel.. does he know that I miss him more everyday....is he still with me or watching over me...I beg for him to come into my dreams..or let me feel him around me...I would give anything for just one more hug or kiss...I wanna see him so bad..I miss him dearly..there are no words for his passing...

And I wonder if he and my friend watch over me...and help me...

Just to get out of bed hurts..I would love nothing more than to sleep 24/7..

I would of given up my life for the both of there's..I have lost everyone who has mattered in my life...I know I won't ever find that kind of love again...he was a big teddy bear who loved nothing better than to snuggle up to me...or he always ALWAYS held my hand and would put it up on his chest and tell me I want it close to my heart...I miss him so much..I have his voicemails and pictures but I can't bring myself to look or hear any of it..

I'm sorry ..

My question was simply do they feel us, see us, hear us while they are dying..are they in pain.. was it really his time..if I would of woke up in time I keep thinking he would still be here...so I have a lot of guilt...why didn't I hear him stop breathing..

I want him back...

Ralph C on December 30, 2019:

My soulmate and my love passed away nov.30, 2019 four weeks ago from cancer in her lungs , lymph nodes, battled for two months. I iss her so much loved being with her taught her to golf five years ago we the loved the same things. I have 4 or 5 bad episodes each day. I am going to start consoling in a week. I admit I cant deal with this on my own.

nick646@rconnects,com on December 29, 2019:

My wife for 48 years pass away nov,15 2019 will I be with her when I pass a way,

brian from uk on December 08, 2019:

Who had passed away there was a small crowd of people by the flat i thought because thery were at eves flat she had passed bye in fact it was her ex husband. So although i did not know was visting me at the time was telling me he still loved his exe wife even after his passing i beleave he was in his seventies im sure he visted me because i remember telling him once that i see things experience that normal people do not. I must have had countless experiences when i was younger my self but put them down to bad knightmares or brief insanity but other reasons why people do not experience loved ones are because they finished learning what they must experience here on earth and have moved on to highier realms of existance nothing really dies it just changes

brian from uk on December 08, 2019:

You got to remember spuritual essence is so fine that it cannot be felt by normal human 5 senses in fact the best way they can contact you is in dream state or just before you awake this is because you remember more easily rather suddenly awake and forget your dream ive had this happen to me several or more times my dream mode suddenly changed example and for the benefit of my neighbour i was arm in arm with this person i did not really recognise it was more intense as if to instile a clearer scene on my mind i woke up as usual and got up i could hear a commotion or a noise in the crescent since i dont use net curtains i looked through the window there was a black ambalance i knew this had come for somebody

Kris on December 07, 2019:

My mother passed away three and a half years ago.We we so close, why don’t I ever feel her presence?

Roxy on November 22, 2019:

My boyfriend passed away I sometimes feel his presence especially when I feel lonely And sometimes my heart beats as fast as it can ...does it mean he is still coming to me when my heart does that ...course usually it use to do that when he was alive when I see him

Bac2basics on November 08, 2019:

Thank you Phil for your comment. I am pleased to hear your opinion might have been swayed by the experiences of your friends. I hope you will find it a comfort when you experience a loss and be open to accepting messages and signs from your loved ones in spirit. Thank you for taking the time to write xx

Phil on November 07, 2019:

I have not personally experienced the presence of a departed, but two people who I deeply respect claim they have. In both cases, the departed person woke them up while they were sleeping and both absolutely insist that they were not dreaming; they were wide awake and the departed was there! Both assumed I did not find them credible so they did not go into detail about their experience. My belief is that when you are dead, you are dead, but these two experiences strongly suggest that somehow that may not be the case.

Donna on October 22, 2019:

I made love with my deceased partner

Donna on October 22, 2019:

I believe that I made love with my partner of 17yrs that died in a fatal car crash about mths ago

Lewis on October 17, 2019:

Very interesting article, I had tears rolling down my face reading it. Quite overwhelming.

Your article mentions your husband. I empathise with the passing of my English bull terrier, that I so dearly miss beyond words. I saved his eyesight through a heredity PLL and managed to keep one eye. This happened when he was 3 and broke me then. He lived until 14.5, and died in my arms two weeks ago. He died of hemangiosacoma, a brutal cancer that took him over 2 weeks. When he stopped eating I moved him to my bed and nurtured him as in palliative care. He had every test possible and the thing that gave me peace was he wasn’t in pain.

And may I point out to all animal owners, if your pet is NOT in pain you must NOT put them to sleep. You have a duty of care as an owner to keep them alive. Life is better than death in every sense. By bully lost control of his bladder at times in the night as the cancer was in his spleen that was pushing on his bladder so although i was beside him next to me for almost three weeks, he peed on his duvet that was on top of mine. So every day I washed it. That to me is not enough to put him to sleep like some arsehole said I should have done in the gym the other day when I told him.

Anyway, I smell my bully often. It a strong smell, like the smell I had in car when I took Him to the crematorium. What a devastating day that was, never again.

I’ve noticed an old dog ball not his, in the front of the hedge when I wheeled the bins in from collection, and the strangest thing was the day after I hurried him. I spend 3 hours digging a 750mm hole to put the urn of his ashes in outside my kitchen and on the Sunday morning I saw 3 cock pheasants standing on the fence facing him. They were perfectly separated with the middle on being centre to the grave I dug the day before. They were there for 1 hour u till 12.00. It was almost as if they knew he was there and, being animals, and pheasants we feed now and again with corn, they paid homage to him. The day of his cremation when he was in the car to be taken away I wanted to light a candle in a church near our house. I had anointed it with oil and said what I wanted to it. I made sure it was a vigil candle. A hand made church candle, very thin and slightly bent. It is a discussed and few people go in but it is open all the time. I lit the candle and said “does anyone have some money?” To put in the church coffers as a thank you. No one did. I thought ok, and then saw to my amazement a £5 note against the wall. I picked it up, thanked my bill terrier, placed into the slit where money goes, left and got back into the car to take my friend to the crematorium.

I am crying writing this, but I do believe to appreciate life you must experience death. I have no brothers or sisters or family and I’m self employed so work alone. My bully went where I went he was what my left is to my right.

I breath his smell most nights right now, which gives me a headache slightly as it is so overwhelming but I love it and wouldn’t miss it for the world. If only I could just speak to him and tell him he’s a good boy again

Staffordm on October 17, 2019:

My husband died 3 weeks ago. He had an affair i found out 2 months ago. He never came clean fully. Now im stuck wondering if he loved me or her?

I need to know who defines the loved ones? Are they who i loved or who he loved? Or? Will he be there when i go? Or will he be there for her? I dont know

I dont feel him. No dreams. Nothing. Is he visiting her? I dont know. Its unbearable. All the not knowing. I no longer have any security in knowing he loved me. He took his own life. So i have that to deal with also. I found him. Im financially ruined from medical bills trying to save him. It would be nice to have 1 answer to give me peace.

If i understand if he even loves me. That would help. If i understood how being the loved one works. That would help me figure out so much. Is it who i loved or who he loved or ? Who picks the loved ones that are there when you cross? Ugh im so tired of not knowing anything.

brian from uk on October 14, 2019:

I know there are earth bond spirits that lost there life way to early I witnessed this in North Wales she may have appeared to others but as a spirit light source if you like if your receptive enough at the time it flash in through your third eye then into you consious mind.

Mediumship another good one I was never one hundred percent convinced till I experienced that blindfolded you don't know who your sitting for then all of a sudden you get images coming into your mind of an unknown person they don't exist on this plane but on a plane that operates at a greater speed so I recon we move much slower. What you could use for an example is going to sleep at night some night's you close your eyes next thing 7 to 8 hrs have past in a flash

Kendrea on September 27, 2019:

I lost my husband to cancer two weeks ago ( 13/9/19) . My husband was my everything, my 18 years of marriage , my life only involved with my husband and my only Son. wherever we go, we always go as a family. Now , I just can’t move on , I don’t know where to start. Often sitting beside his photo talking to him, I knew he was beside me all the time . I miss you and love you so much darling

bac2basics on September 22, 2019:

Dear Brian.

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.I hate the dreaded C and hope a cure is found very soon, you would think if we can put men on the moon we could cure cancer by now too. Take care of yourself xx

brian from uk on September 22, 2019:

I lost my brother to the dreaded C i miss having the phone conversations with him although he was already ill for a number of year we did not know he got cancer. Each time you loss a family member your greaf is different for that person

Joella Bethea on September 11, 2019:

I lost my husband to cancer 3/2018

My husband was my best friend my back bone he was my soulmate

I did not want to believe he pass away

I was in denial For a year and half

Most recently I was sick and he always took care of me

I had A rude awakening that day when was looking for him and he was not that’s when reality Kick in that’s when I felt the pain of grief hit me

I feel him around

I smell his sense Around me

I was sleeping and I felt the bed move

And he wrap his arms around me and move over a little and he told me he love me

I see I’m not by my self in griefing

We all have let god get of through it

This pain is like a ton of bricks

Put God got us all in our weakness

My pray go out to everyone

bac2basics on September 11, 2019:

Dear Carol.

What a terrible loss you suffered, but your boy will be at peace now. I lost my hearty getting on for 16 years ago and I have never let him go either, how can you. I loved him in life and I love him still. In my view its impossible to let someone go so don´t even think about it love. Take care and live life for the both of you xx

Dear Joella.

My hearty also doed from lung cancer so I know what you went through and what he did too. What a horrible disease it is in any form. I feel for you love. It really sounds like he is with you and that must be lovely but doesn´t take away the pain of loss. I just content myself with knowing that eventually when the time is right, we will be together again forever.

Take care of yourself my dear, it will be what he would want.

Love and hugs to you.xx

Joella Bethea on September 10, 2019:

My husband pass away 3/2018

My husband had lung cancer stayed in the hospital for four months stayed in the nursing home for three months

Came home just to be with our children and grandkids and I three months two weeks

He was my best friend my back bone

I was In denial for a year and a half did not want to face losing him or knowing

He was there anymore so set in my mine he was still in the hospital

Until one day recently I need him and he was not there

I laid down and went to sleep and felt my bed move and heard him say to me

Move over he wrapped his arms around me told me he love me

One day I felt him following me to the house sometimes I feel him around me

I miss him so much

This pain of missing him hurts so much

I pray for everyone who has lose a love one This is a painful journey for us all

God got us all

carol jordan on September 09, 2019:

Im missing my son so bad. He was 24 and killed his self. I still cant let go and its been 17 yrs.

bac2basics on August 13, 2019:

Dear Angie and Nova.

I am truly sorry you lost your beloved husband, its awful I know only too well. It does seem they are both still with you in spirit and I am so pleased you feel that. At first it is very very difficult, all of it, but it does get easier with practice. 16 years after losing my dear hearty I still cry for him from time to time and think of him every single day, but then I feel him with me and it sees me through.

I send love and big hugs to you both. Take care xx

Angie on August 12, 2019:

My husband passed in Jan 2019. Since I have ben finding dimes everywhere, as well as my children and grandchildren. he has a saying a penny for your thoughts a dime for your love. Also, I get sooo sad at times and for no reason other than I can feel him sooo strongly around me. My soul weeps for him. Several times I feel as if he is right by my side, then other times I feel he's no where around. But within an hour or maybe day or so He's back with me.

Nova on August 05, 2019:

My husband passed away at home 9 weeks ago after a horrible illness. Since then I have had 2 pure white small feathers on the pillow I lay by my side.

I’ve also had a dream where I was in a bedroom like a hotel room, but not, with 2 other people, 1 definitely a man plus a male body lying on the bed. The other two were saying, we’ve killed him, but the word kill seemed the wrong word, One of the other people left the room and I covered the body with the blanket I would use for my husband and lay on the bed with him. There was movement with the body next to me and the man left in the room spoke on his walkie talkie to the other person and said the panther is moving, the panther is still alive. He then said we have to go, we have to go. I took off the blanket to fold up and then the dream kind of went away, but me personally (not the dream) felt like a body lying next to me and a whisper in my ear ‘I’m still here’

Then about a week ago I woke up with a start, when I physically felt someone kiss me on the lips....i woke with my hand going to my mouth, eyes wide open and my lip was wet.

And lastly, the other night, in my dream there were 2 white small rectangle pieces of paper. I think I was writing something on them, although I know they were both blank. It was the 2nd piece of paper that startled me. When I went to write on it, it disappeared, like a magic trick, poof away.

I truly believe these all have meaning but nt sure what. Any answers to enlighten me please

I so need my husband to be with me...everyone always said we were true soul mates, which we both believed too.

bac2basics on July 02, 2019:

Hello Kaye.

Oh my dear I am so very very sorry to hear about your son. That's just terrible and what a huge shock for you all.

I am not a psychic medium so cannot answer your question, I wish I could. I do feel however that he will be with you in spirit but perhaps you are too much in shock just now to notice any signs.

Sending love and a huge great hug. xx

Kaye on July 01, 2019:

Hi, my 16 year old son died in January very suddenly from an unknown medical event....how soon is too soon for him to connect with me?

bac2basics on June 24, 2019:

Dear Chad.

It sounds very much to me like your dear lady is indeed keeping her eye on you and coming back with love to help you through this devastating time.

It's heartbreaking when you lose the love of your life and soul mate but eventually we learn to smile again even without them. I wanted to die too when I lost my hearty, and I have done since then when life got too much and I sank into deep depression and tried to end it all. Therefore your comment about feeling suicidal is really bothering me a lot. Please please please go and see your doctor or speak to someone about this if you continue to have these thoughts.

For now, just accept that all these feelings and coincidental things that are happening are indeed your wife letting you know she is still with you in spirit and hang onto that, it's her life line to you.

Take care dear xx

Chad widowed on June 23, 2019:

My wife, best friend and soul mate of 30 years recently passed suddenly. I've been exceptionally low and begging the lord for answers as well as to take me too. I've been talking to my wife as if she were here getting no response of course. I listen to music to occupy my mind. Yesterday I talked and talked to her hoping for answers, and full of regrets. Then believe it or not I just felt like she was there. At that moment literally 13 songs played back to back randomly that every song had a direct and powerful meaning to everything I was thinking, saying, and asking. Then later at home; I was very depressed, suicidal actually, and I got this feeling she was with me; then our cat freaked out 3 separate times literally like she had seen a ghost. Arched back, raised hair, while looking at me running away backwards and sideways. She wasn't playing, and has NEVER done this before. This happened 3 times. I'm I crazy for thinking anything, or is it possible my wife was there. I would do anything to be with my wife or just see her. Maybe I'm just loosing it because I miss her soooooo much.

Bac2basics on June 23, 2019:

Dear Aubrey.

It sounds to me very much like your dear friend is indeed with you in spirit. Accept this and be happy knowing she is letting you know she is OK. How lovely xx

Aubrey raus on June 20, 2019:

I feel like my dead friend has been leaving me signs at night when I am asleep or appears near me as a spirit or I think it is one but She is trying to see if I am ok and is telling me that she is ok. I believe she is still with me. I don’t know if what I experienced was real or me just dreaming

Tom York on May 31, 2019:

THE SOUL is what goes - the flesh rots in the grave -the Soul has given you another body for eternity. Its that simple. I think but yes - the soul does not die with the flesh. When Jesus was killed on the Cross. He went up and came back down. He even ate with his disciples - thomas that is my name. Was not in the room when Jesus was their. BUT Jesus came to Thomas and showed him the hands etc etc. Thomas died in India. The fire could not hurt him and they throwed their spears at Thomas until the flames died out. I believe it but many dont. thank you I hope it helped someone. Tom

Bac2basics on May 09, 2019:

John new.

Thank you John for your kindness. Take care dear. X

John New on May 09, 2019:

I Really Don't Know But Am Sorry For Your Lost

bac2basics on April 12, 2019:

Dear Nompumelelo.

Thank you for reading and getting in touch. Its a very hard thing to get over. I still miss my hubby and its 15 years since I lost him now. All we can do is carry on though.

Take care dear x

Nompumelelo on April 12, 2019:

I lost my lovely husband 2 years ago I miss him a lot

bac2basics on April 11, 2019:

Dear My2dogs.

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My mam died at 44 too and my sis and I were left at 6 years old along with 4 more siblings. Reading about your young life makes me so grateful that my dad managed to keep us all at home.

Your lady sounds lovely and what a loss you have suffered.

Not everyone feels the presence of loved one's, or maybe we just miss the signs! Hang in there and I bet one night she will come to you in your dreams. Let me know if she does or if you get a sign.

Take care of yourself for her sake, she would be so upset if you don't. X

My2dogs on April 11, 2019:

My wife passed away on January 29 of this year three weeks before her 44th birthday. I lost both of my parents at a young age and bounced around from home to home this wonderful woman was my soulmate I was a troubled teenager and went to prison for 7 years I met her the first day home and she gave me the love and family I wanted so bad she is my everything she took care of me my Dr appointments my important every day things she would keep up on it she helped me turn my life around now after 18 year's I don't have my rock when I breathe I can't catch it char went in because of belly pains and her spleen rupchured she was in medical induced coma she was having to do dialices and everything with in a week she had a blood clot in her kidney and was gone it's been the trial of my life the last 72 days. I pray at night for a sign but I don't think I am getting anything from her or I don't know if I am and we had talked about all this a month before I was in the hospital for heart and lungs problems and she was up set and I told her no matter where I ended up I would come back to her I just am lost with out her and want so bad just to feel her touch or smell her scent

bac2basics on April 06, 2019:

Hi Jennifer.

How wonderful, I have asked my hearty to hold mine but it doesn't happen, however I have felt the warmth from his hand and arm on mine x

jennifer stephenson on April 06, 2019:

My loved one will hold my hand. Its the most comforting feeling.

brian from uk on March 27, 2019:

I remember visiting an elderly tenant who lost his wife some three months he was in a terrible state of despair he missed so he said he could not go on for much Im a good listener sometimes I can offer advice I said to him listen to me don't do anything silly do you think your would want you to be unhappy I said you grieving I said when you feel the pain at its most talk to he tell how you feel I'm sure she can hear you I said do you know they can visit you in your dreams. I was not sure if it helped, I was concerned for the gentle man so I mentioned it when I next went into the office

margaret Roe on March 27, 2019:

My Husband died six months ago and i can't feel he is around me and my home feels empty and cold. i would love to feel him around me as i miss him so much and not doing well at all.

bac2basics on March 24, 2019:

Dear Brian.

How wonderful for you to have felt your friend coming to you like that, your message certainly rang true with me because I have had exactly the same experience, not when my husband passed away, but later. It was wonderful and like you I felt very happy and knew he was in a good place but popped in to see me and let me know he was with me still in spirit.

Take care of yourself Brian xx

bac2basics on March 24, 2019:

Dear Rose.

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss, how tragic. I hope you are able to feel your boyfriends presence or see the signs that he is sending to you.

Look after yourself Rose. Xx

brian from uk on March 23, 2019:

It's kinda strange how they can visit you I had a friend who had a friend who I also befriended but because of his illness it would make it difficult to visit him I was starting to wake one sat morn when I felt this very happy sensation like something moving inside my head it was a feeling of utter blissful ness of contentment I jerked my self fully awake andi thought that's a strange experience so I carried on with my day and visted my friend in the ymca he looked sad as he opened the door and said he's gone I said whos gone they found arthur dead that was our other friend. My eyes suddenly got wider he said what the matter, I said he visted me this morning. He visited you I said arthurs spirit. When I was having my experience I got the impression it was saying come on wake up sleepy head

ROSE on February 23, 2019:

my boyfriend passed away feb 16th after complications of accident. I told him to visit me in spirit

Anne (author) from Spain on February 16, 2019:

Hello John.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, but how lovely that your wife is still helping you through. I know the feeling well.

Take care dear xx

John Clarke on February 13, 2019:

I am sure that as I lay in bed I can feel my wife (who passed away in July 2018) I really do feel her presence and always the side she used to sleep, 30 years of her love was the most amazing feeling her kindness and caring got me through cancer twice. When I feel her there I talk away to her about anything ,it really does bring me comfort.

Margie on January 31, 2019:

My Dad passed away 11/27/18 after a long illness. I felt him around me very strongly for about a week. Since then I haven't felt him around me at all. I feel like he is "gone" or very far away. Will he come back?

Bac2basics on January 24, 2019:

Dear Angela.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss but it seems like your dear husband is with you in spirit and Sharing the joy of your new grandchild.

Things will get easier for you to bear and your grandchild is there to help you.

Take care dear xx

Angela on January 23, 2019:

Last night, feeling so overcome and in tears I took myself off to bed, it’s then that I felt my husbands presence lying next to me. I felt the bed sink on his side of the bed, at first was afraid but it happened again and this time I felt like I was lifted and calm. It’s only been 8 weeks since he’s been gone and I feel each day is a struggle, we had our first grandchild 2weeks ago I wish he could be hereto sharehow wonderful she is, my reason for getting up and out of bed.x

Cheryl on January 22, 2019:

My Mam passed away a few weeks ago I need to know that she is at peace & ok how will I know?

Bac2basics on January 21, 2019:

Dear Steve.

I am so very sorry for your loss and I know exactly how you are feeling but please hang in there, it does get easier but takes time.

Steve Williams on January 20, 2019:

My wife passed January first of 2019 I can't see her face when I close my eyes I don't dream about her either all I can think of is how bad I want to leave this miserable place and go be with my beautiful wonderful sweetheart my soulmate my only true friend and wife

Barbara on December 29, 2018:

My husband wz shot and killed april 7th 2018. I couldnt communicate with him for months nd wz frustrated about it cuz ive NEVER had a problem communicating with spirits before. I have helped people my entire life with communicating. I know now my emotions were preventing me frm hearing him. I meditate daily now and have no problem feelin or hearing him.

Kabita on December 21, 2018:

Mariya,

You and me are in the same pain. Not for us but for our babies we have to survive. If I cry, my son also cries, so I have to hide my tears and give a smile to him as if Iam happy. You and me have to hide our own pain only for our babies. But nothing can reduce our pain, only one knows who goes through it like you and me.

Lesley Woolfstein on December 21, 2018:

I miss my mum so mum she passed away 2years ago I lived with my mum all of my life I wish I could see her as I'm crying all the time I've had three white feathers I wish she would come to me as I'm wanting her to come to me so much

Mariya on December 16, 2018:

Kabita,

I’m 28 with a 6 month old. My husband was hit off the road by a lady on oct23,2018. He Gave me a kiss good bye before he went to work and that was the last time I saw him. He’s my high school sweet heart and soulmate. When I read your story, I felt like I was reading my own nightmare. I don’t have any words for you because I’m sharing in the same pain. I often think how I want to die and just be with him and know one around us understands the pain we are going through for ourselves and our child. :(

Espy on December 06, 2018:

Why does my grandson see my dad..my dad passed away 2 days ago,,but no one else sees him

GM on December 05, 2018:

You people are not Bible readers or believers. The Bible states that the “Dead” can not cross back on Earth . Once the dead has taken

the last breath, their soul goes where the person has prepared for.

So if you are seeing or hearing things , perhaps Therapy is advised.

Bac2basics on December 05, 2018:

Dear Kavita.

How sorry I feel for you, to lose the love of your life so young and so suddenly is horrific and you must feel like your heart has been ripped out, no wonder you are feeling as you do, but what you are experiencing is shock and grief. I certainty felt I wanted to die and be with my hearty when he died, life without him didn't feel worth living but we have to carry on and although you won't believe it no matter how many people tell you, with time your loss will get easier to bear. It feels impossible I know but it's true. Your child needs you and needs to know about his or her daddy and the love and life you shared before he was taken from you.

It sounds very much like your husband is with you in spirit and I do belive will be waiting for you when your time to join him comes, but that time is not now. Have you seen your doctor and told him how you are feeling or sought other help? I urge you to do that if you can.

Look after yourself and your child and remind yourself often that you will not always feel as you do now even if you don't believe it right now, it is true.

I send you and your child love and a big hug and the advice to accept what you are going through now as normal for the grieving process, which it is, but know it will get easier. One day like me you will realise that you actually want to live and not die, but it takes time to get there. XX

Kabita on December 05, 2018:

Linda, Thanks a lot for your support and suggestion. Me too trying a lot to go foreward only for our baby whom he loved more than himself, but each and every moment our loving memories, his face and his caring nature comes in front me and make me cry.

Linda on December 04, 2018:

Kabita,

You are needed on this earth. Your husband will wait for you - I believe all of your loved ones will be waiting for you when it is your time. This is not your time. Your baby needs you. The world needs you. You can and you must go on without him. He is still in your heart. Time doesn't heal the wound but it changes it, softens it. There is much more for you to experience. Please hang on to your life.

Kabita on December 01, 2018:

I lost my husband on 23rd October 2018 due to lung infection. It was very sudden that both of us were shocked. Before sitting in ambulance he was talking with me and within half and hour blood came from his mouth and nose and he died looking at me only. We have a nine month old baby too. He was 34. He was my child friend and life and everything for me , my love, my guide each and everything. Without him I can't think anything I find everything meaningless for me.My family members are supporting me a lot but at a moment I feel like mad myself and want to go with him. We fought, quarrelled, laughed and made lots of fun with each other and these things now coming to me every time and make me unstable. He often comes to my dream and talks and says that he is in hurry , so sometimes he gives me coin, sometimes asks some new dress to wear, sometimes weeps so badly with me hugging me. In reality also sometimes I enter my room and instanly for some moments I smell his body odour.I am very confused what to do, I can't think anything without him. He was my best friend, my child-love. Our baby also searches him and if he sees any man like his father he looks at him very closely and then turns his face, it makes cry. We were so simple but very happy he loved and took care of me more than my expectation. Now Iam like a body without soul bcoz my husband was my soul. Our marriage would complete four years in this December but I feel he loved me not for four years but more than four births. I will love and wait for him forever. I want to talk and meet and fight with him which I really miss everytime. I don't know how far I will control myself to proceed without him. Any suggestion please. Will we meet one day? Iam asking him to wait for me till my death, will he wait for me?

Gage Snow on November 24, 2018:

I really like your article. My late husband passed in march of this year. We were together for 18 years.

Joanne on November 11, 2018:

Hi Anne.

I Tragically lost my 21 year old son 5 months ago.. he was walking home from the bar and was run over. I totally relate to what you say about seeing them as a shell. I had my son home for the weekend before his funeral..and I stayed by his side for 36hrs. It was the best thing I could’ve done.. it so helped me with my grieving. Up until that point I didn’t know how how was going to let him go. The more I looked at him over those 36hrs.. the more I realized that he wasn’t there anymore. I could see it wasn’t my son anymore ,the spark that made him him was gone and I felt him more around me than I felt coming from the casket. I’ve had a couple of things happen to me In the first few weeks after his passing, but nothing since. The first was I was having a bad day and couldn’t get out of bed... my bedroom door kept opening and I had to get out of bed to close it. This happens 5 or 6 times before I ended up putting the lock on it.. I know it was him telling me to get up and not to be upset. The 2nd was my first time driving alone and I was nervous being out.. I was pulling out of my estate and two bikers were behind me (my son was a biker) they were side by side, but hung back like they were escorting me, keeping the traffic far back from behind me (it was so surreal while I was looking in my rear view mirror) and as I pulled onto the highway the bikers went by just has I put the radio on the DJ was announcing my sons favourite song oasis wonderwall. It was like he guided me out and once he knew I was ok, he played that song to let me know I’d be ok and he’d be with me. Nothing anyone can say to me will change my mind about it.. I felt his presence in the car. He hasn’t been back, but I think he knows I’m coping and his brother who isn’t needs him more.. he’s had so many signs from him.

My forever 21 son 26/09/1996-10/06/2018

Dave on November 09, 2018:

Excellent article Anne! I can relate in so many ways. My wife passed just 4 months ago after battling ovarian cancer for the past 2 years. We married 22 years ago in 1996, I was only 20 and she was 28. Many said we were a pair of old souls. We had an unbreakable bond (believe me I gave my love a reason or two to try to break it in our years but we worked through it and it only made our love stronger) and were soulmates in every way. We were Bible believing Christians so the thought of her spirit surrounding me conflicts with what we believe but there's no doubt in my mind she's with me, even as I lay here in a hotel room with our son some 400 miles away from home (we're visiting a college he's considering attending next year). I sense her presence around me constantly, it's as if her spirit is coarsing through my veins. I talk to her frequently and have vivid dreams most night - when I'm able to fall asleep. I even catch myself staring at the ceiling as I'm talking to her and realize the look on my face is a look my wife would have. The first time it happened it freaked me out but it just happened a few minutes ago and I almost busted out laughing. Feeling her presence as strongly as I do can be a double edged sword but I'll gladly take the tears and heartache with the warmth and love. After all, I did vow to love her for better or worse. Thank you so much for sharing your story and giving us all a place to share ours. To my love in Heaven and all around me, I love you Red, now and forever! DMN4EVR

swaminathan on September 14, 2018:

My wife died 14 months ago due to a heart attack. After death, I am trying to talk to her by writing or any vision of her, but she did not come to me. My neighbor house two persons have seen her appearance in the night when she entered my house. When she showed her appearance in green saree by covering her head. But always, some wrong soul who is always speaking to me that she is my wife. I could not believe that she is always lying and even asking me to drink my own urine. Please guide me that how can I meet or talk to my real wife. Her name is Vallikannu died on 17 July 2017. I am from Sivaganga, Tamil Nadu, India. I love her too much.

Expecting your positive reply.

Swaminathan

Email Id. swaminathannagalingam@yahoo.in

Bac2basics on September 03, 2018:

Dear Amanda.

I am so sorry you lost your mum. I feel it's your choice what you do with your mum's ashes, and it's obviously a comfort to you to have them with you. Do what you feel is right for you. Xx

Bac2basics on September 02, 2018:

Dear Kristen. I am so sorry for your losses, but feel sure it was your mom talking to you. How wonderful. Xx

Dear Rose. I am so very sorry you lost the love of your life and I feel your pain coming through in your comment. Please belive me when I tell you in time you will not feel the pain as sharply as you do now. Take care Rose xx

Amanda on September 02, 2018:

After the death of my mum, 4 years ago , a medium told me that mum wanted to stay with me. I collected the ashes and she has been with me since. My nan & grandad (my mum's parents) recently died only months apart. My grandfather was cremated and my nan wanted to be buried. My family now want mum and grandfather to share the coffin with my nan - she is to be buried (not cremated) I'm not sure what to do? It feels like I'm losing mum again - I feel her spirit around me a lot. I know it sounds crazy, but I'm worried if I let the ashes go , she'll go too..

Rose Faison on August 29, 2018:

My husband passed away on 11/27/2017 and life hasn't been the same but I do feel his presence with me and I'm not afraid. I truly miss him with all of my heart and love him dearly, We have been together since the age of 15 so its like we grew up together. Life isn't fair and a lot of unanswered questions but I have to remember God doesn't make mistakes he needed him more than myself but my heart hurts so bad.

Kristen on August 27, 2018:

My mum died in 2016,my father in 2017 .both cancer.Shortly after my mum passed, I had to make my appointment for my first mammogram,just as a precaution although I’m still well under 50.While I was in the dressing room at the clinic, a voice inside my head told me that they would find something, but not to freak out because it wasn’t cancer.Sure enough, at the next mammogram i was clear :).My mum was my absolute best friend, and we were closer than any other mom/daughter I’ve ever known.It was her voice that I heard that day.Coincidence? Maybe I’m nuts? .Maybe not :)

Bac2basics on August 27, 2018:

Dear Elizabeth. I feel exactly the same way about my late husband. He was the only man I truly loved. I wish you well and so sorry for your loss xx

Dear Helen. So sorry for the loss of your mum. My belief is she will be there even though you can't feel or hear her. Xx

clemeantlna tanya on August 26, 2018:

everything is really true and may god bless u for making me stand with no fear

Helen oleary on August 26, 2018:

My mum died 7 8 this year ,,,, i no she will guide me ,,,, i have big problem i can not relax enough to hear or feel her plesse help

Elizabeth on August 24, 2018:

My husband passed away just a few weeks ago. What you told this woman has given me a lot of relief. I did not know that he could still hear me all the time, and that he's listening to me when I'm telling him things, things to do ways to come through. I hope he knows how much I was madly in love with him and still am. I love him as if he still standing right here. I told him no matter what we are still married and will always be married, and to be there for me when it's my turn. I hope he's there looking for me and waiting for me so he can go on through eternity together. Because the way I see it, there is no other man for me, and I don't think there ever will be. My husband is the only one I could ever love the way I did.

nomfundondita on August 21, 2018:

I've found someone that I love he was my soulmate its like ive known him all my life I lost him after we've just found each other ive never felt like that before in my like can't move on , think about him every morning ,day ,and evening . I feel like he took my heart to the grave I don't want to love again , ive tried to move on its hard its only a few months but I cry when I miss him ..I think about him a lot can't sleep sometime it hard plz help

Amanda Kinder-Stout on August 20, 2018:

​​Hello, My name is Amanda, I actually came across this page literally by accident however I have a strong feeling it "wasn't accidental" I was actually looking for information about "signs" from loved ones because every time I am outside a dragonfly appears and just hovers around until I go back inside, at first I didn't think much of it but here recently I began really noticing the pattern and it's honestly every time I am outside at my home (many times throughout the day) so I decided to Google any information about this or if it has happened to others, maybe not a dragonfly but something similar and this site popped up. So I want to share some of the "Blessings" as I call them with you all, I want to apologize in advance for such a long post but there's so much I want to share and I've learned that it is very helpful for me to talk about my dad and share things with others even people I don't know. It was April 19, 2005 I was 25 when I lost my Daddy, he was 59, my dad was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes when I was 5 he was 39, the ER doctors couldn't understand how/why my mom was able to walk my dad into the emergency room, his blood sugar was 900 and all the doctors and nurses said he should've been in a coma with that high of blood sugar, dad spent 2 weeks in the hospital. It was a 20 year battle with this disease, like a rollercoaster there were so many ups and downs it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to sit and watch as literally attacked every single part of his body, from his kidneys, eyes, bones and limbs. In my eyes my dad was the strongest man I knew and to this day still is, many of you can probably tell by now I was a Daddy's Girl, he was my world and if you asked anyone I was his. It was April 18, 2005 my dad was still in ICU at the hospital (so some of you know the visiting hours are a lot different) I spent every visitation with my dad that was scheduled for an hour, so on the 18th it was the last visitation for the evening, he was sitting up sideways in his bed, feet dangling over the edge and I told him he looked and must have felt great that evening, he looked at me and his words have stuck in my head still to this day he said "Baby girl, your daddy is going home" my reply was one he probably heard a few times over 20 years, I told him when the doctor tell us you can. At 3:30am (7 hours after seeing him and his words to me) April 19, 2005 the hospital called and said I needed to get there that he was unresponsive. I sit right beside him holding his hand from the moment I got there, it was my mom who looked at me and said "he is fighting for you, you need to tell him it's okay" I can promise you those 2 words were the hardest 2 words I've ever said, it was that very moment he squeezed my hand and opened his big blue eyes as a tear rolled across the bridge of his nose 15 hours after the hospital called I watched as he took his final breath. Many, many months went by after his passing until one night I had a dream that was so real it had my shaking, I called my mom and began telling her, she quickly said I'm on my way, I need to talk to you, so she gets there and we talk. My parents had separated when I was 20, probably 2 years before my dad passed my mom had gotten pregnant and my dad took it extremely hard when he found out, he was angry with me (because I was happy, I always wanted a sibling, I was their only child, my dad had 4 others from a previous marriage but they were a lot older than me) and he said some hurtful things to my mom, sadly my mom miscarried but unknowingly to me until that moment she came to talk my mom told me everything from his hurtful words to the promise he made, my dad had told her after her miscarriage that she would have the son they always wanted but he would'nt be here to see it. It was exactly 2 months after my dad passed my mom found out she was pregnant, soon later she found out it was a boy and a few months later my brother Elijah, was born, (we are 27 years apart and just a little insight my parents were 17 years apart) in my dream it was me and my mom and she told me I needed to tell my dad we were leaving but I couldn't find him, then he was there and he said "Elijah is here because of me and one day Baby Girl you too will be a mommy". I think my mom was just as shaken up as I was when I had first called her to tell her about my dream. When Elijah was 2 he was playing and asked me if I knew his friend "Donnie" I thought to myself "Oh Lord, he has imaginary friends" probably about a week to a week and a half later, me and my mom were sitting at my house (of course this big sister had him spoiled, he had his own room and toy room at my house) and Elijah comes running out of his toy room and asked if I knew "Goat" I said yes bub I know what goats are and he said "NO, My Friend Goat, he comes to see me and plays with me, he told me he really loves you and misses you" my heart sank and I busted into tears, so did my mom, you see my dads name was Donald (that's where the "Donnie" came in) and his nickname was "Goat!!", my brother never met him, dad passed in '05 and Elijah was born in '06. In 2013 I reconnected with my old boyfriend whom I dated when I was 19, we've been married for almost 4 years now. My husband to this very day still talks about the time we went to my parents for dinner and my dad told him to have a seat, they needed to talk and dad told me to go help my mom in the kitchen that this was a talk between a father and his daughters boyfriend, my husband will say he was scared to death and he will never forget "that talk". Now I tell you that this was the very FIRST and LAST time my dad ever sat down a boyfriend and had "that talk" sometimes I wonder if daddy knew something John and I didn't know many years ago. There's been many things and different signs in these 13 years since dad has passed that's happened, I have learned not to blame others for things missing, I use to blame my poor little brother but I've realized over the years it wasn't him or others, my dad was a huge practical joker. My husband and I recently moved back home to West Virginia from Louisiana, we both were born and raised here (WV) we now live in the same town where I was raised. About a month and a half ago I was sitting up stretched out on my couch playing a casino game on my tablet and my husband was in another room doing who knows what (typical man thing) when something caught my eye, I looked up and standing in the dining room stood my dad, I even shook my head as if my eyes were playing tricks on me only to still see him standing there, nothing was said but a feeling came over me, it was as if my dad was saying it's okay, I'm okay, I'm still here with you (that's the easiest way I can explain it, like for the first time I felt Peace) So that brings me back to what I was first saying about coming across this site, since moving back each time I'm outside there is 1 dragonfly that shows up out of nowhere hovering around me almost close enough to touch. A little bit ago I told my husband about it, like I said just recently did I start noticing the pattern of this occurrence with the dragonfly. My husband was outside for about 20mins before I went outside, soon after I was out there like the snap of your fingers the dragonfly appeared, my husband looks at me and said "what the" I've been out here this whole time and never once seen a dragonfly. My husband doesn't believe in things like this well I can't say it's that he don't believe I just think he doesn't want to out of fear as for myself, I smile and say "Hi Daddy, I Know You're Here and I Love You Too".

Kim on August 17, 2018:

Do u have any books that u can send me about how a love one passes away how go they come to us

sheba gage on August 16, 2018:

I talk to my Daughter everyday can she hear me talk? I also ask for signs letting me know that she's ok can she hear me?

Bac2basics on August 12, 2018:

Dear Mary.

I am so sorry for your loss, but how wonderful that your dad can feel her with him when he goes to bed. It must be a great comfort to him. X

Mary on August 08, 2018:

My parents married 72 years - mom in hospice for a week and died.

Her spirit comes into their bed every night & dad can feel her feet

and see her go under the covers. What a miracle as they loved for so long and I have no doubt, she is there. When he gets up in the morning, she leaves. Continues when he goes to bed. A miracle.

Bac2basics on June 27, 2018:

Dear Kim.

I am so sorry for your loss. Seems like you are getting signs from your loved one. I think you should write it all as a hub.

Take care dear.

Kim Wobsie on June 22, 2018:

"The Story of Seamus" - Cont'd

...And boy, did I get a sign! On that cold January night, I was working in an application on my computer, and also still fretting over the status of my old friend - wondering where he had gone, and if he was OK. I felt so bad that he had died alone in his apartment.

All of a sudden, out of nowhere, a favorite photo of Andy that had months before been posted to his Facebook page slowly floated across my computer screen from a top corner, diagonally down to the opposite bottom corner. I couldn't believe it. I didn't have the Facebook app. open, and I was working in an entirely different app.

I have been working with computers for years, and have never experienced this phenomenon before at any time, nor at any time since.

This was my first experience with the comforting signs that can be gifts, bestowed upon us from our loved ones from that other place, and I chose at that time to put it in the back of my head, as it was just too outrageous for me to deal with (it did relieve my anxiety.) But after the events of the past week, I am putting it all together and deciding I have too many coincidences now to disregard.

Today is Friday, June 22nd, just five days after my dearly loved Seamus passed from us (in the physical form) on Sunday, June 17th, and the writing is helping me to cope and to come to terms with what I have experienced. I have to say that I also carried out some unexplained actions during the two weeks before Seamus's death, (that appear to suggest that I subconsciously knew that he would be taken from us soon) but I will have to outline those in yet another post, as I feel I have written enough for now.

Thanks to the author of this article for allowing me to share my lengthy thoughts, experiences (and rambling) on this topic. Ultimately, we are all in this together and I hope people continue to share their experiences as a comfort and inspiration to others.

Remember, love is the greatest creative energy of all.

"Love Conquers All"

"The greatest of these is Love."