Allisyn writes about tarot, astrology, angel therapy, aromatherapy, feng shui, interior design, and human and animal behavior.
Is contact from our departed loved ones real or is it just wishful thinking? There are countless reports of the deceased communicating with their relatives. Some feel that they are actually helping us from the other side in our daily lives.
There are so many ways that our loved ones send us signs when they are around. Anything from the lights flickering to a butterfly landing on your shoulder. If you are in tune to noticing these signs, you will more than likely receive signs on a regular basis. Experts on the subject have reported that our departed relatives really enjoy it when we notice a sign they have sent us.
1. Butterfly Kisses
Seeing butterflies is one of the signs from your deceased loved ones. If you are seeing butterflies more than usual or you keep seeing the same color butterfly, chances are that your loved one is saying hello.
My sister passed in September so her memorial was in the fall and in the Midwest. At the gathering after the memorial, I was standing outside talking to my sister's husband and one of my cousins. A butterfly (which is kind of rare to see that time of year in the Midwest) came fluttering around us. We all noticed it at the same time and recognized that it was my sister saying hello.
One morning, about a week after the memorial, I was talking to my best friend on the phone and sitting out on my patio with my little dog, Watson. A butterfly flew over the privacy fence but I really didn't think too much about it because I live in Texas and butterflies are pretty common in this area all year round. The butterfly fluttered right in my face making me notice it and then swooped down and landed on Watson long enough to tickle him and flew off. I absolutely knew that it was a sign from my sister.
2. Smells and Scents
Your departed relatives can send you a scent or familiar smell to let you know they are nearby. Their perfume scent or the smell of something cooking that isn't cooking at the time. It could be anything that would remind you of them.
The smell of flowers out of nowhere is a common sign. Lavender and roses seem to be the most reported. My guess is because they are distinct and pungent scents. But if there was a citrus smell that relates to the two of you, then that might be the scent that you suddenly smell out of nowhere.
Flowers blooming out of season have been reported after a loved one passes over. Particularly right after they have crossed over. I see it as a rebirth sign from your loved one. Another time that you might see a flower bloom out of season is at special occasions in your life. Almost like your departed loved is sending you a gift.
Seeing the same flower or color of flower consistently enough for you to notice that it is happening is another way they will use flowers. Pink is the color that departed loved ones like to use the most because it is a color that has a love vibration.
4. Sensing a Presence
Feeling that your departed loved one is around. It could be anything from feeling a touch to seeing them. Hearing them in your ear or mind is often reported during a possible dangerous time in your life.
Most of the time, people say that seeing them or feeling them is a comforting and a very loving feeling. Your crossed over loved ones will not do anything that would scare you. They are really just wanting to let you know that they are there and well. If they scare you by appearing or touching you, then just let them know and they will find another way to contact you.
Our deceased loved ones have an energy that can effect our electronics. Lights flickering on and off. Your cell phone going haywire when you are talking about the departed loved one. Your computer shutting on when no one is near it. For some reason, electronics are reported quite a bit as messages from our departed relatives or friends. I can only assume that it might be easy for them because of a change in their energy.
People have reported getting a phone call from their departed relative's phone number and getting static when they answer. I have also read about departed loved ones sending you messages through radio stations with a song that reminds you of them. Especially during difficult times in your life to let you know that they are there with you.
Dreams are one of the most reported way that departed loved ones visit us. Sometimes it might be a whole conversation or just a cameo appearance saying hello. It is their way to let you know that they are well and fine. Or they might have a message that they are trying to tell you.
I have had most of my crossed over loved ones visit me in my dreams. About a year after my mom had passed, I was pregnant and had a dream that I still remember 33 years later like it was yesterday. In my dream she sat down with me and talked to me just like she would have if she were still alive. Her message was that she is fine and that she was still there for me. After my dad passed over, both my mom and my dad appear in my dreams together. Even if only one of them is interacting with me.
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7. Colorful Birds
Very colorful birds such as cardinals or blue jays are another sign that your deceased loved ones are nearby. Especially if one is looking at your through the window or making their presence known somehow.
Cardinals tend to be the bird that my family sends to me the most. After my sister passed, a cardinal built a nest in a bush right in front of my living room window that following spring. They have come back to that spot every year since.
The Path of Least Resistance
Not everyone hears from their departed loved ones on a regular basis or at all. Unfortunately, their subtle messages can go unnoticed if you aren't paying attention. The key is to keep your mind open and available for them to send you a message.
If your deceased loved one is appearing in another relative's dreams but never yours, It could be that they are taking the path of least resistance to get a message through. It seems to be so much easier for them if you are open to hearing from them. It might take some time after they pass over to get a message from them. My dad didn't appear in my dreams until years after he passed. I'm not sure why that was but it took him awhile. Once he did, he started to appear in my dreams pretty often for a few months.
Stay open to receiving messages. Talk to them and let them know that you are interested in having contact. Trust me, they can hear you. If you feel funny talking out loud to them, then just think it or write them a note. Creating a box that you put little notes in for your departed loved ones would be a fun way to get you to open up to receiving their messages.
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brian from uk on July 19, 2020:
hello im 100 percent sure about no 6 the dreams on several occassions just as i was starting to wake from my slumber a just departed spirit visited me i was suddenly thrust back to a scene were i was arm in arm with a woman walking down slopping road just under a small bridge like enclave then i woke up with tears in my eyes. i got up and dressed put the kettle on i went into the living room cause i could loud voices outside there was a group of people crowded round my neighbours flat i thought she had died as she has not been very well for year it turned out it was her exe husband who moved in above flat some years previously after some thought through the day it clicked his departing spirit had decided to visit me and show me the good times with his exe wife although these signs can be very subtle as spirit essence is very fine and it much easier to be contacted in dream as your consious mind is starting to wake
Michelle Audrey on January 27, 2020:
I am not sure about colorful birds, but I think it can be any. As I was coming up the steps with my groceries I saw a little brown bird. He was just sitting there on the step not moving at all. I smiled and bent down to pet his head. I told my family about it. My daughter asked if the bird was still out there. I looked and the bird was gone. I wondered and kind of believed it was a sign from my other daughter who passed on.
Rozy on January 12, 2020:
I see the same a very charming tall young man again and again in my dreams trying to get close to me his eyes are so attractive that i can't see away only can adore his face with both of my hands that feeling to touched by him like it has happened many times and each time the feeling get stronger is it possible that there was any relation between us nd i really don't know that person anyways but i feel very attached to him.....
Feeling Blessed on May 09, 2019:
You are so blessed for your husband to find a way to comfort you and dry your tears from the other side.
To be with you for the good and the bad times.
What I do with my friend is find things to do offering a pleasurable day for my friend to tag along.
I talk to my friend out loud and find many times things I see or hear to include butterflies let me know my friend can hear what I am saying to him.
I try not to cry so to be able to bring some joy to my friend.
The love you and your husband have for each other will never die.
It sounds like you are in a lot of pain to include emotional pain paired up this can be unbearable.
Be yourself as you are a strong women and try to relax as much as you can when enjoying a visit from your husband. Many people have a loved one around them daily. They just don't know it. You are never alone as all you need do is call your husband's name and he will be with you in a split second.
Concentrate - meditate - relax and send love to your husband holding quartz crystal to raise your vibration and bask in the healing love that not even time can ever take away from either of you.
Lucy Ariel on April 18, 2019:
I connect with my husband's spirit everyday. Our love is very much alive. He guides me when i don't know what to do. He comforts me. I am ill and in pain, knowing he is with me gives me the strength to deal with it. Sometimes i get very sad because i am so isolated by my illness and after nearly two years it's wearing me down. He finds it hard to see me cry and i feel him crying too or withdrawing when it gets too much. I wish i could lift my vibration and open my heart more so i can receive him more easily. I wonder if anyone has any advice regarding this issue.
Feelinng Blessed on March 04, 2019:
Communication by phone is a popular way for a passed loved one to try to let us know they are ok. Keep a open mind as our minds will discredit subtle messages over time one by one. Ask for confirmation from your son. And be ready for the answers as subtle as they may seem.Yes
this could have been a message sent by your son. Speak out loud and thank him and even if you can not hear him he will know the call did not go unanswered :-)
Pauline taylor on February 04, 2019:
my house phone rang last night 3 15 no number left could this be sprit world my sons birthday today he was born 315
Feeling Blessed on September 22, 2018:
Yes your brother watches over you!
I am sure it is hard for him to not to be able to let you know he is ok.
Listen for subtle messages as I am sure they will come.
Ask questions and open your mind and your heart for the different ways your brother may answer.
Keep a open mind.
Ask your brother to come to you in a dream.
Best wishes for you Suzanne.
Suzanne byrne on August 21, 2018:
My brother die 19 years now is he looking over me
Feeling Blessed on April 14, 2018:
After eight months from the time of first known contact with my friend in spirit.
I began visiting our childhood location and found so many things left for me prior to my friends death.
Written messages on signs and some of his things left in pairs in different parts of the same area for me to find.
I decided to buy a Nikon D3400 with a strong zoom lens to take pictures of things my friend wrote for me to find. Faded and old I can edit and enhance for a better chance of viewing the words better.
Speaking to my friend in spirit he let me know in thought transfer he had more to tell me but he wanted me to wait until I could take the pictures so he could help explain other things he wanted me to know.
I had to walk to the other side of a river to use the zoom lens to snap pictures of things my friend wrote on the other side of a bridge.
As I began taking the pictures I looked down at my feet and found my friends Jacket he left there for me to find 43 years ago.
In front of the jacket was a pair of boots set apart with only the ends showing above the pine needles.
I pulled one boot up and noticed a plastic bag. Inside the bag was my friends sports uniform - and items he collected from his childhood like a single favorite sock.
A pair of Tennis shoes my friend had on the last time I saw him. (Priceless)
I did not remember until 3 days after my friend had told me last time we spoke he would hide some things for me to remember him by.
On top of the gifts was a white bag with red print that said Thank You Thank You Thank You . The last note my friend and I wrote to each other was in red ink on white paper.
I began to cry my heart out as I thanked my friend calling out his name for guiding me to these things as they were all under the pine needles and no way for me to ever find on my own.
More and more is unfolding and becoming clear and each time I go to the hang out I find something new like a adventure.
I found dozens of balls following them to another place my friend wanted me to find. A way for my friend to let me know how bad he missed me. Like a marching band of emotion unfolding.
My friend was a master mind in communication to have found a way to let me know he missed me as much as I missed him.
I speak to my friend each day and words cannot express my appreciation to God as a ongoing relationship growing stronger each day is much more than I would have ever even thought possible. Love never dies.
My friend told me I am not going to loose him and he will never leave me unless I asked him to go.
Wanting my friend to go would be like wanting to fall down stairs lol
Thanks for this site for me to be able to share this as I keep this private and cannot talk about this with my friends.
Allisyn Nichols (author) from Texas on January 23, 2018:
That was beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing that story.
Feeling Blessed on January 21, 2018:
It has been just over 5 months now from the time I got thought transfer messages from my friend who passed 38 years ago.
I have been so blessed to enjoy daily protection with my friend as a guardian angel.
I have given up on the idea of any doubt as my friend has confirmed so many times in so many ways he watches over me! friends forever. At times I cry and yet it is not just for sadness it's for such a miracle to be able to know my friend has found a way to break the barriers of death. I never feel alone any more and with the use of a pendulum or thought transfer my friend is never further than calling his name. Two or three gifts of our memories arrived each day the past months and now at least one over hours if I ask for another :-) Thanks goes to God. Death is not the final page it's the beginning of a new journey of life.
Jay C OBrien from Houston, TX USA on September 06, 2017:
Let me suggest some verified experiences, see:
Allisyn Nichols (author) from Texas on September 04, 2017:
Thank you so much for sharing that beautiful story!
Feeling Blessed on September 04, 2017:
A month ago I saw a add for a car for sale from the city my best childhood friend lived all his life. My friend passed 38 years ago. I began getting thoughts of our times together that I had forgot. Some important some not. As I began getting more memories each day some became confirmation of contact because I knew I would not have remembered on my own. Like when someone reminds you of a past event and then you say oh yeah I remember. You would not have remembered on your own. This has happen now over and over. I cried as my friend reminded me I told him I would miss him when I last saw him as we lived 78 miles away. I am so happy to hear from my friend and try not to be sad he has died so to be able to bring him some joy and try to celebrate his life and thank God for being friends with such a awesome person. Yes departed friends and family do watch over us and they will share confirmation if we ask. And it may not be a instant answer as it may take time or even days or weeks for the thought to enter our minds for confirmation.
Allisyn Nichols (author) from Texas on March 19, 2017:
Wow Praveen that is really cool. I loved Charlie Chaplin movies. I'm very much looking forward to reading all that he has told you.
Allisyn Nichols (author) from Texas on March 19, 2017:
Thank you Praveen. I tried to go to your article to read it but it said that it isn't published yet. Let me know when it is published and I would love to read it. Allisyn
Jay C OBrien from Houston, TX USA on February 01, 2017:
It would be nice to believe in contact from dead loved ones, but are these events real? Where is the verification? What kind of spirits hang around the earth plane? Are Near Death Experiences real? Telepathy?