Are Ghosts Attracted to Certain People?
Spirits All Around Us
For those who have had paranormal experiences, we know that spirits can be all around us at any given moment. It's just that most people don't realize it. Ghosts come in all different shapes and sizes and colors. They appear at historical landmarks, on ancient battlegrounds, in forests, in the middle of the ocean, and even in our own homes. You might see them walking down the street of a busy city or bouncing around as an orb on an old railroad track.
Ghosts exist whether we can explain them with science or not. Theories abound as to whether they are actual human spirits caught between this world and the next or potentially trapped residual energy from past traumatic events. Or are they simply a glance into the past, a sort of time travel film on display to those who are in the wrong place at the right time? Ghosts can be nice, angry, apathetic, or sad. They show emotion and sometimes not at all. The question is, why do some people experience ghosts and spirits and others never do? Could it be that ghosts are attracted to certain people?
Believers vs. Non-believers
Does belief in certain things equal actual experiences with these things? For example, people who believe in God seem to have spiritual experiences, whereas those who don't believe in God claim they've had none. This goes for those who believe in ghosts, as well. Many people who believe in the spiritual world have experiences of the paranormal variety, whereas those who don't believe in ghosts say they don't exist because they've never seen or heard one in real life. Maybe it's not that ghosts don't exist so they've never seen one, maybe it's that they are blocking out the ability to see them.
A theory to this anomaly is that when one expands their mind to the spiritual world, one is opening up a channel to receive more information. This information could include having the ability to see, hear, or sense nearby spirits of different kinds. As human beings, we consciously and subconsciously choose what we want to see or not see. There's a psychological name for this - scotomization. Scotomization explains why people unknowingly "block out" certain experiences in life that may be traumatic or damaging to their psyche in some way. So if I tell myself I don't believe in ghosts, in order to protect my psyche or not; I may mentally block out any potential sightings or paranormal experiences whether I consciously find them frightening or not. This is why you hear people who don't believe say , "well, if they exist why haven't I seen one?" It's because you don't believe. To be cheesy and quote The Santa Clause movie, "believing is seeing."
"Seeing isn't believing. Believing is seeing."— The Santa Clause movie
Psychics and Mediums
Along the same lines of believers being able to see ghosts more readily, people with certain seemingly "psychic" powers also seem to see and experience ghosts more so than others. Are these people actually "psychic" or are they simply believers that have practiced tapping into that spiritual side of their brain that allows them to see spirits?
There are different kinds of sensitive people. There are those who are clairvoyant, which might give them the ability to see spirits or get flashes of images in their minds. Then there are clairsentients who might feel the presence of a spirit. There are also clauraudients who would be able to hear a ghost speaking or moving. A psychic medium is another type in which the person might make contact with a spirit and deliver its message to another person. They might also be able to tap into the past, present, and future.
The question stands - are spirits around us all of the time and it's just a matter if one can see or feel them? Or are they attracted to certain kinds of people and seek them out, such as psychics and sensitives?
Children and Mothers
Something I've noticed in my personal paranormal experiences is the seemingly real attraction of ghosts to children and mothers. In my own home and with my own children, we've had creepy experiences with spirits seeming to intrude when our children were very young. In my son's case, he was a newborn and we were hearing a man's voice over the baby monitor. One can debate this and say it was interference, but the voice seemed very calculated in what it was saying and seemed to want something from my son.
In my daughter's case, there was paranormal activity going on in her room at an old house we lived in. We could hear her closet door open in the middle of the night, and then hear someone walk out into the hallway and then into the living room. Both my husband and I heard this on numerous occasions, checked it out, and verified it wasn't our toddler daughter asleep in her bed. In both cases, I went into full cleansing mode and smudged my entire house, then blessed the windows and doors with oil and protective symbols. This stopped the activity.
There are dozens and dozens of stories of hauntings that involve children. Look at some of the infamous hauntings in the past century and it often revolves around the children (at least initially): Amityville, the Perron family haunting (inspired the movie The Conjuring), the Haunting in Connecticut with the Snedeker family), and the list goes on. In the Amityville haunting, the first people to notice the haunting was the children. There were stories of the kids levitating, ghosts talking to them, etc. In the Snedeker haunting in Connecticut, the son who is eventually diagnosed with cancer seems to be the most disturbed by the spirits in the basement. The same story goes with the story that inspired The Conjuring 2 - the little girl seems to be plagued by an old man's spirit while the others watch.
Why would ghosts and spirits be attracted to children? Children are pure beings, fresh souls in a somewhat tarnished world. They are innocent and their innocence is like a beacon of light in the darkness, therefore could very well attract moths. Another theory is that they are more vulnerable and trustworthy. It could also be that children are more attuned to the spiritual world. They haven't lost their imagination or wonder and are more likely to believe in the spiritual world because they haven't gone through years of being told these things don't exist (see the first paragraph on believers vs. non-believers).
As for ghosts being attracted to mothers, in some hauntings there are child-ghosts or child-like spirits that are attracted to women who are mothers. This is more of an obvious reason - if a child dies and becomes a ghost any woman who reminds the child of his or her mother he or she might be attracted to. Or any woman who comes the ghost's way might be attractive to the child, sadly. During a trip to Montana, my family and I stayed in a nice condominium in downtown Whitefish. The first day we were there, I was standing in the kitchen and heard a child call "mama". The odd thing about it was that my son was sleeping, my daughter was in the next room quietly watching TV, and I knew the voice wasn't one of my children's. That same day, my daughter wiped the table off with a wet towel and letters popped up in the moisture that sad "don't leave". My husband saw the words and told me. So was there a child's ghost in the building that was attracted to us because of our family dynamic?
People Who Dabble in the Occult
Another type of person that spirits seem to be attracted to are those who dabble in the occult. This could be a teenager who decides to "play" around with an Ouija board. This could be a woman who consults the tarot cards and does a few love spells. Or it could even be a grown man who investigates hauntings who brings these ghosts back home with him. Again, this goes back to believers versus non-believers and also psychically-sensitive people. All of these things could combine and attract ghosts. But when a person knowingly dabbles in the occult (mysteries), they are also like a light to moths.
When a person engages with the other-side, in whatever way that might be, they could very well be opening a door or portal to allow the spirits to come through. There are so many stories on the internet about kids who played with Ouija boards, thinking they were harmless, then finding out that there are spirits that seem to "come through" the board and stick around wreaking havoc on the people who played with it.
If you are going to dabble in the occult, you should also know how to protect yourself spiritually and protect your home from spiritual invasion. This includes learning how to properly smudge your home and yourself, drawing protective circles and barriers when need be, and how to eradicate any negative energy or entity that might decide to intrude.
So Which Is It?
So which is it? Are ghosts attracted to certain people like believers, psychics, kids, and occult-dabblers or is it possible that spirits are around us all of the time and there are certain people who see and experience them over others?
Whatever the reason for paranormal activity, one thing is for sure - when you've experienced it there's no denying it. We can explain it away or try to rationalize, but in the end ghosts are real. Whether they are figments of our psyche manifested, residual energy from traumatic events, or lost souls is a decision everyone should make for themselves.
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