Noted internet lesbians Stevie Boebi and Jessica Kellgren-Fozard have released their third annual edition of Sweet Aunt, Spicy Aunt in which they answer Yuletide questions from viewers on how to survive the holidays. They delve into a common question in the pagan community: “How do I deal with all the Jesus stuff when I have religious trauma?” This question is uniting many demographics who seek to celebrate the winter holiday with community, kindness, and charity to the less fortunate rather than radical commercialization or religious extremities.
Stevie describes herself as a former Catholic who also suffers from religious trauma. She describes the differences she has discovered since moving to the United Kingdom, explaining that comparatively to the United States it is a far less religious country but also much more traditional. She uses an example of Nativity plays which are everywhere in the UK but have things like giant lobsters and rainbows rather than the birth of Jesus. She also points to the new trend of re-inventing the lyrics of Christmas carols to more traditional Yule lyrics as a coping strategy and the pagan roots of nearly everything about the holiday season.
Jessica is a Quaker, a religious group known for extending friendship, refusing to participate in war, refusing to swear oaths, and opposing slavery. She describes the process of explaining Christmas to her toddler as very odd, that it’s a birthday celebration for a person who lived a very long time ago and you don’t actually get to meet the person whose birthday it is even though that is unlike every other birthday celebration her son has experienced. She jokes that was a tougher concept for her son to understand than Joseph being the father but also not the father, a self-reference to raising a son with her wife.
Jessica elaborates on the Quaker views regarding Jesus, explaining their belief is that all people are the children of god, everybody is equal, so while they view Jesus as a historical figure his being a child of god is taken as a given because everybody is. She also discusses the pagan roots of Yule and Saturnalia, teasing a future video in which she delves into the topic at more length which is scheduled for release on December 28th.
The overlapping value of viewing all human life as sacred have caused many from all walks of life to seek the deeper roots of Christmas traditions to reconcile the cognitive dissonance between what the holiday should be versus what it has become.