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Victim of Abuse Gets Cord Cutting Ceremony Done and It Is an Awe-Inspiring Sight

She aggressively cut that cord, and we love that for her!

Cord cutting rituals have become a popularized tool for helping one to purposefully and intentionally sever emotional ties to people they wish to cut out of their lives. This can be an especially powerful experience to survivors of abuse situations. This survivor’s candle representation fights back and leaves us cheering for their future successes.


A popular method of cord cutting utilizes two candles, often one white to represent the person cutting the cord and one black to represent the person being cut off. The candles are set a few inches apart with a loop of twine loosely circling the two wicks. It is best to set the candles in sand to absorb the heat and many choose to circle the base of the candle with magical blends of herbs and crystals to focus the intentions of the cutting.

Once the two candles are lit, the survivors white candle very quickly sets the cord on fire. The flame sends little flares down the twine towards the abuser’s candle, like a whip of fire lashing out. The flame fully consumes the survivor’s side of the twine while the abusers side of the twine has remained unlit despite the twine touching the black candle’s flame. The white candle side of the twine starts to break apart and finally the flame reaches to the black candle. When the cord finally severs the bulk falls on the abuser’s black candle. The two candles are left to burn in isolation but black wax starts to reach toward the white candle, like a tentacle making one last attempt to grab prey.

This last symbolic attempt to connect is often reported after cord cutting ceremonies, with the person cut off making one last attempt to reach out in real life to keep the connection alive. In conjunction with the physical cord cutting representations, it is also recommended to do a series of visualizations focusing on the invisible connections the twine is representing.