As a neuroscientist and a spiritual person, I am passionate about the overlap between the two and helping others manifest their dream life.
1. Adopt the 'Trickster' Archetype
95% of people move through life in a stoic and compromized way, exuding the same dull wavelength of energy and never manifesting magic. We are wired to focus on obstacles and to play it safe; the human brain has evolved to protect us and keep us alive in this mortal realm. However, those same neural mechanisms have us fearing the unknown, adhering to meaningless social rules and living in an 'autopilot' state.
If you master playing the role of the trickster, however, I whole-heartedly promise you that your reality will transform into an expansive playground and that you will effortlessly attract people and opportunities that thrill you. One of the infamous Jungian archetypes, the trickster is exempt from many of the laws of nature, slipping through life fluidly and with a smirk.
The most effective way to embody this yourself is to remain cognizant that:
- Life is a mere game. Just as you can 'level up' on all modalities in a video game (health, wealth, love), you can quite literally expand yourself in whichever direction you desire in this reality.
- The default human state is to drift through life asleep, while allowing negative thoughts to snowball. Such a mentality may have you considered 'logical' in our society, but will never align you with magic.
- You, in contrast, are tremendously blessed to have stumbled upon information about the laws that underpin the 3D illusion that we consider reality. Use this to your advantage.
- When we really desire something, our brains bombard us with illusory obstacles. Reject these and realize that a). there is enough of everything to go around and b). we all have different goals.
- Everyone can manifest their dream job, soulmate, friendships, pets and home and should be urged to; we need more people who have expanded into the most exquisite and satisfied forms of themselves. Never slip back into a scarcity-based mindset - your friends finding their twin flames will, in actual fact, facilitate you meeting yours. If your brother becomes rich, this will open doors for you rather than detrimentally affecting your chances.
- People are mere actors in the play that is your life; picture them ready and waiting to synchronize their behavior to the beliefs that you hold in your head. If you expect them to be warm, interesting and generous, they will act in this way. If you anticipate unfriendly stares or rivalry dynamics at work, these outcomes will also come to pass.
Strive to be lucid and playful, aware of the fact that you are, yourself, a fragment of The Source. Others are too, but very few possess the emotional intelligence and receptivity that you do so will be resistant to tune into their powers.
If you have passed through life up until this point believing that you are obliged to perform a fixed societal role, work for the same company and endure the same, painful small-talk on a daily basis, now is the time to approach reality in a novel way. Through changing your inner world, the energy that you radiate will be so different that it will be impossible for you to not become a magnet for stimulating, wild and beautiful things.
2. Everyone Is You Pushed Out
What if I told you that you can control anyone's opinion of and behavior towards you, just by holding the desired image of them in your head? Based on Neville Goddard's famous teachings, this fascinating concept has transformed my professional, social and romantic life.
Successfully putting 'EIYPO' into practice relies on the understanding of one core principle: you are always the active creator of your interactions and bonds with people, rather than a passive 'experiencer' of social situations. In less whimsical terms, people act a certain way towards you (whether warming to you instantly, surprising you with spontaneous invites or belittling you) because you believe that they will do so.
I can almost see you reeling in shock, wondering how anyone (let alone a neuroscientist) could preach something so logically unsound. However, humans have a). extremely malleable subconscious minds and b). a strong tendency to mirror energy and behavior. This model and behavioral neuroscience are complementary models of this reality, rather than being mutually exclusive.
I, too, grew up convinced that certain people naturally fit into our lives and that others are destined to be walking nightmares for us. Since experiencing incredibly surreal and unwavering success from 'EIYPO', however, I've altered my stance towards the world, realizing that I am actively eliciting all interpersonal dynamics that I am affected by.
Consider the different facts that you tell yourself about people (generally, or about specific individuals). This may look something like:
- My boss thinks that I don't work hard enough, which is unfair.
- I love the French language, but I get laughed at when I try and speak it; French people are so rude.
- My connection with my best friend never fades, even after months of not talking.
While you most likely think that such beliefs are mere derivations from your past experiences, they are actually negative affirmations that have created those very experiences. 'EIYPO' never stops working, and has dictated every single human bond that you have formed up until this day. Why not take hold of the reigns and produce positive, stimulating and hilarious results, rather than allowing yourself to run on 'default' and attract social outcomes that mirror your insecurities and unhealed wounds?
Experiment a little; see how a stable and soft friendship can turn awkward and stilted when you start to engage with some negative thoughts about that person. Hold a scene in your head of yourself being applauded at work and the most popular person in the office, and watch it come to pass in real life. Nothing is out of your reach; the girl who doesn't seem to like you in your social circle will invite you out for dinner within a month if you adhere to the image of you two getting close. You are God!
3. Realize That Anyone Is Replaceable
We are all familiar with the concept that one cannot rely heavily on another person for their own happiness. Some equate this with nihilism, advising against building a world in a human who could easily leave you, while others find peace in seeing life as a river and attaching to nothing. However, many of these angles fail to address the real (and far less harrowing) reason as to why you need not fear losing connections or have anyone on a pedestal.
The truth is that your external, 3D reality is a mere computer print-out of your inner world. Whatever beliefs you hold about yourself, your skills, your personality and life itself will be reflected in the things that you a). attract and b). manage to keep in your life.
You have probably heard Law of Attraction gurus preaching that you cannot have anything that does not align with your beliefs, and while this may sound uncomfortably metaphysical, it is totally tenable with regards to neuroscience and quantum physics. If you do not watch your mental diet with scrutiny, you will attract toxic relationships, money struggles and a compromized existence, because the brain tends to swerve us towards self-doubt and a scarcity mindset.
However, the upside is as follows: once you learn that your assumptions directly create your reality, you become the self-realized operant power of your own life. It dawns on you that you can be best friends with anyone you come across, date anyone who sparkles to you and, tangentially, keep people in your life for as long as you wish. Since you bring yourself and your set of beliefs everywhere that you go, you will effortlessly fill your life with people that align with your true self regardless of where you are living.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Lucy
Kelly on June 24, 2020:
How do you recommend implementing these tricks? I would love to be more effective in creating a more magical-feeling life, especially in the love and work department. At the moment, I'm a limerant I think and work is hard, busy, and unsatisfying.