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How to Use Crystals to Bring Balance and Positivity to Your Life

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I have studied crystal healing for many years and have studied and been attuned to reiki levels one, two, and masters.

Crystals can bring many benefits to life.

Crystals can bring many benefits to life.

Restore Balance

Seeking to find balance in life generally refers to one of two things. Many people seek to find the ideal balance between different aspects of life—for example, balancing work and leisure time. Or, it can mean a journey to find inner balance and harmony within ourselves, usually bringing peace to our mind, body, and spirit.

Both of these goals can be difficult to achieve as part of a busy modern life, and you may even feel that they are impossible. It is easy to get so wrapped up in day-to-day living that inner peace and balance are forgotten or become that ‘something’ you’ll do tomorrow but never get around to. Unfortunately, the modern lifestyle of working long hours, feeling under constant pressure and stress, and rushing from place to place can be the cause of imbalance and unhappiness in life.

Crystals can be used to help restore the balance between your needs and responsibilities in life. They can be used on their own or as a part of other beneficial techniques such as meditation.

Turquoise can enhance your self-expression.

Turquoise can enhance your self-expression.

Use Turquoise to Aid Self-Expression

Turquoise has long been regarded as a sacred stone by many ancient religions and cultures. It is associated with truth and works with the throat chakra due to its blue colour. This crystal can be used to help with communication issues such as asking for what you want or need from others or expressing yourself more effectively. Turquoise is also a good choice of crystal for releasing inhibitions and giving you courage in difficult situations.

Wear a Turquoise Necklace or Pendant

An excellent way to work with turquoise in this way is to wear a beaded turquoise necklace or one with a turquoise pendant. The necklace should be short in length so that it rests only on your throat area. If using a necklace, the pendant should sit on the centre of your throat. This will allow the crystal to be most effective in working with this chakra and should open up your ability to communicate well.

Meditate With the Crystal

You can also work with turquoise to aid self-expression by meditating with the crystal placed on the throat chakra. This could be done using a necklace or by lying down and balancing a stone in the correct position. The crystal should be cleansed after use, or you should cleanse regularly if you wear it constantly. One easy way to do this is to remove the necklace at night and leave it on a windowsill in the moonlight.

Use Rose Quartz to Soothe Troubled Emotions

Rose quartz is commonly known as the stone of unconditional love. It is an excellent choice for matters concerning emotions and all types of love. Over time, our emotions can be subjected to a number of upsets, large and small. What can be surprising at times is how seemingly insignificant issues can build up and result in much larger and more volatile emotions. These may include arguments or stress at work, falling out with a friend or family member, and dealing with a demanding person or workload.

Examples of larger, more traumatic or difficult events that can more obviously trigger emotions include divorce, moving house, or losing your job. All of these assaults on the emotions can lead to negative thinking and leave you feeling vulnerable, hurt, unlovable, and low. Taking some time out to heal and gain a clearer mind can help to restore your emotional balance and feelings of self-love and self-worth.

Take a Hot Bath With Rose Quartz

A simple exercise that can be used to both soothe your emotions and relax you physically is to take a hot bath with a rose quartz crystal. Place the crystal into the bath and set the water to suit your preferred temperature. If you wish, you can add some calming essential oils to the water or an oil burner (placed on a suitable surface). Rosemary, chamomile, rose, or ylang-ylang are good choices of oils that can help you relax and calm your emotions.

Note: If you wish to use oils, be sure to check that they are essential oils and not fragrance or perfume oils. Although these still smell pleasant, they are artificially created products and do not possess the natural healing properties of true essential oils.

Once the bath is ready, lie back in the water and feel its calming and soothing energy washing over you. Pick up the rose quartz crystal and hold it over your heart. Visualise the calming energy of the stone travelling throughout your body and releasing any tension or stress. Place the crystal back into the water and continue to soak in the water for as long as you wish. Once you have finished, remember to cleanse the crystal by your preferred method to prevent the build-up of negative energies.

Rose quartz is often called the stone of unconditional love.

Rose quartz is often called the stone of unconditional love.

Remove Negative Belief Patterns With Green Calcite

Green calcite is a useful stone for balancing masculine and feminine energies and for grounding emotions. It can also be used to help us recognise and let go of old beliefs that have no benefit.

Throughout our lives, we observe or are taught lessons that stick in our minds and then create patterns of beliefs and behaviour. Many of these are beneficial to us, but some can have negative or even harmful effects. For example, if a person is often criticised for not trying hard enough or is called lazy or told that they are wasting time, it can create feelings of never being good enough. Once this message is internalized and becomes a regular pattern of thought, this person may feel that they are never going to be enough, no matter how much they do. This type of belief can then create problems such as workaholism, not being able to relax, and struggling to do things purely for enjoyment.

Green calcite is a crystal that can help gently release these types of negative beliefs. This can be very useful in creating a healthy and more enjoyable balance between work, family, and leisure. This stone will support you as you begin to recognise any thought or belief patterns that no longer serve you and as you try to let them go.

How to Meditate With Green Calcite

When you have identified a problem area, begin to work with your green calcite. For example, if you realize that you are unable to allow yourself time for your hobbies because of a core belief that you must work as much as possible to prove your worth, begin to visualise what changes you would like to make in this area. Consider how you would like this situation to be in the future—perhaps you will work less on weekends or will join that evening class you’ve planned on going to for months.

  1. Once you have a goal in mind, sit in a quiet room where you won’t be disturbed and hold your green calcite stone. Hold the stone over your heart and visualise its balancing, calming energy flowing into your heart and throughout your whole body.
  2. Think about the pattern you are seeking to change and why it is no longer welcome in your life. See the crystal's energy wrap around this pattern and dissolve it away to nothing.
  3. Now visualise a more positive and balanced way of thinking within the energy that is flowing throughout you from the crystal. Keep your thoughts positive and affirming, such as ‘it is good for me to spend time on the things I enjoy’ or ‘my happiness is an important part of my life’. (You may wish to say these out loud and this is fine as it can help reinforce the thoughts.)
  4. Once you feel ready, visualise your new belief pattern in action—for example, this may be you working on a hobby or taking a trip you’ve always wanted.
  5. Continue for as long as needed before slowly bringing your awareness back to the room and present moment.

This exercise can be repeated as often as needed. Be aware that very deep-seated beliefs may take several tries to overcome successfully.

A raw specimen of green calcite.

A raw specimen of green calcite.

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

Questions & Answers

Question: Which crystals are good for protecting against energy vampires?

Answer: Black tourmaline and black obsidian are good choice in this situation. Be sure to cleanse the crystal regularly.

Question: What crystal can you recommend for situations where I am stressed?

Answer: Lepidolite and blue lace agate are good calming crystals that can help in relieving stress. I also have a hub on crystals for stress at

Question: I am Deist , can I be a witch ?

Answer: Yes, anyone can practice witchcraft. It does not matter which religion you follow, if you are atheist or somewhere in between. Witchcraft and religion can be combined (if you wish) or practiced separately.

© 2017 Claire


Fayleen on March 30, 2019:

Really aw wow

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on March 28, 2019:

I agree about home education. My two youngest sons are home educated and we love it. The freedom and creativity really fit our family well. My twelve year old has autism and the school system just wasn't the right place for him.

Fayleen on March 26, 2019:

Im glad the writing is enjoyable. I just like to do the comments. Its nice that there is some earnings as well. I just did all the comments for fun. And also cause past experiences were difficult to talk about and we need to talk even if its just online. Im trying to promote homeschooling to my youngest sons nursery and im skiving. With my. Other son its a bit different cause i felt as though the school was a safety net cause his dad and me separated. I feel like ive not got time to rationalise cause i got a bit confused. Its not suprising eh. Maybe the gems can help

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on March 25, 2019:

Hello, that is very kind of you. We work hard and do get some compensation but many write becaus ethey enjoy it too. I am pleased and lucky that I can work doing things I enjoy and helping others.

Aspergers is a form of autism. I have written about it in the past as I have studied autism, SEN and psychology for many years. Two of my sons have autism too.

Fayleen on March 24, 2019:

Hi claire im not sure what article it was but you mentioned somthing about an illness was it asperhers or somthing. Claire the diagnoses was not acurate at all. I am currently on health benefits and yes it needs to be paid but the diagnosis can not be accurate. It was not your fault and there is alot of success in these articles. I hope you are getting enough payments and i also hope that the article writers at exemplore are getting financial assistance from the advertisers its only fair.

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on February 07, 2019:

I recently bought a Lemurian Seed point and it certainly is a lovely crystal.

Fayleen on February 05, 2019:

The lemuriun seed quartz points are lovely. The natural ones are all nice and the aura quartz are well cool. Ive got a rainbow aura quartz and its one of the best things i bought. Hope all is going well.happy healing.

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on January 03, 2019:

I totally agree and have quite a collection now. My latest buy was a lemurian seed quartz point so I am looking forward to working with that soon.

Fayleen on January 02, 2019:

Yes the palm stones are nice to. It's great fun shopping for crystals. I like to look up the healing qualities of each gem/ crystal and they can be suited to whatever we need them for. :-)

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on December 28, 2018:

Having the crystal faceted is a great idea, thank you. Palmstones are also useful for using as you suugested and can be carried in a pocket easily and discretly due to being very thin.

Fayleen on December 14, 2018:

The comment though about the broken crystals. Many jewellers facet gems/crystals so they can be worn and are all shiny and nice. Whatever the preference or return them to where they began. Crystals worn can be good for at for a example tense moment hold on to say the pendant and count to 10 and breathe deep and then say it's ok now. :-)

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on June 13, 2018:

Many people believe that when it crystal breaks it means that it has finished it's work with you or has absorbed a particularly large hit of negative energy. They are then returned to the Earth by burying them or placing them in the sea or other natural body of water.

Radhika on June 08, 2018:

A couple of my crystals, quartz and rose quartz broke recently. Can i still use them for healing??

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on February 22, 2018:

I totally agree. Crystals are also an excellent addition to meditation.

Fayleen on February 20, 2018:

Hi Claire I like gemstones and crystals & believe that combined with relaxation they can work healing wonders. Massage & aromatherapy added is even better eh.

Claire (author) from Lincolnshire, UK on September 28, 2017:

Thank you for your kind coments. I totally agree about telling the difference between real and fake stones. I have found it's best to buy from a reputatble shop or website, where staff have knowledge about crystals and their uses.

Andy, there are some good websites online that sell a variety of crystals. You could also search online and see if you have anywhere local to you so you can see the stones in person.

Maurice Glaude from Mobile on September 26, 2017:

I need to get more turquoise.. IT's the Shaman's stone.. :)

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on September 26, 2017:

Great article about crystal healing!

I do believe in crystal healing and own some of these beautiful precious stones. To recognise the real ones is the greatest challenge.

Thanks for sharing this interesting and informative hub!