Andrea has a background in Myers-Briggs and Western astrology. She mostly writes about relationships.
The Queen of Cups
The Queen of Cups is what many women desire to be—refined in their relationships, emotionally mature, and in tune with their intuition. The Queen of Cups has a heart that moves other people. She is seen as compassionate, loyal, and charming.
All of the suited face cards have an additional element to them, besides the one they carry from the suit itself. The face cards have the following elemental associations:
- Page = Earth
- Knight = Fire
- Queen = Water
- King = Air
The Queen of Cups gets a double dosage of water. She is considered the ideal queen and is the standard of beauty, virtue, and motherhood.
The Queens often represent someone's mother, a loyal friend, or a caregiver. The inverted version of the card represents a false lover, a deceitful friend, or a companion who is keeping a secret.
The Reversed Queen of Cups is someone who pretends to be pure of heart, but she's actually duplicitous. This woman has evil intent and selfish motives.
The card shows a mature woman sitting on a throne outside. She has long, golden locks, like those seen in medieval paintings. She holds a stylish cup with a lid—the only lidded cup in the suit. The cup has handles shaped like angels.
She sits on a throne facing the sea. Her throne is decorated with images of nymphs, mermaids, fish, crustaceans, and the like.
There are no clouds in the bright-blue sky. The water is calm, and the waves are low. The woman rests her feet on colorful pebbles. She wears a golden crown, a long white dress, and a highly decorated cloak. She is noticeably beautiful and composed.
Compassionate, caring, motherly, nurturing, intuitive, in flow, emotionally stable, maturity, graceful, kind, loving, sweet, beauty, peaceful, soul mate, reassuring, considerate.
Inner feelings, self-care, self-love, codependency, emotionally immature, fearful, worrisome, can't relax, selfish, dramatic, devilish, impish, mocker, insulting, condescending, trickster.
Yin and Yang
Mars, Sun, Jupiter
Mercury, Venus, Saturn
Mercury, Venus, Uranus
Moon, Pluto, Neptune
Head, Heart, Thighs
Throat, Chest, Legs
Arms, Belly, Ankles
Hands, Root Chakra, Feet
Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
Upright Queen of Cups
The Queen of Cups represents a woman in someone's life. She is kind, loving, generous, and pretty much any nice word you can imagine. This represents someone in your life who you likely love, adore, and praise. It could be a friend, a sibling, a teacher, a mother, or even a romantic interest.
The Queen of Cups embodies what I would call nurturing mother energy. She supports others by listening to their worries, by offering hugs, and preparing food. She has a way of bringing light to people and cares for everything she touches. The Queen of Cups doesn't dismiss people or make fun of them. She works really hard to get to know others and see them beyond their flaws.
This is a woman who might work in a religious setting, at a nursing home, a daycare, or something philanthropic. The Queen of Cups seeks benevolence, so she is attracted to things that she considers godly.
The Queen of Cups is someone who can tune into the needs and emotions of others. She knows how to be authentic and is marked by her empathy toward all. The Queen of Cups has mastered emotional expression and maturity and doesn't get lost in other people's energy. She stays well-grounded and knows where to create healthy dissonance with others. She knows how to maintain her identity while also offering unconditional love to others.
If the Queen of Cups represents you, it indicates you are highly intuitive, creative, and in flow with your surroundings. You read people easily and communicate well. Others come to you to confide their personal issues regarding their relationships. People look to you for advice. They trust you'll have solutions to their problems.
You can instantly tune into what people are going through and make sense of it. You have the gifts of a healer, councilor, or psychic. More importantly: you have the skills to be a good friend.
To have a friend like this, or to be the Queen of Cups yourself, means you can see the Divine in others. You look for the good in them.
The Queen of Cups navigates her creative projects by feeling her way into them. She trusts her heart to make the right judgement calls. You can feel it in your bones when something is off. You pay attention to that unpleasant feeling even if everything appears to look right on the surface.
Maternal energy is like the phases of the moon. It shifts daily to produce new images. The Moon is like a canvas in the sky, and it has a different performance each night. The Moon doesn't like to play the same old song and dance like the Sun. The Moon offers variety, beauty, and romance.
You're comforted by the night and time to yourself. You have a love for relaxation: you desire to be content. You find truths in your dreams. The Queen of Cups card indicates a significant level of understanding when it comes to the subconscious, which is great because that makes it easier to work with the conscious mind.
Trust Your Intuition
The Queen of Cups card encourages you to trust your intuition. Don't go against your intuition. You might be tempted by something, but taking the bait will come with consequences. Risky behavior and gambling will usually end in loss.
Lead with your heart, not your head. The zodiac sign Cancer tries to teach this. The sign is considered the mother of the zodiac. She is pregnant for several signs and gives birth to the new cycle. Aries, Taurus, and Gemini are her children.
Be open minded. Receive the messages that are coming to you. Allow yourself to have epiphanies. Be comfortable with dreams, meditation, and visualization. Spend time to really get to know yourself and to be in a good relationship with yourself.
You'll develop better friendships if you are in a better relationship with yourself. Your friendships will feel tense if you're in a bad relationship with yourself. The Queen of Cups has excellent relationships because she is in tune with her internal voice. She knows her subconscious and her intuition. She isn't afraid of herself.
Some people are naturally more intuitive than others. These are people who can understand patterns. They tend to reflect on the past and consider the future.
Other people are more grounded. They think almost entirely about the present. These are sensing types who live in their eyes, ears, mouth, nose, and the like. If you're wanting to stretch your intuition, here are some things you can do:
- Reflect on your memories. Both the good and bad.
- Look through old pictures.
- Read books.
- Do puzzles online and math problems.
- Try learning a language.
- Write down your dreams when you wake up.
- Drink plenty of water and then meditate.
- Try praying, even if you don't believe in a god, use prayer to express gratitude for the things in your life.
- Spend time visualizing where you think your life will go in five years, ten years, and so on.
- Tidy up your home. When there is a lot of clutter present it can clog up your intuition.
- When you first wake up, reflect on your thoughts.
Reversed Queen of Cups
When this card is in the reversed position, it means you need to draw your attention inward. You're trying too hard with others and are not in good shape emotionally. This could mean you haven't slept in awhile, you've done a restless amount of work, or you just haven't been alone in a long time.
You're great at taking care of others, but you're not giving yourself the same treatment. You're getting drained by others and too busy to support yourself. Set firm boundaries with loved ones, so they don't take advantage of you and your charms.
Hold space for others, but remind them their feelings are their responsibility. They need to learn how to take care of themselves. They need to go on their own journey to learn how to cope.
This card could come up for a mother who has a child about to go to college. She may want to hold onto the child forever, but she needs to let the child go. The child has grown and needs to explore the world.
It's hard to let our children go, but it's important. You've succeeded as a parent if your child has a desire to step into the world. Trust that they have the right skills to make sense of all the things and people they'll encounter. Trust that they'll come home to visit and connect with you.
The Reversed Queen of Cups could mean you're in a codependent relationship. This is common for people with complex emotions, or if they have a lot of water in their natal chart. Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces are all addicted to relationships, and they want to merge with someone badly. They don't always know how to build boundaries and independence for themselves—Cancer and Pisces struggle with this more than Scorpio.
It's important to avoid the codependency traps. As an adult, you want to build up some income for yourself even if you are more of the caregiver and your partner is more of the provider. You need to have your own interests, skills, friends, and the like. You shouldn't share everything with your partner to the point that your skills, friends, and the like appear identical. Allow for variance.
Examine your relationships and determine whether you may have too strong of attachments. Do you have really intense friendships that eventually boil and pop?
Your intuition is trying to tell you something, but you're ignoring it. You're too busy and don't want to spend time alone or with your thoughts. Because you are avoiding alone time, you're actually harming yourself. Your intuition is going to get louder and louder until you listen to it.
Your intuition is programmed to guide you to your highest self, and if you ignore it you might go down a path that's bad for you emotionally. For example: hooking up with an ex because you think he's hot, but you broke up with him because he cheats. Cheaters don't change their reputation overnight. (Deep down you know it's bad to get tangled up with a serial cheater.)
Reconnect with your inner voice. Step away from the crowd. Give yourself more time in your own room. You also need to trust other people and let them find their own privacy.
Mind and Heart Imbalance
The card could be warning you that your heart is ruling over your mind to the point that your emotions overwhelm you. You're struggling to be grounded. You're struggling to make decisions. You break commitments all the time because you're attracted to anything shiny that's waved in front of you. If you struggle with temptation then it means you are not in a good relationship with yourself.
Take this as an invitation to explore your feelings. Try to understand what makes you tick. Maybe you need to spend time alone with some Tarot cards; you can use them as prompts to address your emotions. Connecting with your feelings will help you. Just remember: review both positive and negative feelings.
Final thoughts: if you're called to process your true feelings—then honor the process and do it fully. The epiphanies you'll have while processing your emotions will be substantial.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
© 2021 Andrea Lawrence