Tarot Devil and Tarot Lover Entering the Dance of Love

Lovers and Devil in a Relationship
Lovers and Devil in a Relationship

The Dance of the Lovers and the Devil

We all at one time have done the tangle with the Tarot Lovers and the Devil. Are you now doing this dance?

This blog will reveal to you if you are presently doing this tangle with both of these cards. It will also show you how to stop this insanity. If you do discover you are entangled with both the Lovers and Devil, you most likely will seek a way to jump off this atrocious merry-go-round.

My Background and Personal Experience

My qualifications in this very topic comes from being a Professional tarot and psychic advisor throughout these past forty years. This syndrome was always predominate in relationship questions from my clients. I too have become a victim of this discordance. It was through my own experiences that I have learned how to successful jump of this relationship merry-go-round.

The Common Thread Between The Lovers and The Devil

These two cards, The Lovers and The Devil, have one common thread-choice. This choice refers to what expression in life we will choose to love. Will we seek to learn how to love unconditionally or with conditions? In essence, will our expression of love be of enslavement or freedom. Is there really another way to approach a relationship?

The Lovers and Devil do not only stay in the area of romantic love, but in all the roads we travel in the name of love. This blog is predominantly about romantic love, yet the advice within is easily applicable to other avenues of it.

Vulnerability in Romantic Love

Most of us are very vulnerable in the zone labeled romantic love. Face it, we are taking on a huge risk. How many times have you entered this predicament, where your heart is pumping full force as you stare into your true lover’s eyes, only to be greeted with a raw fear, within a matter of minutes? Your mind begins the rattle call, and the chattering fills the space between your ears. Will they cheat on me? Will he love me forever?

Welcome to your subconscious mind. It is an expert at playing this doubting game. It has been trained by all the programming you have fed it over your life. I have derived another term for this, the Trickster. You have created your mind to switch on to trickster mode, when you start to ask questions that reflect a fear of being tricked yourself by another. This is easily done, through our own experiences in romantic love, as well as what we have viewed in our family and friends relationships, plus the forever seduction of the lyrics we listen to in songs.. It is because of these fears, we will direct your actions with your new lover.

Do Not Ask Friends or Family for Advice

If you have discovered that your trickster has taken over, do realize you have reached a detrimental period, in your life. Often, we believe that now is the time to reach out and speak to a trusted family member or friend. I would not advise anyone to take this action. Why? What are their subconscious tapes, and are they responding from them?

Even with their best intentions, their advice might not serve you. What would be of better service to you is to seek a professional. This can be a counselor in the mental health arena, which also includes a profession psychic. There are many psychics/tarot readers who offer insight through their intuitive skills, as well as their ability to coach others in many areas of life.

Do understand that seeking professional help by any avenue is not a Band-Aid affect. You will not gain the insight, you so richly deserve, if you go seeking only for a quick answer to your dilemma. If you do choose to use your professional as an instant fix, what will happen? This is truly an invite for your own merry-go-round to speed up. You will experience these effects more profusely; confusion, panic, anxiety and other areas of stress. Nothing will be resolved.

What is important is for you to slow down, and totally comprehend the Dance of the Devil and the Dance of the Lovers.

The Dance of the Devil
The Dance of the Devil

The Dance of the Devil

The Devil characteristics will include all or some of the following traits: possessiveness, obsessiveness, victim, martyr, jealousy and delusion. Throughout my forty years as a psychic consultant, it has become very clear to me how the majority of people fall into the Devil category with regards to their questions concerning romantic love.

These questions usually deal in some form of when he/she will come back or when will this relationship move to the next level. The tarot cards, Lovers and Devil will indicate the type of behavior pattern that is playing out with each client. This does become more evident, with those who have been waiting a long period, usually over a year, for a person to come back or change.

What are the behavior patterns here? When doing a reading for this type of client, I as a rule will observe the following behavior patterns:

  1. Mental and emotional attachment to this person,
  2. The belief that they must have this person, or life is not worth living.
  3. Obsessive thinking, inducing more fear.
  4. Their vision of utopia with a person, increases the merry-go-round affect.

Obsession creates ugly patterns, which I have witness often over these decades. The client will need to feed their obsession quickly, so they seek one psychic after another to get their fix. We do know this cannot help anyone, except to lessen their fear temporarily, so they can dwell in the land of make-believe.

Living in the Last Chapter of Your Story

I wish to comment on another scenario, which I have titled, living in the last chapter of your story. If the client is told that there is a good chance for this relationship to work out, but first they must make some changes, this revelation is often contorted, and badly damaged by the client.

They do not seek to go through the steps of change, but instead jump to the last chapter of their story, and get upset when he/she is not responding, as was predicted. They perceive these new events are not happening quickly enough. Sadly, they leave their present time, and will dwell on the period of the completion fore-told in the reading.

More times than not, their eagerness results in sabotaging events that might have brought on the healing needed in their relationship. Often, my words to my clients,” Do not jump to the last chapter of your book, before living the previous chapters”, is dismissed, as they bulldoze recklessly into messing up those events..

With the above example, it is easy to see how a person can literally waste years of their life and miss out on the opportunities that their spirit needed to grow, while here on earth. This too is another aspect of the Devil.

A way to tell if we are currently living through this card is ask ourselves this question; if I die tomorrow, did I live my life fully, or did my obsession to a person, place or thing run my life?

The Dance of the Lovers
The Dance of the Lovers

The Dance of the Lovers

The Lovers card can guide us. We are now entering a different level of love. We will be required to embrace one simple fact, within us are two different entities. They are not physical. Their names are ego and spirit. Each one has their own concept and design about living.

They both carry the need to embrace their own needs. When we understand this, we can seek to discover another way to live our life in love. We do so by discovering the bridge that lies between them. When this is done, we will enjoy their efforts of working well together.

There is a common thread, which humankind has enforced on us as truth. We have been taught that there is a war going on between our ego and our spirit. This concept is false, and cannot serve you, in living a fully healthy life. In actuality, these two can work very well together. It is up to us to discover what they collectively have in common. There is a goal, which they both are seeking, without the aid of our trickster. When we discover their mutual goal, we will find the bridge between them.

What the Devil Card Seeks

The Devil card seeks separation, and sees itself through the obstacles referred to as love. We often see it as the one which will tempt us in our life. In actuality, its goal is to untie itself, the ego, from outmoded concepts. How it seeks to remedy this problem, is to put itself, which is you, through tests of outmoded believes and experiences of the world around us , which have been passed down to each of us. It holds us prisoner to our earth experience. The Devil simply is asking you to free yourself from the chains that are binding you. When this card is present in a reading, this is clearly a sign, your ego is seeking freedom.

What the Lovers Card Seeks

The Tarot card the Lovers is seeking to find another way. It looks for the concept of love, through a higher vision, which is the spirit. It remembers that one cannot find love, if they themselves do not possess it for themselves. If they try, all they will receive is an empty vessel. The Lovers needs the help of the Devil in seeking love that can aid growth, not deterioration. The only way through this, is to become aware of the trickster. How is it playing out in your life?

The Mission of Both of the Cards

The Lovers and the Devil both reside in the heart chakra. They both have a mission, to get you off your merry-go-round. Both of these entities are not easy to understand. One card depicts an angel, while the other depicts a demon. We each have an angel and demon that resides in us. The light and shadow sides.

They can work for us, or against us. We can follow the light, the Lovers, to shed light in the dark side, the Devil, to see what chains we have managed to create in this lifetime. There are many who seek to add other lifetimes, and if you wish, please do. My experience is if you are presently experiencing a chain, it is still growing.

You need to first unchain in this lifetime. I am a practitioner of the Ho’oponopono, which breaks chains from the moment of our creation. This works well for me, since I don’t really know when that moment arrived.

Lovers & Devil Working as One
Lovers & Devil Working as One

Another Way

There is another way. We all have fears, about falling in love again. This is a broad base fear, and most likely someone encountering it now. You are not alone. There is another way. This is not an easy fix. There is no such thing. It though is more intriguing than staying stuck in one’s misery. When you start to discover this other way, you will feel anxiety.

You are entering a new ground for yourself. You are recreating you. This is not about your lover or potential lover. It is totally about you. You will be incorporating both aspects of the Devil and the Lovers to discover what works best for you. The ego and spirit must find a way to work together. If you push the ego out, then you are in affect pushing out your earth experience. You have decided to shut down those emotions that the ego knows well. These emotions serve us. If we didn’t experienced every type of emotion that is provided, life would seize to have meaning.

The ego isn’t the only entity seeking these experiences. Your spirit is too, for it constantly is thirsty for new experiences. This is their common denominator. Both are seeking to discover who they are. Just because we have a spirit, does not mean it knows all experiences. It wants to develop more, and so does the ego.

How do you work with both of them? First you must jump off this merry-go-round in the name of trust. Trust that you are here to experience many forms of love. Ask yourself some serious questions, after you have jumped off.

  1. What does love mean to me?
  2. Would I wish someone to want to change me completely, into their ‘paper doll’ of delusion?
  3. Is their illusion of love compatible with mine?
  4. Would I wish someone to put on me their lack of trust, because they been hurt before?

What Does Love Mean to Me?

We need to become honest here. Our first answers will be in alignment to all the shoulds we have digested by our family, friends and society. Have we ever asked is this what we want? Do we wish a combination of their rites, and our own? Is it working for us or against us? Have we taken a poisonous mixture of truths, which we cannot ever measure up too? This is the first chain the Devil card will refer too, when it is in your life.

Would I Wish Someone to Change Me Completely, Into Their 'Paper Doll' of Delusion?

We often seek for another to change their basic personality. We want them to be more of something. Do you really wish someone would do this you? Compromising is a word that is used as bait. I will do this for you, if you will do this. I will meet you halfway. Do not seek this. A compromise is when two seek the change, not one. A compromise is when both see it as a positive. If you really love someone, then the Lovers is asking you to love without conditions The Tarot Lover’s card is working side by side with the Devil card, seeking a different way. I do not wish to change you, nor do you change me. I love you. How can we love without expectations of changing each other?

Is Their Illusion of Love Compatible With Mine?

Love truly is an illusion. It is a beautiful one. When two people share a common thread, this illusion can become a butterfly. They do not worry about the elusive butterfly. Their relationship is in synch. Many times, a relationship can actually work, however we have often bought into our society’s version of a lover. We sunk deep into their delusional belief. Do not be afraid to cut those binds that are choking out your life. Dare to create the illusion of love, which fits you two. To do this, you best need to know what love really means to you. Not what it means to another. They are not having your experiences. They are not you.

Would I Wish Someone to Put Me on Their Lack of Trust, Because They Were Hurt in the Past?

This is such a common pattern with many people. We walk up to our new lover, and drop all our old baggage on them. We boldly look them in the eyes, and say; “I dare you to fix me. Know you can’t because I am damaged goods”.

If these words ring true to you, please take your suitcases, and run from anyone you are interested in now. Nobody is going to fix you, but yourself. Stop setting people up, including you for failure. Stop it now. Nobody can undo your past, and this includes you. You though have it inside your were-with-all to heal this, prior to entering a relationship. If you are already in a relationship, walk up to them, and tell them you are truly sorry for trying to get them to fix you. Then start to find another way, to heal yourself.

There is another way. I am glad I took it. Was hard, yet so enlightening. I wish you well on your new journey of discovery another way.

Comments 14 comments

julie 6 years ago

how true. This was very well written. This is something I say rarely, but this insight is really an eye opener. Thanks for sharing your gift with us.

renee 6 years ago

Julie, thank you so much for the compliment. It is always a pleasure to write and touch someone.


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shelbie zimmerman 5 years ago

I have been in a relationship for two years now and we have two children.. we are not able to commicate have sex or really anything.. he seems to want to be who he wants me to be and have complete control.. not sure what his problem may be nor what mine is would love if you could help!!!! Thanks a bunch- Shelbie

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Renee Abbott 5 years ago from Arizona Author

Hi Shelbie, I am not sure what type of help you are looking for. Feel free to contact me at my



Gina 5 years ago

This is a really wonderful article. Thanks very much! Would love to get your insight on the Chariot!

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Renee Abbott 5 years ago from Arizona Author


Thank you

I can do the Chariot. Probably this weekend.



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andrebreynolds 5 years ago

Wonderful hub. Thanks for sharing, Renee.

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Renee Abbott 5 years ago from Arizona Author

You are welcome, Andrebreynolds

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SarahandSophia 4 years ago

Fear and Love... the two greatest emotions -representing through The Lovers and The Devil creates an interesting juxtaposition

Elise 3 years ago

Thank you so much for posting this wonderful article. I too mixed up the feelings of fear and love. I was controlled by my own fear for 4 years, thinking that it was love. After the horrible break up, I went through many tarot readers, just to hear the answers I wanted to hear. It was exactly as you said: I was wasting my life and not letting my spirit grow. Luckily I am better now. Thank you for the wonderful advice, I enjoyed your article very much!

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Renee Abbott 3 years ago from Arizona Author

Thank you Elise. You arent the only one who seeks answers from psychics, but we eventually have to go within and face our own shadows. I am glad the hub helped you.

Evi 9 months ago

My birthday cards are the loves and the devil..

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Limbo 3 months ago

Wow, this certainly didn't help.

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