In addition to fitness and exercise, I've always had an interest in the paranormal and "unexplained," particularly lucid dreaming and NDEs.
How to Spot a Fake Medium
In this article, we'll look at the following:
- Are Mediums Real?
- 5 Ways to Spot a Fake Medium
- How to Get a Refund From a Fake
Are Mediums for Real?
I decided to find out for myself just how legitimate a medium might be. I experimented by visiting 10 different readers to see if there was any truth to psychic medium readings.
I adhered to the following points in my experiment:
- I kept an open mind and neutral emotions.
- I was very compliant.
- I did not challenge any of the mediums.
- They knew only my first name and thus were not able to “look me up.”
- I paid ahead of time via a business-name PayPal account. Thus, they couldn’t locate my last name.
Having a reading done over the phone eliminates the possibility that the medium could use your subconscious body language to steer them in the right direction. I realized this after my first reading (in person). The remaining nine were over the phone.
5 Ways to Detect a Fake Medium
Below are five ways to spot a scamming medium. Do any of them apply to your situation?
1. They Begin the Session With Several Provisions or Terms
This gets a fake medium off the hook when they end up in left field. A classic provision is that of explaining how “other spirits” will try to “crash” or “party bomb” the reading.
So when the psychic medium starts talking about a very large bearded man who’s “coming forward in overalls,” and you say, “I never knew such a man,” the medium then validates this guy by saying, “Oh, then he’s one of those party crashers I told you about at the beginning.”
Another classic provision is to tell the sitter (you) to jot down notes about things that don’t make sense, because “later on they might suddenly make sense.” This gets the medium off the hook for coming up with wildly wrong guesses.
Other pre-conditions include immediately making a comment about bad weather where they are, that can “interfere with the energy,” or by stating from the get-go that “every now and then there is bad energy with the reading and I have no control over that.”
2. They Say “I See a Mother or Grandmother Figure"
Or they say, “I see a father or grandfather figure.” This statement casts a huge net. It scores high with most people, especially if the medium knows the sitter is at least middle-aged (either by looks or their phone voice). We have two grandfathers and two grandmothers. The odds that any random middle-aged person has lost at least one grandparent are exceedingly high.
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But what really makes this statement very suspicious is that it implies that the parent and same-sex grandparent are similar in personality!
The medium is essentially saying, “I see an apple and another apple,” when, in fact, a mother and grandmother may be more like an apple and a banana. But the medium wants to make an overly broad statement because she or he knows that this statement will resonate with nearly every sitter.
“I see a mother or grandmother figure” may as well be, “I see a mother or cousin figure.” My own mother and grandmother were quite different. They were never one and the same.
For instance, my very opinionated mother gave lectures and groundings, made me eat my vegetables and take baths, enforced rules, got mad if I tracked mud in the house and limited candy intake. On the other hand, my soft-spoken and lenient grandmother bought me bags of candy, encouraged me to get my clothes dirty from splashing in a mud puddle, and let me get away with things that my mother would never have permitted. We can't possibly be talking about the same people here.
So just HOW can the medium not be able to tell the difference between the “mother figure” and “grandmother figure”? Same with father and grandfather. My father would hit the roof if a light was left on in a room or if the refrigerator was left open for longer than five seconds. He'd rather nap than take his sons fishing. My more carefree grandfather couldn't care less if extra electricity was being used, and had time to go fishing. How can these two deceased people be indistinguishable in the spirit world? Scam!
3. They Say “I’m Feeling Pain in the Chest"
And the medium stops at that. This is one of the highest probability guesses ever. If the medium is not fake, they’ll then ADD correct data such as, “A man on your dad’s side—your uncle. The chest pain was from a ruptured aneurysm. He was only in his 40s.”
Such highly specific details—that come forth out of the blue—would never come from a phony medium.
4. They Say “Someone Had Cancer"
No kidding. This disease is so common that everyone knows a family member who died from it. But if you have a low threshold of wow-factor, you’ll think the medium got a big hit even if the deceased was your sister’s husband’s adopted sister—whom you’ve met only once—who died of cancer.
5. The Name of the Spirit Coming Forward Seems Fishy
Another gigantic tip-off that a medium is a fake is when they say something like, “I hear a K name, or maybe it begins with a C—but a hard C, like “Keh..Ka..Ka...”
This is a very high probability guess, as lots of names begin with a K sound. A sitter with a low threshold of wow-factor will think the medium scored a hit because the sitter’s deceased cousin’s name was Katrina and no other deceased family members had a “Ka” name.
First off, why can’t Katrina transmit her entire name to the medium? Secondly, why is Katrina—whom you’ve seen only twice in your life—barging ahead of your dear Aunt Alayna who practically raised you?
Giving out common names is another clue that a medium is fraudulent. “I hear a Mike…Mark…Matt…Mitch,” and then the medium waits for your response. Naïve sitters will be floored -- there are two dead Mikes and one dead Mark between their immediate family and extended family! And a dead coworker named Mitch and a dead past landlord named Matt! Let’s see a psychic medium nail a very unusual name for a change, as in, “I hear the name Alayna.”
Fake Mediums DO Give Refunds
If you're being scammed, it is entirely appropriate to receive a refund.
How to Receive a Refund From a Fake Medium
- Sit tight and lay low as the medium continues to give a reading off in left field.
- Don’t disagree about “energy disruptions.”
- Be polite and non-argumentative and don’t reveal any skepticism.
- Make the medium think you truly believe him or her, and there will be a high probability you’ll get your money back!
- I got a refund from nine out of 10 mediums.
- There's nothing you need to "do" to get a refund other than to follow the above bullet points. In all nine refund cases, the medium was the first to broach the subject, to the tune of, "I'm going to give you your money back," or, "This is going nowhere, and I'd feel guilty if I didn't give you a refund." Simply go with this flow. Do not say anything like, "Yeah, I agree, I'd like my money back."
Why Would a Fake Medium Give a Refund?
To lower the odds that you’ll slash them on Yelp.com. And there are plenty of sitters out there whose low threshold of wow-factor will keep paying the medium’s living expenses.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.