Soul Mates in Dreams: Can You Dream of Someone Before Meeting Them?

Updated on June 23, 2016
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Kitty has been a lucid dreamer her entire life. These dreams and experiences drive her desire to help others understand their dreams.

Dreaming is one of the easiest ways to meet your soul mates.
Dreaming is one of the easiest ways to meet your soul mates. | Source

Do Soul Mates Exist?

As little girls, we fantasize about growing up and meeting our Prince Charming. We dream up big weddings with beautiful gowns, loads of people, and a beautiful church with stained-glass windows. As we grow older, we wonder if there's that perfect someone out there for us. We ponder on the concept of a soul mate. Some of us believe we have soul mates and are destined to meet them.

So, do soul mates exist? If you are open-minded and believe that anything is possible, why isn't it possible that when our souls were created they were created in pairs or even groups? If this is true, than one of those other souls in that group would be considered your soul mate. Many people say you choose to reincarnate with the same souls each meeting your soul mate in this life would be highly likely in that case, wouldn't it? But can we meet our soul mates in our dreams before meeting them in reality?

Dreams are like beautiful see yourself reflected in them.
Dreams are like beautiful see yourself reflected in them. | Source

Are Dreams Real?

Dreams can take us to far-off places. Surreal places where reality is blurred and things aren't what they seem. For some of us, we are taken to places we've been before. And for some of us, our dreams seem like future memories - experiences in our dreams sometimes become reality. Are dreams just psychological pictures that can be brushed off as "all in a person's head"? Or are they something more?

Again, to answer this question, it has to be answered by the individual. This is a very subjective topic with very subjective opinions. For me, I've had dreams that have come true on one level or another, so I know that my dreams can be real to some degree. I also believe that our dreams can be distant past-life memories and even memories from other realms of existence. And if you pay more and more attention to your dreams, you'll realize more and more how your dreams can reflect your own life both past, present and future.

A tip on how to use your dreams to read the future is to start writing down your dreams every morning. At first you might not remember your dreams, but as soon as you wake up write down any thoughts or feelings you might be having. After awhile you'll notice that you're writing down your dreams every day. And you'll begin to notice patterns in your dreams and in waking life. Pay particular attention to the people in your dreams...are you meeting people in real life that you've already met in your dreams? It's not only possible, it's quite likely you might meet them in your dreams before meeting them in real life. Give it a try. I dare you.

Meeting Someone In Your Dreams & Deja Vu

Often when we dream we have other people there with us. Sometimes their faces are blurred or they are vague people who we believe we only know in our dreamtime. Sometimes they're people we already know in real life - a family member, a friend, a neighbor, etc. So how do we know these vague dream people are people we've yet to meet and not just another figment of our imaginations?

First, and as mentioned above, write down your dreams. Write down exactly what this person says to you in your dream, how they make you feel. It's quite possible this vague person in your dream is one of your soul mates' astral doubles (dream selves) meeting you in the dreamworld. Very often our astral doubles will go ahead of us to meet people we're supposed to meet in reality.

Next take note on how often this person shows up in your dreams. Also note if they have any specific messages for you and where they show up. These could be premonitions as to when and where you'll meet your soul mate in real life.

When you actually meet your soul mate in real life, you'll know it immediately. It's that feeling of deja vu. A strong urge inside that tells you you've met the person before, and that your soul already intimately knows them. It's very hard to explain the feeling to someone, but once you've had it you'll know. It's very likely that one of you will even say, "I feel like we've met before". Or "I feel like I know you from somewhere".

When you meet your soul mate in real life, you'll know immediately.
When you meet your soul mate in real life, you'll know immediately. | Source

Is It Your Soul Mate or Spirit Guide? Or Are They the Same?

Everyone has a spirit guide or guardian angel that helps them on their way through life. They might show up in your dreams to give you messages of encouragement or teach you lessons when you need them most. Sometimes they're there when you just need comfort. The same spirit guide you had as a child will be the same one you have as an adult. There is usually one that stays with you your entire life, while there can be other guides that come and go as your life progresses.

Some people theorize that our soul mates could actually be our spirit guides. In ancient times many cultures believed that everyone had a "double" spirit that would leave their bodies and travel to various places when the person was either asleep or in a trance. It's possible that this astral double could be your soul mate's double guiding you through life until you meet them in real life. It's also possible that your spirit guide is separate from your soul mate but they might be very similar in appearance or demeanor.

So how do you know when you're dreaming of your spirit guide or your soul mate? This is a very difficult thing to determine in many cases. Keeping a dream journal of your experiences will help. You can also ask your spirit guide to reveal him/herself through your dreams. Ask him/her if he/she is your soul mate, too or just your spirit guide in this life. If you're unsure how to ask them, you don't have to ask out loud. Praying in your mind is the perfect way. When you get your answer, you'll know. You can also ask for signs. If your mind is open enough, your signs will appear in waking time via a symbol, animal, or message in nature, on television or through a friend's words.

If you haven't met your soul mate yet, don't will! Either in your dreams or in reality, he or she will appear.

Edgar Cayce on Soul Mates and Reincarnation

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    Bruadair 4 weeks ago

    I've been dreaming about my Soulmate for 7 years. His face is clear, so precise you would be able to recognize him as soon as you meet. He never changes, his voice is the same, his personality is the same, he gives me info about him... And I can often sense when he will show up once I'm in my dreams. The only odd thing is that I'm not allowed to know his name, he only told me once but it was like an acronym.

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    William Phillips 6 weeks ago

    Im not entirely sure about this but I may have possibly in my dreams met her, Every single dream I have had of a girl when i asked them out in my dream they have said no, though there was one where I ran into a girl i like and then her friend just started yelling at me saying she doesn't like me. But recently there was a girl I was looking for and later we kissed...but I'm pretty sure it'll be really hard to get her attention since she is an actress. Ill try to get her attention though. lol

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    Thalia Jasmin 8 weeks ago from Italy

    Well, we'll see..

    Thanks for the response!

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    Nicole Canfield 8 weeks ago from the Ether

    Yes, he might have been.

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    Thalia Jasmin 2 months ago from Italy

    Some years ago I wondered who is my soulmate (I didn't knew all the things I know now about this topic because I haven't read much about it) and I had this dream about a guy, I remember little about it because I have forgot it and just now I remember it, because I think I've saw this guy in reality. I'm not 100% sure, because I don't remember the dream very well. I've never met this guy in person, just saw him on the internet, and I've never talked to him, but I remember that the first time I saw him I had a strong feeling and I thought "It's him" (seems a lot romantic, when I'm not a romantic person but okay haha). Anyway, it's been a while now since that moment (a year or so) and I can't stop thinking about him, and even if I've tried really hard to forget him and let it go there's always something that reminds me of him, for example I see his name somewhere, etc. I discovered that he lives really far from me, in the other half of the world..but guess what? Recently (just when I almost succeeded on let him go) I discovered that he moved near me, for a while I think. I don't know if he's really my soulmate, I feel he is, but maybe I'm wrong and I'm afraid is just an "illusion" because I've been hurt in the past, and that's why I'm trying to avoid this whole thing, but I have the feeling that everything is pushing me toward him instead. Oh, and also in this past year I had a lot of dreams about him, dreams when I felt a really strong connection with him. It's the first time I feel a connection like this with a guy, and the fact that I've never even met him surprise me a lot because I don't even know him.

    What do you say? He could be one of my soulmates?

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    Nicole Canfield 3 months ago from the Ether

    prodigioushuman - just because you've met one of your soul mates, doesn't mean you'll end up with them romantically. You could be soul mates but your souls might be meant to learn other things in this life. Soul mates can also end up as friends, family members, etc. from life to life. So to answer your question, no. Not necessarily. And definitely don't force it.

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    prodigioushuman 3 months ago

    there's a girl who is always in my dreams. sometimes she's there just a second, sometimes she's there the whole dream. i just met her in real life. it was so weird. there were 30 people in the room and my eyes landed on her immediately. days later she told me that she was sure we had met before, i told her that we met on a dream, she agreed on that too. but we're both in relationships, if she really is my soulmate we will end up together right?

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    Rebb 6 months ago

    So, I had this dream two days ago, I met a guy, and we talk and flirt a little and I feel like there was a deep connection between us, I just felt like he was another person and we were sharing a dream, we looked confused too, but suddenly the alarm started and I was about to wake up, and he was too, so he turn around to go and I shout "don't go", he turn around surprise, I quickly switch off the alarm and fall sleep again, he is still there, I felt so happy, I hugged him and say " I had to give you this " and we kiss and he looks so happy but then he stops smiling and say "I wish I could see you again" and I wake up.

    It was wonderful but now I'm really confused because this morning I was going to work when I saw this guy, literally my heart skip a beat, he was looking at me, as confused as I was, but I'm really shy and I was already late so I just keep walking and now I wonder if I will see him again...

    I'm afraid it was just a coincidence... I'd like to know if someone had have a similar experience, I'm sorry for writing too much is just... I needed this out of my chest...

    Thanks for writing.

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    sam42405 7 months ago

    on 21 January 2017 i saw a girl in my dreams and on 23 march 2017 ,i met the girl, exactly how i saw her in my dreams. on our first meeting we were very much attracted towards each other .but we had some fight after 10 days as i did not confessed that i love her, because in my dream i saw that we will get married and we will end up with divorce after a year,so i avoided telling this all and simply made situation to end up with her. now i am missing her very much . what i should do? she is not talking to me anymore.

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    Jelie 16 months ago

    Well i think i finally met my soulmate and he's my current boyfriend actually. I have experienced it all i mean the one you mentioned above. Before i met him i have dreams about him like we're on a date but i couldnt see his face and im like chatting with him, i dont really know who he is but i know he's the same guy im dreaming about. And yes I experienced deja vu on the date thing like the exact seat the exact movie and the exact clothes we're wearing and i was like "what?" and looked at him lol. But then something awful happened between us and we're on the verge of breaking up but i didnt gave up on him and by the time Im about to give up on him because im hurting way too much, now he doesnt want me to. We're still not 100% okay because of what he did and he still abit awkward but I believe we'll be okay maybe not now or tomorrow but eventually. I want to believe in him :)

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    Deborah Demander 21 months ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

    I often have dreams that later come true. When I met my soul mate, I didn't dream of him beforehand, but as you say above, I knew it when I met him. He is unlike anyone I have ever known.

    Thanks for writing.


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    Nicole Canfield 24 months ago from the Ether

    DolceVendetta - I am so happy to hear this! This is so cool. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful love story. :)

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    DolceVendetta 24 months ago

    This is related to me, When I was little I was this girls that guys used to like always But I never trust no one and was hard for me to have a boyfriend even my family though that I like girls, when I was like 16 years I have a dream about this boy I can't see his face in my dream but I feel so in love with this guy in my dream and he gives me a shy kiss and then I woke up, the guy was bald and not too black and not white, and in a summer I see this guy in my boy bestfriend house since that time I been with this guy for 13 years married and two kids. I told him about that dream and he just look like the one in my dream.

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    Nicole Canfield 2 years ago from the Ether

    annart - I absolutely agree we have to work at it. I've been married to the same man for 7 years, been together for 9. I would say we started out rocky but as time goes on, we get better and better together. Because we put the effort into our relationship. That being said, I DO believe in soul mates, and I think we often reincarnate with the same souls around us. Of course we meet different souls throughout life that teach us different things, but we also are around the same ones too. I believe dreams are more than just dreams. Thanks for reading and sharing your opinion.

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    Ann Carr 2 years ago from SW England

    I think we're very lucky if we meet our soul-mate. Even then, I agree with the person who said we have to work at it. However, there is possibly more than one soul-mate, so if one dies there could be another to find, though the chances of find two, let alone one, would be low I think.

    Food for thought here though. Dreams are interesting and reflect much of what we feel and what we live out in reality, making our minds mull over it all and give us a few answers if we can make them out.

    Interesting hub!


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    Nicole Canfield 2 years ago from the Ether

    Seafarer Mama - Please let me know once you've published...I'd love to read it! Thanks!

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    Karen A Szklany 2 years ago from New England

    Enjoyed reading this. I know I have spirit guides and I am sure my husband is a soulmate. My Guardian Angel came to me once when I was in distress. I can feel his presence often, especially when I walk labyrinths. Invite him to walk with me.

    Since I am writing a novel, my dreams seem to flee out of reach as soon as I open my eyes from sleep. They depart before I can even grab my pen and notebook. If I do remember one, I'll write it down. Thanks for the extra inspiration!

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    Marc Lee 2 years ago from Durham, NC

    That is why I believe most of us have more than one soulmate in our life.......My understanding of soulmates are people who you have a natural connection too.......and yes I believe there can be multiple ones in your life.......

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    Nicole Canfield 2 years ago from the Ether

    Ericdierker - Thanks for reading and commenting! Sounds like she's lovely. :)

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    Nicole Canfield 2 years ago from the Ether

    bluesradio - Very cool! And you're right, there are multiples but for this hub I was focusing on just the concept of one. Though I've written about "soul groups" in my past hubs. :) I too have had a run-in with a soul mate who was not the most positive person...and not a good person to have in one's least not in this life. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts and experiences. :)

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    Nicole Canfield 2 years ago from the Ether

    Lipnancy - We might not ever know, will we? ;)

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    Nicole Canfield 2 years ago from the Ether

    kbdressman - There's nothing to "buy". Either you believe in it or you don't. Thanks for reading.

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    Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

    Very interesting. I cannot judge this one way of another. When I met my soul mate, I was not paying attention to my dreams in such a way. On reflection I think I dreamt of her as she is today, 15 years later.

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    Marc Lee 2 years ago from Durham, NC

    Two things to this Hub...One I believe we actually have multiple soulmates in our life, and I have been fortunate enough to meet several of them already...Some online (our actual meeting will probably come later) and some in person..

    I can also tell you I have had the experience you are talking about..I remember as a High School kid going to a Summer camp for minorities and when I first went into the room, it was if I had met every last one of those students prior because I had dreamt about them and new them even before we were in the same space.....I also believe that our ancestors and angels talk to us through our dreams on a regular...

    And, last but not least, not all soulmates are positive...I have also had a run in with a previous connection at least once or twice and that unfinished business must still remain unfinished for another life, another time probably...

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    Nancy Yager 2 years ago from Hamburg, New York

    Your right every girl dreams of meeting her soul mate. And dreams make our wishes come true or is it the other way around.

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    kbdressman 2 years ago from Harlem, New York

    Sorry, not buying it. If we're made in pairs and have "soulmates" what happens if one dies prematurely? The other is destined to be alone forever? I rather think that we pick a person to be our soulmate and then work to become soulmates for the rest of our lives!