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Why Scorpio and Aquarius are Attracted to Each Other

Updated on July 6, 2016

Scorpio and Aquarius - A Powerful Match

If you are a Scorpio or Aquarius, or even a rookie in astrology, you've probably heard some of the rumors about this water sign meets wind sign pairing. A lot of astrologers will go on autopilot and tell you the best compatibility is when you have the same elemental sign, plus you should check out your charts. This is somewhat basic when it comes to astrology. Every combination has its unique offerings for a relationship, some less feasible (more challenging) than others. Scorpio and Aquarius are a powerful match, albeit if the two are not mature enough in who they are, it won't work so beautifully.

Aquarius is exactly what Scorpio wants and has always wanted. Aquarius will always be mysterious to Scorpio, which puts it in a perpetual spiral of being on the hunt. Scorpio is a strongly masculine sign, and loves to go after something it doesn't fully understand, and Aquarius is complicated enough to draw a Scorpio. The water sign unfortunately gets bored easily. Sometimes a pleasant match is too surface level for Scorpio -- this sign desires a great deal of complexity, paradoxes, and affection. Scorpio is like the pipe organ of emotions and thought. Scorpios are extremely powerful signs, but often misunderstood... and so they'll trail to the side and go on their own independent journeys. People don't always know what exactly a Scorpio is, so it'll fade from view without ever being fully realized.

But an Aquarius -- though it doesn't fully come right out admitting it -- fully and easily understands the Scorpio better than any zodiac. A mature Aquarius will know a Scorpio immediately just by the way a Scorpio uses its eyes to cut through titanium. No other sign has this intense of a stare. Scorpio is drawn to people who have 1.) a banging body and 2.) a charming personality. These are gifts the Aquarius often has and employs, with a fair amount of either introversion or introspection (perhaps both). Scorpio can't unravel an Aquarius like it can most signs. It sees that the Aquarius has more pure motives, a different range for ethics, and a massive capacity for love. Scorpio enjoys Aquarius, but it brings up a lot of insecurities for Scorpio. Can the Scorpio possibly win the heart of the person who wants to take care of everybody's hearts? How can the Scorpio, which can be the lowest of creatures -- win such a big heart?

What makes Scorpio and Aquarius work?

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Both are the Phoenix and Made of Water

Scorpio feels awkward having to face its insecurities in the light of someone who is so lovely. Aquarius often shirks getting into relationships, sometimes delving into very independent phases and being void of sex. Aquarius gets called out for being both a virgin and having bisexuality, pansexuality, and straight edge sexuality. No one really knows how to label an Aquarius, especially when they are so private. They have a sexuality that is massively deep and insightful, and there are Aquarian types who really are protective and intuitive about their sexual life -- while some Aquarians are extraordinarily exploitative. Aquarius doesn't feel a lot of chemistry with many signs on a sexual level. It may feel chemistry, an amazing exchange of ideas or even compatibility, but having attraction... real, invasive thoughts that distract them -- is difficult to achieve.

The Scorpio is one of the few signs that can get inside an Aquarius' mind. They feel a certain chemistry with this sign that is absent in the other 11. Scorpio also finds something in Aquarius that others do not have. These two signs are like magnets and immediately connect well with each other, they want each other, and it's something about how they mix as fixed signs and their emotional palettes. I think the biggest hurdle for these two is that if they meet too soon, they won't have enough knowledge to understand each other. There is a certain amount of life fluency they need in order to bridge the gaps they'll have.

Scorpio is known for having a crazy amount of range to their emotions -- they're designated as having three different morphological cycles from the snake, the scorpion, to the phoenix. The other signs arguably have one totem. It's an automatically complicated sign, that other signs just don't have enough power in them to study. It's a sign that can easily go under the radar if you're not paying attention, which is silly because a Scorpio can change their mask, they are malleable, they can learn, and most importantly they can learn you.

They have busy minds, often easily getting distracted with too much noise, but they love deeply and loyally once they've found their match. They are deeply searching for the right person. They cut their loses because they believe so heavily in a soulmate. Regardless of whether they flat out say it or not, they are looking for a supernatural connection -- even if they can be grounded, at least in comparison to the Aquarius.

Aquarius can come off aloof to them, but Aquarius is like Jean Gray from the X-Men. She seems to be only present in thought, highly intuitive, quiet, and amazingly charming -- but she is the one who can unleash the Phoenix. She has a powerful amount of emotions locked up inside her heart, and she doesn't let it out easily, because it is like dynamite. Aquarians are powerfully emotional, that's why they are tied to the image of being water bearers. Yes, they can skate above the water all day long with beautiful thoughts, but they are also the water itself. They are spring wells of emotion, with astute emotional control. If there were an Olympics for emotional control, Aquarians would get all the gold medals. They have a relationship with emotion and thought that is difficult for many to read, and therefore Aquarians too are also seen as misfits, odd, and different Their high capacity for both thought and emotion makes them an odd duck that can make them difficult to understand, but they're usually so sweet that people accept them, unlike Scorpio who has a tendency to be brooding, grumpy, and dark. If you're a Harry Potter fan, think of the Slytherins. They get a bad reputation in the books, but in actuality they are great and must take responsibility for that greatness.

Scorpio and Aquarius get along because they are both odd, highly creative, and secretly emotional. They need to take things slow. Taking things slow is seriously the key to making this pair work. It's like a red velvet cake. Make sure to preheat the oven, follow all the steps, and make sure you have all the ingredients before you pop the pan into the oven. Otherwise, you'll end up with a gooey, inedible mess.

They can rush things by taking it physical, but they need to create a great deal of space, an entire grid if you will, to build trust and communication. This will take awhile, and for many they'll give up because this takes patience. But this pairing first needs to understand how to talk, which is going to take some time because they are so different and have to learn from each other. It's like a newborn learning how to talk -- think of it that way for this pair.

Aquarius can unravel itself slowly to Scorpio, which is what it needs. Aquarius needs private dates, away from the hustle and bustle because all the stimulus can distract it from its date... and Scorpio needs private dates because it needs a person all to itself. Scorpio needs that intimacy. Intimacy is what it really desires -- meaning your personal secrets, the story of you, and the story of where you are headed. You can't force the conversation with these two. They'll need to take their time. This may take two months of seeing each other or two years before really solidly deciding that you are in fact in a relationship.

Focus on Communication

Trust me when I say this, but Scorpio and Aquarius don't need to worry about who they are physically. Scorpio by its very nature is sexual. It's a sensual sign, with a vivid imagination. This sign likes moving to this direction because sex is a strong glue for discovering another person. Aquarius with its imagination easily makes strides in sex, which it knows and that is why for many they put off. They already in a sense understand it, and so it makes more sense for them to study other things. The two most single signs of the zodiac are Virgo and Aquarius. Scorpio on the other hand -- can be the loner, but it is greatly the mystique, the wellspring, and the initiator of relationships. Aquarius builds its social structure like a never ending ocean with friends across all genders, cultures, and species. Aquarius is a humanitarian and a social network godess; Scorpio is by instinct interpersonal. Scorpio is a sign that is built for making a family. It's one of the few signs to really charm and awaken an Aquarius. A Scorpio has strong staying power; it is loyal to the core, unless you show infidelity. An Aquarius needs someone who wants to stay, but struggles to find someone like that because they find more people just want to date several people, not just at once, but always. An Aquarius needs to feel special, it needs to feel wanted, it needs to ultimately feel like someone is consistent and will stay.

Now an immature Scorpio, will still have an exploratory phase before settling down. Scorpio is somewhat of an ass before giving away the quality it knows it must to have a relationship -- and that's its loyalty. The more a Scorpio shows how loyal it is, the more it will get to the Aquarius and its amazing emotional current. An Aquarius is powerfully objective, mysterious, and very Luna Lovegood -- which intrigues the Scorpio. A Scorpio likes both the calm Luna Lovegood side and the X-Men Phoenix side of an Aquarius. While the Aquarius loves the emotional-romantic side and dutiful side of the Scorpio.

It is never easy for these two to separate because they have ESP for each other. They know the connection when they come across it, and can latch onto each other with great intensity. To separate, especially for the Aquarius, means they'll have to go complete different ways in order to get over the other person. Also, the Aquarius will want all enough separation to prevent getting back with the Scorpio, because deep down they know they love them.

Combo is One of the Most Powerful

On some alchemical level, all relationship combinations are like a spell. You take one fire element and add it with the energy of an earth element and you have an end result. With a Scorpio and Aquarius equation you have a healing configuration. All water signs have some amount of healing and creativity to them. Aquarius is a brilliant thinker, with excessive creativity and intuition. When these two meet, they make for a cleansing, healing panacea -- or a tempest. All combinations have their healing and destructive powers -- this one either way is strong. There are 78 monogamous combinations. Polygamous combinations tend to be weaker because the power is not balanced.

A Scorpio can fixate on an Aquarius and help it to be more powerful. Scorpio is a magician, and often feels that the challenges around him or her are too dry. That many of the things around her are dull to a great extent, until an Aquarius steps into the world because an Aquarius is a visionary. The Scorpio helps makes the vision a reality, while Aquarius takes a dormant volcano (the Scorpio) and makes it a reality. These two can see their full potential in this relationship. They need to understand that they don't communicate like normal couples, nor should they. They're not like normal individuals either.

Scorpio needs an Aquarius which will gladly accept its affections. Aquarius needs a Scorpio to chase it... because Aquarius isn't a huge fan of chasing. It's an incredible and beautiful journey if done well, an amazing pairing. But for many, they jump into this stack of cards too early and too quick making for a great deal of frustration. Neither of these signs do well with zodiacs that are too simple for them nor are too controlling. They have to line up with each other naturally and with desire, else the structure will fall before it really had the chance to grow.

Why You Should Go For It

Embrace the calm of an Aquarius. The ease it has with life will match well with a Scorpio and its ever changing ways. The Scorpio is the most solid of the water signs, like ice. But it can drift into its liquid and gaseous state simply because it is the master of water, but a Pisces... will always be the light waters, and Cancer will always be the deep, troubled waters.

Scorpio can go anywhere there is emotion, and Aquarius can go anywhere where there is thought. The two together feel more complete, and feel more like they can share their personal stories. They're not exact mirrors, or even in the same states -- but they can explore each other and understand each other quite well. Don't force this kind of relationship -- if it isn't meant to be, then it is not meant to be. But when intellect and emotion try to replicate each other and understand each other, beautiful and crazy things can happen.

Notes for Scorpios

Aquarius doesn't always talk. This can be baffling since it is a wind sign. Sometimes the Aquarius just wants things to be quiet and will leave a lot of space and privacy for you to decipher. If an Aquarius spends consistent time with you, this is a major plus. You may find with an Aquarius that you are making all the moves, but remember them accepting your moves is also a move.

They'll slowly turn from gently holding your hand and letting you touch their hair to kissing you as they please, and for long bouts of time. This is a creature that sees far ahead into the future and loves to gather information effectively before making a decision. Don't let your insecurities drive them away, and make your insecurities clear and they'll do what they can to comfort you, because that's their instinct. They want things to work and they want things to be smooth, and they don't want to hurt you. But you are a Scorpio, and you have the power more so to hurt them, so be careful. Scorpios know how to sting, and stinging an Aquarius... will hurt them extensively. They really want to trust you. If you sting an Aquarius, they'll block you out of your life, which is exactly what you don't want. They won't block you as long as you don't sting them.

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      Nilanjana Chatterjee 8 months ago

      Hello there!

      I must say, reading this post of yours makes me feel hopeful about my relationship with a Scorpion. I am an Aquarius, and from all the books and articles I've read till now about the compatibility between the two, all I could gather was that these two are never a good match. But this article, its like you penned down the connection I have with my Scorpion love. Thank you so much!

      It would be great if we got to know each other! I love astrology as much as I love Harry Potter and X-Men. Would be great to hear from you again. Plus, since my boyfriend intrigues and surprises me all the time, I often don't understand how to react or anticipate anything at the least. I was also wondering if you could help me out with that!

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      @Nilanjana Chatterjee

      Hello, there! A lot of books and the Internet don't have time to really study the finer details of the Aquarius and Scorpio combination. It is an excellent one, but it can easily go wrong if either party isn't mature enough. They are both powerful zodiacs; it's like a complicated recipe or dance -- always worth it, but not for the faint of heart. I'm an Aquarius who can't resist a Scorpio -- and my grandparents, who had one of the sweetest relationships in history were an Aquarius and Scorpio. It can work! I can help you with Scorpios for sure. I wish you the best.

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      Victor 8 months ago

      I have had some relationships with aquarius girls in the past ..at first they seem interesting because they are really smart and we can talk about everything but i end up losing that interest because they appear to have nothing else beneath that surface. Now i am trying again with an aquarius girl but i fear everything seems to be going in the same direction as usual, im about to drop the towel with this sign, they make great friends but they lack something to keep my interest as lovers

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      Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

      @Victor

      Aquarius are like Jean Grey. They are extremely intelligent, and they also -- though it takes a lot of trust -- are actually emotional beasts. Like Jean Grey they have a Phoenix state. But they like to drift around on the cool waters and keep peace and calm. They didn't develop those big beautiful brains without learning some emotional tricks. If you want to see more emotion out of them, you need to communicate this. They'll reveal more of who they are with this direction. Remember, they are the water bearers, they know how to make the waters (emotions) move. Aquarius is very similar to Pisces. You have to give a lot of foundation for an Aquarius to feel comfortable and start opening up emotionally. It takes longer than most zodiacs -- but when they open up, it can be massive. They ultimately are long term relationship seekers, but they have doubts since they're aware of all the crappy relationships. If you want more romance out of them, tell them. Aquarius can adjust this. Encourage it, set the mood right, don't give up on them too easily.

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      Nilanjana Chatterjee 7 months ago

      @SerenityHalo I need your help ASAP.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      @Nilanjana Chatterjee

      Ah, where are you needing help?

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      Nilanjana Chatterjee 7 months ago

      @Serenity Halo

      Thank goodness you replied! I've been waiting for a long time. I need help with the oh-so-famous disappearing act of the Scorpio and how they get distant and dealing with it. I've been a hot mess.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      @Nilanjana Chatterjee

      Ah, yes! Tell me everything you are comfortable with telling me. A lot of times Scorpios go away to clear out energy. This might not have to do with you. Remember Scorpios are very confused and attracted to Aquarius at the same time -- you have qualities the Scorpios lack. How much has he been disappearing? How long has he been gone? Does he tell you who he is with or where he is? Do you have any clues or gut instincts happening? Don't overwhelm him with too many words at this point. Be friendly. Be positive. They love the mysterious side of Aquarius, but it also confuses them. If you have some Pisces nature in your chart, try pulling that out. Read up on what a Pisces would do and reflect on that. Usually, Aquarius is so close to Pisces that it can borrow from it. Scorpio can be frustrated by how intuitive an Aquarius can be. They like their privacy. Sharpened, intelligent Aquarius can read Scorpios like a book. Sometimes they are clearing out energy to recharge. Sometimes they are looking to bring in new energy for themselves, just sitting can make them feel cranky. They need some movement and variety. The distance also helps them to focus. They like to be committed to one idea -- most Scorpios want to fully finish something and go through it. Multitasking can irritate them. It's okay to send a short text here and there to let them know you're thinking of them in a positive way. Pulling on the leash will end in resentment, usually.

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      Nilanjana Chatterjee 7 months ago

      I don't know if this is a good place to divulge information. The thing is, I am confused about a lot of things to do with him. He has mentioned that he is confused about what he feels for me. There's no clarity in his feelings unlike mine which was pretty clear. For now he says he has work and an exam in mind. So he can't think of anything else coz of that. Also, I last met him on the 14th of August. It's been more than a month now. I have no hopes of seeing him before December 3rd I guess. I am scared to tell him anything at all coz: One, I respect his space and I don't want to seem prying or invading his private space. Two, since we have a lot in common, no matter how much it tempts me to drop a message and ask him how he is or what's going on in his life, I am overly conscious about it and feels like I'm disturbing him. Its been 2 months being with him (I have no clue what state or stage the relationship is at now) and this is the first time I'm encountering a situation like this. Sometimes, just sometimes, when I seem distant and faraway even in his busy work schedule he does drop in a message or two asking how I am. But this was done earlier last month, I don't think he would do that now. We haven't got any mutual friends either from whom I could get some clarity about our situation. The thing is, I don't mind waiting. I've done this before. Its just the ambiguity in his feelings for me which has been troubling me.

      Also, he is a one-track minded, ambitious, overachieving Scorpio who I guess is in his Phoenix stage. He has been preparing for this exam which is on the 3rd of December since May 2016. He has nothing on his mind but this exam. He also has to juggle office work with this. Amidst all this, somehow and somewhere I walked into his life. From what I can decipher out of this whole case is, I kinda disturbed his mental inertia of his focus on work and academics. I even asked him this, that how did I happen if it was just work and academics that you had in mind all along.

      I don't have any hopes of him coming around anytime soon. I doubt if he would come around after December at all or not. Until then, I need to stabilize mentally coz I have my work and my career to build. I have lost track as to how many days have I spent reading articles just to do with the equation between a Scorpio man and Aquarius woman. For this to happen, I need to somehow become a bit cold and aloof (something Aquarius is known for) so that this particular situation doesn't affect me so much.

      To conclude this, under no circumstances am I ready to pull the trigger or let him do the same coz I do know that if we get passed this phase, I would have a strong bond with him which could bring in a lot of clarity into his feelings for me. But since we took it a bit too fast, I am scared too. I don't mind waiting for him. But at the same time it shouldn't seem like I'm waiting for a ship that would never return. Or fly a plane on empty tanks. The ending to both the ship and the plane would be painful.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      Trust your gut and intuition on this. You have wisdom so keep that in mind. Scorpios are full of doubts and can have very nebulous minds, full of dark clouds. He doesn't want to get too energetic, and he doesn't want to hurt you. Over a month is a long time, you may need to speak your emotions at this point. If you can remind him that connections ebb and flow. He might need to be reminded that you don't always feel an elusive spark in romance, nor should you be going after it. There are soft, slow moments in relationships, and speedy, electric ones too. In order to have a healthy connection, he needs to accept both. If there's a way you can politely say this, it'll give him really good direction. He needs hope and faith here. Remember, his emotions confuse himself too.

      Let him know if there is anything he ever needs to talk about, you are there for him. That if he feels something is wrong with the connection, he can trust you, he can give you a chance to fix it or try something else. It's not fixed in stone, you can be malleable and help things get more electrifying. Scorpios can be a pain when they are down in this level, but they need to go into a cocoon every once in awhile to figure stuff out in the inside. It's really hard for any zodiac sign to follow because they go down so deep into the depths.

      The best target areas for Scorpios are emotions and their ego. Scorpios tend to date Aquarius because they are cool by nature. We have natural self-control of our emotions. They find it interesting to explore that and see some real emotion out of it too. A lot of Scorpios complain that Aquarius isn't emotional enough, but I imagine you know the truth -- Aquarius is incredibly analytical and emotional. It's current flowing of both back and forth. You may need to send him something a little emotional, something that says -- I know you. Prove to him you know him. You want him to succeed. He makes you smile.

      What are your talents? Do you sing? Write? Make pottery? One time I was dating a Scorpio and I sent him coffee mugs with images on the outside of inside jokes we shared. That got to him in particular way. Give him a little bit of emotion and a little bit of ego boosting -- make him feel energized if he comes across you. Then he won't feel so bad if he strays from his work a little. Are you good at writing poems? Dancing? Something fun. Keep up the positive, fun energy that Aquarius tends to have in stock.

      You could say something like "Hey, I just had a dream about you. I'm trying to remember what happened..." You need a line that intrigues him, but it also needs to come from an honest place. You could try something like "Hey, I've been thinking about you today. I'm really glad ____ and I'm thankful ____." See if he reciprocates. Try to do something that compliments his interests. It has to come off genuine though. And don't get too head over heels for him just yet, take the plunge gracefully and balanced. I hope this helps! I hope this gives you some direction here. Best of luck!

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      Ninja120296 7 months ago

      We need to take this convo to a more interpersonal level, Andrea. I feel absolutely lost and hopeless. I really need your help and support in planning out something. I hope you don't mind that. :/

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 months ago from Chicago

      I'll do what I can to help. I am here for you to the best of my abilities. I am going to be on vacation here soon, but I'll make a point to check my messages and give you some guidance. What do you have in mind at the moment? What thoughts do you have on a better interpersonal level?

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      Laura 6 months ago

      All Scorpio and Aquarius ppl need to read this.

      From a cusp of Capricorn&Aquarius female

      I've always heard the negative news.These astrologers never really go deep into it.Ill tell you one thing though, this article was hands down accurate.Ive known this Scorpio guy for a few years and we've seen each other at our worst, but also at our best; it was nasty a long time, but after a while or a few months we matured up and he changed me completely, along with different situations and changes in life.We don't fight anymore and I'm not so secretive. I feel like I can be more genuine with him and I love that.i love that he can appreciate it too.

      I keep my foot down more especially when he gets a little moody or gets anxiety about things or pushes my buttons but its all worth it though when I hold my ground.You just have to mature up and respect yourself is all.

      I feel like he's been waiting around for me to kind of be entirely isolated so I could be all his and only his.This guy does not want to share me.When we're together it's easy for us to talk about life and people and anything really.

      He loves to question me all the time so I guess he's into me but he's never made us official I feel like possibly he wants to know me more from afar since I've changed some.I mean to go from arguing and hating one another to never fighting and being affectionate and not fighting for months is a serious change so I think we both are checking things out.I can definitely respect him as a person and I understand we both do our own thing so I don't have to be with him 24/7 but he knows while we aren't together I'm not seeing 3 other guys or going out on dates.

      Gaze thing is so true I always always feel his eyes when they're on me and it can make you uncomfortable but he doesn't make me uncomfortable.

      Most guys ask things and it makes it worse like they'll ask if they can hold my hand or what not and they feel like things have to be vocalized but with him nothing has to be vocalized he doesn't have to tell me he loves me or cares because I know he already does by his actions.Im not a needy kind of girl I consider myself an appreciative girl that I have someone like this Scorpio guy in my life.We work through the differences and it can be irritating at times but what we have is worth it.

      Advice for Aquarius girls id say is holf your ground and be patient

      stop rushing him Idc if it's been years slow down and get to know yourself and him.

      Also don't be a bitch or so in your head like actually be emotional and appreciative of him and the good amazing guy he really is.

      Aquarius women need to really stop thinking and talking so damn much because it kills the vibe an the moment.

      Scorpio men need to be in their head more and a little more flexible but that's about all I have to say.

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      Jas 6 months ago

      Wow. LIke the others I havnt found an article that reaches the essence of attraction between these signs. I'm a scorpio f with an aquarius f. I don't know if both being forced changes the dynamics of a standard m/f relationship but my aquarius has been hard to communicate with. She takes questions as an attack but is learning that I am truly interested. My aquarius made the mistake of lying to me about her sexual past making it sound much more colourful than what it was. Ive found this extremely hard to digest...even asking her to be truthful but argument after argument her truth has only come out in bitterness. We have learnt to take our time in communication but both struggle with jealousy. As a classic scorpio I want all of my aquarius but apon first courting each other all my aquarius really had to say was how great her best friends are (one an ex), sisters are and that they'd approve of me. I felt extremely put off by this but my love and attraction is stronger so I put up with these traits that I find so hard to accept. Because we took off on the wrong foot I feel that twinge or trigger when aquarius wants to see these people etc. I find aquarius to be a bit superficial and boring at times which makes me feel terrible because she's not doing anything wrong. Any advice would be so appreciated.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      Aquarius absorbs a lot that is going around it and therein needs time to process it. It's really hard for an Aquarius when a Scorpio breaks up with them because they most likely will review everything -- and I mean everything, from every conversation, touch, and lie. This can make them realize there was more there than they thought, so keep in mind that Aquarius is sensitive and constantly absorbing the relationship. It might be a bit claustrophobic for them if they don't have the psychological release of hanging out with friends. Communication problems are a real thing with this combination. Both are absorbing zodiacs, so neither take charge in the talkative department as much as needed. Scorpio can really help Aquarius by saying what they really think, and doing so gracefully. Aquarius may be scared that their sexual history isn't as interesting as Scorpio would like, they also are probably insecure that they don't live up to Scorpios standards there. You really need to encourage Aquarius that it is doing things right and be sensitive here, because Aquarius is a closeted perfectionist, and it would be hard on them if they're not pleasing you enough, essentially. Jealously with an Aquarius isn't anything compared to what a Scorpio goes through. Don't project your mode of jealousy onto the Aquarius; it's comical to even think of them as jealous creatures even if it is there simply out of being human. Scorpio is the one known for jealousy, and perhaps an Aquarius like a chameleon will match it... but it's not really their forte. What both people need to do -- regardless of zodiac or personality -- is focus on bringing in positive energy. You must want to have a supportive and nourishing relationship to direct it to that vision. Don't nourish negative energies, and focus on each other -- not what if you were dating someone else. Both of these zodiacs are intuitive, Aquarius especially so, which can wear down its energy. As a Scorpio, be there for comfort, protection, and as a provider. Aquarius will appreciate these more practical qualities that it -- can sacrifice and lack.

      Try to enjoy Aquarius' friends, at least some of them. Aquarius has a tendency to take on the social range of a mayor or humanitarian. This is part of their nature, understanding and accepting it and knowing they are loyal is important.

      A really good date for a Scorpio and Aquarius is hanging out simply at home. Then Scorpio can have all of the Aquarius, and Aquarius can unwind from all the crazy amount of things they do and pick up on. A really grounded simple date helps both. Add in some zest to keep the Aquarius' mind entertained.

      Remember, the Aquarius already knows you are highly sexual -- most likely sexual -- and hope to be compatible with that. They want a relationship too -- I suggest taking things slow physically, but others disagree with me on that.

      Aquarius are philosophical wizards and full of ideas, they don't always have their emotions on the surface even though it is there. If you want more out of an Aquarius, you need to be up front. They cringe at the sound of being told they are boring. So inspire them to wake up and be the crazy soul that they are. Let them know it is safe to do so, otherwise they're afraid if they show you more of themselves, you'll split. Calling them superficial would be a blow to their self esteem as well. Just like if someone called a Scorpio unattractive or sexually limp -- terrible idea.

      Be patient with Aquarius. Look for ways to get their goofy side out. They really need patience; there are a lot of hurdles Aquarius has to deal with. They become stronger overtime with your trust and support.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      Thank you for your comment! Any zodiac combination can work with the right skill and understanding, if it is meant to be.

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      Ninja120296 6 months ago

      As much as reading all this helps, My Scorpio just pulled the trigger on me. On us. Coz he needs to find himself. I let him do it coz even I need to focus. But his paradoxes have been giving me sleepless nights. He first says he isn't gonna share me with anyone and then he says he's open to the idea of me dating someone else. Then he goes on to say that he would come around once things settle on his end and questioned me back about why should he move on when he has someone (that's me) who loves him like he's the only guy on the planet. Then he says if he finds someone, I would be the first one to know about it. I was fine with the "break" until he said this. This set me off really bad and told it to him on his face that I don't want him looking for another girl whatsoever coz I want to be his. And I want him to be mine. Coz I see the bigger picture. If he and I get passed this, we would be a strong match.

      I feel horrible.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      I'm sorry this happened to you. This sounds, unfortunately, pretty typical of Scorpio. They corner themselves when they feel like they are going to hurt someone, they go into hermit mode because they have uncertainty. When they are uncertain long enough, they cut the cord even if it doesn't fully make sense to the other person. It may suck, but he doesn't want to lead you on right now. He is trying really hard to be honest and find his place in the world. He isn't sure whether he will come back to you or not, and he doesn't know if someone else will pop up. Most importantly, he has some growing and maturing to do right now, particularly emotionally. He might not "really" like the idea of you dating someone else, but he wants to release you because to him that's the proper thing to do. Don't hate this guy, just know he's trying to do what he sees as best right now. I'm really sorry you have to go through this, and I know it's painful. This is a hard breakup emotionally and physically -- Scorpios put a lot of psychic pressure on Aquarius personalities. He can't rise to the occasion right now, and he knows it. If he is not in the right spot here, he could honestly create more problems for you if you are in a relationship with each other. He hasn't matured yet. This is a good time for you to take some rest, think carefully about what you want, and really focus on aspects you want in a relationship that he isn't providing -- affection, nourishment, respect, trust, support, communication. Turn to kindness, benevolence, and peace right now. Don't obsess over this situation too much. You are a beautiful person and deserve a loving relationship.

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      Ninja120296 6 months ago

      I want him back. I am ready to wait it out. But this hurts too much. I am tearing up even as I'm typing this out. Is there anyway I can make sure that happens? Any way at all?

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      Jasmin 6 months ago

      Thank you so much.

      I understand now why it has taken my aquarius a long time to understand her feelings about her past and present experiences too. It is because she absorbs a lot.

      I definitely havnt told her shes boring, but I did tell her I wanted more connecting otherwise I get bored...I made it clear she isn't boring, because she actually isn't at all.

      My aquarius gets jealous of my friends especially if theyre male. She hates men looking at me too. Shes a cusp pisces - would this be more piscean because it doesn't seem a strong aquarius trait. I think the thing that birthed the jealousy though was that we met later in life me 30 her 40 and anyone who was already around and knew about or was close to the other partner felt painful and hard for both of us to embrace in the beginning.

      We're overcoming get this these days (coming up for 3 years) I know my aquarian needs friends and since we moved and she walked away from some bad friends shes yet to make some new ones. Inside I'm dreading the day because I know she'll want to see them all the time and its gonna kill. I know it doesn't have to I'm open to growing and accepting. But yeah scorpio at heart. Thank you again

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      This could be a more Pisces trait. Water signs have a degree of jealously. She may be feeling more insecure than jealous and needs to be encouraged. Help build trust here, so she can feel more comfortable.

      I can understand it's difficult to let go of baggage. Try to work throughout it together, or even individually with counseling. Holding onto baggage too dearly can make it difficult to see the present. Everyone has baggage, and it can make starting relationships out difficult since you may be used to getting hurt, hangups, etc. If you both remember that both of you are dealing with it, that might take the pressure off. I hope for the best of luck here for you.

      Aquarius does need friends; it'll help bring positivity in her life. Aquarius naturally makes friends, whether they are always conscious of it or not. Try to encourage her to go to places that she enjoys or follow her interests, whether you go with her or not. I think this will help. Hopefully she has confidence here. Sometimes Aquarius people worry they are too weird, and in new locations without friends they may question whether or not they really are good at making friends or if it was just a fantasy. Moving can be existential for an Aquarius, that is for sure.

      Aquarius like to make friends just for friends. I find they like hearing and knowing someone wants their time, so don't be afraid to say you'd like to spend more time with them. Of course, be sensitive to smothering them. A good rule of thumb for relationships is from one of my favorite comedians, Demetri Martin. He says "Relationships are a lot like eyebrows. They need space."

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      There is no guarantee, and I wouldn't want to make you think that. There is a possibility he could come back, but right now he is needing to focus on his life and the goals he believes he has. He doesn't have the right amount of time to be in a relationship with you, and there is no way of changing that thought. By continuing to talk to him, it'll just remind him he doesn't have the right tools and time to handle a relationship with you at this point, so it could make things worse.

      I know it is painful, and I'm really sorry for you. I think right now is a good time for you to focus on yourself and work through the pain. If you try to contact him right now or bug him a lot, it may make him feel less attracted to you and give him negative thoughts. I wouldn't push it anymore right now, and I know that's tough. If he wants to come around and see how you're doing, he'll do so, but don't depend on that. You need to put yourself into a situation where you can heal, nourish yourself, and gain some direction here. Breakups are no fun, but you do have the choice about what attitude you want to take into it, and you are not alone. I hope your heart starts feeling better, and you can find some direction.

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      6 months ago

      As an Aquarius who's been attracted to a Scorpio for almost 3 years now, I find this entertaining to read as it's more Scorp centered and it somehow validated some of my theories about the scorp woman I'm attracted to. The thing is, I think I've already reached my limit with this person. The biggest turn off will always be not being able to trust her completely. I tried to be a good friend to her and I think there was a time when we're really great friends but then I told her that I care for her because I like her romantically. Her response was idiotic in my opinion though I understand it could be a by-product of extreme awkwardness and concern about my well being (or hers, IDK. She's sketchy AF). I took it as rejection and since I'm not one to be always confessing my undying love and devotion, I closed her off thinking of her as a threat to my privacy and all. I almost let her in but I'm glad I chose to not go all the way just yet. What confuse me and still bring about guilt from time to time are those times she opened up to me. Those times she chose me to confide some things with. Half of me thinks that's some Scorpio finally being at ease with me and trusting me which is a positive note but the other half thinks of it as a tactic to manipulate me. And I can't stand being manipulated. Who knows if those were all for real or just blatant lies in order to make me comfortable with her? Too comfy to say... entrust her with my secrets even my most beloved people don't know? Who knew she might have done those just so she could get me protecting her? Which I'm very much willing to do, manipulations are very much unnecessary. I've written all these and now I'm feeling guilty for not giving some more benefit of the doubt. I still like her though but I'm already trying (my hardest) to get over her so I'm just mostly focusing on one thing that I dislike most about her -- dishonesty. Now I'm crushing on a new human being who happens to be a Pisces but it's a hopeless case. When will I ever stop liking these water signs?

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      Thank you for your openness! From my experience, there is some major draw toward Scorpios. I as an Aquarius can pick up on it real quick, and it interests me every time. There's a lot of opposites and similarities at the same time that attract these two. Pisces is so much friendlier, and a really healthy match for an Aquarius if the Aquarius will accept it. They are the 11th and 12th sign, and arguably the most complex -- besides the Scorpio and his nutty 8th house.

      Scorpio doesn't always know what it is doing, and this makes Aquarius crazy because Aquarius in truth is more conscious and does know what it is doing. Both have a high appreciation of privacy, both are honestly great thinkers and emotional beasts, and both really crave a relationship but feel short changed by sex or other qualities that make them feel like just a list of features. It is an important part of any romantic relationship to tell secrets, things you don't with others because this develops intimacy. Scorpios are relationship machines, but they can get stuck in one angle -- which is passion. You need commitment, passion, and intimacy to make love happen. They tend to fear commitment over the other two. Aquarius also fears commitment above all else. Maybe it's just human.

      Was the Scorpio manipulating you? They may just be trying to figure you out, so I don't think 100% manipulation was in order. Trust is extremely important and needed. It can heal too though. Give it a rest if that's your instinct, let them back in if they make an offer and you feel it is right for you.

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      Ninja120296 6 months ago

      Hey!

      Is there a way you could try writing an article about Scorpios when they get ambitious? As much as I am trying to come to terms with the truth that he is gone, but also considering that this is a phase and it will eventually pass, I wanna know everything...

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 months ago from Chicago

      I'll keep that in mind and see what I can come up with.

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      Ana 5 months ago

      SerenityHalo, youre advice is awesome. Do you have an email that I can write to you?

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      GreenEyes1607 5 months ago from Illinois

      As an Aquarius woman, I can totally relate to this. I find myself intensely attracted to a lot of Scorpio men. It's like they have this weird power over me and I find myself addicted to them. They're very mysterious creatures and that only makes me want them more. Scorpio men are definitely a challenge but I think it's worth it to get to know and really understand them. Your hub was really interesting and informative!

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      Glad it was helpful! Those Scorpios are all kinds of trouble.

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      Scorpio83 5 months ago

      First off thanks for this article! Every zodiac compatibility site or book basically says there's no hope for an Aquarius and Scorpio to be together. Long story short.. Ive met this Aquarius woman about 4 months ago (she lives about a couple hrs south of me) so we don't get to see eachother often. The first time I met her I was attracted I mean ATTRACTED to her it was different tho.. It was almost if she was seeing through me? It's hard to explain I just felt an extreme attachment mentally, even the way she looked at me seemed flirty and smiley. I felt as if she wanted me (not in a cocky way) anyway I barley get to see her and when I do it's the same only the last time we hung out she was a bit more touchy which was awesome but this is where I'm confused we exchanged numbers and snapchat accounts. When we're not together she's distant, I'll text her short kind texts asking how she's doing and I won't get a response till hrs later and there short kinda, the kinda text that makes you think I'm being annoying but I barley text her. I casually asked her if she wanted to go out and check out a museum or art studio (we're both into that) and she still seemed distant. It's weird she's all about me and touchy when she's around in person, I feel a strong connection with her mentally too. But over the phone she's totally different. I'm scared to tell her how I feel cuz her actions makes me think she's doesn't feel the same I do. It's driving me crazy!! Lol. I want to start off slow with her and become good friends so I'm not trying to rush but how can I build a better relationship if she's distant? Should I forget about her and move on? Is this typical? She has this Ora about her that's making me obsessed lol (not in a creepy way) I respect her space in other words I'm not stalking her. I wish it was easier. Thanks for reading please help :) @serenityhalo

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      @Scorpio83

      Don't overanalyze text messages. You're putting too much emphasis on the messages. Aquarius people don't usually gush on text messages; they're more quirky and upbeat. In person is what counts. Build the connection there. If she's being touchy, that's almost always a signal of interest. Aquarius people test the water; they expect people to drop them like flies. They want to see if you are consistent, dedicated, and interesting. They come out of their shells more as time goes by. If someone is responding to a text message, this is good. Remember, all of us are getting swamped with messages, notifications and the like from work, friends, family. If someone keeps up with you at all, especially in the beginning stages -- this is a good thing. Again, in person connection is more important than text messages.

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      Sweetums 5 months ago

      Hi the sheer way you have put the words across about the 2 signs is just amazing. There were places, you made tears well up in my eyes, where you were describing the Scorpion traits (FYI I am a Scorpio). I have fallen in love with your understanding and deliverance of the same regarding the 2 signs.

      Unfortunately, I am tremendously attracted to an Aquarian at my work place but I am already married and taking any steps in the other direction will prove to be a disaster for my personal and professional life. But the insight just made me feel that how helpless I actually am.

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 months ago from Chicago

      @sweetums

      If there's one thing I've learned about astrology, the Aquarius and Scorpio connection is very real and very powerful. A lot of people have come across it with such intensity. I don't think you'll want to risk your personal and professional life for someone. I think working on a happier marriage will prove fruitful. Breaking up would leave you with a lot of residual pain, and you probably wouldn't be able to focus properly on someone new. An Aquarius who is very keen will get that sense, and will probably feel you can't fully focus on them because of the inevitable baggage from a divorce. An Aquarius needs devotion and to know someone will be true to them, so coming to them after a breakup could smell of a rebound or something not right to them -- and they are highly intuitive.

      I ended up in a similar situation where a Scorpio was attracted to me at work, and they tried to breakup with their current girlfriend. It never really felt like they were broke up, and it made things confusing for me as to where they stood. I hope knowing that this connection is real makes you feel better, but it probably isn't the right one to pursue, especially right now. Connections of attraction will come into our life, and we will have to manage how we want to approach them for our overall good.

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      Scorpiochick 4 months ago

      I found this a wonderful article, it has helped me to understand my Aquarius better, even though I still don't understand him at all lol.

      If I can ask, what should a scorpio do when Aquarius starts acting strange? For example, he tells you he can't live without you and that he's never loved anyone as much as you, then barely says more than a hello for the next 3 days after.

      My aquarius does this all the time, it makes me doubt him completely even though I try hard not to. I feel like he doesn't care enough to miss me and if it goes on for long, I decide to end it and then he is suddenly around again and reassuring me of his love, only to act the same way after a few days again. It drives me crazy... yet I know he is the love of my life and I have even agreed to move in with him although he has kind of procrastinated on that after he said he wanted us to do it within a week.

      You say to chase them and I would, but because of this and because I have heard that they need space, I've stepped back and actually stop myself a lot from initiating conversations or dates because I don't want to seem clingy or needy and bore him.

      Any help you can give me to understand this side of him would help incredibly.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Sounds like you need to communicate some things. Your Aquarius probably doesn't realize how much these things bother you. Do you ever tell him when you are feeling left out / given the cold shoulder?

      Ask them:

      What are their favorite kind of dates.

      What are their favorite moments with you.

      What would be (in a general sense) overwhelming to them in this big scary world?

      What are their ideals in a relationship?

      Why do they love you?

      Aquarius are very open minded. Air signs love to talk, generally speaking. Get them talking and get them mentally excited. What are their interests? A happy Aquarius is full of ideas.

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      Scorpiochick 4 months ago

      I do tell him, he says its not his intention, that he loves talking to me, but he gets busy or he becomes distracted and forgets to say goodbye then he comes home tired or is upset sometimes and doesnt want to message me because hes im a boring mood. I have tried explaining that im here for the good and bad, but he just fixes it for a week or so and then the same thing happens for days. Im not sure if im boring to him, he just doesn'y care as much as he says or if it''s his nature, but when i seem hurt by it, he does everything he can to reassure me.

      I've known him for almost a year now and we hit it off from the start, however he used to shy away from questions and would immediately dissapear after one so, I've refrained from asking a lot of them, which is extremely hard for me. He has changed a lot since we met and those do seem like harmless questions and conversation starters. ☺

      Thank you for the tip.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Aquarius are relentless perfectionists but they also want to keep peace. Sometimes it's hard for them to go into hard conversations, not necessarily because they are afraid of confrontation, but they are afraid they'll screw things up. I think this is pretty human. Aquarius personalities can take a moment to heat up; their biggest fear a lot of times is someone leaving them or it not working, so they can get really worried about this underneath it all. That might not be going on here... what are you guys' ages? What is happening in his career? Most men will focus a lot of energy into their career when they feel it is unstable, and then they'll not turn as much attention to their partner.

      I think what Aquarius always needs is to know they are not going to be judged. If they know you'll nourish them over judging them, they'll feel accepted, and that's ultimately what they are wanting in a relationship. Then they'll be much more open and vibrant. I don't think Aquarius can ever really be bored -- they have too much in their heads to entertain them. Something is seriously wrong if they are bored. That's why it can be really hard on them when things don't workout because that kind of failure stings them really bad. Aquarius really wants to have strong, devoted relationships, and they want to be leaders in helping people have better relations. They can get in a complex about this. You showing that you are supportive is a big deal. But of course -- there could be other things at work here. An Aquarius ultimately needs to accept itself as well.

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      Scorpiochick 4 months ago

      We are both 30, work wise he is doing pretty good. He does what he loves for a living and he has plenty of work. However, he has slowed work down because he is in the process of moving back down to my state ( this is his home state, but he left for a little while and is now coming back).

      I have broken up with him a couple of times over this issue and have taken him back within 24 hours because although he hurts me by pushing me away, I just can't let him go. I don't do it constantly, but it has happened. I try to reassure him all the time, like yesterday I mentioned how much I value his thoughts and opinions and that I take what he thinks into account all the time which is the truth, but I'm not sure if he believes it, I hope he does.

      I'm not sure if it matters, but his ascendent is saggitarius, his moon is libra and his Venus is saggitarius. My acendent is leo, my moon is pisces and my Venus is scorpio. From what I've heard, it's not a perfect match, but some of those actually combine nicely.

      I want to thank you for all of your help, you are a wonderful person for answering all of us and helping us understand those we love. ☺

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      Nicole288 4 months ago

      Hello, I am a 28 yr old Aquarius female that has been dating my 28 year old scorpio for 6 going on 7 years come July. I'm quiet concerned because I'm not sure where he stands emotionally with me. Ususally I have intuition that something is deeply wrong but I'm not. I just know I am quiet bothered by the lack of affectionate. He currently is struggling in his career as he works for his self so everything tends to fall on me and its been this was for 3 yrs. He says he hates the ways things are and he wants us to work harder to change our life so it doesn't continue the way it is where he is not financially able to take care of things with me. I can see the frustration but after a really bad falling out between us (regarding finances) he has remained distant emotionally. He talks highly about building together but lacks the affection that I crave from him. We aren't intimate and that really bothers me. His conversation is always about business because over the years he's inspired me to work for myself as well but... I'm so confused. When we do work together on thins to build the only time he seems to really lighten up and joke around with me heavy is when other people are around. This hurts because when we are alone he gets back in his grumpy mode and doesn't want to show that sweet funny side. What should I do? I've expressed the lack of attention and love and affection and he tells me he's not focusing on that right now. and how he understands that what I want but there;s a bigger picture. I need to be more patient.For me not having intimacy(not just sex) at all affects me negatively. As if I'm not attractive to him anymore. How he looks at me isn't even the same. What advice do you think you can provide with this because I don't know how to feel? Focus on what he's focus on and forget what i feel, OR be patient.

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      Nicole288 4 months ago

      Also, forgot to mention he's quite controlling that it aggitates me to my core. Although he has started showing slight effort to do things together if its not done to his liking, his tone to correct me is so rough! He wasn't always like this, he use to be so concerned about me&my feelings, ask me about my self and very flirty. That is long gone now. I feel like a business partner/just friend that decided to live together. The worst part is he doesnt compliment me at all, we dont do things together other than building on our businesses together. We use to just chill at home,cuddle up and watch movies at times to spend time. There is no affection, intimacy or anything at all. It makes me feel like im unattractive to him. I know i controll my thoughts but maybe you can explain what stage my scorpio is at??? Is this something to be patient about or is this a sign he is transforming on me and is over our relationship

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      I like the signs you guys are bringing together. I like to focus on sun signs, but sometimes those other pieces offer what other kinds of energies people are dealing with. Sounds like he has a lot of air and fire, and you have fire and water. But I like all these signs together. Moving can be a hurdle, and I think when that issue is settled it will make things easier on the two of you. Both Scorpios and Aquarius zodiacs are dying for loyalty and devotion, for different reasons. Scorpio craves a real, genuine relationship and doesn't want to just be used for their energy. Scorpios get highly repulsed from energy vampires, and I've known some who will strike against people's energy with revenge or to teach them how that stings when their energy is abused. Aquarius lives a life of looking for the authentic self, and is in constant search of the truth. In a romantic relationship, they really want to be accepted and have that devotion. They're not as concerned about being understood, but accepted -- generally speaking. The more loyalty they have, the more they open up. The more you can help them to be weird, the better. It may take time to get this out of them, which I know helps with your reassurance. Aquarius buries a lot of their self because people will pick on them for their idiosyncratic behaviors. Aquarians are really drawn to how passionate Scorpios are, and I think it brings them comfort. It can be really scary as an Aquarius if someone is being hot and cold with them, because they're already questioning what is genuine -- let him know you are always passionate about them but don't always reveal that on the surface, and sometimes your energy has to cleanse and recycle itself. Aquarius emotions run differently, so they don't quite understand what's happening with their Scorpio. An Aquarius is always emotional, but usually keeps it internally, until one day they are rushed over by emotion. They're really good at managing their emotions and staying chill. They are sometimes surprised by their emotional responses. They're quite attracted to how Scorpios work. I think Aquarius can also be worried that someone will lose interest, or that they're not showing exactly what they need to in order to keep the romantic connection. They worry they are not being interesting enough. A captivated, attentive partner is a plus for them.

      I say the best advice for today is:

      1. Encourage their weirdness, try new things, make up weird games to bring out their creativity. They tend to be wordsmiths or artists.

      2. They need a lot of patience.

      3. Try a long makeout session (or two) without it necessarily leading to anything else. This can help with intimacy. You could suggest this and say you just want to know how it would make the two of you feel, something like that.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Even though the material world of finances is a common focus for earth signs, for the Scorpio it is a prime matter. He is not going to be able to turn that around in his mind until it is fixed, other water signs are this way -- the reason -- if there is financial instability, than there is instability in the structure altogether, meaning it doesn't feel safe to be passionate because the structure as a whole is shaky. Scorpios care intensely about passion, and financial instability is a big slap to the face. He is doing whatever he can to focus on that and fix it, and some of his actions are probably incredibly blunt and making it hard on you because he isn't focusing on the emotional side of things. He is trying really hard here and most likely being more on his logical side. What you need to do to understand where his brain is going is sit down with him and figure out very clearly what are his financial goals, is there debt you guys are dealing with, does he have plans to be a millionaire? Maybe you guys need to downsize to make things feel better. You've been together for a long time, you're essentially at the 7 year itch.

      Are you guys working a business together or have different careers? You guys do need a plan of what's happening here financially and how long it is going to last. He will feel better if you focus on the finances, but it sounds like he is too strained to think of anything else right now. Pushing more emotion on him directly could stress him out until he is ready. Focus with him on finances and you might naturally see affection return. Something is very obviously greatly bothering him, to the point that he is getting controlling. And it all has to do with money. You have to ask yourself if his financial goals are reasonable. There is a lot of resources out there to turn the tide and have financial peace.

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      Scorpiochick 4 months ago

      Thank you. He just vanished on me again for 4 days and when he got back I gave him a huge cold shoulder because his excuse was completely absurd and it's one he's used before a few times, he seemed to become reserved and kind of quiet. From reading your answer to my last message it seems that will only make things worse. I'll be warming up and reassuring him, trying to explain how I feel and trying to let him know that I'm not going anywhere. Thank you so much for your help, you may have just saved us. ☺

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      Scorpiochick 4 months ago

      And yes, you're correct, his chart is mostly air with a decent splash of fire and mine is mostly water/fire with a very small hint of earth and wind.

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      CancerWoman 4 months ago

      hello- I had a temporary affair with a Scorpio man whom is married to an Aquarius woman. Initially things moved rapidly between us. It was his second time having an affair and he quite convinced me he was preparing to move in the direction of divorce, even setting out a time frame. What he refused to do was tell his wife of the affair. I gave him several opportunities to leave me alone, or else... and finally I told. They have an 18 year marriage with no shared children. He went through many stages of emotions after she found out, and within six months wanted to resume the affair. I thought it was unlike scorpios to be so unfaithful but he clearly is ok with cheating but not ok with divorcing. Does this sound typical, and would an Aquarius woman turn a blind eye to such in order to keep her marriage?

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      CancerWoman 4 months ago

      Continued...I thought it worth mentioning our sun and moon signs- Scorpio Sun Pisces Moon

      Aquarius Sun Leo Moon and Cancer Sun Aquarius Moon. I am also stunned that he (the married Scorpio) speaks passionately about not wanting to hurt his wife and how much it pains him to hurt her but that DOES NOT stop him from being with me intimately. It almost seems clear as day that he wants to use me ( and I have continued the affair momentarily to see just where he is going with this whole thing.) I almost feel as though I would be shocked to really realize he sees nothing wrong with what is done in the dark, and that the affair is only a problem if she knows. Is that a Scorpio trait?

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Oh, lordy. Okay. Multiple wrongs never make anything right, but I'm more here to give you an option in all of this mess that will help you to have a happy, sustainable, and exciting life. Some of my advice here might be pretty blunt, but I really want you to succeed here, and fully believe you have the potential to do so and end up in a loving relationship with yourself or with a partner, if you so desire. Granted, I'm a random person on the Internet, so please don't take anything too hard to yourself here. I more want to help you out of a crisis situation that I'm seeing, because messing with a Scorpio to this degree is dangerous, especially when they are attached to an Aquarius, who is freakishly intuitive and brilliant. And insane. They truly are insane, that's part of their genius.

      Affairs don't lead to anything good, and if you were to successfully seduce this person, whether you want to keep them or are enacting revenge against him -- your odds of keeping this person are extremely low. Also, it's a Scorpio. You've caused this Scorpio great pain in their marital relationship, and what is true of a Scorpio (and unique) is they will enact a serious, very-serious revenge like sting deeply to your psyche. He may already be plotting this, and that may be why he returned. He might not be conscious of this either. They deal with a wider range of emotions compared to everyone else, and sometimes those emotions in having such great range are hard to understand, even for them. They are especially upset if you mess with what is the most dear to them, not sex, but relationships. Their mission in the zodiac with love has to do with helping sustain and create relationships, and go deeply into emotions to feel the full extent of it. They don't want lackluster love. Very passionate. He also cares about his relationship with you as part of his mission in life, but it's very twisted because there is so much negative energy there, and I imagine he wishes it could be fixed, but probably knows it can't and is willing to take you down with his hurts. That's what Scorpios do in affairs. They make sure the negative blow of energy is full and complete, as if they are performing a demonic possession on you. There's a reason they are often associated with devils. They are crafters of great emotional energy, they are sorcerers, and they don't just carry the cards of positive feel good emotions -- they know black magic. It's written in their own psyches; they have access to that because of how fully they look into emotions. They are like the Mariana Trench in depth. Affairs are not a good idea, Scorpio affairs are lethal. It can be really hard to understand what cards the Scorpio is really playing to know what conclusion they are seeking.

      This blow to you is almost guaranteed, so I wouldn't keep waltzing around with him. This is playing with fire. And it's a rough situation because you should stop messing with him, but he may retaliate against you for leaving him behind, but the longer you play this game with him.... the more it'll hurt in the end. See how he is playing with your mind already? He might not even know what a strange situation this has put you into, and it doesn't matter so much as who started the affair, but that it was enacted. They leave deep blows on people's minds without knowing that's their target. And an Aquarius in the mix? You'll never know when they've done revenge on you. They are clever and plot it out as a clean crime. This is not a good situation and you are more vulnerable than you think, because these are two very strong zodiacs with unique powers, although a Pisces has their unique powers too... but Scorpio is the king of psychic revenge, and Aquarius is a genius and will either a.) kill you with kindness or b.) make you feel like a curse is following you all your life. Pisces is meant to bring love into the world, and when they lose their hope in that, they start to do some, well, bat-shit crazy things. But as a water sign, most harmful attacks you would make end up being self-harm. So your real battle in this may be yourself and having to recover your sense of hope and love, so if I'm being honest, you have some refreshing and cutting some cords ahead of you.

      As for the emotions the man is facing, totally normal of any man regardless of zodiac sign. Most men don't have affairs to eventually have divorces. To lose someone you've known for a good chunk of life is hard, heartbreaking, and a pretty big loss, even if the marriage has its shortcomings. To lose someone you are attracted to and enjoy is a complicated matter as well -- so to lose you is also pain. But I suggest getting out of this entire picture and finding something more healthy for you. I would be quite frankly pissed if I was his wife in this picture -- and it is hard to tell how an Aquarius will play you. It's usually subversive and mysterious. No, way would they be okay with cheating. They tend to take it hard, and this may have made the two closer, because the Aquarius probably should more emotion bringing the Scorpio in -- and maybe he wants to have those emotions again, so he is willing to play fire with you to jump start the emotions of his wife. Terrible. Just... flat out terrible.

      Aquarius are also pretty independent, so if they want to end a marriage, they quite frankly can. You should try empathizing with her in your alone time and getting out of this situation before it backfires on you. Karma is a real and powerful. Affairs are ugly and cause a whole series of negative emotions. You deserve better than this. You deserve a healthy relationship with someone who doesn't already have a commitment. And if you think getting a divorce is hard, the emotional attachment this man has in his heart for a wife of that long won't be going away anytime soon. He has a heart contract there, and killing it is really hard. He needs to work through his own problems without you. Stop being addicted to this and go find a healthy connection somewhere else, this will help you in the long run. You don't need this in your life. You deserve happiness and someone who is truly available. This won't be found here, even if it started to have the appearance here or if they were positive and open to you, there are deep attachments from his long marriage and you'll never be on par with her. She is it because of the long heart contract. He could, again, be trying to mess with you to get the happy-recovery emotions again with her. Plus, if he has an affair with you, what's to say there hasn't been other affairs in his marriage previously, or that he would have affairs when closer to you? He is likely to cheat on you if you have him. This isn't the most sustainable option for you. Affairs are a form of addiction, and the answer to addiction has to do with figuring out where you need to be connected -- you need to find different social engagements in order to feel emotionally and mentally healthy and end the addiction.

      Yes, I most likely think he is playing you to some degree. Very likely. And if not, that's also an eerie situation. I really want good things for you.

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      Cancerwoman 4 months ago

      Thank you for your in depth perspective. A large amount of what you have said I've considered. I had even hoped if our affair brought them closer together and improved their marriage it was worth it and I can and will most certainly move on. I am no longer so emotionally tied to him that I need or desire him. I was more concerned when he wanted to resume the affair. As you said, this could be a subconscious behavior (which he and I even discussed at length). I also believe he is seeking out emotional fulfillment and has found this avenue easy. I also experienced his black magic so vividly and clearly I had no choice but to accept the realistic ability of scorpios to take you under a spell. (Almost unbelievable really!) I do believe he is working through many personal desires and that the connection we experienced struck a chord in what we both desire for our lives but now the art will be achieving those goals separately and may peace be with us all. While I empathize with his wife, just a hair, I am such an advocate for change that I do not long empathize with those who prefer to stay fixed in a position or situation that has been detrimental to even their own children. However, if it is possible for an Aquarius to be put under a spell to any degree like I was, I completely understand her staying.

      Lastly, I appreciate your saying, "affairs are addicting". It is true and I'd never looked at this in that light until you said it. They are emotionally charged impacting your senses something like drugs do.

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      Andrea Lawrence 4 months ago from Chicago

      Best of luck to you and good wishes!

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      aquarius man and scorpio woman 4 months ago

      hello,

      I wanted to ask you your opinion on how best to handle my Aquarius love interest. We met and went on a couple dates before we lost contact for a couple months. I assumed he didnt want to be with me anymore and I got back together with my ex for a couple months to try to make things work, but after some time I realized I couldnt forgive the exs affair and broke up with him again. I started talking to my aquarius again and we started hanging out. We have been 'seeing eachother' for 6 months now. when we first started hanging out, he made it clear that we were not dating and that he probably wouldnt be ready to date someone for awhile. we have been intimate. we would usually make dinner together and then watch a movie and then spend the night together and i would leave the next morning. he is responsive when i text him but it is me initiating it about 85% of the time, but then he keeps the conversation going throughout the day. usually our weekend plans are me asking what he is doing for the weekend and then usually a well maybe you can come over and then usually waiting to hear from him the day of to finalize plans. This explanation is hard to do because i dont want to romanticize it but i also want to be clear. i feel like i am pursuing him, but he is the one who lets me visit. i have a hard time just casually seeing him, i am all in in relationships and i dont know how much more time to give him to make a decision if he wants to date me. he was very hurt by his ex who cheated on him. i am trying to be patient but i cant tell if he is just using me or if he actually sees a future together. recently he joked that he would be single forever and it broke my heart. i am sitting right there offering my heart and he just could take it or leave it. should i try just leaving him completely alone, or would that make him feel abandoned? feel free to ask any clarifying questions you need to. sorry for this rambling word vomit.:)

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      Montrez Stokes 4 months ago

      This article was such a great read that I had to have my boyfriend read it as well. It really described our relationship perfectly. We started off so rocky in the beginning but now I'm so in love with everything about him. I'm a Scorpio and he's a Aquarius by the way. I started to push him away by being crazy jealous and saying things I didn't mean and it was rocky in the beginning but we always talked things out and never left each other's side and now I can honesty say he's the love of my life. Everyone who reads this don't be scared to try it out because the match up is almost magical if you take time to get to know each other and do it right. Thanks again for a great read!

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      Rodna 4 months ago

      I must say that this is the best and most accurate depiction I have read. I'm a Scorpio woman with an Aquarius man. And we certainly did take time to develop. It was a dance of two years but well worth the wait. We were friends first. I did pull away a few times because I couldn't make sense of his feelings and was not ready to accept them or the fact that I could not read him. When I finally let go and embraced my fear of the unknown, things just fell into place. He keeps me on my toes and the meeting of the minds is incredible.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      Thank you for your comment! I'm glad to know this resonates with your relationship. It isn't easy to let go of your fears with the unknown, but doing so helps relieve the tension for you and gets you in a healthier and more open minded place. I wish you well in your endeavors and your relationship.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      Thank you for the comment! I love to see people supporting each other in this zodiac match, it can work! And it does have great benefits.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      It sounds like you two have been together for awhile. It sounds like you are more the one who initiates in this relationship, but according to your texting and weekend adventures he stays consistent with you and doesn't leave you by yourself. Does he or you have any other person involved in this situation? Aquarius types are existential; they read relationships in a different way and have a hard time committing for this reason. They want to make sure the connection is authentic and not being forced. They care more about the connection than the label of a relationship. I think they worry a lot deep down that if they label it as relationship but that isn't true then they could be stuck or living a lie. It's an Aquarius thing.

      They need to establish friendship first in order to get their feet wet. It sounds like you two have a pretty strong friendship here, which is a good thing. I wouldn't cut and run this person, they probably already are emotionally connected to you whether they realize it or not because you two have developed so much routine around each other. It might be easier to say to him that you already feel like you are in a relationship, and you want to know his thoughts, and you want to know if there is enough emotional investment that if you stopped giving him attention or if you pursed other relationships (or hobbies even) that you would want to know if that would bother him. If it would hurt his feelings, break his heart, or make him jealous. He might say do whatever you feel like doing, and I'll support you no matter what -- and then you could say that what you want is him.

      And he might not know how he feels until you actually are out of the picture, so it's okay if he doesn't know the answer to that. But I think the conversation here is important, your feelings are important, his feelings are important. Talking gets the ball moving. You two need to have a heart to heart conversation about where you are now and where you would like to be headed -- not just romantically, but altogether in life. You may have to state that no physical affection is allowed anymore just as friends, but that only applies for your committed romantic partner. Because otherwise that just makes things more confusing. Also, where are you two in life? Are you in school, college, looking for jobs, or are pretty settled where you are? These external factors can have a lot of influence on a relationship and how well it'll make it into the long term.

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      Western Norway 3 months ago

      For over a year I have been looking for a "positive" reaction between Scorpio and me as an aquarian. Finally I found it. You see I have my best friend in e female Scorpio. And I tell you we have some magnetic bounds between us. And she has adhd and borderline disorders as well. I know its not gonna be easy but you know I take it as a gift instead of looking it as a sickness. I was divorced 4 years ago and she was earlier a friend to my x. We jumped into each other and we fall in love in a party and had sex. Fantastic like we are made for each other. Thats 3 years ago now. Sit that we have "just " been very good friends. At the same time we are like an old couple married for 60 years,- and at the same time have fun like teenagers. Its like we are a couple and not at the same time...strange but fantastic. Thesedayes its like we are bounded and I feel a great sexuality attraction to her. She has started giving me gifts, text sms every day, she helps me all the time. Its one thing though.....she told me a year ago she is in the "massage business". Tantra.

      Its very strange but i respect here so much. I understand its a kind of living since she has adhd, borderline. She was ( and still are) an alcoholic. Not been drinking for 9 years. More and deeper respect. I loved to party as well and thanks to her I don't like it anymore and stay sober all the time. We both have grown up kids.

      Often she sees business or houses for sale and wants me to buy it together, move in and fix it and make money. I feel its her way of saying : lets be a couple for real.

      With all these "problems" most men ran away but not me. Its deep love and I feel God has a plan. Its like a rescue ship for each other.

      Question: I feel scorpio and an aquarian are made for each other but nobody , but you, see this gift between scorpio and aquarian !! Right ?

      Love your page here man.

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      Tet Pepito 3 months ago

      Hi there,

      It is a joy to finally come across this good read, usually all i could find about scorpio and aquarius are incompatibility. However this is a good find. At some point there is a lot of really truth about this. I met an Aquarian for over a year and the visionary and the magician really works for us two. These two are very powerful in a way, like when the magician can attract positives and negatives strongly, so they should be very careful because intensity of both can be fatal given in a situation. However if the Visionary can keep the cool and balance he/she can help in what the Magician can attract. :)

      Hope to find better reads :) Keep safe

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      I'm not one who buys into incompatibility in the zodiac. I think it's a matter of learning how the blend works. We've all seen matches from the entire zodiac work, and we've all signs every possible match fail. So I think there's definitely more at play here. :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      A lot of people writing about astrology are sticking to the basics when it comes to compatibility. I think that hurts astrology. We all have seen in the natural world every type of combination succeed, and every combination fail -- so I think there's more to it if we want to find the truth in it. There are so many Scorpios and Aquarius couples coming together, and they are desperately looking for information to figure out what's happening that doesn't work -- but not a lot is being offered their way. It's a fine dance in this match, but one that is beautiful.

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      Candis Parrott 3 months ago

      Am a Scorpio girl and my boyfriend is an Aquarius I swear after reading this article it describes our relationship like all the way we been in a relationship for five years we had our ups and downs we get in really big arguments and throw hurtful words well I do then somehow I kelpt on in then I got to him in he started throwing em back but no matter what if we break up it's like only for a day are two we never give up on echother in it's funny because the main arguments we be having I start them because of him he don't give me enough attention and sometimes he says I control our relationship witch is not true but one day I realize it was true I like to have control over things without knowing but he lets me... Sometimes in our sex life is like omg we can't go a hold week without talking about it on the phone next thing you no every once a week sometimes two we have sex we don't get to see echother that much so when we see each other it's like we do it for hours sometimes 3 are 4 times he expresses his fellings to me sometimes but not in his actions am always starting arguments with him because am just not getting what I expect out of him it's like me being a Scorpio at the beginning I gave it my all to our relationship in still do but it's like am being taken for granted and misunderstood it's like he's getting to comfortabl because he knows ama always be there no matter what

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      Ease up on the relationship. You're putting too much pressure on it. He clearly likes you.

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      Aquaria2 3 months ago

      Hello,

      Is there a way I can ask the question about my situation relating to this great read in private? I don't feel comfortable sharing private details about a sensitive issue on a public forum. Please let me know...

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      Aqua 3 months ago

      I'm an Aquarius with Venus in Aquarius. I have always been the attraction of people with 2-3 planets in Scorpio. Probably because my Taurus moon and Pisces mars. Now I meet a guy with Venus and Mercury in Scorpio. With him I found something in me that I did not know until now. I found the love that I'm capable of, infinite emotions. When he managed to make me open, I felt I'll burn and I would literally burn to ash. I have not slept and eat three days in a row, he was in all my being, he was all my breaths, all my veins. I couldn't think to anything else. I stopped everything, If I would not say stop to my heart I would probably die. My emotions were just consuming me. Now I understand why we have some kind of Aquarius off button, is just for protection. Emotions are endless, limitless, they just grow and grow and grow forever, more then a body can take. Now to make the relationship go further I chose to stay away from him longer periods and when we are together is extremely intense. I think such relationships are not meant to last, but to heal.

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      Boss 3 months ago

      I'm a Scorpio female with an Aquarius guy I'm 26 he's 40 I know that we love each other and we are married my problem is he don't show me enough affection or spend enough time he hangs out with his friends more then me this is concerning because I don't know if I can deal with this for the rest of my life he tells me he's more established and don't like being told what to do and divorce has came up because he said that he didn't want to disappoint me by not being the man I thought he would be all I ask for is his time with me and the kids and he acts like that to much

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      Gail 3 months ago

      Thank you so much for your very interesting thoughts about Aquarius/Scorpio relationships. I am in my 60's and

      have just started dating a man that I dated when we were 13 and 14 years old. I am the Scorpio and he is an Aquarius. I am having a great time with this man. Hopefully I gave him (and myself) enough time to mature. I hadn't seen him in over 50 years. It's nice to read something good about the 2 signs.

      Thanks again

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      Oh, my goodness! What an incredible story. I am glad you got to reconnect with someone from essentially childhood. That is quite the honor. Blessings to you!

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

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      3 months ago

      This is one of the very few articles that I've read I feel is very precise. Aquarius moon here, and I could totally relate to pretty much everything you said, specially the part where I prefer to be chased. Unfortunately I fell for a Taurus sun scorpio moon who wasn't much of a chaser haha. But there was something special when we locked eyes, something I can't explain but still remember to this day...and this happened years ago.

      Anyway thank you for your awesome understanding of the signs, keep making these great articles, they're very inciteful!

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      gawea 3 months ago

      this is the 3rd time my scorpio and I broke up. the first time he just shut me out and then the 2nd time he said he was completely done and now he is says hes done with me again and shipping my belongings to me. we had a bad argument and he is a bit possessive and has a big ego, so things have to go his way esp. when hes upset. we broke up three days ago and I apologized for everything and told him ill always love him and he just apologize for saying the hurtful things also but did tell me he love me. we were planning to get marry and have a baby but he just shut me out and walked away like nothing over a misunderstanding. there was no cheating involved. He has trust issues which I picked up a long time ago and is very sensitive and thinks people are out there to use him or hurt him but I didn't do that, not intentionally. I feel like hes never coming back. Should I just move on and get over it? I don't think hes going to come back or talk to me again. I did tell him I deleted his number out of anger. Or should I just give him space and ignore him to give him time?

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      Lily 3 months ago

      This is the only article that seems to be radiating some sort of positivity. An Aquarius, and in a relationship with a Scorpio. They are such a mess at times. The maturity part is so true. The relationship has had its share of going through a lot of experimental phases, where he had gone down to the extent of cheating, the reason being his thought I might hurt him or leave. But everything is under control now. He says that he has finally understood what love really means, and he cannot stand the distance that we shared when I came to know the truth, which was a period of 6 to 7 months. I love him, but I am deeply hurt. How do I trust? And should I trust him? That is one big question that I need help with.

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      tnypal 3 months ago

      What to do when a Scorpio quickly and persistently tells you that 'you are the ONE; wants you to be his wife; loves you and wants to ask your father for your hand, BUT keeps disappearing for as long as many months at a time? I've asked in the past to be friends as it's too hurtful to wonder and wait, but he won't have it, of course (wants me to himself when he turns up that is). I've tried to cut him off so many times, but I can't seem to shake this dastardly spell I'm under. It feels like a spell (the sting perhaps?) as I always relent and make contact. I last said goodbye in October when he did one of his Houdini acts, but ended up doing the same ole, same ole and sending a simple: 'Happy New Year' message (no kiss) to which he replied, wishing me well and calling me 'darling', but no little 'x' kiss or love icon either, which is most unlike him. This the first contact in many months - and he hasn't come back. I've sent one message in the last week to let him know I'd just been thinking of him and hope he is well, which has resulted in him reinstating his profile pic (clearly I was deleted! Hahahah!) but nothing more, no words, no message. Really, I know I should continue to work at letting go, and forget him as he has behaved badly in breaking dates/breaking my heart/disappearing etc. - and I am wasting tonnes of energy. Yet, like a bad case of love, he is still the first thing I think of in the morning when I wake, and the last thing I think of when I rest my head at night. It has been almost a year - and I am doing all the things one should; pursuing goals, interests etc. Still, I am utterly in love with this man in spite of his flaws (which are huge like my own, but are also what make him so irresistible and special to me. If only he would just go with it and let me care for him. He has said he loves me; loves how I make him feel, and wants to make a go of things, yet never relents and see things through with me. I never push or question him for fear of driving him away, which is so unlike me. I love answers. I've been prepared to put my own needs to one side; to be patient and accepting, and unconditional in my love for him, but clearly too much so. I had hoped by taking a step back it would allow things to blossom and come to fruition.) I know he has some financial issues to deal with - and says we communicate so very differently, irrespective I've always been here for him (devoted). I accept that I may always love him, and yet that there will always be others I can love, still the feelings I have for him runs deep and course through me (it really does. It's palpable), and this is new for me as an Acqua femme. I can't shake off this beautiful, magnificent deeply intoxicating Scorpio man And though I could happily tell him how I feel, it seems a waste to do so. He must know it already from what has been said, from how I have welcomed him. He clearly just doesn't care for me or respect me. He was just indulging himself and is a flake at best. Any insights appreciated as to 1) what was this is/was all about for him and 2) what to do. Should I wait or go?

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 months ago from Chicago

      He simply isn't prepared for you or the circumstances around you. Sure, he likes you, but can't reasonably commit. You need to drop him. Stop communicating, even these really small texts that are not that meaningful, and allow time to heal your wounds. You'll get over him in time. It can take a few moons to do so. He might care, but it isn't enough... and likely never will be. Drop him. Stop feeding into the idea of his greatness and refresh yourself. Go with the mantra: I release that which no longer serves me.

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      Megan 2 months ago

      I have a question. I recently started dating a scorpio, we really hit it off but I let my own insecurities and past experiences get the best of me and I called it off. I regretted it almost right away. I tried to later talk to him about it and he said I should've been open with him about it and he seemed a bit hostel about me calling it off and now he won't talk to me at all. I find it hard understanding what is going on since he won't just come out and tell me how he feels.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      He is not okay with rejection. He has gone cold toward you now. He doesn't want to recreate a connection and then you cut him off again. Scorpios put a lot of focus on trust and loyalty, so it probably made him feel bad and he's doing what he can to move on and find someone who makes him feel good.

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      Satiah 2 months ago

      You write with such wonderful detail and nuance! I've been studying astrology for 15+ years and have yet to come across someone who has this kind of original POV in terms compatibility. Aquarius and Scorpio. Leo and Virgo. These are two sets of atypical pairing. Is there a comparable Taurus match? (I'm early Taurus 3 degrees -4/23- and feel much fire in addition to earth) I'd LOVE to hear your take or even read an article written by you on this one... hint hint lol

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      Hi, there Satiah! I'm slowly but surely making my way through all 72 romance combinations in the zodiac. I've just finished my series on Pisces. Next up is Aries and then Taurus. Taurus is definitely a fun one to consider. I had fun writing the Aquarius + Taurus combo and the Pisces + Taurus combo. I'm sure I'll learn a lot as I go through this process. I would initially think Taurus and Leo would be comparable to a Aquarius and Scorpio match, or even Taurus and Aquarius since these all square Taurus. But there would be common threads with all of those because they are fixed signs. I think Taurus and Leo would be more similar because they are the 2nd and 5th signs, rather than Taurus and Aquarius which are the 2nd and 11th signs. So in theory, before I've really gotten the chance to write / explore it... I think Taurus and Leo would be most similar to an Aquarius and Scorpio combination -- but it'll be different because earlier signs in the zodiac have a more forward temperament, whereas Aquarius and Scorpio are in the latter half and have more reflective temperaments. Very, very interesting question you have posed.

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      Laura 2 months ago

      I have a scorpio friend. He confessed that he likes me on 2nd Feb 2017, few days ago.

      I said I want some time. (I am an aqua female)

      He showers me with love. He is sensitive and tender.

      But I hate his 1 thing. He suddenly stops talking to me and doesn't replies to my messages. (We mostly talk through WhatsApp)

      He is online for the whole day and sees my messages but says nothing!

      It's so irritating and hurting at the same time,!

      I understand him and he is the only guy who got to me emotionally.

      He always understands me.

      He is so patient with me when I show sudden outbursts.

      Nd I loves me instead of my cool approach and is always confident about himself.

      He hasn't been replying to me since few days even after seeing my messages.

      I don't know what to do.

      I never think emotionally and I always use my mind.

      But I hate loneliness. And this attitude is hurting.

      And I can't get over thinking about him.

      I don't understand what I did wrong.

      I don't get hurt easily but I don't understand why it is happening with him.

      He is the first guy who got into my head like this!

      Please help ASAP!

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      arohi chaudhary 2 months ago

      hi

      what a descriptive explanation between the two signs! great work. mostly, these signs are labelled as not so good for each other.

      I am an aquariun women n have been seeing a scorpion man since 1.5 month. It was going perfect in initial days but now he has starting like distancing himself up. We have not met though, Its a long distance relationship. I really like this guy. He is perfect combo of whatever I could wish for! I am really confused as to how to get the things going. Sometimes there are signs that he really think about us and the other time he make me feel like an ordinary person. p.s we both are waiting to meet for real before finalizing things. Please guide what should I do. Shall I avoid him or shall I talk straight about my insecurities or shall I let him do whatever he wants. But this on and off thing is really messed up.

      Thank you.

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      tnypal 2 months ago

      Thank you Andrea.

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      Tabby Leamer 2 months ago

      Reading this article was like someone has been watching my boyfriend and I for the past two months. Most of it is right on point in the way our relationship is going for the moment and leaves me hopeful that we can work together and grow as a couple.

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      Thank you for reading!

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      Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

      You can work it out! It is possible.

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      Amrita 2 months ago

      Hi Andrea... I share the same thoughts as Nilanjana.. It has become so complex with all the articles taking purely negative about this match but somewhere I have wondered if this could come about to be beautiful with time.. Thank you for this piece of positivity. Would like to listen from you on some other fonts and if could get some detail

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      Rissa 2 months ago

      So I have a Scorpio boyfriend and I feel like he isn't opening up to me as much as he should. Maybe I am overthinking this, or something of that sort. I can't read him that well, I know a lot about him but I just can't read his in-depth emotions and it just bugs me. Please help.

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      Douglas Mark 8 weeks ago

      Hi,

      Your post is full of facts. My girlfriend is Aquarius 14 February and am a Scorpio 3rd November. We get along very well. She's the only woman who understands my true feelings and emotions. Its true Aquarius rock a Scorpio's world.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 weeks ago from Chicago

      Love to hear that!

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      Marina 7 weeks ago

      I'd really love to see a more endepth reading like this for Aquarius and Capricorn as I've often gravitated to them and meet Aquariabs who keep meeting Capricorns. In all my years observing this, I feel the two are actually deeply compatible and like Scorpio and Aquarius misunderstood as a couple.

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      Sheri Lee 7 weeks ago

      I loved your article. It spoke volumes to me. I am an Aquarius who is hopelessly attracted to Scorpios and their energy. I even married one, but we are now divorced. Shortly after we separated, I met another Scorpio. But this one was different. The moment we met, and he placed his hand on my back to say hello, I recognized him. That has NEVER happened to me before. We only dated for two months, but it was the happiest I have ever been in my entire life. I wasn't afraid to be honest, to be me, to love. There was so much intensity, incredible magic and perfect passion between us. Whether we talked for hours on end, or made love until the sun came up, we connected on every level.

      And then one day, I felt a shift. I called him out on it. He said he wasn't feeling those "secondary feeling" he should be. I was baffled and very heartbroken. I didn't understand. I told him that I couldn't see him anymore. For months I cried more than I ever have in my lifetime. But I always felt connected to him. Like there was some invisible thread I couldn't cut loose.

      Sometime later, we spoke briefly through texts and decided to see each other.

      It was like no time had passed. The chemistry was palatable. He was so affectionate. Interested in how I was. Attentive. We kept in touch after. But much to my disappointment, he stands firm on not sharing the feelings I have for him.

      I started dating someone else and have not been happy. I was having a moment of doubt when my Scorpio contacted me again out of the blue. Like he knew.

      I can't let go of him. I've tried. I've mediated, wrote messages to myself, to him, said a prayer under the full moon and lit them on fire.

      We've maintained a friendship, albeit distant at the moment as he respects that there is someone in my life.

      But I know he's thinking of me. I can feel him all the time.

      What do I do? I am convinced beyond any shadow of a doubt that he is my twin soul. I DO NOT FEEL this kind of love for anyone. EVER.

      I know I cannot force it. But it haunts me every minute of every day.

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      Andrea Lawrence 7 weeks ago from Chicago

      I do have a Capricorn and Aquarius compatibility hub already made. Check it out and tell me what you think.

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      ScorpAddict 6 weeks ago

      Out of all the aqua/scope articles I read this has to be my favorite. Why because it's the only article that puts some positivity into this combo. I'm female Aquarius he's male Scorpio. I only have one question, does the Scorpio care any for me? My story is different from all the others, because I'm not in a relationship with my or do I plan to. We've been "side buddies" for the past 3 years. He's been in other relations and I been with my BF for 5 years. Please don't judge. I've told him many time I wanted to stop because of guilt even tried to make him mad to push me away because he is so addicting. The sex is amazing. In the beginning he would chase but now it's always me that chases and he's always willing since he's the sex sign. Anyways the last time I did this back and forth thing I told him I cared for him and basically asked if he did to, and if he didn't care for me to tell me to leave him alone. I don't know why I even care I'm not leaving my BF and we met cheating so there will never be anything more. But I'm a female and we been doing this for 3 years so I did grow some feelings for him. Back to story....he didn't tell me he cared for me; he told me we should quit what we were doing. I was bumbed maybe I just wanted to hear that he cared for me as a friend. Friendship to me is important to me. Anyways fast forward 6 months later, I've been faithful and he's been with others. He never hits me up to say hi. I was doing good but then I messaged him. I took a shot and asked if we could "play" again to my surprise he said yes. I didn't think he would since I'm a nut. We hook up it's great as always. He tells me he loves how freaky I am. He's also seeing someone. Anyways after all this do you think he cares any for me? Also if he enjoys what we do why do I always have to initate? Why after 6 months did I have to reach out? I know I'm wrong for this.

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      Scorpio female 6 weeks ago

      So I met an Aqua, we hit it off really well but I was really insecure and thought he is seeing someone else or he isnt interested because he wasn't responding so promptly. Then we got in a huge argument and he said I have shown him that I am not stable as a person and wants to end it. I begged him to see me again ... yet he disappeared. Is there a way to get him back? I msged him so many time 20 within the last two days and he never responded.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 weeks ago from Chicago

      The best thing to do in this situation, is to stop contacting him. You'll drive him away if you keep contacting him because he already has a negative perception of you. Try going at least 15 days without contact, see how you feel, and then add another 15 days accordingly. You can't do anything with texts or normal communication to win someone back. You'll have to wait a moment for the bad feelings to die down first. Aquarius types respond to creativity. When you feel like it's been long enough for him to get over negative perceptions, send him a real, positive secure message in a creative way. But if you keep sending him messages when he already has a bad perception of you... you'll be reinforcing that.

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      Christine 6 weeks ago

      Great information and seems to be on point! Thank you!

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      DianaFlo 6 weeks ago

      Hello! Your articles are awesome! I want to ask you a question:will you write an artcle about noth and south nodes?

      I am Aquarius and I have my north node in Scorpio.What exactly does this mean?

      Thank you! :)

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      Head over heels for this Scorpio Man 5 weeks ago

      so I recently met up with the Scorpio that I have known for quite a while if he is he is interested in me but it also appears that he's not interested in me but for some reason I cannot get him off my mind I feel like I'm going crazy and he tells me things to show me you care but you know I'm usually not the loving and caring one I normally go astray especially as signs of control reveal itself I'm so confused but for some reason I feel completely drawn to him can somebody help help

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      Rainbowalker 5 weeks ago

      I just wanted to say thank you ! I'm a aqua girl with a scorp hubby. We have been together for nearly 30 years. I knew it the minute I saw him at the tender age of 19, that he was the one. The connection was undeniable for both of us.We have been inseparable ever since. I've read things in the past that diminish our compatibility ie: Not a good match. Of course there has been ups and downs over the years, that's life. I still see it in his eyes, I'm a enigma and he loves it.

      He see's the love in my eyes and I feel his heart swell. Scorpios are the biggest softies and yes they can be brutal with their sting, more a deflection so they don't get hurt ! Thank you for describing what I know to be true. I love what you say about the communication style..So True ! Very unique, but it works.I tried normal once, worst day of my life :) Thanks again

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      Andrea Lawrence 5 weeks ago from Chicago

      Normal is no fun at all! Glad to know this hub is accurate and relieves some stress from all the naysayers. It's a lovely combination through and through.

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      Bridge 3 weeks ago

      Thank you for writing such a beautiful article.

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      AnneHebe 3 weeks ago from Boston

      I'm a sun/moon/mercury/ aquarius woman. I've had a Scorp asc Pisces man extremely interested in me for about 2 yrs now. He's super sweet, artistic,compassionate and tolerant but there's just this absorbing,melancholic and sad vibe about him that kind of makes me pull back. Not sure if maybe it's just me overthinking everything but I can't help this feeling of entering a void when I'm around him and it makes me feel drained. I'm used to having relationships mostly with Sagitarius and Piscis individuals with a lot of fire and air in their natal chart but NEVER this combination. He complains that I go "back and forth" with him but I just can't find another way to find my balance in the situation. Honestly I dont know wether to get away completely or "enter the void" with him.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

      Absolutely. Anytime. :)

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

      This is a really excellent question, and I'm glad that you brought it to my attention. I hope that I can be of service to you. Scorpios are powerfully emotional, and sometimes they are not fully aware of this -- and it is often in the subconscious. For the Aquarius, the Scorpio energy can have a profound effect on you. Partly because as an Aquarius in the intuition and really diverse charisma an open mindedness, usually other signs can't effect the Aquarius. Scorpio, however, pulls on Aquarius' energy in a lot different of a way than the other signs. Aquarius also really baffles the Scorpio because Aquarius is more immune to this than other signs -- but, even still, to the Aquarius the Scorpio's energy sticks out like a thumb.

      Depending on the situation, a mature Scorpio is incredibly insightful, engaging, loyal, and enlightening. But on the flip side, if they haven't matured, you could be dealing with a psychic vampire. And this is not good, because it is sucking out your positive energy instead of trying to resolve its own personal issues on its own. You'll know if Scorpio is immature because they are looking for methods to get a rise out of you -- they'll want your reactions, and so they may try destructive things to get reactions out of you. This can be really simple things, like in conversations, daily tasks, etc. Scorpios are magicians -- they know how to manipulate and control people. This is part of being a water element, because Pisces and Cancer have this in common as well. It's hard for an air sign to quite grasp, because air signs are not about manipulation or jealously -- and don't get me wrong, manipulation and jealously in this sense are not automatically negative words. Jealously can be used as an indicator to know what you value; manipulation can help you to understand expectations. Now, this doesn't mean that you have to cave to either of these demands (jealously or manipulation), but it allows you to have a window into their psyche and their wants. For an Aquarius, that can be pretty valuable. Aquarius are not known for directly having their hearts on their sleeves -- but they can figure out a lot when others make their emotions loud.

      I have found that partly why Aquarius gets attracted to Scorpio is because Aquarius is actually an extremely, powerfully emotional being but it doesn't let everyone in on that. This is partly because Aquarius is so telepathic, which is a water sign trait. Aquarius is like X-Men's Jean Gray, and then can if willing, go into its Phoenix state -- which is highly emotional. I hope this is helpful. I know what I'm writing here may seem like I'm rambling.

      Scorpios do have a lot on their plate. They do have a tendency to have sadness, this is in large due to being misunderstood and having intense emotions to process and understand but not necessarily know what are the right tools to tend to those emotions. Scorpios have the full range of emotions -- they can go into the deepest, darkest depths of the planet and turn around and go to the highest, highs of emotion. Again, some are not fully aware that they have this much at their disposal. Male Scorpios have it even harder because of our social norms and social constructions in how we view emotions. We as a society have inaccurately labeled emotions as more feminine and this is a lie. Logic and emotion are not about gender. And because we've feminized emotions so much, men don't develop this part of their rationale as easily, so as you can imagine as the Scorpio, this is a big burden to carry. It's also why of all the signs -- Scorpios are pretty easy to spot. They'll also hide a lot of their emotions in their sexuality, which isn't healthy either. Emotions need to be balanced out through all activities, not bottled up for one aspect of the self.

      So, what I'm trying to say is that yes, you are feeling a void. I can verify for you that you are feeling that connection, and it is very real. Now, the real question that you are asking as to whether you should go into the void with him or step away, that's not as simple of a question. Before getting into a relationship with a Scorpio, ask yourself where they are, how mature they are being in the present, and don't just look at their potential for where they are going in life. It is important to look at people's potential and see their capacity to grow. But with Scorpios, and how stubborn they are, you really shouldn't date them until they've had that enlightenment. If you are feeling a void like vibe from him, you need to find out what is the root of that or if it has to do with him longing for you. If it's coming from some emotionally unresolved business, the person needs to take care of that before getting involved with you, or else you're not quite getting the real person. And that's a big deal.

      I say listen to your gut. When you enter the void, it will influence your psyche. And if you are seeing that this would not be a healthy choice for you, then I wouldn't do it. Being with a Scorpio, as an Aquarius, can cause you to have a lot of wild imagination and fantasy like dreams. It will really get to you, and breaking up with a Scorpio is also extremely powerful for an Aquarius. The flow of energy on this is unreal. If he seems ready, loyal, and available -- you might try it. Scorpios do communicate through emotions, so there is a lot of telepathy whether they realize it or not. It is likely that they have strong feelings for you and that's where you are getting the vibe to some degree. But I will admit, Scorpios are a whole different scenario for Aquarius-types than honestly the whole zodiac.

      Also, communicate with him. Let him know that you need some amount of space and independence in the relationship, and your need for that space doesn't mean that you are trying to break it off or hurt him or go to someone else. You just need that space for introspection and yourself. This can be difficult for water signs to understand and accept, but if they are willing to date an Aquarius they'll have to accept your need for yourself and for your friends. And that your romantic partner is a very high and sacred place in your mind, and isn't of the same value as friendship. Scorpios have different thoughts on friendships because they don't tend to have as many platonic friends or platonic friends that go as deep as some of Aquarius' connections do. Aquarius can be like a social mayor. Scorpio is more designed to merge really intensely to get to know someone, and have them as a part of the self. This is why Scorpios will extremely love you. But when you break up, they'll completely end it. It's because they see in those extremes, and can have a difficult time nurturing other more diverse friendships. They want the fullness of where things can go, not a watered down version. That's why 100% in love is their goal, not 23%. So they do tend to have full breakups, just so you know.

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      Julla Bulla 3 weeks ago

      Thank you for writing this article!!! When my boyfriend (the Scorpio) and I (the Aquarian) first got together and I read all of the compatibility reports; they did not sound very hopeful or optimistic...and some said even destructive (good thing I'm an Aquarius with oppositional defiance disorder; telling me not to do something only makes me want to try it more to find out why not! LOL) but I told myself that not every Scorpio or Aquarius fits a cookie-cutter definition, and knowing myself and my occasional penchant for the dark/mysterious/misunderstood- I went with my gut, and we are two years very much in love! He is a Scorpio, Aquarius rising, and I am an Aquarius, on the cusp of Capricorn...plus like the post says, "the biggest hurdle for these two is that if they meet too soon, they won't have enough knowledge to understand each other. There is a certain amount of life fluency they need in order to bridge the gaps they'll have."- I found this to be so accurate!- as, 5-10 years ago, I don't think I would have found him to be so perfect. And he definitely would not have been into me either! He needed time for his, "immature Scorpio, exploratory phase before settling down", and I needed my time of being a free-spirited Aquarius with no rules, and to have no one to hold me back, or have to answer to. But, we lived our lives, and then luckily found each other at the right time in life; (actually, the timing couldn't have been more perfect) to be our best selves, to bring it out in each other, and to grow into something beautiful together.

      "The Visionary", and "The Magician"- they are stronger, with their forces together, than they are apart. And ALSO on that note, there is no doubting our ESP/psychic connection!...so thank you again for writing this perspective and for confirming what I already knew to be true!

      I've been in both relationships; one's that on paper should've worked, and ones that "shouldn't work"...and forever, I thought that I needed to be with another Aquarius- that only another Aquarius could understand me, and only an Aquarius was creative or interesting enough, and could keep my attention/intrigue (it's funny that you brought up, "The two most single signs of the zodiac are Virgo and Aquarius" HAHA, I can understand why for both these signs!-virgo is one I can often combat/debate with endlessly!) ...but at least from my experience, I can confidently say that opposites attract and likes repel for a reason! I think in a romantic relationship it is best to have traits that compliment, and balance each other, rather than too much of the same.

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      Lala 3 weeks ago

      Amazing article..articulated exactly how I'm feeling about this Aquarian man at this exact moment. The chemistry is so intense like a magnetic force I cannot explain. This article made sense of it all for me...Thank you.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

      I'm quite flattered by your response. It always makes me feel good when others say this resonates for them. I'm glad your relationship is growing beautifully, and I hope it continues to do so. I love the Aquarius and Scorpio combination; I think it it one of the most intriguing zodiac combinations of all. Many astrologers and writers won't go fully into it to try and find out what exactly makes this combination work. I think that's silly, because all combinations can work with the right understanding of how the two connect. With all the billions upon billions of people who live and breathe on this planet, every zodiac combination under the sun has seen success.

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      Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

      You are welcome! I am so glad this connected with you. I hope it will be a helpful resource for you.

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      Linda 3 weeks ago

      I'm a Scorpio woman and have been with an Aquarius for 16 years it's been a rollarcoster at times but it works

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      Ahlee 10 days ago

      This is on point. I am an Aquarius and this is exactly how my relationships with Scorpios are. I kid you not all I date is Scorpios. And this really made me understand why I do. They always tend to be jerks at the end. And as I kept reading I couldn't agree more. All you said is facts and I still have faith that these two actually work! I would love more advice!

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      Ee 8 days ago

      Soz for The Message was by accident.

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      Dolna 7 days ago

      I am an Aquarius girl. Though I hv not dated Scorpios my father is one. So am somewhat familiar to Scorpio quirks. We hv our disagreements, there are days we don't speak even. But I love him to bits, and I am emotionally closet to him than my mom.

      I have interacted with some Scorpio women colleagues and relatives but unfortunately that did not come as favourable. I hv found that I don't get along with Scorpio women. I find them intrusive and somewhat patronizing, which makes the independent Aquarius in me bristle.

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      Andrea Lawrence 6 days ago from Chicago

      I'm here to help if you need it! Sometimes I lag in my response time since my life isn't only Hubpages. But I do like hearing that this is accurate.

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