Virgo Traits From a Virgo's Perspective
As a Virgo, I am aware of how nice it is to read a description of my sign that does not focus solely on the negative aspects of my sun sign. In this article, I will expand on some primary characteristics of Virgos.
Virgos Are Hardworking
All the Virgos I know are extremely hardworking. Personally, I work hard because I want to make life better and easier for others. I also find that chaos (in the form of a messy house, unfinished paperwork, or a weedy garden) drives me crazy. Unfortunately, this tendency can really wear a Virgo out. Even though I know that the sink full of dirty dishes can wait until morning, I'm willing to stay up for an extra 15 minutes to put them in the dishwasher.
The Virgo trait of being hardworking goes hand in hand with wanting to be helpful. If a Virgo is surrounded by others who want to be helpful, this quality will not be so draining. If, however, the Virgo is surrounded by people who suck up the attention and assistance and do not return it, then she will become resentful and feel very hurt. If nobody notices her efforts to provide an orderly, calm environment for others, she will feel hurt as well.
It can be very difficult for a Virgo to realize that not everyone shares her need for orderliness and calm. It has taken me many years to even begin to understand that when I work hard and nobody notices, they are not deliberately hurting my feelings; they just really don't notice!
Virgos are Critical
"Virgos are critical."
This seems to be a common observation about Virgos. As a Virgo, I agree with this assessment, but with some conditions. One is that Virgos are critical for a specific reason, and it's not to be petty or mean. Second, Virgos have a lot of opinions about other people but can't tolerate much criticism of themselves.
Virgos are not critical because they dislike other people. They are critical because they want to help other people. "Do you eat many vegetables?" I might ask a friend. "You don't? Well, you should definitely start taking a multivitamin. Do you think you would remember to take a multivitamin? You could just set the alarm on your phone to go off at the same time every day. If you don't eat vegetables, you really need to take a multivitamin. Do you want me to go to the store with you? C'mon, drop everything; let's go right now!"
Ugh. Even though I have had that exact conversation (more than once!), I can see how a sincere desire to make life better for someone else can come across as critical or naggy.
Though Virgos notice small problems and want to correct them by pointing them out to you, they don't handle being criticized very well. To this day, I feel very defensive and hurt if anyone even offers a mild suggestion for improvement or points out any less-than-perfect behavior. This is probably my worst quality, and I'd be curious to see if other Virgos feel the same way. I can logically understand the conflict between offering criticism of others while not being able to take criticism myself, but my first instinct is to deny and then cry. I have made a conscious effort to work on this tendency over the past year, but it is an uphill battle!
Virgos also have a heightened sense of fairness. If, for example, a Virgo does all the housework, she will feel aggrieved and let you know about it. She will describe in detail the many, many reasons why sharing housework is the bedrock of a relationship, quote statistics about the number of hours that women spend on housework compared to men, and how many Google searches are done per day for the phrase "men and housework." Virgos have encyclopedic knowledge about many topics and enjoy sharing their knowledge with you. While this can come across as critical or downright annoying, Virgos want to share their knowledge with you so you can live a better life. Life is better when you take a multivitamin, right?
Virgo birthdays fall between August 24 and September 23.
Virgos Are Worriers
Virgos are often worriers. This trait is related to the ones above—Virgos work hard in order to relieve worry. They are critical because they worry about you! Virgos have very active imaginations and thus can picture a million different outcomes for every situation. They also want to make sure that each situation works out as well as possible, which causes them to be in work-overdrive all the time. Personally, I hardly ever sit down, and if I do, it's to do something that I consider useful like writing a Hub, or researching a new recipe, natural remedy, or lifestyle tip.
Virgos are very concerned with health because they are worriers. If you know a Virgo, he or she is probably very knowledgeable about how the body works and knows a lot about different diseases and maladies. She or he may also be a hypochondriac, or diagnose you with various ailments! The positive side of worrying about health is that a Virgo will take very good care of herself, her partner, and her pets. (She will also take care of her garden, her house, and her workplace!) If you have a question related to health, just ask a Virgo. If she does not know the answer to your question, you can bet that she will make a beeline to the internet or the library, and soon after, overwhelm you with information. If you let her, she will take over and turn into your nurse. After all that, you may need to offer your Virgo a glass of wine!
Virgos and Other Sun Signs
How do Virgos get along with other sun signs? Virgos are very courteous and sensitive to other people's feelings, so they take pains to treat everyone with respect. If, however, you are a jerk or a boor, you will fail Virgo's sensitivity test and Virgo will want nothing more to do with you. If you rile a Virgo enough, he or she will finally crack and tell you exactly what she thinks of you. This doesn't happen very often, but when it does, you do not want to be on the receiving end of Virgo's keen criticism.
Since Virgos believe strongly in equality and fairness, they are often interested in activism of some sort, and will have strong opinions on matters of justice, small and large. If a Virgo sees or hears of some small injustice that is in her power to correct, she will take action.
Virgos are also very stubborn, and usually believe they are right. (Since they have intelligence and research on their side, they quite often are right!) If Virgos can be convinced that they are not completely right, they will try to convince you that they are at least partially right. This can be a problem when Virgo encounters other strong sun signs, like Leo. If, however, Virgo and Leo come together romantically, they can be a powerful partnership! Virgos are very analytical, so a Virgo will analyze a relationship very well, and take steps to make it work. Just because a Virgo is stubborn does not mean that he or she will not compromise. Virgo's keen intelligence and emotional perception makes her a good partner, since she is able to sense when she should compromise and when she should stand her ground.
How to Support Your Virgo
If you love a Virgo, it is important that you:
- Notice his or her efforts. Virgos like praise! I think this comes from doing so many small things for others that often go unnoticed. It's not fun to feel like you are doing all the work and not getting noticed. It can also make you feel insecure, like nothing you do is good enough. So say thanks, good job, and more!
- Do your fair share of the mundane work, otherwise your Virgo will work him or herself to the bone doing it for you.
- Distract your Virgo from the day-to-day routine and do something fun! Plan it yourself, however, or it will just be another task for your Virgo.
- Listen to your Virgo's worries, and reassure him or her that everything will be okay. Don't belittle the worries, listen well, ask questions, and follow with a hug! Spontaneous compliments and hugs are also a good idea—think of them as the multivitamin that will keep your relationship healthy.
Virgos can, and do, get along well with other sun signs. Some pairings, like Leo and Virgo, can be an educational experience for both signs!
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
Question: As a female Virgo, are you attracted to male Virgos? I am a male Virgo who is attracted to female Virgos but they don't seem to be attracted to me!
Answer: I really can't say because I haven't been out there looking. I'm sure it's not impossible, though!
Question: Is there hope for a Virgo woman & Sagittarius man?
Answer: Of course. There is hope for everyone! The key is communication. Even if you have differences, if you both communicate your needs clearly and honestly, you can have a strong relationship.
Echo on December 09, 2019:
Dates are actually 23rd of august to 22nd of September
Hg on November 19, 2019:
Because they’re liars and don’t owe up to stuff EVER
Kacy on October 18, 2019:
I can relate to Breeze below. I've never been the nagging type in or outside of relationships. Also, we've gotten a bad rep for being "cold in the bedroom"?????REALLY???? I think the people who write this stuff needs to hang out with a few virgos and see how much fun and how laid back we really are. Tired of reading the BS version.
Dude on June 15, 2019:
im a VIRGO but I'm not hardworking, neat, I don't care about health that much, I'm lazy. Also I'm critical of myself but it's not because of not getting stuff done on time cuz idc about that tbh. I just have no self love:)
Kiesha Joseph from Las Vegas, NV on May 09, 2019:
I'm a Virgo. And I have to admit that I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with one. I feel for all the people who fall in love with us. I truly do.
Dickson A on March 22, 2019:
I'm a crab and seeing a virgo. She is lovely and all but getting defensive over everything is making me sick.
Also her jokes are out of line which I actually do not mind, but if you are going to make jokes that are out of line, can I also respond at least and she takes it without being defensive and critical? Everytime she says it's humor. You don't get my humor. It's a joke. Ok fine, it's a joke, can I also make jokes without someone being defensive and hurtful about it?
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on July 31, 2018:
That’s a very insightful comment. I completely agree!
MissVirgo on July 30, 2018:
I'm a Virgo and I am most of these things but i think the reason that we cant take critism on ourselves is that we already give to ourselves enough we dont need someone else to tell us what we already know for example if i had a scar on my leg and someone pointed it out id be upset as i had already tried my best to fix the problem
Breeze on June 25, 2018:
I must be a special virgo. Because this "critical" stereotyping is just not me. I've never had any situation where I'm nagging someone like that. Every friend I have tells me I'm cool and easy to get along with and funny. I only beat myself over the head but keep that closed from the world. Only my husband notices this and tells me not to be so hard on myself. I also always took criticism just fine when the person was being rational. If the person was lashing out at me, I walked away or tell them to go eff themselves. I'm definitely analyzing but not to where I want to shove it in people's face. More in a child-like form where I just get curious how such and such works. Virgos are extremely mutable so they're more left to how the rest of the chart looks. Sadly, only bad ones will ever get highlighted with the same boring stereotyping and we'll fixate those bad ones to that stereotype. I guess astrology wants to keep us that way? I don't know... I just feel bad for Virgo and hope one day she'll be set free. Most of the virgos I've known are forgiving playful and curious about life, but seems like they'll always be a ghost to astrology for any hopeful insights for other Virgos like myself looking for motivation (as astrology always claims to be helpful to individuals themselves) I've only ever met one of this stereotype. O.o
bri on June 13, 2018:
I'm a Taurus woman and was with a Virgo man. the guy is much older than I, so I thought that we would have a better connection since I use to believe that wisdom comes with age, but apparently it seemed as if I was more mature than him. most of the times I felt as if I was the man in the relationship and he was the woman. at the beginning of the relationship, we were amazed by each other. the first day we met, I felt a connection with him, because of the things he spoke about and his viewpoint of life. Nevertheless, I am a very patient individual, but one thing I cannot do is put myself in stressful situations. when he would get upset, start raising his voice and name calling I would simply walk away. Some would consider that as being a copout. but hey, if I can prevent myself from getting a headache, then by all means. all I can do is walk away and wait for u to calm down. I don't do that anymore though, to be honest, I don't understand how people do it. Anyhow every little thing that I did was a problem to him, he complains a lot, and when there would be an argument he felt like I was talking back to him when I would correct the things he says. the guy drove me insane to the point that when he calls me, I don't feel the need to communicate with him. he wants things to go his way and if you don't do as he says its a problem. I felt like I couldn't do what I wanted to do, many things that he did, made me feel like he was trying to change me and control me. I do have feelings for him, but at this point, I'm finished and don't really care anymore. I don't let things get to me, I don't let things stress me out. if I can avoid those situations my displacing myself, then by all means. to me, I cannot stand a Man who acts as if he is a woman on her period not saying all women are like that, I'm a woman and don't get emotional like that. like baby girl, you need some medicine for those cramps and that stupid tantrum of yours let me know and I got you.
Roxy on September 28, 2017:
I'm an Aug 25th Virgo and this Hub hit so many of my qualities and flaws on the head. Proud to be a Virgo and happy that we all share some of the same traits. I am personally a work in progress. Thank you
Vrr go on June 28, 2016:
I'm a Aug 27 Virgo and most of the article described me fairly well but, my room is messy but i know where every single thing is and yes i do occasionally go ape poo and put everything in visual order and throw away a lot. I dont usually have a sunny disposition but im not sad or depressed either. I guess I'm even tempered but quick to re-act to something positive outwardly and negative inwardly and put it in my file cabinet. I do love conversations of all kinds but not small talk or shallow b.s. also I am not a health nut nor would I give up meat and dairy products for love or money. I am painfully detail oriented but only on what I care about or interests me otherwise I couldn't care less. The big picture is a challenge but I'm getting there step by step. I love my family and friends deeply and I will do anything for them because it's what I need to do. I don't ask for help often (or ever) but they will always give it. Virgos absolutely have tendencies to give WAY too much advice and kinda stuff it down your throat and then wonder why you couldn't just say thanks. If you ask me I will try to tell you everything I can which at times could take months.....non-stop, I can commit, can you ? I'm a very blunt person, I don't mince words and when I tell someone something good or bad, i mean every single word. I have found that phrases like "have you ever considered....." work alot better than " YOU HAVE TO TRY/ TAKE/ READ THIS RIGHT NOW!!! sometimes I'm unaware of my own intensity because I can't understand why you aren't just as excited or worried as me. I'm picky and inwardly bitchy because if I know you I don't want to offend or hurt you with my " two cents". Otherwise I'm probably gonna say something. It is also true we don't do well with others criticism as we give ourselfs 10x more than anyone could. We are our own best friends and worst enemy and I can feel like I've died and been reborn emotionally many times a day but my brain does NOT have time for that right now or in the near future but I can feel it all, always just below the surface, dying to explode. I'm always busy even if I'm not productive, a cardinal sin for most Virgos and you should believe they suffer for it. Virgo will always win an argument with a mountain of researched, double and triple checked FACTS and if that doesnt get the point across then Virgos do have a tendency to get salty. We will usually feel embaressed and regretful afterwards but not always and not in the moment. A Virgos honesty can be a very sharp double edged sword that can save you from almost anything or cut you down in an instant, but it's always there. We are in the center of the zodiac, the middle, the neutral, the balance. If not for the Virgo, the other zodiac symbols would fall apart. Without all the other zodiac symbols the Virgo would have no purpose and couldn't exist. That is also a reason why many Virgo have not many close friends, they DO have a lot of very diverse.......people they know....of.....maybe. Why? Did someone say something? I think it's because in being the balance and their NEED to help and experience as many facets of life as possible (on their terms) we Virgos run across interesting (to us) characters from all spectrums of life and society in our wandering travels as we just notice something that sticks out to us about a person and on those occasions we can break our anti-social shell and try to see what they're about. Ive seen different blogs and posts about Virgos being chamaeleons or being fake or acting different around different people. Whatever we are we are NOT fake. We use different ways of approaching different people to gauge their personality and us being a small part of each zodiac and they being the entirety of what makes a Virgo makes it just natural for us to show that particular part of us. It is not made up on the spot but has been inside of us from the beginning begging for a reason to come out
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on September 12, 2014:
Thanks very much, Awc!
Awc on September 12, 2014:
Just wanted to take a moment to say how nice it is to have the essence of Virgo spelled out in a truthful and conceice manner. Giving others the opportunity to better understand the method to our offen self impossed madness. Keep up the good work
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on May 05, 2013:
Thanks, gmwilliams! It's nice to hear from other Virgos who understand. I think I am a mild Virgo as well, because I usually know when to give advice/criticism and when to hold back. Not always, though! Like you, I am especially critical when I think someone is not pulling his or her weight. Unfortunately, since most people feel more comfortable criticizing/giving advice (or nagging?) their loved ones, my close friends and family have to bear most of my Virgo-ness.
Grace Marguerite Williams from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on May 04, 2013:
YES, YES, YES a multillion times. I am a Virgo; however, the abovementioned characteristics do describe me. I can be HIGHLY critical and acerbic. People have told me to use more tact. However, I am ME and I usually say it as it is.
I am also hardworking. As I am that, I usually give no quarter to those who are not as hardworking as I am. I LOVE this hub. However, I am a mild Virgo. My mother has THREE planets in Virgo, she is truly Virgo personified. She makes Felix Unger look like a slob. Great article as usual.
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on May 04, 2013:
Thanks for reading! I laughed about the advice to strangers on trains in faraway countries... I'm sure I'll do that too, eventually :-)
dottydorothy on May 04, 2013:
I am a Virgo with a Moon in Taurus...so you can imagine the battle I rage with cleanliness with myself!!! I am highly messy and it haunts me every second of the day! And you are so right about the unsolicited advice! I have given it to strangers on trains in faraway countries! I hate the criticizer tag we have earned! It's not ever as a purpose to criticize! We never do it to be mean or hurtful and generally when we criticize people, we are really really polite about it! Great job on this article and I hope more people read this article and get a better understanding of us!
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on March 30, 2013:
Ha, that's pretty funny! Cute nickname!!
Fahim on March 30, 2013:
think of them as the multivitamin that will keep your relationship healthy.
I have a virgo aunt whose nick name is Multi Vitamin. She also asked us to save her number on our cell phones as " Multi Vitamin". LOL
Nice! on March 29, 2013:
Can you do a detailed report on Virgo man and scorpio woman?
Jessica on January 21, 2013:
So true esp regarding the defensive part. I did a school display&was advised of how to improve it. I did want to cry or rip it all down in anger(could they have done any better?) but spot on, a good read. Now hoping my Leo will make a move!
Chelsea on September 07, 2012:
That is so true! I sometimes tend to critique people...a lot but once they mention something wrong with my artwork, I tend to get defensive. It's not exactly a good trait but its me. It was pretty funny reading this article since it was like describing myself!
Charlene on September 03, 2012:
Today is my birthday & I had to laugh at the "always right because of the knowledge acquired" part. That's me to a T. I'm always digging through books & websites and picking peoples' brains to add to my knowledge base. When someone presents me with information that doesn't quite make sense to me, I will DEFINITELY voice my opinion AND present facts that I already have or find some in order to "enlighten" them. The part about jerks is true to me also. I give most people the benefit of the doubt where others don't BUT, if/when you prove yourself to be undeserving of this consideration, it's gone probably never to return again... Not everyone appreciates my "helpfulness" but it won't change who I am. Also, because of my inherent helpful nature, I am completing Master's-level studies in Social Work (THE helping profession). I am glad to have been born under this sign because it keeps my life (& those around me) interesting. Lastly, I HAVE to mention that meticulous nature synonymous with Virgos. I can sometimes keep a messy space for indefinite periods BUT, at some point, it WILL drive me mad & I will get into the "anally organized" mode & clean until I'm tired or satisfied, whichever comes first ;-}
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on July 15, 2012:
Thanks for stopping by, Buzz!
Buzz on July 15, 2012:
I think its very true since I'm a Virgo myself! Thanks!
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on July 01, 2012:
I think it's wonderful that you are taking care of everyone. As you know from experience, Virgos are notorious caretakers. I hope you find a way to get some more rest though - it sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Hang in there!
Moshkeeb on June 30, 2012:
I am a Virgo, 8/30 with Epstein Barre syndrome, so I work, work, work, take care of everyone, pets & humans and then have to rest, but I have no one to lean on, except for my loving animals. I cry every night for the plight of abused and homeless animals.
LadySagit from Idaho/Louisiana on June 24, 2012:
Thank you HazelB.. Much appreciated. Time will tell! :D
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on June 23, 2012:
Hey guys! Thanks a lot for commenting :) LadySagit, I hope everything works out with your Virgo partner. I'm lucky to have a very laid-back Leo partner who goes with the flow most of the time, so my "quirks" (i.e., annoying critical behavior sometimes) don't bother him too much. Best wishes!
LadySagit from Idaho/Louisiana on June 22, 2012:
I am currently in an 'almost' year relationship with a Virgo. He is spot on! I am a Sagittarius. We are very compatible in many areas. Your Hub is very helpful in gathering understanding and insight to not only recognize how he is and for the most part why, but also puts at ease my feelings of inadequacies or that I may disappoint him. We are currently contemplating a 'break' from one another. Of course, there are specific dynamic pieces as to why but perhaps there is hope as we do love one another greatly. Thanks for the info and here's praying all can be worked out sensibly.
Leslie on June 20, 2012:
I'd say this is honestly 100% me. Thanks for articulating!
Amy on June 12, 2012:
90% true made me laugh because its me
Vinh on June 02, 2012:
I'm a Virgo myself and strangely I find myself quite artistic :) My room is usually a bit messy although I always know where my stuffs are. Meanwhile I have no obsession in learning about health
These are the things that I found myself differ from every astrology documents about Virgo.
anju on June 01, 2012:
wow.. i m myself a virgo and i totally agree with u .. ynks a lot :)
April P Clemens from VT on May 22, 2012:
Love the article. I'm a Virgo and my messy son drives me bonkers. He comes home from school and drops his backpack and whatever else in the hallway. To find him, I just follow his trail of belongings!
My BF's a Pisces, and when I say things like "I have so much to do, look at the house!" he asks why it always has to be clean. To me, that's like asking why the Earth has to turn. It...just...has...to!
As for being critical, I also think of it as being helpful, but my son begs to differ :)
Also, I never just sit down. Sitting down must have purpose!
I'm definitely a workaholic. Thank goodness my Pisces BF makes me go have fun.
Thanks for writing about the intricacies of Virgo. It needed to be done! Voted awesome and up.
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on July 29, 2011:
Thanks Movie Master - yep, the motto "don't worry, be happy" is a hard one for a Virgo :)
Movie Master from United Kingdom on July 29, 2011:
Hi Hazel, well written hub, you're so right Virgo's are big worriers, many thanks for sharing.
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on July 27, 2011:
Hi Enelle, I really like reading your hubs! Thank you for stopping by!
hazelbrown (author) from Central PA on July 27, 2011:
Hi bethperry, thanks for the comment! I hope your little guy learns much earlier than I have how to stress out less :)
Enelle Lamb from Canada's 'California' on July 27, 2011:
What a great hub! It's good to hear about Virgos from someone born under this Sun Sign. An excellent read!
Beth Perry from Tennesee on July 27, 2011:
My youngest is a Virgo and he is very critical at times and stresses out easily. You're right about the praise thing, he seems to need reassurance about his abilities more than my other children. But he's also very sweet and has a great sense of humor.