Virgo Traits as Seen By a Virgo
Virgo Traits From a Virgo's Perspective
Enelle Lamb has written an excellent hub about Virgo astrology. In it, she describes some primary traits of Virgos such as being rather introverted, concerned with health, prone to worrying, and hard working. She also observes that Virgos are dependable, sincere, knowledgeable about health and nutrition, orderly, and sometimes overly critical.
I am a Virgo, and reading Enelle's hub was like reading something I might have written about myself! It was nice to finally read a Virgo description that does not focus solely on the negative aspects of the sun sign. In this hub, I will expand upon some primary characteristics of Virgos.
Virgos Are Hardworking
All the Virgos I know are extremely hardworking. Personally, I work hard because I want to make life better and easier for others. I also find that chaos (in the form of a messy house, unfinished paperwork, or a weedy garden) drives me crazy. Unfortunately, this tendency can really wear a Virgo out. Even though I know that the sink full of dirty dishes can wait until morning, I'm willing to stay up for an extra 15 minutes to put them in the dishwasher.
The Virgo trait of being hardworking goes hand in hand with wanting to be helpful. If a Virgo is surrounded by others who also want to be helpful, then this quality will not be so draining. If, however, the Virgo is surrounded by people who suck up the attention and assistance and do not return it, then she will become resentful and feel very hurt. If nobody notices her efforts to provide an orderly, calm environment for others, she will feel hurt as well.
It can be very difficult for a Virgo to realize that not everyone shares her need for orderliness and calm. It has taken me many years to even begin to understand that when I work hard and nobody notices, they are not deliberately hurting my feelings... they just really don't notice!
Virgos are Critical
"Virgos are critical." This seems to be a common observation about Virgos. As a Virgo, I agree with this assessment, but with some conditions. One is that Virgos are critical for a specific reason, and it's not to be petty or mean. Second, Virgos have a lot of opinions about other people, but can't tolerate much criticism of themselves.
Virgos are not critical because they dislike other people. They are critical because they want to help other people. "Do you eat many vegetables?" I might ask a friend. "You don't? Well, you should definitely start taking a multivitamin. Do you think you would remember to take a multivitamin? You could just set the alarm on your phone to go off at the same time every day. If you don't eat vegetables, YOU REALLY NEED TO TAKE A MULTIVITAMIN DO YOU WANT ME TO GO TO THE STORE WITH YOU C'MON DROP EVERYTHING LET'S GO RIGHT NOW!"
Ugh. Even though I have had that exact conversation (more than once!), I can see how a sincere desire to make life better for someone else can come across as critical or naggy.
Though Virgos notice small problems and want to correct them by pointing them out to you, they don't handle being criticized very well. To this day, I feel very defensive and hurt if anyone even offers a mild suggestion for improvement, or points out any less-than-perfect behavior. This is probably my worst quality, and I'd be curious to see if other Virgos feel the same way. I can logically understand the conflict between offering criticism of others while not being able to take criticism myself, but my first instinct is to deny... and then cry. I have made a conscious effort over the past year to work on this tendency, but it is an uphill battle!
Virgos also have a heightened sense of fairness. If, for example, a Virgo does all the housework, she will feel aggrieved and let you know about it. She will describe in detail the many, many reasons why sharing housework is the bedrock of a relationship, quote statistics about the number of hours that women spend on housework compared to men, and how many Google searches are done per day for the phrase "men and housework." Virgos have encyclopedic knowledge about many topics, and they enjoy sharing their knowledge with you. While this can come across as critical or downright annoying, Virgos want to share their knowledge with you so you can live a better life. Life is better when you take a multivitamin, right?
Virgo birthdays fall between August 24 and September 23.
Virgos are Worriers
Virgos are often worriers. This trait is related to the ones above, since Virgos work hard... in order to relieve worry. They are critical... because they worry about you! Virgos have very active imaginations and thus can picture a million different outcomes for every situation. They also want to make sure that each situation works out as well as possible, which causes them to be in work-overdrive all the time. Personally, I hardly ever sit down, and if I do, it's to do something that I consider useful like writing a Hub, or researching a new recipe, natural remedy, or lifestyle tip.
Virgos are very concerned with health because they are worriers. If you know a Virgo, he or she is probably very knowledgeable about how the body works and knows a lot about different diseases and maladies. She or he may also be a hypochondriac, or diagnose you with various ailments! The positive side of worrying about health is that a Virgo will take very good care of herself, her partner, and her pets. (She will also take care of her garden, her house, and her workplace!) If you have a question related to health, just ask a Virgo. If she does not know the answer to your question, you can bet that she will make a beeline to the internet or the library, and soon after, overwhelm you with information. If you let her, she will take over and turn into your nurse. After all that, you may need to offer your Virgo a glass of wine!
Virgos and Other Sun Signs
How do Virgos get along with other sun signs? Virgos are very courteous and sensitive to other people's feelings, so they take pains to treat everyone with respect. If, however, you are a jerk or a boor, you will fail Virgo's sensitivity test and Virgo will want nothing more to do with you. If you rile a Virgo enough, he or she will finally crack and tell you exactly what she thinks of you. This doesn't happen very often, but when it does, you do not want to be on the receiving end of Virgo's keen criticism.
Since Virgos believe strongly in equality and fairness, they are often interested in activism of some sort, and will have strong opinions on matters of justice, small and large. If a Virgo sees or hears of some small injustice that is in her power to correct, she will take action.
Virgos are also very stubborn, and usually believe they are right. (Since they have intelligence and research on their side, they quite often are right!) If Virgos can be convinced that they are not completely right, they will try to convince you that they are at least partially right. This can be a problem when Virgo encounters other strong sun signs, like Leo. If, however, Virgo and Leo come together romantically, they can be a powerful partnership! Virgos are very analytical, so a Virgo will analyze a relationship very well, and take steps to make it work. Just because a Virgo is stubborn does not mean that he or she will not compromise. Virgo's keen intelligence and emotional perception makes her a good partner, since she is able to sense when she should compromise and when she should stand her ground.
How to Support Your Virgo
If you love a Virgo, it is important that you:
Notice his or her efforts. Virgos like praise! I think this comes from doing so many small things for others that often go unnoticed. It's not fun to feel like you are doing all the work and not getting noticed. It can also make you feel insecure, like nothing you do is good enough. So say thanks, good job, and more!
Do your fair share of the mundane work, otherwise your Virgo will work him or herself to the bone doing it for you.
Distract your Virgo from the day-to-day routine and do something fun! Plan it yourself, however, or it will just be another task for your Virgo.
Listen to your Virgo's worries, and reassure him or her that everything will be okay. Don't belittle the worries, listen well, ask questions, and follow with a hug! Spontaneous compliments and hugs are also a good idea - think of them as the multivitamin that will keep your relationship healthy.
Virgos can, and do, get along well with other sun signs. Some pairings, like Leo and Virgo, can be an educational experience for both signs!