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Venus-Pluto Aspects in the Natal Chart: From Tough Love to Emotional Freedom

Teodora is a writer and astrologer who loves the mysteries of life.

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What Does It Mean to Have a Venus-Pluto Aspect?

When Pluto and Venus come together in your natal chart, especially in hard aspect, you are likely to take love very seriously. Your relationships can radically change the way you perceive romance. If that happens, don’t look at your tumultuous experiences through the lens of pessimism. They can actually help you grow in ways you have never imagined before.

For you, genuine relationships are totally devoid of nonsensical chit-chat and superficial pursuits. You crave intensity and drama. This is why you rarely find it easy to simply relax and enjoy love without flirting with the “dark side” at the same time. Don’t worry! You just need to dig a little deeper and have patience with yourself.

The Beauty and the Beast

Pluto is the spiritual undertaker. This little guy will make you dive into your subconscious mind and face your biggest fears without the least coddling. You will “die” only to be born again but until you do, you might grasp at straws for a while. Venus, on the other hand, is as delicate as a white lotus and likes all things beautiful.

You are definitely not one to take things lightly, especially when it comes to amorous matters. You don’t just fall for someone; you plunge into love. You merge with your significant other. Unfortunately, not everybody shares your depth, so others may find you a bit intimidating and even overbearing at times.

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How to Train Your Demons If You Have a Venus-Pluto Aspect

What’s the solution then? First of all, know that being an intense and passionate individual is not a bad thing. You have a very rich inner world and a fabulous intuition which you can use to your advantage. However, bear in mind that you need to work through your fears first. You need to have a “clean sheet” in order to feel happy in your relationship.

Top 10 Tips

1. Learn to Let Go

Beware of the tendency to obsess over your former romantic interests. Clinging to the ghosts of the past is a waste of energy and it can seriously damage your relationship. You might end up neglecting, misjudging or criticizing your partner for no good reason. Not everyone will break your heart like they did. In fact, most people have your best interests at heart. Do not allow your previous disappointments to cloud the sky of your current relationship.

2. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

You are good enough! Your partner chose you for a reason. Steer clear of the green-eyed monster; otherwise you will end up getting really hurt. The more you smother your significant other, the more you are likely to lose them. Don’t call them every 10 minutes to ask where they are and definitely don’t spy on them.

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3. Communication Is Key

You are probably tired of this cliché, but it’s actually very good advice. Your rather secretive nature may lead to misunderstandings, so share your thoughts with your loved one. They will certainly appreciate it and it will consolidate their trust in you. All of your problems will be dealt with much more smoothly.

4. Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable

Your crippling fear of loss and rejection can make you build a wall around yourself. This prevents love from getting in. We all have been hurt at some point in our lives. It’s ok to occasionally take a break from being a tough cookie. In fact, the more you let your partner see your vulnerability, the more comfortable they will feel with you. They will in turn open up to you.

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5. Respect Your Partner’s Needs and Desires

Don’t constrain your loved one to submit to your will or claim to know what’s best for them. Allow them the freedom and respect they deserve. Moreover, ask them about what they need and want and also be clear about your own needs.

6. Learn to Value Yourself

This is really important if you want to become more confident and be less obsessed with what might be taken away from you. Venus-Pluto aspects are frequently found in the charts of those who believe they are unlovable. Remember that you are just as worthy of love as any other human being in the universe. Make positive affirmations about yourself on a daily basis. Constantly remind yourself of your spectacular qualities.

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7. Try Psychotherapy

You can gain a totally new perspective on your relationship problems when you talk to an empathetic psychotherapist. I know it’s not easy for you to trust people, so ask a friend or a family member for a recommendation. Bonus point: your love of deep conversations and insights will also be satisfied.

8. Keep a Journal

Writing about your feelings has tremendous therapeutic benefits and it will help you become more aware of your unhealthy emotional habits. Describing your experiences in the third person, as though you were a character in your own story, can lead to a healthy dose of detachment from your angsts and negative thoughts.

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9. Beware of Your Stare

It might be a good idea to tone down your intensity levels when the temperature of your anger is approaching the boiling point. Your penetrating silent gaze can have an upsetting effect on your partner, especially if it’s not accompanied by words. (See tip number three).

10. Keep the Passion Alive

There are plenty of things to do with your partner that can stimulate both your mind and body. Here are some suggestions:

  • Watch a psychological thriller together.
  • Go to an escape room.
  • Have a steamy encounter in a secluded cottage.
  • Play twister and get as flexible as you can.
  • Cook a delicious desert together (add hot chocolate and strawberries).
  • Visit a haunted castle.
  • Take a tantric yoga class.
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Having a Venus-Pluto aspect in your chart is not all bad. In fact, it can actually spice up your love life. You just need to play your cards right. Working on transcending your fears and insecurities will definitely increase your chances of attracting a partner who shares your depth and passionate nature.

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

© 2021 Teodora Gheorghe

Comments

Teodora Gheorghe (author) on August 30, 2021:

Thank you Emee! I'm glad you like the article. :)

Emee chan on August 30, 2021:

This is an interesting article! I like reading about astrology, especially about certain aspects and how they manifest in our natal chart.

I'm looking forward to reading more!

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