I am a proud Scorpio man who has a deep interest in astrology and the zodiac.
3 Stages of Scorpio
Scorpio is probably the most feared sign in the zodiac. This is due to the infamous Scorpio stinger. However, very few people know that the ultimate symbol of a Scorpio is an all-loving dove.
It is said in astrology that Scorpio is the only sign that has three animal totems. One can also view this as the three stages a Scorpio goes through in his/her life.
There are many contentions about what these totems are called. There are also contentions that there are more than three totems. But for the sake of simplicity, one can think of these as the three totems of a Scorpio. They are as follows.
1. Scorpion: The Deadly Stinger
The scorpion is the basic and the least-evolved totem of a Scorpio and is symbolized by a scorpion. Some people also call it the lizard.
Much like an insect, you will find a Scorpio in this stage ruled by emotions and instincts rather than intellect. Scorpios in this category have low self-awareness and low self-control. The most dangerous and vengeful Scorpio belongs to this totem.
If you have seen an absolutely despicable Scorpio, they probably belong to this totem. Talking about vengeance, these are the Scorpios who go to any extent to destroy someone, even if it means at their own cost.
2. Eagle: Flying High in the Sky
This is the second totem of a Scorpio, where one is self-aware of his/her powers. Once a Scorpio has developed sufficient self-awareness and is ruled by intellect rather than instincts and emotions, he/she can choose to use these traits as wants.
Usually when in this stage, most Scorpios try to achieve great heights in their career and endeavors. This does not mean that a Scorpio in this totem does not have a stinger. But the way a Scorpio defeats his enemy here is different from that of a basic scorpion.
A Scorpio here is not self-destructive. As a normal eagle would do, a Scorpio would swoop down on his prey, defeat it, and fly back in the air, not looking for the complete destruction of the enemy.
Be aware that a Scorpio in this totem can still be manipulative and exploitative.
3. Phoenix and Dove: The Symbol of Peace
This is the totem where the true power of a Scorpio is shown to the world. This is when a Scorpio becomes aware of his/her mystical powers of healing.
While most people consider a Scorpio to be a venomous creature, the true power of a Scorpio lies in healing and spreading peace. That is the ultimate way of exerting one's power. That is the reason this totem is symbolized by a dove.
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But this is not easy. A Scorpio needs to go through a complete transformation to achieve this power. This transformation is symbolized by the phoenix, which burns and rises from its own ashes.
A Scorpio is the only sign in the entire zodiac known to have this power. Hence every transformation in a Scorpio's life can be symbolized by a phoenix.
Questions & Answers
Question: Why are Scorpios so jealous? I'm 44 11/05, my boyfriend is 34 11/17, I've never been so jealous and worried.
Answer: Jealousy is one of the natural traits of a Scorpio. Probably the only way you can control this jealousy is to accept that they love you and not question it. Know that they too are humans and respect the differences (not necessarily approve everything but just respect it).
Question: How do I know which Scorpio totem I am?
Answer: See which of those totems you closely relate to. At the same time, totems can also be transitionary and not necessarily go in stages in all aspects of life.
Question: In what way do scorpios heal?
Answer: Scorpios are intense beings. Life is kind of stressful for them because of this intensity which is on all the time. So, the best way for them to heal is through activities that release that stress. This could be an intense workout or even meditation. Unfortunately, this can also lead to taking up darker things such as drugs, drinking and stuff like that. But it is best to heal oneself through yoga, an intense workout or meditation.
Question: Do Scorpios put their family and friends before themselves?
Answer: From my experience, they usually do.
Question: Why am I more attracted to a Tiger despite being a Scorpio?
Answer: Probably because tigers are kind of majestic animals and Scorpios are generally attracted to majestic looking beings.
Question: Why do Scorpios tend to push away their partners? I'm a Scorpio 11/10/84
Answer: They generally don't tend to push away their partners. What happens is sometimes Scorpios need their alone time if they are dealing with something and they believe that they should deal with it themselves. Given that they are usually bad communicators, they come out as pushing away their partners.
Question: How do I get out if the ashes and into the phoenix?
Answer: From my experience, it appears as a flash in a time of deep crisis. Otherwise, you should constantly try to better yourself.
Question: I am somewhat "famous" at school, and I don't understand how it happened, and I HATE being famous/in the spotlight, is that normal for a Scorpio?
Answer: It is quite possible. As much as we do not like the spotlight, we sometimes tend to get the attention either due to our skills or our uniqueness.
Question: I'm a Scorpio,10/30. My other half is also a Scorpio, 11/7. Is it possible for two Scorpios to be perfect for each other?
Answer: They actually have the potential to be the perfect match, provided they give space to each other. Both have common traits that may sometimes become too annoyingly and dangerously common. This is where they need to learn to give each other space and compromise on certain things.
Question: Why are Scorpios pathological liars?
Answer: It is not about Scorpios being pathological liars. It is whether you have understood them right. In fact, when a Scorpio lies, you will know immediately, as they are very bad at lying. There are a majority of people from certain zodiac signs who can sell you the moon verbally, and you won't even know that they have been bull sh*tting all along. So, who is a bigger liar?
All you need to do is understand a Scorpio mentality first.
Question: Why do Scorpios get mad easily?
Answer: It really depends on the situation. You may find it interesting that though Scorpios get mad easily at small things, they also tend to calm down easily. It is only the long term hate or grudges you should be cautious about.
Question: I have ZERO tolerance for phonies or fools. Anything that appears to be a sham, I regard as an insult. Is this unique to being a Scorpio?
Answer: May not be unique. But definitely a strong trait of a Scorpio. We have little patience for phonies and flaky people.
Question: How does a Scorpio know when they are aware of themselves?
Answer: Well, call it a flash of enlightenment. That probably comes closest to a Scorpio becoming aware of himself/herself.
Question: Why am I attracted to a wolf even if I am a Scorpio?
Answer: The wolf is considered a totem of Scorpio by many people. Probably this is the reason.
Question: I'm a Scorpio, November 9th born. I'm always interested in the mystical stuff. Is it normal?
Answer: Yes.. That is quite normal. Pluto is the ruler of Scorpio, which is basically also the ruler of everything occult (everything hidden or mysterious). Scorpios have a natural inclination towards unraveling hidden things or understanding the hidden.
Question: Are Scorpios sneaky? I'm not a good liar, but I am good at being sneaky. My birthdate is November 14th.
Answer: We are known to be bad liars, but very sneaky people (the Ninja or an assassin type sneaky).
Question: Can I have all three Scorpio totems?
Answer: If you are asking about having it in one life, the answer is Yes. Together at the same time? I don't think so.
Question: I'm a Scorpio, and my husband is a Gemini (6/4/1959). Are we compatible?
Answer: It depends on a lot of things. It is never about just the sun signs. See if your natal charts are compatible. More than anything, you both should be loving, understanding and accommodative about each other. Compromises and supporting each other in times of crisis are a huge part of life. As long as they are in place, Scorpio and Gemini can be a good match.
Question: What are the dates for each phase of the totem?
Answer: There are no dates for totems. But one can expect that as one grows and matures, the totems may change.
Question: How do I evolve to the Phoenix totem when I feel like I am still just a Scorpion?
Answer: When you have transformed from now to something better, you will know that you evolved into the Phoenix totem.
Question: Does loving dogs have something to do with me being a Scorpio?
Answer: I don't think so. I am a Scorpio and I love cats and dogs equally (in fact, cats a tad bit more than dogs).
Question: Are Scorpio's natural born leaders?
Answer: Scorpios do have strong leadership traits. Having said that, some times we need to hone that trait as most times we are lone wolfs and leading a team involves being a team player. Nonetheless, we can become great leaders.
Question: Can a Scorpio be these at different times in their life or different stages or do they evolve into each totem?
Answer: Scorpios can be any of these at different stages of their life. A phoenix totem is usually a representation is emerging new from a crisis or a defining moment in life.
Question: I disagree with the jealousy comment of why we are so that way, I think it's because we can smell bull and lies and that leads to jealousy to come out through others actions of disloyalty, so what do you think about that?
Answer: I partially agree with your take on jealousy. While I do agree that others' actions may lead to jealousy, it may not always be the truth. It could also be due to our perception. For example, you love a girl, and she is seeing someone else. That is not really BS or lying on that girl's part but just us being plain jealous. So, jealousy may be due to different reasons.
Question: I had a friend who is a Scorpio and so am I, he recently left his longtime gal and wanted to be with me (we are both in our 50's) I caught him in a lie and he tried to downplay it. Is this normal?
Answer: Yes, it can be possible for Scorpios to lie. But if it is a white lie, you can just forgive him.
© 2012 Karthik Kashyap
Ouroboros on July 30, 2020:
I'm a Scorpio, I'd like to think of myself in the Dove phase. I used to be very lonely and spiteful. Didn't trust the world or a soul in it. Did a bunch of drugs and got into trouble. Went to college, made better friends, found light but still in love with the darkness. Went mad no less than 3 times, drugs are bad m'kay, learned something new everytime. Went through a stage where I banished the idea of all darkness and repressed it within myself until it became it's own entity that walks with me. Made another of light and goodness. Went mad for the last time, thank god, almost 11 years ago. That's when I learned forgiveness. I forgave everyone who ever did wrong by me, because why not? Everybody hurts, everybody hurts others as a way to cope with it, and the only way to stop it is to let the pain end with you. Then I forgave myself, which in and of itself was possibly the most rewarding moment in my life, and no, I'm not Christian. So I'd like to think I've found the dove consciousness, then I got into a long toxic relationship and reverted to the hawk, and now I'm trying to find my way back home.
Mr D on July 27, 2020:
I am a Scorpio I Hate a person who betrayed me i want to find a girl that i have been dreaming for 6years in my dream now and when i do i just want to hug her for rest of my life i wana feel warm and not the coldness from my shower and myself
NJB33 on April 09, 2020:
I AM rising from the ashes !!!
Hopkins Loe on March 16, 2020:
I would like to clarify that Scorpio’s are actually very good at lying like their gemini and Leo counterparts so I have to disagree with you by saying they’re bad liars when in reality they’re one of the best
Dora on December 22, 2019:
Im really intersted with your writing The Three Phases of a Scorpio Totem, is it myte or base on what? Is it something that your learnt? I meant eho creat this phases?
Rob on November 22, 2019:
Just wanted to say im a scorpio october 26,this was a great and insightful read. I believe i have reached the Phoenix and Dove totem. I never knew till know that the scorpio was the only sign in the zodiac that was like this. Although it makes sense for there are different scorpios and ive meet a few that didnt seem to be aware of the traits a scorpio possesses,also ive been thru my crisis a year ago and it changed me but also i did have my destruction of what i call my pass life for i moved on for everything my town i lived in from the people that where toxic and from the being i use to be and burned it all not physically but rather left it behind me letting go and moving on to what i knew would strengthen me as well as i got in touch with my native American side and found my spiritual past and path for the scorpio who said they favor wolves well your not alone my spiritual guild was a wolf funny huh but did yall caught that was as ive been on my spiritual path as well as my scorpio journey ive become the wolf guild myself for i dont need a wolf spirit guild no longer now im looking for the one i will help find there path and share my wisdom and knowledge to even if its not in this lifetime for we all know scorpio is a symbol for reincarnation crazy how tht fits into my native American beliefs for im to be reincarnated in to a alpha wolf in my next life type so for anyone with more wisdom my question would be if i have truly reached the phoenix then could there be more for if the beliefs are true in my culture and i raise again in the next life as the wolf wouldn't tht be like a second Phoenix stage or is it apart of the scorpio for we die and come back many times in our lifetime i know i have well thanks for reading and also to all scorpio believe in yourselves and know this and take it with you on your own journey for it took me awhile to get it but pay attention to the signs no matter how big or small not saying like oh yeah he or shes cheating on me because of this or that for a scorpio you will have your battle with yourself before your aware. The signs i speak of well youll know when you see them.well thanks for listening.
Dalilah on February 04, 2019:
I am a Scorpio because I was born on November 18 2008 and all of this is true
Brandon on January 12, 2019:
Thanks to st Germain and Raphael for guiding me.
Aid on October 19, 2018:
25 and a drug addict. trying to change my life and my ways.
i am capable of so much. my parents are both scorpios. my dad is definitely a phoenix. my mom.. low level scorpio and i think she will always be this way. i am very similar to her unforunately. (we even have the same moon, Virgo, intensely self critical) and her father is a virgo, and you guessed it.. i am a spitting image of my grandfather.
astrology is crazy. there is something to it. when i saw our charts i was floored.
TheOnlyOne... on August 03, 2018:
I'm 14 and I know I've unlocked the true form of pheonix.. Because I'm like no other kids or any other kids that's my age.. But I do get childish sometimes but most people think I'm 17 or higher because of the way I act.. Sometimes I hate myself because I'm too kind. Even if someone hates me I would try to help them in any shape or form if I know they need it and I've helped alot of other people in my past but I know when I was 8 or 9 when I got into fights I went crazy like a wild animal so back then I guess I was stage 1 because I just felt like I had to do everything in my power to beat him almost to death. But now it's like I'm a whole nother person now that I understand who I truly and I'm not gonna let anyone change that..
Erwandy on July 06, 2018:
I am an Alpha October Scorpio. This article is so spot on. At the age of 43, I am already a Phoenix Scorpio. I have endured some of the darkest moments in life between the age of 37-42. Of which my evolution to Eagle Scorpio started when I was 38. Now being a Phoenix, it is quite a liberating feeling as I am no longer bothered with trivial elements that normally offend Scorpios. "Live and Let Live" becomes the vindictive motto of a Phoenix Scorpio. The best part is that I remained highly emotional and devoted inside - with the ability to control them with ease
Rachel on May 30, 2018:
This is COMPLETELY true
LiciaNicoleGoree on April 18, 2018:
Scorpios are best in zodiac I am Scorpio a lie we are the strongest in the zodiac ppl need learn what talking about
I'm loyal don't play with tarot occult or am I sexual sleep everyone I am my own breed with big heart
Kurtiscorpi on November 23, 2017:
Dang! Reading this made me think back to all the stuff I've done in the past. It's completely spot on. Funny, I remember when I was young I got picked on and beat up a lot in middle school. So I had to stand up myself and I went to the extent to learn any fighting style( the deadly stinger). I didn't have much money to pay for classes so I watched a lot action, kung fu movies with actions stars like Jason stathem, Jet li, Jackie Chan etc. Literally I watched a bunch movies over and over until I understood their movements, timing, form just about everything i had no other choice. Then one day I snapped out of it and handle my business. Sure enough it worked they all stopped. This is something I've learned in the past and it is something I carry on my everyday life. "If you think, you're late. If you're late, you muscle. If you muscle, you're tired. If you're tired, you die". Live life by going with the flow and never give up on your dreams, goals but don't upset yourself if things aren't going as planned (Eagle, flying high in the sky).
3 animals is a bunch of bullshit on October 24, 2017:
This is a bunch of crap. Scorpio's animal is scorpion and always will be. Anyone who thinks we have 3 animals just wants to be a goddam snowflake.
PhoenixScorpio on October 06, 2017:
Talking with other Scorpios help me to find the answer to be a Phoenix and it's that we don't have to sting, we need to forget that we have "the infamous Scorpio stinger". And when the world is not polite with us, we should only accept to be stung and move on. The goal of Scorpio is to spread peace and love. We have endless peace and love inside us when we learn to be wounded, for whatever reason, right or wrong.
Steven Coleman on September 23, 2017:
I am involved with a Gemini. Do I have a chance or is it just a crash and burn
joanns on September 12, 2017:
I'm between eagle and Phenix
Kristinaqua on September 09, 2017:
How is Scorpio the only zodiac able to have the "Phoenix" power, if in a previous article I read of yours, you say Aquarians have this power too?
ItaScorpio on September 01, 2017:
I'm an eagle, I know my power and sometimes I have fear of myself. I feel responsability to choose a career that can give me what I need to fly in the sky. But I still miss one piece in myself to be a phoenix, I can't let go my grounded mind , my low feelings, my stinger. I thought that love was the answer, it's not love, it's inside me, you can healing and spreading peace only when you find peace inside. It's hard for a Scorpio to find peace inside because it means to use his power to empower the world and just let go all the bad feelings... Any advices?
Sunnie on August 13, 2017:
I feel like I am an eagle because I have a lot of self control but when an enemy crosses my path I dont attack them physically but mentally and how they said " the eagle swoops down landing its blow then fly's away" with me I see this as you say that one comment that basically explodes there brain and then you leave with out a word , and I also feel that I can be minipulative at times but sometimes its a good thing ,
Benas on July 19, 2017:
I think I'm a eagle, quite early in fact ( still a teen), since I'm in between the scorpion and phoenix. I'm somewhat friendly, manipulative, though interestingly I'm hardly ever vengeful, though still protective of my friends and relatives, jealousy is also quiet rare in me. I'm also more open than most scorpios. I really do hope in becoming a phoenix! From what I know, those type of scorpios are the evolved, wisest and etc.
Javier Quintanilla on July 05, 2017:
Natan on June 30, 2017:
I would say i am still a Scorpion/Lizard/Spider. I tend to be Vengeful,Violent, Obsessive, Jealous and self destructive,but of course, i am still a teen. I do show some Eagle and Phoniex traits, because i am very protective of my loved ones and i truely do want to heal others in pain, but only to those who need it/deserve it. So i am kind of a mix,but mostly the 1 totem, lmao.
Shannon on May 30, 2017:
I'm a picese woman who has finally learn who I'm am. I know my Scorpio is feeling the same crazy connection and the same scary fear I am. Normally I would have suffered in silence while he did his own vanishing, but I now know I can't do this. I told him exactly what I was feeling and why and that I felt how he was feeling too. Of course after sending message I cried like a damn two year old. But if we are all honest, this can't be. If he wants to be loved and understood by me then I need same in return. If he responds I'm all his, if not I'll cry some more then move on. Either way is better than letting myself get eaten alive by doubt.
Leah on April 28, 2017:
I am a scorpio and I feel I have reamerged as an eagle a few years ago and in a few years will be a dove.
Brandy on March 26, 2017:
I started as the eagle from birth. I always had a higher degree of emotional intelligence than those of my age. I've learned and developed a sensory skill of seeing others strengths and helping them anchor to a higher level of consciousness. It seems like my lot in life has been to constantly resurrect people, bring change to their life mentally emotionally and spiritually which encourages physical growth. Some faster than others. The problem I have is I know I'm looking for a mate to walk this journey with, it's what I desire but it's not something I can see for myself. I have children so I must help them grow and mature. It's a lonely place for me but it's an occurrence in my life. A common theme. I see the path and reason for my interactions with others before the experience.
Laura on March 10, 2017:
Im still inbetween a scorpion and an eagle, there's no way i'd be a pheonix there's no point in it
Ashleigh on January 08, 2017:
Last night, I transformed from the Golden Eagle into the Phoenix. Now I feel I can follow the path to true enlightenment.
The stars do not lie, the accuracy in astrology is unbelievable. Firm believer and preacher for this stuff, I'm madly in love with a Pisces and harbor a strong intuition :)
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on October 23, 2016:
Scorpios are the weakest of all signs: You must be someone who is new to earth.
Scorpios are the weakest of all signs on August 24, 2016:
Scorpios are the weakest of all zodiac signs.
ALL these hocus pocus nonsense is just to hide their actually weakness.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on January 30, 2016:
Scorpio 89: Yes, it is very typical of Scorpios.. Of course, we need to learn to move on, however difficult it is.
Scorpio 89 on January 29, 2016:
I feel as a Scorpio myself I constantly have the Phoenix aspect in my life.
The rising from my own ashes has always been part of my life. Every time rising higher getting further in life everytime it's come crashing down around me. I've noticed though, with the sudden end of a year long relationship with a Taurus female, 2nd longest relationship I've been in, longest being 3 yrs with an Aquarius. That I still feel the love for her that I had when we were together. I don't have any interest in any one else. Since it ended with her, all I want to do is work and when I'm not working, I will literally find ways to be alone.
This typical of a Scorpio?
Wayno Master at Thumb Push-Ups on August 19, 2015:
As a Scorpio Ive Always knew i was Special, I've been Through All the Totems of the Awesome Scorpio, I Process Ultimate Powders In Changing Peoples Lives and for the Good, I can Read People Within Moments of 1st Meeting Them-I can Read Deep Into There Minds and Souls, I Can See/Feel There Spirit and If they are Good-Bad-or Indefferent, I Have the Ability to Bring Peace to There Life...I Console Them and Relieve The Burdens they May Have In There Lives...and Its Not Just People I Can Connect With Its Also With All Living Things...I Have Mastered All 3 Of the Totems of Scorpio (from Killing to Being Killed to Love and Understanding) Therefore I Have Became the 4th Totem...The One Who Had (actually) Died And Rose Again (and have Medical Records to Prove It) And Had Become Stronger Because of It...I Am A "HighLander" And Will Never Die...I'm Drawing A Picture Of An Picture Of A "Totem-Pole" Which Will Have The All The Animal Totems On It And Will Have It "Tatooed" On My Body, And Other Things Will Be Included on It...The Mighty "White Owl" Sacride To Native Indian...MAY PEACE AND LOVE BE WITH YOU ALL And Follow Your Instingths And Always Be Strong (mind and body)...Yours Truely...WAYNO.
joshua magee on May 11, 2015:
If your 11/11
Continue doing what you think works, your a lucky one
sara on April 10, 2015:
Im 19, I have been through numerous short lived relationships where I never fully committed myself. I then realized after my last relationship what great power I hold and the immense choas i can cause. I have learned to look at my life subjectively and see things from my childhood that may have caused my distress in my early teens. I have just recently learned attacking people and trying to control things will not give me the calm contentness I seek in this life. I see my parents and family in a much different light and i am able to see their love for me as i did not before. I still lash out and struggle with battles of wills but i realize quickly and in the moment it is only hurting me more. I have goals and dreams and positive outlets for my anger and more negative emotions but i have not yet realized my purpose in this life. I believe after this i will rise to be a phoenix and once i am there i wont let myself fall again for long.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on March 08, 2015:
Mom of 2: I can understand that from my own experience :)
Mom of 2 on March 05, 2015:
I'm a Scorpio, have been with a Taurus for 14 yrs. Our relationship is great at times (not at this moment lol) I am extremely emotional! I know in my gut when something is off or I'm being lied to, however I found it hard to act on what I'm feeling, and refuse to talk about anything unless I am ready to talk about it!
pete on February 15, 2015:
In reading this.I was definitely a scorpion in.my younger days. Now looking at who I am in the present. I feel like I never was an eagle.
Honnang on August 22, 2014:
Different experiences and lessons from mistakes can make these transformations, I believe. Actually due to experiences I passed through.
Tracey on May 11, 2014:
I'm in love with a Scorpio male and got to the 1 year so far I'm an Aquarian female and have done match test which says we are doomed. Our attraction and chemistry is amazing and we get on great, I now understand him more after reading what you had to say so thank you for that as I won't take it so personally now. We go on holiday next month and we are both excited. I am definitely not letting this one go any tips for me
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on October 14, 2013:
sugar: Thanks a lot for your comments :) And yes, we are the true symbol of phoenix as only the Scorpios can go through multiple transformations.
sugar on October 11, 2013:
I am a 44 yr. old female,am a scorpion,been through death and rebirth all my life.The process of transformation never lets go of me.Have been through it all with a degree of unbearable stress all my life. But at the end I wouldn't want it any other way cause I am one strong woman.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on July 31, 2013:
William: Thank you for sharing. There is nothing much to help. In fact, you just shared what a Scorpio goes through in one's life. One may feel that a Scorpio goes through these stages in order from the basic Scorpion to a Phoenix/Dove, which is not necessarily true. One may have an Eagle totem and then suddenly stoop as low as a basic Scorpion and then transform like a Phoenix. I have caught myself many times when I thought I was an eagle and phoenix and then suddenly I went down to a level of "vengeance and justice at absolutely any cost". The totems also vary according to different areas of life. I am an eagle in some areas of life and a basic stinger in a few more.
So, don't worry. Whenever you have a "realization" or a "transformation", you can pretty much consider yourself in the Phoenix totem in that particular area. And transformation is an ongoing thing for a Scorpion throughout his/her life.
William on July 31, 2013:
I am a scorpio. I have my ups and my downs. I have endured through, what I think and what i have been told, a lot of hard times. I have learned a lot in my short time on earth. I have witnessed enough death to last a couple lifetimes, been bullied, shunned and beaten down to nothing both mentally and physically. I am very intellectual and resourceful. I was full of anger, hatred, and need for personal justice or vengeance. But as I grew that changed a little over time. I would go to the army strong willed, smart, vindictive, judging, and self indulgent. I would leave to come home and be angry again, hating almost everything and everyone. I would be eager to cause pain and harm those who harmed me in my life. I would move around a lot in life. I would finally stop moving and fall in love. I would be happy, optimistic and hopeful. I would never want to feel anything else. Love. I would learn it is easy to love someone for a long time and not be loved back. I would hurt and hurt. I would feel lost. Soon I would get better. I would be self -defeating and depressed. I would yearn with all that I am for it to go away, to feel that love again, to feel happy and at peace. I am no longer angry at the world, I more so am sad for it. I no longer hate and want revenge on my past. I wish and try to move on. I go through stages where I feel I was the eagle a while, and become the scorpion a while...but this is new and I love it and want nothing else...but just cannot reach it. I am confused as to which totem I am. I feel lost, and sad, loving and open about myself; nothing to hide anymore. Can you help me?
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on March 17, 2013:
Joshua: You can ask an astrologer about the details. He/she can give yo more details.
Joshua!! on March 17, 2013:
I'm definitely of the phoenix variety, and It makes sense, but where is this written? Is there some book I can find? I would love to share this information with my fellow scorpios. It really explains the tranformations in my life, and it gives me purpose to know that it all DID happen for a reason, as I always told myself. On the other hand, I can't find anywhere that tells this to be true...who came up with this theory? The greeks...? Romans...? I would love to know! Any help would be wonderful. Thanks!
Nick on March 09, 2013:
So, I'm 29, but I've experienced so much already; everything, bad and good, I'm more than grateful for. The question, "if you could change anything in the past, what would it be?" no longer makes much sense. Not that I don't understand wanting to undo the horrible tragidies, but I do know that the tragidies in my life are also responsible for who I am, and I love who I am. I believe myself to be on the cusp of the phoenix; however, one date with a leo/virgo cusp woman has me experiencing insecurities that must have remained dormant for some time. It is true, it's been over a year, almost two, since I've even entertained the idea of romance. But this woman has me battling insecurities that I know to be stupid, unfounded, and self-fulfilling. I am grateful for this, not that I enjoy this battle because it makes for good poetry (I'm trying to get published as a poet), but because I am trying to be the person I know I can be; forgiving, open, and willing to let anyone in. But anyone who is a scorpio knows how tough this is. Anyone else feel like they're close, or are already there?
JayaReL on December 30, 2012:
i'm a scorpio. and I found myself smiling when I read the first stage...because that is the stage I belong to right now maybe I switch from one to the other at will...this is an eye opener, I find that if I sting someone Its just to prove that I can do it, then I forgive and forget. and help as if nothing ever happened...vengeful and forgiving
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on December 05, 2012:
dream: Any conclusion can be drawn only once you meet him. Meet him first and see how it goes. I never trust anyone in the first meeting. So, once you have met him a couple of times, then you can look at trusting him.
dream on December 05, 2012:
hello there...hope u doin great ..was wonderin bout this guy..he's scorpian n me is cancerian..i've seen him only once n we've talked on fcebook since a coupl of months.. we r meetig up nxt month..he always asks wen am coming down to the city and talks about stuff like the death of his parents n family stuff..n lately introduced me to his sister ..he thinks we cn be good frnds..and we are..we dun talk everyday or regularly but tells me all his plans for the week or weekend..he keeps prasing me alooot n nicknames me beautiful..lately been asking me if i love kids nd talking bout how much he'd like to have...i've heard so muuuch bout him and he is not a stinger..i really do like him bt should i believe what he says? Lemme know wat u think
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on October 25, 2012:
M: Rightly said :) The sad part is that many Scorpios don't reach the level of a white dove. It does take a lot of effort.
jangirl: I am sorry to say, but he may actually mean nothing. You may want to just move on.
jangirl on October 17, 2012:
i can't understand why scorpio guy has an disappearing act while in a relationship,the last texted that he sent is sorry for causing you so much stressed,and he will return all the favor someday,,what does it mean??...
M on August 31, 2012:
This is why I love this sign!!! It has so many chances to reach what's the highest, purest and noblest through very challenging trials. Our ultimate quest is that negative aspects of Scorpionic nature : vindictiveness, jealousy, domination, lust, possessiveness should be transformed into healing, protection, love, compassion and forgiveness. This path is NOT easy at all, but here's a desire, determination and courage to never ever give up, endure painful experiences ( burn into one's own ashes ) and survive in order to become a better soul after each critical cycle.
The highest form of Scorpio is Dove.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on August 29, 2012:
I am sorry to here that Lady.. Well.. All I can say is that, hope you find a better one. And as I always advice people.. It is ok to take some time to understand that person instead of going with the initial attraction :)
All the best..
Lady on August 29, 2012:
WOW---wish I had read this before I dated this, smooth talking, loving,
caring, couldn't do enough for u guy. In 6 short wks. in a flash, I won't see u anymore & don't bother me. WHAT??? Jenkle & Hyde!!
Refuses any explanation. IT"s Done. Fantastic lover. But also bragged how others he broke up with "bothered" him later. For a, "country boy" who grew up w/nothing, he was very impressive. Hard worker, great vocabulary, full of compliments, thoughtfulness.
What more could u ask for???? A REASON?. THEY ARE USERS.
Now I may have the opportunity to meet another. Not sure where to go with this.
Enjoyed the input. Any Suggestions??
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on August 20, 2012:
you are welcome Angel :)
Angel on August 20, 2012:
karthikkash - I agree and have gone through these phases. I can look back in my past and know what form I was in at the time. I like that you referenced Bruce Lee as he is my role model in life and his teachings are what I try to follow. Thanks again!
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on June 15, 2012:
eureclides: I agree with you. As Bruce Lee said, the highest form of a martial art is to have no form. The same way, Phoenix need not be necessarily the highest form. But, it is definitely a symbol of transformation from one being to another. It signifies death and rebirth, could be of one's own character, behavior, attitudes, principles.. anything at all. The reason a Scorpio is denoted with this symbol is that Scorpio is the only zodiac sign which has the ability to go through this transformation multiple times in life.
eureclides on June 15, 2012:
I think that there is a higher level than phoenix. The one that a scorpio don't need to transform anymore. He can unroll the problem and see the truth in others and in himself.
This one sees the Truth
Acharya V Shastri on June 04, 2012:
NAILS : THE MIRROR OF PERSONALITY
Nails are the mirror of our personality, Looking into which the expert reader can unnoticeable observe all characteristics of a person through one's nails. In this article, a systematic method has been projected to peep through the nails of a person and read about him with veracity.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on May 03, 2012:
thank you for the feedback haikutwinkle :)
haikutwinkle on May 03, 2012:
The deadly stinger
Wears two masks
The eagle's wings
Simply glide on winds
or gentle dove
ego and alter ego
haikutwinkle on May 03, 2012:
A wonderful hub about Scorpios!
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on April 26, 2012:
Thanks Christin :)Yes, I think all Scorpios go through all these phases at least once in their life.
Christin Sander from Midwest on April 26, 2012:
I am a Scorpio and have identified with all 3 at various stages of my life. Voted up and interesting.