Why Do Scorpio Men Withdraw and Seem Distant?

Updated on July 13, 2018
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Kris is a Scorpio sun with a Capricorn moon and Cancer ascendant.

A Guide to Your Scorpio Love Interest

This article will provide a crash course on your crush. We'll cover:

  • sun sign basics
  • common personality traits and how they manifest in romance
  • top reasons why he's off the grid and ignoring your texts
  • explanations for his off-and-on behavior and sudden blow ups
  • a glimpse at sign-by-sign compatibility
  • important tips for cultivating a healthy relationship

Scorpio is a fixed, feminine, water sign.
Scorpio is a fixed, feminine, water sign.

The Basics

Scorpio sun signs are born from October 23–November 21, right between Libra and Sagittarius. Their element is water, meaning they navigate the world through their emotions. Their fixed, feminine energy can come off as stubborn and reserved, but don't mistake their often quiet and secretive demeanor for passivity! Scorpios are driven to action by their ruling planets, Mars and Pluto. These planets govern war, aggression, sexuality, and deep transformational change. This gives Scorpio natives an innate push to seek personal growth on a soul level.

Common Personality Traits of a Scorpio Lover

Quality
How It Shows
charismatic, magnetic, mysterious
flirts like James Bond
deeply curious but secretive
will ask you 100 personal questions but won't tell you much about themselves
the all or nothing type
can rev from 0 to 100 in a matter of seconds but may let off the gas just as fast (they will likely be the one to determine the speed of a new relationship)
devoted
when they finally find "The One", they love them with every fiber of their being
possessive
will never let go, for better or worse
sensitive and intensely emotional
can hold a grudge for years but is also capable of deep healing work, tender forgiveness, and bringing dark wounds to the light
thoughtful
will take the time to understand their partner to their core and nurture them accordingly
stubborn
wants it their way and has a hard time compromising
passionate
ignites the spark of a twin flame relationship you'll never forget
a fighter
although they might instigate many fights within the relationship, they will also fight for the relationship when it needs saving
Does this sound like your guy?

The Whole Picture

While your crush might be a Scorpio sun, his personality might be influenced by his rising, moon, and Venus signs as well. Take a look into his full natal chart to gain a more accurate understanding.

Is your Scorpio man ignoring your texts?
Is your Scorpio man ignoring your texts?

5 Reasons Why a Scorpio Man Withdraws

I have determined that a Scorpio's withdrawal usually has one of five causes (though there may be more I have not yet discovered):

1. He's confused.

He is in a situation that he has mixed emotions about and is acting distant until he sorts it out in his heart.

2. He's angry.

He is royally pissed off, and instead of lashing out, he has decided to spare you his vindictive tongue. His withdrawal is to let you know he is upset and perhaps to punish you by ignoring your texts (manipulative, but it does happen).

3. He's hurt.

He feels burned or embarrassed and has withdrawn to nurse his wounds. In my opinion, we Scorpios take offhanded comments a bit too personally. When he gets offended, he will try to go about his usual routine in silence as a coping mechanism. I do this, and I can tell you it really ticks me off when I am creating space on purpose, and someone asks me what's wrong. If they keep asking, I either lash out because I want them to go away without explaining that I am upset or I pretend that I just don't feel well.

4. He's simply being himself.

He may just be enjoying his alone time, pondering the meaning of life, or pouring himself into his passion projects. I believe that when he withdraws like this and possibilities one, two, and three have been ruled out, it says a lot about his confidence in the relationship. It tells me that he thinks the relationship is strong enough that he doesn't have to worry about putting on a show and being talkative every day. Some people may take that as being taken for granted, but I guess all I can say is, if that bothers you, talk about it. I'm not guaranteeing it will change, though.

5. He's breaking up with you.

If he completely stops communicating, he may have decided to cut all strings and end it. In other words, he is creating space in preparation to leave. I hope this isn't the case for anyone, because it says volumes about his lack of compassion for you if he isn't willing to give you closure.

Why is he still acting distant?
Why is he still acting distant? | Source

Is He Showing Off-and-On Interest?

Does he seem intensely interested in you and your plans—almost coming off as a bit of a stalker—but only to go off the grid completely before once again coming onto you as strongly as before? From my experience (both as a Scorpio and as someone who has dated several Scorpio men), I'm going to explain their peculiar behavior as best as I can.

You have to understand that Scorpios are intense. When they are focused, it is with a single-minded obsession. So when he is thinking about you, it is all about you. And when he's not, he's not. Without going into why he withdraws in the first place (more about that later), this is the best explanation I can give you for the stalker-to-stranger extremes.

There will be times when he's somewhere in between extremes, but it happens less frequently than with other signs. These in-between times usually happen when he is trying to make an effort because he knows you probably don't understand his intensity or because he's genuinely curious about something you mentioned.

The best advice I can give here is to communicate. He may not be saying much, but I guarantee he is listening. Tell him how you feel. If he is a fit for you, your Scorpio will be upset that you are upset. At the very least, he will reassure you that you are not the problem.

If you aren't sure about him, don't put up with his games. In other words, if you can't tell which of the first four reasons is the reason he has withdrawn, then you really don't know each other well enough for him to play mind games and expect for you to sort it out. Tell him so. If he still doesn't answer, he isn't worth your time anyway.

Why Does He Suddenly Snap out of Nowhere?

It might seem like everything's fine when your Scorpio suddenly turns on you, leaving you feeling attacked for no reason. He can't expect you to read his mind, but here's what he might be feeling—and likely has been feeling for quite some time.

Imagine you have a dog. Now imagine you're a small child that has just discovered the dog's tail and begins to playfully tug on it. The dog loves you, understands that you don't know any better, and tolerates your curious tugging. A few years later, you accidentally step on the dog's tail. All is forgiven; the dog can tell the difference between a purposefully placed foot and an accidental injury. But now you're older and so confident in his loyalty that you constantly yank on his tail to show your friends how much he loves you. But if the dog finally turned around and bit you then, would you think, simply because it hadn't done so before, that it came out of nowhere?

I can guarantee you one thing: a Scorpio waits. They wait until they feel they have sufficient justification and then lash out. Because they know their emotions are so much stronger than others', they tolerate more than most people. They have to so that they don't feel guilty about retaliating. But when they do finally lash out, they do so in brilliant form. At this point, it's not about you understanding what he is angry or hurt about. It's about you feeling small and crushed, cowering in a corner surrounded by your guilt. And if you don't remember the first few times you tugged on his tail, because his response wasn't memorable, well—that's not his problem.

My point is, you may think it came out of nowhere, but he has been keeping track, and something tipped the scales. Just because he doesn't tell you when you have hurt or upset him doesn't mean you haven't.

Are you and your Scorpio compatible?
Are you and your Scorpio compatible?

Sign by Sign Compatibility at a Glimpse

Sign
Areas of Harmony
Areas of Tension
Aries
passion and intensity
anger and confrontation
Taurus
stability, security, commitment
grudges and surrendering dominance
Gemini
intellectualism and curiosity
differences in commitment
Cancer
romance and intimacy
attachment and co-dependence
Leo
energy, love for life, lust
loyalty and trust
Virgo
devotion and thoughtfulness
boundaries
Libra
demonstration of affection
keeping the bond when romance flickers
Sagittarius
philosophy, wanderlust
freedom vs. possession
Scorpio
overall personality
compromise
Capricorn
ambition and personal space
honest communication
Aquarius
revolutionary ideals
emotional understanding
Pisces
soul-searching and sentimentality
attachment and co-dependence

What Determines Compatibility?

In astrology, there are several complex methods of determining compatibility beyond sun signs. However, remember that astrology should be used as a tool to better understand your partner and your unique dynamic, not to define the relationship and its outcome. Any sign can date any sign; however, studying synastry can help pinpoint particular strengths and challenges in any partnership.

Tips for a Healthy Relationship with a Scorpio

The following are key pillars of any strong relationship, but these may need some extra attention when dating a Scorpio.

  • Trust: Most of Scorpio's negative behaviors stem from a fear of rejection, betrayal, or abandonment. When they feel safe with their partner, they will likely not only open up but pour their best qualities into the relationship.
  • Communication: If he's being unresponsive or giving vague answers, try to maintain an assertive communication style—not aggressive or passive-aggressive. Be clear and gentle with your questions, making it known that you are willing to listen to his thoughts and feelings without judgment.
  • Boundaries: Define what limits you and your partner need, whether that be in regards to commitment, privacy, or mutual independence.
  • Space: Scorpio men are notorious for needing massive amounts of their own space, but feel entitled to infringe on yours. Decide as a couple whether you need more or less alone time, and how to ensure genuine trust while you're apart.
  • Intimacy: Sexuality is often essential to Scorpio expression. Whether or not your relationship includes physical sex, emotional intimacy and vulnerability should be honored with mutual consent and honest discussion.
  • Forgiveness: Did we mention that Scorpios are sensitive and hold grudges? If your partner is feeling burned, apologize by acknowledging their feelings—whether or not you feel at fault. Often, they just need to feel heard and validating their pain can be an easy cure. However, be sure to assert your need for forgiveness and compassion. Resentment is a silent killer of any bond.

Remember, your partner's sun sign is never an excuse for abusive behavior. These tips are meant to mitigate possible challenges in a Scorpio partnership, but if you ever feel threatened, manipulated, or mistreated—they are not worth your wellbeing. On the same note, don't let Scorpio's bad reputation lead you to misjudge someone. There are plenty of respectful, loyal, and honest folks born in Scorpio season, just as with any other sign. Discern your partner based on their true character, and let astrology be secondary to your gut instinct!

References

  • Struthers, Jane. Sun Signs (2005).
  • Edut, Tali & Ophira. The Astro Twin's Love Zodiac (2008).

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      WS 

      5 weeks ago

      I have been dating a Scorpio man for 2 years and a half. needless to say it is a long distance relationship on top of that we don't see each other as much as we would like to. his job is very demanding and unable to come to see me so I am the one that goes and visits him. we count on a lot of texts and phone calls to keep the relationship going. but sometimes he shuts me out of his life for at least 3 or 4 days. and I know for a fact his days are not that busy. when he shuts down on me and not text me after all I do for him it hurts my feelings and I do talk to him about it but he does not let me know what is going on the reason why he does this. it don't take just a few seconds to text someone and say good morning and how is your day. After all we have been together for 2 and I a half but he is not receptive to my feelings. I really think it's the arrogance and a Scorpio. I am crazy about this guy but if he keeps it up I'm going to have to let him go.

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      kj 

      2 months ago

      how dos one know if he is really interested in you.. he barely talks

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      Catherina 

      2 months ago

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      Taurus Woman 

      3 months ago

      I'm dating a Scorpio and I must say I've never seen men without feelings like Scorpio men. I must say sometimes we women tolerate too much nonsense. When I was about to dump him he playa mind games - twist the whole thing, I mean I want to dump you and you acting stupid. Is this how Scorpio men behave?

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      Sagittarius woman with Scorpio man 

      3 months ago

      We met and he was proposing after 2 weeks asking me if I would meet his family and friends - I have not had good experiences in love and was a little cautious but eventually his attention, compassion, patience and wonderful personality won me over. i have fallen deeply in love with this man who has now, after 3 and a half months (yes I know it is a short time) not introduced me to anyone, never invited me over to his house, starting being busy over weekends with family issues only pops over 1 night in the week for the last 3 weeks. Is this a characteristic or is he playing games with me :(

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      Scorpio Man 

      4 months ago

      Hi !

      To answer some of your questions,

      I seem to have trouble with expressing my feelings in an non emotional way, I do not like to hurt peoples feelings or burden them and, can let build up to an point and then either pull away or confront, normally in an an aggressive type manner, because don’t really like confrontation.

      Also of pushing someone away as fear rejection so will self sabotage in order to control outcome, which sadly always ends in pain.

      I can see good in people and, have little qualms of telling someone they are special

      Doesn’t always mean that romantic feelings are happening but love in what ever form, be it friendship, compassion or

      Admiration.

      To be honest, I struggle with my inner feelings and thoughts regularly and, struggle to come to terms with them let alone trying to explain them.

      I have always wanted True Love with a Woman.

      I have Loved before 3 times.

      Have a Beautiful Daughter to the last of the 3 Loves.

      We are not together, 50/50 shared responsibility for break up.

      She cheated on me.

      Broke my Heart.

      I don’t like some things I think or say, be they fact or not.

      And wish I could roll more mid field and not the spikes up and down constantly is really tiring.

      Also with some women I have a great attraction but is not always about sex, but companionship, frienship,

      Sometimes a hug and affection is of more value than sexual relations.

      Sort of know if it will work out or not early on and don’t want to play games anymore, but can still be attraction.

      I really don’t know who the ideal sign for a Scorpio is,

      I just pray there is One

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      Unbreakable 

      7 months ago

      Well Said.......a typical scorpio behavior

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      aqua girl 

      11 months ago

      hi, i'm aqua girl, student 23 yr old. i met this scorpio guy age 32 online. he's working, he is charming but he talk only about sex. i have told him early tht i'm looking more than just sex, but he said he prefers to go with the flow. so, i tried and most of our convrsation will go down to sex. nways, before our first meeting, i asked him to confirm our meeting but he didn't replied. turned out a week later, he texted me that he got family problem, and i said..oohh..okay..and we chat like usual. both of us want sex but somehow, i started to doubt him and realize i dont really just want sex. but still i'm trying to go with flow with him.

      our conversation was okay and we decided to meet up after i finished my final examination. it was monday and he said cannot because he has work. and i just okay with it although a bit disappointing. then i try to contact him asking whether he only wants me for sexting ? but he did not even read my message for 2 weeks. few days later, he message me telling his phone broke, and his chat is jammed. so yeah..

      is he playing. i know i;m not his priority. but what actually is he doing? does he has no respect for me as a human being?

      while he's missing in action, i found another guy online and this guy is just a year older(gemini). we do talk about sex, but the difference is, he want to know me deeper. he ask my fav music, random question like kiss ot hug? and chat our daily activities..not all the time, but had great conversation with him. Compared to the scorpio where evrything goes down to sex, not many questions..just flirting and dirty talks...

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      Scorpio man Lol 

      14 months ago

      Hi there I am a Scorpio also a boy. I think we just do it meaning the love stuff because we love you so much but we get scared to tell you that because we don't know if you really love us too?? Sorry if sounds weird just guessing lol. But about the roller coaster deals we will always love u and sometimes we don't mean to hurt your feelings. But if we want to be alone don't feel bad we just need our space. We are holding back because we want to take in your love and see if ur the right person for us I think but really being a Scorpio is tough. I hope I helped!! ❤️

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      SunInAquaVenusinSag 

      17 months ago

      My dad, brother and ldr bf are all scorps and my bf is triple scorp and I can tell u this is absolutely true for these guys! My bf is soo hot and heavy everyday and then goes off the grid for no more than 48 hrs every so often, and it is usually cuz he is genuinely busy. They hone in on a project and become very obsessed. I will say to the women having troubles however, that if he's disapearing for a WK or more regularly, it really has nothing to do with his sign and waay more to do with you're just not a major priority yet. Girls, start dating around casually, see what else is out there besides him. If you do that, your scorp will notice with his freakish Empathic ways and it WILL make him want you way more! Also, not saying all of you did this, just throwing it out there, but do not, do NOT sleep with him right away. I like a 5-8 date minimum. Or a few months. Espesh if you're with a Scorp man for sure!! I really wish u all well ladies and hope I helped a tad.

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      scorpio woman 

      18 months ago

      I live in Wisconsin. Boyfriend lives in Arizona so communication is a big problem but we do get together on occasion and it is spectacular. Good luck all you gals out there.

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      scorpio woman 

      18 months ago

      There is no one to compare with the Scorpio man. He is pure magnificence. Strong, handsome, great personality, warm, kind, friendly, funny, etc. There is no getting over him and I know it. I can't have him and no one else will ever interest me again. The Scorpio man is perfect in every way. There is nothing I don't love about this man. I could never settle for less than the best so I guess I will be on my own with just great memories of him.

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      scorpio woman 

      18 months ago

      Well not all the things they say about scorpio men are accurate. They are not brave or fearless in some areas such as walking away from someone who adores them. They don't talk about feelings which leaves us to wonder what they think and where their at and if they are gone for good. They tell it all on a website or brood about it. They are wonderful though, no doubt about it.

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      Mark 

      18 months ago

      Very true. I just concluded that a woman has far too much control over my emotions. I am preparing to leave her and I have been distancing myself.

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      Mark 

      20 months ago

      For your number 5 reason he withdraws and decides to leave, I don't think its for lack of compassion. I would argue the opposite. If he has decided to distance himself in preparation to leave you then he is making it easier for you. I think the act of distancing himself is more painful than you realize and it probably takes extreme will to stay away.

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      Ramgirl 

      20 months ago

      Scorpio friend who ended up kissing me one night, has been gone for 2 weeks. Even ignoring a mutual friend. We had a great connection, long amazing talks, which he would usually initiate, so we both agreed to take things slowly. Two weeks after the kiss, we continued to talk. Now he's gone. Hasn't replies to a single email. I guess he never was that interested after all. Very strange behavior from a man in his 40's

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      violeta_oliveira@yahoo.com.br 

      21 months ago

      Hey! As a Scorpio woman, I believe there´s at least one more reason which is missing in that list: Scorpio Man wants to feel absolutely in control and indispensable. He wants all your thoughts to be about him, even if he won´t admit to it or consider you 'sticky'...he derives deep pleasure form the mere idea that he may be dominating all of your thoughts.

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      Nikki 

      21 months ago

      @Sho - their is no possible chance of getting him back. Scorp men take tend to take it to heart when you go to other people especially guy friends for advice. It makes them feel like they are not important enough to hear what you have to say about how you feel. When a Scorpio man takes you in completely as in loving you you ultimately become their possession until you betray them. You are theirs alone and nobody else's therefore, you can only share your personal feelings or opinions with him. Like I said its better to move on now because he has. I hope this advice helps.

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      Sho 

      22 months ago

      My Scorpio and I have been dating 3 1/2 months. Instant connection, we see each other daily, even talk about our future. We have both been under work stress. He had helped me with some work stuff two weeks ago, but then told me how it stressed him out. Well, the last thing I want is to be a stress to him. So I have made it a point to not bring that into "us" I also invited him to hangout with my friends for Thanksgiving and with family for Christmas. Both of which he said no to. At first my feelings got hurt and I was quiet. He explained he didnt want to do that until we were "OPEN" in front of his daughter about our seriousness. We both have kids. He a 7 year old Me a 2 year old. We do everything together, but I am just a "friend" no PDA etc.. which is 110% fine with me. I would wait forever if he asked. Anyway, before he explained why he didnt want to come to Christmas with me he just said (I like to stay in and do nothing) like I said my feelings got hurt and I was quiet maybe even a bit distant and cold. Then he explained everything and I was fine. We were walking one day and he asked about my stress etc..I made the mistake of telling him how I got my feelings hurt about christmas, but was fine after he explained himself , I also explained that because of the stress I had caused him before I didnt want to share all the work stress I had had so I have been talking to a couple of other friends (guy friends) he shut down. He said "I am going to cause you stress, you will cause me stress" if we cant do that then we cant do this. The next morning he broke up with me via text. "I care for you, but I cant give this relationship what it needs" You will be fine. Ummmm we are 50 and 42. I lost my mind. I felt like it was out of nowhere. One day we are talking future the next day he drops me cold. I called, text, even went over. He finally said "LEAVE ME ALONE, I DID THIS EASY AND CLEAN" Stop calling stop texting. I am a pisces. So I have. But I am telling you.. I feel he did this because he was hurt because I shared my problems with others instead of going to him, I know he cares for me? I have a ton of gifts I have bought weeks before the break up for he, his daughter etc.. I mean we have made so many plans. I dont know what to do? Have I lost him for good? I am NOT going to contact him. But do I have hope?

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      joycee 

      22 months ago

      My boyfriend is a scorpio and I'm libra. we met online and been seeing each other for a month already. he is soo sweet, and caring and loving and our sex is always great. we dont live in the same roof but always exerting effort to see me even if he is not feeling well. this morning when we went to my office he is very sweet. then when i texted him if he arrived to his work, he said yes. usually he will reply with yes, love. then his txts are so short without endearment. i asked him if ive done anything wrong he said that hE is just busy at work but im getting paranoid coZ he is not acting usual.im getting crazy now.. :(

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      frankie 

      24 months ago

      I have no idea what happened with my scorpio male....he just suddenly changed. Him and I were only in a friend's with benefits thing for over a year. Nothing serious well so he always said then one night about 3 weeks ago he messaged and asked if we could meet up I said yes...then I didn't hear from him so I assumed he had gotten busy so I just went to bed...didn't think much of it. I woke up the next day with him just going off his nut and blocking me on his facebok. The messages he sent me were slaughtering and he even threatened to put our rude conversations all over Facebook. He assumed that I was online at 4 am in the morning because my messenger said I was active. I tried to talk to him and I told him that I was asleep...I thought he would have realized that I've never ever ignored him...he knows I would never do that. On that note we weren't even a couple so I have no idea why he has taken it to heart or what's going on. It really does sux when you get stung for something so stupid and especially when you've done nothing wrong apart from be asleep....it's extremely hurtful.

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      Tee 

      2 years ago

      I had the same issue with a scorpio we met 1 year ago this month.everything was fine then he stopped calling and responding to me..this went on for 8 months then he texts me out if the blue. He wanted to see me then changed his mind.wth

      I need Dr. Phil....I feel hurt confused and told him off.then I felt bad ugh....

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      Michelle 

      2 years ago

      I am so glad to hear that everyone is having the same concerns. So I have dated a scorpio several years ago, we reconnected. Awesome! well he did the withdraw thing to me.. but he told me after I sent him a message.. that everything is fine. So that brought back memories.. Yes, a scorpio man is a one task at a time individual, so say that they have alot of things to accomplish in such a short period of time or they feel overwhelmed they tend to withdrawal a bit and it really takes a women whom is strong and can handle finding things to do on your own. At first, I was like omg what did I do wrong and then scorp man let it be known that everything is fine. Thats when it all came back to me he did the same thing when we dated the first time but not as adults we have not dated. But he still is withdrawing. But that is okay with me because it gives me time to be alone and a chance to actually miss him. I am the type that gets smothered when a guy is constantly blowing the messages up or calling.

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      ScorpioMates 

      2 years ago

      Hi all, i m Scorpio woman n my partner is Scorpio too. I really having trouble while dealing with him emotionally. Most of time we have different opinion. And our conversation end with quarrel. Sometime i feel not to have a same sign mate. Even sexual relationship is outstanding but emotionally not. Both of us want to have control in relationship and we end up with fight. I am always in doubt about our relationship longevity. He is very obsessive and jealous type of guy. Even i get scared of me. I always have a second thought about our relationship. He is very supportive and lovable and caring too. BUT i get irritated by his over caring and controlling nature. Most of time i have to think before making a friend with any other boy. Even i cant meet any boy (friend) without his permission. If i do , i fear he may not trust me anymore. Trust issue or what i dont know. I M REALLY CONFUSED how can we both manage.

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      Truebluesstoic 

      2 years ago

      Hi, I'm a Leo who was dating a Scorpio for 3 and half months. He broke up with me over text about a week and 3 days ago. Everything was good very attentive, nice and good listener he acted like everything was fine except for last Sunday something was off he was more irritated and sarcastic especially with his eyes and smirks. I never seen this side of him. I'm pretty sure something i said or the fact that he has to repeat himself various times and doesn't understand why I laugh at everything without explanation finally reached a ticking point. He waited till Wednesday and texted 'Hey' I didn't text back I knew something was wrong and I was upset aswell. He texted the next day a long paragraph why I demonstrate no communication by not texting back and that he wasn't mad at me that day etc... Then I gave him a long paragraph explanation reply. I felt really shitty after reading his long descriptive text. I told him many times I wasn't a good communicator but he said that's okay. Then I get a long reply to my text were he doesn't see us going anywhere in a relationship because I can't communicate and I make funny faces and seem to take him as a joke and not seriously. Then I explained I do like him but it seemed he made up his mind. He says back I like you too etc... Then I said he was confusing me what did he want and he replies with its not going to workout. Then I said I understand , you already made up your mind. He replied with the 'take care line' and that's it. We never added each other on Facebook but only snapchat cause he likes snapchat a lot. He's quite private though. So we've been checking our snapchat stories which he only posted two and so did I. I feel like my situation is probably number 5 but sometimes I get a feeling he will try to contact me one day idk.... What do you guys think???

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      Babygirl 

      2 years ago

      Hi all, i need an advice please about my scorpio man, we were fine for almost 2 months and then i had a strange feeling he was dating someone else. Basically we only knew each other online and have made plans to be in a couple months. Long story short - i asked him whether he was seeing someone and he replied yes, but he only went out for one date only. Everysince i felt hurt and texted him about how i felt and its been 4 days now he has not replied. I can see he has read my message as well. I have deleted him now, I just want to know why do they disappear instead of fixing the problem when apparently its his fault that he messed up by going on date with someone else. I want to add he is younger than me in 6 years, he is 29. Would appreciate your advice. Thank you.

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      Vice 

      2 years ago

      Please someone tell me what to do about my Scorpio guy best friend ! He's amazing, caring, funny.. Just wonderful but when he is upset, he goes off the grid. Well for about a year he has changed. He left his job for something else and he hasn't been the same since . We r used to flirting a lot, admit we like eachother but he has a girlfriend -- one that treats him awful and he knows it. She may even be seeing someone else on the side. I have stood by him knowing how hurt he is. He doesn't deserve it. Suddenly it seems like he can't talk to me... Like he's not allowed. He has dropped off the face of the earth but yet when I do see him for a few minutes , he is great! We pick up where we left off. Our texting is nonexistent now, no more laughing , chatting... He has no time to see me so I can't get answers. What do I do with this friendship???!:((

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      Al 

      3 years ago

      I am a venus in scorpio and I can vouch for this. There is very little I expect and very little that fazes me but the moment I get the whiff of disloyalty I will stake out my game and take him down he will never come up. And I can do this over a protracted period of time such as few years. Betrayal can consume me as much as love can. I am a sadge sun otherwise and not in the least clingy or demanding. Someone who is with me can never see it coming. All the time I have given them a real long rope and they have sadly tied it around their neck of their own accord.

      Sorry to be so gruesome but if you cannot handle the heat stay out of the kitchen.

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      anna 

      3 years ago

      Hi im a scorpio female and i have this habit of disspearing for a few days when im going through all the above phases. Especially when i had fight wih my partner. I hate arguments and confrontations and i always try my hardest for my partner to undertsand him better and not hurt his feelings but he is confrontational type and arguments exhaust me. I fee like when we fight pieces of me die so when i feel to much its like i push a Button inside me that protects me from further hurt and i become cold and distant

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      Sarah burk 

      3 years ago

      I've been dating a scorpio man for 3 months. He came way strong and even texted to me that he could see being married to me. That was only a month of knowing him. I didn't take him serious. He has slowly grown colder and further away. We have had a serious connection and am amazing attraction together. I have since been on a roller coaster ride and now haven't gotten a text or call for 6 weeks. I'm very hurt and miss him so much! What should I do ?

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      Pisces 

      3 years ago

      So I recently met a scorpio and we instantly had a spiritual, physical and emotional connection. We could stare into eachothers eyes and read each other maybe too well. It felt so perfect..like I just stumbled upon a soulmate. But now I haven't heard from him for a week and a half and have no idea why. My period is late and I might be pregnant. I don't want to tell him because he may think I'm just trying to get him back... it really hurts feeling this way all alone. My friends think I should get an abortion to save myself the heart ache but I could never do that! Well..I never thought i would anyway. The weird thing is that I'm on birth control... so wtf just happened?! Is he testing me or just not interested all of a sudden? I'm not going to blow his phone up and beg for him to talk to me if that's what he thinks. But I seriously think I am pregnant and am freaking out. I've never commented on any article ever like this but I need advice before I approach him about this. Thoughts?

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      MollyC 

      3 years ago

      I have a Scorpio issue for sure. I have known him fr 8 years... Best friends that tend to flirt a lot. He usually texts me every day but a few days ago he disappeared when he said he was frustrated . I have texted him like I always do... Nothing. I have even called him out on his silence. Nothing. Is this the end? What do I do??

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      PiscesLeea 

      3 years ago

      I am completely shocked by all of the responses. I am currently being extremely patient with a Scorpio who is going through some tough times. He will not tell me what is wrong. Do I give him space and let him sort it out? From what it looks like if you bother a Scorpio and show them you care they get upset. I will say he has the best heart and loves with all of it.

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      PiscesWY 

      3 years ago

      This is extremely accurate for my male best friend who is a Scorpio! We flirt constantly , talk about crazy things and have fun. But, he will suddenly disappear for a few days. Or he will suddenly have an "issue" where life seems overwhelming. He will not talk about it and shuts right down. As a Pisces I try to help and feel his pain... It is so tough to leave him alone when he is in a funk but I hve 2 give him space or he will disappear. :( scorpions will love u or they will hate u.

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      Lisa 

      3 years ago

      Libra- I can totally relate to if scorpio man doesn't respond to my texts, I think he's done. Right now he hasn't responded three days so kind of concerned.

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      Mariemccoy 

      3 years ago

      Hi guys, I don't want to be offensive to anyone, but I don't understand why all of you don't walk, wait, run from a guy pulling this crap on you?? Over and over, you explain how you're led on, treated like crap and then wonder if he'll take you back.... Why?? If he tells you he likes or lives you and then disappears, find someone else! Why would you wait around for this unstable twit to decide how he's going to yo yo again and how long you'll take it? Have some self respect and dump these crazy scorpio loser dudes who have self centered ness as their #1 !

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      4 years ago

      I'm going through the same crap. I got into a heated argument with my scorpio and now things aren't the same anymore. Every day & night he would text me or calling and today nothing. As gemini once I feel things are changing I start worry. I haven't called to see what's happening etc I'm just going to go do my own thing and let him be. I always give him space even when I don't need vis versa. Too much of us isn't good. But things are slowy getting boring for me. I have thought about cheating but haven't just yet but if this behaviour continues within 2 weeks I'm out of here...

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      cappylena 

      4 years ago

      I have a huge problem I was dating my best friend who is a Scorpio and he was such an amazing man. But I have a son who was looking up to him. Him being 33 with no kids of his own I thought it wouldn't be a problem but apparently it was. In fact he ended the wonderful relationship we had because he says he needs to think of whether or not he wants kids and family or not. I was hurt because before we started dating he said he was in love with me and wanted to settle down have a family etc. Now he says he loves me but it's not the same as it was. I am freaking crazy about this guy. I have never cared or missed or loved anyone the way I do him. What should I do? Should I give him his space to think? Is he still in love with me? I'm so lost please help

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      molita 

      4 years ago

      To all scorpio man out there, could you please explain why is it really hard for you to express your feelings with the one whom you feel somewhat special to you? What's holding you back guys? And if you told a certain girl that you like her very much or that she's special, does it mean your'e developing feelings for her already? Does liking means close to loving? Please have a spare time to help someone in confusion with scorp man.. be delighted to know some insights.. thank you very much..

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      nadine 

      4 years ago

      Hi!

      Just want to ask for an honest advise. I asked my scorpio guy if what he's feeling towards me and he said he doesn't know. But whenever were together, I feel he loves me somehow. Im totally confused coz he's giving me mixed signals.

      Please enlighten me. Thank you.

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      sipss 

      4 years ago

      Being with my Scorpio is like riding a roller coaster.everything feels picture perfect up until. I don't know why he begs to be with me then leaves. Both times we have broken up it was under false pretenses. Both times i had to hear from him via email that its over. He tells me im the one but when he starts getting tired he gives me confidence and reassurence with words that don't feel like a lie. I don't think he respects me. Im naturally submissive but im tired of questioning his feelings. He would say things like " you know i can't make you happy. LeAve Nd then reappear in my life. I really wish he would just stop leading me on

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      gemini 

      4 years ago

      wow...so helpful to hear all the amazing similarities...i don't know if 1-5?? how is the best way to respond to text or call after they have been distancing themselves and a little cold. I go through the same thing when i don't receive a text for 1 day cause it's just such an extreme change from the normal..also don't want to be needy, but sometime i feel like i need to have more self respect, it's not okay to be coldish...back and forth with extreme wow he really really loves and wants me to feelings of I really don't know how he feels at all??? help

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      Libra 

      4 years ago

      This does help about Scorpios!! I am the kind of Libra female who craves attention and if I don't hear from my Scorpio for ONE day - I begin to freak out and go back and forth - he loves me, he loves me not. I KNOW that he loves me - he told me he did two days ago in a phone call and then he didn't respond to my three texts today and I do that damn scales balancing act thing that I hate so much. I am at a vulnerable stage in my life right now. My Mom was diagnosed with Cancer December 4, 2013. I met my Scorpio man in an online dating site on three weeks later and we fell in love within a few weeks into 2014. He talked to my Mom and she adored him. With Mom's encouragement, we decided to meet in April 2014. During Mom's chemo and ups and downs, he was there for me any time of the day (he lives in Ireland and is 6 hours ahead) and I could call him at any time and he was there. Such an amazing man and my rock! My Mom passed March 31 and I wouldn't have been able to make it if it weren't for him. My Mom's last wish was for us to meet. We did, 10 days after she left and it was like we had known each other for years. My friends think I shouldn't expect a text every day, since he has things to do and so do I. I just guess I'm real needy right now. And so afraid that if I don't get a text every day, then he has stopped caring for me. As I write this, I see how silly, stupid and ridiculous and wacky I must seem to anyone who reads this. I can't say anything to him. I don't want him to think I'm a clingy nut, lol. This page really helped, Kris. I guess I have to stop being such a Libra (=

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      Aquarius 

      4 years ago

      Hi,

      Im 17 and the scorpio ive been talking to is 17 also. We met at a party, hooked up and then hung out like twice. He was super into me, to the point where he was almost stalking me (exactly what u mentioned above) although i really didn't mind. Then i felt it got really cold, and then every once in a while he starts texting me, and acting like he's really into me again. I just want to know, How do I treat him in this situation? do I just go along with however he's feeling? I'm an aquarius, and i really don't like to be vulnerable and put myself out there. I haven't acted clingy at all, and I don't plan on doing so at any point. What should I be doing when he is acting cold? What does he want from me...

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      Sera 

      4 years ago

      How would I knw he is lying to me(scorpio) he said he is not over his ex and need time to deal with his feelings. But when I speak to him its just short answers. Said we must become friends b4 lovers. Ask him if I'm going to see him again said he will be busy for nest 5 weeks. What is this man saying? I'm inlove with him and told him how I feel so he knows. HELP!!!!

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      Anonymous 

      4 years ago

      Mine always seems to have no time for me . Nasty comments like " my family comes first " " I can't be with you as I have people around me "

      I am confused .

      I seem to be making all the efforts in the relationship .

      If I ask him to be with me he says let's end this as I m too demanding and impatient .

      He has broken up with me last week . Not responding to my texts . Though last week I text him about a minor accident he was very concerned .

      Should I carry on asking him to talk to me or move on .

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      Miranda 

      4 years ago

      Sarah, he might come back, depending if he loves you and realizes he made a mistake. Mine came back after 5 years.

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      Sarah 

      4 years ago

      Hi,

      I've recently broken up with a Scorpion man.

      We were getting on great and we were talking about getting married and out of nowhere he went cold turkey on me. He ignored my calls and texts for days and finally when he did hey back to me he said he can't commit to anything..

      This is so true! But my question is will he come back to me?

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      KrisNick09 

      5 years ago from Kentucky

      Hello Pisces,

      The only advice I can offer is to remind you that a relationship is a two way street. It sounds like you are very concerned about pressuring him/scaring him away. But you need to remember that he needs to show the same concern for you.

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      Pisces 

      5 years ago

      My scorpio man sais he adores me etc I know he likes me very much a dis genuine but then he desapears for a few days then he comes back. Should I be calling him or a. I pressuring him I really don't want to scare him or make him feel like I am trying to possess him. Help he is turturing me with mind and body

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      KrisNick09 

      6 years ago from Kentucky

      amymarie 5 - Thanks! Complex for sure, but no more so than any other sign. Just in more obvious and aggravating ways! I too, fall for them...well, it's really more like tripping down the stairs ... :)

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      amymarie_5 

      6 years ago from Chicago IL

      I dated a Scorpio for about six months and your description here is pretty accurate. I couldn't understand this guy for the life of me but I was really falling for him because of it. He was really obsessive and then he'd cut me off for days. He also had an additive personality. I think Scorpios are very complex people. I also think it's easy to fall for them - at least in my case!!! I really liked this hub. Rated all ups!!

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      KrisNick09 

      6 years ago from Kentucky

      Thank you for your comments, angel115707! :)

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      Angel Ward 

      6 years ago from Galveston, TX

      I agree 1000% And the comment with a scorp's mom in the hospital, there is always some drama going on, that's a great excuse for withdrawal, to distract the sig. other from the real issue....ALWAYS. (sometimes, not always, but sometimes, it's a flat our lie, esp. male scorps)

      Luv this hub. My brother is a scorp, a close friend is, I have it as my rising sign, so I catch ,myself holding many of these qualities as well.

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      Karthik Kashyap 

      6 years ago from India

      KrisNick09: I think I may be in situation 3. And yes, Scorpio women are quite similar to us Scorpio men in many things.

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      sarah 

      6 years ago

      This is so helpful! I just had the longest three days of my life. We were fine I thought then suddenly he just stopped calling and he usually calls me everyday. He finally texted me this morning, I was starting to wonder if he was doing the #5 thing! I guess it was probly #1 thow since his mom is in the hospital.

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      KrisNick09 

      6 years ago from Kentucky

      I have been hub browsing and it seems that a lot of people are having trouble with their scorpios. hopefully this is helpful :) I'm thinking about writing one on the ego of scorpio males ;) ( ...and females!)

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