Dating a Scorpio Man Ultimate Guide!
Dating a Scorpio Man
Do you find yourself attracted to Scorpios? Do you gravitate towards them for some unexplained reason?
Does the Scorpio man you are involved with cause confusion because of his odd behaviors, such as being passionate with you one minute and seemingly disconnected the next?
If you have answered yes to these questions, you have come to the right place.
I am a Scorpio man and I'm going to reveal some very well kept secrets about this astrological sign. I will give you the positive and negative traits for the Scorpion male you are so curious about.
Along the way, I will throw in a few tips and warnings that will help you to better understand why your man may be acting the way that he does – which no doubt can be difficult to figure out! At the end, I will discuss the hard science behind the Scorpion personality, which is based in astrophysics and has nothing to do with Greek or Roman Gods.
Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!
First, let’s start with the basic positive and negative traits. These traits listed here highlight the “good and bad”.
Scorpio Positive and Negative Traits: Oct 23 - Nov 21
High Sexual Energy
Which positive traits best describes your Scorpio Man Experience?
Passionate and Intense
Men that are Scorpios are passionate and intense. As one, however, I can tell you that it is a sword that cuts both ways. When we in a relationship with you, particularly at the beginning, you will experience our singular, passionate, laser-like focus. When we become intimate, you will experience love making like you never have before. Our sexual energy is palatable, magnetic and at times overwhelming.
Loyal and Intuitive
Guys that are Scorpios are a loyal bunch. When we are in a relationship with you, we are also very intuitive and empathic. Other zodiac signs who are romantically involved with us, however, mistake our cool distance for ambivalence. I can tell you this is simply not true. We will walk over hot coals for you when we are in love but it is a struggle for us at times to show emotions because of other things going on inside (see negative traits).
Curious, Logical & Hyper-Focused
Scorpion men are curious and logical, which can be a positive and negative thing. On the one hand, we have this unique ability to deconstruct a given issue or dilemma, similar to how Spock from Star Trek may approach a certain problem. Our logical nature is often times sparked by the question “What” … meaning what is causing you to behave in the manner that you do. This curiosity and logical nature, as mentioned earlier, can be a double edged sword because when we are hyper-focused on a given problem, we become obsessed to the point that it becomes annoying. We will provoke arguments and fights in a relationship with you in order to find out what you are truly thinking, which is a primary function of our curious nature. Our only tool to move past a given obsession is to find a new one or engage in mindfulness.
Scorpio men are extremely empathic. For reasons that we do not understand, many Scorpio males are able to sense what is going on with you emotionally. In fact, we likely can sense what you are feeling even when we are not in your physical presence. The reason for this is because once we are in love with you, we become hyper-focused on your total person. This ability to be empathic, however, is limited to those whom we are close to. Our logical nature can at times interfere with this ability to be empathic because we tend to over-rationalize and overthink.
Warning: It is important that you know that when we are in a calm place, we are able to read your emotions and do so with freakish accuracy. It is not necessary that you speak in our presence for us to know what is going on inside of you. If you search your memories of your interactions with Scorpion men, you will know this to be true.
Scorpion men are competitive in all things that they commit to. In other words, once we make the decision to partake in a given activity, we are “in it to win it” and are relentless. Like the other traits mentioned here, this can be a blessing and curse. Our competitive nature comes at a cost to our relationships. It is one of the reasons Scorpios are seen to be so distant. It is hard for us to hold the emotions of deep passion and love for you while we try to balance these feelings with our strong desire to “win” at other things in life.
Scorpio Man Experience
Which negative trait best describes your Scorpio Man Experience?
Secretive and Mysterious
If you want to spot a Scorpio male, look for the guy who is wearing sunglasses in situations where it doesn’t make sense, like cloudy days or even at night. You can tell you are in the presence of a Scorpion man because when you pass one by, you feel a strong pull that is hard to describe. Many have characterized Scorpion men as “bad boys” because we give off that dangerous yet paradoxically attractive vibe.
Distant and Disconnected
Scorpion men are cursed with being obsessed with a given project or problem solving activity. This can cause many of us to seem emotionally distant, cool and disconnected. For people who initially meet a Scorpion man, it is important that you know this – the guy may at first seem a bit removed because he is trying to tune into your persona. It takes us time to do this but when we “dial in” to your channel, we do so with pinpoint accuracy. Interference however often happens because of our obsessive nature, which again, causes us to focus on other things.
Manipulative and Resentful
This is perhaps one of our greatest weaknesses. Scorpion men do in fact resort to manipulation, particularly when we are jealous or become resentful. When we are dating you or romantically involved with you, we expect that you make it all about us. This is perhaps a very selfish thing to admit but if you are looking for the real deal on Scorpion men, you just got it.
Warning: If we detect you are looking at other men, which we are able to sense through our empathic abilities, you need to be careful. I say this because we will absolutely sting you and sting you badly. We will make your life miserable and be purposeful in going about this. Think of your experiences with Scorpion men and you will know this to be absolutely true.
Jealous and Overly Sensitive
These characteristics go hand in hand with the previously mentioned traits. When we are committed to you, we become protective of you. And for all of our rational abilities, we have a glitch when it comes to jealousy. In other words, we often find it hard to use the rational side of our brain when we think someone else is interested in you or pursuing you. We are also highly sensitive to criticism, I admit. If truth be told, overly sensitive.
Warning: If you criticize us too harshly, it activates a very ugly side of our personality that causes us to seek out vengeance. This happens through manipulation. We do not like this part of our personality and avoid using it whenever possible. Please do not activate that chip in us because when you do – watch out.
Obsessive and Self-Important
Scorpion men are often accused of being obsessive and even narcissistic (self-important). On some level, this is true. We do become obsessed with a given problem, project or puzzle and will not stop in our pursuit of the solution until it is achieved. This trait however is often confused with being narcissistic. I can tell you that this is completely false. We have a great well of empathy and sympathy for others and our compassion knows no bounds. It’s just that we tend to obsess over things to the point of being ridiculous. Many of us have a diagnosis of obsessive compulsive disorder for this reason. And while some of us may seek the spotlight, many more of us shy away from it because it illuminates parts of our personality that we wish to remain cloaked.
Tour of Scorpio Constellation
- We generally are good with money and are not the impulsive type when it comes to spending.
- We obsess over our appearance and have body image issues.
- We have memories like elephants and can recall the tiniest of details about something that happened long ago– right down to the inflection of your voice and the exact words you spoke.
- We struggle with trust issues and it takes time for others to win our trust.
- We are prone to back problems because of our obsessions, which manifest in the form of stress in our lumbar region.
- We are caretakers, in part, because we are fiercely independent and loath the thought of someone taking care of us.
- Many of us work in fields like psychology, journalism, healthcare, engineering and finance. All of these fields involve the use of logic, Scorpion strengths.
Why Do Scorpios Have Odd Behaviors?
Scorpio men are perhaps the most misunderstood of the zodiac signs. One minute we can be intently focused on what is going on with you personally and the next moment we can seem distracted and even disconnected.
Scorpios are influenced at birth by the planets Mars and Pluto. I could give you a bunch of hocus pocus about Greek Gods and “ruling planets” but I’d rather give you the hard science.
When a person is born between October 23 and November 21, they are literally born under what is called a “Scorpion Sky”. This simply means that the plants Mars and Pluto are vertically opposite of one another, each having their own gravitation impact on the planet earth, which is primarily influenced by the sun. Are you with me so far?
If you believe that tides rise and recede as a result of the gravitational pull of the sun, moon and other planets in our solar system then you need to understand that during Scorpion Sky, Mars and Pluto are positioned opposite of one another. This opposite positioning has an influence on all liquids and not just in our oceans. Here, I am talking about the amniotic fluid in the mother’s womb at the time of the male Scorpion’s birth. This astrological positioning both negatively and positively charge the amniotic fluid in the mother’s placenta, thereby creating the unique Scorpion baby.
Scorpios are considered to have a negative polarity because of this positioning. This negative polarity gives Scorpions the passion of the hot planet, mars, and the cool distance of the planetoid Pluto.
Instead of looking at mythology, which cannot be proven in science, let’s turn to astrophysics which can. Take note of the planetary characteristics in comparison to the Scorpion male characteristics. I’ve included a Sky-map as a visual.
Planetary Characteristics: Mars and Pluto
4th Planet from Sun
9th Planet(oid) from Sun
3rd Planet from Sun
Billions of years ago it once had water and other elements thought to form life. It is therefore considered a “Hot” planet.
Cold, distant planet who orbit is influenced by our sun. It has some gravitational influence on Earth when it is aligned with Mars.
Positively Charged Magnetic Atmosphere
Once had a positively charged atmosphere. Now now has tiny magnetic field
Negatively charges atmosphere
Gravitationally influenced by all planets but during Oct 23 through November 21, hyper-influenced by Mars and Pluto.
Tital pull with Sun most powerful Oct-Nov
Tidal Pull with Sun on Earth post powerful Oct-Nov
Magnetic Sphere is highly charged on earth during this period, influenced by Pluto’s negative polarity in position to Mars and our moon
If you are interested in dating a Scorpion make, get ready for a super wild ride. We will make you feel as if you are the center of the universe while also exhibiting behaviors that may seem, frankly, crazy. What you need to know is that when we are in love with you we are truly in love with you and will remain loyal. Gaining our trust and love however is not easy. Once you are in a relationship with us, we will likely want to take care of you.
The key to a Scorpios heart is patience and understanding. Because of our sensitive nature, we prefer that you phrase any criticism towards us carefully and instead, opt for meaningful, constructive feedback. We respond to feedback in a logical way with an ability to integrate your observations into actions. Our only desire is to please you once we are in love with you. And while we may at times have a wandering eye, our heart is only connected to you.
If you found this helpful, please share with others and particularly other Scorpio men who may need a primer on what is fueling some of their unexplained behavior.