I am a proud Scorpio man who has a deep interest in astrology and the zodiac.
It's no surprise that I've received many questions about the behavior and traits of Scorpio men. Known for their mysterious air and dark sense of humor, Scorpios are one of the most polarizing members of the zodiac—you either love them or hate them. Scorpio men are often described as being passionate, emotional, self-absorbed, and even evil. But are these stereotypes and characterizations true?
Today, I am writing about some of the most common strengths and weaknesses of this elusive sign. You'll also learn about a few of the famous people who exemplify these traits and which signs are compatible with these. As a Scorpio man myself, these are the traits that I'm aware of.
Please keep in mind that these are generalizations—if you know a Scorpio man, it doesn't necessarily mean he embodies all of these traits in their entirety. It may be that he just has elements of them in his personality. You should look at his moon and rising signs to get a more holistic sense of his zodiac personality.
Overview: Common Male Scorpio Characteristics
Warm & Friendly
What Are a Scorpio Man's Strengths?
There is a reason why Scorpio men are so popular—though they have a dark side, of course, they have many qualities that make them great entrepreneurs, friends, and lovers. These are a few of Scorpio's greatest strengths:
This is one of the most common characteristics of a Scorpio. Scorpio is the most passionate sign of the zodiac. This can translate to their relationships, where they put immeasurable time and energy into making sure that their partner is taken care of, both in and out of the bedroom.
While Scorpios are the most passionate lovers, our passion is not limited to romance and sex. Most of the things we do, we do with passion, be it our career, hobbies, or relationships. We care about global issues and strive to make a difference in the world.
2. Mysterious and Charming
This is another common trait Scorpio men are famous for. They aren't called "the James Bond of the zodiac" for nothing. Even if he's not as handsome as George Clooney or Brad Pitt in the traditional sense, his silent nature—combined with his penetrating gaze—makes him not only mysterious and charming but also hard to resist.
Their mysterious nature means that they can be elusive with their feelings and hard to read, but that certain je ne sais quoi makes them undeniably attractive.
Scorpio men are not known to be very good with words. However, what they lack in words (and probably luck), they make up for in sheer determination. Once a Scorpio has made up his mind about achieving a goal, he will do whatever it takes to get it. No matter how long it takes—weeks, months, sometimes even years, he will do his best to get what he thinks rightfully belongs to him. His motto in life is “Never give up!”
This determination is what makes many Scorpio men highly successful people. It takes a certain ruthlessness and dedication to your craft to get what you want from life.
4. Loyal and Trustworthy
Scorpio men have a bad reputation for being flirts. While this is true to some extent, a Scorpio man rarely ventures into adultery. In fact, if they truly love something or someone, they will stand by them till the end. He may flirt with a hundred women, but he will always stand and fight for his partner. He is committed to one person at a time.
5. Warm and Friendly
Many people may not be aware of this trait. While Scorpio men have a reputation for being lonely and vengeful, they are actually very warm-hearted. He may appear extremely silent and private, but if you approach him, he will treat you in a very friendly way. He can be the best friend you'll find—unless you cross him, of course.
This may not look like much of a strength. However, Scorpio can easily separate what's real from what's fake. Unlike certain other zodiac signs, flattery does nothing to him. He can easily see through others’ pretenses. It takes a true test for someone to become his friend. Only the genuine make it to his inner circle—fakes and superficial people need not apply.
7. Good Sense of Humor
Scorpios are actually one of the more charismatic and alluring signs of the zodiac due to their great sense of humor. Though standoffish at first, once they allow you into their inner circle, they enjoy partaking in witty banter and sharing jokes. They have expert use of sarcasm and use it constantly—you might even find it hard to tell if they are being sarcastic or just telling the truth!
What Are a Scorpio Male's Weaknesses?
Though they have many redeeming qualities, Scorpio men also have quite a few weaknesses that you should look out for. Remember—Scorpios are known to be intense, so their bad qualities can be a lot to deal with.
Now, here comes the scary part: If someone tells you that Scorpio men are the most vengeful people you'll find, believe them. No other zodiac sign is as vengeful as they are. He might be your best friend, but if you choose to cross him or betray his trust, he will be merciless with his vengeance. Some Scorpios may instantly cut off all ties with you as if you never even existed. There are other Scorpios who will vow to make your life a living hell till the end of your (or his) life.
Scorpio men are known to be highly controlling and overbearing. Ask any woman involved with a Scorpio, and she will probably vouch for this. Scorpio men like to be in control of their surroundings. This means being in control of everything around them. They are known to have very high standards and expect the same standards from others. Unfortunately, most people find it extremely difficult to consistently meet these standards. This is what makes Scorpio overbearing.
Another Scorpio weakness is his jealous nature, especially when it comes to relationships. While every man is known to have a bit of jealousy when involved in a relationship, a Scorpio’s jealousy can sometimes cross the limit and be suffocating for his partner to deal with. Anybody involved with a Scorpio man should be careful about provoking their jealousy.
As a fixed sign, Scorpio men are known to be extremely stubborn about their beliefs. Unlike certain other zodiac signs, they do not easily waiver in their opinions. This is the negative side of being so determined. Naturally, it may not be easy to convince a Scorpio about something if he believes otherwise.
Scorpio men can be quite manipulative. Though this may not be a common trait in all Scorpios, it's still something unique to them. They can be master manipulators if they find it necessary in order to get what they want. They will go to any extent to manipulate things and people around them. Remember how they like to be in control?
Scorpios are highly emotional signs, which can be both a blessing and a curse. Though this passion can come through in positive ways, it also means that when they feel bad, it shows to the people around them. They switch between emotions easily—though he might be happy when you first see him, by the time you say goodbye, he might be feeling bad again!
Scorpio men are known to be overindulgent and nihilistic, easily swayed by their desires. They love to try new things, regardless of the consequences of their lifestyle. They also have addictive tendencies that they should watch out for—if they don't learn to control their desires, they might find themselves in dangerous or even life-threatening situations.
Scorpio Male Celebrities
Because of their determined nature and passion for their work, many highly successful people are Scorpios. Here are a few famous men that perhaps have their date of birth to thank for their extraordinary achievements. You'll notice that many of these celebs' success is due to the strengths—and weaknesses—of the Scorpio male personality.
Stubborn, controlling, determined—plenty of Scorpio qualities to be found in Bill Gates. There is no way someone could reach the monetary success that Bill Gates has without having these traits.
It's well-known that Leo enjoys the nihilist life—yachts and parties, surrounded by beautiful people. This, combined with a secretive life that constantly keeps the rumor mill running, solidifies Leo's place as an eminent Scorpio personality.
Shah Rukh Khan
Shah Rukh Khan, also known as "the King of Bollywood", is one of the most successful actors in the world. His passion and determination for the acting craft have brought him far—thanks to his Scorpio nature, we can all enjoy his work!
Ryan Gosling's ability to portray intense romantic connections on-screen might be due to the emotional, passionate nature of Scorpio. Though we're not denying his talent and hard work, being a Scorpio certainly doesn't hurt!
Other Famous Scorpio Men:
- Pablo Picasso
- Joaquin Phoenix
- Matthew McConaughey
- Gordon Ramsay
Scorpio Men in Love: Sign Compatibility
With so many intense traits, both positive and negative, you might wonder what signs could possibly get along with a Scorpio man, let alone date one. They are quite a lot to deal with! However, there are few signs whose traits complement Scorpio's fire and flame well, such as:
Signs that don't get along with Scorpio men include:
Symbol of the Scorpion
This should give you a better picture of the Scorpio personality. As you can see, they have many strengths and weaknesses that make them appear alluring, dark, and mysterious. His intensity means that he can bring you to the highest of the highs and the lowest of the lows. If you are dealing with a Scorpio man, make sure you are in his good books—otherwise, you may be in for a hell of a ride (or a ride to hell!).
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
mae on September 03, 2020:
a scorpio is a liar too if you want i will give 10 sign if someone is lying actually everyone can lie so it doesnt refer to zodiac sign .
Homer on December 29, 2019:
Male Scorpio, here. Having lived to the ripe age of 32, I am no longer, among other things, that young, immature, prideful and stubborn boy who couldn’t control my emotions. Being fortunate enough to live this long, I have learned that ego and pride are my biggest enemies (pride is one of the deadliest sin of all), and when I finally rid myself of those horrible qualities - positive and exciting things began to happen to me. I can’t explain it other than I have stronger relationships with my friends and family and have plenty of money in the bank.
Ali kahoja on December 25, 2019:
Am a scropian and glad to be a scropian
Robert C from United States on October 20, 2019:
I am just trying to avoid scorpions because there are many narcissists between them. Very egoistic and pride sign. But they also have good signs, you just need to open them, because behind their mask you'd find a very hurtable and emotional person.
Pisces lover on July 18, 2018:
I'm a Pisces female, my man is a Scorpio. I do me, but show I care at the same. I don't stress him. I keep my text messages short and sweet. It actually confused him. I deal with his hot and cold accordingly. Trust is big with them, I don't lie cause he could see right through it. Scorpio man wants the attention in moderation. They like their space like pisces. Along with TRUST, they like a confident female. Always look busy, even if your not. Never, never try To get him jealous, or great competition, 98% you'll lose him.
retribution on November 03, 2017:
For all i know scorpio men cannot be trusted. They lie one too many times. Want people to be honest with them but they always lie and cheat. Can say sarcastic and hurt people feelings but when other people treat them back they can't accept it. Weakest of the zodiac sign. Not passionate and cannot keep their words and promises. Never trust a scorpio and their temper are just so lame. Ego so high and never admit their mistake and fault. Best solution for them is just to ignore and don't bother. Cause karma will always come around. Their revenge are just bullshit. Never trust a scorpio. Let them play their mind games and two timing with their lover.
Sanjay Toppo on October 16, 2017:
Problem with Scorpio is he is his worst enemy
jason on September 20, 2017:
i am a scorpio
scorpio woman on March 17, 2017:
I am not a game player. All my cards are on the table. I don't play hard to get or act uninterested. In fact I don't act at all. I am not an actress. If by not playing stupid games caused me to lose out on a scorpio man, how dreadful. They are the most amazing men on earth. None can compare with him. I don't want another scorpio man in the future. I will be on my own because I can't settle for less than the best. And Scorpio men are the very best!
BeyoutifulDee on June 01, 2016:
a scorpio doesnt like submissive one, they like something deep, the very intense one,
act like you dont like them and just act like you playing around and hard to get, they will run after you, when you do it dont forget to see through their eyes, he can read your intention, but you act otherwise,,whohoooo,,, curiousity will itch their bones
if you are just (over)submissive, they will just leave, eventhough they like (maybe love) you..
act like you are mean, the kind of dangerous creature that they want to pet, its so interesting to them,
trust me, me myself is scorpio LOL
we love challenge :)
Paula on October 07, 2015:
My brother is a Scorpio, my roommate was a Scorpio, my so called best friend was a scorpio, my neighbor is a Scorpio. With all these people, I MUST be more than careful, patient, non confrontational, easy going and NEVER, tell them what I truly think. Those are just my experiences.
mikeydcarroll67 on June 26, 2015:
Seems fairly accurate.
antion on December 29, 2014:
Hello, I have been messing around with a scorpio for about a year. I've been wondering why this man has not ask me to be his girl and also he hasn't got me any gift. But we spend the night together every other day etc.
what kind of plan does he have.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on December 25, 2013:
Libra Princess: I think that having a straight conversation (albeit in a gentle way) is the best way to deal with it. Explain him the situation, tell him what things are happening around you guys, what he feels about it and what you feel about it. And then, try to strike a middle ground. Hope that helps.
Libra Princess on December 25, 2013:
Hello and happy holidays, all. : )
To Karthikkash: I want to ask you if and how is it possible for a Scorpio male's "target" to peacefully "call off the chase" without impacting existing friendship or professional relationships?
For the past two years, I've been involved in a close working relationship with a dear family friend who happens to be a Scorpio male. We are both very passionate about the work we do together. I admire and respect him very much.
Surprisingly, we share very potent chemistry. This may be due to our eastern astrological compatibility (he's a Tiger, I'm a Dog.) We're very comfortable together.
The problem: in the past year or so, I've experienced some of my mentor's more "Scorpio-esque" tendencies. He limits my contact with other male employees and clients. He's manipulative, albeit quite gentlemanly, with me. He expressed astonishment and hurt when he believed I changed my phone number without informing him and was only slightly mollified when I explained I'd upgraded my phone without changing my number. He also "went off" when he couldn't open my locked office door (I was changing clothes at the time.)
Co-workers take it for granted we're a romantic item. We're not. I've been rationalizing his behavior as "him just being Scorpio -- possessive/protective" but it's getting harder and harder for me to convince myself that's all that's happening here. The chemistry between us is intense and sometimes I'm downright afraid of him. I've never experienced anything like this with another person.
The truth is, I love this man, but I'm very happy with things as they are. I don't want to complicate a happy, successful working relationship and a solid friendship. There are social complications as well (one of us is married). I'd like to fix this, but I don't know how. Grateful to you for any insights or advice, thanks.
Angel Cally on September 01, 2013:
i am the same Angel Cally just last 3 months ago:-)
angel cally on September 01, 2013:
hello, here i am, from April 20 i do message my scorpio man, but no replies at all, sometime in June (23rd) he said he has also problem......then i still explain by sms...then just yesterday he replied to me....cause i said, Pls hear me....he answered me, I ALWAYS HEARD YOU BUT AS I SAID THESE ARE TESTING TIMES SO LET'S BE STRONG AND FOCUSED TAKE CARE GOD BLESS YOU..... what this means? i am sorry....i am really confused.....its means to me as, our relationship is under testing right now and its like cool off? but friend said, my bf just testing me for past months....thanks
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on August 08, 2013:
Staci: Long distance relationships are extremely tricky. I wouldn't really take his word for it. Trust is extremely important in LDRs and trust itself is a thin line to walk upon. See if you can find out what the reality is. At the same time, do not be submissive. Scorpio men do not like submissive women. We like them to be strong :)
Staci on August 08, 2013:
I am a Taurus with a Scorpio partner. We have a 3 month old baby after a whirl wind coutship. however, Due to unforeseen circumstances he decided to leave the country. I have heard rumours he has been with someone else -something he denies. He keeps sayin he loves us and will miss us. My worry is he might not come back to us and am too submissive. Should I take his word or should I accept relation ship has ended
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on August 02, 2013:
Thanks a lot Jean.. Rightly said. Thanks for dropping by :)
Jean Bakula from New Jersey on August 02, 2013:
You left such a nice comment on my Scorpio Mercury Hub, I thought I would stop by. You did a very good job! Of course, it takes one to know one. My Scorpio model is my adult son, he was very hard to raise, but is so kind he will give anyone the shirt off his back. He has Sun, Moon and Mercury in the sign. All Scorpios are compassionate, they just show it more privately. As for my frugal one rebuilding the house, Scorpios know exactly what they want, and won't settle for less. You also hit the nail on the head with the passion for interests, the karate dojo was "stolen" from his life, his own Sensei is training him to take over now that he is in his 70's. I've always been surrounded by Scorpios, and think they are misunderstood. They need quiet time too, it's not that they don't want to be with you, they get so intense about everything, it must exhaust them! Take care.
ariesone on June 12, 2013:
My Scorpio guy and I were together for 2 years, spending almost every day together, engaged, planning our wedding etc. A few months ago he ended it, we had been having conflict regarding family/temper issues and other stuff, he hurt me bad physically during a fight, we were working through this then he ended it suddenly(3 weeks after the bad fight), saying he had met someone new and I should move on!. I tried to contact him for a few weeks with messages and calls but no response, then just as I was beginning to settle with my pain of the break up and no contact for over a month he sends me a late night text on the weekend asking if I was ok? I replied and told him I wasn't doing so well :/, I said that I still loved him and miss him. He didn't reply to my message. Do you think his message was just an inquiry as he hadn't heard from me for a while or is he looking to reconnect? He is very impulsive and he may regret ending it so suddenly? Any thoughts would be appreciated, thanks
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on May 28, 2013:
ANGELcally: I think you should just leave him to be on his own. If he is genuine, he will understand.
Confussed42: I think you are putting too much thought. Scorpios are hot and cold. So you just got to deal with that.
Confussed42 on May 28, 2013:
I met a Scorpio male over a month ago we hit it off great. We went out once to twice a week, he would call me when he got back into town from work, we then would plans to go out. He is in his late forties and I'm in my early forties. I'm almost through my divorce, he was married for a long period of time however his wife passed away.
We have not gotten into an argument nor a fight. He was going out of town for almost a week and we would not be able to see each other so we had back to back dates with in 4 days. Everything went well. I texted him but received no answer then he called me 3 days later, he got back into town for one day, He had to spend the with his brother ,dad and sister, then he went out of town again for work. He stated he would call me later I have not called him or texted him. Is this the pulling away test that Scorpio men do?
ANGELcally on May 16, 2013:
hello, my scorpio man said leave him alone he needs some peace...because i told him why he lied to me of having a separated and a son. then he doesn't even talk to me even i told him that i understand him and accept his past....pls give me explanation and how to handle this thing. thanks