I am a proud Scorpio man who has a deep interest in astrology and the zodiac.
What is the first thing you thought of when someone told you that he was a Scorpio? Whether or not you believe in astrology, you may already have preconceived notions about Scorpios, especially Scorpio males. Are passionate, sexual, and jealous some of the words that come to your mind?
There are undoubtedly thousands of blogs and articles out there that talk about these characteristics, and most of them give you a pretty decent picture. However, it doesn't get much better than hearing about it from a Scorpio himself! So let us see what being a Scorpio man is all about.
The Good and Bad Sides of Scorpio Men
|Positive Scorpio Traits||Negative Scorpio Traits|
Deeply Reflective and Intuitive
Brooding and Moody
Unable to Forgive
Positive Traits of Scorpio Men
From their passionate nature to intense loyalty, Scorpio men have many wonderful characteristics.
Mysterious, Charming, and Confident
Every blog you may have read will talk about how mysterious Scorpio men are. This is indeed true, and it goes for women of the sign too. Together, they are probably the most mysterious of all the zodiac signs. The reason for this is that they are very secretive. Added to that is their famous (or infamous) all-penetrating gaze that can make almost anyone feel naked.
While a Scorpio male can read most people like an open book, he is one person you can never read completely. He is so deep that it may take a lifetime for you to understand him. He is also sometimes referred to as the James Bond of the zodiac. This is because of the mysterious and confident aura he emits around him, which draws the opposite sex to him.
Passionate and Intense
No other sign in the zodiac compares when it comes to being passionate. We are considered the most passionate and the best lovers you can find. Unfortunately, most people limit their thoughts of passion to only sex and romance. But a Scorpio male is passionate not only in the department of love but in everything he does.
If he is doing something he really loves, he will put his heart and soul into it, which is immediately evident to all those around him. If you see a man talk very passionately about something he cares about, he may be a Scorpio. But his passion can be a double-edged sword—he loves passionately, and he hates passionately. There is no middle ground.
On top of the seductive aura they emit without even trying, Scorpio men are well known for being one of the most sexual signs. But probably not in the way you're thinking. Scorpio men crave physical intimacy, so they thrive in committed relationships where their sexuality can be expressed fully. In other words, they are usually far more interested in making love than having sex.
Scorpio men are some of the most loyal people you will ever meet. They may flirt with other women, but if they're in a relationship, they will always be loyal to that person. They don't give away their hearts lightly, so once they do, they're in it for the long haul.
This loyalty applies to other people in their lives as well. If necessary, a Scorpio man will protect his loved ones with everything he's got.
- Note: This deep trust and loyalty is part of the reason Scorpio is the most unforgiving sign. Once you've broken his trust, you will never get it back again.
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Tough But Soft
Most blogs you read mention this idea. Scorpio men have a very tough outer shell but are very soft inside. His emotions run quite deep, and he knows that. This is probably why he puts up a tough facade—he doesn't want to get hurt.
This tough, yet calm face is also the reason why people don’t easily approach him. This, coupled with his non-trusting nature, is the reason why he has so few friends in his inner circle. It is indeed very tough to get into his inner circle, but if you are lucky enough to make it there, he is one guy who is willing to sacrifice himself for you.
Emotional and Intelligent
Scorpios are often notorious for making decisions with their hearts. However, this is not always true. It is true that they are passionate and make decisions that appeal to their emotions, however, they are masters of both emotion and logic. As much as they tend to make an emotional decision, he is also very good at looking at the entire situation in a logical and analytical way, and if he feels it's right, no one can stop him from making that decision.
Wise and Mature
It is also said that Scorpios, in general, are wise beyond their age. This is true. A Scorpio guy may not be a math or economics wiz or a rocket scientist, but he is one of the most intelligent and wise people you will find. You may compare a 25-year-old Scorpio male’s wisdom and maturity to a 35-year-old male of most other signs. It is difficult to understand why this is so. I think of it this way—what most people have to learn through years of experience, he already knows.
Scorpio men are also highly ambitious. He may never tell you exactly what his goals in life are (remember his ever-present aura of mystery), but he certainly has them, and he wants to achieve them at any cost. However, though Scorpios love to lead a good life surrounded by luxuries, their end goals are not necessarily money oriented.
They are generally more oriented towards achieving something that gives them emotional—and more importantly, spiritual—satisfaction. They also tend to have high standards for themselves and those around them.
A Scorpio easily attracts and is attracted to power, but this does not necessarily mean that he wants to be in the limelight. In fact, unlike certain other zodiac signs who like to be in the limelight while wielding power, a Scorpio man rarely craves a position at the forefront. His sign is ruled by Pluto (or Hades), lord of the underworld. As such, he prefers to avoid the limelight. Rather than take center stage, he likes being in the wings while he pulls the strings.
Once a Scorpio man has a goal set in mind, it's extremely difficult to diverge him from that path. This is a double-edged sword! While this hyper-focus can be a very positive trait, it can easily cross the line and verge on obsession.
While Scorpio men are well known for being guarded and secretive, don't confuse those traits with dishonesty. They rarely pretend and are very bad at telling lies (and hate when others do so). They may tell occasional white lies, but they can never truly pretend or fake, which means they often come off as overly blunt. So please refrain from asking an honest opinion from a Scorpio man if you aren't ready to hear an honest answer.
Negative Traits of Scorpio Men
Though Scorpios have many desirable traits, they also have characteristics that are far less savory.
Vindictive and Unable to Forgive
There's a reason the quote "Hell hath no fury like a Scorpio scorned" is so common in astrological articles. This is the negative trait Scorpio men are most famous for. But before describing it, here is a clarification—Scorpio men are very warm and friendly people, as long as you do not cross them. If you prove your trustworthiness, a Scorpio will be willing to give his life for you. However, never make the mistake of getting on his bad side.
Unlike his female counterpart, who may forgive you for your foolishness of crossing her, a male Scorpio rarely forgives, and even if he does, he will never forget your offense. At best, you may never be able to regain his trust. At worst, he may go to any extent to have his revenge. As the cliché goes, he can be your best friend or your worst enemy.
Short-Tempered and Excessively Jealous
This is another very common trait of this sign, especially in romantic relationships. If a Scorpio man doesn't feel like he's getting your undivided attention or he thinks someone else is pursuing you, things will get ugly. While he is very thoughtful and rational most of the time, these are instances where he simply cannot access his rational side. In extreme cases, his jealousy might lead to acts of vengeance and manipulation, so take care not to trip this "jealousy switch" if at all possible.
My reasoning? We experience love very deeply, so any hint of betrayal hits us harder than it might for another sign. The positive side of this trait is that it shows just how committed Scorpio men are once they decide to enter into a romantic relationship.
Scorpio men are the ones who are most commonly accused of being highly secretive (at least I get it all the time from people around me). They do not open up easily to people around them since they don’t trust people easily.
A Scorpio man may know you for a lifetime but still won’t reveal all his secrets to you. Even the most socially active and talkative Scorpio man has his secrets and will never talk about them. He would rather die for his secrets than reveal them, even to those closest to him. Giving up his secret is like taking out a part of his body.
The positive side of this trait is that he'll be just as guarded with your secrets, so he makes a great confidant.
Let me explain this. Scorpios are deep thinkers. When a Scorpio man is dealing with a challenge or facing issues, he tends to withdraw into his shell, unlike others who voice their problems. Once he withdraws into his shell, he tries solving problems in his own way in a focused manner. He doesn't like anyone interrupting in any way when he is thinking deeply, so when someone tries to interfere with his problem-solving process, he tends to get agitated and irritated.
When his problem-solving cap is not on, however, he is generally a warm and a happy person. This frequent change in his behavior is generally perceived as a mood swing.
Prone to Melancholy
Due to their rich inner life and proneness to periods of deep reflection, Scorpios also tend to be quite emotional. Unfortunately, this can often lead to melancholy and moodiness. In part, this may be due to the fact that their secretive nature means that no one truly knows who they are (a feeling that can lead to profound loneliness), but their tendency toward melancholy might also be more generally linked to their deeper understanding of the dark and sinister aspects of the world.
The flipside of Scorpio's intuitiveness is that he's better able to manipulate others should he feel the need. And that need may well arise if he feels jealous or resentful. This is especially true for those with whom Scorpio men are romantically involved. If a Scorpio man's partner doesn't give him the devotion he needs (or has a bit of a wandering eye), it's highly likely that he'll devote his attention to making their life miserable for a while.
Scorpio men love to be in control, not only of their own lives, but often of others' as well. This often results in an overbearing nature that some (especially those dating Scorpio men) find hard to deal with. Scorpios do tend to be respectful of boundaries, however, so if you set healthy ones with him and are good about enforcing them, his controlling nature should be easier to manage.
While this can be a very positive trait when it comes to achieving goals and staying driven, it can be frustrating for anyone in a relationship with a Scorpio man, whether it's as friends or lovers. For example, this might mean they believe their wants and needs are more important than anyone else's.
Scorpio men's passion can verge into overindulgence, which—in extreme cases—can lead to a harmful and potentially life-threatening lifestyle. This is where Scorpio's self-control needs to take the fore; if he can learn discipline and overcome some of his passionate (and potentially self-destructive) urges, he will be stronger for it.
More Characteristics of a Scorpio Man
- Men of this sign usually have a sarcastic and caustic sense of humor that others have trouble figuring out or appreciating.
- They are not very superficial people, so when it comes to finding a romantic partner, beauty is only one of many important elements for them.
- They are often seen as some of the most serious people in the zodiac.
- They usually don’t like following rules laid out by someone else. They prefer following their own rules. They also love to bend and break the rules to their liking. You may see them as rebellious types.
- At the same time, however, most of them like orderliness and discipline in one form or another.
- They are sometimes perceived as selfish.
Scorpio Men in Relationships
While Scorpio men might not enjoy being in the limelight, they require undivided attention in one-on-one situations, which is why those in relationships with Scorpios often refer to it as a full-time job.
Best Match for a Scorpio Man
Most astrology blogs claim that the ideal mate for a Scorpio man is either a water sign such as Cancer and Pisces or an earth sign such as Capricorn or Virgo. However, I would refrain from saying that. Honestly speaking, a match can never be made from sun-sign compatibility alone. For example, some of my best friends are Scorpios, Libras, Leos, and Sagittarius. I have also seen Scorpios marry air or fire signs and live happily.
If you need to do a compatibility check, it needs to be done at a whole different level. It ultimately also depends upon the environment in which a person is brought up, and his/her belief and value systems among so many other things.
For more on dating Scorpio men, read this article on how Scorpio men behave when they are in love.
Best of Luck With Your Scorpio
So these are the most common Scorpio male personality traits. Having said that, everyone is unique in their own way. Researching someone's sun sign can only hint at their traits, not their entire personality. I hope this little (or rather long) article helps you understand us better.
And if you're wondering whether a Scorpio woman is similar to her male counterpart? To be honest, they are entirely different species. But, they are similar in many ways too, so many of the characteristics discussed in this article apply to Scorpio women as well.
Questions & Answers
Question: Can an Aries and Scorpio get married and live happily?
Answer: I am a Scorpio, and I have been married to an Aries for three years, so I guess it works.
Question: I'm a male Scorpio, and I'm dealing with a Pisces. Is it normal for our experience to be an emotional rollercoaster?
Answer: Technically, Scorpio and Pisces is the best match for both as both will easily understand each other and try to accommodate one another.
Question: My Scorpio man asked me to marry him after four months. Is he for real? He's never been married or had kids.
Answer: Well, if he has proposed to you and you feel that he is the right guy, then I think he is serious. Scorpio people generally don't kid around about relationships. I trust that unless he was absolutely sure, he wouldn't have proposed to you.
Question: Can a Leo and Scorpio get married and live happily?
Answer: Traditionally, just based on sun-sign, it is not a good match. But I have seen a Scorpio and Leo couple living happily. So, it depends on whether the different aspects in their natal chart are compatible.
Question: I'm a gay Scorpio who is in a relationship with an older Gemini guy. Are our signs compatible?
Answer: Gemini and Scorpio is a tricky combination mate. But if the native/birth charts are compatible, then there is a possibility of a good relationship. I know a couple of Scorpios married to Geminis. So, it may work.
Question: If a Scorpio man has wronged someone that has always been there for him, does he even experience guilt or remorse?
Answer: He may experience that remorse, but he will usually just try to justify his own actions.
Question: Can a Scorpio and Virgo get married and have peaceful life?
Answer: It is possible if everything else in the natal charts are a good match.
Question: I’m a Taurus & my friend of 20yrs is a Scorpio. Recently, we’ve been together every weekend. He wants to get serious! Is it possible for a relationship to work between a Taurus and Scorpio who have been friends for 20 years?
Answer: Yes. It has a chance of working.
Question: I'm a Sagittarius and has a Scorpio. Is it normal for us to go up and down all the time?
Answer: Yeah, I guess so. Both can be great friends, but a relationship may be a little tricky. Scorpio is a water sign and Sagitarrius is a fire sign. This usually creates some problems.
Question: Can an Aquarius and Scorpio get along?
Answer: It is an extremely tricky pair. Being a fixed air sign, Aquarians are known to be emotionally unattached. On the other hand, Scorpios are extremely passionate. So, this itself may create problems.
Question: I am a Scorpio woman and this my first time coming across a Scorpio man and let me tell I feel the emotions and powers we both share. When its good with us its really good and when its bad (oh boy!), but we have been talking for a few weeks (and we've known each other since we were kids). He is already telling me I'm the one that he wants, what do you think?
Answer: Scorpio-Scorpio attraction is definitely out of this world. Having said that, you need to also see the negative side of it. When they fight, it necessarily need not be a world war but you get the point. So, for two Scorpios to be with each other, they need to be extremely careful and weigh out their pros and cons.
Question: Are Scorpios and Geminis good to be good friends?
Answer: They can definitely be good friends as they can match each other intellectually. But romance is something that is very tricky.
Question: Can I trust a Scorpio man as a Pisces woman?
Answer: I would say yes. A Scorpio and Pisces understand each other very well. And they generally have several similar characters. Hence, they can grow close real fast and trust each other as they share a few similar traits.
Question: I'm a 70-year-old Scorpio that has never been truly loved. I just broke up with a Leo woman that I loved with all my heart. Why does every woman I've loved walk away?
Answer: I think it may be because they feel that we Scorpios have very high standards when it comes to a partner (which we usually do). And it is also our nature such as disciplined, secretive, not trusting and unforgiving nature most of them can't handle. These could be some of the reasons.
Question: I am a Scorpio man and a Scorpio woman proposed to me. Is she telling the truth or not about wanting to marry me?
Answer: I think she may be telling the truth. Scorpio women generally take their time to propose. So, if she has proposed you, she could be telling the truth.
Question: My Scorpio man is mad at me because this boy touched me and made a comment and all I did was move what do I do?
Answer: You can't really do much about Scorpio's jealousy. Just try to make him understand as much as you can and leave it there.
Question: I am a Scorpio, can I live happily with Libra?
Answer: At the outset, sun signs Scorpio and Libra are not much compatible. But you will also have to see other aspects in the birth chart such as moon sign, ascendant and the position of Venus during birth. And most importantly, how mentally and spiritually compatible you are.
Question: Is the coupling of two males; Pisces and Scorpio, still compatible?
Answer: I think that it is still compatible, yes.
Question: I'm a Virgo male being romantically pursued by a Scorpio male and he is very protective although we don't know each other well....is that normal?
Answer: It is definitely normal for Virgo and Scorpio to be attracted to each other. One is a water sign and the other is an earth sign, and both usually attract each other.
© 2012 Karthik Kashyap
Alexo9 on September 12, 2020:
I want to know that why did scorpio is too much jealous.. I am talking about males anf females scorpio.
Mr D on July 27, 2020:
Well All Of This Is Right And I can Assure That as im a Scorpio and i will say 1 think I was Betrayed When He was the one who Joined my circle forcefully and tried to be friendly and i tried to go into his play he betrayed me and its been 5 years and i still have the urge to Hate him and do something that will make him remember me and go mental i will take my time till he is in his glory and thinks everything is fine and i will strike and destroy his inner and then he should ....
Walker on May 27, 2020:
I wish I was a scorpio, I want to be 10 years smarter than my age
Nischal on April 10, 2020:
As a Scorpio myself I believe that we are just as interested in having sex and making love. Not one more than the other preferably having sex more than making love as we believe making love leads to sex.
Bash03Popoy on July 26, 2019:
I met this scorpio guy few months ago, to tell you guys honestly this is the first time that I fell in love with this sign, he really captured me with his eyes the first time we met.
Well sad to say we end up nothing, one day he just stopped talking to me and he avoided me with no reason at all. I was so fucking depressed for couple of weeks. I didn't even got an answer tried to chat him but he was not replying to my messages. I am a gay but discreet, from the start I told him that he is special to me but not expecting anything, I am just happy every time he is around, and I am really enjoying his company.
after a week, he messaged me telling me that what he can only offer is friendship, but with a month of texting constantly i never felt that it was just a friendship that he can offer to me, in the first place why he would entertain me that way and he even showed me that he cares, shit! if i only knew that he would hurt my feeling I could have done something. But i cant ignore him because most of the time he was the one initiating to message me.
now I am no longer bothering him and I just go on with my life, If one day he says hi again, I want him to know that I still love him and care for him a lot even though it is still hurting inside.
Bash I love you so much I never felt this way before.
Sunnypisces on June 18, 2019:
I’m trying to figure out my Scorpio best friend who says he loves me. I have feelings for him as well. BUT as always their is a catch. He has been in a dead end relationship for 10 years and we have had blurred friendship lines the entire time. The moment we met, those Scorpio eyes sucked me in. (I’m a Pisces). He moved 2 hours away but we still text randomly. Mostly flirting and he declared his love for me. I have issues with some things: he is so secretive and always has been. If you ask a question sometimes he just says, “No” and doesn’t elaborate. He and I have been thru a lot so this hurts me.his future faking is legend - the latest is him saying that he is not happy with his Gf and wants to work closer to me and stay with me. Well apparently he did apply for a job but didn’t get it but in a month that position will open again. I don’t know what to believe?! Would he lie to me ? He’s always saying how unhappy he is, and I know Scorpio’s don’t just throw the love word around . He also told me how much he appreciates the fact that I trust him and see him for who he is. The guy is draining me ... he won’t meet up half way. He ignores texts constantly when I ask him to meet me. Why!?! If u love me just meet me for coffee. His ignoring texts is just ridiculous and then he pops back up like nothing happened . He always has an excuse !! Should I just back off ?
November8 on May 22, 2019:
That was rather spot on...! It's almost scary how spot on actually...
Pradeep on May 21, 2019:
Feeling happy, by knowing about me, thank you for giving more information about scorpio.
Jake on May 09, 2019:
One of my good friends is a Gemini and I am Scorpio. This is a good friendship once I understood the way he views life A friendship I treasure
Vishal Rana on March 26, 2019:
What would be the best career options for a scorpio male ?
Claire on March 16, 2019:
Im a scorpio cusp and dating a scorpio guy. Is it a good combination?
Anonymous on February 17, 2019:
Scorpio man who liked me moved way too fast, played too many games and was just very insecure and extremely sensitive. EXTREMELY. He only talked about himself, never asked me personal questions, yet became very angry, verbally attacking me anytme i interacted with another man. He'd make reference to me being dumb, stupid, old. Nooooo. He'd try to make me jealous with another woman and i told him to go for it. He was devastated and shut down for a good while. When he'd go on the rampage, I'd give him the silent treatment and ignore him, simply to quiet him down and put space in between to cool off and reflect. He never wanted to talk so he still harbors resentment over rejection and his perception of betrayal. Now, he just wants to be petty and will be extremely loud when I'm around, go out of his way to be super friendly to other people and treat me with an air of disregard, just very childish. Scorpio men like this need to realize there's nothing attractive or mature about this and the foolish pride they treasure is the reason theyre harbor such anger. His behavior amplifies the age difference, proves he is way too young and makes me grateful we never dated. I'd much rather want someone who rejected me to think they lost a good catch rather make them feel good it didnt work out. Fornthe rrcord, I would confront him once we both cooled down-Im a taurus and would let him know of his faults. Because I didnt tango with him in the heat of the moment, he considered me weak, yet he'd kind of shut down and wouldn't engage. Ok, well, I'm just not the one then. This scorpio needs to grow up and get over himself. Learn to be honest. I hate no one worse than a liar and game players are a waste of time. A more mature and secure scorpio would do just fine. He isnt perfect but he isnt like the silly kid I described either.
Lala on February 13, 2019:
I opt to disagree with the loyal part. Maybe I am biased because my last bf was a total lose, manipulative and cheated on me constantly. Scorpio as he was, he was very imsecure to my Aries attitude and personality, although I was super imposing on my rules and everything but I was most loyal to him, and honestly i only had my eyes on him. I know what they say about aries women being playful and vain but I was totally crazy for this scorpio that when i broke up with him (found out he was cheating on me), that it took me months to get over him. He was like the bad guy that a good guy would fall for. Another bad side to him is he gets violent when hes upset or jealous, like he cannot control himself but the aries that I am had to man it up all the time and fight him to death. Until eventually i learned to adapt to his ways, i gained the upper hand and he became more distant. I keep reading him but nada. I gave up eventually because he was a lot of work. In fact i learned from his mother that we broke up because I had another man. I guess thats his vengeful ways making up ugly stories about me. Well. He was quick to make his moves. He made sure I would suffer by showing off the new girl after a week of breakfast. As I summed up my relationship with a scorpio, to put it into words how could someone who makes you feel so alive kill you at the same time?"
Denis Scorpio on February 13, 2019:
I am a scorpio & i have lost myself
Rich Scorpio on January 30, 2019:
I love reading about myself everyday it really helps me bring out the best of a scorpio, i must say this is one accurate article about scorpios. 1000% + true, perfect match for a scorpio from my experience, its capricon (they are submissive and will probably do all you ask them to) Pisces (she is emotional and kind and allows you to be a man and understands better) Gemini (this one is wild in her mind, emotional at times and easily brushes off things plus she has a great sense of humour making communication easy) lastly its a fellow scorpio( this one is a perfect in that communication is at its best, talk of emotions, intimacy is something not to mention at all as we can kill each other with the passion). From my experience with opposite sex signs thats it.
joe on June 19, 2018:
im a scorpio and i must say most of the traits are pretty accurate .ps ive been married 23 years and my wifes sign is cancer so maybe there is some truth to who scorpio men are compatable with
Ethel Smith from Kingston-Upon-Hull on June 15, 2018:
Been married to a Scorpio man for lamost 46 years. A great deal of the above fits him though he does not have ambitious bone in his body. I am a Pisces and many sya we are a good match. Thanks
Pisces woman on June 08, 2018:
I have a boy that scorpio sign but we always fight over and over again. I am a pisces girl.
Noname on April 13, 2018:
This is really acurate. Good stuff. Thanks for sharing.
Logan Simmons on February 20, 2018:
Wow so true
Thomas on January 08, 2018:
I don't believe in this stuff but a little freaky how spot on it is for me born rocktober 27th 1969
ste on December 30, 2017:
humm true yet i still feel unique
CelluarData on November 05, 2017:
Yes, so true! When I stare at most people they will instantly back away.
Spitty on November 01, 2017:
Thank you for this 100% description, never thought I could be explained so fluently
Amrit on October 19, 2017:
Man, this is so so true in my case.Being a Scorpio myself, I can relate to each and every trait mentioned in this wonderful article
SpaceSpiegel on August 30, 2017:
@Shreya Ray, Keep in mind that scorpios are very passionate about a variety of things and they rarely trust people. With that in mind, if someone betrays their trust or wrongs them in any way in regards to the secrets they've entrusted in you or messed with a material item that means a lot to them, then they will hold it against you and be very vindictive about it. The end result will be them not trusting you with anything and will make it clear to you that you are not welcome. Hope that helps.
Shreya Ray on April 16, 2017:
What is this vengeful nature I keep hearing about Scorpios?? What makes them vengeful?? Do they try to "get even" on petty matters, or do they only get revenge if someone has tried to mess up them real bad??
Saurabh on December 15, 2016:
To priti of Bhubaneswar India
Don't worry. Your Scorpio boy is discriminating between love and lust. Ask his has he found the answer.if answer is love than you have got the friend for you life.if answer is lust tell him that you loved him with you heart or. whole heartedly and he is in you mind and heart always that you can not imagine life without him .then he will definitely consider you love tell him about your memories. But if you don't love him wholeheartedly either love him or let him go.and search for another guy
Shea on December 07, 2016:
As a Scorpio male born Nov.7 / 73 I truly believe this is the most insightful piece on Scorpio I have ever read. Very nice work.
Jose on October 23, 2016:
Hi I am 28 , single, male Scorpio with Mars. When I was 15 I was sexually abused by one aunt, after that I never allowed any women to come near me, nor I indulge or take any steps to meet someone. I do attract a lot of women, its everyday job for me to ignore there stares, gestures , all kinds of signals, its not a big deal for me but I don't know why I am this way, every women who came or tried to came near me with intention of relationship or getting intimate with me I had to kind of keep her away from me, I have been doing this from past 13 years. I am virgin and celibate.I am not gay , I am straight. I do talk with females and I do have some female friends, but its like there is a kind of invisible line/boundary which if any female crosses to come near me or tries to get within "my circle/range", I have to cut her off immediately from my life and this includes first limiting all communication of any sort , then gradually building up to ignore that women, no eye contacts etc . I haven't told about my childhood abuse to anyone because I already know nobody ever gonna believe me, even my mother refused to believe me when I told her, I tried taking my life also, but don't know why I have to fail, I have serious mood swings, I get suicidal thoughts also but with the help of Youtube videos I tried finding my passion and things I love , I found I like gym and swimming and I am regular at both and it makes me Happy. I don't have any plans of marriage /relationship, I am earning good and I just want to direct all my energy in creating something out of me. People think I have too much ego or I am too self centered because I am master in ignoring people and playing mind games and getting myself out of their mind even if they don't want to.I don't want to do this, I want to give love and wanted to be loved by someone but its like I have this thought deeply in my head that I can't allow myself and let my guard down no matter what. I love god and everyday I pray on my knees 2 times being thankful for everything that he has given, asking for strength to keep me strong and....to keep me away from any relationship so that I don't hurt anyone's emotions.I don't know why I am this way and have to wear the 'tough-look' mask all time to protect myself....
Jean Bakula from New Jersey on May 13, 2016:
Very nicely done, from an Astrologer of 40+ years. I like that you added Scorpios have passion about anything they do, not just sex. And they can be the most gentle with people who need it the most.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on May 06, 2015:
Very rightly said.. Being a Scorpio, I never felt attracted to either Cancer or Pisces. I have been mostly attracted to Scorpios or Virgos.. It is always more than just a sun sign..
Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD from Tumkur on May 06, 2015:
I am visiting this hub for the third time, of course with long intervals.
It is a wonder that so many people are worried about their birth sign alone. As i have already pointed out in my previous comment, though birth-sign tells some important things, we cannot judge a person's nature on that basis alone. In my opinion, Scorpio and cancer won't make a good match. Scorpios have irritable temperament,may be that is just polished because of their education, high society environment etc. But, it is better to remember that scorpios go more by emotions than by reasoning.
meg on February 06, 2015:
Hey guys I really need an advice.....I m in love with a scorpion man since 5 months and now I m feeling like he is taking little bit interest in me....though till nw it was one sided...... I did many things wrong in my past life.....I want to share this with the man I m in love with....my past life was like hell.....will this affect our friendship...should I tell him everything......will my speaking up the truth affect the way he started feeling fr me....
My past was very bad....I am guilty n ashamed of it which made me less talkative....kind of introvert or shy person who doesn't speak much with any1.....
This guy askd me to become open minded n extrovert.....BT the things I have in mind or something stops me to explore myself to the world.....help me guys...I need an advice......I want to share this with him bt I m ashamed of what all I did...I knw this will need a lot of courage bt I DNT want to loose this man at any situation.....
kinjal on January 31, 2015:
I am a Scorpio woman and I surely believe that a scorpios best match is a Scorpio woman itself as no other than Scorpio woman can understand him better!!
prity dasmohapatr from Bhubaneswar, India on September 22, 2014:
Am too involved with a Scorpio guy for last 8 months but suddenly he broke up..for no reason..he is a nice guy..he said he is confused about our relationship between lust and love..though I love him a lot but can't pursue him coz I know he is uncontrollable... What should I do to get back him?....plzz help....am freaked out...completely lost
baby kien on July 11, 2014:
Hi. Can anyone help me figure out this scorpio man im dating for almost 2 months.. Every time we dated, he keeps on telling me stories bout the girls he likes and showing some puctures on his cellpone. I acted playing cool on the outside but feeling hurt on the inside. I don't understand why he keeps on doing that. He knows my feelings for him. Please enlighten me. Help me analyze this one. Thank you very much.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on May 14, 2014:
brendonthomas: Thanks a lot for commenting.. Of course, Scorpio men are some of the best if people know how to behave themselves with us :)
Brendon Thomas from Cape Town, South Africa on May 14, 2014:
All of a sudden it feels great to be a Scorpio male. All these years I thought I was just moody...and weird!!!
mikhaile on April 26, 2014:
Im a female scorpio born on Nov 11 ,80 and my hubby is also a scorpio. Its true what your article says about scorpio man being short tempered and vindictive.
confusedpisces on March 01, 2014:
Hello everyone....reading this post actually made me feel relaxed ...which i really needed since am currently attracted to a SCORPIO guy.
A little about me...am a typical Pisces gal....feminine, romantic n a bit confused...i have never been in love and am a bit choosy when it comes to guys.
Me and my friend recently joined a gym where i met my SCORPIO man. He was really gud to look at and stood apart from the crowd.He and i are from different college I was friend with the gym instructor who gave me information about the scorpio.My friend and the instructor planned to get me together with him and after a lot of tricks ...me and the scorpio guy started texting( he was already aware of the fact that i was attracted to him ).
We chatted all night long...he was sweet , decent, caring, fun and intelligent.
but the weird thing was that he use to text me only at night, i indirectly asked him about this and he said that he would get distracted during classes from all the texting . I did feel weird about this but chosse to ignore it.
we had been chatting for about one week when one early morning he came over to my place with breakfast(yummy),just to prove me that he was good cook. It was a very sweet gesture.
the next week was my bday and he surprised me by coming over to my place with flowers and cakes and balloones. I was so impreressed by it and thought that maybe he is also attracted to me.
Next day we again chatted till late at night and he said that we will be busy for the week .because of his college exams .and now all for about 5 days i have not heard from him. He does not even come to gym .
Am really confused by his hot/cold behaviour. His actions says he likes me, but his word are as if he is talking to some random friend.
And is he actually so busy that he cannot even send one small text.
I don't wanna have a heart-break by being serious about him. he seems like a good guy but if he is not interested in me then he should stop giving so confusing signals.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on February 02, 2014:
prasadjain: I definitely agree.
Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD from Tumkur on February 02, 2014:
People with this sign Scorpio,especially women have some irritating nature,if Mars is stronger. They should not be get into quarrel with. They are more sentimental than reason some.
wonderingmind on January 31, 2014:
I am a pisces and i recently meet 3 months ago now a scorpio... We clicked right away. We both said we were not looking for nothing, but we caught each other eye and started talking on Facebook. We finally decied to meet up together a few weeks later. Since that moment we spent all of our open time together. He did admit to me right away that he had some loose ends he needed to fix before moving forward with me. I expected that and did at that time have a problem with it. A few weeks went by things have been going great. Well one night we were hanging out and he had asked me off the wall question that i felt uncomfortable with, so i said a little white lie to him. About a week later, i had admit to him i lied to him about that subject, i don't ever lie and i wanted to come clean.... Since than he has held that above my head, even though he says he doesn't. We have went away on a small get away together and we still hang on our days off. about 2 month have gone by and i had asked him if this was leading into a realationship. He had said to me, i don't know if i can trust you and there for i don't not know if I want to be with you because i do not know if I can trust you any more.....
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on January 16, 2014:
Nadine, Mister Hollywood and Scorpio-J: Thanks a lot for the compliments :)
Nadine May from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa on January 16, 2014:
What a great read. Voted interesting. My partner is a Scorpio with a Taurus ascending sign, I'm the Taurus with an Scorpio ascending sigh.
John Hollywood from Hollywood, CA on January 15, 2014:
What a fun hub! And very informative! I vote this up big time!
- Mister Hollywood
Jamie Frettsome from Leicestershire on January 15, 2014:
I love this article! It is the most precise and informative one I have read in comparison with my own Scorpio nature.
As you say alot depends on upbringing and every single person is different but I'd say this was one of the best Scorpio Male articles out there! Good reading!
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on December 10, 2013:
ruby63: thanks a lot for sharing. I can understand how it is to deal with a Scorpio man.
ruby morgan from missouri on December 10, 2013:
I had to comment on your hub because my first love was a Scorpio;That man put me through a mental game that I didn't know how to take him and after I broke it off which took all my will power and being at the ripe age of sixteen when I first met him and no matter how hard I fought the feelings for him;I fell madly in love with him and after all this time he haunts me.I think it is because of his deep mentality.I can relate to your hub because that pinpoints him.I am a Pisces soyou can imagine what went through my mind.
jamal on November 04, 2013:
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on September 18, 2013:
Rashi: Check the first link I have provided in the article. This will give you an idea about how we express love.
Rashi on September 18, 2013:
How do they express their love then?
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on September 01, 2013:
Prasad: Thanks a lot for that input Mr. Prasad. I had no idea about the fact that the traits are stronger for people who are born at night. I was born in the morning, but I guess I have very strong traits as my chart is filled with Scorpio :)
Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD from Tumkur on August 31, 2013:
A good article with study. I wish to add something to this.
A Scorpio or,Vrischika as it is called in Indian astrology, is owned by planet Mars or Kuja. While discussing about the characteristics of persons with this sign, we must see whether they are born during day or night. If they are born during day time, then, Characteristics explained above will be weaker because,Mars is stronger during night and weaker during the day.At the same time, we should also see where the Mars is,in the horoscope.If he is in enemy's house,then, he becomes further weaker.
As said in the article above, we can not decide on the basis of birth sign alone, even though it is important. We have to see the strengths and weaknesses of different planets, their positioning, dristi or mutual influence,etc. This is my experience in practicing astrology for past 16 years.
Fishy Phoenix on August 13, 2013:
Scorpio and Cancer are perfect for each other generally speaking. As a Scorpio myself my advice would be not to worry so much. Don't let your Cancer emotions get too down. I find your BF actions to be typical. We Scorpios don't like telling the world about our affairs. In fact I don't even have Facebook or anything else like that for precisely that reason. What I do with my girl is just between us. We don't need to tell everyone; just the one we love. It makes us feel more secure to NOT give out details to other people who we are not intimate with. It's ok. Just understand that this is how Scopios are. Don't try to read something into the situation that is not real. We are different that you are. Just accept that and be grateful for your relationship if it makes you happy.
Good luck my dear Cancer. You truly are ideal for each other in many ways. Relax and enjoy the ride.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on August 11, 2013:
thanks a lot for sharing cancergirl 31 and Kim. Namaste from India as well :)
Kim M on August 11, 2013:
My Scorpio male and I mesh together very well. I am an Aries and we just flow very naturally . We are SO much a like that he once said it is scary. LOL .. Good luck in all your relationships everyone and thank you so much,karthikkash for this wonderful hub. From Arizona, USA Nameste :)
cancergirl31 on August 11, 2013:
hi there..i like your article. Actually i have a bf online for almost 2 months. He is a scorpio too. You right, he is so secretative person that makes me feel he's just playing with me. I am a cancer girl, most cancer girl are sweet and love to be cuddle, and loud for their feelings and i am like that. You know what my bf tells me little about himself and his family that's all.. and rest of our talk is more on intimate thing. Well, I love him sooo much, but there are times that i have doubt in him coz he don't want to update our status online.. he don't want me to show something sweet notes on his wall in fb..he said he want his life privacy.. that he told me..i cry every time.. coz i am thingking he's hidding something to me..and he really don't love me but when i confront him he just said.. like this.. like that..etc..I ask him if he still want me and he said yes. You know what i can't loose him too.. im a crazy girl who fell in love with him..so damn crazy!.. I try to look for other guys..but my heart, my head and my body refuses... they still want him for me...when i say i love you to him i did not expect sometimes that he response on it. and im happy when he respons without pushing him..now.. i little bit an idea about my bf.. hope i can still. holding on to him..
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on July 28, 2013:
Wabash Annie: Thanks a lot Annie :) Scorpios are probably the most intriguing and misunderstood people of the zodiac.
wabash annie from Colorado Front Range on July 27, 2013:
I've always been fascinated by astrology because people so often 'fit' their signs. I've not known much about Scorpios, however, and appreciated learning about their traits.
maramerce from United States on July 15, 2013:
I'm a Cancer, but I'm a lot like a Scorpio because of other traits I possess beyond my zodiac sign. I find that I do not do well romantically with Scorpios because we both want to be in charge in some capacity. I was secretly and passionately in love with a Scorpio for two years when I was a teenager. It never materialized into more than just a really intense, private friendship. We never expressed even the friendship to one another, but simply experienced it. He was the first guy I felt really physically compelled toward and also just magnetically drawn to. I used to write poetry for him. I would bring it to class and show it to him. He was very passionate about reading my work which I loved about him. I'm the kind of person who knows everyone's secrets even if they don't tell them. That's why secretive people are attracted to me. They sense that I know something about them that other people don't understand. And I do. I just don't like a lot of conflict in my intimate relationship so I tend to fall in love with men who are the opposite of Scorpio and of myself, more easygoing, open types who can handle my own moodiness and who aren't afraid to profess their love for me endlessly.
Fishy Phoenix on July 10, 2013:
Ahh. Sagittarius.. I always get along with Sag girls and boys. We Scorps like your positive and somewhat carefree attitude.
The answer below is somewhat true. To us Scorpios life is about personal interactions and experience. Rules that most people follow rarely even occur to us. We do what we want - when we want. The true rebel.
That said, if we like you then that's it. If you are in a bad relationship then to us that means 'no relationship'. Just don't bring drama with you.
Also, you'll have to figure out what the intentions and goals are. Sometimes we just want to have fun with a girl and have no labels on that experience. It does not mean a one-night-stand and also doesn't necessarily mean it's the beginning of a relationship.
That may be hard to understand but we are ALL about the NOW. Labels and rules are for others.
We are totally honest and don't really play games. It's best if you just ask honestly what's going on and we will tell you. Just be sure your asking is from the heart and not defensive or accusatory.
nola on July 04, 2013:
Hi. I've been dating a scorp male for 3 months. We met at work (he was my manager) and kind of hit it off. The ride hasn't been all roses and tulips tho. 1st of all he lied and said he was single. I had a feeling that he was hiding sonething from me due to my experience with past relationships. One day I was at his house and noticed something that wasn't there before and started looking thru everything else. I was devastated by what I found, a house full of women's belongings. He said that it was for his sister but of course I wasn't buying the story. He went as far as taking me to his sister's place (who wasn't home at the time but her boyfriend was) which proved nothing to me. I continued to see him anyway because I had fell in love by this point. I just pretended to go along with all the bs he was saying....then he lft his laptop over here and I have his password...I looked at the pics on there and I tld him I had done so. I tld him that it didn't matter what I saw on there because if he valued what we have/trying to build, he had a week to get all women's clothing, jewelry, cats, pictures and anything else out of his house and that I would be sleeping over regularly (I always wanted to sleep at my place). He said ok it wouldn't be a problem. A couple of weeks after that, he broke his lease and moved in with me. Now fast forward to today, we have been living together just under a month. During this time he has slept out once and done a couple of other questionable thing. I told him that sleeping out WILL NOT be tolerated. One day when I couldn't take it anymore, I told him we needed to talk. I started off by telling him that the questions I was about to ask him, I pretty much already knew the answer (i'm a sag, it doesn't take me long to put two and two together) and that if he continued to lie, we can't go any further. I started off by asking him why he lied about being single and his living situation at the time. He came clean, finally. He said he knew things were gonna be changing soon so he just didn't say anything. He said he was cheating because he caught her cheating and he stayed with her even though he had no intentions of being with her (like he was playing catch back). Due to the dishonesty on his part I don't fully trust him even though he comes home to me every night. I asked him how can I trust that he won't do me the same thing....he just said that I can trust it. He said he choose me because of all the women he fooled around with, I was the only one who talked about stability (marriage/family/in a traditional sense). He said that he knows he has to work his way up to getting me to trust him 100% and that he understood how I felt. He is even starting a new job on the 15th of this month so he doesn't have to work nights/late nights. He is trying to put my mind at ease but I still feel weird. I know he is not sticking around for sex because we've had plenty of that and he didn't need a place to stay because he is financially stable and he pays all the bills here because I don't work right now (he manipulated my work situation so that I would not want to return after my suspension). So, if he didn't want me, he could have disappeared after I stopped working there. I guess my question is now that everything has come to the surface can I now take him seriously? I still feel weird because I don't trust him fully. I think he was testing me when he told me he was considering moving out to be closer to his new job because today when I said I was ready to go back to work he said with no hesitation that he doesn't want me to feel like I have to go back to work out of fear that this won't last because he isn't going anywhere. Is he playing mind games or is he really in this for the long haul? Everything is happening so fast but feels like its been going on for years. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks
Nick on May 07, 2013:
Hate to break it to you Saggirl,
but I believe your hesitation was a sign to your scorpio man that he should move on. Us scorpio men want a woman willing to throw caution to the wind for us. We want a dangerous woman because we live life dangerously. The fact that your hesitated was more than likely a failure in his eyes, and if he did contact you I would suggest that you step lightly, as he may be an unevolved scorpio and looking for nothing more from you than some physical intimacy. I would say move on. Move on, and just find happiness beyond a relationship; if you do that, a scorpio will find you soon enough, haha!
Saggirl on May 05, 2013:
Meet a Scorpio at work about 2 mths and then left. I gave him my number & could never stop thinking of him. I felt possessed like a spell no idea what happened to me until I started researching the sign. I'm in a troubled relationship which he was not aware of. He invited me out & I asked him if he was looking to make a new friend. He said he didn't expect what happened our connection was so strong & we kissed he told me he liked me before & asked about me but i had a boyfriend and that he also thought about me.I did feel guilty not for kissing but because of my current "troubled living together relationship". He told me not to feel bad. I saw him again just as friends didn't kiss & he acted like a gentleman. He called me the next day out of the blue & wanted me to come over and I took long so he got annoyed keep calling & stated I was taking to long. When I arrived he grabbed me said I looked so hot & starting kissing me & it was intense. We did not sleep together he called me out on my "guilty emotions" so we just played around. I got dressed and he seemed annoyed that I was leaving him. Almost like reversed roles the guy usually leaves after the fun...anyway we texted back and forth a few times no signs of him showing any interest even after I let him know how im so attracted to him etc.. I asked him when I could see him again & he said we will do something over the wknd. I never heard back he fell of the face of the earth. I texted him that I ended my relationship & wanted to see him. No response! I'm torned!
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on April 25, 2013:
Lshannah: Let him contact you. It is his mistake anyway. So, don't talk to him unless he calls back.. If you want to play with him a bit, don't bother replying to his texts or calls a couple of times ;)
Lshannah on April 25, 2013:
Hmm, well he apologized for hurting me, after I've said I couldn't imagine that he can be so mean. What should I do now? I haven't tried to contact him, because I think the ball is in his court..
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on April 24, 2013:
Lshannah: It could very well be a test to see how you react to what he says. A minor possibility that he may be holding something against you.
Lshannah on April 24, 2013:
Thanks for the quick response! Would a Scorpio go as far as saying he's dating someone else? I'm wondering if it's some sort of test, because he has said it when I'm called him out on ignoring me. He got really defensive and from the past (when he became jealous due to a miscommunication) I've learned when something like that happened before it was just a stupid test.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on April 23, 2013:
Lshannah: It would not be easy to tell what specific kinds he will put you through. Only with a specific situation we may be able to tell whether he is testing you or not.
Lshannah on April 23, 2013:
Hey Karthikkash, could you tell something about the tests a scorpio male will put a love interest through? I'd love to head. Thanks in advance!
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on April 19, 2013:
Alisha: I may not really be the right person to advice on that :) But I will be able to help you understand his personality. You may want to seek a professional astrologer's help for that.
Shiningirisheyes: Thanks a lot for that comment :)
Shining Irish Eyes from Upstate, New York on April 19, 2013:
I must admit, the photo of Leonardo caught my eye, but the article held my attention.
alisha on April 08, 2013:
Help, I am a Taurus woman newly falling for an evolved career Army Scorpion...we have only been seeing and talking for a few weeks...I have Scorpio rising...can you give me any astrological insight? I want to be the focus of his intensity for a long time to come ;) thanks-!
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on March 27, 2013:
pisceslove : It is really a bit complicated. I think it is time for straight talk between you two (or three). It is best to understand where he stands. As much as you have feelings for him, you need to be absolutely clear where you both stand when it comes to you two. Then take a step.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on March 25, 2013:
jennifer: Jennifer, I am a bit in a moral dilemma. I know I am no one to comment on the relationship you have, but are you sure you want to continue that?
To start with, ask him to be open about what he wants. I think confrontation is the best way. You wouldn't want to ruin your life if someone is just looking at playing around..
pisceslove on March 25, 2013:
I NEED HELP...I just can't figure out my scorpio friend/lover. Our story is a little long so I'll try to give you the gist of it. I met my scorpio friend when I was getting out of a rough relations with my scorpio boyfriend ( I believe I will marry a scorpio because I have always attracted them...I could be in a dark room and they find me.I read that Pisces is the best match for scorpios so maybe that's why they always sniff me out)...Any way back to the main point...for the life of me i really can't tell what this man truly feels for me. When we became friends he was just what I needed to soothe the wounds caused by my scorpio ex-boyfriend (scorpio ex boyfriend had issues but I see him turning into the eagle that I know he can and will be....Others can't see it but I can....Its the whole pisces psychic thing....to be honest since he has had his daughter he really seem to be a changed man....for the life of me I don't understand why he keeps coming round I thought once scorpios are DONE they are DONE.....the other day my mom came right out and ask him the same thing and she also asked him right in front of me If he still loves me and I heard his voice break when he said he still loves me..awe well that's another story for another day...) Once AGAIN...back to the issue at hand...At the time we became friends he was also in a difficult relationship with his baby mom...so we were good for each other (lots of laugh, lots of convo...great time just chilling in silence)....somehow we end up crossing the friendship line...well not somehow...He hugged me on day and my knees got weak....then i kissed him and before I knew it our chill out Sundays became our sexing sundays..at first it was all well and good till I started falling hard and fast for him. He was in a difficult spot because I wanted to be taken out and be out in public as lovers and not just friends....even though I knew that couldn't happen....anyway my jealousy became stronger and stronger...and my tantrums got stronger as well (being an older scorpio my breakdowns never moved him....or stopped him from coming round to spend time with me, even when i shunned him..he would still come....sometimes he would be in one part of the house and I in the next...he didn't care he just wanted to be where I was....this only made me loved him more and wanted him for myself.....After months of bad treatment he stopped coming....and calling (well I changed my number)......fast forward two yrs later...after a wonderful relationship with an amazing older man (sagitarius)....who passed away...I saw my scorpio friend/lover again. I was too shocked to hear that he and his baby mom had called it quits ...I was even more shocked to find out that he live a stone throw away from me. After my wonderful old man passed away I went through a serious case of depression and once again my scorpio friend/lover was there to help me through it (its as if he is my guardian angel or something).....When we met up again he opened up to me and said that I broke his heart into pieces when I cut him off in the past...and that he loved more than I could have known....(anyway this story was supposed to be short but its turning into a novel....LOL)...Back to what I was saying...He and I became friends again...he even tried to take me out couple times but I refused because of being depressed........Then we started having sex again, which reallllly helped with my depression..LOL....The thing is when we became reaccqainted he was getting to know this other girl.....who I think wouldn't be in the picture now If I would have shown him some interest...(my disclaimer is that I was depressed).....Anyway he went through a rough spot...his car got stolen and his business was down...so apparently she used to help him out...the thing is I used to always go by his apartment for my "THERAPY" .....LOL...or to just chill with him and I never see any sign of the girl there but One evening he asked me for a ride from work and she pulled up the same time as us...after that when I went to his house her clothes were there ....I asked him so the two of you are getting really serious...he said it wasn't the case she had done her laundry and had ''FORGOTTEN" a few pieces....PLEASE...(why are men so naïve).....Once again he asked me for a ride...she came there while we were outside talking, apparently she was angry because she blew her horn and speed off.....He was upset because he felt her actions was disrespectful......anyway I started to notice that when I would pass his place on my way home that her car would always be there...come to find out that she decided to give him her car to drive...and one morning on my way to work I saw her coming out of his apartment...so I said to myself (she is sleeping over now..this is getting serious)....I spoke to him about it because my feelings started to develop again......I asked him if he has committed to a relationship with her and he said no....I sort of believed that because I know he was kinda traumatized from the whole seven yrs failed baby mama drama....and to be honest he is not fully over his baby mom because while he was a shoulder to cry on ...I was a listening ear..whenever she would come up in conversations ...(which was often..so I know he is still dealing with that)....a couple of months ago....I was there just hanging with him and his daughter when the girl came there...and get this OPEN HIS DOOR WITH A KEY....She was shocked to see me and I to see her because I KNOW Her.....it was obvious that she was upset but she didn't argue or anything but while talking to her I could sense that she was angry and hurt.. I didn't leave right away....he and I continued laughing and talking while she sat in the corner stewing... couple days later I said to him I don't know you to lie..why didn't you just tell me that you had committed to a relationship with her.......(THIS IS WHERE I NEED SOME ADVICE)....He said that they are not in a relationship because he told her from the beginning that he only wanted friendship because he was still dealing with his breakup. I told him that once you give a woman a key to your place that says you're in a relationship......his reply was that the landlord was suppose to cut an extra key to keep in case he was ever locked out but never got around to it and after he got locked out he cut a key and gave her the extra one to keep...to me that seems like a bull shit story....I asked him what went down after I left he didn't want to divulge that information...( to be honest that's a trait that I love about him)....the only thing he said was that he told her that he and I have been friends for a long time and no one will come between our friendship.......Lately my feelings have gotten strong and I am starting to be jealous again I am be'n so ridiculous to the point where he is getting angry at me ...something he never used to do (but I don't understand) ....The other day My car was down and I needed to do my laundry so I told him I was coming by he said ok, when I was two step from his place I saw her car parked there so I called him to say that I didn't know he had company and If I should come back and he said no...when I arrive it was clear that she was upset that I was there...after about two mins she said she was leav'n....so he asked if she wasn't gonna cook some soup that she was preparing to cook before I came over...she changed her mind and cooked the soup...then I watched her straighten up and fold his clothes.....so I said to myself seem like she's trying to be wife before a ring is placed on her finger......then she serve him his food.....I laughed to myself because she caters to him but when I come there he caters to me....I mean you should see how he behaves....If I come over and say I hungry or thirsty he drops what he's doing to take care of me....and that type of behavior only maks me love him more...I mean he will even wash my clothes while I'm there watching tv...I just don't get it...I told him how I felt...I also told him that we should distant from each other because I'm only becoming more and more jealous which is gonna ruin or frienship...HELP!!!!
jennifer on March 23, 2013:
I enjoyed reading this. I've been in love with a Scorpio for 11years. He is in a relationship, has a child and is my husband's friend. We flirt sometimes, I guess it's flirting. He holds me in his arms like we are lovers, his face burried in my neck. I kiss him in his neck. He blows me kisses, stares at me, looks right through me. He kissed me on the mouth once, but when my husband confronted him he denied it. I hated him after that and we weren't really getting along after that for years, but since a few months we are best buddies again. We chat and email and he always signs' with love'. We are just too close for normal friends, or rather too touchy feely. His girl is jealous so this happens when she is not around. I'm unsure now if I should talk to him about my feelings, it may ruin everything but it's killing me. He says that he loves her, but sometimes during our deep conversations, he confides in me and things aren't 100%. How do I know that he's not just being a friend or being a player? I've been thinking about this all the time and when we don't speak or I don't see him I feel so empty. But if I tell him how I feel I ruin everything and he may reject me. Sometimes I get the feeling that he knows. It's like we were at a party, pretty close, almost kissinh and touching again, and the next morning he can be distant almost, and I wonder if I imagined everything. What I want is to be open, so I can go on with my life and we both know that this isn't normal, even if he doesn't love me back. But where do I begin?
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on February 22, 2013:
Joel: It need not be a curse. We can actually channelize our energy in a proper way. That is where the white dove symbolizes us :)
Joel Gonzaga Jr. from Bacolod City, Philippines on February 19, 2013:
Hey, Karthik. Thanks for the response. Well, is that gonna be my curse? But believe it or not I like that feeling though. 'Cause my cousins reflects a wondering facial gesture why their sons and daughters are reacting that way to me. They are looking so perplexed 'cause their children cries when I'm looking at them even when I project a smile. The older ones are hiding behind their mother's back looking very scared. I like it when I see confused faces. Figuring out what is the problem but can not really come up with any answer. :)
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on February 18, 2013:
scorpioman: I can understand that Joel. Unfortunately, most of us Scorpios have that intimidating appearance even if we are genuinely smiling. I think sometimes our energy becomes overbearing..
Joel Gonzaga Jr. from Bacolod City, Philippines on February 18, 2013:
The traits of a scorpio man is similar to that of a person with an INTJ personality type. I am a scorpio man, but I was born in a cusp of because my birthday is on the 21st day of November. I also have an INTJ personality and my Chinese Zodiac is Ox.
I'm a pretty serious guy. I believe I am. It's very difficult to have these kind of traits on my back 'cause a lot of people are intimidated at me. They look down when I look at them. My infant nephews ages 3 to 5 years old cries out loud and shivers when I look at them even if I am smiling. Why? I don't look like a monster either or some average Joe as a matter of fact. But why are they crying?
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on January 20, 2013:
Yolena: Scorpios always hide their true emotions. Some times it is natural (we usually don't express our emotions openly). Sometimes we just hide it so that we don't appear vulnerable. But nonetheless, we will have strong emotions. As long as he loves you, that is fine :)
Yolena on January 19, 2013:
Hi I'm a Gemini dealing with a Scorpio male and I really love him but sometimes I find myself getting really frustrated with him because I cannot figure him out he tells me he loves me but sometimes it seems like his emotions are somewhat with drawn as if he is trying to protect himself from me while I on the other hand I'm very open with my emotions,what do I do? I just don't understand him.
Pixie on January 15, 2013:
Okay, thank you so much. :)
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on January 15, 2013:
Pixie: Trust me, every Scorpio male is typical in certain traits.. However different they are.. Do see for his jealous, obsessive, controlling nature.. Trust me, if he likes you even a bit, it will show some way (even in minute ways).
Pixie on January 15, 2013:
May I mention, he's not a typical Scorpio.
Pixie on January 15, 2013:
Not really, he's complicated as it is so I don't know what will be unusual for him, but my cancer friend thinks he likes me. I don't know what he feels at all.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on January 15, 2013:
Pixie: Possibilities are that he may not have any special feelings. Have you noticed any other typical Scorpio male unusual behavior?
Pixie on January 15, 2013:
Hi. Since you yourself are a Scorpio I hope you'll help me fighure this out...I'm a Scorpio girl and I really like a Scorpio guy, it's definitely not an infatuation, it's been more than four years and my feelings have grown stronger ever since. I have told him about my feelings twice, the first time he said that we need to know each other(we were acquaintances then) and around six months after that I again told him I like him. I haven't got an answer still(it's been two years). We had just stopped talking for some months(both our Scorpio mood swings maybe) and recently he began talking to me again, we don't get to see much of each other but out chats continue for hours though sometimes I feel he doesn't want to talk but we both give each other the 'hypnotic Scorpio gaze' very frequently. What's on his mind?
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on January 14, 2013:
True Sagi119 : I can understand your feelings and I can empathize with it. There are two things a Scorpio will do anything for.
1) His ambitions
2) His love
Trust me, for most Scorpios (of course, I am not talking about the insect types. I am talking about the regular Scorpios you and I come across), these are two things which are always on the top of the list.
However, it can be sometime unfortunate that ambitions gain the upper hand and love takes a back seat. One needs to understand that Scorpio's ambitions are something that are pursued till they are achieved, and they always have a well thought out reason (whether right or wrong reason is a different matter). And when those things happen, it feels that the other person involved has been betrayed. Something not easy to deal with, but has to be dealt with.
True Sagi119 on January 11, 2013:
OK...to cut an even longer story short (well as short as I can) ha!
I relentlessly pursued Mr Scorp. I was in awe of him, the 'idea' of him (not knowing him relationship-wise at this stage). Oh and btw I'd known him for years prior to this but had fell out of touch. Initially he was hot and cold (mainly cold). I was losing my mind over him. All the while he had NO clue whatsoever of the effect of his behaviour was having on me. He continued to dangle the proverbial carrot and I was reeled in. Hypnotised some would even say (well my judging friends anyway).
Almost a year went on and we started to make real progress (I thought). He told me he loved me, I told him too. I was crazy about him &he knew it. I supported him when he was down, was always there for him at the drop of a hat. I made him the centre of my universe, cause of how much I genuinely cared for him. Any other man had NO chance in hell with me. I only had eyes for him!
I really opened up to him about who I really was as a person, my intentions, my everything (well almost, ha). He made me feel so loved every time I was with him sexually and otherwise. He made me feel amazing, beautiful and sexy.
He had many issues, a few of them; concerning his baby mom and I know childhood issues which he's not ready to accept yet nor get help for. His bad experiences with former girlfriends emotionally messed him up. I was patient with him, more than I would have accepted off any other previous bf's.
My Scorp had many ambitious goals and the talent to go with it but he never had any drive or motivation. I made him feel like he could do anything, achieve everything. I made a conscious effort not to patronise him or cut him with my bluntness. I LOVED him (still do)
I slowly started noticing a pattern in his behaviour. How I wasn't top of his list. I wasn't a priority in his life. It hurt, bad! I noticed how he only ever made a real effort with me if and when he needed something, wanted some words of encouragement, money, a ride to his homies.
I made him aware of how I felt and done nothing to change even though he said he would. I didn't push him. I didn't force it on him. I distanced myself a little, he fixed his ways (for a temporary period). Over the holidays he became distant for no apparent reason. Stopped answering my calls, responding to my messages and when I asked him what's up he made excuses. He constantly made excuses!
I cut him loose. I had to! I still love him but I cannot respect somebody who didn't respect me and appreciate all I had to offer. He took me for granted. Now I'm left wondering if his love was ever real or did he just use me(?) Maybe he believes I'm playing a game, telling him we're through when we're not, who knows! But I'm done with him. For good.
He sent me a very touching but somewhat manipulative email (I won't go into detail) saying how much he loved me and appreciated everything I'd done for him and how I was the one etc etc......
One of the main things I'm grateful for is the lesson he taught me in the form of a Scorpio. I'm also grateful for coming to the realization of how intense my feelings can be. I had no idea how intensely I could feel for another. It's a shame it's ended like this but I will not and cannot accept anything less than my own worth.
Hurt Sagi : (
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on December 30, 2012:
missy: It is a typical thing with Scorpio men.. The only solution is to give it some time and see how it goes. If you feel that it is not worth pursuing, then you may want to move on.
missy on December 30, 2012:
I am very much in love with a scorpio man and at first he was all fun to be around after a few weeks of seeing each other he has become so withdrawn and he never call he never answer any text and sometimes ignore my call but when we see each other he is all loving and say the right things he has bee hurt badly and is not will to commit now but the problem is he is not giving me the urge to hold on i am very confuse and i don't know what to do
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on November 22, 2012:
bleedingscorpio: Well.. You already know you are in deep sh*t now. Once you hurt a Scorpio guy deeply, it is extremely difficult to get him back to how it was before that. I wish I could have put it in a milder way. I am not saying you did any mistake. In fact, you haven't done any mistake.
The only problem is that we Scorpio men are extremely sensitive inside. A slight insult or anything of that sort, we take it very deeply, even if it is our mistake. When we are in that situation, we become blind to other's opinions. What we do is right for us. That is when we become vengeful, even if we loved that person extremely. Unfortunately, that is one of our negative traits.
As off now, I think only time will heal your situation. I know, being a Scorpio yourself, it will hurt you very deep. But you will have to accept it. I am not saying it is over yet, but you just have to accept that whatever happened, it happened.
bleedingscorpio on November 22, 2012:
Hi.i need all the help that u can give me.i m a scorp female,ive been dating another scorp,things were awesome for 4 months and last friday i said sth about him ,that he is being irresponsible etc.because of the fact that i m taking my degree in 8 months and i will move to another city and he doesn't really show if he wants to continue having this relationship,kind of no commitment whatsoever...maybe me trying to find a job in his town after i have completed my master etc..i m willing to try and he was like if you leave we re done we ll move on etc,co i called him cruel,coward ,i do not remember the words exactly..hit his door and left.he then texted me i don't ever wanna see you again..i only replied that i just didn't want to see him beiing coward as i once had met such a stong man in him that i was totally so disappointed,and not so mad///he didn't reply..3 days later i received a tshirt we had ordered from ebay,i texted him your tshirt is here,will you come and get it?he didt reply..and i wrote the last text to him ..that i am totally incapable of such cruelty because i had once fell for his kind heart and he ll have it his way,enemies,as he wants it.where did i go so wrong?why wont he reply to a single thing,discuss,fight,express a feeling something..i do not know where such cruelty came from,i know since i m a scorp that we do act this way occasionally,but never me never ..not without a serious reason..thank you for any reply..karthikkash,if you find some time,pls email me an answer,i totally agree with your posts and you could help me a lot right now..
Librasecretlyiblovewithascorpiomale on October 26, 2012:
Wow, thank you for this. I am a libra woman who has fallen in live with a Scorpio man who is ten years younger than I. He has no idea. But when I met him, I thought that he was my age. He is so mature and wise and intelligent. He's everything I've always wanted in a man, but I seem to be roadblocked: he has completely taken me out of myself-I am not the same. Normally I am not aggressive and I never ask guys out, but when I am around him I be one very aggressive and I did ask him out. He said yes, but then he started sending mixed signals. This article is very helpful. I kept hearing that libras and scorpios are not meant for marriage, but I truly believe that he'd the one.
Karthik Kashyap (author) from India on October 23, 2012:
ashwet: thanks :) Yes, you got it right. In the long run, it is not about the sun signs, but how much both are willing to respect the differences and take the relationship further.
Bridgette from Chicago on October 02, 2012:
My brother is a scorpio and he can be a handful but hes my bro but the women in his life , he needs to find someone more his mate instead of settling.