Scorpio Man Personality Traits
What is the first thing you thought of when someone told you that he was a Scorpio? Whether or not you believe in astrology, you may already have preconceived notions about Scorpios, especially Scorpio males. Are passionate, sexual, and jealous some of the words that come to your mind?
There are undoubtedly thousands of blogs and articles out there that talk about these characteristics, and most of them give you a pretty decent picture. However, it doesn't get much better than hearing about it from a Scorpio himself! So let us see what being a Scorpio man is all about.
The Good and Bad Sides of Scorpio Men
Positive Scorpio Traits
Negative Scorpio Traits
Deeply Reflective and Intuitive
Brooding and Moody
Unable to Forgive
Positive Traits of Scorpio Men
From their passionate nature to intense loyalty, Scorpio men have many wonderful characteristics.
Mysterious, Charming, and Confident
Every blog you may have read will talk about how mysterious Scorpio men are. This is indeed true, and it goes for women of the sign too. Together, they are probably the most mysterious of all the zodiac signs. The reason for this is that they are very secretive. Added to that is their famous (or infamous) all-penetrating gaze that can make almost anyone feel naked.
While a Scorpio male can read most people like an open book, he is one person you can never read completely. He is so deep that it may take a lifetime for you to understand him. He is also sometimes referred to as the James Bond of the zodiac. This is because of the mysterious and confident aura he emits around him, which draws the opposite sex to him.
Passionate and Intense
No other sign in the zodiac compares when it comes to being passionate. We are considered the most passionate and the best lovers you can find. Unfortunately, most people limit their thoughts of passion to sex and romance. But a Scorpio male is passionate not only in the department of love but in everything he does.
If he is doing something he really loves, he will put his heart and soul into it, which is immediately evident to all those around him. If you see a man talk very passionately about something he cares about, he may be a Scorpio. But his passion can be a double-edged sword—he loves passionately, and he hates passionately. There is no middle ground.
On top of the seductive aura they emit without even trying, Scorpio men are well known for being one of the most sexual signs. But probably not in the way you're thinking. Scorpio men crave physical intimacy, so they thrive in committed relationships where their sexuality can be expressed fully. In other words, they are usually far more interested in making love than having sex.
Scorpio men are some of the most loyal people you will ever meet. They may flirt with other women, but if they're in a relationship, they will always be loyal to that person. They don't give away their hearts lightly, so once they do, they're in it for the long haul.
This loyalty applies to other people in their lives as well. If necessary, a Scorpio man will protect his loved ones with everything he's got.
Note: This deep trust and loyalty is part of the reason Scorpio is the most unforgiving sign. Once you've broken his trust, you will never get it back again.
Trust Cannot Be Repaired
Coinciding with their deeply trusting and loyal nature, once you've broken the trust of a Scorpio man, you will never get it back again.
Tough But Soft
Most blogs you read mention this idea. Scorpio men have a very tough outer shell but are very soft inside. His emotions run quite deep, and he knows that. This is probably why he puts up a tough facade—he doesn't want to get hurt.
This tough, yet calm face is also the reason why people don’t easily approach him. This, coupled with his non-trusting nature, is the reason why he has so few friends in his inner circle. It is indeed very tough to get into his inner circle, but if you are lucky enough to make it there, he is one guy who is willing to sacrifice himself for you.
Emotional and Intelligent
Scorpios are often notorious for making decisions with their hearts. However, this is not always true. It is true that they are passionate and make decisions that appeal to their emotions, however, they are masters of both emotion and logic. As much as they tend to make an emotional decision, he is also very good at looking at the entire situation in a logical and analytical way, and if he feels it's right, no one can stop him from making that decision.
Wise and Mature
It is also said that Scorpios, in general, are wise beyond their age. This is true. A Scorpio guy may not be a math or economics wiz or a rocket scientist, but he is one of the most intelligent and wise people you will find. You may compare a 25-year-old Scorpio male’s wisdom and maturity to a 35-year-old male of most other signs. It is difficult to understand why this is so. I think of it this way—what most people have to learn through years of experience, he already knows.
Scorpio men are also highly ambitious. He may never tell you exactly what his goals in life are (remember his ever-present aura of mystery), but he certainly has them, and he wants to achieve them at any cost. However, though Scorpios love to lead a good life surrounded by luxuries, their end goals are not necessarily money oriented.
They are generally more oriented towards achieving something that gives them emotional—and more importantly, spiritual—satisfaction. They also tend to have high standards for themselves and those around them.
A Scorpio easily attracts and is attracted to power, but this does not necessarily mean that he wants to be in the limelight. In fact, unlike certain other zodiac signs who like to be in the limelight while wielding power, a Scorpio man rarely craves a position at the forefront. His sign is ruled by Pluto (or Hades), lord of the underworld. As such, he prefers to avoid the limelight. Rather than take center stage, he likes being in the wings while he pulls the strings.
Once a Scorpio man has a goal set in mind, it's extremely difficult to diverge him from that path. This is a double-edged sword! While this hyper-focus can be a very positive trait, it can easily cross the line and verge on obsession.
While Scorpio men are well known for being guarded and secretive, don't confuse those traits with dishonesty. They rarely pretend and are very bad at telling lies (and hate when others do so). They may tell occasional white lies, but they can never truly pretend or fake, which means they often come off as overly blunt. So please refrain from asking an honest opinion from a Scorpio man if you aren't ready to hear an honest answer.
Negative Traits of Scorpio Men
Though Scorpios have many desirable traits, they also have characteristics that are far less savory.
Vindictive and Unable to Forgive
There's a reason the quote "Hell hath no fury like a Scorpio scorned" is so common in astrological articles. This is the negative trait Scorpio men are most famous for. But before describing it, here is a clarification—Scorpio men are very warm and friendly people, as long as you do not cross them. If you prove your trustworthiness, a Scorpio will be willing to give his life for you. However, never make the mistake of getting on his bad side.
Unlike his female counterpart, who may forgive you for your foolishness of crossing her, a male Scorpio rarely forgives, and even if he does, he will never forget your offense. At best, you may never be able to regain his trust. At worst, he may go to any extent to have his revenge. As the cliché goes, he can be your best friend or your worst enemy.
Short-Tempered and Excessively Jealous
This is another very common trait of this sign, especially in romantic relationships. If a Scorpio man doesn't feel like he's getting your undivided attention or he thinks someone else is pursuing you, things will get ugly. While he is very thoughtful and rational most of the time, these are instances where he simply cannot access his rational side. In extreme cases, his jealousy might lead to acts of vengeance and manipulation, so take care not to trip this "jealousy switch" if at all possible.
My reasoning? We experience love very deeply, so any hint of betrayal hits us harder than it might for another sign. The positive side of this trait is that it shows just how committed Scorpio men are once they decide to enter into a romantic relationship.
Scorpio men are the ones who are most commonly accused of being highly secretive (at least I get it all the time from people around me). They do not open up easily to people around them since they don’t trust people easily.
A Scorpio man may know you for a lifetime but still won’t reveal all his secrets to you. Even the most socially active and talkative Scorpio man has his secrets and will never talk about them. He would rather die for his secrets than reveal them, even to those closest to him. Giving up his secret is like taking out a part of his body.
The positive side of this trait is that he'll be just as guarded with your secrets, so he makes a great confidant.
Let me explain this. Scorpios are deep thinkers. When a Scorpio man is dealing with a challenge or facing issues, he tends to withdraw into his shell, unlike others who voice their problems. Once he withdraws into his shell, he tries solving problems in his own way in a focused manner. He doesn't like anyone interrupting in any way when he is thinking deeply, so when someone tries to interfere with his problem-solving process, he tends to get agitated and irritated.
When his problem-solving cap is not on, however, he is generally a warm and a happy person. This frequent change in his behavior is generally perceived as a mood swing.
Prone to Melancholy
Due to their rich inner life and proneness to periods of deep reflection, Scorpios also tend to be quite emotional. Unfortunately, this can often lead to melancholy and moodiness. In part, this may be due to the fact that their secretive nature means that no one truly knows who they are (a feeling that can lead to profound loneliness), but their tendency toward melancholy might also be more generally linked to their deeper understanding of the dark and sinister aspects of the world.
The flipside of Scorpio's intuitiveness is that he's better able to manipulate others should he feel the need. And that need may well arise if he feels jealous or resentful. This is especially true for those with whom Scorpio men are romantically involved. If a Scorpio man's partner doesn't give him the devotion he needs (or has a bit of a wandering eye), it's highly likely that he'll devote his attention to making their life miserable for a while.
Scorpio men love to be in control, not only of their own lives, but often of others' as well. This often results in an overbearing nature that some (especially those dating Scorpio men) find hard to deal with. Scorpios do tend to be respectful of boundaries, however, so if you set healthy ones with him and are good about enforcing them, his controlling nature should be easier to manage.
While this can be a very positive trait when it comes to achieving goals and staying driven, it can be frustrating for anyone in a relationship with a Scorpio man, whether it's as friends or lovers. For example, this might mean they believe their wants and needs are more important than anyone else's.
Scorpio men's passion can verge into overindulgence, which—in extreme cases—can lead to a harmful and potentially life-threatening lifestyle. This is where Scorpio's self-control needs to take the fore; if he can learn discipline and overcome some of his passionate (and potentially self-destructive) urges, he will be stronger for it.
More Characteristics of a Scorpio Man
- Men of this sign usually have a sarcastic and caustic sense of humor that others have trouble figuring out or appreciating.
- They are not very superficial people, so when it comes to finding a romantic partner, beauty is only one of many important elements for them.
- They are often seen as some of the most serious people in the zodiac.
- They usually don’t like following rules laid out by someone else. They prefer following their own rules. They also love to bend and break the rules to their liking. You may see them as rebellious types.
- At the same time, however, most of them like orderliness and discipline in one form or another.
- They are sometimes perceived as selfish.
Scorpio Men in Relationships
While Scorpio men might not enjoy being in the limelight, they require undivided attention in one-on-one situations, which is why those in relationships with Scorpios often refer to it as a full-time job.
Best Match for a Scorpio Man
Most astrology blogs claim that the ideal mate for a Scorpio man is either a water sign such as Cancer and Pisces or an earth sign such as Capricorn or Virgo. However, I would refrain from saying that. Honestly speaking, a match can never be made from sun-sign compatibility alone. For example, some of my best friends are Scorpios, Libras, Leos, and Sagittarius. I have also seen Scorpios marry air or fire signs and live happily.
If you need to do a compatibility check, it needs to be done at a whole different level. It ultimately also depends upon the environment in which a person is brought up, and his/her belief and value systems among so many other things.
For more on dating Scorpio men, read this article on how Scorpio men behave when they are in love.
Best of Luck With Your Scorpio
So these are the most common Scorpio male personality traits. Having said that, everyone is unique in their own way. Researching someone's sun sign can only hint at their traits, not their entire personality. I hope this little (or rather long) article helps you understand us better.
And if you're wondering whether a Scorpio woman is similar to her male counterpart? To be honest, they are entirely different species. But, they are similar in many ways too, so many of the characteristics discussed in this article apply to Scorpio women as well.
Questions & Answers
Can an Aries and Scorpio get married and live happily?
I am a Scorpio, and I have been married to an Aries for three years, so I guess it works.Helpful 81
I'm a male Scorpio, and I'm dealing with a Pisces. Is it normal for our experience to be an emotional rollercoaster?
Technically, Scorpio and Pisces is the best match for both as both will easily understand each other and try to accommodate one another.Helpful 73
My Scorpio man asked me to marry him after four months. Is he for real? He's never been married or had kids.
Well, if he has proposed to you and you feel that he is the right guy, then I think he is serious. Scorpio people generally don't kid around about relationships. I trust that unless he was absolutely sure, he wouldn't have proposed to you.Helpful 54
Can a Leo and Scorpio get married and live happily?
Traditionally, just based on sun-sign, it is not a good match. But I have seen a Scorpio and Leo couple living happily. So, it depends on whether the different aspects in their natal chart are compatible.Helpful 40
I'm a gay Scorpio who is in a relationship with an older Gemini guy. Are our signs compatible?
Gemini and Scorpio is a tricky combination mate. But if the native/birth charts are compatible, then there is a possibility of a good relationship. I know a couple of Scorpios married to Geminis. So, it may work.Helpful 40
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