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In Defence of Geminis

Celine is a Witch and Mystic with lived experience of anxiety, major depression, bulimia, and ADHD.

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Typically, I don’t participate in pop culture astrology debates because they’re based on a handful of stereotypes (i.e. Taurus is food-obsessed, all Scorpios are stalkers, etc.) that greatly oversimplify the energy of each sign. BUT, Gemini hate is still so pervasive that I feel the need to defend them! A few short years ago, I myself disliked Geminis! I had a stereotypically two-faced Gemini “bff” growing up, and I would always reference this friend when I talked about how manipulative and inherently untrustworthy Geminis are.

My friend’s behaviour read like a stereotypical low-vibe Gemini: she would be nice to me sometimes, and other times would gang up with my brother and her brother (who is also a Gemini) to make fun of me. She would then drift back into our friendship as though nothing had happened, without apology or remorse. It was like the “evil twin” just took over occasionally and she was powerless to stop it, and when the evil twin had its fill, she went back to being a charming angel again. At some undetermined time in the future she’d do it again, and I never knew when it was going to happen.

It was like the “evil twin” just took over occasionally and she was powerless to stop it, and when the evil twin had its fill, she went back to being a charming angel again.

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With Geminis, though, because of their unique dual nature, and because they are mutable air, and air itself is already changeable, the reasoning (or lack thereof) behind Gemini’s behaviour is not generally well-understood.

ANYWAYS, my point is this: I get it. I, too, have been hurt by a Gemini. It sucks! Because when they’re good, they’re very good, and when they’re bad, they’re awful. And like I said, that evil twin just pops up out of nowhere and runs amuck and then goes back to whispering strange nothings in their ear, eternally playing devil’s advocate. However, I maintain that every sign has a high (or conscious) expression of their energy and a low (or unconscious) expression. So just as there are terrible Geminis, there are also terrible Sagittarians, and Capricorns, and everybody else.

With Geminis, though, because of their unique dual nature (no other sign has this dual nature besides Pisces), and because they are mutable air, and air itself is already changeable, the reasoning (or lack thereof) behind Gemini’s behaviour is not generally well-understood. As such, their intentions are often misinterpreted. This misinterpretation occurs when we project, or guess, the reasoning for their behaviour. For example, “My Gemini partner cheated on me. That must mean they don’t love me anymore!” It’s totally understandable that a person would reach that conclusion, but it’s usually not that simple, especially with Gemini.

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It is not Gemini’s fault that they are curious, anymore than it is Scorpio’s fault that they are suspicious of others. It’s just part of their make-up.

1. Geminis Are Curious

The email address of the aforementioned former bff’s brother (who you recall is also a Gemini) was literally “curious_boy.” Geminis have an insatiable curiousity—it’s why, at the high expression, they are always reading, always learning, always listening to the news or a podcast or an audiobook, or chatting with their friends on the phone, or hitting up that new local restaurant that just opened up. Geminis are insatiably curious, mainly about their immediate environments and local neighbourhood. They just have to catch up with their friend to hear about what’s new with them, moreso than most signs. On the low end, this can become an addiction to gossip (their curiousity can fixate on the lives of those around them), an addiction to drama, or a predisposition to lying (because what will happen if they do? Will the person believe it? Will they get caught? More at 6!).

Sometimes, depending on the level of trauma they’ve experienced and/or if they have fire placements or a flare for the dramatic, this curiousity becomes so defined that they seem to literally be at least two different people (hence their notorious reputation). There is actually nothing inherently wrong with this duality. In a high expression, it can be channelled through acting or drag; in a low expression, this can manifest as compulsively going by different names or lying about themselves. It is not any more Gemini’s fault that they are curious than it is Scorpio’s fault that they are suspicious of others. It’s just part of their make-up. Now, I am not saying that this is an excuse for harmful behaviour—it isn’t. However, I don’t think we should pathologize Gemini’s curiousity when, at a high expression, it manifests as a childlike wonder at the world around them that is a joy to watch. Or, it manifests as an insatiable thirst for knowledge, which can be very insightful and helpful to others.

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It is much better to think of their Spirit as that of a child, or something child-like, like a pixie. They just want to play! They just want to have fun! They just want to befriend the whole world.

2. Geminis Are Playful

Geminis are one of the babies of the zodiac, along with Aries and Taurus. They are youthful, even well into older age, and their curiousity is a part of that, but another aspect to it is their lightness of being. They tend to be light on their feet, light with their words, light in love, and sometimes, if they’re not using their energy well, light of pocket. Geminis do not grip tightly to anything in life (except perhaps their family, or certain childhood friends). They hold everything in life with a light grasp. To fixed signs (Taurus, Scorpio, Leo, Aquarius), this lightness can easily be mistaken for caprice or lack of loyalty. One of the things I used to say about Geminis all the time (I’m a Taurus Sun) is that they have no loyalty—they are too fickle. And at the low expression, that certainly can be true—they can be self-involved or careless to the point of harming others. It is true that their interests tend to change often, because of that precocious curiousity, but this does not mean that they aren’t capable of love or don’t become attached to others, especially if they have a lot of Earth or Fixed energy in their charts. They do love, they do get attached, and they can be quite dedicated to someone who respects their need for freedom, variety, and a wide social circle.

It is much better to think of their Spirit as that of a child, or something child-like, like a pixie. They just want to play! They just want to have fun! They just want to befriend the whole world, the way that small children realize they have the same favourite colour and become immediate friends, but are also okay when the sun sets and they have to go home. Gemini knows there is always another friend and another park waiting for them, so they don’t get too attached, generally speaking. Other signs do not understand the reasoning behind this lightness, which causes them to label Geminis as cold or careless. For Geminis, life is less about stability or intensity, and more about collecting experiences—it is anathema for a Gemini to be in a single place or job or relationship for too long. They can have long-term jobs and residences and relationships, but there need to be other ones, too. Without variety, they can turn cruel, neurotic, and manipulative. Just like Taurus is sensation-seeking, Gemini is experience-seeking. There is nothing inherently wrong with either of these things!

The outgoing twin vs the quiet twin

The outgoing twin vs the quiet twin

In the high expression, they are just little butterflies, flitting playfully through the air, going from flower to flower, cross-pollinating them with ideas.

3. Geminis Are Free Spirits

All Air signs are free spirits, but Gemini, being mutable air, is most so. In the low expression, this can manifest as narcissism—some Geminis believe that they are justified in doing whatever it takes to maintain their unconditional personal freedom. In the high expression, they are just little butterflies, flitting playfully through the air, going from flower to flower, cross-pollinating them with ideas (on the low end, you can easily see how this could translate to sexual promiscuity and/or cheating). The main point is this: Geminis need freedom to roam. They do not want to be claimed and cared for the way that a Cancer or a Leo does. Treating a Gemini this way will suffocate them, and will make their behaviour increasingly outlandish and extreme until their need for freedom is satisfied.

Again, this free-spirited nature is often mistaken for carelessness, but it isn’t necessarily. On the low end it can be, but on the high-end, a Gemini is aware of this and will construct a life for themselves in which they have freedom of movement and expression—perhaps they live alone, do not have children, or travel for work. This need for autonomy in and of itself is not a sinister thing. They simply want plenty of room to roam, play, chat, flirt, and learn.

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The thing with Geminis, though, is that (similarly to Libra), flirting does not necessarily portend anything sexual. It doesn’t even mean that there is interest or intent behind the flirting.

4. Geminis Are Flirts

This gets them into a lot of trouble, especially if they are dating fixed Sun signs (Taurus, Scorpio, Leo, Aquarius), or people with Fixed placements, because this will be seen as a betrayal. The thing with Geminis, though, is that (similarly to Libra), flirting does not necessarily portend anything sexual. It doesn’t even mean that there is interest or intent behind the flirting. Often, Geminis flirt out of curiousity (what will happen next?), playfulness, like a game (how well can I charm them?), or because they simply want to talk or use their notorious wit. Often, they flirt because they like the back-and-forth, and because it is novel and stimulating.

Again, this is not an excuse for Geminis to go and flirt with anyone and everyone, regardless of boundary agreements with their romantic partners, but it is a partial explanation. So if you’re reading this because you’re dating a Gemini Sun, and you see them flirt with other people, do not assume that it has sexual intent behind it (or any intent at all). Like a child, once they get bored with the interaction, they’ll set it down and move along. Of course, there are low-expression Geminis who knowingly flirt to cause drama, or who simply enjoy manipulating someone else. However, I’d argue every sign is capable of this (for different reasons).

Gemini Reconsidered

I hope that this has been informative in broadening your perspective and understanding of Geminis! As a Taurus, I didn’t always find their energy the easiest to understand, but now that I’ve been around some high-vibe Geminis, I can see that their energy, at its best, can be fun, fresh, invigorating, playful, thought-provoking, sweet, and expansive. I hope that you’ll at least give Geminis a chance before assuming they’re two-faced liars; personally, they have taught me quite a bit about trusting the universe, how to get unstuck, and how to approach life more playfully, with wide-eyed wonder rather than suspicion.

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Comments

Celine Araujo (author) from Toronto on November 03, 2020:

Haha I'm glad this resonated! Sounds like you're quite self-aware and embody many of the higher-vibe characteristics, so I applaud you there! Thanks so much for reading :)

Mr. Happy from Toronto, Canada on October 31, 2020:

"when they’re good, they’re very good, and when they’re bad, they’re awful" - Haha!! At least we're good at what we do. No, I'm just kidding. We're nice. I mean, I thought we were until I heard Donald Trump was a Gemini. That shattered my belief that Geminis were intelligent and decent. He's a complete donkey lol

But that's what happens when we generalize things, I would say. And You explained it very well: "just as there are terrible Geminis, there are also terrible Sagittarians, and Capricorns, and everybody else".

"their intentions are often misinterpreted" - Hence, I try to be as clear of my Intentions as possible. I do not like confusion, miscommunication, or misinterpretation. I like Clarity. : )

"Geminis are curious" - That's such an understatement. I'll travel half way across the world to see something if I get curious about that said something. I'll leave tomorrow morning if tonight I get curious about something half way across the world. It's happened before. Since I know that though, I am always ready to be on the move (just in case something comes up and things often do come up, out of thin air).

"an insatiable thirst for knowledge" - Yup. It never ends. I am constantly hunting Knowledge. Curiosity does play into that as well but the result is: hunting Knowledge.

I don't know about all the other "light" stuff but the comment that Gemini are "light on their feet" does certainly fit well for me. I can travel far on foot. I walk fast and can walk even with a heavy backpack for endless hours. I just day-dream and walk. As long as I have water and a little food I can keep going and there's little that can stop me.

"Gemini is aware of this and will construct a life for themselves in which they have freedom of movement and expression - perhaps they live alone, do not have children, or travel for work." - This made me laugh. Yes, no children, no wife, no dependents, no chains, thank You. I need to be able to move when I need to move. That is the way of this Being.

"just little butterflies, flitting playfully through the air, going from flower to flower, cross-pollinating them with ideas" - Isn't this just the perfect way to Be though? : )

"I hope that you’ll at least give Geminis a chance before assuming they’re two-faced liars" - I only have one Gemini buddy and he's a complete flirt. I tell him he should have been a porn-star. I get along fine with him but other than that I don't really know other Geminis. I find that I am already quite a handful to deal with so, I don't know how I would do among many other Geminis. I imagine it could be like a bunch of yoyo balls and quickly get out of hand. I mean, I could make a trip to the grocery store an adventure so ... haha!!

Alrighty, a fun read. Thanks for the attention to Geminis and for taking the time to understand some of the characteristics which are somewhat common for us.

Cheers!