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Understanding a Scorpio Woman

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Struggling to understand your Scorpio girlfriend or wife?

Struggling to understand your Scorpio girlfriend or wife?

Scorpios: October 23 Through November 22

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned," wrote William Congreve in his play, The Mourning Bride. I believe he was speaking of a Scorpio woman. When seeking revenge, she will wait patiently until her enemy or competition is at his weakest before she attacks. When people meet Miss Scorpio, they react in one of two ways. They either come closer to find out more about her, or they get as far away from her as possible.

She appears to act cold at times; however, the truth is she feels so deeply that she needs alone time to process what life is handing her. Her powerful emotions come from Scorpio's ruling astrological planet, Pluto, which represents life, death, and regeneration. This cycle describes, perfectly, a Scorpio woman preparing for the next phase of her life. Feeling so deeply contributes to the passionate temper of a Scorpio. The more immature Scorpios may prove to be very jealous and untrusting—two feelings that go hand-in-hand.

However, although Miss Scorpio is labeled the wicked woman in comparison to women born under other Sun signs, her nasty behavior isn’t displayed very often, especially as she gets older. She is more often very generous and sweet. She has an incredible sense of intuition and will use it to her advantage when choosing friends and lovers. It’s just that Mars, her other ruling planet, inspires an aggressive temper that gets her into trouble.



Spider, scorpion, lizard, serpent, wolf, eagle, and phoenix

Pluto and Mars




Black and burgundy



Scorpio Woman in Love

A Scorpio's glyph is shaped like the letter "M" with a scorpion's outward pointing tail

A Scorpio's glyph is shaped like the letter "M" with a scorpion's outward pointing tail

Miss Scorpio loves deeply and intensely and requires an unconventional physical relationship. Just like Mr. Scorpio, she is the ice form of the water signs. She also belongs to the sign of extremes. Most of her opinions are black and white. She can be genuinely sweet, kindhearted, and generous. She can also rip you to shreds with a glaring deep, dark stare and two words.

Miss Scorpio likes to be with a man—a strong-willed man. Because she is naturally dominant, she finds relief in being with a man whom she trusts to take control of any situation. The challenge is exciting as well. With this woman, you want to choose your battles wisely. She appreciates a meaningful, passionate battle occasionally; otherwise, she may become bored. She has seven symbols to evolve through, which means that she will be maturing as a Scorpio as she encounters obstacles. As she matures, you will find your Scorpio woman quite reserved and oozing confidence.

Once you have hooked Miss Scorpio, you will never find a love deeper than hers. She will fight and die for you and your children. She can be quite domestic, but only on her terms, and she must be appreciated. She makes a great wife, mom, and homemaker. Be well aware that Miss Scorpio will defend her family with all she has, like a mama Grizzly.

Here is an unusual image representing the Scorpio sun sign. I think it looks more like a lizard, another Scorpio symbol

Here is an unusual image representing the Scorpio sun sign. I think it looks more like a lizard, another Scorpio symbol

It is important to realize that each of us is an individual, created by God. We all have differences. Astrology helps to find the similarities we have. By studying our birth charts, we can find out more about our preferences, priorities, emotions, and flaws.

The birth chart is a picture of the sky at the exact time and place that a person is born. When determining one's character traits, it's important to take into consideration the astrological planets, zodiac constellations, houses of the zodiac, and the aspects between them at one's time of birth.

Famous Scorpio Women

  • Winona Ryder
  • Sally Field
  • Hillary Rodham Clinton
  • Goldie Hawn
  • Julia Roberts
  • Anne Hathaway
  • Grace Kelly
  • Katy Perry
  • Demi Moore
  • Scarlett Johansson
  • Calista Flockhart
  • Brittany Murphy

A Compatibility Chart for Scorpio















Thank you very much for your time and interest. The comments section below is for your opinion, constructive criticism, suggestions, and praise. Please feel free to express yourself.

"Be kind to one another" ~ Ellen

"God bless you" ~ Margaret Sullivan

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

© 2012 Mmargie1966


Kitty on October 01, 2019:

Im 11/13 Scorpio who has married twice Virgo and another Scorpio. My best relationship was with a Capricorn however they are a bit boring. Ive never been more relaxed as I was with Cappy but unfortunately he turned out to be a serial Cheater. Unfortunately All of them have proven to be weak Liars and Cheaters so I don't believe there is a perfect sign nor do I believe in a perfect man. Men are definitely not made for monogamy and they lack understanding on their roll and purpose in a relationship with a woman or as fathers. Its not until they grow too old to perform in bed that they finally can appreciate the connections. Such a damn shame because by this time, women have grown so tired of the BS, that they won't waste their energy on it anymore! "Many a man claim to have unwavering love, but a faithful man, Who can find?" The Bible

Scorpio -nm on December 07, 2018:

Honestly, depends on the people. As a Scorpio, I was miserable with Virgo, Taurus was a holy disaster, Libra was perfect with their understanding of my intense emotions, and need for space, but was too submissive, and Cancer, never again. But I have Scorpio friends who found their better halves with each of these signs.

Me? I've found it with a Capricorn. But he's not a typical stuck up Cap, either. I don't like games. I don't like beating around the bush. I prefer blunt. And my Capricorn has been that since day one, and has been consistent and persistent in his attentions and affections, since the very beginning, no matter how much of a rollercoaster ride I take him on with these ridiculous emotional waves.

And honestly, isn't that all we want, what anyone wants? Someone who sees and acknowledges our flaws, but loves us unconditionally regardless? Rather it's two months in, or 40 years?

Because say what you want. I am perfectly capable of getting my own "power and money," I don't need my partner to have it too. What I need is someone who gives their love and support as good as I do. Because all the power and wealth of the world isn't going to be the comfort I need on a cold, sleepless night. That unconditional love is.

NAZMUL AHSAN on September 10, 2018:

My heart! who born in 23rd October and she do all for heart me! trust, commitment etc is not in her dictionary but I love you and its ever! In my unconscious mind know all over that I want you live a happier also a smaller face. Actually, I am also confused may I love you much than me!

- a loser man who born on 22 August 1988

Oyi on August 07, 2018:

Ummm The quiz is weird. I dont really like long talks and I dont like the color red i like Blue

brandy on August 05, 2018:

As a scorpio female born 11/09 I always have felt the attraction between two scorpios is too magnetic, it's too strong and the energy is way too much. It always feel like death to me. I don't know why but I always feel like if I was to be with another scorpio we would be at each other's throats and probably sting each other to death, because we wouldn't give up until both were out for the count. I find that also as a Scorpio it is difficult for me to date a Cancer. I feel they are way too emotional, and to dependent. As an Independent Scorpio woman I am attracted to mostly earth signs and air signs. I feel that water and fire are too suffocating. Then again, my birth chart has mostly water, fire and earth signs with some air signs so I suppose I have all elements. I also notice that Cancer only shows up once in my chart and that's as a midheaven. Scorpio however shows up quite a bit. More than any water sign. Then I have a lot of Aries next and then Capricorn, followed by Libra. Those are the signs I can't stand being around. Aries is too controlling to date. Libra is not sexually stimulating enough. Capricorn bores me to tears, perhaps because my moon is in Cap but then Cancer is just too freaking emotional. I have a tendency to shut down with them or they shut me out one. We just never get along well. Anyway, the above description is so 100% me.

Iceman on May 20, 2018:

I sever a mighty good God, all a woman need is love, affection and attention. It doesn't matter her sign. She a woman given grace by the Lord.


Shy-me on March 26, 2018:


I am a scorpion woman, and i recently met a Capricorn guy. I loved his will power! He is everything mentioned in the video above. He left me wanting, and demanding more from him! He got me real hard. I wanted his attention but hardly got it, I started to have serious trust issues and blocked him. He got to know and was very mad at me. I have reached out to him after that but he seems not to love or care about me as much and as deep as i about him, and that was what scared me from the unset, I knew i was deep and could not control my emotions with him! I feel he either does not love me enough to make it work or he is scared I would be a trouble maker....I wish he got to know the sweet side of me but we had not even stared dating when I was always complaining of getting less attention. I became crazy and starting to think he was talking to another girl, trust issues came in etc! I still miss him and think of calling him every now and then but I have to have a self worth. I only pray I find me my only Capricorn husband or God brings us back together if it was meant to be!

J on January 25, 2018:

My scorpio girlfriend promised revenge after a nasty row last night. I found it in the morning. She put one of my work boots 5 feet away in a little bush. Guess I got off easy.

Maham on December 05, 2017:

I am a scorpio woman born 26 oct .i think i am very feelings r just like fire balls and i only love onethat is IBRAHIM and i am madly loyal and honest with him .if you met scorpio woman never tease her otherwise she'll make your life narrow to live and never leave her if she is single but before this too look once at you

Cancer on November 15, 2017:

Have had my most wonderful and special moments with Scorpiowomen!

Synthia on November 04, 2017:

My son's gf is scorp sun. She keeps unplugging the grow lights I use on the peace lily from my daughters funeral. Scorp doesn't wait til your weak, they just dive right in deliberately.

Mark on October 18, 2017:

I'm a Taurus in love/lust with a Scorpio lady. Let me tell you she is a ball of emotions and fire. She retreats into silence sometimes and that drives me quietly mad. However when she comes out of her box no women is more enchanting and hypnotic then her. I just want her to be more expressive on how she's really feeling about things though.

Shasta singh on September 30, 2017:

Scorpios are nice people.they luv so deeply that it sometimes hurt them.all they need is loyalty and nothing.they r bt jealous thy are just striking to be in top by their means and by hitting or leaving someone.they live in the past and ruined today ,hell bt interested in future.

Traits on September 16, 2017:

This posting is for all Scorpios who are leaning into a relationship with another Scorpio.

I have a theory. I think that a Scorpio has the opportunity to be happiest if They ARE with another Scorpio...!

Why? Because if the two set their parameters and have complete understanding of one another... there can be.. no stronger or more devoted couple.. to one another .

I think the it often requires ANOTHER Scorpio.. to make a Scorpio feel they are understood. Who else to better comprehend the mysterious, often deep Scorpio.. than another one?

So talk, understand each other, and KNOW that there is someone at your back that thinks like you and GETS You.

For those who pause because someone.. who is non-Scorpio.. says it won't work... don't listen!

Why? Because if these two passionate people have FULL understanding of each other they are unstopable and inseparable.

There is no stronger couple than this one if they have endeavored to be on the same wavelength! Can I say... SMOKIN'?

Scorpio & Gemini on July 07, 2017:

They say no, but know he keeps me grounded and gives me a different perspective....he completes me!

Dave Keiser on July 04, 2017:

Me and the wife both Scorpio, 4 years and going strong. Interesting, passionate, NEVER boring from day 1.

Bunny on June 07, 2017:

Scorp sun and ascendant, cancer moon. I'm supposed to get on really well with earth signs but I find them soooooo boring and kind of obnoxious?? Recently dated a Virgo guy who was the total package on paper, but he just didn't push the right buttons for me and I found myself avoiding him. Was hung up on a Capricorn for a while who is so uptight and self righteous. My last ex is a Taurus who is even more self righteous. I much prefer the company of air and fire signs even though they don't love me the way I love them!!!

jaiden on May 17, 2017:

Hello, i am a scorpio, female born on November 13 and i feel like i am a strange scorpio, like i am for the most part all in love and loyal but i'm not very dominant or have confidence, i recently have gooten with a libra and i am submissive to him. i see that a libra and a scorpio are a hard couple to match, why is that? is there any way i can keep what we have? can it work out!? i am so unsure of myself and i trust him but in the back of my mind reading that we aren't a very compatible match i feel let down. is it possible to calm my emotions and give him what he needs?

J on April 04, 2017:

Im in a relationship with a Scorpio Woman and all the things written above are very true. But, sadly I am Mr.Gemini and its so heartbreaking that we are not compatible, even now we are having troubles cuz we(she) dont (she)understand each others feelings. Im also in doubt if she loves me. Fruatrating in a sense that I can see the ideal wife Im looking for yet we are in a situation that we are far apart. Shes miles apart and I know that distance is only a number if you really love each other. Love conquers all I guess.

I hope she can read this :( cuz I cant sleep thinking about how difficult thing we have right now. -LOVE

Belle on March 06, 2017:

I am a scoprion woman and it is sooo true about the phases we go through!I can proudly say I am in the more calmer, reserved stage of my life, but boy - mess with my loved once and I WILL prob go back t stinging!! LOL!

Mmargie1966 (author) from Gainesville, GA on January 14, 2017:

I too am a Scorpio woman. Its always better to be the bigger person. However, sometimes I plot revenge in my own mind and find its satisfying just knowing I can...but I don't.

LIVIA101 on January 12, 2017:

I am a scorpio born November 1, 1993. My boyfriend for two years is a pisces...well, i must say he is very much a wanderer; he is here then he is gone and it got to me, called it quits then he got mushy and all and because i love him we decided to get back. I know, i know i just know he isnt or was serious cause nothing changed and knowing me ill do something crazy but i thought about it all one day and say to myself ill be the bigger person and turn away gracefully. I still feel like doing something real crazy #PISSESD

Christina on January 10, 2017:


Be careful what you wish for lol

Pisces men are never ready to see what their Scorpio women will show them. She'll ground you. Solidify you. Make you face reality. Rain on your parade, that was my ex husband's most common complaint.

You need that, but you don't necessarily want it. You're illusive, I would assume, but you won't escape her. Even if she throws in the towel, you'll keep finding your way back to her, because ultimately, she's the only one...

ren on November 04, 2016:

I am a Pisces, and I want a Scorpio woman so bad!

Sun&Moon on October 19, 2016:

I see I posted a question in the wrong article...I was wondering whether it is possible to get insight/guidance(if possible) to an issue related to a Scorpio woman. I am a man with Sun in Capricorn, Ascendant in Pisces and Moon in Sagittarius. I would like to explain the incident in detail but a little more private if that is possible..?


Jo on August 16, 2016:

Every single word of this is 100% true to me! It describes me to a T.

What I need help and or advice with is... Sagittarius man-scorpio women (myself) why aren't these signs a good match? What's the pros and cons of the two signs together? Or any knowledge would be helpful. I'm ready to walk away after a few yrs invested.

babu on May 18, 2016:

I'm a leo and my women is scorpion. beginning of our marriage was very good but after 10 yrs, i feel like i have made a biggest mistake to make her my life partner. Very complicated, very very difficult to manage. They just like to be praised always in return they never praise their partner. If i like blur she likes red, if i like yellow she liker white e.g. Totally opposite. its been 7 months she is staying away from me to her parents house. We have a child and i'm really worried that if i could continue any more.

jlo on April 06, 2016:

I'm a Scorpio and I married a Gemini and it was great or so I thought until he started sleeping in the living room and not next to me. Also he didn't even come hm for our first wedding anniversary now he won't give me a divorce.

Alicia Wright on October 21, 2015:

I was born on 31 October at 0212. This is the Scorpion holiday, and I am very pleased to have this birthday and zodiac sign. My rising sign is ♍ and the combination is wonderful. I had a boyfriend who was a ♍ with Scorpio rising. Needless to say, the relationship was extremely volatile! And did not last. I have predominantly Scorpio traits, and would not change my sign,even if I could!

Javier on May 08, 2015:

Wanting to spend time with my Scorpio girlfriend she is always tired and doesn't feel like is she to comfortable with me will she seek out attention else were

Donna on March 05, 2015:

While true we do not engage in a fight where circumstances are such that we would not win - no rational person does that, plus losing is not an option and we do not surrender - we also don't necessarily wait until an enemy is weak to attack. We don't attack the weak ever, we are above that, though when necessary we will educate them for their own good if they arent smart enough to stop. More like we will engage someone who attacks on our terms, not on theirs. And we will let them know what our terms are and what the outcome will be in order to give them a chance to be reasonable so we don't have to crush them. We don't want to have to do that, and they know that we don't want to have to do it just as sure as they know that we will do it completely if they go too far. Their choice. We defend effectively but rarely pick a fight.

Dove on December 22, 2014:

I am a rising scorpio according to side real. Have had two long relationships and both had strong scorpio in their side real charts.

First one ended up in several betrayals. The next one ended up when she moved far away with our children.

Now I have met the first one and she regretted everything she had done. She called me as a perfect partner after 9 years of unsatisfying relationship of jealousy and fighting.

The another one just went together with a new man and she says that I am ruining her life and I am full of bullshit and falsehood. Now that is quite strange since I am a Buddhist and really trying to transmute my dark forces into light with the help of Buddhist teachings.

After 9 years, life finally gave my first ex a lesson. She found out that her boyfriend had cheated on her few times. I knew that some time life will give her a lesson and it would be unnecessary for me to carry resentment or hatred. You reap what you sow.

Now I am single and trying to pull my life back together. I will never again let my passion and optimism that comes from Moon in Pisces blind my eyes. The eternal search for love just keeps on going on. But as they say, true love is not out there somewhere but deep within our own sense of beingness. Perhaps I a Piscean woman would understand the depths of the mind and emotions of a Scorpio/Pisces man.

Bob on February 23, 2014:

Iam a gemini and shes a scorpio. Things were awesome at first,ive never felt so loved or had so much fun. Then her derranged ex shows up again wanting the family thing back together. They have a daughter together and he uses that to get to her and knows that she will cave in . Said she had things to work on. Things with them are like stuff you see on Jerry Springer. I didn't understand but I gave her her space. Just waiting for her to see that you can't change someone in that way. I stay my distance because you can't make scorpios see what's really going on . I hope that she sees the light without getting hurt.

Vanessa_27 on December 24, 2013:

I'm a scorpio born in the year of the tiger. My boyfriend is a piscean. Our relationship is magical. The spiritual connection is just too strong. I have all those traits mentioned above.

Mmargie1966 (author) from Gainesville, GA on December 03, 2013:

I completely understand, denisefenimore! I am a Scorpio woman with a Sag rising, also.

denisefenimore on December 01, 2013:

I'm a Scorpio woman in love with a Leo. He isn't usually the take charge guy you say I should be with (and it is annoying). I now understand why I get so turned on when he fixes something that is broke. When he installed the new furnace I had to really control myself from attacking him! lol I have Sagittarius rising and I slip that mask on towards the world, but inside you hit who I am!

Little Prince on October 23, 2013:

I'm a capricorn and I love my scorpio girlfriend. The only thing that makes us apart is the time......

Erica85 on October 07, 2013:

I'm a scorpio woman n i can truthfully say all this info applys T̸̸̮̮̃ø̲̣̣ me and i honestly wouldn't change a thing

Mmargie1966 (author) from Gainesville, GA on March 13, 2013:

Actually, Yubaba, Scarlett Johansson was born on the last day of Scorpio in 1984. She is officially labelled a Scorp, but she really is on the cusp and would have traits of both signs. Thank you so much for commenting.

Yubaba on March 11, 2013:

Wait, why is Scarlett Johansson listed as a Scorpio? She's a Sagittarius!

scorpio 1 on January 20, 2013:

I am a scorpio woman who married a scorpio man and was a disaster...he made my sweetness dissapear... and yes we scorpio woman love and protect our family...but betrayel is not accepted !!! ;)

Mmargie1966 (author) from Gainesville, GA on September 30, 2012:

That doesn't sound like a very favorable experience, kyonis Hamiel. I hope all is well now. Thank you for commenting.

kyonis Hamiel on September 29, 2012:

Take it from me im a Picese if she is provoked she will STING back. i should know because i did it to her before...

Mmargie1966 (author) from Gainesville, GA on July 28, 2012:

As long as you don't betray her or her family, you probably won't see that side of her. She only acts when provoked. Loyalty is extremely important to her. Based on your actions, she will either be your best friend, or your worst nightmare. Many times the latter occurs because she is defending someone other than herself. (I am a Scorpio)

Marcy Goodfleisch from Planet Earth on July 28, 2012:

One of my dearest friends is a Scorpio, but I have never seen a vindictive side of her (at least not like mentioned here!). Wow - something to think about! Voted up!

Mmargie1966 (author) from Gainesville, GA on July 23, 2012:

It sounds like you speak from experience, EFranz13. Thanks so much for sharing.

EFranz13 from Pittsburgh, PA - USA on July 23, 2012:

Scorpio + Scorpio = Steamy Passion with lots of Drama

EFranz13 from Pittsburgh, PA - USA on July 21, 2012:

It takes a very special man to understand (and deal with) a Scorpio woman.

opiningminion on July 21, 2012:

You hit the nail on the head! Regards, a fellow Scorpio

Mmargie1966 (author) from Gainesville, GA on July 21, 2012:

Absolutely! I'm a Scorpio also, and I have been in that sitaution...more than once!

Thank you for comenting.

Karthik Kashyap from India on July 21, 2012:

I am a Scorpio guy in love with a Scorpio woman.. And oh boy, talk about a double roller coaster ride :)