Sylvia Sky, M.A., M.F.A., experienced astrologer, writes about astrology, Tarot, and spirituality.
The Sign of Balance = The Illusion of Balance
True Librans don’t like conflict or ugliness. They want tranquil homes decorated artistically. They are so gracious and generous that friends are shocked when they first see Libra throw a tantrum, or realize that Libra told a lie. Why, it’s hard to believe it’s the same person!
Hard to believe? Think of Mahatma Gandhi. He started as a lawyer, but quit and became famous for passive resistance. This was a great and successful political move and also true to his sign. Libra shies away from conflict everywhere—except within the family. Hero though he was, Gandhi ignored his wife, refused to send his sons to college, and disowned his eldest because he married instead of being chaste. I guarantee there was as much yelling in his home as there is in every Libra home. But when the phone rings, Libra will answer it calmly and sweetly.
Not Peacemakers, Just Passive
Librans want peace and negative ones want it at any price, even if it means sneaking around, denying, controlling, and drama. If peace can’t be had, silence and secrets will do. Dark-side Librans ignore or hush up reports of pain or unpleasantness and fool themselves that things they don't acknowledge didn't happen.
Because they repress their pain and everybody else's, they have meltdowns. Think of Judge Judy (born October 21) and the pain she's seen and absorbed over 25 years as a judge in family court. She balances that by verbally skewering and humiliating people. Another TV judge who had an attitude is Simon Cowell (Oct. 7). Men with a Libra Sun or Moon are masters of “the silent treatment” and passive aggression. It took Libran baseball idol Mark McGwire (Oct. 1) five years to confess to using steroids. It might take five years to get your own Libra male off your sofa. He will yell that all he wants is some peace.
Librans might speak kindly in public, but even the best ones do not really believe others have feelings or brains. They see everyone as mindless and feel called to enlighten them. For example, take Gwyneth Paltrow (Sept. 27), Gandhi again, and John Lennon (Oct. 9), the love-and-peace guy who cheated on his first wife "thousands" of times and told her so. A Libra mom still reminds her 50-year-old daughters to say “thank you.”
Libra Guests and Invitations
Negative Librans are worrywarts and being or feeling alone is the most horrible thing they can imagine. They will compensate for with food (especially fats, alcohol, and sweets) and urge others to overindulge along with them. Like the diet sodas they love, negative Librans are artificially sweet.
Often, Libran guests arrive late if at all, and invitations from Libra specify the time you should leave so they can be their irritable selves again. A Libran I worked with began the day by removing her coat and airing her daily 20-minute complaint. She had no idea she had this habit. Another one I knew years later did the same; hard to believe, but true! I invited her to be part of a group, and they made fun of her "opening monologue" behind her back.
A negative Libra will move in with or marry someone to escape the financial or emotional pit they have dug for themselves. When charged with bad behavior, they will say, “Oh, I’m such a bad person. I’ve been so bad to you all this time.” The more articulate Libras will quote Gandhi: “Hate the sin but love the sinner.”
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
Question: I was born on December 20th, but my family members say that my zodiac sign is Libra. How?
Answer: They are simply wrong.
© 2011 Sylvia Sky
Selkhis Lilth on August 25, 2020:
Lol, so true. The women i deal w them at a distance. Im scorpio. So if i find your chatty, im out of here. The men. Great lays. But talk to damn much. Been with one for 3 1/2 years. And booooyyyyyy. Did i learn a lot! Everything in this article rings true. As well as the comments below. The guy loved me and hated me. I learned to not tell secrets. When he offers and insists, i decline. After a while i did not allow him to do much for me. Thats how you deal w a libra. They're so charming, and appear to be understanding at first. Buts its a ruse. Because the same person who, held your hands, hugged you and said everything will be ok we're going to get through this together, will be the same person who tells your weak, thats why these things happen. You probably deserved it etc. Every single thing you confided in the libra will thrown back at you as a weapon to hurt you. I was accused of keeping secrets, not being an open book. When the fact of the matter is, they no fodder to throw back. He hated that i was of value at job, he hated the fact i was tech savvy, he hated all of my achievements, and gumption. He prayed for my downfall so i can need him. When he was on his drinking binge, everything and anything was fair game. The verbal abuse was ridiculous. But when i was over it. Turned to a puppy, sorry from heaven to hell. Then he would get mad insanely mad when ignored. Thank god i did not give up my apartment! Beware of libra men. They are the true incarnations of the narcissists! Im a full rounded scorpio, meaning, i know and accepts my flaws, faults and dark side. Its a constant battle. But when with him, its a real fight not to let myself go to that dark, vindictive, ruthless place. I had left him. Then found out he had suffered a bad injury. Came to help him. We got back together. Now i know how to deal with him..
Susana Smith from UK on May 06, 2020:
This is spot on. I'm surrounded by Librans in my family, was married to one for 15 years and I have a strong Libran energy with 4 planets in the 7th house (including sun, mercury and venus).
The negative side of Libra is hard to bear.
mercurian on April 19, 2020:
All those who commented and appear to be a Libra and can't handle criticism, you just proved the whole author's point. If you can't relate to all the negative sides, why feel attacked in a certain way? My ruling element is air, ruling sign Gemini and as a Gemini, I can't stand Librans in general. You would think that, as a Venus sign they would be loving and all but in reality they are anything but like that. I have negative experiences with them, well the females not the males. The males appear to be charming, romantic and very friendly. The women are backbiting, self-absorbed, jealous and very lazy! But again, these are the negative ones I'm talking about, of course. I have yet to find a Libra female who is willing to be a real friend instead of being jealous and gossipy.
aidencifer23 on April 08, 2020:
S-so libras... stuff i didnt know.... im sorry libras act like this...i havent acted like that... but i guess that comes when you grow up... im sorry...
Truly2 on March 16, 2020:
AChandler78 Interesting and winded monologue just not sure if you believe your bs or just working tirelessly to convince us? Sag here...we like the truth pure and simple and won’t accept anything less.
LeonineCharmer on March 15, 2020:
What Calipreston said made my heart sink!! I am a bi Leo female and fell for this Libra woman, who I have been friends with for around 2-3 years, and fell for her over a year ago. After the beginning of the year she started being more flirtatious. Thinking nothing of it as that's how she is, she started laying it on thick, changing her tone in her texts and emojis (I only mention that bc they seem fascinated with the damn things). She told me she loved me and carried on, even said I was her world, her confidante, her saving grace (Calipreston), then when I started thinking OK maybe there is something here she carried on for weeks, then bam. Started playing head games until we finally got head to head and she said no I never did that, we are just friends. OK so now she knows many of my inner secrets and treating me like nothing really changed between us except less lovey dovey stuff. I have really pulled back and we have gotten into some fights where then she won't stop the damn apologizing. I feel I am always there, I mean daily, to boost her up, just to not have her there when I need her or to even respond to a text in a decent amount of time. Don't ignore a Leo or disrespect us for too long! You want to see fire, you'll get the air ripped from your sales! This article and comments have really opened my eyes. I wonder what she is saying behind my back. Wow! I really am reevaluating things now for sure!!
Erika Price on February 20, 2020:
A lot of u on this site say too much. Nobody wants to read thru all that so i'll say what really matters and make it quick. Ive been with a Libra since aug 2018 and b4 that i was with a mental scorpio. All i can say is huge diff. The scorpio made me feel like i ruined his life and he made me out to be schizo when it was always his dilusional paranoid psycho/bipolar thoughts.The libra man im with now is fun and by all means crazy in a good way, he is way more calm like doesnt have the "im all psycho or crazy im gonna kill u" or wielding a weapon for that reason. Libras are more stable than most. My strict advice as a Leo, NEVER EVER GO FOR A SCORPIO no matter if ur sign is a good match and if u do get along in the start...U will just end up ruined or even dead. All scorpios are poison and made out to be like we're the horrible ones. This is also called sosiopathic. Every sign is capable of this but ive only seen it with the Scorpio sign. Sorry scorpios but theres something not right in ur messed up heads. U are all psycho. Scorpios are all about ruining your life and possibly planning to kill by all means. Even u. Their lover. They dont mind killing u if thats what it takes. For what. I dont know. My advice is asking a scorpio why do they want this. They just say: If thats what it takes. Hard to get anything out of someone that hides behind a fake smile. K so i love every other sign. Absolutely, every sign except for that poison scorp. Please everyone be free and say what u will. I am a lion. I wont bite ur head off lol. Peace.
Ellana Nelson on January 22, 2020:
Im happy i read this because hubpages looks like an awesome website. And i had to join to comment lol. I don't know about everyone else but i was so stumped at myself this morning i resorted to blaming my sign. I read a comment saying that a libra was only fixated on her friends failures not her success and was thinking that's not a real friend. When im being nice to others i feel like bringing them up is what i should do but in reality i may not actually like them and i feel guilty. It's hard to be happy for someone you don't genuinely click with. My best advice for anybody is know thyself it is OK to not care or like people and not be friendly. Pretending to be nice is so much more hurtful than being honest.
Ventibreeze on December 18, 2019:
Mmmmm Librans, I’ve known a few, the first one a friend of a friend, a woman, I overheard bitching me out about my extra pounds (lol) in a pub one night, she was sitting in the next booth to me blissfully unaware that I could hear everything she was saying about me, me sagittarius with a big ego (and ass) apparently and a sharp little virgo moon wasted no time in letting her have my arrows, it shut her up!
The second was a much much older woman that I used to work with was such a liar I mean she lied about everything she would embellish the facts so much so that it made everyone around her smile because they knew what she was up to and still she carried on, it became a bit of a joke amongst the staff, but the thing that stood out for me was how unbelievably cold hearted this woman was, I mean stone cold ruthless to the core, this libra was married, had been for many many years had several children with her husband apparently had suffered much abuse from her husband but continued to live with him because it suited her financially, her words, not mine! She was having an affair with a much younger man who lavished gifts on her constantly, this we knew was true, she talked terribly about him behind his back, belittling berating and putting him down constantly, she would talk badly about other staff when she thought no one was around, if you caught her at it and called her out on her behaviour then you could count yourself the enemy. If you showed fear or didn’t talk back then she would consider you a friend. She avoided me like the plague, lol. Users and liars that’s what the majority of librans have been to my knowledge.
Intenze on November 20, 2019:
OH YEAHHH The'yre some sexy bad azzes. The word baddie was created because of them. Libra women are a lot to handle but sooooo worth it I love their fiestiness and exciting energy. I wouldn't trade my beautuful Libra baddie for nothing. I'm fascinated by them. Strong beautiful powerhouses just like Kim K, Cardi and Queen Halsey. Give it all to me the good and the bad. Theres so many sides to a Libra, such exciting creatures. The realest women in the zodiac I love their tell it like it is ways. We've all got good and bad sides ofcourse since nobodys perfect but I find Libras so well rounded. I'll take it all. You can't be weak around these majestic women. I honestly think they smell it.
TarlaChan on November 10, 2019:
I am a Libra. And I know that Libra's have dark side, and how deep it truly goes.
What's hard is, is that a lot of this does happen. It's true. Librans can truly be cruel and selfish, manipulative and conniving.
But hard for the Librans who try their absolute best so show that they are genuine, and actually try to be even and open minded. It's an incredibly difficult situation to be in when people don't believe you're telling the truth or being real.
I'm not saying like "oh I'm offended so I'm just going to pretend that Libra's are perfect and it's everyone else's fault." I'm not.
I know Librans do this, I'm one of them. I have my absolutely awful moments when I break someone's trust, when I hurt someone's feelings, and try to control everything and act like it's not my fault. I. Have. Done. This. But I've also tried to genuinely fix my mistakes and repair the damage I cause because of my behavior. Not all Librans try to make it up to people, but I know a good portion of them out there do.
I'm sorry many of you have had incredibly bad experiences with Librans, but understand that not all of them deserve to be so harshly judged. Some of us try really hard to break the image a handful of Librans create.
Sleepysilver on November 01, 2019:
I don't even let libras or those with venus or mars in libra close to me. I am taurus with a highly aries dominance,and i just want to puke thinking about libras utterly shameful fakeness. Really a Pisces dreamworld is the realest compared to it. How on earth can a libra lie so long,bring up drama and then pretend to be a peace maker. The ones i know are just crazy,they put other's in danger with their pseudo judgements,cool you don't like drama,then think better if you don't like to see people suffer,no wonder aries is the opposite,you have to be ignorant and strong like an aries to let go so easy of so much bull a libra can ask for.
Not one good libra i came along,what's wrong with this sign ,i mean seriously? Or is it the karma ? Exalted in saturn... bring a virgo sagittarius or leo even aquarius to venus,I'm ashamed a libra represents venus,it's not love what you bring it's dirt and lies. Send them to Neptune with their hiding addiction.
Molldi on October 22, 2019:
Libra men are so controlling and a manipulative person I’m a Scorpio so that didn’t last long with me. But he was nice and attentive. He also wanted an apology for every thing I said so we broke up after he exploded with me and I told him off in no uncertain terms. Nobody tells scorpios what to do.
Molldi on October 22, 2019:
Dated a Libra over a year. Very nice guy. Kind loving. But always react to things I say. And wanted an apology. I went along with it till one day I said something to him and he blew up saying I’m criticizing him which left me in shock. Because I’ve never seen that side of him. Then he stop talking to me. I’ve tried to reach him but he won’t answer. So I’m like that is the craziest thing.
Linea Glick on October 20, 2019:
I have known male and female Libras. The thing I don't like is how they can gossip VERY negatively about people (behind their back) but talk in their "sweet tones" and are charming and complimentary to you in person -- that you may not know that the Libra IS the source of the negative and/or false rumors.
My worst experiences involved 3 different Libras.
One older female Libra and two younger males Libras. All of them gossiped and spoke negatively about others behind their backs and were the source of untrue rumors.
The little trick Libra's use is saying... "I heard that..." when in fact they did NOT hear anything, they are the ones FALSELY promoting some "theory" (in their head} as if it is an "eye-witness" account. Which is usually just a LIE.
I was shocked at how "fake nice" my Libra college professor (who was also my advisor for a college club) would talk SH*T about other professors, administrators and anyone who seemed to have a "higher position" of authority than her. Yet when she encountered these same people "in person" she would put on her "sweet" voice and was all Libra "charm" and compliments. These people would never guess that Professor Libra was NOT at all on their side and was infact VERY jealous of them.
The other two Libras were two different guys at my college who literally went 20 miles out of their way to pursue me (and later stalked) me after I rejected them, ended communications.
The first Libra guy became interested in me from a far by noticing me on Facebook when I commented on a mutual college friend's photo (which included Mr. Libra) and I said (you guys look like a GQ magazine cover).
Well, Mr. Libra 1 must have gotten "turned on" by my comment because he Facebook friended me and took the initiative to send me a "Hey" message but must have changed his Libra mind and sent me a second (bizarre) message that was an obvious LIE, claiming he thought he was sending the message to his sister.
It was an obvious LIE because
(1) his sister's name is completely different than mine. Not even the same first letter.
(2) Really? He can't see or type his sister's name in his FB IM?
But Libra guy 2 WAS THE WORST!
LIES on top of LIES from the start!
Libra guy 2 met me and my husband "TOGETHER" at a college Christmas party. Yet, that didn't stop Mr Libra from pursuing me and creating "DRAMA" by telling his friends I was "divorced" or "was getting a divorce".
Mr Libra 2 also had LOT of Scorpio. Scorpio Ascendant, Venus and Mercury in Scorpio conjunct his Pluto in Scorpio which was in his 1st House. This made his Mr Libra 2 VERY determined, possessive, jealous, vindictive and revenge seeking when I didn't do what he wanted. I eventually had to reject him, "block" him and go "No Contact" with Mr. Libra 2.
Mr. Libra 2 was so sly and subtle that it took me several months to figure out he was an abusive controoling person.
One of the typical tactic of abusers things he did was try to "isolate" me from my friends and family.
In person with me he followed me around my campus and was excessively "helpful". When he learned I didn't own a car, he would "insist" on driving home from class.
But after a few weeks he started creating all kinds of excuses to "keep" me with him...
Oh Mr Libra had to pick up my dry cleaning...
oh Mr. Libra needed to pick up something from the super market... wanna come with?...
Oops Mr. Libra "forgot" his wallet at his apartment (he insisted I come in so I would have to sit in a hot car) clever way to get a female in a Libra males apartment.
When I say Mr. Libra 2 was pursuing me, it was LOVEBOMBING!!!
Mr. Libra 2 was buying me gifts, showing up at my house (uninvited) and sent me a message saying he "Loved me with every fiber of his being"!
Mr. Libra was literally trying to break up my marriage.
But why? I thought.
The best I could figure is why Mr. Libra 2 was so eager to be with me is.
(1) I owned a fully paid large condo.
(2) I didn't have to work (I had investment income).
(3) I had the "right" appearance for him to be seen with. (tall, thin, blond).
(4) I am skilled at photography. (I made Mr. Libra 2 look good in photos).
(5) I had a wide circle of friends and social networks. (Mr. Libra perceived that as "popular")
I normally got along with everyone. My life was fairly quiet and normal until Mr. Libra came into my life.
I knew something was ODD when I started getting strange. angry messages from friends and acquaintances without any apparent cause.
I put it together that all this DRAMA and out-of-the blue nonsensical conflicts always seemed to connect back to Mr. Libra 2, He was always the mutual link.
I learned the term for what Libras do to create this unnecessary drama... it's called TRIANGULATION!
Libras create a conflict between two acquaintances who not normally have any conflict by Libra telling each person the other "said" something negative about them, when in fact, it never happened. Libra simply makes up LIES any tells opposite stories to each person so that those two people who may not even know one another, are upset about (false) claims originally made up by the Libra.
The Libra 2 guy I knew literally created a conflict between a Sagitarrius girl I did NOT know -- she was sending me DM's telling me how much she HATED me and I was thinking, I don't know this girl and she doesn't know me except for seeing photos of me with Mr. Libra on Facebook.
But Libra guy 2 created these "conflict triangles" with other people.
I eventually had enough of Libra guy. I ended all contact.
Calipreston on October 13, 2019:
The thing about Libras is that public image is everything to them. If you think libras like the fine things and fancy clothes, they want the best public image as well. All libras say that hate being embarassed; so much that they are willing to betray someone or talk shit about someone else in public to distract everyone's attention from their flaws or faults. They're good communicators and mediators; they know what words that all the patience and wise people would say, so you would believe them and even sympathise with them. They have this bubbly, sweet and openminded personality and claim to only want peace; until you realize how much they crave dramas with all their badmouhthing against the people they claim to be "friends". In love, these people are loyal, as long as you are useful and fit the perfect image they have of how a life with a perfect partner should be. Once they see that another can give better, they will give themselves over to another (but they wont leave you, ever. It will make them seems like all is a playful and innocents relations that they have and its you, the bad guy, who fucks them over). Im dealing with a libra mom. She is the most flaky and fake person i know. She talks shit about everyone and try to coaxes you into hating those people that she hates as well. When contronted, she will attacks you, cry, yell about how unfair life is and youre a bad guy for tainting the pristine image that they have. She will start to talk about God, religion, peace, until she gets her way again and start to manipulate others so much. She made me hate my dad for cheating but she herself cheat several times. Becayse they like gossip so much, leave her dry with nothing to talk about. Dont tell libras your secrets or anything. Keep it light and simple. Theyre the perfect acquintance. Not friends, lovers, wife or husbands, especially not your confidante. To pull you in, a libra will start to compliment or encourage you. Tell you sad stories, tell you that you knows them better than themselves, that you are their savior.
Lillypoopsalot on October 11, 2019:
I know a few Libras. One is highly generous, but very, very controlling, everything HAS TO go their way. If it’s not going their way they will manipulate until...
The women love only themselves, crave attention, are users, connive to no end, but claim it’s never their fault... BALANCE, where? And they hate confrontation, bull, they are the cause of it. When they do good they want that pat on the back.
Not a single libra I can truly trust. But this just my super bad experiences with them.
Kathleen Jenkins on August 17, 2019:
I know first hand I have a love:hate for Libra people. 1. They are the cause to my misery. Reason why they play games and betray the people closest to them. I am the oldest daughter in my family I have 2 Libra sisters they only see their pain, their personal gain. They could give 2 shits for their Aries older sister. My step mom was a Libra very selfish insecure woman who made sure my life was a living hell growing up. I married a Libra male for 6 years I was lucky to get only 1 year of child support out of him. He was also court ordered counseling he got out of it too. Tired Aries woman sick of the Libra injustice. I don’t owe you a damn thing!!!!!
Marie Antionette on August 12, 2019:
I am an Aries woman. I have a Libra sister. I have had issues with her for over 15 years. She is an extremely toxic person. I made decision to stop communicating with her. She has stabbed me in the back, talks about me, others in family. She recently sent me a negative text about her husband. She seems to create alot of drama, does not have a good word to say about people, compains. She is condescending, arrogant, extremely intrusive, uses my brother to find out what I am doing even though I am a mature woman. My sister is so jealous of other people's happiness, she does whatever she can to ruin theirs. All the while, she is very bubbly and acts charming to get information about others. Then she uses that information against them. I used to not believe my own sister could be so mean spirited, but I wised up and will never trust my sister again. I just decided to keep my personal life private from her. My sister is cold, she does not care about people. She only wants information to use against them. I have known other Libra women too. My mother, grandmothers, two former female managers. Found them all to be selfish, controlling, manioulative, held grudges, calulating, little empathy towards others.
Skye SaRae on July 10, 2019:
Hello, i am a libra woman Oct 16th, so kinda right there in the middle and i wont lie and say i wasnt offended by this article bc yes! now i am questioning my whole life and the somewhat form of a self image i may have had at one point even more now lol but its okay bc God knows who i truly am and now others will know. Yes, alot of these opinions are true but thats why they call them opinions, everyone has one. So heres my opinion on us (Librans.)
1.) Yes we can be lazy, but if its its something were definitely interested in were quick to run to it and work hard at it!
2.) I dont think I'm fake or that im better than anyone bc the only perfect one is God and ive had a too messed up childhood to think im better than anyone, also being my father recently passed this year Feb 2019.
3.) Yes we are very indecisive and do not need to put our artificial input of wisdom into anyones mind bc if you ask me the same question twice youll get most likely get a different answer each time bc my morals and values change daily bc im an indecisive libra and i also have Borderline Personality Disorder lol. Try doing that for a day lol.
4.) We lie bc we love people so much that we hate seeing any sadness in them, and also to protect ourselves from the evil and hurt of the world.
5.) We'd take up for a stranger in a minute if their being treated unfairly no matter color, race, sex, or religion if its unfair it brings the rage out in us.
6.) I cant speak for every libra but i know I hate myself everyday and wish i were never born bc of how i can be, i especially should've never been reckless and had children to carry my guilt.
7.) I use to be a joyful person and chose to spread that joy until i actually got out of dreamland and saw reality and i just lost all hope in humanity so if reading this comment and this article amuses you or disgust you and youd rather have bitter, souless people in your life like ive become then ruin someones accidental innocent hope of life and the world. Thankyou from the now bitter, cold, and unhopeful libra if unhopeful is a word lol.
Moor Ite on July 06, 2019:
Libra women are sad and insufferable. Such futile people - notice how they never get sympathy? Because it's almost impossible to feel sorry for them.
Mrz Brown on July 03, 2019:
Why does it say that A LIBRA AND CAPRICORN (MALE LIBRA FEMALE CAPRICORN?)are NOT COMPATIBLE? This is VERY VERY INACCURATE
TatiFitata on June 06, 2019:
I'm an aries and I had a libra completely ghost me for years because of...well I can't even remember what the problem was, but I tried to talk to her about it and she just closed the door in my face basically. Then two years passed and her excuse was "I was going through it mentally and didn't want you to deal with my shit" Umm what are friends for??
Stevee Hines on May 28, 2019:
I am a libra my self and the main thing about being a libra is emotions libras value there emotions so much it is everything to them.when libras are sad it is so hard to get there trust.when a fight happens with there friends they will get so emotional that they become a monster they never want to even think about being but they don’t realise.
Normally with a libra when they have a fight with a friend they think they can’t trust anyone but when the tears stop they over think and the tears come back but it’s best to let them be and most likely they will forgive you after and it might become a cycle that they can’t stop unless people treat them differently
Libras are very nice,loyal,friends that will STAY by your side once you are very close friends the first couple steps with a libra might be hard for them because they find it hard to talk to new people they would rather stay near someone they know
Yes the rumours are true 100% libras HATE being alone they can’t stand it that they will either 1.turn it into emotions and cry because they are sensitive 2.they will either do anything to not be alone but if they get left alone with no one for a while they will begin to over think and trust NO ONE at all 3.sit there and think a lot about the situation
The bad side of a libra I already know they do lie but the main 3 reasons why is because 1.they don’t want to be embarrassed 2.for there friendship they will lie 3.they will lie to stop anxiety and overthinking another big thing they might lie about is definitely emotions they will either not want to talk and say they are great when they are 100% not to stop people from thinking they are to sensitive or say they a great when they are not to make the other person not worry about them
If you have a libra friend and they are controlling then I’m not sure what you can do but things what you should NOT do is 1.talk over them 2.if you yell at them or be aggressive in any way they will either fight back EXTREMELY HARD or cry because they feel like they are a bad person 3.don’t tell them to stop crying and being emotional because it will make it worse also it will make them try not to cry that it hurts so much that they do cry what you should do is 1.be very positive and calm and tell them nice things the way to tell them they are doing the wrong thing is to speak very calmly and take it slowly and after make sure they are ok and engorge them to be positive
A libra Leo,Gemini and a Scorpio will go really bad it might be good but it will end up extremely bad but I hope this helped you just know that libras are full of emotions and love anywhere and everywhere
Jason Bovdin on May 25, 2019:
As a Libra male, i agree with most of this. I want to build you up, only to make you look like a fool... and encourage you to make the wrong decisions for my amusement. Then i feel bad afterwards and consume chocolates laced with other people's feelings. Mmm... chocolate.
DonnaLibra on April 18, 2019:
Reading all of these negative, hateful comments about Libras makes me wonder. Why do you people interact with us? Especially those of you who have been in relationships with 2 or 3 Libras in a row, are you crazy or just looking to make yourself miserable. I realize Libras can be a handful and it takes a special person to be with one of us; but may I suggest to all of you that the moment you find out a person is a Libra, turn on your heel and run. Don't interact. We won't mind one bit.
lifeofjess on April 15, 2019:
I completely agree with this. My mom is a libra and she is exactly like that. She was married to my dad (scorpio) and she would throw tantrums and do everything to get her way. Then she would victimize herself and blame everyone around her. They're divorced now. I'm a Capricorn who's been getting to know this Libra male. He's cray cray!! he goes through my social media and finds things to argue with me about. He ignores me somedays pays attention to me other days and never fully knows if he likes me or not lol. I can't with him I just like his attractiveness. I'm a Capricorn we are smarter than this. I can't stand Libras never again.
Invadernow on March 22, 2019:
The UK’s WORST politicians are librans: Thatcher, Cameron and May. Oh! Let’s not forget Vladimir putin ffs!
Most good tennis players are Librans and are very bad losers.
Librans are gifted with eloquence and intelligence but can’t make a concrete decision to save their life! Why make an indecisive person a leader?
They are the best at putting on a good social front, especially at parties and board meetings. Diplomatic, graceful, charming and even witty! Sometimes I think they overdo it when a shitstorm is about to occur and they purposely control conversations to avoid ill feeling.
They are so desperate to avoid hearing the bad ugly truth so much that they’d cut you off abruptly when you are speaking or simply leave the room without a word being said. They will REFUSE to listen to what you have to say if you are very outspoken person. Some of them will utter insults and call you all sorts of names under the sun if you upset their inner peace.
Just don’t bother try cheering up a Libran when they are in a bad mood. That mood starts in the morning and finishes at night.
Even the most healthiest Libran is prone to snacking on sweets. They can’t get enough of the sugary stuff.
Yes, lazyness is something they’ll admit to. Cutting corners and “working smarter not harder” is their catchphrase.
A lot of Librans a prone to having gallstones, kidney and dental problems. Due to all that sugar and junk they regulary eat.
Those born in the first week of October are prone to depression (saturn decan) due to their repressed emotions and hide it so well. They are highly intuitive and have a good grasp of psychology.
My experience with a Libran is usually very superficial and passive. I’m a confrontational Capricorn and tell it like it is. So you can imagine how short lived the relationships are. But do love a tennis match with a Libra! Hehe
advisorchip on March 11, 2019:
I had a friend (we are both libras) she was a thieth she stole a couple of pens and a notebook in school and when i asked her why she did that she told me infrond of my face that ive stolen from her too (witch i did not) she said such big lies for her grades that i cant stand it any more . I have a hate on her beacause im jealous of her she has a lot of friends she has much better fugure than me but her personality is full of garbage this the truth. At least when im about to say a lie i have her in my mind to tell me if im going to be fake no one will apreceate my true kind and loving self . Also i can tell when someone lies so easily buy the way they look at you .
advisorchip on March 11, 2019:
We care about people about there feelings if some one is getting hurt we do too . I've been taken advantage a o lot by just caring too much and i get furious i throw all that hate in my family witch they do not deserve it .but at the end family is my home is when i want people to understand me, to listen me when im angry when im sad when i need a advise .we need to take care of ourselves but we do not do it because we put in priority others .
Bella Miyako on March 10, 2019:
Hi everyone, I am a Libran that you guys are bad-mouthing/talking about.
As a Libran myself, I can see all my negative traits, for example;
A technique that strangely comes naturally to me. I am able to bind and twist words in my favour, utilising their double meanings. In this, I am able to convince strangers or people not too close to me, to give into me or to do this for me. I am able to persuade people that my ideas are theirs and if it fails, it is on them. Simply with using second person nouns such as "You can," and "You should."
2) Excellent and Compulsive Lying
Lying from the little things to the big things, both white lies to black lies. We also tend to be great liars, but the guilt eats us away.
3) Two-Faced (Fake)
5) Self-Pity and Guilt
7) Fear of Confrontation
8) WILL remember EVERYTHING
If you piss off or let a Libran down, do not both trying to:
- gain their trust
- ask them for a favour or opinion
- form a solid relationship
because they know what you did and your ability to do it again. We are easily hurt and scarred.
But on the flip side, Libran's are:
2) Excellent listeners
As long as you are not looking for clear advice or decision making
3) Not Judgemental*
Don't see race, gender, religion etc*
*every Libran I know
4) When we love, we love with every part of our heart, we are absolutely ready to drop anything and everything for you
Jackie Daniels on March 04, 2019:
I can't believe this is how I am? I didn't realize it until reading some of the things and saw it was talking about me. The laziness, the controling, able to move from one relationship to another one. Wow, basically summed me all up. We don't try to be that way, it's who we are. Please remember the good out ways the bad, because we love very hard.
Willy189 on January 23, 2019:
I have been in 3 relationships in my life and the the 3 of them are Libra. Libra people are charming and very easy to attract you. They know how to break your heart and lie to you constantly in order to always look good and avoid confrontations. They cannot be in one relationship and as soon they breakup with you, you will find out they are dating someone else with no compassion of your broken heart.
Super selfish people who never know what they want and live in fear of being alone, that's why they are easy to jump in a new relationship super fast. Also as soon they breakup with you and have someone else in their life, they wont let you go that fast because they want to track every step of you, and they hate confrontation but love drama. I learned my lesson and I try to avoid Libra when is about relationship.
-I am Sagittarius
Julius Mitchell on January 07, 2019:
When Libras are healthy they are funloving, charming and very intelligent. But their dark side is an endless abyss of self-serving, manipulative, victim-based behavior. Having two Libra sisters and a Libra friend of five years I have seen this time and time again. Being an air sign and the only sign symbolized by an inanimate object, Libras lack genuineness and honesty as their opposite sign, Aries. Libras are all about relationships and balance and will go at any lengths to acheive this whether its making people feel sorry for them, misusing others for their own gain, exhibiting superficial emotions to have codependent relationships. The secret to any Sun in Libra is they hate to be alone. They hate themselves most times and only thru relarionships do they function on a higher level and learn about themselves. Many Librans are flakey, fake and one sign you must immediately set boundaries for or else...heed my warning -
Natasha Daniels on December 29, 2018:
I know a libra and she is very controlling. The whole atmosphere around her changes when things don't go her way, and it's scary! I feel like a pawn on a chess board to her. Knowing of her as a libra, I'd expect her to make negotiations and try to change things to her liking, but I'm usually the one having to do that. ( I'm an aquarius.) One moment she's all sweet and kind, the next she's picking fights with me. As an aquarius, I usually like some time for peace and space, but she keeps getting in my business and always knows how to aggravate me. Overall she's just manipulative and controlling, and I doubt all libras are like her. I'm just dealing with a toxic one.
Plaedian on December 23, 2018:
It's extremely unfair to call Sylvia Browne a fake psychic. She wrote many books, you should read one of them. It is true she got older and started having difficulties, I think she basically wore herself out. She was very kind, gracious and loving when she met my children, giving them a few minutes and taking time to talk with them, and she remembered them when meeting her again the following year. She was not a perfect person, but she did help many, many people and was instrumental in laying the groundwork to raise consciousness from the 3rd to the 4th dimension. It was an extremely difficult task. She should be recognized for this and given her Propers. Please take time to read a few of her books to understand what she was really all about.
jackbohannon on December 12, 2018:
I’m married too a Smokin Hot Libra MILF She’s a handful to deal with has a nasty attitude only directed at Her Husband Me...very controlling but I’m a handsome Pisces I can deal with anybody or anything...When She does make Love She’s a Credit too Her Gender
Sonj1234 on December 03, 2018:
every sign has a dark side... but a libra??? im sorry... manipulative, insecure to the point where they compete with their friends(trying to outshine me and gets moody cos it doesnt work), full of lies.. attention seeking. controlling. etc etc. im living with a libra female and i am done with her trying to control my life.. wanting to have things go well with her guys. but went and scratched in my guys past and found out information to try and make me end things with him. in the meantime she was trying to chat him up. what a joke!!! i am sick of her invading my space. trying to be frends with my friends cos she doesnt have any.. she wud sit in the room with her guys.. when they leave she comes and sits in the room where im relaxing with my frends. i am sick of her controlling ways and i have decided that the scorpio cold shoulder is now here. yes every sign has a dark side. me too. but im not fake and i dont try to control her life. she can do as she pleases. i dnt care. im prayin she would find a bf to get a distraction. seems the guys dont stay very long... wonder why .......
Candice NY from NYC on December 02, 2018:
Libras are great as long as you keep it superficial. Loyalty well basically they have none. If you don’t want to be disappointed keep it flakey & light. Woo hoo party & that’s about all they’re good for.
I used to believe a long term childhood freind was my true freind. Until after we became roommates did I see time & time again her inability to ever defend me. Or the inability to care about circumstances in our roomie situation that were distressing to me as I thought of her like a sister. Or when she brought home a kitten who was kept locked in a bedroom so for 6-12 hours ( usually for a long time )so she wouldn’t be bothered because the kitten wanted to play. Now I have blocked her on everything & have zero plans to ever speak to this intensely superficial flake as i realize now beyond the woo hoo party that’s all she was really good for & coming to this understanding broke my heart. Bye bitch see ya never
MGDNGHT on November 12, 2018:
Libras are a lot about words. There are Librans whom I both like and despise for this quality, depending on what they've got to say.
If they're a brilliant Libran, I will definitely listen. If they are only pretending to be brilliant, there's no way they will capture my attention beyond the first sentence, as they are bland and phoney, and I simply will not respect them.
Jin B on November 03, 2018:
I had a long friendship/relationship with a Libra man ever since I was 15. He had made so many promises to me about the future we had together. Throughout the years we dated other people but always kept in contact with each other. Eventually I got tired of playing cat and mouse with him and his uncertainty that I tried to call it quits. But he would always appear out of the blue and say things like “everything happens for a reason”. Checking up on me and that left me feeling so confused. I gave my virginity to him thinking that it would change things make him open up to me more; Like me more, try to get to know me more,but I was wrong. I ended up feeling hurt and confused because I saw the signs that said he didn’t want to be with me but kept pursuing anyways. It has been two years and I am still hurting because I haven’t fully invested in myself. I loved him at a distance because I was already attached and knew that being fully invested would break me even more. After everything happened I moved on to another relationship and was starting to become happy again. But my current partner said the same thing as the last guy that I was bipolar, vindictive, and crazy. It triggered me into believing that the Libra still loved me. How can two people who are different yet the same say the same thing about me? Fast forward my boyfriend (Aries) with (Libra) moon broke up with me today. I realized that I was obsessed with being in love and finding someone who loves me and takes interest in me, and goes the extra mile for me. Most times anything short of that makes me feel unwanted. It’s not that I love the Libra guy. Its that I still struggle loving myself and getttin my wants and needs. I have to invest more time into my life so I can be happy and feel confident and accomplished being in a relationship should amplify my happiness. Not be the only reason I’m happy.(Aquarius) With (Gemini) moon.)
Luka Martine on October 27, 2018:
@AChandler78 %100 true...
I want to add something. if you think you're leave a Libra or divorced him/her absolutely you thinking wrong... We are spend 2-3 hours before buy/sell something so if we really don't want to leave we would never let you go. we only give excuses on purpose even we can cry or beg to make you belive %100. but in reality this plan has been prepared too much in advance. we just want you to think you've won. and yes you probably deserved it! Sad but true... If look from the good side we're doing you a favor before you meet our Lucifer side... so you must be happy :)
Lilith Vitagota on October 22, 2018:
Here as a person who is many time being soft spoken and caring(Pisces). I honestly say right here and right now that i cant stand people under the sign of Libra (at least the ones i met)because they are fake, manipulative, major gossip. For me i prefer friends who speak brutal true than sweet but fake words. They are freaking insecure.
Sorry, if i have to choose to trust someone, i will choose people born under the signs of Leo,Sagittarius,Aries, Aquarius, Taurus,Scorpio and Cancer. They are tooo real people to be fake.
Venus inscorpio on October 19, 2018:
Spot on Abbas- "They say Librans hate conflict and that we shy away from them, that's what others see, but what they don't realize is that we're fighting not to open our mouths out of psychologically, emotionally and spiritually dismantling you on the spot"
Ms Liberty on August 14, 2018:
I found the article to be amusing, thought-provoking and mostly true of most people, no matter what their sign. People can be quixotic and dynamic. Most people are made of many layers, and can exhibit any set of traits associated with a various signs at any given time. If one looks at the long picture of a persons actions or decisions, they may fall more into one sign than others. I am a Libra, and I am artistic, love to play "wordsmith games", unfortunately my quirky sense of humor precludes anyone appreciating my "wit" most of the time. I was married to a Virgo, and we got along well. I was married to a Leo before with Virgo tendencies and was totally miserable. I was a happy child and hate confrontation and lose all my lovely articulation abilities in the face of hate and nastiness. I avoid it like the plague. My dark side is usually regret which I've been told is the cancer of life. I am spiritual and often pray for guidance, when I start to second guess decisions or blame myself endlessly for my mistakes. I tend to feel deeply and take on too much responsibility. That would be my control issue. Trying to keep everything balanced and perfect and then blaming myself if everyone isn't happy. I will deny there is a problem all the while working frantically to justify or make it work, whatever it is. But my "dark side" is also my "sunny side". I like to surround myself with positive happy people. People who take action and are decision makers and problem solvers like I do. So while avoiding ugliness and confrontations, I work hard to make those things never happen. But when they do, I have this urge to feel responsible and take on the guilt and blame. People try to tap into that vulnerability and "twist the knife" unless I hide it from them.
So while the posted article was interesting, it basically told one aspect of a particularly warped type of Libra.
I think it's true that Libras like things balanced and harmonious. They will go to great lengths to achieve it, but those lengths depend on that particular Libra. I think Libra's are not all heartless, but they tend to be very practical and don't marinate in their emotions a lot. But that is a learned thing. Feelings can hurt you. So one must learn to defend themselves from harmful emotions.
While I am now guilty of generalizing also, I have to say that I know that depending on the time one is born under the Libra sign, as well as at which day in October can all play a part in a Libra being the exception to the rule as far as whether they exhibit classic Libra traits. Those born on cusps etc, may be very different than the normal Libra.
Generally, I think Libras are more fair, and if they are ever dishonest, they at least have the decency to feel guilty about it ;)
AChandler78 on August 08, 2018:
Libra's are hands down.....the best sign of the entire Zodiac.....unless you make us go dark-side or unless you piss us off or cross us. We are the balance of all of the signs...the only sign in all the Zodiac that can bridge the void between each sign and become the great arbitrator of the cosmos (Sound grandiose and pompous........welcome to the world of Libra........but.....we all also know it's true ;) )
Libra's born with out an earth sign to ground them....are doomed to wander their life trying to find meaning and purpose while taking in the entire universe and not knowing what to do with any of it. Libra's feel and intuit EVERYTHING....so the world can be vastly overwhelming for those Libra's that don't have an earth sign to anchor them in this world.
We can seem very listless...difficult to make definitive decisions and standards that are near impossible to reach for those in our lives...and the world in general. We crave beauty and an ethereal, gossamer rythm to the world around us.....and the people in our lives....but we never demand anything that those around us are incapable of providing. In fact we typically see the best in all of those around us and work to pull that out of everything....we want everything around us to be elevated and more evolved then it is....
We also already have a decision made in our minds even if we seem like we don't....we just work all of the paths the universe puts before us to weave our way to those decisions in the most effective and beneficial way..........make no mistake.........a Libra will have what he/she wants in this world.......we just know that the universe will provide those in due time and we will tread the waters ebs and flows to get there in time.
We are extremely patient..........but not always forgiving.....it is best not to cross a Libra........unless you want your soul torn to the corners of the universe. Our empathic abilities allows us to see inside you and we can pull out the most sensitive things that no one knows and use them as weapons to destroy your very being if we are crossed. But.....we can also be the greatest ally and nurturer you have ever known in your life.
We are the empaths of the Zodiac....the unconscious rhythm of the universe connected to both sides of all things: Light/Dark - Good/Evil - Balance/Chaos - Moderation/Gluttony - Sanity/Insanity - Love/Hate - Beauty/Ugliness - Consciousness/Unconsciousness etc etc etc. We can see all sides to all things....all dimensions....all patterns.....all rhythms....all nuances. You will never be able to lie to us and get away with it.......we can see the lies before they ever come out of your mouth.
We are deeply complex creatures and live in multiple worlds simultaneously....so getting a direct answer out of us will be difficult because we live in so many places at once that an "in the box" answer will never be provided to who and why we are. We are the angel and the demon in one and we are enthralled with both sides equally.........though we have a secret love and a secret draw towards the power of our darkness.
We will love to the ends of time and to our very detriment and will give chance after chance after chance to prove your self. Don't take this as a sign of weakness or to underestimate us............e.v.e.r. With that infinite patience also come a storm brewing inside that once boils over will look something like the Dark Phoenix rising to burn the earth to nothing. We will have justice and we will exact the pain you have placed on us and we will make you feel everything you ever made us feel in one moment.
We hate stupidity and ignorance....we despise people and things of lower standards and we can not stand people that are rude and careless and not considerate and especially those who lack diplomacy and manners. We expect people to act gracefully and with consideration of one another....we hate people that act like mindless brutes and we can not stand those that take advantage of others for their own gain. Albeit we have a dark side to us that is one a Libra should NEVER fully embrace (Because once we go darkside.....the path of pain and destruction from us will be relentless) we also have a light side that shines brighter than any other in this world.
Katona Kat on July 30, 2018:
This is very interesting; my mother is Libra and her vacillation between kind and cruel has kept me confused and emotionally bleeding for my entire almost 58 years on this earth. Toxic Libra will always make you feel like you were the one in the wrong.
Mel Mathers on July 24, 2018:
Well well well...
Hello, I'm one of Libras you guys are hating on.
Obviously, we have our cons, on which I can speak myself.
I, pity myself to the point where i start crying. Because I can't see positive future at some point. and YES guess sometimes I lose hope.
I, remember all the bad stuff anyone has ever done to me BUT i have a patience of a God. If someone pulls a trigger I'll definately explode and make their life miserable because they get what they deserved.
I, am lazy, BUT not because I love doing nothing. HELL NO. I make plans throughtout the day BUT due to my overveight condition, which caused not having any energy and whole body and soul atching feeling even when i walk made me lazy.
I, can win a fight really easily because i can play with my words and their double meanings.
I, lie a lot not to get into fight.
I, might be a good actor to not-so-close people, or to be more accurate, the mirror - to be exact same reflection of themselfs. BUT with my loved ones I AM WHO I AM.
I, hate when dumb people try to judge or bully me. Yes, at this point I'm the meanest person i know.
I, do want to move out with my boyfriend because i have problem. BUT that problem is that othervise I won't be able to see him properly, everyday.
BUT also me:
I, love helping people and animals and LOVE them.
I, never classify anyone by gender, rase, ethnic aspect, sexuality or beliefs.
I, possibly am the most un-materialistic human being.
I, love people with their pros and cons.
I, try to see best in everyone.
I, try make something out of nothing.
and finally: I ADMIT I'm not perfection BUT try hurt my friends? TRY ME!!!
I'm here to work on my imperfections but what I see in comments is just hate?!?!?! Fang you at this point.
Annelise from copenhagen Denmark on July 06, 2018:
Silvia from an Aquarius to another Aquarius give us Capricorns dark side thank you ;)
Annelise from copenhagen Denmark on July 06, 2018:
They lie about everything about them self, live in a romantic dreamworld where everybody admires love and wants them Lol ...lovely
Nocccturna on June 08, 2018:
I am.a Libra.8th October 86
Jennifer60656 on April 17, 2018:
Libras are the biggest gaslighters imaginable. This has happened to me more than twice in my life at very different times and situations(in a relationship, almost boyfriend, friend, boss) with men and women libras. It's a bad place to be when someone makes you feel you don't know what you're talking about, are stupid, or just plain crazy. If you've got a libra like that - RUN!
watermelonlily on April 17, 2018:
Like you might know, Libras absolutely hate confrontation. Commenting is something I don't do often, because it might throw me off the balance that I am so precious about haha, but once in blue moon I take risks and considering the topic I feel like it's worth a go. So.. (how do I express myself without sounding like a total Libra) I would love to discuss some of the points of this article just to shine light from the PERSONAL perspective not to justify our behaviour, not to disrespect other points of views, but just to try and explain. To start with, yes when we are grumpy we are the worst thing that can happen to humanity. I fucking hate myself when I'm grumpy and it makes it even worse. Secondly, most of the time we have no absolute clue how to deal with ourselves. We read articles books and stuff that interests us to gain a better understanding about ourselves and others, so we can become good at observing people and have a fair (that's a questionable statement) judgement in situations. But the point is we are shit at emotions, because our minds are a major dumping ground, where is so much stuff that the stuff we say and the stuff we believe often go in different directions. However, the stuff you put into the Libras mind it stays there. (hard to believe I know, aloof shits like us actually occasionally listen) It doesn't just dissappear. If Libra is raised by more stabile signs, especially if one of the parents are under the earth sign, they can help then learn to identify the emotions, so even when they don't actually feel the emotion they will understand it. We are intelligent, but we do need a lot of guidance. What Libras actually need is just to find a stable ground they can hold onto when times are unsteady, what often becomes their SO or someone else who is very close. Pro Libra tip: let go of your high expectations and unreal fantasies, life will become a lot more easier. Personally, I've been single for my whole life except for a year when I was in a relationship with another Libra, what is the worst combination on the whole planet earth, especially if the both Libras haven't had a chance to learn and stabilise themselves. When it comes to our fakeness, I put on a smiley face on every single freaking morning even if dying inside, because it's not fair to people who surround me. Because, my inability to cope with my emotions and disability to be alone should never weight others down. Like it is mentioned above we like to flake out on our family members and that is something I can't deny, we are just looking for guidance we can't find and actually we know all the stuff we want to know already, we just can't find it in all the shit that we bathe in in our minds. We need to hear someone saying out loud that the stuff is going to be okay, otherwise if we don't hear it, we don't consider it real. Often people see a completely different picture of us that it actually not how we feel inside. We often come of too dry and soulless, artificial, but for me it just happens because I am so numb from all the emotions and guilt about the most stupid little things.I've spent years trying to figure myself out, because I don't want to be full of shit, I want to be good and sincere and honest. I am still trying to find that perfect middle. but I have no clue and it's alright, because I chose to be independent and learn to live without having a partner, because I want to have natural goodness in me and not all the fake stuff. The stereotype that portrays us like a sweet candy floss and charming lucky charms is so misleading. So I think it's a useful observation, but in no way it should put other Libras down. Like someone mentioned in a comments below, Libras have a gut feeling that is almost always accurate and they should definetely trust that. Always. That gut feeling is what actual makes us feel human, not the thoughts or beliefs we have, because they can often lie and the heart we have, even if it's synthetic or artificial can't. However, you shouldn't forget that Libras are assholes and don't buy their shit, unless you test them. Trust me, I am a Libra I know what kind of demon we can be. Thank you.
sophiedophie on March 22, 2018:
All that is written is so true. Here’s something to know about a libra, they have a gut feeling that is almost always accurate, if you hurt a libra and not be able to make it up to them fully they will use and hurt you in anyway possible over the smallest things yet not feel any remorse. its like they trick themselves they feed their demons till they are so very full and they enjoy it. they’re usually really calm but i noticed how they can’t tolerate stupidity if no ones watching they’ll lash out probably useing really hurtful remarks. By hurtful i mean really hurtful libras observe and are very diplomatic, they watch your everyday behavior ask you lots of questions if they are interested and learn about you enough just to be able to push the right buttons to hurt you. They know what needs to be done in order to get what they want,and it’s most likely they’ll get it one way or another. They like being the one that isn’t surprised almost always appearing calm and wise, as if they can see the future. BUT don’t forget the good as long as you stay on their good side they’ll spoil you be your shoulder to cry on and alot more. Being a librans family member might be pretty difficult they don’t mind providing what they are supposed to provide for the family usually spoiling them, they don’t mind spending quality time with their kids and wife. but they need to recharge in order to keep it up or as i said before they will lash out. Sometimes physicall abuse they don’t care if your 3 or 95but when they know if anyone else finds out they can get in trouble they know how make them shut up before they even think about it.
Transfiguration on March 15, 2018:
Pinning any unoleasantness you are experiencing from people on Libras, flies in the face of Spirituality, as we understand it. The Universal Law Of One.would suggest that these are people are mirroring qualities you possess but do not like about yourself. Do you not see that you are putting energy into pulling people down, which will surely circle back, hurting you and those you love? Why not radiate Love instead, and shine your light bright enough to dissipate any shadow you happen upon? The world needs more light from you. Transmuting the energy behind the thoughts and words of your ranting into energies of Love and Light is as simple as asking the Universe to do it. Munay
LaKeisha Strahan on February 22, 2018:
I am a Libra and I have to disagree on every aspects lol for me personally I do good until I’m messed over as soon as you mess over me it’s over with. Libras a diplomatic people we don’t like to be mistreated or treated unfairly nor like it being done to other people yes I am lazy and charming and very indecisive but yes Libra’s are very sweet and loyal ppl but if we dnt get it back in return yes I’m throwing a fit. If a libra’s dark side showing you’ve had to provoke them in some way. I’ve had so many ppl misuse me and take advantage of me but soon as I react I’m the crazy one
joe lulu on November 20, 2017:
I am a Libra and I can tell u when u make a Libra mad they get quit and when that happens the best thing to do is leave cause they are about to snap
Straight to the p on November 04, 2017:
Aries women here I have a Libra soon to b ex friend and a brother and these are very giving ppl and they are charming but they do have a dark side especially when you get close to them my friend known her for 7 yrs God mother to my kids I loved this friend and I really praised her and always was there for her I would take a bullet for her cuz when an Aries love sooo deep and we r sensitive but she used to put me down in a sarcastic way n I felt she wanted to hurt me when she said it but I use to brush it off cuz she's done so much for me n me for her and recently her roommate told me she was speaking of my husband wanted to screw her n she use to say so many mean things about me so as an Aries I confronted the situation with my husband and her roommate and her all together and I was so hurt that she had this hatred against me it broke my heart she couldn't say anything and wanted to leave the room and I that moment I found out who she really was I wish her the best but not in my life and my brother I've tried to b there for him emotionally physically and still didn't work definitely got stabbed in the back so just b careful if u feel too deeply and love deeply u might end up being their prey I know they might not all be like that I hope but I had enough of Libra I connect with them but will never ever be devoted to one again that's my experience n boy I'm still healing from the hurt but life moves on
Charlotte354 on October 27, 2017:
This article makes me regret being a Libra :') What a pity my mother didn't postpone my birth. I think it's smart to learn astrology to choose the best time to give birth to a child and choose their planetary influences to prevent many obstacles :P
LibraGirlfive on August 27, 2017:
This is true. I hide my negative emotions and just keep it. I hate quarrels. I hate having fights in public. I dont like drama. Think i am not fake person. Just that we only show it in private place. We are not too bulgar to chaos in public. I think that is just right when etiquette is concern. Sorry for that. And nope im a Loyal libra.
Lillica on July 07, 2017:
My older bro is a libra, a paedophile. He used to bully me when I was a child in every nasty way you can think of. He used to sexually abuse me, in a very sadistic way, sneaking into my bed when I was sleeping. I was 9 y/o and he was 16.
I remember my mum saying to me that he used to steal money from my dad, reason why he had to lock the drawer where he could keep his cash safe.
Also he was a bully at school.
His best friends were always the most quiet guys he could find to hang around with. He had tons of pornographic magazines when a teenager. He was always an atheist person who would always take p**s of me, my sis and my mum when we would go to church and give donations.
He is very intelligent and extremely good at computers/programming and logical science, stuffs which requires a lot of high IQ. He's won competitions on creating video games at an early age. No one believes he's got so many dark secrets in his life but only the very close ones to him, like his ex-wife who I learned, only once they got divorced, that he was very aggressive to her indoors.
And I suspect that he would sexually rape his ex-wife little sister when she was about 10 y/o and I was about 14, but then I never had any proofs of it nor she ever said anything about it, like I myself never did say a word with fear, when I was being raped for all those nights....
What makes worse about him is that he is double faced and people can only see his bright side, that he is helpful to people, he helps my sister financially, he cares about my parents and is looking after them.
Now he lives in Japan and if I ask him to get me anything from there he would send me by post, or any info about computers, or hints on how to solve computer problems etc.
He's friendly in that way which confuses me now a lot.... And I took my chances and went to Japan, and for my surprise he had prepared a space for me to sleep with improvised curtains, giving me total privacy. He did work hard to improvise that space for me. He also took me around by car to show wonderful places etc.
Today he's converted into spiritualist religion, and I hope he's changed now although a few years back he let slip something about one of his sons who he said "he is very serious" and that "he is different from the younger one". At my request of clarification he said "oh well he doesn't like certain things, like when I play a bit with him, he gets furious". So I understood that he meant "when I try some sexual assault on him... "
So maybe he's still a paedophile and that can't be changed. He's sick but I don't know what to do now because I've reached an adult age and have lived with the nightmare of those horrible experiences in my life. I am leaving him in God's hands because I know one day he will pay for all these sick acts he's committed.
He's been nicer to me than when I was younger, but I can't erase my past memories and my feelings are of a great pain still because I can't forgive him at all even tho he's nice and the most helpful person in my family at the moment....
And sometimes I feel terrible about myself because I constantly fight my own feeling of wanting him to rotten in hell, because I feel I shouldn't as he's my brother.
If there's karma involved in my destiny I only wished I was child raped by a stranger not by my own brother.
Searching on the net about paedophiles I found out that most of them were committed by librans. I searched under "Star signs related to types of crimes" and got the shocking result: Paedophilies = Librans
So that could be their another dark, sick and spiteful dark sides to add into the ones mentioned in this article.
Seagreentangerine on June 30, 2017:
I am a few years late in reading your amazing and very poignant article regarding The Dark Side of Saccharine Libra, but I am soo glad I found it. You've hit every nail on the head (or should I say the nail to every Psychic Vampyre Libran's Coffin.. )
When I meet new people, I always try and find a way of getting through the backdoor to their psyche - Astrology being my usual tool. Sometimes I forget to get that information....
One day, a Libran aquaintance (the now ex fiance of my partner's friend) tried to contact my partner one Christmas with a flurry of dramatic txts and voicemail as her fiance had dumped her. My partner and her don't have a friendship.... We were staying in a very beautiful hotel and this was Christmas Eve.... ( baring in mind her parents live 5 minutes from her home and she's close to them, she alledges to have 2 childhood friends who live near her too.. she didn't turn to them.) I immediately had her pegged as a boyfriend snatcher, took charge and used my partner's phone to phone her back (not knowing her star sign).
The Libra was seething underneath her shock that I phoned her, that she hadn't got my partner! In fact she spent a good time saying she expected to speak to my partner, but in a very roundabout way! I told her he didn't think it wise to take "sides" and wanted to stay out of it.
I spent 2 hours on that phone listening to her sob story and when I put the phone down, she remained in my head, like a mosquito biting my brain, irritating, annoying and.... poisonous.
I tried several times to con myself that perhaps my gut instinct was off, I'd since found out she was a Libra, I'd never met one until then (that's a whole 36 years without knowing a Libra, I wasn't missing anything). I stupidly had them pegged as pacifists, harmless...... COULD I BE MORE WRONG?
I let her into my world denying my gut instinct and being the stupidly open person I can be, shared a few secrets - thankfully nothing shameful, just emotional things from my past.
Looking back, she loved it when I was down, positively revelled in it!! She was always there, talking about it.... When I started to find my feet and grow back into my own skin and started embracing life (I started sewing classes and then attending Couture workshops) she didn't want to know. If i started talking excitedly about what i was learning and even invited her to class, she was cold, uncaring and uninterested (this is the woman who maxes out credit cards at cheap clothing shops.....). I then inherited a lot of money (and I already own my home and rent it out which I know she hated as she wasn't interested in seeing the renovation photos) and I told her my news. I was overwhelmed and tearful as it was my dad who gave me it in advance, and it was the first time he told me he loved me - I am telling her the story, she wasn't interested and tried to turn it all back to her new Prey, a new man. I knew then she truly was that ugly person from Christmas.
The alarm bells were ringing, I was no longer denying the gut and i made sure I got her whole astrology chart (on the pretense of performing a compatibility report for her new Prey).
What I saw was shocking and a wake up call. She has a lot of planets in Leo. That Libra/Leo thing was just ugly - self important, secretly power crazed, a seducer, and let's not forget, she's a Cusp of Virgo Libra. I was terrified. Scorpios I can handle, I can even handle a Scorpio Moon and an Aries Moon (I am heavily influenced by Pisces!) but that mess of air and fire, fixed and cardininal, on and off....
EVERYTHING STARTED TO MAKE SENSE.
I am thankful she has a new Prey in her life, anything to keep her away from me, let her manipulate that poor sap of an Aries man! If it all goes wrong I won't be there for her, I've locked the Neptunian door... I'll counter her with a weapon she despises... kicking and screaming back into her own pit of hell... yes, I'll kill her with my own personal happiness!
Cricket802 on May 07, 2017:
A lifelong libra friend I'm strongly considering giving up. Why loyalty. I love her like a sister. I won't let anyone treat her badly. But that's a 1 way thing. Other day called her home only to have her drunk freind try to question me on religion? Seriously wtf! Let him ask a few questions that were way out of line before lost my temper & told him to plz back the hell off. She did nothing. Sat there listening in while this self righteous weirdo was really out of line! I was so offended. Then the bag tells me I was telling & she needed to go. Damn straight go right out of my life.
Aj10 on April 23, 2017:
This is true. I see a lot of my dark traits right there. Its a painful truth and for those of you who got offended by this article. Let's be honest ladies and gentlemen, you weren't here to read about 1000 reasons why people should love us librans.. you just got a dose of reality, live with it.
And for those poor souls who's either or both parents/ brothers or sisters/in laws etc were Librans- Ouch, I truly feel sorry.
I will never justify our dark side. In fact the reason why i am here is because i just googled the dark side of Libras today morning. As a typical Libran male, I am well aware of my faults. I remember exactly where I have wronged others and I also remember when and how many times I have compensated for those acts of selfishness or rudeness. To be honest, I am more aware of my faults than of my strengths.
I have a horrible relationship with my parents and my brother. I am afraid of settling down with someone. What happens when all the fun and excitement of being in a relationship is over??? Am I going to take out all my frustrations on my wife and kids even???? I am worried that the very same relationship that i have with my parents is what I will have with my wife and kids.
I have hit that point in life where the realization of who I truly am is so upsetting that I despise myself. I have begun meeting new people like this "dont be fooled, I am not what it seems".
We libras are very difficult people for families to get along with. Our home is where we are the most stubborn, the most controlling, unyielding, vengeful selves. The only reason I can think of is that, it is because we hide ourself so well in public that we carry all the annoyances and irritation back home, to a place we do not need to hide and while at home, the slightest irritation can wreck havoc. Things that does not warrant attention would end up being scrutinized and judged and harshest of words will be exchanged.......its PATHETIC!!!
Thank you Sylvia for a well written article
Megadeth1016 on April 16, 2017:
Pretty damn true. I have a stellium in libra sun moon mercury venus and they are all in the 12th house. I Definetly repress anger and am secretive. I am no drama queen though. I hate drama, and i am not sociable either. I know someone with libra sun and moon who has all of the above mentioned as well. (Sun and moon are in 8th house) but he and i are good people.
Lilbit2459 on March 29, 2017:
Second thought about this subject...we all have negative traits, can't have the positive without the negative. And then there are the decans of each zodiac sign, in which will defer from each other but still be somewhat the same of each other. Depends on the day of the month you were born. I know 5 Geminis, 3 aquarius' real well. All are alike but different also. I looked each up, the decans explained it well. Very well.
Lilbit2459 on March 29, 2017:
I know two Libras. Both can be very friendly, sweet, helpful...but then they seem to turn on a dime. Very moody. Vindictive and nosy. The one I know best is so selfish, vindictive that she doesn't care who's life she ruins while in the process of getting what she wants. Wants two men at one time, expecting both to remain while she decides, but they better not find another woman while the libra is deciding. Their kids are not allowed to love anyone but her, the mother. If they do they will learn to regret it. She buys and bribes people with any means. A lawyer once made a circle of names with a dot in the center. Asked us who we thought the dot was, we shrugged, he then told us it was the very libra I am talking about. He said she has to always be the center of attention, will continue to create major drama until she gets what she wants. Finally, to our regret, years later we gave up and let the kids go since she was ruining our and their lives in the process of her severe selfishness. She finally left us alone and we did not see the kids until they became adults, many years later. Kids now tell us that Mom uses people for money, and gets in an uproar out of the blue. She also cries at the drop of a hat. Very childlike. When in discussion about this libra others who think they know her well will defend her and say she is gracious and unselfish. They can't believe us about her. She is a great charmer, but to only win someone over enough to get info from them, info that she can use against others eventually. Like she has some sort of ledger in her head. The other libra I know, is charming also. But charming when she wants info from us. Nosy and users of others' lives. These libras gossip in such a way that so many don't consider them as gossipers. My experience with libras is dark. Just my experiences of libras I know. As a matter of fact, I won't let myself around these libras because they do charm well and I now see charmers as nothing but a sticky web, don't get too close.
Faeron Dewart on January 22, 2017:
I am a libra and this doesn't describe me. I pride myself on being truthful beyond anything. That is the only way you can truly be loyal. I DO think everyone else has a brain and feelings. I am almost offended by this "even the best libras do not think you have feelings or a brain". None of this rings true for me and you should not say "even the best" this emplies EVERY SINGLE Libra thinks more of themselves than they think of you. I would also like to remind everyone that this isn't a "meltdown" I am having a reasonable opinion. I am POSITIVE I am not the only libra who thinks this. I DO NOT manipulate people to help myself and I don't cheat and make others feel bad when confronted. If I screw up I own up. I apologize and we move on. I really don't think there should ever be an article that claims EVERY libra does such and such.. that's like saying every American likes pizza. You don't know that and everyone is individual.
*steps off soap box*
Riu Rox on January 10, 2017:
Yes I do throw tantrums and become manipulative but only when I am wronged and taken advantage of for a long time. My behavior is actually a slight reflection of yours. Off course, I am not going to vent on strangers when I am wronged by a close one as it will not be justified. Nor I will treat my closed ones badly if I had a bad day. Yes I can be dark by being extremely lazy and indecisive but everyone has got a dark side. I love, appreciate, care and support all those close ones who accept and love me for who I am. I also appreciate the creativity of this author by portraying Libra's negative image since I was really bored of those charming and peaceful stories about Libras .....cheers and peace
Replytovengefulauthor on January 09, 2017:
As someone that has done a lot of astrology reading I can admit I know some of these traits can be very true of a libra.
but....... I have to say you have gone out of your way to taint this sign more so than they deserve and more so than your other dark side write ups. I must agree with fellow commentors that your distaste for this sign is merely a reflection of your own negativity and distorted observations.
You look and sound evil and very quite bitter. If your not a "capricunt" you have the face and attitude for one.
And I'm not even a libra.
Me on January 08, 2017:
How do you find out your full chart?
Libra who met the dark side on December 31, 2016:
I'm a libra. And I know there's a dark side but I'm not a dark person. However I met a libra and she's like me but diffrent. The shadows are her home! This describes her to a T. I couldn't wrap my head around it because I'm not like that. Thank you. This helped.
miya on December 13, 2016:
This is very true about Libras. Don't let their "niceness" fool you. I have a Libra "friend" that I grew up with and I thought she was the nicest person but now I realize how untrue that is. She is conniving, manipulative and a backstabber. She uses people and shes a know it all. I used to call her a best friend but she is far from it. Shes ugly on the inside and on the outside and she's vain for no reason.
Gemini guy on December 05, 2016:
I am supposed to get along with this sign but it is the one I like the least. I get along with Virgos and Scorpios just fine.
Kevin B. Saunders on December 03, 2016:
Libras are the nicest people of all the signs until you rub us the wrong way.
eve on November 26, 2016:
Hm. I am pretty sure there are killers of all signs...and actually if you've only found 5 twisted people in Libra, that in fact disproves your point.
I can agree with some of the second parts of statements: e.g. yes, avoiding confrontation is not a tenable objective and will lead to outbursts (what's term in the title- yes, repressed); people born in October avoid confrontation, no = can't be proven. (Of course I'm born in October haha...I happen to be controlling indeed toward those who get closer to me; in the work-social arena...a combination of practicality- choosing your battles- and impracticality - picking battles you can't win, just to make a point, I do that too. And sometimes I just make fun of people- for instance if they make racist comments and I'm just having a beer on Sunday night, instead of punching them in the face I get this attitude of smiling from ear to ear, looking them straight in the eye and and making them feel like shit. But then again, it's for a good cause...?).
Evelyn on November 23, 2016:
I'm a Libra with lots of planets in Scorpio. This article was accurate about "some" of my dark traits. Muahahahaha ;)~
Really? on November 22, 2016:
Guys you are reading an article about the DARK SIDE of Libra, of course you are going to read a lot of bad things! This just says a lot. Every astrology reading sugarcoats signs like Libra so it must be that shocking for you. There are bad people, no matter which sign they are, and your sign is not inmune to that evilness.
J on November 17, 2016:
Yeah I do see these traits in myself I just find it happens when I'm being too nice or something and I always seem to attract the wrong people.......
Im working on how to tell which person I should be friends with and people just taking advantage of me....
As you know im a libra and have a pretty hard time saying no... so i find people can see that and then after a bit take advantage of that and sometimes just use me and then after a while it all just builds up into sadnesss and anger and its just ahhhh idk how to get rid of it lol oh yeah and i smile and laugh at my own misery alot... idk why but i find it funny
kyon6 on November 12, 2016:
im a libra 10/6/1992, and I loved this article because it is accurate. I think all libras have a dark side to balance out being kind, caring, and considerate... One day includes both sun and moon rising and setting, to be complete.
Abbas on October 27, 2016:
This was an interesting read. I'm a Libra Sun with a Libra Ascendant. I'm going to be very honest, I was pretty ruthless with my ex wife, especially in the latter part of our marriage. Here's why. I was married to a Virgo woman, one who heavily did the virgo thing which is pessimistically driven to chastise and be judgmental to the end. I know that sounds brash, and probably just as bad as how Librans have been painted on here, but there is a very specific driving force as to why I acted the way that I did, and it's because of how how she treated my children. I've been blessed with a moon in Leo, for all of those with Leo in their charts, you know that means firey devotion on a different scale. For me, it was to my defend my kids and anytime she went past the line of reason in punishing them, I was right there to invoke the one thing Librans are good at, utilizing and that is our rather sharp tongue. They say Librans hate conflict and that we shy away from them, that's what others see, but what they don't realize is that we're fighting not to open our mouths out of psychologically, emotionally and spiritually dismantling you on the spot. There is a reason why they say Librans make good judges, its because we are able to take every situation or event and tear it down to it's nuts and bolts to see what's really within. We don't use emotions to figure things out, we don't use tactile sensory to figure things out, it's about all that is mental and the air signs are especially built for this. The Native American totem of the Libran time frame is the Raven. They said that the raven people were feared in the tribes because they always new what was going on without hearing a word, they always knew. We work from the shadows, you'd figure that would be a Scorpio thing being ruled by Pluto, but despite being ruled by Venus, our (hermit) like needs tend to make us more powerful in our endeavors when we are in solitude to let our mental powers loose. By the way, those of you who had Libran parents that treated you like garbage, what's your sign? My children I mentioned earlier just so happen to be a gemini girl and a sagittarian boy. Even though they do love their mother, greatly, their elemental make up naturally gravitates towards mine, only on the basis that we understand each other on a level she will never understand, she is a Virgo sun/Cancer moon. They will never make her needs for materialistic stability happy, nor her emotional driven self to be happy. Like a few here said earlier, there's more to the picture about the signs, you have to look at the sum total of your chart. One Libran is not going to be the same as the other. One of my best friends is a Libra with a moon in Pisces. He is probably one of the shitiest father's of met, however, I am one of the most fatherly/tribal individuals you'll ever meet. So don't take the (general) layout of the Libra to heart, it's only one sliver of what variations there can be about the Libra. I'm super proud to be one.
Broken hearted on October 21, 2016:
I'm a Libran and I all I care about is love . I love so deeply and I treat my man like he's a god hoping to get that amount of attention in return but it never happens. I've been in two long relationships with Aquarius and Gemini , they are supposed to be the best compatible signs with libra but not in my case , they care too much about their parents and careers more than the woman they love. I don't care about anything when I'm happily in love. I ignore my family my friends and my work. I do whatever makes my lover happy just to keep the harmony and passion between us. That's my fuel. But now I discovered that I gave everything to the wrong people. My family and friends are being very supportive while my lover soon to be my ex is just busy with his new job. I feel that 2015/ 2016 were the worst years of my life. And I don't want to become a mother after all I read here , It's a big responsibility that I can't handle I'm very fragile and need someone to constantly take care of me. I'm 28 years old , born on September 27 and I wish I can hear stories of girls who share the same birthday with me as I need some answers. I want to know what's going wrong because I'm doing all the right things but all I'm getting is disappointment.
child of libra on October 14, 2016:
i can tell you my mother is a libra and this fits her to a t. she made my life a living hell. she physically, verbally, emotionally, and spiritually abused me as far back as i can remember. when i say spiritual abuse, she was always in to some different religion even witchcraft at one point. which was when i was very young. i can not even begin to describe the hell she put me through. she is a full blown malignant narcissist. i am in my 40's and i have went total no contact with her on several times. i am currently in no contact, but this time it is for good. nothing was her fault. she abused me because she didnt know any better. i was a good kid. there was no pleasing her no matter what i did. she was so nice to outsiders but treated my family and dad like dirt. on the rare times i could have a friend over she was sooo nice like she wanted them to like her. i would wonder why she never was nice to me. my friends would say your mom is so nice. god if they had only known. i ended up living a lot of my life with my grandmother because my mom would not stop physically abusing me. she would rage out. im not saying all libras are like this but my mother certainly is. she is to this day. im sure its not just the libra in her, she is a narcissist. my brother and daughter are both libra and my brother has 3 boys. he is nothing like my mom. he is a great father and husband. but when i read this i was like wow. my libra daughter who is 17 has buddied up with my libra mother and she doesnt understand the evil in my mother. i have never told her. i hope she can just control herself from now on and never treat my daughter the way she treated us. she has never ever apologized to me and never will. she just says she did the best she could. other than my mom, i love libras!!!
K on October 11, 2016:
Freaking true to the core. I was cohabitating with one under her suggestion and without a thought (being a male & feeling totally cloud 9 to be asked), I experienced a life changing event. I took my life out of utter mental & emotional meltdown. Did not tap out because I do not believe in giving up easily in love. Or so I thought. Boy was I so wrong and regretted holding on for so long. Mind & heart got twisted in and out 24/7 till I broke down entirely. Thank God doctors brought me back alive. Everyday, physical pain reminds me of how manipulative, hypocritical, cynical and deceptive she can be. And to think I still stood by her EVEN when I was admitted and discharged till her demented form comes devouring me inside out again!!! I SWEAR NEVER to go near this monsterous scale bearer again EVER in my living, breathing life. Libra is hopelessly disillusioned with her own actions & behaviour. I was a fool sheltering her from all her accusers but they were actually right all along. I was a big fool. Curse you Libra for messing men's life everywhere you go. You should have gone to the shrink when he asked you to!
Diana on October 08, 2016:
I'm a libra myself. But damn I've definitely never seen an article talking so badly about us Librans! People should understand that not every Libran is the same. They may share common general characteristics but that's it. All that's left (like the bad traits mentioned above which seemed to me like traits of a dangerous personality disorder) is formed depending on countless variables (the way one was raised, experiences etc..) we do have a dark side, but we don't all react the same way. In fact the way one reacts to whatever angers them is much more beyond a zodiac sign. Reactions are learned through experience and habit, you are not born with a certain way of reacting due to a zodiac sign. This article is way too shallow for the most part. And I do know many people who fit this above profile but are not Librans and also not related to Libra in general. So this article is in no way 10% correct describing how a Libra is like when wronged. It is overly exaggerated. So now every Libran is a bad parent? Mother, father, uncle whatever..that's ridiculous. There are many bad parents and abusers, even family murderers with different zodiac signs. And what's described in the article is more like a personality disorder, rather than a dark side. Seems to be written by someone who had a bad experience with a Libran and conluded that all Librans are like that one scumbag they once knew..horrible.
Sylvia Sky (author) from USA on October 08, 2016:
Shewolf, it is painful for all when people don't understand us. Often, the question "Why?" has no answer. People themselves don't know what drives them. But when others give you guff, you can be sure the problem is about them, not you.
shewolf on October 07, 2016:
I have good traits, and some of those bad traits, am I happy with them?! No.
It is build up frustration, anger and pain, because you once were nice, and understood and accepted ppl by the way they are, but we seem to have to mold, like we aren't good enough...
Well, I that feel that my negative side is taking over at the moment, don't really enjoy it, I'm not in peace, I cry when I'm alone, think that I just wanna die, it's like I'm out of place .... All I wanted was ppl to accept me the way I accept ppl by the way they are, and for example stop wondering if what I say to a 3rd person upsets my partner, etc...
Maybe, some ppl here commenting on bad libras, we aren't perfect we're humans, and we libras look for balance (apologies for wrong methods to achieve such) , but maybe try to find the reason behind such behaviour and maybe you can help... We aren't that stubborn!
Michelle on September 20, 2016:
"Whoa is me"..libra. me, me, me..lie. glil ou. the least balanced sign. My mom is one and i was in love with one. Im a gemini.
Sylvia Sky (author) from USA on September 18, 2016:
Chastity, this article is solely about Libra's dark side. Like every other sign they have a bright side, but that's not the subject of this article.
Sylvia Sky on September 18, 2016:
Chastity, this article is solely about Libra's dark side. They have a bright side as well, and many good traits.
Chastity on September 17, 2016:
Libra is often misunderstood and seen as the villian because they are too themselves. Whoever wrote this...wrote it in a condescending way towards libras...what is there zodiac? Something darker? Also.....psychopaths...sociopaths....idiots.....bad fathers....narcissists...are in all zodiacs....and for this writer to associate it with one particular zodiac..just means they have something against poor libras. :( Bad ex maybe? Mother problems? Who knows.
dmcolibra on September 17, 2016:
Some people agreeing with this in its whole has proven they know and strongly dislike a certain libra in their life, and have no reason to disagree because of the obvious pain THAT negative libra has caused. Of course all us libra aren't like that and have EVERY negative trait. I don't particularly like this post but that's because it just doesn't fit me personally. But I can agree when there's a negative personality and it's fixated on the sign some ppl are going to agree.
10/17 libra seeking balance on September 06, 2016:
I am a Libra male and lately I have been feeling disconnected from myself(sign). Mostly because most things I read about Libras don't feel like they connect with me. Most things are always flowery in tone.
I searched out an article like this to better understand myself. I am a only child also raised by a Libra mother. So to say my ability to maintain connection is fucked is putting it mildly. It sux to say but all these dark traits are traits I have observed in myself to some degree (some more than others) and I feel it growing. Things seem to be falling apart around me. Irritability is the worst part I hate about myself. I have zero desires to be a negative libra but honestly don't how to turn it around or even if I can.
Sylvia Sky (author) from USA on September 06, 2016:
The constellation Libra contains stars that belonged to Scorpio until astronomers (not astrologers!) drew new lines in 1930. Lolz, I think your Sun might be among those Scorpio stars.
Jd. on September 06, 2016:
I'm a virgo male and married a female libra. While we were dating i let her know about my one true longtime best friend which was my first ex (gemini)from high school yrs (different schools). We were close like family and talked a lot on the phone and only during work hours(my choice after we started dating in 2000). We have been doing that since 1989 to 2004 we did hookup a few times before 1996 none since then no longer felt right. Godfather to her daughter and son her parents never had. Met my wife in early 2000. We talked on the work phone but never in person 1997 till 2002 and just to show her the engagement ring and never since. My wife told me how she was teased a lot coming up and I was did all I could to show her how much I loved her. Well long story longer I could not invited my best friend and family to my own wedding I'm hurt didn't phase her. I found out later they talked on the phone after my wife told me. My wife had even made a threat to her so while all this was happening behind my back, bad blood was gushing between guess who? Bingo my libra wife and my libra wife. My friend never said a single word ever. That libra bad moon came out PURE EVIL . She wanted me to turn on my friend and hurt her, did didn't fly with me I'm grown and 3yrs older. Libra bad moon stubborn teased low self esteem actually turned her murderist( real word or not) me being a virgo male and 1000% honest our whole relationship I had no secrets. I let her Stew in her own poop made it worst. She invited my best friend over to the house for a business presentation but did admit it was no good purpose. The cat she got for us 1month before she moved in liked me more than her so we got 1 more so they could play together that failed dead cat. 1 ultimatum don't talk to my best friend anymore. Grow up wife. 2 more kids but from 2004 till upcoming divorce cold as ice towards me crazy. What ever happened in her head destroyed her. She took the kids and tried to move into a shelter and she didn't even know why. Libra females are lost of words. She doesn't have money or a job with 3 kids luckily I still support my kids and back to her parents house. She thinks I walked out on her? What The.
Lolz on September 06, 2016:
I am a libra male born on September 23rd.
I'm kind of upset these dark sides don't match me.
One of them that you should really fear about my dark side are my games that I put you in (you are my pawn and will always be until I get my revenge or I hear an apology if not you'll never be out of my loop until you're gone or I am)
If you cross my line you're already in the game of life or death for me. Warning signs. I will never approach you or talk to you because I already gotten more than a 1k people that you know and I know on my side. So good luck living.
Yes I do get angry and yes I get angry a lot sometimes. It all depends on what you do and what you don't do also my mood. When I get angry I yell and scream but if it gets worst I start getting physical and it's scary.
I once got angry at one of my siblings and I zoned out while I was close to their neck to chock them. I didn't thank god my parents were there to snap me out of it.
Yes I am extremely lazy bit I am actually thinking of ways to understand some concepts an etc. In my head and finding out how my mind games are going in my head.
Prefer Librafriends on August 28, 2016:
Some of you seem quite bitter and let your insecurities show by bashing Libras. I think the problem is that you were too selfish and judgemental instead of taking the time and making a genuine effort to get to know and understand a Libra better, you chose to ASSume, criticize, demean, and judge someone you never really got to know. Most Libras are quick to put a wall up to protect themselves from insecure, jealous, judgemental, negative, condescending people who attack them. Remember there are THREE sides to every story: yours, theirs, and the TRUTH.
You may want to look in the mirror first.
I much rather have Libra friends, lovers, co-workers, or acquaintances than any other sign.
Libra Sara on August 28, 2016:
I agree with Jcassar for the most part.
Although I do see some parts of the negative traits, for me personally, I think some of these listed seem exaggerated to highlight the most negative Libras out there.
I was a bit indecisive in my younger younger years. I will admit that. But, because I get impatient and irritated at other people's indecisiveness, I learned to make quick decisions and move on.
After more than four decades, I have realized that II much more prefer the company and friendship of other fellow Librans. And just reading some of the negative opinions and attacks on Libras by others here, it just reaffirms my choice.
I avoid confrontations and drama if at all possible. I strongly dislike negativity and conflict. I am loyal and very protective of my friends and loved ones. I try to always be fair and give everyone a fair chance.
Unfortunately, some people are selfish, insensitive, and don't know how to value a sincere person like myself. When that happens, I've learned to respect myself and just move on. Friendship and respect are a two-way street. I highly value: integrity, loyalty, honesty, and friendship. It seems not every one is on the same page though. That only helps to make it clear that those people are not compatible and I don't want them in my life.
i hate libras on August 20, 2016:
I swear I'm making a note objective after years of analysis and hearing the testimonies of many people. Libra is a sign that exploits the very positive stereotype given to them in many articles, but and a big but. This is not true ! They are the most hypocritical people, will never hear the truth from them. They are popular works as well and everything that motivates them is to please themselves under the guise of providing the other. They are manipulators, competitive sickeningly beneath the surface,
Their status is important to them before everything, even before their family, they are treacherous and chasing sickly, dressing up as those who are fans so they do not have their own character, for them there is nothing to admire a man who slept with many girls, not considered to be a man, not cool - This is the person they imitate every day and every day until they meet someone greater than him in this field is very shallow, and thus inherently boring dressing up as other people, are subject in any depth,
Are looking for the meaning of life, the chronically lazy and manipulate the environment to work for them.
But the best thing I sickening Libra is that they always find a patsy to do their dirty work, who come out worst in their name but unconsciously. I'm Aquarius and many followed after constellations Libra and always pretended I did not notice, but they are so careful people!
romen on July 03, 2016:
hi, i would like to know which one is more accurate sun sign or moon sign.