The Dark Side of Cancer: Clingy, Sentimental, Unhappy, Unforgiving
The Waterworks Sign (June 21 - July 22)
Watching the funeral of Princess Diana, British detective novelist P.D. James wrote:
I wonder if those sad, mascara-laden eyes will droop in reproach over the house of Windsor forever.
Any sad eyes you meet will probably belong to a Cancerian. Children or grownups who cling to their mothers' skirts are also probably Cancerians or have a Cancer moon. Usually homebodies, Cancerians value love, family, and marriage, but when those relationships aren't working, negative Cancerians can make a second career or hobby of martyrdom, moping, addiction, or crime, like Bill Cosby (July 12).
Their unhappiness is always someone else's fault. They are known to seek pity. Princess Diana (July 1) is a perfect example of a Cancerian. All she wanted was a happy home (and to marry a king and have lots of money). They are very devoted and sensitive. This can be a good trait depending on what they are sensitive about and devoted to. But they never forget and never forgive.
Two Real-Life, Negative Cancerians
Cancerian "Alice" (July 15), a widow, had a niche cut into a wall in her lovely home and made her late husband a shrine with a spotlight on his portrait and cries for him every day. She phones her adult daughters daily and they don't dare say they're busy or Mom goes to pieces. She keeps up their childhood bedrooms in case they want to move back home. Alice's holiday gatherings are really for family only, and the talk is all about family. Neighbors, old friends, or relatives by marriage, although invited, are greeted and then ignored. A career homemaker, loving parent and great cook, she is a bit too sensitive to drive a car well or far, and she doesn't circulate outside her family or church except to shop at the finest stores.
Very fit and attractive with a 1960s hairdo and contouring makeup, Alice could date just about anyone, but chooses as her escort and bedmate her ex-son-in-law, an abuser who for years has been anxious for readmission into the family. When her children object to him, Alice cries, "Who else do I have?" Her bachelor son is her handyman and she keeps him tied to her apron strings by harping on imperfections in his girlfriends. Mostly, she finds them insufficiently religious. He's in his second decade of saving to buy the house next to Mom's, should it ever go up for sale.
To lunch with Alice is to gaze into her sad, beautiful eyes while she goes on and on about her wonderful husband of 47 years and his sudden death. She is a shapeshifter: from June Cleaver ubermom with high heels and pearl earrings to a lonely waif you can almost forgive for sleeping with her daughter's ex. She piles into your lap her sentimental scrapbooks and photo albums. Her house and property show that her hubby was prosperous. Her materialism is hardly a secret, as her house is filled to the ceiling with collections, collectibles, and clothes. If she sounds like someone you know, that's because, with her Sun in Cancer, she's the epitome of the generation born with Pluto in Cancer (1914 to 1939). She inspired the saying "When Mama's not happy, nobody's happy."
Cancerian "Patty" (July 20) was a bashful, clinging middle child who eyed her siblings' plates on the dinner table, checking whether her mother had served them bigger portions, showing them favor. If she thought so, she cried and screamed "You don't love me!" and fled and hid. A sullen and secretive teen, she moved to the far edge of the continent, cutting off all communications with her siblings except for Christmas cards, and has not contacted her mother at all for 30 years.
Patty has moved coast to coast, saying she must live near the ocean and have a view of water. Intelligent and shrewd, she built a successful business and married another Cancerian. After serving gourmet food from their awesome kitchen, she will tell everyone how rivals plotted to cheat her, trick her, or undermine her business because they were jealous or because she is female. It seems that even slight acquaintances spend their days plotting against her in the most devious and subtle ways. Her hatred for her mother is undiminished, she won't let go of it, and every cozy conversation devolves into a rant about Mom. She doesn't need any friends; she has her husband and pets. She has no children, and loathes children in general. When others show photos of kids and grandkids, she punishes them by showing photos of her pets and describing them in aggressively lengthy and lacerating detail.
What These Two Women Have in Common
Both Alice and Patty are family-centered, devoted, and sensitive. But negative Cancerians, also called Moon Children, are also tearjerkers, grudge-masters, string-pullers, money-mad, spendthrifts, complainers, martyrs, paranoid, grasping, sentimental, self-serving, gullible, punishing, and far more sensitive about themselves than about anyone else. A good example of a fine Cancerian artist is Frieda Kahlo (July 6), whose subject was herself and her suffering. Others get stuck on motherhood, Mom, or fertility.
Cancerians like the dark and many are tempted to float their troubles away on alcohol or drugs. The women can be great beauties who age well, such as:
- Lena Horne (June 20)
- Eva Marie Saint (July 4)
- Babe Paley (July 5)
The men age badly, and even young ones tend to have a rumpled, shadowy, dampish, day-old look, or a gut. They can be drifters or eccentrics, and they like money more than working for it.
Negative Cancerian Avatars
- John Dillinger (June 22)
- Gary Busey (June 29)
- Lindsay Lohan (July 2)
- O.J. Simpson (July 9)
- Jodi Arias (July 9)
- Bill Cosby (July 12)
- Willis Carto (July 17)
- Lizzie Borden (July 19)
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