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Dark Side of Aries: Arrogant, Aggressive, Hotheaded, Vain

Sylvia Sky, M.A., is an experienced writer-astrologer and author of "Sun Sign Confidential: The Dark Side of all 12 Zodiac Signs."

Not all of the traits of an Aries are positive.

Not all of the traits of an Aries are positive.

It's All About the Mouth

There are three negative Aries personality types: aggressive, passive-aggressive, and just plain passive.

  • Aggressive Aries gets hopping mad about things he cannot change or control—like the Civil War or the way other people drive—and downloads his fury upon whomever is nearest.
  • Passive-aggressive Aries needs reminders to flush the toilet or renew his driver's license. He does this because he knows it bothers you.
  • Passive Aries, helpless by choice, is neck-deep in repair bills, fines, and late fees. By not lifting a finger, he or she controls the whole house.

No one disputes that this first sign of the zodiac is gifted with energy and leadership ability. A positive Aries acts to fill a need, while a negative one fulfills Aries' needs. Ariens are almost always good-looking—or think they are. But even if not, people are attracted because of their energy and Fire Sign warmth. Romantics imagine that youthful athletic Aries is their knight or warrior queen in shining armor. Eventually, their true colors show.

Telling a Positive From a Negative Aries Isn't Easy

A positive Aries will grin and admit to being vain and sometimes selfish. A negative one will disguise her inflated ego and arrogance by saying she has "high ideals" or "radical politics," or insisting that her attitude makes for "good business."

Along with Scorpio, Ariens are the motormouths of the zodiac, talking forever and insufferably, like Al Gore (born March 31). Positive Ariens question authority, as did talented writer Christopher Hitchens (April 13), author of a book-length exposé of Mother Teresa that made him many enemies. He smoked and drank himself to death—not unusual for Aries who, consciously or not, likes to be the agent of his or her own demise. An atheist lawyer named Madalyn Murray O'Hair (April 13) stood up for the Constitution's separation of church and state and was for decades "the most hated woman in America."

Telltale Signs of Aries

Traditionally the sign Aries rules the head and face, and an Aries Sun or Aries Moon person can often be identified by scarring on the forehead or face or (these days) facial plastic surgery, like Steven Tyler (March 26).

But negative Aries is not about the head or what’s in it; it’s about the mouth. Complaining, begging, selling, and gossiping, their signature song is “I Heard It Through the Grapevine,” composed by Marvin Gaye (April 2). The negative Aries or Aries Moon believes all truth is underground and he has a direct line to it. Original Star Trek actor George Takei (April 20) wrote a tell-all that bad-mouthed fellow Aries William Shatner (March 22). Takei later apologized and today scrapes along by issuing amusing or ironic tweets.

Negative Aries people relish delivering bad news, and— no surprise— love to talk about how much other people want them. Ariens score and string people along for sport and ego, like Warren Beatty (March 30), more famous for his sexual affairs than his acting. Aggressive Aries prefers loud abusive arguments to sex. Passive Aries will avoid sex or just lie there, joyously aware that this annoys and frustrates their partner. They won't say, "Let's split up." That dirty work is left up to you.

Valerie Solanas (birthday April 9) shot Andy Warhol because he wouldn't cast her in his movies.

Valerie Solanas (birthday April 9) shot Andy Warhol because he wouldn't cast her in his movies.

Aries and Money

Negative Aries people leave their valuables or purses out and open and lose them frequently. Often saying they hate money, capitalism, or the Federal Reserve, they feel that they are above money, but won’t consider marriage unless their financial stability is guaranteed. Love might be a factor, but the deciding factor for negative Aries will be a rich spouse or rich parents. Divorcing an aggressive Aries can be like taking candy from a baby because they are egoistic enough to think they don't need a lawyer.

Aries' motormouth makes him or her a natural for sales work, and business-minded Ariens can build retail empires, like Sam Walton (March 29), Hugh Hefner (April 9), and F.W. Woolworth (April 13). Or they build criminal empires, like drug lord Joaquin "El Chapo" Guzman (April 4).

Aries Women on Top

The sign Aries has masculine polarity, but while the men aren't hyper-masculine, Aries women often have masculine looks or mannerisms or wear the pants in the family. Don't tell them that, or they will rip your face off. Hollywood superstar Joan Crawford (March 23) had heavy eyebrows and wore square-shouldered suits that gave her a threatening look. She and rival actress Bette Davis (April 5), both Oscar winners, have throaty man-type voices typical of their sign. Like many Aries women, they look ugly from some angles and gorgeous from others. Even the cute former cheerleader named "Sam" (April 18) who is my aerobics instructor yells like a drill sergeant. Rosie O’Donnell (March 21) has a bellow to match her body.

Aries women are tough enough to handle traditionally male jobs, including U.S. Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi (March 26), the first female U.S. Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor (March 26), and St. Catherine of Siena (March 25) who persuaded an exiled Pope to return to Rome. Like the ram that is their symbol, they can scramble to unprecedented heights: for example, race-car driver Danica Patrick (March 25) or pop star Lady Gaga (March 28), another ugly/gorgeous woman (who was at first rumored to be a man).

Like any other sign, Ariens can go nuts, but doing it their way makes headlines. Assassin Valerie Solanas (April 9), a wanna-be actress, started her own personal Society for Cutting Up Men (SCUM) and eventually shot artist Andy Warhol because he wouldn't cast her in his movies.

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This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

© 2012 Sylvia Sky


Arasreeds on December 16, 2019:

I am an Aries, Libra rising, Gemini moon and I have always been thrown out of everywhere because of my mouth.

Anonymous88 on September 23, 2019:

And yet there are so many Aries models who are paid to look amazing in photographs:

Dana Tate from LOS ANGELES on March 12, 2019:

I work with an Aries and live with one and you have hit their personality to a tee. In fact, you may have been too kind. Anyway, the traits I have noticed about them bothers me the most. Manipulative, lazy, bad with money but only to manipulate others to pay their way.

Sarcastic and abusive with the mouth but so shallow they're always the victim in every circumstance. They're vain and self-centered, and I loved what you said controlling the whole house without lifting a finger.

MGDNGHT on November 12, 2018:

Bit harsh, but some of it made me chuckle. As an Aries with much Gemini influence, and knowing you are an Aquarius, I know it is just because of your way with words, and sense of humour. ;) I would come up with a few choice retaliations of my own, but found that you have done a good job on your own sign. I was married to an Aquarius man at one point, and your description fitted him to a tee.

Please keep more of this coming, it gives people like me a good laugh. :D

Dickicht on October 12, 2018:

Hah! You gave me a good laugh,an Aquarius guy once told me I would make a good drill sergeant,need to mention I am a Taurus with a heavy dose of Aries and the other fire signs. I love Aries no matter how dirty they try to get. Maybe cause I love a good fight like they do,my Venus in Aries is getting a real kick from it. And Aries just doesn't let go,what is just perfect for me hehe.

Also the way they handle things,the bravery like a Spartan is heavenly,even when they're almost burn themselves out on a row, it's truly addicting,the cardinal fire.

I think Aries are more their own worst enemy like scorpios.

Nothing is ever done without war.

I saw "negative" aries but while they were negative,they were still fair like a libran,to everyone else but not themselves. It was heart breaking.

The negative thing was,two aries I know sabotage their own life with cheating on their perfect(their words) partners constantly,and whenever they've done it and regret moment kicked in,they thought extreme,suicidal,extrem nights out,unstoppable drinking, or starting other major life changing moves. And just to turn back and apologise for their behavior,it was scary cause there was nothing to fix in these moments. (Spoken like a real Taurus,gotta fix :3 )

I have a good and close Aries friend,he can't handle love,whenever I show him simple uncomplicated love,he takes it and turns it into a battle. In the beginning I thought he will lose me but luckily he had good intentions with me and we do get along. Sadly he uses the same method with everyone else,show something,break it or mash it up,and then see how they react probably testing their strength and see how worthy or unworthy they are,but the nice thing is,he always gives them a chance as long they didn't crossed his line,and he shows love and kindness to everybody. Supporting charity projects without making it a big deal.

That's leadership how I like it.

Hannan Zhou on September 26, 2018:

I happen to be Aries. Interesting. This is very accurate. However, I will not rip your face off for these facts. I'm the passive aggressive type. Any other Aries like me will tell you that it's very satisfying to do those things, at least initially.

Also, in reply to all the comments below, I'll just say: Everyone is different. Yes, these astrology things do generalize people, but it's mostly quite precise. Of course we're all going to have irregular quirks. Without that, the world would be boring. My Aries friends mostly fit this description.

And when you say that this makes it seem like someone is trying to shoot you down? They're stating flaws. We all have them. I'm not narcissist enough to deny that.

MaikenZ on December 15, 2017:

I fell in love with a handsome, dark Aries. He said he loved me but handed me over to his best friend to have sex with me to spice it up, as he put it. Then suggested he'd sell me for money. No shame at all. (Pisces with Aries rising)

Ariella on January 03, 2017:

I'm an Aries. I really feel like I am always attacked and someone is trying to destroy me. I will admit I am sometimes vain but I have dealt with things like anorexia and bulimia because my world was so out of control and believe when my cheekbones and jaw were exemplified I was not ugly. Rarely is there a pure flow of thought to where my eyes can blossom or balance and everyone is so negative around me I can't stick to things for very long. I believe in the perfect world but only struggle with depression because of how negative my environment can be which doesn't allow me to convey my inner self, which may or may not be attractive but I love the positive aura I mostly display. I feel like I only have a loud mouth when others whisper and bully me to a certain extent and no one is here to love me, protect, or blossom me. Society is that harsh. Not all Aries are here to make bad mistakes as we can be quite vulnerable. Yes, a lot of other signs are not as emotionally vulnerable as us. Not because we are masculine, but because we need the divine protector, provider, and creature to allow us to blossom into our fruitful beautiful selves. I feel like I am only a brat when my needs are pertained too because I feel as if I can become deathly I'll and have been hospitalized ten times or whatever because everyone else is psycho. It's not paranoia or a bully/masculine/unaware state I simply need love and protection and it's hard feeling alone all the time because everyone around you tries to unevolve you, control you or put you down for who you are. Everyone must have a little beautiful inside of them and it's not fair to cripple anyone. Because of what you may assume to be all Aries appareances. Honestly , pure love is beautiful and I need the most professional photographers and intellect, because simply shooting me down anytime I blossom an idea is not beautiful or pretty in itself so balancing weight, hair and a flow of ideas is what is gorgeous to me, not always because you catch someone at a bad angle. Just strive to be your best. :)

DremeArcher on July 21, 2016:

I was looking into the dark side of aries because an aries literally flipped from my best friend I couldn't live without into a horrible enemy. She's insecure, conceited, jealous and pretends she isn't being passive aggressive when she destroys my things and takes them. She gossips to everyone about me, and she messes up, alot. She has high hopes and dreams and never backs them up and she always seems to have the advice for everyone. When she gets nothing right. She lies just to be right and what's worse she's boy crazy. She can't seem to pull herself together but finds a way to have a miscarriage and unplanned pregnancies, she is often to blame but blames everyone. She used to be nice, warm, loving, and coool. However now she is just big headed and bossy because she feels a lack of control in her life. Aries isn't cute and their attitudes aren't either. I don't know why they get such positive attention it's utter bullshit. Sure there's Gerard and his passionate yet heart wrenching lyrics but that is like the tip of the ice berg with aries. When there is drama they want it to keep going in cycles, they want to keep suffering, and all the while ask why the hell they got there. Here's an answer get off your ass and stop expecting people to worship you. I guess your facade only is potent in relationships but people can see right through them outside of their romantic life.

Mary on March 10, 2016:

I have dated an Arian male 22.3 never again totally selfish in a relationship. Arian women on the other hand I don't mind they r leaders, somewhat vain but underneath have a heart of gold.

Candi on March 05, 2016:

I'm an Aries Sun & Moon and I found this article to be hilarious but true at the same time! I personally do think that Aries women are the strongest between the men and women of this zodiac sign (although it didn't mention it here because that would be a positive trait!) But Aries men seem to be very weak compared to the women and it's annoying. Also, I at times look ugly/beautiful in pictures and when people see me in person think I'm gorgeous (yep that was my ego speaking) temper is so bad I feel like I might set a fire off literally lol!!! This article was good and it didn't hurt my feelings because I defintely see truth in it. Oh, only thing I disagree with is the using of people. I have not ever used anyone to my knowledge :/ but anyway it was a great read!.......... Now, I just need to figure out my best side in pictures! Hmmm:)

Sylvia Sky (author) from USA on September 29, 2015:

I'm an Aquarius.

Not me! Aries. on September 29, 2015:

You took it "easy" on the aries in comparison to other signs. One would guess YOU are an aries. I can think of no other reason you would be so much harsher, or simply truthful with all other signs .. Yet hide so much of the negativity when it came to the aries. Shame on you .. Aries deserves to be scrutinized as much as the others.

I'm guessing it was too hard for you to be brutally honest about your own sign - aries .. Sound familiar .. That's an aries for you! Lol

Brandy on August 29, 2015:

I agree with this entire article. I am an Aries woman march 29. And I am indeed ugly/gorgeous. People think I'm amazing in person but I have problems taking nice pictures. Always have displayed leadership qualities but I am very lazy and don't like to finish what I start if it gets too hard or lose interest. I have an interesting persona very funny outgoing adventurous and nice. I brag alot but mostly so people can agree and make me feel better. I definitely string people along when they are in love with me for my ego, or so I can use them. But when I do use people they enjoy it so it makes me feel like it's ok. I have recently discovered I am in love with a cancer. I'm 25 he is 22. If it doesn't work out I will seek another cancer. I believe it is a most thrilling match and I hope it works out. I've never felt this way about anyone. I feel like he is my moon and I am his sun. When we are together I always outshine him, but he is certainly more beautiful and elegant like the moon. Thanks for reading my comment hope it helped someone

shb on May 23, 2015:

I have sun in cancer,moon in aries and rising sun in libra.All three are different in approach towards life.

one pulls me in one direction,other in exactly the opposite one.while libra tells a different story.

God help me.


ariespower9 on September 11, 2014:

Sylvia, thanks so much for this and all of your articles. You're spot-on about the dark side of Aries. I am an Aries Sun with the Moon in Libra, Cancer rising. Since I was old enough to observe the differences between the sexes, I've considered females to be the "other", even though I am female and straight. I speak in a throaty voice and know that I look good in 1% of photographs due to the angle. I have known some "negative" Aries and they rival Libra in the potential for passive-aggressive behavior. A good teacher points out your flaws with humor and sincerity. We all have flaws--why not laugh about them? It's also an opportunity for growth. Cheers!

Cinthia on August 08, 2014:

I guess you're an Aries. Hahahahaha

jan on April 14, 2012:

negative ariens sound scary - like joan crawford,

but they're still so lovable in the spotlight. could be because they're so exalted in the sun (their sun sign)

moon ariens seem very ambitious, and strong like their sun, but i noticed it is depending on the other planets strength. my brother has an arien moon, very courageous but the libra mars gives him that lack of drive in the career department, which really makes him go crazy.