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Dating a Virgo: What to Expect

Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.

Virgo is down-to-earth, cerebral, and independent. They have excellent manners in relationships, but they often avoid relationships.

Virgo is down-to-earth, cerebral, and independent. They have excellent manners in relationships, but they often avoid relationships.

Introduction to Virgo

Virgo is considered to be the sign that likes being single the most. Virgo can do long stretches without ever having a partner. This doesn't mean that Virgo doesn't like relationships, they're just picky and really love being independent. Virgo is an ambitious, hard-working person. They can veer into perfectionism. A Virgo takes a long time to warm up to someone they like. They really need time to introspect and manage their own affairs. They like to consider the traits of a mate for a while, particularly if they are smart, warm-hearted, and loyal. Once Virgo officially starts dating someone, they'll put a great deal of energy into it.

A Virgo likes to follow traditions. They may be predictable to date. You can almost see their moves coming before they act them out. They are hospitable souls, so they'll want to make sure you are doing well and feel comfortable. They like to get their hands dirty—they'll have a number of projects they are trying to complete. They love to show their affection through acts of service; they'll be there when your car breaks down, they'll get you medicine, they'll cheer you up on a rainy day. Virgo cares about success. Not just the success of Virgo's career or ambitions, but the success of Virgo's relationships. This is partly why they'll take awhile to date—they want to make sure, absolutely 100% they have a good (if not perfect) match.

Looking for a Sweet Soul

Virgos are sensitive souls. They like the finer things of life, they can sometimes come across OCD. Virgos don't really care about whether you're wild, creative, sexual, or any of that—they want to make sure you are caring and empathetic. They want to tell you how they really feel and feel safe about doing so. Encourage them to speak their minds. Encourage them that it's okay to be upset. You can help them by being calm, creating a harmonious setting, and letting them know it is safe to express their emotions—which can come out in many different color shades of the rainbow. Sometimes they don't get as much chance to express themselves as they would like because people see them in a different way. Certain zodiac signs will be able to pull them out of their shell better than others. Sometimes the Virgo feels like they can't be themselves because of other people's expectations.

Be upfront and real with them in a gentle way. There is definitely a time to joke around and be silly, and there's a time to get serious and be mature. You might see your Virgo being excessively adult one day and the next day seeming like an adorable puppy with all the energy of a thousand and one suns.

Do what you can to keep things clean and orderly. The better your environment, the better the Virgo will feel. Virgos like things tidy; if things are in a disarray, they may take on the cleaning tasks themselves from a sense of duty. This won't help them relax. They are needing an outlet away from the anxiety they feel from helping others. A house covered in filth, poor hygiene habits, and a messy social life could scare off a Virgo in a heartbeat.

Nurture the Nurturer

Virgos by instinct want to take care of others. Notice when they may need to be pampered instead. Help them to think about themselves, to relax, to calm down and feel better. Give them chocolate, prepare a home-cooked meal, let them nap somewhere with a really comfortable blanket, and some relaxation music. Be the calm for their storm of life, and it will help them recharge and be stronger than ever. Virgos are often attracted to those that make them feel safe and comforted. Someone who is considered a hot mess and doesn't have a clue what they're doing one moment to the next will on frustrate Virgos. They need somebody who is balanced, soothing and is taking care of themselves. Again, Virgos like success, so if you seem successful, that is extremely attractive to them. Virgos are not jerks toward those that may be falling behind when it comes to adulting, they'll genuinely want to help, but that doesn't mean they'll feel the need to start a relationship with you. Virgos are prone to care about the wellbeing of others. They feel a deep call to help humanity whether that means assuring people have shelter, food, or riveting conversation. Virgos are meticulously taking care of things to optimize themselves to take care of others. Taking care of people is their addiction fully and forever.


A Virgo may pull away. Sometimes right before dating someone, they pull away to reassess. Don't bother them when they do this. They don't want to be distracted by you. You'll know everything is okay when they come rushing back to see you. If they miss you, that's part of how they can tell. Also, a Virgo is prone to getting bogged down by a big project. They never forget you while in the middle of the project; they have a lot of faith and sometimes that means a big project in their mind means more prosperity for both of you. If you try to get too much in the way of the project and bring them down with negativity, you may push your Virgo away or confuse them endlessly. They want you to trust them, so they don't understand why you are so vigilant against something that might bring growth. Remember, they haven't forgotten you. If you want them to come back from their job, try sweetening up, not becoming a negative nancy. They'll miss you more if you somehow keep getting more and more endearing.

Virgos bring beauty into their surroundings. They're often minimalists, avoiding any type of clutter.

Virgos bring beauty into their surroundings. They're often minimalists, avoiding any type of clutter.

Questions, Questions, Questions

Want to know if a Virgo likes you? A Virgo can't help but ask questions. The last one that was attracted to me wanted to know everything. From:

  • What is your family like?
  • What do you do when you leave here?
  • Do you like spending time with me?
  • Where do you work?
  • Where do you live?
  • What are your hobbies?
  • What do you think of Michael Jackson?
  • Are you Catholic?
  • Are you a good dancer?
  • How many languages do you know?

The Virgo is constantly curious. They investigate everything with questions. Once one question starts, they'll continue on and on asking all sorts of questions that unfold in their brains. It'll be a never-ending questionnaire. When they like someone, they must know everything, and they may forget to tell about themselves. While giving a million questions, they'll insert compliments here, there, and everywhere into the conversation. Virgos are conversationalists. They are looking for practical application and logic, while also digging deeper into creativity. The Virgo may come off as stiff and boring on a first impression, but truth be told, they are vibrant personalities with a plethora of mental energy happening in their minds. They are both playful and serious. They want to go through the mind and completely search it out. A Virgo stuck on an Aquarius could end up in an infinite loop of asking questions and being curious. The Aquarius doesn't even fully know itself.

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I Must Impress You!

When a Virgo likes someone, they must impress them immediately. They may do strange feats of strength, showiness, or all-around peacocking to get your attention. A Virgo wants you to be impressed, so they may ask endless amounts of questions to figure out what interests you so they can impress you. They'll go to great lengths to come up with something that seems amazing. Virgos can be quite dramatic and insane when it comes to romance, so if you want intensity then you will surely get it from them having an amazing amount of need to impress you. Definitely pat them on the back so they know they are on the right track.

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

© 2016 Andrea Lawrence


Andrea Lawrence (author) on September 16, 2017:

Thank you! I'm just now getting back into writing for HubPages. Definitely follow me here. I'll be doing more when it comes to astrology.

akashbhartiya on August 30, 2017:

hey Andrea...

I am a Virgo

I find your article quite good & true as per my nature.. & experiences

wish you best of luck...

hope to read more upcoming Stuff by You .

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