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Cancer Moon Sign Emotions

Updated on October 31, 2016
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Jean has taught Astrology and Tarot for 40 years. She enjoys music, reading, knitting, gardening and meditation in her cottage in the woods.

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Cancer Moon Sign People

The Moon is in its rulership in the sign of Cancer, so this is where it can express itself to the best and fullest. Moon in Cancer natives are deeply emotional and very sensitive. They have psychic abilities and can read others very easily. They really do know what you are thinking before you say a word. Such strong emotions can make a person moody and oversensitive, so try to gauge the general frame of mind the Moon in Cancer person is in when you approach them. They are interested in occult subjects, often Astrologers, Tarot Card Readers, Psychics, Mediums, or they can read auras and chakras.

They are always well versed in ancient knowledge that is being rediscovered. Since the Moon travels through all twelve signs of the Zodiac in about 28 days, you will see Cancer Sun and Moon natives in twelve different lights! You won’t ever be bored for sure. The Moon stays in each sign for about 2 ½ days. Check the link below to find where your Moon Sign is.

Close Family and Friend Relationships

These are people with strong family ties, and don’t you dare say a word about their Sainted Mother! They speak with Mom on the phone several times a day. They have a handful of close friends that they consider family as well, and tend to hang onto friends for a long time, often from childhood all through adulthood. This is all well and good, but if you are in a romantic relationship with any Cancer Moon Sign People and their family and friends don’t like you, it could be a deal breaker for your affair. So if you love this person, be prepared to do your best to get along with the important figures in their lives. These people are old-fashioned and romantic, and normally looking for a stable, committed relationship, like marriage. They love children and normally want to have a big family. Actually, their health and well being can depend upon it. They like belonging to close-knit communities and social groups, it gives them a sense of security.

Since they have such a love for children you can also find them as midwifes, nurses, OBGYN doctors, or emotional counselors. They really shine there since they have such great intuition and good bedside manner. It sometimes surprises people that Cancer Moon Sign People are much stronger emotionally than they appear. After all, Cancer is a cardinal sign of leadership. They handle business matters very well, and are trusted members of whatever business they gravitate towards. They are very security minded and are good at handling money, so you will find them in the worlds of Accounting, Banking, and Real Estate. Cancer rules the home, so they like to buy and sell them, as well as take care of their own.

They also make good actors or writers. Just because they are a touch vulnerable, don’t make the mistake of thinking that they are weak. They may shed a tear as they argue with you, but as soon as you leave they will calmly clean a closet or balance the checkbook. Cancer Moons are much tougher and more resilient than you think. Remember the hard shell that surrounds a Crab? It knows when to hide its head to protect itself. Many astrologers describe Cancer as a whiny, hypochondriac sign, but it is a cardinal sign of leadership, and you will find many respected business people and others as Cancers (check out my Famous People of the Signs series, to learn more about well known Cancer achievers),

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Emotional and Nurturing

Cancer Moon Sign People are the care-takers of the Zodiac. They are loyal friends who will take you into their homes for weeks while you work out problems and get back on your feet. They usually have pets they dote upon. They are serious and responsible parents and siblings, often the ones who smooth over family spats and help solve problems. Cancer Moon Sign people are very sympathetic, and put that into action all the time. They love to putter around the house and garden, and are good cooks. You may find them as owners of a florist too. They can’t stand the thought of anyone going hungry or being alone and needing help. They are always willing to feed the hungry, or to crusade to help the down-trodden. These are peaceable people as well.

Some of them come off as needy and self-absorbed, but they worry too much, especially about health related matters. While young they feel like they don’t fit in anywhere. Later, they find out that practically everyone feels that way at times. Cancer Moon Sign People are imaginative, creative souls, who love poetry and music. They are tender and lovable, but are afraid to let others see how sensitive they really are, so may keep that hidden until they know you better. You will find they have a great sense of humor, and may use it to cheer you up as you tell them your problems. They are good listeners and will do their best to give you sound advice.

Cancer Moon people tend to hold in their emotions for a long time. Then when you least expect it, they let loose a diatribe about all that bothered them about you for the last ten years! This can be very disconcerting to say the least. They need to learn to get their feelings and issues out into the open, as it’s not healthy to keep them in and to brood about them. So if you have an important Cancer Moonsign in your life, try to talk about any issues that come up as soon as they do. It's best to air things out before they fester. Cancers don't mean to hold grudges, but are so afraid of hurting your feelings, they keep their own in, and this can cause trouble in any relationship.

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Restless and Businesslike

Cancer Moon Sign people also are restless and love to travel to exotic places, to meet new people. They like to socialize and are good hosts. But they also need “down” time to be alone with their thoughts. Do not take it personally when they want to be alone. They do actually have a rich inner life and will go out by themselves at times. People seem to think they are clingy, but in actuality a Cancer Moon is a person who feels comfortable going out to dinner or a movie alone. It helps to recharge their energy level, which is a bit low, as it comes in spurts. They do a lot for a period, then sort of go into seclusion for a bit, until you think, “Gee, I haven’t heard from so and so for a while, I should call.” They tend to withdraw when they are upset and having problems. So you need to be able to judge when to offer help and try to cheer them up, and when it’s best to just leave them alone. It is hard for them to say “no” to those in need, as it is also difficult for them to put themselves first. This is the cause of their occasional burnout.

As you likely know by now, the moon passes through all 12 Zodiac signs each month, staying in each for a little more than 2 days. So this will affect not only Cancer Moon and Sun people, but all the people in your life. When I began my serious study of Astrology, I kept a Moon journal. After a few months, it became obvious that specific things happened or just worked out better in certain moons. Capricorn Moons are good times to pay bills and take care of policies, to work on the serious things in your life. Gemini moons are times to entertain. If you choose to follow such a journal, it can help you immensely. You will be able to see what is a good day to ask your boss for a raise, or a good day to work in your garden.

Cancer Moon Sign People are well respected people that you can trust. They are often the Treasurers of Clubs, or the ones who help their family and friends with financial planning. You are in good hands when they decide to help you. These are people who tell the truth when you ask for advice. It may not be the truth you want to hear. But it is never said just to hurt you. Cancer Moon natives are very conscientious and normally very well liked. When in their homes, you feel cozy, welcome and will never go home hungry! You may not want to go home at all!

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      Jean Bakula 12 days ago from New Jersey

      Oh, OK. HMM. I can't recall where his Venus was, it was just last night I answered. But Venus in a man's chart is his ideal woman. We had that, sorry, this is on the comments page, I liked it better when the questions were on the hubs before we answered. Aquarius and Gemini are air signs. They seem aloof, but aren't really cold. OK, you don't need to have the same planets in the same sign. You want some easy planets in signs, and a few more challenging ones, or he would bore you to death. Sag Mars for him and Sag Venus for you? Very sexy, Mars is the man, Venus is the woman, same sign. So you are independent too, and don't want him to cling. That's a great attraction. If you want a tarot reading about your relationship, I can do that. I charge $35.00 but do several readings, not one, and write it all out and send the pictures to you. If you can't do that, I'd do it for $30.00, since I've spent time on this already and thought the relationship seemed promising. Think about it. I am at jeanbakula.wordpress.com and my Paypal address is just Jean Bakula, if you decide yes, just go to the part on the dashboard and click Pay, and use my real name. If money is tight, can you just give me his whole birthday, month, day, year? Sometimes if the moon sign isn't far into the sign (there are 30 degrees in a sign) I use a Mindnight book or ephemeris and can see what degree the moon was in at midnight on his b-day. If it's only a few degrees, I can see it and we could maybe pin it down for sure. Let's try that first, OK? If you try to go thru the site where you got the planets in the signs, they will just make the time Noon, and I can do better than that by looking at my reference books. I'll be looking out for you. Take care, Jean Write me with the date at moongene@optonline.net. It's very easy for me to look up his birthday, just get the right year.

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      Tatka621 12 days ago

      Jean, thank you for quick response! I might got you a little confused though: I was actually asking about another person, not myself-since I don’t know the exact time he was born, he can be either Gemini Moon (if born before 3:12 am on that day) or Cancer Moon (if after), so with all the other planets given, I was wondering if I could figure it out, what his Moon sign actually is, just by looking at his attitude, the way he reacts to things, etc...I am so interested, because I know Moon sign in man’s chart also describes a type of a woman he wants to marry :):)

      I do think he likes me, but at times he's so cold. And his moods do change frequently. I think he’s romantic but it’s like he’s trying to hide it, always wants to look tough!

      As for me-I'm Capricorn Sun/Mercury, Moon in Libra, Venus in Sag, Mars in Aries, and Virgo Asc.

      Doesn’t seem like we have many matches here:(

      Although his Sag Mars conjunct my Venus..does it mean we attracted to each other?

      I know its still not enough info, but how i said i don't have his time of birth, so its impossible to know what houses planets are in, his Asc and so on, and it kind of bothers me. But if you have any suggestions/comments on our comparison-they will be much much appreciated!!! If you feel like providing your paypal info-may be i could even make a small donation of$20-30, i really liked all your comments, so interesting to read even what you tell others!

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      Jean Bakula 13 days ago from New Jersey

      Well, let's see. Your Cancer moon makes you more emotional and moody, but also sensitive, caring and creative. A Gemini Moon is still about feelings, but Gemini is a Mercury sign, ruled by intellect, so he won't be as sentimental or romantic as you might like. However, you could have other Gemini planets, that's why I don't like it when I get lists of planets like this, it's a small part of the story. Each planet is in a house, with 3 or 4 meanings, and a certain distance away from each other planet, which matters the most. I can't see that or the Ascendant. But we'll work with what we have. An Aquarius sun/Gemini moon gives you a very nonconformist intellect of a person, fun, but a little aloof. The Mercury in Venus means an interest in a lot of subjects, so he sounds like fun. Oh, love Venus in Pisces, he IS romantic they are the most lovable and sentimental. This is good with all the air signs. He is active in sports or just restless, but usually a Mars in Sag makes a very active person. It can work, I'd like to see you have a few air or fire signs. But his Venus works well with your changeable Cancer moon. Good Luck.

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      Tatka621 13 days ago

      Hi, Jean, great post! Very informative, thank you!

      Would you be able to describe, how is Cancer Moon behavior/emotions etc will differ from Gemini Moon’s in a person who has Aquarius Sun and Mercury, Venus in Pieces and Sagittarius Mars. Im asking because Im not sure what time he was born, so it could be either one.

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      Jean Bakula 2 months ago from New Jersey

      Hello Magoo,

      The Cancer Moon and Asc. do make one moody, but moods can be good too, right? With the Ascendant, you appear moodier than you probably are. The Gemini sun causes us to be changeable too, but it's because you look at an issue from so many sides, you want to be fair. I have Mercury and Venus in Gemini, and three planets in Cancer, so I can relate. Water signs understand each other, so your love interest will get along well with you. The Scorpio moon will cause a little jealousy and stubbornness, but knowing this much I would say go for it. Best Wishes!

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      Magoo 2 months ago

      Great article! I have been interested in Astrology since I was a teenager and used to find my Gemini sun the best part of my chart, but the older I get the more and more I appreciate my Cancer moon and cancer asc. I feel as if the cancer has more influence on my identity than Gemini ever has and wonder if the Gemini sun and the cancer moon makes me even moodier and changeable than others? Also curious to know if my love interest who is a cancer sun ans scorpio moon would be a good fit?

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      Jean Bakula 2 months ago from New Jersey

      Hi Misti,

      I don't see many matches with the same sun sign, so am not surprised that a Gemini isn't doing it for you. Since you both have air signs for sun signs, that's good. It's an easy match. You are both curious, intelligent, and like to try new things. You both have sentimental sides with those Cancer Moons, and a love of family and tradition. Interestingly, there are many Cancer/Aquarius couples. Ronald and Nancy Reagan were one. Since Aquarius changes a lot, and suddenly, ruled by Uranus, they can understand the Cancer who changes every 2 + days when the moon changes signs. And you both understand that the other one needs "me" time, and won't get hurt feelings. There may be times when you both get over emotional together, but all in all, give each other some space, and I think you will be fine. Best of luck! Take care!

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      Misti Leigh 2 months ago

      Hi Jean! I loved the info. I am a Gemini sun, Cancer moon. When I read about Gemini I can see some things in me but reading about the Cancer moon makes more sense now. My sister is also a Gemini and I couldn't figure out how we were so different. Now I know. After 2 failed relationships with Gemini men I have met an amazing match I believe. I am dating a man that is Aquarius sun and Cancer moon. Our personalities seem really matched so far. Like any relationhship it isnt perfect but we always seem to get each other. There are moments that I get the Aquarius part of him but it seems short lived and the Cancer moon takes over. I have learned to just be patient and wait for the changing of the tides basically. The Aquarius sun/Cancer moon is very different from what I am used too. I have known many Aquarius and he isnt like any if them. He gets into his mood where he wants to be alone and have his down time like a typical Aquarius but then gets upset if I really leave him alone. Lol. He also gets irritated by my constant questions and always wanting to help. I am trying to remember that he too is intelligent and to not offer my help unless he asks for it. Do you have any suggestions on how to handle him? Any concerns about our sun/moon match up? I would love to hear your thoughts on it. Thanks in advance!

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      Jean Bakula 2 months ago from New Jersey

      Wow, a lot of cardinal, leadership signs. Depending on how late it was that June night, it could be a Cancer Sun, then it would be 3 cardinal signs. Do you act more on your feelings, like a Cancer, or on your thoughts, like a Gemini? The Aries moon makes you fun and you like to try new things. Capricorn Rising may cause you to put up a wall with people. You don't want to waste time, so won't get to know them too well until you decide you really like them.

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      Marjorie 2 months ago

      Lol I'm a last degree Gemini sun (June 20th born at night) with Aries moon and Capricorn rising with Uranus and Neptune in 1st house Conjunct ascendant. And just snooping around.

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      Jean Bakula 3 months ago from New Jersey

      Well, you are very outgoing with your Sag Sun. The Cancer Moon means you hold back and wait to get to know somebody before you trust them. Venus in Libra means you are a natural leader, and actually, Cancer is also a leadership sign. Cancer likes to lead behind the scenes though. The Sun square the Venus, Cancer and Libra, between your emotions and love life, means there's a little bit of an issue there. Venus in Libra likes beautiful things and exciting people, and the Cancer Moon gives you trust issues. But it can also be a really hot love life! The Aquarius Ascendant also makes you appear aloof, so that, with the Cancer Moon, means half of you is outgoing and half of you is shy. When you trust the person, the outgoing part of you and the more adventurous signs will come out. It's not a mess, just take your time and get to understand people before you let them too much in your life.

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      Esmeralda Miguel 3 months ago

      I love this article thanks! I have sag in sun cancer in moon Aquarius ascendent with a little dash of libra in Venus. As you can see I'm a mess lol

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      Jean Bakula 4 months ago from New Jersey

      You're welcome Kitty. I always found that the right person comes along when we are busy doing other things we love, and aren't even trying to meet them! I know there's somebody out there worth waiting for, In the meantime, keep busy, you never know--we meet people in the strangest places!

      Take care, Jean

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      Kittyky 4 months ago

      Thank you so much Jean....I think I already knew what you told I just to hear it. I get so much slack for being guarded, but it's for reason. I'm gonna leave him alone because i know ive had a feeling something was off about him from day one. I should've followed my first mind. it's already unhealthy and found out he has been trying to talk to cousin for the last couple years before he me. Thank you again.

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      Jean Bakula 4 months ago from New Jersey

      I would continue to be myself, and go slowly, see if he gets more understanding and behaves in a more mature way. Kitty there are other fish in the sea. Give him a chance, but if he isn't your cup of tea, move on. Jean

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      Jean Bakula 4 months ago from New Jersey

      Hello Kitty ky,

      It's his Cancer Moon that makes him so sensitive. Although Aquarians are usually more freedom loving and reserved in relationships, That moon makes him clingy. I would think you are expressive enough with your Leo Moon and Venus, and sensible acting with the Mars in Virgo. I think he's being manipulative. Try to talk it out, but if he keeps annoying you, it may be time to move on. Let me know. Jean

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      Kittyky 4 months ago

      Loved your articel! thought it was very informative.. I am a leo sun with virgo in vens, moon, and mars. Ive been talking to an Aquarius man with cancer moon.. We have a strong connection.. but alot of misunderstanding.. if i dont call him at every waking momet, he bcomes angey, sarcastic and condescending... Hes already being familiar with me (calling me baby) and wanting to work towards the future of becoming a family.. the skeptic in me is questioning his motives... Some part of it seems sincere, but another part feels he being manipulative becuase he can pick up on my emotions and he is in love with being in love... Hes turning cold and mean.. how do i get him to open up? How do i become more demonstrative and be able to see his true intentions?

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      Kitty ky 4 months ago

      Hi, im a sun in leo moon, venua, and mars in virgo. I really like an aquarius sun with cancer moon man.. He gets so upset if i dont call him at every waking moment, and wants me to open up to him. The skeptic in me thinks i should take time, but hes getting frustrated and i dont wanna lose him.. but some part of me feels hes being manipulative and in love with love. Hes being cold and sarcastic now.. what do i do to get over my shyness and see what his true intentions are and get him to open up?

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      Jean Bakula 4 months ago from New Jersey

      Hi Kasia,

      Sun in Virgo makes you intelligent and curious, you like to learn. You are sensible and practical, just the loyal friend someone needs when they have troubles, you are generous and kind. The Scorpio Ascendant makes you seem intimidating to some, like you don't want to be bothered. That's not true, you are a private person and like to take time to get to know people before you let them in. Your Cancer Moon makes you very emotional and caring, you would be a great nurse or care giver, restaurant owner, or like children and would do well in a day care center. As far as love, Earth sign men would be good for you, a nice Taurus or Capricorn. It's a nice combination you have. Best Wishes. Jean

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      Kasia 4 months ago

      Hi.. my sun is in virgo, Asc in Scorpio and my moon is Cancer.. please tell me something about me.. my partner have moon in Cancer to..

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      Jean Bakula 5 months ago from New Jersey

      So your Sag sun makes you outgoing and optimistic. Your feelings get hurt easily, but are understanding and will listen to your friend's problems. The Cancer Ascendant makes you appear shy and hard to approach. I really can't tell a lot when people give me lists of planets or their trinity like this, it's not enough info.

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      Jasmine 5 months ago

      My rising sign is in Cancer, My sun is in Sagittarius and My moon is also in Cancer.

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      Jean Bakula 7 months ago from New Jersey

      Hi Patrick,

      Well, your Sun in Sag makes you love the outdoors, and like sports. Sag rules, law, philosophy, education and religion, so those may interest you too. The Gemini Rising makes people feel like they aren't sure which "twin" they are getting, since Gemini is the sign of the Twins, and you have a facade, or actually two of them, that you show to people you don't know well. The Moon in Cancer makes you romantic and sensitive, creative as well. You like to be by the water and are close to your family. It's a nice trinity, Best wishes.

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      Patrick 7 months ago

      I have sun in sagittarius moon in cancer and rising in Gemini

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      Jean Bakula 7 months ago from New Jersey

      Hi Mihiret,

      I'm glad you found the hub helpful. Cancer Suns and Moons can be sociable, but need time alone to be creative and just to relax. An Aquarius sun can make a person seem aloof, but it's an air sign, and you probably like to look at the big picture too. The Sag Ascendant is a fire sign, so once again, you are sociable and outgoing, but need some time that is not structured and you can be by yourself. I have an Aquarius Sun piece on Exemplore. I wrote about Ascendants, but it's one article with all twelve. I believe that's on here too, called Astrological Ascendants. I'm having some issues with the categories the staff is putting my writing in. Best wishes.

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      Mihiret 7 months ago

      Thank you so much for this post! This post is the first one that actually made me feel like I have more Cancerian traits. I have an Aquarius Sun and a Cancer Moon and Sagittarius ascendant and this article has made me think I am much more Cancerian than I thought. For the most part I don't really let people see the emotional me and I am pretty emotionally guarded so I've always felt that the cancer moon didn't really describe me. You describe Cancerians as emotionally strong and I think that is very true about me. What can you tell me about this make up? It seems to be conflicting natures to have an Aquarius sun that is described as kinda aloof and then have a cancer sun?

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      Jean Bakula 2 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello Mr. Hollywood,

      Nice to see you. I don't know what it is about this hub, people flock to it. It must be those nurturing Cancer vibes! I've "met" so many people on here that I've stayed in touch with.

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      John Hollywood 2 years ago from Hollywood, CA

      Excellent hub and in my experience very accurate of Cancer sign:)!!! Born therapists, psychics and empaths!

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      Mehnaz Moumita 2 years ago from Dhaka, Bangladesh

      Amazing.. its merely great.. thanks a lot regarding mentioning people PSYCHOLOGICALLY ROBUST while men and women commonly illustrate people as a poor person. My partner and i would like to know more in relation to me personally if you can help.

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Eric,

      Thank you for reading and sharing on this hub. I don't know what it is about this one that brings everyone to me! I'm a Cancer Sun, and yes, we all will put our lives and dreams on hold for a family member who needs us. We all have that nurturing instinct. Your time will come. Take care.

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      masterofmodesty 3 years ago

      Jean,

      I was intrigued by this article, it's very accurate. Having both luminaries in the sign of their rulership (Leo Sun/Venus/Jup(4th)/Merc(3rd)) and Moon/Mars in Cancer(1st , but Gemini ASC) I find that I really relate better to Cancer things. I'm very sensitive to the approval of others, I dislike arguments, etc etc.

      Right now I'm a live in babysitter/stay @ home dad for 2 kids under 7. It feels right, but personally, it's not what I should be doing right now. I put my personal growth on pause for the convenience of others. But that's another story.

      Loved the article, thank you :)

      Eric

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      The 10th house is about your career, and how people see you when you are doing important things. So Venus there would mean you were getting positive attention in your career, or made a major transformation about your self. In astrology, the 6th house is about work and health, but the 10th is career. It has nothing to do with love.

      The 10 of Pentacles in the tarot is a family card, about generations of families. If it's reversed, it could be about dysfunctional behaviors that existed in families for generations. You did say her Grandfather was ill, so being the Patriarch of the family, that could be why you drew it. It could also mean she thinks her family and you won't get along (a stretch, but possible.)

      I think you've thought this all through, and so have I at this point! You did get the 2 of Cups, and it was important at the time, but apparently she changed her mind. This is a problem with tarot readings. I can do one for myself if I'm having trouble, and it's so hard to be objective. So I keep doing readings to get a better one. That's bad.

      It's best to do a tarot reading like the one I did for you last night (check your email). You won't like how it ends, but it does show her off for being what she really is. I believe she fooled you, and the face she was showing you was false. The first card in the reading was The Devil. You'll see. Write back to me at my email address, not here, there's no privacy.

      Astrology and the Tarot DO have things in common, but not so many. The houses of astrology and the cards of the tarot don't mean the same things. So don't go there.

      Many tarot and astrology sites are way incorrect. I give sites on hubs and my blog if I need the person to find out what sign a certain planet is in. But I don't trust many. I sat one day with a stack of charts, and all the info on the sites was wrong. Librarising is good, and Café Astrology. I haven't found another I like. Eclectic Tarot is the best I've found for tarot.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      http://astrologyanswers.com/relationship-compatibi...

      http://astrologyanswers.com/2014-love-checklist-ma...

      Any truth in what these pages are telling?

      Been thinking about the reading you did before, 2 of pentacles reversed and 10 of pentacles reversed.

      It comes to mind that it could have been to do with the relationship and maybe not other things going on, I could be wrong though but it's what I get from the research I've done.

      The 2 of pentacles reversed. Our relationship seemed good one day and bad the next, this seemed to happen quite frequently, especially during the last month we were together, so perhaps to many feelings which caused confusion. I've also read that it can mean trying to manage 2 relationships at the same time, like a secret affair.

      The 10 of pentacles reversed. Her grandfather has cancer, but that side of the family she never really got on with, she always felt that they treated her other siblings better than her and her grandfather even admitted that to her that he did, she had a bad relationship with her mother as well, they are more friends than blood. She was more closest to her father, she loves her dad very deeply.

      I know it's a family card, my family knew about her cheating and they saw how the break up badly affected me , could that be a reason?

      Or do you think what feelings you got from the cards stand out more?

      Sorry about earlier, if I hear sonething from some one I jump to conclusions pretty quickly, I only tend to do this when I'm nervous, I always think the worst is going to happen.

      When we broke up, after a few days I managed to convince her to meet me and perhaps give it another go, but I had a gut feeling that things weren't going to go how I wanted them too, so when I met up with her that night , I was very nervous and anxious, she could sense this and she then told me that she was hoping to meet up tonight, have a fresh start and hope we could have some fun, I thought that was pretty naive of her seeing as she knew how upset I was over everything. Anyway I've brought that night up twice and she's told me that night had proved why we won't work together. Does that make sense?

      I don't know if I'm trying to blame myself for everything or that I am to blame, everyone tells me I'm not but its hard to believe what others are saying when I can't seem to put two and two together. Seems so strange that your great, have a whole year planned and then next day it's all gone

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      Andre 3 years ago

      That holiday was a birthday present to me from her in December, we were very much looking forward to it. Unfortunately they do have the same classes, he admitted to her that he really liked her back in November, then in January they all had a night out and they ended up kissing. Just spoke to my friend over the phone, he said she hasn't told him to drop it off and that it has not been mentioned in weeks, but it's all boxed up outside her bedroom, he just assumed that I'd want it back so he's offered. Last time I was round hers I could see it was all boxed up outside her bedroom. I'm very busy next week anyway so won't be able to see him so my things should be there for at least another two weeks but I totally agree, if I'm to get my things back and give hers back then Id rather we exchange ourselves and through nobody else. I'm not into playing head games, especially when it comes to love, so I hope she's not playing games but I don't believe she's that type of person, otherwise I wouldn't be trying so hard. I got some pretty ugly transits for this year and she does too, so I'm wondering how that's going to effect things. Venus in 10th house, is it weird that we met that way, I mean does it fit?

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Andre,

      Well it is confusing, especially if you paid for time away together. That would seem to be the reason/excuse to get in touch, to see what she plans to do about that. You'll lose your money if you don't go. I'm not sure if it matters they go to the same University, they may have completely different classes.

      The retrogrades affect everyone differently, because our horoscopes, or picture of the sky at our time of birth, are all different. A T square can spur you on to positive action. These are too complex for a beginning astrologer, and you can't know how they affect an individual without a careful study of their horoscope. What's good for one person is bad for another. Don't worry about those so much. Yes, the Mercury Retrograde could have caused confusion, but it's over now.

      Even being a Scorpio, the fire signs would make you enthusiastic and more optimistic than a Scorp without fire signs. So you would express that, though I can see you would only discuss serious issues with someone you trust. My double Scorpio son is like that, he's obsessed with something new that holds his interest, or the things he loves in life, but won't commit to a relationship, he doesn't have time with being a teacher and beginning to learn how to run the martial arts school. Somebody tried to set him up with a girl, and he said, "What can I tell her, I have time for you on Tuesdays and Sundays, but I need to sleep on Sundays?"

      I read your comments oldest to newest, so am baffled as to why she didn't return your stuff, and let someone else do it. I don't like that. If she didn't care, what did she have to lose by seeing you again so you could talk? I think she at least owes you an explanation after all she put you through. Maybe you did meet her at the wrong time for her. She seems emotional, but not like she cares too much about how other people feel. Now that she's returned your stuff, I would call and ask what she intends to do about the trip, and what's going on with her?

      I wish this was looking better. Thanks, I had that love, but now that he died, I don't know who I am without him. Well, I have interests, but he was my best friend for 39 years. People don't stay together long like that anymore. Plus I have my grieving son living home, so we have to boost each other up.

      I guess call her and insist you see her. You have stuff to give back too. Don't let your mutual friend do it, make her do it, and see what she has to say for herself. If she lost her feelings for you, at least she should have told you that. I wanted to think the best about her, but Geminis do like to play head games, and you deserve better.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Best friend finally got in touch earlier, only to tell me, that he will bring my things that I left over hers to me next week at some point. My things being there kinda gived me some hope. I'm rather baffled that it had to be him who text me and not her. I'm so upset about this. Thank you and I too really hope I find that one true love one day

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      Andre 3 years ago

      I believe that two right people can meet but can meet at the wrong time, I think this was more of a missed opportunity for love, which is why I'm so keen on the idea of a second chance. Her argument being that every time she's giving a partner a second chance that they always let her down. It wouldn't be like that with me, I know what I want and I know what I need to do to make it a success, it's just getting her to see that, which seems to be very difficult. Last time we saw each other, we hugged for about ten minutes before I was about to leave, I didn't let go because she didn't let go. A few days before that, I had asked her three times if she still loved me, she changed the conversation every time but answered every other question except the one I needed to hear. She did mention to me before about me collecting my things but that was over 4 weeks ago and has not mentioned it since, that kinda gives me at least a bit of hope, surely if it was really the end, then you'd want everything gone so you can finally move on. Trying not to place everything on that one senario though, I could be wrong. I've read that cancer moons can sometimes retreat not only for there benefit but for your own as well

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      Andre 3 years ago

      I did show a bit of a jealous side of me towards the last month of us being together, but she was a major flirt. There was always two sides to her, shed show everyone else her playful side, she wasn't like that with me accept at the start of our relationship. When ever we talked alone, she was always very emotional. At first I didn't know how to handle what she was feeling, all of my ex partners have all been fire signs, they never showed any emotion, I always think I couldn't really handle it because I was also in an emotional rut myself, the only diffrence being, I chose not to speak about it and wanted to deal with it myself like I always have done. I finally opened up to her in the end though, perhaps it was a bit too late but it happened and I've never been able to do that with anyone. I hardly ever show jealousy in a relationship, I know scorpios are supposed to be the masters when it comes to jealously, but for me, it only happends when I'm truly in love with someone. She also had a bit of a jealous side although she probably would never admit it, but she hated the fact that I wanted to be friends with an ex partner, I can kinda understand where she was coming from but I had spent four years with this person and I didn't want us to become strangers. I have no feelings for the four year ex, she has a new partner now, I've met him and have had a drink with them both, and I'm so happy for them and wish them the best in life. She's on speaking terms with all her ex partners and I've never made a big deal of it but in December time she had gotten in touch with her ex partner of three years because she heard he was going through a bad time and just wanted to make sure he was alright, I was unhappy about it and made my point across but it was only because I knew what reaction she would have gotten from him, and it wasn't a nice one, not a very nice guy at all.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      We met at a music festival through mutal friends, we didn't really like each other, she thought I was to shy and I thought she was rude. Exactly a year later, we met each other again cause my best friend and her best friend had just started dating, her best friend was trying to set us both up but it just didn't happen, then we all went out about 5 months later, she told her best friend and my best friend that she found me very attractivr, we started talking and found that we had so much in common and it just started from there. About two months into our relationship, we started talking about astrology and tarot. She told me that before we got together that she had a tarot reading that suggested that she would fall in love with someone that she knows, and would feel attraction. I'm not to sure if she's seeing someone else, it's just a feeling. Unfortunately that boy she kissed goes to university with her, so they see each other pretty much Monday to Friday, it's sonething that plays on my mind, not too often but I do get the thought every now and then. I've read on alot of websites that mars is retrograde in libra until mid may, something in April called the cardinal grand cross which doesn't sound too good and then to top it all off, mercury is back in cancer retrograde in June to July. I get all psyched up thinking every thing is going to be good and then I read something online that just puts me down. She has to get in touch at some point, I still have a few of her things and she has loads of mine, I just hope that when she does get in touch that it's not just to exchange belongings. We had a holiday booked in April, only a weekend away but we paid for flights and hotels and everything, so I'm not too sure what's happening there. When we spoke on the phone, she did make it clear that there was no going back together, could she have meant that at the time or could mercury retrograde have messed things up? She said she was starting to resent the fact that I said we should be together and that I wasn't taking her feelings into consideration. I know she's got a lot going on and is super busy with university etc but it be nice if she could stop and think about how I was feeling, I'm sure if she did, shed at least have gotten in touch by now, I'm just so confused about everything

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Andre,

      Well, first the tarot and astrology. The most important fact is that no matter what ANY reading says, you always have FREE WILL, so you have the power to change it. Now, it may not change the way you want, but other cards will indicate what the major problems or issues are, and you will have an idea of what's going to happen if you just stand there and let it happen.

      I have a blog and you can read a lot about both on it Spirituality pathways.com. I got off on a tangent explaining all 78 tarot cards, and have 2 more to go, then I want to bring it around to more astrology, people like that more. As far as retrogrades, honestly, the only one you need to worry about is the Mercury ones. They mess up all communications. I looked it up and Mars is retrograde from 3/2--4/2, but this is rare, and I've been studying for more than 30 yrs. Mars rules physical actions, sex, the kinds of ways and things you do when you are getting your physical energies out. Some do creative things, like gardening or home improvement activities. I suspect it's not a good time to try for a reunion now. Are you sure your friend is hiding something? Do you really think she's seeing someone else?

      The two of cups CAN represent a business partnership, but most readers consider it a card about love, I do too. Some think it's more important than THE LOVERs, a major card, because that one has hill or problem between the couple, and the 2 of Cups doesn't. I covered all of the cards except the King of Pentacles and The World if you are interested.

      I write a lot of hubs explaining all that astrology entails, let me find you one: http://jeanbakula.hubpages.com/hub/How-Can-I-Be-My... The best book I have is The Astrologers Handbook, by Francis Sakoian. It's the book written to be the computer text for all the astrology programs (most of which suck). Maybe you can find a cheap used one on Amazon. It clearly explains all the most important things and placements you need to know about astrology.

      I noticed your Venus is in the 10th house. Did you meet her at work?

      No, I don't believe in that "if you love somebody, set them free" crap. Keep on trying, unless she makes it absolutely clear she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. I was in love twice in my life. I always thought the first time it was because we were too different, but with the wisdom (ha)! of age realize we were really too much alike. He wasn't a guy to marry, he may have married me, but it wouldn't have lasted long.

      I met my husband when we were both almost 19, and we both had just got out of relationships that hurt us. Being young, it surprised me to hear a guy could be as hurt as I was, but he taught me a lot. At first we took it slow, but as time passed, knew we were together before. The only thing keeping me going now is that I know we will be reunited again, in another life. We both believed in reincarnation. 39 years is a long time to be with somebody, so when people married 3 or 4 X are trying to advise me, it's getting me upset. The vow is "Til Death Do Us Part." We took it further because of our beliefs, and the minister forgot what to say there, and improvised with "forevermore" at our wedding. I took off my wedding ring after 6 weeks, and our son freaked out and reminded me of the vow. But I have to move forward I told him, he'll always be in my heart.

      I went to a meditation group this week, and we were meditating on a romantic occasion with a lover. I was trying hard, but tears were quietly running down my face. We were supposed to go around the circle and share the memory, but when it got to the person next to me, she said, "I couldn't concentrate, Jean's husband was telling me to tell her to remember that love is stronger than death, that he will always love her, and he remembers what she is meditating about." Unbelievable. But I can't understand why he isn't appearing much to me.

      Our son is very psychic, and he says I'm so upset, there's probably too much psychic interference around me. I can feel him sometimes, and know a soul can go back in and out of the light for the first few months. We are both having some strange experiences, and I felt him home when I came in a while ago. I told him he has to stop hanging around my meditation group and freaking them out! Sorry to get off there, all this talk about love reminds me of what I once had.

      I understand how you can envision a lifetime with someone, and even though you love another person, can't. There are no accidents, anyone who comes into your life is there for a reason. I hope you get together with her. But also you must consider that you may not. Do you know the show How I Met Your Mother? The most mature guy, Ted, is like you. He's ready to settle down and wants a house and family, and keeps getting involved with people who are not as ready as he is. Even though you think it's her, you could be wrong. Give it some more time, but if you wait another two weeks and she's still not willing to talk with you, maybe she's not worth it. I know that sounds terrible, but it could be. Maybe the mutual friend just doesn't want to get caught in the middle?

      I hope you find that love like I had Andre. It's worth waiting for. She may be the one, and going through things you can't understand now. Maybe she's not as mature as you. Trust your feelings. I would wait the 2 weeks, give it one more try, and try hard to get her to say what exactly it is that is keeping her from wanting to take further steps with you. Because if she doesn't change her mind, you'll want an answer you can live with. I know it's not you for sure. Let me know, sorry to go on so.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Is their normally a time frame when you have a good tarot reading and do you have to act upon it yourself or do you let things just happen naturally. I'm a bit confused by the two of cups, I've read a lot of research on the card itself. In my case would it mean a reconciliation, a friendship or something that could lead on to something a lot more special? We were only together for six months, my previous relationship prior to this one lasted for four years and I felt much more of a solid connection in this one. My four year relationship was great and I really loved that girl but I didn't see much of a future with her and I couldn't picture her being a parent and wanting a family is very important to me, it's what I've always wanted. And I see it clearly in this girl, and I know that she really wants the same things as me. Is it crazy to be with someone for only six months and to start thinking that you want to be with them forever? Do you believe in the quote "If you love something, then you should let it go and if it comes back to you, then it was always yours" or do you believe in fighting for what you want? Sorry to go on at you, my heart is currently dancing at the moment, it knows what it wants and my brain is telling me the same thing :)

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for your kind words, lately you seem to be the only one that turns my frown upside down and all my worries dissapeer. Ok I'll do just that and thank you for the reading. ill hold off for a bit longer though for now, ill give it another week at least. Just hope she doesn't fall for someone else or that I've left it too late. Although the last time I spoke to her, she said she only needed two weeks, that was three weeks ago but last thing I said was for her to get in touch when she was ready. I can't seem to keep up with all these retrogrades, I've only recently started to get into astrology, I find it fascinating but it's so much to take in. A lot of sites seem to say different and opposite descriptions on what mars retrograde is, I've read that people will crave relationships more than anything during this time and will do what ever it takes to fight for love but a lot of other sites are saying that who ever initiates during this retrograde will lose, Its so confusing. I spoke to one of my best friends briefly who happens to go out with one of her housemates. I just asked how she was, she's fine apparently and is busy with university. Not to sure if there's much truth in that, I know she's busy in university but I just got a gut feeling that something is being kept from me because although he's suppose to be my best friend, he's kept rather distant ever since the break up. I may just be reading to much into it though, There's like twenty different thoughts that seem to run in my brain and I'm trying to handle them all at the same time x

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Maybe get in touch, but about something casual. You can say you just wanted to say hello and see how she's doing. Or if she seems open to it, go out for a cup of coffee, or ice cream, something little that you know she likes. But then don't spill it all, just keep your feelings in until you get a feel for what mood she's in. This isn't based on Astrology now, it's just womanly advice, since we've been talking about your situation for a while now. If you are ready to call, I'll do another quick 3 card reading for you. I feel how sincere you are, and maybe because of my own loss, understand more than ever how rare that is, and I know if she doesn't come around, she'll never find anyone as nice as you again.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      I can make it through another two yeah. We do have mutual friends but I have not spoken to any of them for a while now, I thought by giving her space, then I'd do things properly. Plus there's always the chance that if I did ask any mutual friends about her, then it could get back to her. If I don't hear from her in two weeks, do you think I should make contact or just keep it going and wait for her to make the first move? x

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi, I was wondering how it was going. Hang in there. I'm doing OK. People say take it a day at a time, but it's more like a few hours at a time. Everything in my life changed without him, and I feel confused mostly. Plus he wasn't his real self the last 2 yrs. or so, but we were married so long, I can't judge him by whatever it was that was bothering him. He always insisted it wasn't me.

      I don't usually pay much attention to Chiron and such, because there's so much in just the planets. I thought the tarot reading looked good. Two weeks, that was hard. Can you make it through another two? Do you have a mutual friend who can sort of find out what she's saying and doing, so you have something to gauge her mood by? I hope it works out. Let me know. Stay strong. She knows she can act up and you will be there, so maybe this time will be different. Take care.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Been two weeks without contact now. It's getting harder and harder. Trying to stay strong though, Just hope she gets in touch soon. Miss her like crazy. Was just looking at my transits for this year, beginning of April chirion squares venus and lasts untill 2018 and she has the exact same transit, I don't really know much about chirion, but what I've read so far doesn't sound good at all. Is this something to be worried about? How are you anyway? x

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Andre,

      I think the 2 of Cups was upright, it was the 10 of Pents that was reversed, and I thought that represented her Grandfather. If you look at the card, there is an old man in it, the Patriarch, or Odysseus, and I felt the reading fit. I didn't do online tarot readings at first. I believe the cards we need to see come up. When I read online, I meditate to clear my head, and I get good results. I was wondering how you were. Give her some space and time, I still think you may get the result you want. I have Venus and Mercury in Gemini, and wish I could take back some things I've said to people. Try to be patient. I hope it all works out.

      Thanks for the music ideas, I'll check them out on YouTube. So far music is a mixed bag, we shared a love of a lot of the same bands, and hearing the wrong song can trigger a crying jag right now. People tell me I'm sounding better. It's only been a bit over a month. I came back online because I love Astrology and the Tarot, and have work to do on my blog. I need to keep busy.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm not to sure how your dealing with it, everyone has different ways but for me personally, music is my only saviour. If your really into music then may I suggest you listen to "What Sarah Said" and "I will follow you into the dark" by a band called DEATH CAB FOR CUTIE. both songs are truly beautiful with lyrics that will stick with you, truly poetic. There's also a band called THE ATARIS, they have a song out called "The hero dies in this one" another beautiful song which I think will help you out with the regret your feeling. Music helps me express myself in which no other way can, maybe it can be the same for you too. If your not really into music then just look at the lyrics, I'm certain it will still have the same effect.

      Thank you so much for tarot reading. Never had one before, is there much truth in it. I did some research on those cards, do you think the 2 of pentacles reversed and 10 of pentacles reversed could also have something to do with our relationship?

      Being a lunar saggitarian, I always remain hopeful and optimistic that everything will work out, but the 2 of cups has now given me so much more.

      Because I've shown this girl a side to me that I won't show anyone else, and because I trust her fully, she's most defiantly someone I want to keep around, people let me down on too many occasions when I need them the most, so to have this connection with someone is more like a blessing to me.

      Just have to keep my fingers crossed that the 2 of cups doesn't mean her finding a new soul mate, I mean it would be good that she would be happy but unrequited love sounds very unhealthy.

      I'm going to follow your advice and leave her alone for a while, it's been a week since we last spoke, seems so long ago.

      Hopefully with mercury going direct anytime soon, she will reach out again. And then I can give her the gift. She has no idea what the gift is, I'm guessing by her reaction that she thinks its more of a traditional valentines gift, so hopefully shed be taken back when she finally gets to see it.

      Thank you Jean, you have been such a great help x

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Andre,

      I think you sound like a really nice guy. That's why I suggested maybe other things were going wrong in her life, and perhaps she was taking them out on you without realizing she was doing that. I think you are being way too hard on yourself.

      My husband and I both have Scorpio Ascendants too, and as soon as we met we knew it was a special and lasting thing. Sadly, he died suddenly a little over a month ago, and I've come back online to try to forget for a while. It's not easy when you have been with the same person for 39 yrs. We thought we had been together before, and I know we will be again. Still, we sort of grew up together, and I'm figuring out who I am without him.

      A death in the family, exams at school, all these things are difficult and exhausting, so she's not showing her best side. As I explained, just knowing the signs the planets are in helps a little, but not much, and right now I'm doing tarot readings, but not up for casting charts yet.

      People hear "Scorpio" and right away they think the sign is all about sex. But usually Scorpio influences are deeply felt and sincere, so I understand the not wanting to rush into things. Once again, this is a mature and positive thing. She feels that way too if her Ascendant is the same as yours. It could be the retrogrades causing these communication issues.

      Andre, we all say things we don't mean at times. Lately in my grief I've been regretting many things I said to my husband, because my Mercury and Venus in Gemini just make me blurt out whatever is on my mind or in my heart. But his Venus in Pisces would hurt, he was more sensitive than me. But that also always allowed him to forgive. I think when she calms down and thinks it through, she will realize you are not the cause of her problems.

      I don't think you are crazy or I wouldn't have engaged in this long conversation with you. The fact that you felt you could cry and confide in her shows that you do trust her, and trust is the most important thing in a relationship. People think love is, but without trust, it's just a crush.

      Why don't you try to keep away for a while if you can? See what her next move is. From the planetary positions you gave me, I tell what houses they are in, but I can see a pattern of compatibility between you. Plus you are at the point in life where you want to settle down and feel she's the one. She doesn't seem to be there yet, but that doesn't mean she will always feel that way. One kiss with somebody else isn't that bad, it's not like she had a pattern of lying and cheating. Maybe she got caught up in a moment. I always wondered how I would feel and what I would do if my husband cheated. Honestly, I think I would have forgiven and taken him back, he was that special a person. You seem to be too. You have been very honest and open, and know exactly who you are right now in your life. I think she needs more time.

      I can't promise, but since she's feeling crowded now, try to respect that for a while, and in a few weeks (I know that seems like forever) see what happens.

      Ok Andre, I normally don't do this, but I did a 3 card tarot reading to see if we can get some enlightenment here. For anyone else reading this thread, I don't usually do this for free, so don't ask. It's just I've spent a lot of time with Andre on this topic, and feel like my advice is upsetting him more than helping him.

      So the reading starts with the 2 of Pentacles. It's a person juggling two Pentacles inside of an infinity sign, and twos always mean choices. This is her (I asked about both of you). The card is in reverse, meaning she is juggling too many things, although she is keeping all the balls in the air, so to speak. But she feels like she's losing ground. We also have the 10 of Pentacles in reverse. This is the happy, secure family card, but in reverse, not so secure. And her Grandfather has cancer, so the family is very upset right now. There is also the 2 of Cups, a man and a woman toasting each other. Many readers believe this card is more important than the Lovers. I am one of them. Look it up on Wikipedia and you can see what the cards look like. So I think there is love there, she really is just overwhelmed right now, and probably doesn't realize what she is doing to you. So according to this reading, there is hope for you both. She's really just overwhelmed at this time. I hope that helps.

      I have other writing to do for a few days, but I'll check back and see if you updated me. Take care and stop blaming yourself so much for everything. It's a Scorpio trait :).

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Ok no problem, when you say has she got anything else going on, I kinda feel very selfish now. She's in university at the moment doing her masters degree, it's very stressful for her and she has a lot of work to do. Her grandfather has also sadly been diagnosed with cancer. And then also the stress of our relationship. I think I have been crowding her yes, three occasions now I have tried to reconcile with her but its totally backfired on me, not to sure if that's got anything to do with the venus and mercury retrogrades. The more I think about it now the more selfish I feel, obviously It would seem that I've been putting my needs before hers but deep down it's only because I know I can make this work. When I make a commitment I intend to stick by it but I don't commit myself hastily. The sex was pretty slow to start off with, she was a very sexual person but to me sex means nothing without trust. I've been burned in the past by too many so I'm always now very cautious, I take relationships very seriously. Obviously I didn't tell her the reason, I just made up an excuse but it made her feel insecure about herself, but even now when she says I wish you had told me the truth and she would have understood, I'm only thinking to myself it's pretty hard to come out and say I don't trust you when you're in a relationship together and by that point I knew how much of sensitive person she was, so I know the truth would have easily hurt her feelings. I think it was back in early October she was discussing her childhood which unfortunately was not a good time for her, but I didn't exactly have a great childhood either. An emotional trigger trauma was set off in me that night and over a course of a few months the past caught up with me and very horribly too. I wanted to communicate my feelings but I just couldn't, I thought to myself I'm stronger than this and I can get through it by myself. Christmas comes and we have a lovely time, then after New Years that's when all the problems started coming again. She had bravely admitted to me that she had kissed another guy who said he liked her, at the time she said she dont know what happened. I couldn't quite get my head around it, because it came around at the time when I finally decided I could trust her. I asked for a few days space anyway, when we met up a few days later, I was kinda expecting her to be really apologetic but she had manipulated me into thinking everything was my fault. I'm not sure if there's any truth in that but obviously I wasn't happy with her, so I called her out on it, told her she was manipulative and some other horrible things. It was a spare of the moment thing. I quickly calmed down though, my bad tempers are always very short lived. But now it's only come down too that I've said things that I can't take back. I'm hoping you can understand that I had every right to be angry and that when we are angry we say things we don't mean. Anyway I finally opened up to her about my childhood which I have never done with anyone else before, she has seen a side to me that I haven't shown anyone, not even my mother. She was also the first one in which I cried and poured my heart out too, something which I never thought would happen. I know your probably thinking I must be crazy too want to be with her after infidelity, well truth is, it was a one time mistake and she was very honest about it, and honesty is sonething I admire greatly. I also get some magical feeling when she's driving and I'm in the passenger seat and the way she looks at me, no woman has ever looked at me the way she does. We want all the same things in life as well, and after many relationships, this is the only girl who I vision that would be a great mother to her child if ever given the chance. I suppose you could say I've been searching for this girl for a long time, which is why I want her back so much, to prove to her that I can be the man she needs. She told me a few weeks back that she's doing bad in university, not eating, not sleeping properly and having horrific nightmares and that it's all because of me. I hope to god that's not true and it's just mercury retrograde being awkward. Also didn't tell you, when she was born, venus and mercury were in retrograde in her 8th house, she is also a scorpio ascendant like myself. Sorry for the long message but at least you now know the ins and outs of everything, thank you x

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Andre,

      I can't cast a whole astrology chart for free, I charge $75.00. And that doubles for two, it takes about 6 hours for each, because I don't use the online sites to cast most charts, I've found them to be incorrect much of the time. And it's a lot of interpretation time.

      When I came to HP, I got in the habit of answering some questions from people, because they were so receptive to astrology, but it has gotten a little out of hand. I don't really write here anymore, since I don't make much money here. I mostly work on my blog, and only recently came back to HP since I began making money on my hubs again. I'm really only posting occasionally on my blog, and on Bubblews as of late.

      Why don't you wait and see what she does first? She is family oriented if she spent Valentine's Day with her Mom. Plus I don't know if you want to open yourself up to more hurt right now. I'm sending positive thoughts your way.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Both born in cardiff, United Kingdom

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Can't seem to get the synastry chart up for some reason, but I have the birth dates and times if that's any use to you. I'm 30/12/1986 time - 02.47am and she is 16/6/1988 time - 5pm

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Dear Andre,

      I'm sorry this isn't working out as we hoped it would. Basically she is still a person who wants security, but goes through periods where she wants to try new things. I thought your planets looked pretty compatible, so it's hard to hear that your plan and nice gift didn't work out.

      Mercury is Retrograde until the last day of Feb. and this often causes problems with communications of any sort. So there is a chance she is misunderstanding you, or possibly is having some other kind of communication problems or other issues with paperwork dealing with something important to her. It may not even be specifically about you, although not wanting to see you is pretty strong.

      Yes, Cancer moon people are super touchy, and hold grudges, so it is possible that you didn't say anything drastic, she just took it the wrong way, or got emotionally overwrought. Is there something else serious going on in her life that could be bothering her and she's taking it out on you?

      The issue about trying to be friends and hoping for more is a hard one. I've been there too. Usually we get our hopes up, and the person really means it about staying friends. And it's so hard to be just friends with someone when you love them.

      Since you made the book and it was heartfelt, I don't think it will hurt if you get it to her via one of her housemates. It could change her outlook. But I hate to see you hurt more. So that's a tough choice. With this Retrograde Mercury thing, she may still take it the wrong way, especially since she seems so upset right now.

      Hmm, I'm thinking as I write. Do you think she feels like you are crowding her? I can't understand it, because what you are offering her sounds so sweet and well intentioned. You could also ignore her for a week or two (hard, I know) and see if she misses you or makes a decent overture towards you.

      I wish I could be more specific, it hard when I don't have a whole horoscope in front of me, I have the signs and planets you gave me, and they look good together. It's your call, give the gift to someone else to give her, or don't do anything for a while and see if she contacts you. I know it's not much consolation, but if she's going to be this pouty all the time and keep changing her mind about you, it's better to find out now, rather than later, after investing more time in this situation.

      So it's your call. The more I think about it, I would wait and see what she does first. You've been hurt enough and I know it's driving you crazy. But if she's always like this, she will make you crazier! Either way, please let me know. There is always the chance when Mercury goes direct on 2/28, her mood will lift and her mind will clear.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      We broke during the venus retrograde, and I just read somewhere that any couple who breaks up during this period don't stand a chance in getting back together. Is there any truth in that? Think what I'm going to do is give her that book later on when I think shes ready for it. I don't want to rush her, I'd rather be a good friend to her and if anything happens later on then great. Do you think this is the best approach? Sorry to be going on, suppose you could say I'm going out of my mind

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Just spoke to her on the phone, she said there's no chance of getting back together, she doesn't want the gift and that she doesn't want to speak to me for a few weeks? What can I do? Thinking of giving the gift to her housemates so they can give it to her. She said I said things that I can't take back. I didn't say anything that bad, but like you said cancer moons are really sensitive. There's got to be a way, the break up was so sudden as well

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      Andre 3 years ago

      No it's quite funny and odd to be honest, we met at a festival 2 years ago, I bumped into her at the exact same festival 2 years later and we just got together. Totally unexpected, but she's truly an amazing girl x

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Didn't go to plan sadly, she's away with her mum for the day. I told her I got her a gift and she said she just wants things to be normal and for us just to be friends. I'm hoping she will change her mind once she finally sees what I have made her for. Do you think she will need time on her own once she receives it or will it be a quick decision. When you say be sensitive towards her, do you mean tell her my feelings or something else? I've tried telling her how I feel before but she keeps on knocking me back, thanks for your reply x

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Andre,

      That Valentine's gift is the perfect thing! She's sentimental, and will see you put so much thought into it! Yes, Cancer's do hold grudges, it's something I don't like in myself. But you can win them over pretty easily if you are sensitive with them, and you seem to be that way. I think she will love what you made. Cancers read and need time to retreat into a world of their own at times. Although she is a Gemini Sun, so it can be hard to say what way she will be!

      Your Scorpio Ascendant intimidates people, even if you don't realize it. It makes it hard to get close to you. I know, interestingly enough, both my late husband and I have Scorpio ascendants, and people always told us we seemed like we didn't want to bothered, or were hard to get to know. I think she can see past that.

      A lot of the astrology sites aren't reliable, but I like the Sag Moon with her opposing Gemini Sun, you need some life in a relationship, you don't want to get bored. That Pluto near the ascendant makes you appear changeable too. Your Sun in the 5th house is the house of romance, so that's great! Venus in the 10th is your career house. Did you meet at work? Or school? Anyway, I think there's hope for you two, especially with your nice and perfect Valentine's gift. Let me know how it goes. Good luck.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Sorry forgot to mention my moon sign is saggitarius in 2nd house.

      Our synastry from astro.com is this helps

      Sun in 5th house

      Sun opposes moon

      Sun conjunct mercury

      Moon in 11th house

      Venus in 10th house

      Pluto conjunct ascendant

      Andre

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Thanks for your reply. Im Ascendant scorpio, Sun in capricorn 3rd house, Venus in scorpio 1st house, Mars in piesces 5th house. Yeah unfortunately I said some not nice things to her, I didn't mean to I was just rather angry at something she did. Do cancer moons forgive? It's Valentine's Day tomorrow, her favourite hobby is to read, she's not really into materialised gifts, so I've made her a book telling her how she Makes me feel and the story of how we both got together, memories, poems and lyrics. Plan on giving it to her tomorrow, I put a lot of effort into it so if this doesn't work then I don't know what else to do. Do you think this is a good approach? Andre

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Andre,

      I'm sorry about the breakup, let's see what happened here. I also have Sun and Venus in the 8th house, so that may help me explain, except my Sun is in Cancer. Sun in Gemini people are very changeable, but the 8th house rules sex and also money of the partner, like insurance policies and putting finances together with another person. So she likes variety in her romance life, but also wants to feel secure in the relationship. Did you recently change jobs or did she? Or did someone she's close to have a bad economic time and make her thinking more towards security?

      The Moon in Cancer makes her really, really touchy. You must be very careful what you say and how you say it to her, her feelings are hurt really easily. Also, with the Moon in the 9th, she's restless, and likes to travel, or wants to travel to far away places. She's also really smart, and interested in religions and philosophies. The Mars in Pisces rules physical actions, so she has a side that just likes to be by herself, or puttering around the house, or a friend's house, relaxing. She seems to be very creative too. The 4th house rules the home, so she may be sizing you up for husband material, then change her Gemini mind and decide she wants to stay free. There's a lot of contradiction with her. On the whole though, I believe she's more of a homebody than a party girl.

      I have written fictional stories about all the Sunsigns and Venus signs on my blog, Spiritualitypathways.com. Check those out and that may give you more insight. I don't know what sign you are, but I bet she would give you another chance. You know where to find me. Best Wishes.

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      Andre 3 years ago

      Hey jean, my partner broke up with me last month and she won't give me a second chance cause she's been let down by too many people. She has gemini sun/venus in 8th house, cancer moon in 9th house and mars pieces in 4th house. Can you offer me any advice in regards to making her see that I really do love her and won't let her down again

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello Janshares,

      I didn't know you were a fellow Cancer Sun sign like me! I should have realized, because I read your kind hearted answers to people on the forums. Thank you for checking out my work. Have a great Christmas if I don't see you on another site.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

      Hi Jean, just stopped by to read up a bit on myself, a Cancer. Most of it was spot on and quite accurate. Thanks for the detailed look at the Cancer Moon Sign. Well-written and informative, voted up and interesting.

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello Ceatta,

      I think the reason you always feel like you are changing is because of your Cancer moon. The Moon moves fast, it goes through all 12 Zodiac signs in 28 days or 28 1/2, like a woman's menstrual cycle. That's why the Moon is our ruler. So every 2 1/2 days, you would feel a shift in your emotions. Your Aquarius Sun is a good foil for that, because that is an air sign, so you do make your decisions with your head most of the time. Leo rising makes you a warm and fun person to be around. Llewellyn sells a moonsign book at the beginning of each calendar year, if you go to my blog there is one on the Books page, http://www.Spiritualitypathways.com. I am Cancer, and when I first studied Astrology, I kept a journal of what happened and how I felt with each change of the sign of the Moon. If you do that for a few months, you will know what to expect. Like if the Moon is in Aries, you will want to try something new. In Gemini, you will be extra sociable, and the phone is constantly ringing. That will change a bit according to other factors in your chart. You can read stories I wrote about Sunsigns and Venus signs, about your love life on the blog too. Take care, and don't worry.

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      Ceatta 3 years ago

      Hi Jean,

      Im, an Aquarius Sun, with a Cancer a Moon and a Leo rising. I love all my placements.I was just wondering if you could give me a little advice on how to handle my emotions.I feel like Im constantly changing.

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Thank you for reading my hub and commenting on my work. An old friend of mine from High School was a Leo Sun with a Cancer Moon, but the Leo planets were dominant. She was always fun to be with, but her feelings got hurt really easily. Then it seemed she would withdraw and it was hard to get her to feel better. She moved across country, and we lost touch. But you reminded me of some fun we had in those days!

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      TeriFields 3 years ago

      What a lovely article!

      I'm a Leo Sun with Cancer Moon and dominant Cancer. Reading this article felt like you were looking in on my life.

      Thank you for sharing your wisdom

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      BellaMuerte13,

      I'm having trouble with the Aquarius Moon link, let's try it this way:

      http://jeanbakula.hubpages.com/hub/Aquarius-Moon-A... Otherwise look on my profile page, I keep it so all my hubs are listed. I also wrote fictional characters on my blog to explain Sunsigns better, and also to find your Venus, love/social life (links provided, not to worry. Jean

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      BellaMuerte13 3 years ago

      Thank you for writing this! I have read the comments and went on the Moon Tables but I still dont understand how to work them :/ I was born on July 13 1987, Im trying to find out more about my sensitive traits and how to control and use them. Help would be greatly appreciated!

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi L,

      I took a look at this and answered you on my blog. Thank you for taking it there, I think HP is getting annoyed with me. I never thought I'd be giving all this advice from here. Your situation isn't as bad as you think, go to Spiritualitypathways.com, my answer is where you asked, on the newest post about elements in Astrology. Best wishes, write back if you have more questions. J

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      L. 3 years ago

      Hi Jean, could you give me an insight to this.

      I'm an Aries Sun in 12th house, Capricorn Moon and Taurus Rising. Really liked a Scorpio Sun and Cancer Moon guy but just don't know what makes him tick.

      I seem to find it hard getting into relationships and don't understand myself most of the time.

      I also have aries mercury and Venus in Gemini.

      What person would suit me. If that's even possible.

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Tom,

      First I want to say that just knowing what signs the planets are in is a small part of Astrology. Then they are in one of 12 houses, which all have meanings, and the distance the planets are apart matters. I'm not making an example here, I'll help you. But I want people to stop writing me and telling me what signs all their planets are in, and adding another person's to that. I can't cast a horoscope from that. I can only tell you what the planets in that sign mean, and I don't know where in your chart they fall or what aspects they make. I would prefer to have people order horoscopes on my blog.

      OK, well I have Scorpio rising, so I'm not sure it's rejection that worries you, I think that you are discriminating (I mean in a good way) about who you spend time with. Capricorn people are serious, and do not want to waste time. Plus your Scorpio ascendant makes you seem like you don't want to be bothered with people, or hard to approach. Both I and my husband have Scorpio Ascendants, so I'm very familiar with what people tell me. They say I actually give off a "stay away from me" vibe with certain people in certain situations. Aquarius and Capricorn are signs next to each other, so normally that's good in a relationship. She is Aquarius with a Cancer moon, so she's much more of a free spirit than you are. Aquarians are smart but they are nonconformists and a fixed sign, so she's a tad stubborn. The Cancer moon means her feelings get hurt easily, and her moods change quite rapidly. Cancer is a leadership sign, like Capricorn, but with her Aquarius sun she really is someone who tries hard to be different. Venus in Scorpio makes you a bit possessive and jealous, and her Venus in Capricorn makes her seem cooler than she is. Venus rules love and your social life, so there she's more reserved, which is good with the Aquarius/Cancer combo, or she would have green hair and chain herself to trees or be actively fighting for many causes. This causes her to be more conservative, and bodes well for your Scorpio Venus. Plus with her Cancer moon she wants to feel protected once in a while, but you are on your own figuring out when (this is the kind of thing where I can't tell in what area of life because I don't know what house it's in). With Mars in Pisces you like to spend time in artistic ways, and her Mars in Capricorn means she likes to have a specific purpose in mind when she does something. She's a hard worker, you too.

      All in all I think the planet combo is good, there's nothing really bad to hold you back. Aquarius is an air sign, so she is ruled by intellect. You could invite her to some kind of show, or concert, something interesting. Maybe to a new restaurant that just opened to try it? With the Cancer Moon she has a little bit of homebody in her, but you'd have to know her better to know the signs, maybe when she's tired. Scorpio is a strong sign, your Capricorn sun is probably more scared to be embarrassed by her saying no. You don't have to ask in person if you have her cell #, or if you have a mutual friend maybe they could feel her out a little bit first to clue you in if she is interested in you? Or do one of the above things but in a group or with another couple, so it's not just the two of you, then it will feel safer. Do you play an instrument or have a band? I'm asking because of the water signs, Scorpio and Pisces. You could invite her to a practice (again, make sure she's not the only girl there). I wish you the best, and let me know how it goes.

      I didn't mean to lecture you :). What is it about this hub? I usually try to send people to my blog, but I'm having trouble with the ads on it right now and am unsure about whether to continue, the host isn't helping me and I believe the issue is on their side. But I have Sunsign and Venus pieces with fictional characters but the real traits, you can get ideas maybe from that, http://www.Spiritualitypathways.com. Take care.

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      Tom 3 years ago

      Hey jean, how would this work out? Im a capricorn sun, sag moon, scorpio rising, venus in scorpio, mars in pisces and the girl im interested in is aquarius sun, cancer moon, capricorn rising, venus and mars in capricorn. I have not seen her in a while but would really like to ask her out, just not sure how to pursue her. Me being a scorpio rising, I'm scared of rejection.

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Aana,

      Your post posted twice, so I deleted one, but then you asked if things would be too intense. I think it could be OK. He's not as intense as you, but it's better if one person is less so. I like his Venus in Sag. Get ready for a person who knows a lot about a foreign culture, or is involved in a sport or art in one. My son has Venus in Sag, and he's been taking martial arts in a traditional Japanese dojo for 15 years. He speaks basic Japanese and eats in any Japanese place he can find. He's well travelled for his age too, and since you two have Cancer moons, you are both kind of restless, you would go away for weekends and go on longer trips when time and money allowed.

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Well, if you are a Scorpio Sun and he's a Sag sun, that's good, signs next to each other get along well. His Pisces moon and your Cancer one mean you are both people who are emotional, creative and expressive. This is good for relationships, you need to be able to talk about things, and both signs are chatty. You are right though, you need to be careful not to hurt each other's feelings, you are both a little touchy. If you have Venus in Scorpio, you can be a bit possessive, and with his Venus in Sag, he's interested in a lot of things, and wants freedom to go out and explore things. But it's not a cheating, women chasing kind of Venus, he's just interesting and likes to try new stuff. So you don't have to be threatened by it, you have to get used to giving him a little space to go out with the guys. Being a Scorp with a Pisces Moon, you need time to yourself anyway, right? I say go for it! Keep me posted! I have Venus signs and more in depth articles on Sunsigns on my blog, Spiritualitypathways.com. Take care.

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      Anaa24 3 years ago

      Hello great article!!

      This totally explained me.

      Im a little curious about how me and this guy would work out. His signs are Sagittarius sun, and Pisces moon. Im a Scorpio sun with this moon placement. I believe my venus is also in Scorpio his is in Sagittarius. He is the sweetest but is kind of shy. Im scared of falling too hard, and it not being equal. Would he not be emotionally intense enough? Or is he perfect lol

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      Anaa24 3 years ago

      By intense I mean emotionally.

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      http://jeanbakula.hubpages.com/hub/Compatible-Plan...

      HP won't hyperlink, so you'll need to type that in to read it.

      Hi Onelove123,

      Save the above URL for later, it's a hub I wrote about aspects (how far your planets are from another person's) and you understand enough about Astrology to understand it.

      Let's see what we have here. Both Moons in Cancer with a 4 degree difference is no big deal. The worst thing about it is that you both have tender feelings, and have to be careful not to hurt them. But it also makes you both creative, artistic, and a bit psychic. The Mars in Leo for both is OK too, it's a Mars of people who are active, in the arts, or sports. If you don't participate in sports, I can see you throwing a Super Bowl party together, Mars in Leo makes people drawn to entertaining. I like that your Mercurys are both in air signs, this means that you will communicate with ease, and it's important to be intellectually compatable. I know in the beginning of a relationship it's not what draws you, though it could be. As time passes, you need to be able to relate to each other on a mental level, it becomes more important. Plus you both like learning new things and have good ideas. You have enough planets in lighter signs to help balance out your Scorpio ones, though water puts out fire, so you have to be able to not stifle him. His Venus in Aries means you need to pay a lot of attention to him, or he will feel neglected. A Gemini mercury means a person who likes a lot of mental stimulation (I have one) so he could read on the days you need to retreat into your Scorpio self. I don't see anything drastically against a relationship here. As far as your Scorpio Sun, the 0 degrees puts you firmly there. There are 30 degrees in a sign, and it goes from 0-29. That's why so many people think Sunsigns go from the 21st of one month to another, but they don't always. This year the Sun went into Pisces on the 18th, and I know someone born on July 24th who is still Cancer Sun. You need tables of planets or an ephemeris, maybe you could pick one up cheap, I put them on some of the Astrology hubs I write, or have them in my store on the blog. I say go for it! There's a contact form on my blog, so if you fill that out I get an email telling me you are looking for me. Or just ask a question on a post that you are reading, and I'll get it. Sometimes in these new relationship things, a tarot reading can be more detailed. As you know, Astrology gives us traits and characteristics, but sometimes isn't as detailed as we want it to be. I hope that helps.

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      Onelove123 3 years ago

      Oh and I don't know if this matters but his moon is in cancer at 4 degrees and mine is at 8.. I've heard degrees make a difference but im not sure?

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      Onelove123 3 years ago

      Hey Jean!

      I've met this guy i like and I have a question for you. He has his moon in cancer like me but is a Gemini with venus in Aries and mars in Leo. Im a scorpio/libra cusp, venus in scorp and mars in Leo as well.

      I was wondering if we were compatible. He has a really good sense of humor which I love bc I do too. But with so much scorpio in my chart i can be very serious when it comes to relationships and dont want someone to act childish about the relationship.

      Im not sure what his rising sign is, but from what I know, Gemini, cancer, Aries, and Leo mixed together seems more like a rather playful and not so serious about things person.

      I feel like my scorpio/libra because im a scorp at 0 degrees, and my libra mercery and his sun & mercury in Gemini are compatible, and our moons seem perfect. But his Aries in venus and mine in scorp has me a bit weary.

      And would the fact that both our mars signs are in Leo compliment each other or what do you think?

      Thanks!!

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Head on over to http://www.Spiritualitypathways.com. I'd love to hear from you!

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      Onelove123 3 years ago

      Thanks, where can I comment on your blog? I wasn't sure where to keep the convo going

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Onelove123,

      My son is in his mid twenties now, but is a Scorpio Sun and Scorpio Moon, so I understand how intense those emotions are. When he was younger, he seemed overwhelmed by the enormous weight of all that emotion, much like you. He also is an "old soul" and is in a band with a few guys in their 40's +. So Scorpios do tend to relate better to older people. Both my husband and I have Scorpio Ascendants, and I am Cancer, so I get those parts well. My son did well, he's an elementary school teacher, he found he also loves working with young kids! But you cold be talented in music, art, he loves karate and has practiced the "real" kind for years. It took him 8 yrs to get his black belt! That might be a good outlet for you. Scorpio and Cancer influences make you very psychic, so maybe your parents don't understand, but I get premonitions that come true, and if you have these --(I also feel that they are blessings but sometimes it's like a curse)--you will get more comforable with it as you get older. Is there a New Age store in your area? You would meet likeminded people there. I have a blog, http://www.Spiritualitypathways.com, where I write a lot more than I can here. I have been casting horoscopes for many years, I learned with my husband back when we were dating--long story. Even if you don't want a chart, you may read about your Moonsign and Venus signs, I have links there to help you. And you can feel free to ask me questions here, or I would rather there, because the blog is just me, and its more private. If you have these feelings about animals, you would make a great vet! You could start out as the young person who answers the phone at an animal hospital, and maybe they could help with your schooling. I have been online today because I write a weekly tarot piece and post it Sunday night, and forgot to do it ahead because of Easter! Take care and don't stifle those psychic feelings, always trust your intuition. I have hubs about chakras and auras on my blog, and that's the kind of stuff you are getting with those "vibrations" you feel. There's nothing wrong with you, you just need to find people that have these same psychic tendencies. Meditation may help too. I don't know what state you live in New Age bookstores are all over the place in N.J. and usually you can get Tarot and Astrology readings there. Keep in touch!

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      Onelove123 3 years ago

      Hey thanks so much for taking the time to reply. I'm barely 18 so Im thinking im probably still learning about myself. It can get frustrating though, feel as if I dong fit in anywhere. But yeah the only things ive found that i really want to do is make music, write poetry, sing & have a family that would fulfill me for sure. But yeah I just feel like such a complex person that sometimes its hard to relate to others my age. I tend to love being around elderly people. Wise, real, & trustworthy. So not just all. I often won't be close to an old person that isn't wise and mature, alot aren't. I could always tell. And another thing i could read faces..and just know what type of person they are..I can often just observe a person and know if they're trustworthy, if they're lying in anyway or what type of person they are inside..I could also tell what moods dogs are in and if they're attack or whatever. My parents don't believe when I tell them out dogs will do something, and it always happens. It's like I could read there minds just by studying there movements & and behavior. I honestly don't realize that I study things when I look at them. If i meet a new person its hard to concentrate on what they're saying because my mind is paying attention to vibes & everything about the person, so I try to snap myself out of it. I feel as if being who I am has been a blessing and a curse at the same time. I noticd my strengths. But my emotions & mood swings are like the downfall of everything because i can't control them like I can co from anything else. It sucks to suffer emotionally constantly, and knowing thats how im going to be forever, that it won't go away. But the good thing is that ill also always have a good sense of humor & can crack my self up out of it I guess :p

      Sorry for the long venting paragraph lol.

      But I would like to know what you mean about doing complete horoscopes? Thanks Jean

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      Jean Bakula 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Onelove123,

      Thanks for writing in! All that Scorpio makes you serious and intense, but the Cancer moon gives you very tender emotions, and they are easily hurt. Or would be, the Scorpio traits would help you not get overemotional over trivial things. But Scorpios are much more sentimental and kind than people think. There is all that Eagle and Snake stuff, as Scorpios do tend to be either really good or really bad. I'm thinking the lost part comes from your Mercury in Libra. It is a sign of leadership, but you already have a strong personality. Mercury rules your thinking, and in Libra, means you have trouble making up your mind, or change your mind more than average. Sometimes that's good, we all change and grow, and view things differently at different times in our lives. Maybe you haven't found what you want to do yet? Scorpios love recycling and repurposing things, and do usually emerge as leaders or managers in whatever they do. The Cancer Moon means you are more of a people person than the average Scorpio, though both signs like occasional privacy and alone time. I do complete horoscopes on my blog, but feel once you decide what you really want, you will be very happy. You just haven't found it yet. You probably have artistic abilities, and like to work with children. Anyway, all the best.

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      Onelove123 3 years ago

      Hey great article! Im a scorpio sun, cancer moon, scorpio Ascendent, libra mercery. I often feel lost about my identity.. What does this say about me

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Scrappy,

      Well, you are very sensitive with the Moon (your feelings) in Cancer, and you also appear nurturing and kind with the Cancer Ascendant. I bet everyone tells you their problems! The Capricorn sun is opposite Cancer, but isn't too much of a problem, it brings you challenges, so you may find it harder to achieve or feel you have to do more than other people. But Capricorns are sensible and reliable, and also very motivated and hardworking, so usually reach their goals. Think of yourself as a very caring Capricorn. Although Capricorns are emotional too, they keep it to themselves more, and people don't always realize how deep their emotions are. Take care.

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      Scrappy 4 years ago

      Hello,

      I'm an ascendant in cancer, sun in Capricorn, and moon in cancer. How does this make me different from other moon in cancer natives

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Ok, let's see. I have a lot more info about Astrology on my blog

      http://spiritualitypathways.com if you want more info. But with an Aries Sun and Cancer Moon, you are a leader. The Cancer Moon means you have a tender side, and your feelings get hurt easily. But also that you are an understanding friend. With that Gemini Ascendant people have trouble pinning you down, because you seem to be very changeable. Plus you must bore easily, because of all three influences. I have better Sunsign, Moonsign and Venus sign articles on the blog. You are complex, but I think people underestimate how much you like to be in charge. You may get frazzled because you do so many things at once!

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      4 years ago

      Hi... I know that im a complex soul.. my sun is aries, my moon in cancer and my ascendent is in gemini... I got fire water and air. I battle within myself because Im straight forward bold but yet im emotional and sensitive.. may you tell me more about how to handle those three signs in my chart

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi,

      I don't really have enough info to go on here to say much. You have a Sun in Cancer, which is a sign of leadership, so you would be good a running your own business. Cancers take a while to warm up to people, but do like to be around them. Can you add a new service to your store, perhaps something more personal to get more people in? Maybe design business cards or some kind of party decorations for people? Best Wishes.

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      dipesh madhukar gaikwad 4 years ago

      birth date : 16-07-1974,diploma in industrial electronics,pgdbm(hr),currently into paper and stationery business,own a shop want to start something good along with this business,but don't know what to start ......pls advice

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Fingirl.

      Maybe it's just the differences between men and women. It was always the same between my husband and me, even back when we were dating. He would like to be with his friends if he had free time, and I need space to be alone. I hope you enjoyed the Venus things. I didn't want to seem pushy, but most people don't read the HP things word for word, and miss them. Take care.

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      Fingirl 4 years ago

      Thanks, Jean! I read your venus articles.. Very interesting indeed. His Cancer moon makes him very sensitive and I have been lucky enough to experience that - I find it endearing. We do both like our freedom but I feel like he is very caught up in the friends thing. I like space to be alone and think! He seems to like space to hang out with all of his friends! I find it impossible to be mad at him even when he does maddening things. I think it sometimes makes me a doormat. I also have a Libra rising, but I'm not sure what his rising sign is. Thanks for your insight!

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Fingirl!

      OK, let's see. I prefer to answer stuff like this on my blog, Spiritualitypathways.com, and actually have more in depth Astrology there. but here goes. Taurus Sun and Libra Sun is good, because both of you are ruled by Venus, the planet of love! You both are gentle people who like to keep the peace. You are more down to earth and relaxed, laid back. He likes to be a leader, but covers it up well, Libra is a cardinal sign of leadership. He likes nice things more than you. Taurus Venus and Scorpio Venus are opposite, but not to worry, that makes things exciting. Actually, please go on my blog, I have a whole series of stories about every Venus sign placement. I made each couple have the same Venus sign, so you could see how two of them act, so have whole articles about Venus in Scorpio and Venus in Taurus, you will learn more than I can do here. His Cancer moon makes him much more sensitive than anyone thinks he is, unless it's his Mom or a really close friend. I bet he calls Mom often too. Your Sag moon makes you blurt things out without thinking, but you are fair and honest, and do not want to hurt anyone. He may be a tad jealous, but both of you need your freedom in some ways, he with the Libra Sun, he likes to show off, and you with the Sag moon, like to be free and hate being told what to do. I really think you would like the Venus series as I call it, and would love your feedback. I do readings from there too. Take care, I would say your stars look good. Take care.

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      Fingirl 4 years ago

      Hi, dating a Libra Sun, Cancer Moon, Scorpio Venus guy. I'm a Taurus Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Taurus Venus girl. I feel so incredibly connected to him but so unsure of our future right now. Any insight on our placements you can provide would be a help.

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Kerry,

      Thanks for the positive light! The snow wasn't bad by us in Northern NJ, but I saw pictures of South Jersey. It's so devastated, and now there's about 6 inches of snow on everything. Many people are still not allowed back in their homes yet, and are without power down there. I am a Dem but Gov. Christie is doing a great job, he and Obama flew in army helicopters with utility trucks to get our power back on. It's supposed to go down to 17 degrees tonight. I hope those poor people have shelters to go to. Many of the homes down the shore as we say are not primary residences, they are summer rentals or vacation homes. So although it hurts, some of the people still have homes. We are OK. Everything is back on, but it was a mess to clean up outside, and inside too, bumbling about in the dark for a week. Now I think I'll be worried each time we have a storm.

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      Kerry43 4 years ago

      Aww, gosh I feel for you guys. Sending good vibes to you all. I was watching tv earlier and I see the new storm coming - please rug up! x

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Kerry,

      We do seem to have alot in common. I'm catching up today after 7 days of no electricity, heat, or hot water from Hurricane Sandy. I look forward to reading your stuff. Have you been to my blog? The address is in my profile, though it's not a link. Have to follow the rules and all that. I want to get a group to start a shelter after this awful storm, our town acted like they were in the Twilight Zone. I need to feed people and keep them warm, lol.

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      Kerry43 4 years ago

      Jean, it's like you know every little thing I ever said, did and thought lol. This is SO spot on. I studied real estate, I am now studying psychology, I write full-time, and I have been criticized often for giving food and money to the homeless. Welcome to my head!

      Kerry:)

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello leocancer,

      Well, Leo is ruled by the Sun, and it's natives are usually very outgoing and like to socialize. Since you have a Cancer moon and Pisces rising though, you are a shy Leo. The Cancer moon means you are very sensitive, and really take things to heart. This can be good, but try not to let your feelings be hurt too easily. Pisces rising means you seem to have a sort of aura or favorable feel about you, so people feel you are approachable. You may have really nice eyes, or a feature that makes you stand out in a dreamy sort of way, long curly hair, or a way of dressing, something with appearance with the Ascendant. You are a good storyteller, and I think once you warm up to people, get more outgoing, you just need more time to get to know others. You are a caring person, and maybe a bit psychic. Have you tried meditation, it would be good for you. We have to be careful not to drink too much when we have water signs, I know because I am a Cancer sun and Scorpio Ascendant, and stopped drinking 8 yrs. ago. You also may tend to get too involved in other people's problems, with good intentions, but at a detriment to yourself, as I think water signs soak up negative energies, so you need to distance yourself from what upsets you. I have a lot of Astrology on my blog, if you care to look, I'm working my way through the Sun signs and Venus signs, but offer links if you don't know your own. I'd love for you to check it out Spiritualitypathways. com. For the last 6 months my better work goes there. Best wishes.

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      leocancer 4 years ago

      Hello, Im a leo sun, cancer moon and pisces rising can you please tell me anything you know about me, thank you.

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Athena,

      I have a hub for Cancer Sunsign people, this is about Cancer Moonsign people. Many are writing in and making the same error. The Moon and every planet were in a sign when you were born. There is a link at the top of this page. Put your birth data into it, and it will tell you what sign your Moon is in. I assume you are a Sunsign Cancer, so of course much of this sounds like you. But your Moonsign is the inner, most personal part of you, the part you don't let everyone see. Try the link and see what sign your Moon is in. Thanks for commenting.

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      Athena 4 years ago

      This fits me to a tee. I am a Cancer all the way.

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello murugharain,

      Thanks for the reading, commenting and feedback!

      Hello ACANCERAIN,

      Thanks. I am a Cancer Sunsign, so it takes one to know one! Thanks for the visit!

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      ACANCERAIN 4 years ago

      am a cancerian. very well put

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      murugharajn 4 years ago from chennai,india

      This hub describes me accurately,this is the first time i came across an astrologer who has predicted the traits of a cancer sign people so accurately to the point.thanks for the hub.

      voted up.

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Srikanth,

      It's not too unusual to have your sun and moon in the same sign. Cancer is an emotional water sign to begin with, so since the moon rules emotions, your feelings probably get hurt easily. On the other hand, you can empathize with other people and I bet you listen to other people's problems quite a bit. You would do well in any career where you have alot of contact with people. Cancers like to talk. Even though some Astrologers make us sound whiny (I'm Cancer too) it's a sign of leadership, and I find myself taking charge of situations more as I get older. A bar or restaurant would be a great place for you. Sales jobs, but ones where you see people face to face, not by phone. Cancers like water, do you like fishing? Commercial fishing, or boat sales. You are likely artistic too, so writing, painting, playing an instrument. What do you like to do? Can you make money from that? I always liked to write, and now am making money with online writing. It's not enough to support myself, it's like a little P/T job. But every little bit helps. It's very time consuming though, and you wont see any money until you write about 50 pieces. I write on 3 sites and my blog now. See if you can turn something you like to do into a job. Real estate. I tried that but wasn't pushy enough, but maybe you would be more assertive. All the best!

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      Srikanth 4 years ago

      Hi, both my sun sign and moon sign are cancer. So, how different is it? I am not able to decide on my profession/career.

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Well, I see two reasons for being emotional. And Capricorns are not unemotional either, they just think emotions are private, and don't express themselves so much, or will express themselves in a physical way, like by taking care of others. Your Moon in Cancer makes you very sensitive, and since that's opposite your Sun sign, sometimes you probably do make too much of a small comment when the person didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Mars in Pieces is how you use your energy, so you are willing to involve yourself in projects in areas which you really care about. I think you must be artistic in some way, as Mars in Pisces is a great way to express yourself through music, art, poetry. The rising sign and Venus in Sag are helpful and make you more willing to roll with things, Venus in Sag people are more like friends with lovers, they like people who are fun, and like the same interests. You probably get bored easily with some people too. Sag rising, you may be tall and thin. It gives you a facade that you are easy to get along with, and treat all as equals. If you like astrology, I have lots on my blog, listed in my profile. Best wishes to you!

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      Sze 4 years ago

      I have sun and mercury in Capricorn, rising sun and venus in Sagittarius , moon in cancer, mars in Pisces.

      I find myself very sensitive and sometime emotional . When i am in love, i would give everything. I couldn't understand why as a Capricorn woman, now I know but didn't expect the moon in cancer has such important influence . Any comments?

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello Choudhury,

      Thanks for writing in and commenting. You are outgoing and like a busy social life being a Leo, but the Cancer Moon makes you quieter and a little shyer than some Leos. Cancer moon makes you very changable, but the moon changes signs every 2 1/2 days, so your moods don't stay the same for long. Aquarius ascendant makes you seem unique and strong willed (both Leo and Aquarius are fixed signs). So you are a little stubborn, but it's muted by the Cancer Moon. You may be tall or have an unusual hairstyle with the Aquarius rising. Actually both Aquarius and Cancer are signs of people who look at life in their own way, so you are a nonconformist. I know many Cancer/Aquarian couples, though air and water are not a usual match. Both of those signs are people who have tolerance for others, and hear the beat of their own drum! I'm working on a different sunsign series and a Venus in the sign series on my blog, but it's coming along slowly.. Stay tuned. Best wishes.

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      Choudhury 4 years ago

      Hi Jean,

      I am a lunar Cancerian and your hub describes me to a tee. I don't have psychic abilities per se but I sure can differentiate between good and bad people. My sun sign is Leo and I am an Aquarius ascendant. Can you ,please, describe my personality based on those details? Thank you for this awesome hub :-)!

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      Jean Bakula 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi dexsco,

      I'm sorry about the delay in answering. It appear HP made a few changes and I had a large group of comments I didn't get! Sun sign Scorpios are strong willed and determined. They do not change their minds easily, and follow their own course. It's a fixed, water sign. The Cancer moon makes you emotionally vulnerable, but also very caring and nurturing. Scorpio is caring too, although they put on a "tougher" face. Sagittaruis rising is a fire ascendant, and it's good for you, since you would be inclined to be overemotional without the Sag ascendant. That is a vibe that gives you positive energy, interests in many subjects, among them education, philosophy, foreign countries and languages. You may travel a great deal. I am working on more astrology on my blog http://www.spiritualitypathways.com. Best wishes!

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      dexsco 5 years ago

      Hello Jean, I was wondering if you could describe me. I'm Sun-Scorpio, Ascending-Sagittarius and Moon-Cancer. I am definitely understanding my capabilities, even though becoming aware was a difficult process because my crown/third eye chakra was being over-stimulated, but I've been working on my other chakras recently. I know read 2012 is a big year for Scorpios, especially in autumn.

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello skumar,

      Cancer people are quiet, but they are leaders. They also get bored easily. Perhaps you are just sick of your job? Is there a way to make a change within that place or type of work? Or are you ready to change? Best wishes.

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      skumar 5 years ago

      it is very interesting that it 100% match to my character.i am cancerian.Now a days i am suffering of my carrier problem ,could you please sujest some ideas to improve it

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Thank you for commenting. I will be doing a complete astrology series on my blog, the address is near the top of this post. Take care.

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      Tonnianne W 5 years ago

      I totally agree with all the characterisitcs being described about a cancerian. AM a cancerian myself & trust me all of the above is true.

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello felicia,

      A July 9th B-day makes you a Sun sign Cancer. If you click on the link at the right top of the hub, you will see a link called Moon Sign Tables. Click on it, and you will be told how to look up your Moon Sign. If you read the hub, you know your Moonsign and Sunsign are two different things. I have no idea what a "star number" is. Best Wishes.

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      felicia 5 years ago

      Hello hi i read this myself an im also a cancer this article is very true. My birthday is july 9 i want to know if im a sun or moon? im guessing moon an what does it mean when they going by your star number?

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello Alicia,

      Thanks for stopping by! People with Sun In Leo are very outgoing and like to get attention, they are entertainers. The Libra Ascendant means you come across as the peacemaker, and you don't like it when those around you don't get along. Libra makes you intelligent, and you like to keep your mind busy. You have a dimple somewhere :). You have a Cancer Moon though, so you are much more sensitive than others think, and your feelings get hurt easily. Since it's the moon, you keep it inside, it's the inner you. I understand, I'm a Cancer Sun! I wrote many Astrology hubs and they have links on them to help you find info. Now you can work with putting your "trinity" together, the Sun, Moon, and Ascendant. You are on your way!

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      Alicia 5 years ago

      I loved this...maybe u could help me im wondering what all my signs put together mean, im leo/sun, libra/ rising and cancer/ moon :)

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Nida,

      I have a separate hub for Sun in Taurus people, and another which explains rising signs or ascedants. That one only has about a one paragraph explanation for each rising sign, as there are 12. Thank you for writing, and I placed books on each so you can learn more. Taurus people like things to be simple, but are patient, as are Cancers. Cancer Moon people are very sensitive, but with the Sag rising you think big!

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      Nida 5 years ago

      Wow.. its just awsum.. thank you for mentioning us EMOTIONALLY STRONG as people usually describe us as a weak person..

      I would love to know more about myself if you can help.

      My Sun is in Taurus, my Moon is in Cancer and my rising is Sagittarius.. :S three diff signs :S

      but i feel that there is something v v v v v v v v special in me.... but i dont exactly know what it is,i called it God's special blessing on myself..

      Nida

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Hello MooninCancer,

      Thank you for your kind comments! I am a Sun Sign Cancer, so understand the sign pretty well, although my moon is not there. I have studied for so many years, I know and have horoscopes for most of any Sunsign or Moonsign. I agree that Cancer gets "picked on" for being over emotional, but it is a cardinal sign of leadership. We just like to stay behind the scenes a bit (but always seem to get into the spotlight anyway)! Best Regards, and I have a blog listed on my profile if you have more private questions.

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      MoonInCancer 5 years ago

      Hi,

      I just wanted to thank you for writing this. Many websites and forums portray this position as being weak, too moody to function, and undesirable. You portray it in such a positive and accurate light - I can relate to everything you said here. Moon in Cancer has a wonderful sense of humor, is incredibly creative and artistic, and uses emotion to create and innovate. Moon in Cancer has an amazing imagination - I think possibly the best in the zodiac! Thanks again and I really value your insight - it's clear that you know your stuff! :)

      - Moon in Cancer

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      Jean Bakula 5 years ago from New Jersey

      Thanks Steph0596,

      I'm glad you enjoyed this! I read your hubs and like them too. Take care.

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      Steph0596 5 years ago from Ontario

      Lol, I loved this article. I am in fact a Cancer moon person and this actually describes me to a tee. Thanks Jean! All of your hubs are so interesting!

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