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Scorpio the Mysterious
Scorpios have played a big part in my life. One of my best and most valued friends is a Scorpio. I have married two of them—including my current (and hopefully last) husband. I have always been drawn to Scorpios—male or female. Of course, I am a Pisces so that is not surprising.
Scorpios can be fascinating and frustrating, irresistible and exhausting, and undoubtedly the hardest sign to truly know in the zodiac. Scorpios live in the murky underworld and only emerge when they choose to do so. Unlike most signs, Scorpio actually has three symbols—the snake, the scorpion, and the eagle. It is said that the scorpion snake bites others, the scorpion stings himself and the eagle rises above it all. I have known all three types of Scorpios in my lifetime and have come to the conclusion that they represent both the best and the worst of human nature.
Scorpio Core Personality Traits
Scorpios are known for their determination and resourcefulness. Once set on a path nothing, and I mean nothing, will deter them. They are loyal once they have determined that someone is worthy of that loyalty. Loyalty to a Scorpio literally means to the death in most cases and therefore they are highly selective in who they place that loyalty.
Earning a Scorpio's trust is no small feat but once you have it you can count on it under any circumstances. Scorpios are passionate and emotional, although only those within the inner-circle will see the emotional side of a Scorpio. The old saying "still waters run deep" was certainly referring to a Scorpio. They love deeply and hate deeply. There is no grey area with a Scorpio.
With all of that passion, Scorpios also have a strong jealous streak. They are extremely suspicious by nature causing them to find conspiracies around every corner. Vengeance is another negative Scorpio trait. A Scorpio will never forget and will most likely strike back when least expected. Scorpios are also obsessive by nature.
While this can be used in a positive way, it can also lead to a variety of addictions including drugs or alcohol, sex, or the occult. Secrecy is probably the biggest hallmark of a Sun Sign Scorpio. No matter how long you know one, or how well you think you know them, they will always harbor a secret or two—it's just their nature.
While all children are affected by their early home-life and environment, your Scorpio child can be particularly vulnerable. Because a Scorpio's basic nature is to mistrust everyone and be suspicious of everything, it is particularly important to make your Scorpio child feel loved and secure. While your Scorpio child may not appear highly emotional he/she is, without a doubt.
Don't take your Scorpio child at face value. Take the time to listen to him/her and really find out what's going on inside his/her head. Your Scorpio child may be very needy, but if you can cater to those needs she will eventually start to believe that you really love her and are not going to abandon her. Do not lie to your Scorpio child—about anything. First, he will probably know you are lying and second you will ruin your chance at gaining his trust. All children need constructive outlets, but a Scorpio child may be more in need than most. Without something positive to focus her obsessive mind on she may turn to a negative obsession.
Also, pay particular attention to your Scorpio child as he reaches puberty as sex, drugs, and all things dark will start calling him. Again, talk to him—truthfully—about these subjects as I assure you if you do not he will find the answers himself elsewhere.
A Scorpio friend is a friend for life. As mentioned earlier, Scorpios do not trust easily nor do they offer their loyalty quickly. If you have a Scorpio that you can truly call a friend then you can count on them to be there for you when everyone else went running for the hills. They do not turn their backs on a friend.
On the other hand, if you want someone to commiserate with you when you have done something stupid, don't count on a Scorpio. They will not placate you. If you want an honest opinion—ask your Scorpio friend. If you just want a shoulder to cry on—call someone else.
Your Sun Sign Scorpio boss will be a harsh taskmaster. She will expect you to do your job in a timely manner and with precision. A Scorpio boss will not accept excuses—for anything. Don't call in sick unless you are on your deathbed—with a doctor's excuse.
Don't show up late for work or ask to leave early and by all means, don't be caught playing games on your computer or chatting on the phone during work hours. If, however, your Scorpio boss is pleased with your performance, you will be rewarded and he will not abandon you when times get tough or he is offered another opportunity.
A Scorpio employee needs direction but not interference. Scorpios flourish when they are allowed to use their natural research and investigation skills. They are intuitive and naturally skeptical so anything in law enforcement suits them. Scorpios don't handle situations where there are a lot of gray areas well so their work expectations should be clear.
Do not, however, hover over them. Their suspicious nature will kick in and they will get nothing done! Do not expect your Scorpio employee to be particularly social—in fact, she may appear standoffish. Don't take it personally—he is just not a social animal!
I have spent, collectively, 20 years in a relationship with one Scorpio or the other. Two of those in a marriage—including my current husband. Needless to say, I am apparently destined to be with a Scorpio. From a relationship perspective, they are hard to resist and even harder to forget. They are, however, like playing with fire. Most of them will even tell you that before you start a relationship with them. Remember that warning when you later question whether or not you need your head examined!
This is not to infer that life with a Scorpio is unhappy—just complicated sometimes. On the one hand, you always know where you stand—they are brutally honest. If you are emotional (as I am with my Pisces Sun) be prepared to get your feelings hurt. You know, however, that when they give you a compliment or tell you they love you it is the real deal. On the other hand, your Scorpio may suffer from serious mood swings, insane bouts of jealousy, and moments when his proverbial foot goes down and nothing will change his mind.
They are fiercely loyal partners that will stick by you to the end. When I say loyal, I mean emotionally loyal—not necessary sexually loyal. Sex, to a Scorpio, is like food or water—a necessity. If they are not getting enough of it at home they may look elsewhere. They will not, however, have an affair as a rule in the emotional sense of that word. They are not romantic but they are sentimental. I think my husband has saved every card I have ever given him as well as our daughter's first shoes, her first birthday candle and an assortment of other mementos that even I never thought to save.
As a parent, your Scorpio will be strict but loving. They show their love and commitment by deeds more than gifts and words. You can count on your Sun Sign Scorpio to be dependable, hard-working and stable. Mine is my rock.
Sex, for a Sun Sign Scorpio, is an obsession. Scorpio rules the sex organs and every Scorpio I have known stays true to that! They are inherently sexual creatures. They simply exude sex—raw sex—from every pore. They are not flashy, and most are completely unaware of their sex appeal. Both the male and female Scorpion is generally irresistible at first glance.
They may not be conventionally beautiful or handsome but there is something about them that draws people in. Sex with a Scorpio is an event. They will have an interest in anything different, unusual or that tends toward the dark side of sex. If you do not have an adventurous nature steer clear of a Scorpio. Sex can become an obsession for a Scorpio as they feel the need to push the limits. It can be like a drug to them.
They are, however, very giving, and pleasing their partner is frequently more important to them than their own pleasure. You will need to remember how important sex is to a Scorpio lover, but if you do you will find that they will do everything in their power to make you happy.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
Mr D on July 27, 2020:
well i was born in nov 8th and people who tried to talk to me ended up leaving me i still to this day have 0 friends i can trust i talk to random school people to relieve stress from being alone i call myself bad i am most alone and have been its hard scorpio to be social as there are people who just wants to be friends with u for money and Ur works and thus finding a decent person is like really hard so atm idk why i have been having a dream about a girl named Luna For around 5 years now and i really want to meet that person as i want to hug her and feel the warmth and finally feel secure and then hug her for hours
dashingscorpio from Chicago on June 08, 2019:
Jenny B on September 04, 2018:
Really good web sight was like reading about may self Scorpio 2 November Excellent
Payton on August 14, 2018:
I really think this is ture i love this page so mich its the best
Marisol on June 19, 2018:
I don’t know what type of Scorpio i am?
True on April 28, 2018:
Scorpio moon is more Scorpio than Scorpio sun
Villalta04 on June 02, 2017:
Can you imagine a person with their sun, moon and ascendant in scorpio plus half of the natal chard in scorpio too? and their black sun in scorpio.
Dawn on September 22, 2013:
I know what he means, just scared because they are 'fixed' sign and stay........just keep having great sex and show you don't care if they go = they probably stay , from experience
Nick on March 12, 2013:
Blah, no matter how little sex they get.*
Nick on March 11, 2013:
To ,,, : You're being too simplistic about it. You forget that the author stated that the scorpio has three stages. A higher level scorpio will be willing to give-up control, and will enjoy the danger of not being in control. The only scorpio that absolutely refuses to give-up control is the snake (some say there's a spider, and they too would be included), but those are the ones you would want to avoid in general. The majority of scorpios know they must give-up control at times in order to be happy. And as much as it scares us, we love it. We enjoy being dominated at times (bedroom included), because it shows strength, care, and love. Also, remember that scorpio is all about death and rebirth, and there is no better way to experience this than through your partner. You need to do a better job of close reading.
This was a good article. As a scorpio man, I felt you somewhat hit upon an essence of mine. I will say that while sex is very important to us, if we have given our loyalty, we will not stray. I was in a realtionship for three years with a leo female; we virtually stopped having sex (virtually meaning it use to be everyday, but whittled down to monthly- if I was lucky), and while I knew something was off, I refused to give up, because I commited to her. I gave myself to her. Once I found out she cheated on me, I cut her out of my life the very next day. I took her off my phone plan, changed my number, moved out, and that was that. If a scorpio truly has commited and given themselves over in the relationship, they will never stray; no matter how little they get sex.
,,, on August 31, 2012:
Again, a poor attempt to justify dark side just because of a sign... "oh, it's a Scorpio" so I should'n mind to be dominated, used as object of pleasure...
rach on August 04, 2012:
i'm scorpio woman, i can say that i'm always attacted to aquarius man to the different level..have two aquarius in my life but the best partner i have is libran. We really fit for each other. With aquarius, it's sensual and casual and no strings attached relationship. Both loves mind stimulating sex, have unique ways of showing how they care, even though you haven't talk for ages, when u meet, it was like nothing has changed. I can feel they have a great influence in mylife, on how to view things in a more bigger picture. They are sexy in their own way, and very challenging. i love their class act. Even getting to the deeds, it's different..the thing is they can detached themselves easily, they don't show so much emotion. Although i like the excitement it brings, i'm still looking for a more secure relationship and libra gave me that..the love of my life and my soulmate.. Pisces is said to be my best match, i dated one, but i got turned off with his lack of sensitivity. He always talk about sex and havin fun on bed and i felt being disrespected. I had 2 leos in my life too, and there is instant attraction, something akin to raw sex, but i find their intensity lacking.. i said this because when i showed them my waning lack of interest, they chased me..very jealous, they are loyal but not too loyal. Met two capricorns too, both loves to talk sex but when it comes to real actions, i can outlast them. .i wanted to go beyond, but i feel they ddint even meet me halfway...i don't know if this holds true for most capricorns. I met virgo men, and the three of them are all shy, boyish, reserve individual, loves to talk in riddles..sweet in their own way, and very compulsive when it comes to neatness. loves things in order, so meticulous and vain and prudish too:) loves sex but won't admit it. aries in my life is so pickle minded..he showed me he wanted me really bad, made me feel so special while on his other hand there are strings of girls that he promised to marry too.. and when found out, can make a great deal of crying.. arghhhh...and i hate being lied, the drama and being fooled. gemini man is too talkative , witty and sexy.... i enjoy his company too. dated cancer, got clicked and have good vibes but that's all to it.
Angela on October 21, 2011:
I am a Scorpio woman & I agree with the article except Pisces being our best match. I dated a pisces & I relate to one of the postings he was on & off again until along came an amazing Cancer who just blew my mind in every aspect I didn't need to talk he just knew what I was thinking or feeling. It's not that we're insecure it's that we have that "feeling" & we know when someone us all ours or not!
PA on August 01, 2011:
Being a scorpio I agree with your article, however lately I have been overwhelmed with emotional instability and have started to notice more and more flaws in my character, I just don't feel like the strong independent scorpio anymore. I have had two main relationships - the first being a sag, it was great for a few months until I started to get easily frustrated with her and evenually ended it I have only recently contacted her (after 2-3 years of ignoring her) I suddenly realised how wrong and vicious I was reacting that way and I have started to have feelings for her again but she is a few years older, the second girl is a gemini - I had (and still do have) strong feelings for her but when we were together something wasn't right we hardly talked in person and it was always akward, I feel like I'm still trying to find myself but I'm slowly dissapearing. I appoligise for the long post, I'm a male and in my teens.
leigia67 (author) on April 06, 2011:
Charlotte: First, let me let you in on a little secret...you will never feel safe and secure...it's just how Scorpios are...no matter who you are with. My hubby is still insecure and suspicious despite never having been given a reason to be. Having said that, Pisces may be the only sign that will tolerate that insecurity and jealousy. We don't like it, but we tolerate it better than most. As for our "go with the flow" tendency...I know that can drive people crazy...we just don't like conflict. We also don't see the world as intensely as you all do. I doesn't mean we don't care, we just have a more zen like attitude...if things are meant to be, then they will be. In answer to your question, yes, it can be a long term relationship. Although Scorpio and Pisces can clash, they can also bring much needed balance to each other. You can learn to relax and trust (just a little) and he can learn to take life more seriously (just a little) and grow a backbone. Although it can very emotional, I have not seen another sign that works better for either. Good luck!
Charlotte on April 05, 2011:
since you are a pisces and already married with 2 scorpios please tell me is it really a long-term relashionship? cuz being a scorpio and dating a pisces for 5 years , although i love him to death there are so many "break ups /make ups" that im going nuts, i know pisces and scorpios have a perfect chemistry but both of them are so emotional i cant imagine ever feel safe and truly stable with my pisces.. i know he loves me but that instability and just "go with the flow" tends to make me more jealous and controling (like i wasn't already enough). a pisces and scorpio for are like that song "cant live with or without you"
SJ on February 16, 2011:
I'm a Scorpio woman and this describes me well. I'm very sentimental. I love sex, but won't stray if I feel like there is commitment from the other person. I do get jealous, but can control it. I used to be very anti-social, but now I talk with everyone. I actually never liked Pisces men. I wasn't attracted to them. The best relationship I had was with a Sag, but he didn't want to be committed to me. I always find myself attracted to them because they never say much, they are awesome in bed. They love to let the Scorpio take control. I also had a long relationship with a Leo, which was chaos. I would call a Leo if I want to party. There is very little loyalty from Leo's. I dated an Aquarius man briefly. He was great in bed, but got bored of me easily. I'm hanging around with another Aquarius man. He's younger than me, so I can see it working out a lot better. Something I've learned is that if the Scorpio doesn't control her feelings, it can ruin a relationship. Also, don't jump in bed too quickly.
leigia67 (author) on February 11, 2011:
thanks for the comment Scorpio1734!
scorpion1734 from Lucknow on February 11, 2011:
Am scorpion and i think its very true what you written about scorpion's trait.most of things I feel is true.
leigia67 (author) on February 08, 2011:
B. That's a tough one. Aquarius may be the hardest sign when it comes to expressing emotion in my opinion. They just don't think emotionally. Plus, they are freedom lovers, very independent and frequently don't commit until later in life. Honestly, that's a difficult match for the intensity of Scorpio absent other compatible signs in the charts. Do you know any of your other placements or his?
B.Vega on February 07, 2011:
I love reading about Scorpio. I am one myself, 10/25. I'm currently in a friendly but sexual relationship with an Aqua man. I want it to be more but I don't know how to handle it. We have the best time together, always laughing. I can sense his emotions but he isn't comfortable enough to show them. This has been going on for about 6 months, any suggestions on how to open him up and get him to commit?
leigia67 (author) on January 26, 2011:
Vallin...Double Scorpio meaning Scorpio Sun and Scorpio Moon? Do you know your Mercury, Venus and/or Mars placements?
Vallin from Atlanta, GA on January 26, 2011:
I'm Double Scorpio with Neptune, Venus [};)], and Mercury conjunct my Ascendant. How much can you handle?
leigia67 (author) on January 21, 2011:
I am doing one on each sign...Leo will be done soon...check back! Thanks