Jean teaches astrology, tarot & metaphysics. She is an author, ordained nondenominational minister, & member of the NJ Metaphysical Ctr.
Misconceptions About Scorpio People
During my years of interest, study, and teaching of astrology, I found that people are most fascinated with the Scorpio zodiac sign. This is a particularly challenging sign, as Scorpios tend to be very successful and driven. Scorpios are also quite mysterious and we know about their tremendous sex appeal! But some of them cause their own problems because of binge drinking, drugs, and ill-advised sex or hookups, brought on by the extreme nature of their relationships and the personal pain they often experience.
Lately, clients have asked me questions that indicate they have many misconceptions about the traits of these complex people. By now I thought I had heard practically everything. I receive questions from worried clients who are afraid of the Scorpio children, family members, lovers, and coworkers in their lives, and wrongly assume Scorpios are bad, or even evil, people.
People truly seem to think Scorpios are capable of extreme cruelty, fly into furies of crazed jealousy, or are criminally insane. I have written hundreds of instructional articles covering all zodiac signs, and nobody learned anything like that from what I’ve taught. Charles Manson was a Scorpio, but so is Bill Gates. We can find positive and negative examples of human behavior in every zodiac sign, so it bothers me to see Scorpios being so maligned.
An Evil Character
I have a fictional story to share about a child whose behavior is truly terrifying. Many of her exploits could be blamed on Scorpio traits by a person looking for a reason to believe a Scorpio person in their own life is very bad. I am sharing this tale along with excuses for Scorpio behaviors interspersed with the fiction, in italics, to give readers examples of false information circulating regarding Scorpios.
There was once a young, troubled girl named Rhoda. Her classmates kept their distance from Rhoda; they sensed something different about her, and found her to be intimidating. Scorpios sometimes come off as cold or unfeeling. They are masters at hiding their real emotions.
Rhoda’s classmate Claude mysteriously drowned at a school picnic which they both attended. Rhoda’s Mom, Christine, thought her daughter seemed indifferent to her classmate’s death. She later learned Rhoda lost a penmanship contest to Claude, so didn’t receive a medal she coveted. Rhoda believed she should have won. We know Scorpios are very competitive! It was later discovered that Rhoda was the last person seen with Claude before his death.
Do Scorpios Care What Others Think?
Christine began to evaluate other troubling behaviors she noticed about her daughter. Rhoda once begged her parents for a dog, but got bored with him. He “accidentally” fell out the window and died. An elderly neighbor promised to will a necklace to Rhoda, then suddenly took a fatal fall down the stairs. Rhoda was soon seen wearing the necklace she so badly wanted. When a Scorpio wants something, they can focus on it like a laser beam! Rhoda had also been expelled from school for lying to teachers, and was described as a mean, self sufficient child who played by her own rules. Scorpios are nonconformists who don’t really care what others think of them.
Leroy was the maintenance man for the apartment complex where Rhoda lived. He saw through her façade and realized Rhoda was different than she pretended. Scorpios can read your mind and be whatever they think you want to see. But Leroy underestimated Rhoda, and teased her. He told Rhoda that blood could still be found on Claude even after the crime. Rhoda was terrified that her treachery would be discovered, so locked Leroy into his room after setting his bed on fire. Scorpios love to plot revenge against other people.
Christine later confronted Rhoda, but she acted innocent, lied, and blamed everyone except herself for the deaths which befell her victims. Scorpios have a dark side, but how dark? Attempting to keep Rhoda from killing anyone else, Christine gave her a large dose of sleeping pills, hoping she would overdose. Then Christine shot herself in the head.
Christine died, but a nosy neighbor intervened and saved Rhoda. Christine’s husband returned from a business trip, and thought Christine suffered a nervous breakdown. Unfortunately, Christine never explained her revelations regarding Rhoda to him, leaving Rhoda free to kill again. So Scorpios are evil. Rhoda’s birthday was never revealed to the reader. But anyone so twisted had to be Scorpio, right?
Scorpio Traits Are Vastly Exaggerated
Rhoda’s fictional character is from a book entitled The Bad Seed, written in 1954 by an American writer named William March. I needed to illustrate through this fiction that although clients write me to discuss problems less serious than murder, many have terrible misconceptions about how wicked Scorpio people are. They greatly exaggerate what lengths a Scorpio will go to in competitions, how insanely jealous they act during a love affair, or just how dangerous a Scorpio scorned will actually go to hurt someone for a real or perceived wrong. So I’d like to discuss some major complaints I hear from people who have challenging relationships with a Scorpio person in their lives.
Many are parents who think their badly behaved or uncontrollable children are like that because they are Scorpio. Now, all Scorpio children are born nonconformists, and this will present at a young age. Many of these people are helicopter parents who force their children into so many activities; these children are merely tired and overwhelmed. A Scorpio child needs routines and boundaries. But they are creative and intelligent, so need time to dream and play with their peers. If your Scorpio child shows an interest in something, encourage it, they have insatiable curiosity. These kids also need to be left alone at times to use their artistic imaginations in a safe space.
Some parents are competing with other parents like themselves or perhaps trying to live vicariously through their children. Maybe one parent loves team sports, but the son loves to paint. Maybe one loves to cook and the daughter is fascinated with engineering. Each person is an individual and has their own talents or skills. Your child will be easier to manage if you respect their individuality. Buy books and discuss them, go to museums, and engage these kids in clever activities. They are smart and driven, often misbehaving because they are bored. Even young Scorpios are old souls who have strong likes and dislikes. I hate to break the news, but you aren’t going to change that. A Scorpio wins every time, even a young one.
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Scorpio Teens Experience Difficult Times
Some frightened parents have decided that Scorpio Moon sign teens, in particular, hate their mothers. (Actually Capricorn Moon sign kids have issues with Mom, but they don’t hate her.) We all know teens and parents go through rocky times, even when they have great relationships. It just goes with the territory of growing up and becoming independent. A Scorpio teen is an old soul who knows themselves very well. This kid can argue a point better than Alan Dershowitz, so keep your wits about you! Even though you will be grinning behind their back as you say “no” to their premise, the closing argument is well thought out and actually makes sense.
A Scorpio teen or young adult is an individualist who sees life in definite terms. They may love and respect parents, but are going to do what they want, whether you like it or not. Most teens go through stages, and will test your patience to maximum levels. Scorpio teens have this down to a science. Hang in there, and keep talking. This period will pass. Then a more problematic one will begin. Get used to it. Make it clear that your teen can come to you with any problem. Just remember that old saying, “When kids are little they have little problems, and when they get bigger, they have bigger problems.” Raising a Scorpio is not an easy task.
I can’t emphasize how important it is for parents to stay aware of current issues and what kinds of difficulties teens may be facing in their everyday lives. Don’t forget how secretive they are. Their problems are likely to be a hell of lot more difficult than what you went through in your teen years. Welcome to the 21st century. And be forewarned, Scorpio young people go through a lot more confusion regarding sexual issues and orientation than other signs, so try to keep an open mind. Their teen years are not going to resemble yours in the slightest. If you are a good parent and your teen feels they can talk to you, just listen, even if you are stunned by what you hear. Then take small steps and see how you can help, or refer them to someone who can if it’s too much for you.
Scorpio Love Runs Hot and Cold
Let’s move onto love relationships. This accounts for a large percentage of my mail and astrology clientele, and once again, everyone seems to have an impossible to understand Scorpio in their lives. If you are madly in love with a Scorpio person and have lived with them for a year or two, you should know this person quite well. Why don’t you know if you are compatible as a couple, and why are you asking me? Obviously, then, the answer is no. If you don’t get along and don’t feel a spark of romance around this person, there’s no love there. Move on.
I often hear that one of the partners has either thrown the other out of the house more than once, or even that one partner is physically abusing the other. This is an ongoing thing. Why are you still holding on and pretending the other person has feelings for you? They don’t. They asked you to leave, and are hurting you. They aren’t holding in smoldering passions for you because they can’t understand their extreme emotions. This is delusional thinking on your part. Your Scorpio partner wants to end an unsatisfying relationship. When a Scorpio is over you, they won’t look back. So, sashay away! Stop rationalizing they still love you by over exaggerating Scorpio traits which are not even true to the sign. Face the truth. If someone assaults you once, leave immediately. This person is dangerous.
Scorpio Sun and Scorpio Moon Are Not the Same Thing
I have another thing on my mind. The Sun and Moon are luminaries, but for the sake of simplicity in astrology, we say there are ten planets in the zodiac. A Scorpio Sun and a Scorpio Moon are two distinct and different placements entirely, and I’ve written clear, interpretive articles explaining this. The difference between each is explained in depth. Please stop blaming emotional problems on Scorpio Moon sign people. While it is correct the Moon rules a person’s emotional makeup, this is not to be used interchangeably with a Sun sign. The Sun sign is the basic way a person expresses their energies and creative drives to grow and develop as an individual. The other eight planets can be in any zodiac sign too, so working with only a Sun or Moon explains little about your “problem” Scorpio anyway.
A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them.”
— - Carl Jung
True Scorpio Traits
Let’s address the positive and negative traits of Scorpio Sun sign people, because apparently you need a refresher course. Or you are reading other astrologers. Gasp, how could you? I’m deeply wounded. But I have a Scorpio ascendant, I will prevail. Scorpio is a sign of intensity and extremes, not interested in anything except the naked truth. They understand that underneath the polite facade of society there lies the real world. It’s raw, untamed, and sometimes frightening.
There are three symbols for Scorpios; the first one is the snake. If you hurt a Scorpio, you will be stung by their sarcastic tongue. They believe in retribution too, but it may not be immediate. Scorpios are patient, like The Godfather. They may just ignore you and treat you with disdain. But they always win, so learn to choose your battles. Scorpios can soar like the eagle and see everything with their piercing vision, choosing to rise above pettiness and revenge. The phoenix symbolizes Scorpio the best, because these people can live through unthinkably difficult circumstances and rise from the ashes renewed, as better and more evolved people. They have an amazing abundance of strength and purpose during the most severe periods of soul testing, and will endure it all to transform their lives again.
Scorpios like to live intense lives, and often this causes them to go to extremes in behavior. They are courageous and want to live interesting lives, but this doesn’t mean they are fearless. But they are driven to that intensity and want to see the truth, no matter how daunting it can be. What lies underneath the surface? That’s what a Scorpio person needs to know. All those secrets need to be uncovered, and the taboos need to be broken. These are naturally suspicious people, always seeking the truth. But if they don’t like what they find, can become obsessed and destructive.
Scorpio Vulnerability Requires Strength
Scorpios don’t like to feel vulnerable or powerless. But they will help a friend or loved one cope during such times with the utmost tenderness. Your Scorpio friend is very loyal and will be there for you at the worst times in your life. Your secrets will be kept, although a Scorpio won’t reveal all of theirs. This is true in a romantic relationship too. Scorpios will always listen, and can read you like a book anyway. But they will always have secrets of their own and may not choose to reveal them. Learn to accept it and don’t take it personally.
Many Scorpios look for jobs on the front lines to be near exciting action. They can be police, paramedics, counselors, fire fighters, martial artists, or founders of rehabilitation facilities. These are people who can handle pressure. Being in crisis situations helps a Scorpio to be able to process what is difficult and taboo, because it makes life less frightening to them. They are also likely to work as accountants or life insurance agents, as the 8th house rules Scorpio, and one of its issues is money of the partner.
When a couple marries, they must decide how to manage their funds together, whose health insurance they will be on, how much life insurance they need, and if they die, who will get their property? So Scorpios will make wills at younger ages than most people. My late husband and I both were of Scorpio ascendants, and wrote wills by the time we were in our late twenties. That 8th house is about more than sex and death, so stop thinking that’s all that matters to a Scorpio.
Scorpios are intimately acquainted with death and the dying process, often working in the funeral business as morticians, or as death doulas to assist others at the end of their lives. Scorpios can be gentle and soothing. Just as they are fascinated with sex, death is another ultimate mystery in life, and Scorpio wants those answers. This person understands every moment can be their last, a loved one could be lost at any time, but faces it no matter how painful, because to overcome the darkness, you have to experience it.
Scorpios Are Driven to Extremes
Scorpios are jealous, possessive, obsessive, and have strong sexual urges. The only way they can live is to totally consume life and let life totally consume them. So they take situations, beliefs, and actions to their extremes. This sign’s natives are driven and have an emotional and mental hunger to merge with what they desire, whether it’s a person, experience, or talent. To merge with something and therefore wholly possess it and forever be transformed by it is the Scorpio way.
Scorpios want to get to the bottom of everything through investigation, research, and by asking the hard questions. They are suspicious of light-hearted fluff and too serious to take it at face value. If a Scorpio fails to express an opinion (which is rare), it’s because they are blunt and may not want to hurt your feelings. They don’t want to sugarcoat anything and won’t humor you. So they often keep thoughts to themselves. They make judgments and assessments in secret, but will question everyone about their opinions.
Most Scorpios have magnetic and lovely eyes. As they look at you, those can be the most beautiful eyes you ever saw. They can be so kind and tender with those they love. Then try to talk them into doing something they don’t want to do, and all of a sudden you will feel a cold chill. Anybody who knows a Scorpio person has experienced being frozen in that icy glare.
Scorpios Don't Apologize for Who They Are
Scorpio people are very spiritual and often engage in studies about spiritual realms and metaphysical topics. They are very psychic and often know what others are thinking. If you are in a serious relationship with one, you don’t have to speak every thought; you will begin to communicate by telepathy. Scorpios love any subject or person who is mysterious and out of the ordinary. Being loved by a person so intelligent, spiritual, and passionate is not something to take lightly. So don’t ever toy with those intense emotions, and you will have a loving partner or friend for life. Many people never get to experience that, so never take it for granted.
So you don’t need to be afraid of a Scorpio person, they are certainly not evil and take a bad rap for that. They have a low tolerance for nonsense, don’t like to be lied to, and are never complacent or lazy when it comes to expressing themselves. Water signs do have a propensity to drink or take drugs when they are faced by tragedy and dealing with difficult times, but Scorpios are strong and it takes a lot to get them to that state. If it comes to that, don’t be codependent. Communicate, be clear about what you expect from this relationship, and honor your word. If you can’t get the Scorpio person you love to stop self medicating, or from possible hurtful behaviors, don’t blame yourself.
Any self respecting Scorpio who feels too confined in an unsatisfactory relationship will face up to this. But be aware that when Scorpios walk away, it’s for good. They don’t look back, they move on. When you were getting to know this person, you already knew they were intelligent, exceptional, charming, puzzling, and difficult, with a huge zest and curiosity for life, all in one bundle. Never enter a relationship thinking you can change or remake a person into who you want them to be, especially this one.
A Scorpio person only knows how to be who they are, with no apologies. They will tell the unadulterated truth, so if you don’t want to know the answer to your question, don’t ask it. A Scorpio person who is in a relationship, love affair, or other situation of importance will give it all they have. Don’t try to play games with a Scorpio, if you play with fire, you can get burned. Scorpios never lead you to believe they are anything different than what they are. Take it or leave it.
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
Questions & Answers
Question: My fiance is Scorpio and I am Taurus. He will ask 100 questions in any given minute. His curiosity has no limits or boundaries and he will ask me a question when he already knows the answer. Why does he do this?
Answer: Scorpios are very intense, and he wants to know about whatever you think. Since you are Taurus, it's his opposite sign. So you do have similar views about the important things in life, but may go about showing that in different ways.I am not sure why he asks you something he already asked. Maybe he forgets because he asks so many questions? Scorpios are normally quiet, so be happy you have one who is talking a lot!
Question: Do you think Scorpio men and women share the drive you talked about in your article?
Answer: Yes, I have been surrounded by Scorpios my whole life, have a Scorpio Ascendant, as my husband did, and have a double Scorpio Son. When they put their attention to what they want, they don't waver an inch! They are truly driven. Capricorns are driven to succeed too, but with Scorpios, it's a more personal goal or guideline and they may not even tell anyone what it is.
Question: People say I am the nicest Scorpio ever. Why?
Answer: There are so many misconceptions about Scorpio Suns and Moons. I think it's because Scorpio rules the 8th house in astrology, which rules sex and death, among several other things, and they are just immature and dramatic. I am glad you enjoyed the article, it's for Scorpios like you that I wrote it!
Question: Will Scorpio ever be compatible with an Aquarius ?
Answer: Scorpios are often compatible with Aquarians. Both are fixed signs which square each other, and some astrologers are about doom and gloom and think this is bad. But it offers challenges, and what's more fun than a relationship which challenges you? An Aquarius person is never boring. So the Scorpio will always be trying to read and figure the Scorpio out. But the Aquarius person enjoys the loyalty and love of a Scorpio. Scorpio is a water sign, but Aquarius' symbol is the water bearer, who pours love, or emotion out to others.
Question: I have a crush on a Scorpio and I am a Scorpio too. What to do?
Answer: I don't usually think two people of the same Sun sign are compatible, it can be a lot like dating yourself. But all of your planets are in an astrology sign, not just the Sun. So that means there are other planetary aspects at work here, and that could help you get along. See how it goes. Don't avoid the person just because you are both Scorpios. You are both stubborn, but also loyal and sexy. That goes a long way. If you know your birth times and locations, go to CafeAstrology.com, and you can look up where all your planets are.
Question: People always assume I’m a sex-obsessed, ignorant, and rude person because of my sign (Scorpio), why?
Answer: Sadly, people want to believe the bad traits of Scorpio, when some of the best people I know are Scorpios. They are not all sex and death-obsessed. I am sure you get to the bottom of any issue you want an answer to and will research it until you are satisfied, but that's a good trait. You are sensual, water signs are. Scorpios are generally highly intelligent and competitive. And usually reserved until they get to know they can trust others, so rude? I don't think so. I got so annoyed about the misconceptions about Scorpios I wrote a piece about it, you may enjoy, I will give you the link. I am sure you are a lovely person. Check this out: https://exemplore.com/astrology/Are-Scorpios-Evil? I suppose it's the tendency for Scorpios to see life in black or white, no in-betweens, or the way they go to extremes.
Question: My Scorpio is great. The one quality I have trouble understanding is he has a different set of rules for himself. When I point this out he says he doesn't, but smiles. I think he knows he does but really thinks it's ok. His rising is Leo. Is this a trait that can be overcome?
Answer: It's probably not something that can be overcome. Scorpios think they are a law unto themselves. They do operate according to their own rules. But they are also law-abiding and don't really want to hurt others, contrary to what people often think. Also, the Leo rising is another fixed sign like Scorpio, so you would have a devil of a time trying to change him. Leo rising means he's bossy and likes his own way. But Scorpios are loyal in love, so is Leo. So if he cares about you enough, he won't hurt you. Talk about it with him and let him know what really bothers you. If he cares enough, he will try to accommodate you. If he is hurting you, and won't change his ways, then you have to decide if he's worth the trouble. It sounds to me like you are just observing these features of his personality, and that you really care. So as long as you accept him, and he makes some effort to curb the behaviors that bother you, hopefully, you can go on to enjoy a nice relationship. Good luck!
Question: I am a Scorpio, and found much of this to be true. I love with all my being and always get hurt. How do I change this?
Answer: Thanks for reading my article and writing in. Your question is a hard one though. Scorpios are a lot more tender-hearted and sentimental than most people think, and water signs are so emotional. Are you giving trust to people who don't deserve it? Do you rush into a relationship before you really know someone? Most Scorpios are masters at hiding their emotions when they want to be. So there is something else in your astrology makeup which causes you to be so sensitive. I have a Scorpio Ascendant. People tell me they can't tell if it's the best day of my life or the worst! I will guess you have a Cancer Moon or Venus in Cancer, both placements that are easily hurt. There's no shame in that, but of course, you don't want people to be hurting you! Try to hold back a little until you are sure you can trust people with your innermost feelings. I get that you love with your whole heart. But others don't, so make sure you take more time to protect yourself before you commit. I hope that helps a bit.
Question: Do Scorpios usually have patience?
Answer: Scorpios do have a lot of patience. They are very goal-oriented people and will wait long to get what they want or work very hard to achieve their goal. But they are also very independent and decisive. So if something isn't going the way they want, a Scorpio can quite easily walk away from a situation or person. It depends on how much the situation or issue means to them, that's the key to this. The problem is that it may take a while before the Scorpio walks away, but once they do, they don't look back.
Question: I’m a Sagittarius sun and a Scorpio moon. How come I relate so much more to my moon sign than my sun sign? I thought the Sun sign was the “main sign?”
Answer: No, the Sun sign, Moon sign, and Ascendant have about equal weight in what's called your trinity. Astrology going by just "Sun signs" isn't real astrology. You may have a few planets besides having the Moon in Scorpio, so that would make you seem more Scorpio. Also, Mercury and Venus are the planets closest to the Sun. It's very possible you have both of them in Scorpio as well. I wrote articles about both and will give you the links. See if this sounds like how you think (Mercury) and your love and social nature (Venus). This is a good question and observation about yourself Here are the links: https://hubpages.com/astrology/Mercury-in-Scorpio-... Also,
https://hubpages.com/creative-writing/Venus-in-Sco... You could also have a Scorpio Ascendant!
© 2018 Jean Bakula
Maya on August 16, 2020:
Hi I'm a cancer sun with scorpio ascending and Pisces moon. I sometimes possess all these traits of the signs.can you explain my personality many say I'm hard to understand .
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on June 21, 2020:
The whole point of the article was to prove all Scorpios are not evil. Did you read it at all?
Irene on May 31, 2020:
Hello I just want to say, No scorpios are NOT evil I am a Scorpio and I’d never do anything bad. You said people think Scorpios could do really bad things well ANYONE can. Bye
Aiella L on May 18, 2020:
I admire your writtings. 97% of them i see myself in it.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on December 10, 2019:
Thanks for your input!
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on April 17, 2019:
Thanks Farrah. Always grateful for the praise from a Scorpio.
Farrah Young from Lagos, Nigeria on April 11, 2019:
This is so well written and as a scorpio, I can identify with some if the qualities you listed.
I also believe you are correct in that not all scorpios are horrible people. There are horrible people in all the zodiac signs, the same way you can find nice people.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on October 20, 2018:
There really aren't "cusps", you have to be either Gemini or Cancer. Cusps are what divide the 12 houses. But I do understand that those Scorpios drive everyone crazy, that's why I wrote that article.
Please write back, and give me your month, day and year of birth, and te City and Country or state and I can tell you for sure. Take care.
ziyena from the Somewhere Out There on October 20, 2018:
Had a relationship with a Scorpio a while back who was very difficult to deal with. Pent-up anxiety, fear of commitment, evasive ... it was a rollercoaster ride of a complete mystery. Being the Gemini/Cancer cusp that I am ... not easy. Ever thought of writing about the cusps? Great read
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on October 11, 2018:
I wrote that piece because when HP added the Q&A, you wouldn't believe the questions I was getting about Scorpios. I have the Ascendant myself, and being a Cancer/Capricorn/Scorpio, have always been surrounded by Scorpios.
People seem to think they are all mean or criminally insane. I couldn't resist using "The Bad Seed" for an example. I hear the movie is being remade.
It's hard for me as an astrologer to see one sign or any sign blamed for a person's bad behavior!
Grace Marguerite Williams from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on October 11, 2018:
Jean, I am fascinated by Scorpio. Scorpio is a sign like no other. It is a misunderstood sign, especially by novices & the non-initiated. Scorpio is a powerful sign and psychologically many people are afraid of power. Scorpio is also the sign of knowledge, pure knowledge and again, people are afraid of knowledge. People don't want to delve into deep knowledge because they are afraid of breaking old paradigms. Oh my God, I am inspired to write yet any hub on Scorpio. I can write about Scorpio forever. There are so many facets to Scorpio.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on September 12, 2018:
Nice job, Triple Scorpio.
I like their cleverness, honesty, humor (even their sick humor), and agree, if you aren't independent, they will lose respect for you.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on September 12, 2018:
I knew you would like it! I've had the pleasure of mostly knowing Scorpios like you! Take care.
John Lannoye from Chicago on September 12, 2018:
Jean, this was a fantastic read! You did a fantastic job of capturing the essence of Scorpio and dispelling the myths. Sadly, there's a lot of nonsense online about this sign that is the stuff of fiction. I'm going to share this with a psycho-spirituality group I belong to on Facebook. You are amazing!
TripleScorpio on September 12, 2018:
Scorpios may be the cynics of the universe, but, like paranoid thoughts, cynisism usually contains a germ of truth. The negativity that fuels their cynicism is the same source that inspires their roles of music critic, restaurant critic and, generally, the critic of every single person in their life - especially your boyfriend, and you WILL be given a laundry list of how he needs to improve. Scorpios have a great sense of humor, which is also clever and cutting, but don’t expect self-deprecating humor - Scorpios do not EVER want to be sources of humor. Also, don’t hold your breath waiting for mea culpas - Scorpios consider apologies - at least those coming from themselves - much like they view Hallmark greeting cards: vacuous, saccharine and beneath them. Besides being cynics and critics, Scorpios are the ultimate snobs - not in an artsy, aesthetic Libra way - but about how one runs one’s life, and if you stick around long enough thet’ll let you know it. Also, regardless of the type of relationship you have with a Scorpio, you must hold your own and maintain some privacy or they will lose respect for you.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on September 10, 2018:
Always a pleasure to see you, Grace.
Grace Marguerite Williams from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on September 10, 2018:
Negative mail & comments are part of hub author territory. I received some negative mail regarding Scorpio from a Leo. Nevertheless, I keep writing about Scorpio. Scorpio is one of my favorite signs. I have a Venus & Saturn in Scorpio. I am a Virgo. You also take care.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on September 09, 2018:
Thanks so much for reading my article and commenting. I was getting so much negative mail regarding Scorpios, I got the idea of The Bad Seed in my head. I have a Scorpio Ascendant myself and have always been around Scorpios. I like their independence, curiosity, and of course, interests in the paranormal. Take care.
Grace Marguerite Williams from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on September 09, 2018:
I love this article, Jean. Scorpios are the least understood sign of the zodiac. Scorpio is known as the dark sign i.e. Scorpios are interested in things which others in society deem dark such as the so-called paranormal, death, & other things which conventional society deem as so-called taboo.
Scorpio is a misunderstood sign. Scorpio is a very strong sign. In fact, Scorpio is the strongest sign of the zodiac. Once Scorpio makes up his/her mind to do something, it will be done & accomplished. Scorpio also don't suffer fools gladly. Scorpio sees through the BS & into the true heart of a person or situation.
I find Scorpio to be a quite fascinating sign. I love to explore Scorpio. Scorpio have so many facets to it. You are right stating that Scorpio is an EXTREME sign. Great hub & read, Jean.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on August 26, 2018:
I am so happy you came away from my article understanding the true nature of Scorpios. Take care and thanks for reading my work and commenting.
Mahi on August 26, 2018:
No, this not true that the scorpio's are evil. They are nice
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on August 23, 2018:
It's always good to know my skills are up to date! Both Virgo and Gemini are ruled by Mercury, which rules communication, not surprising for you!
Doris James MizBejabbers from Beautiful South on August 23, 2018:
You suspect right, Jean. I have Virgo rising and a Gemini moon. My best friend is a Gemini (sun sign) We clash sometimes but we've been bffs for nearly 30 years.
Jean Bakula (author) from New Jersey on August 23, 2018:
The area for me to answer these comments is not working, so I'll do it here!
I love hearing from you, it's always a comment well worth reading. I loathe people who don't return books, don't you?
I have a Double Scorpio Rainbow Child who is 30, my one and only. Like they say, "God doesn't give you more than you can bear", lol. So I've walked the walk.
Being a Sun Libra, most people have planets in the Sun sign next to them. That could be Scorpio or Virgo for you. If its Scorpio, my husband used to say "like forces repel." I am Cancer, and find I don't get along with other Cancers either. I know what a meticulous and detailed writer you are though, and suspect those planets are in Virgo!
It's always wise to handle Scorpios with kid gloves. Take care and thanks for writing in!
Hello AM Fredenburg'
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences with your Scorpio Aunt. She is the perfect example of the Eagle or Phoenix who takes someone who needs help under their wing, and devotes themselves to doing all they can for that person.
I like the analogy about the dough. You brought up a great point about Astrology that people often forget. We always have Free Will in life, and can choose how we react to even the harshest circumstances. You have a great attitude and I wish you all the best!
Thanks for the kind words. You are a great parent and very perceptive to have known how to deal with a young Scorpio. I know it's both a challenge and a blessing! I am not at all surprised about your daughter being in medical research, Scorpios research what interests them until they know everything. You must be very proud! Thanks for following me!
Great explanations of the three kinds of Scorpios. Even the lizards or lowest levels DO have the power to rise up. I've seen it in drug addicted relatives and others. These people have strong will power, but it depends on how they use it which matters. More than other astrology signs, they do have strength to overcome the worst difficulties and make great lives for themselves and others. I have known Scorpios in unspeakably bad situations who have turned their lives completely around and reinvented themselves. Sometimes its not about being "good" or "bad". Some begin with good intentions on one path and mature and realize they hate it, and want to do something else. Also, sometimes astrology has nothing to do with anything, lol! Thanks for writing in!
Doris James MizBejabbers from Beautiful South on August 23, 2018:
I had a couple of bad experiences with Scorpios and so I had them misjudged for awhile. As you say, there are good and bad features of every sign. Years ago, I had a very humorous book that lined out the bad features of all 12 signs until it was stolen from me by a nasty Scorpio boyfriend who lied about taking it.
I worked as a dj for a radio station where another female dj, a Scorpio, expressed obvious dislike for me. I'm a Libra. Anyway, I moved to another corporation as a news anchor for their regional network, and a couple of months later, she moved over as a dj on their AM station.(They were an AM-FM-and news network combination.) She extended her friendship to me and we became good friends. One day she acknowledged that she had not been very nice to me and had no idea why she had treated me so badly. I had never given her a reason to. Although we became good friends, I still distrusted Scorpios.
Fast forward to today. One of my three best friends is a Scorpio. She is an African-American lawyer for whom I served as a legal editor for 10 years before retiring. This gentle soul is into metaphysics, especially Tarot, and is one of the loveliest people I've ever met. She is rearing two advanced children, one of whom may be a crystal child. She has totally changed my feelings toward Scorpios. I still find most of them to be prickly toward Librans (I think there is a natural incompatibility there), and when they are, I handle them with kid gloves. But I don't find them to be naturally evil.
AMFredenburg on August 23, 2018:
I have an aunt who is a Scorpio, and she is one of the kindest, most generous people I have ever known. She's also opinionated and outspoken, but on her it's fun. She has taken in people over the years who were rejected by their own families, and has tucked me firmly under her wing in my own adulthood, knowing the difficulties I've had with my own family. I have experienced healing of some old wounds because of her persistent and insistent kindness.
I think astrological influences give us the raw materials, but it's up to us to combine those materials to create our own lives. Given flour, salt and water, we can make biscuits or a pie crust or homemade play dough, or we can glop it together and pour it over someone's head. It's our choice.
Susan Hazelton from Northern New York on August 23, 2018:
I was absolutely fascinated by your hub. I read every word and have saved it to reread. I am a Scorpio (Nov 3) and have a daughter who is also a Scorpio (Nov 4). You are so right on so many levels about the personalities. I learned from my parents how to handle a Scorpio. You need to, as you said, try to guide them, not force them towards their interests not your own. My daughter was encouraged to follow her interest, accept who she is, and live every day following her own dreams. She is a lovely, intelligent woman who knows what she wants and doesn't hesitate to let you know. At this point in her life she in medical research and is quite successful.
You have explained the Scorpio traits and tendencies so crystal clear that anyone could understand them. I am truly impressed by your knowledge. You have gained a new follower.
threekeys on August 22, 2018:
"Always " and "never" are words we can easily use when emotions are running high.
Like with any group or strata there is good neutral and bad with varying groups in between those.
dashingscorpio seems to have gone through the fire early in his life and now is healthy and mature in his expectations and care in his love relationship/s.
Often doctors or surgeons tend to be Scorpions. The non drug affected/users are the Eagle Scorpions like dashing scorpio.
And then there are the dangerous Scorpion Scorpions. If you get a hint of them or are very unfortunate to cross their paths dont look back or stop. Just RUN!!!!!! Get the hell out of there!!!!!