Aquarius Moon Sign Emotions

Hi Jessjay,

I think go along with your nonconformist ways, because that's the way you are. I find that as we get older, we are more accepting of ourselves, and it gets easier to not fit the mold so much. I bet you would rather be a bit lonely than have to be pretending to be someone you aren't. It's brave. Confidence comes along with maturity, and I think you will be fine! Hang in there and take care!

Asha,

I can't really answer this as an astrology question. I don't know anything about his astrology, and very little of yours. If you can't even talk to him and communicate with him enough to see if you have anything in common, and you already feel uncomfortable, I don't know how to help you. If you want to know if he is interested, you have to do the work and try to get to know him. This isn't astrology, it's common sense. Good luck.

Hello Simarae,

This is a lot of information, and it would take me at least two hours to compare two completed astrology charts. What I have to work with here is just planets in Zodiac signs, and it leaves out so much. But since you've read so many of my articles and have been so kind, I will try to interpret what I can, because when you read my work, you are putting your time in too!

I'll start with your Virgo Sun. This means you are reliable, practical, intelligent, and get bored easily. A Sagittarius Sun squares your Virgo one, but this adds challenge to a relationship, and in my marriage, which was a good one, we had several squares. This can cause attraction, and besides, we don't want to be with a carbon copy of ourselves. Sag Sun people are outgoing. They have strong principles, which you will respect with your Virgo Sun. You both like nature and spend time outdoors. A Sag person is broad minded and likes sports. Some of them are chatty, and some are quiet, but they are easy to get along with and usually fun too.

Your Sag Moon shows me you want some emotional distance in a relationship, or in any emotional area of life. You are restless and don't judge other people. I think you like to travel or love a particular foreign culture.The Aquarius Moon is a nonconformist who may care a great deal, but will be hard to pin down in a relationship. It's a very changeable person, in a sort of fun and quirky way. So the Sag and Aquarius moons will work well in a partnership.

Mercury rules how you think, and in Virgo you are analytical, smart, and big on common sense. The Scorpio Mercury is also serious, but has a need to research and get to the bottom of everything. It's a persistent or stubborn thinker. But Virgo and Scorpio are Earth and Water, and compatible as far as thinking goes. Venus in Virgo is a hard placement, it's hard for you to express yourself in love, and it may be that sometimes you settle for friendship with a person rather than a romantic relationship, because you don't want to lose a good friend. A Scorpio Venus is very sexy and intense, and that intensity can scare you, although you have it in you to be sensual. Scorpio Venus is possessive, but since there is also the Aquarius Moon, that can make jealousy less. Mars rules the physical things we do, yours in Virgo and the other in Pisces are opposites, Pisces is a dreamer who is good at creative projects, and you are the balance who helps keep things sensible. Opposites are fine, I don't know why people are afraid of them. You both want the same things, but go after getting them in different ways.

I can't tell much else without casting a whole horoscope, as I can't tell what houses these planets are in, and each house has at least three meanings. I also can't see how far the planets are from each other, so this is a small percentage of what a horoscope would be. It's not a bad combination, it's worth a try and I see some positive points in it. I wish you the best and let me know how it goes. Best, Jean

Same to you. I'll get to your questions as soon as I can! Take care.

Hello Simarae,

I've searched all my life for a religion to believe in, but have never felt at home with any of them. My Dad was a Catholic, but the Church was scary to me as a child and I stopped going, it gave me nightmares, and my Dad got disillusioned with the hypocrisy. Long story. My Mom was Dutch Reform, it's very strict, you can't drink, dance, play cards, sing, it's very repressive and she spent her life rebelling against it. I have studied many religions. A Pagan is just someone who worships nature and the Earth, or appreciates it, it's not Wiccan or anything evil. I do astrology as personality profiles and tarot readings to help people who are stuck in their lives. You can decide if you want me to answer the other question.

Anna,

It's not hopeless. But I don't want you to hold onto false hope either. Give it a little more time, not much if it's been going on this long. See how it goes and maybe give him an ultimatum--but be prepared to walk away if he balks. Somebody devoted could be near and you aren't meeting him as you waste time on someone who won't commit. He's old enough to stop blaming his Mother for his faults. Don't make excuses for him.

Anna,

No astrology doesn't rule us. We always have Free Will and the power to change things. I just don't want you to be hurt.

Hi Anna,

I think I answered this in another question. All I can add is with his Mercury in Cancer, he thinks with his heart, not his head. The 8th house ruled by Cancer means he will probably inherit money or work in the insurance industry or with other people's money. The Gemini on the 7th means he likes change and may not settle down. He may be afraid to based on past family issues.

I didn't know you had Venus in Pisces. That's a very psychic and sensitive placement. His detachment can hurt you and I wouldn't like to see this. I think his moods change often, now that I see he has another planet in Cancer. It's the Aquarius/ Cancer combo that causes all the change. I think my advise above still applies. Take care.

Hello Anna,

Well, you are a very ambitious woman! Aries and Capricorn are both cardinal signs of leadership, so knowing what is called your Trinity tells me you will accomplish what you set out to do. Your Aries Sun gives you an outgoing and adventurous attitude towards life, and you like to try new things. Aries people are ardent and demonstrative in love. You are warm and fun to be with.

The Capricorn influences are a little different. The Capricorn Moon shows that you often hold your feelings in--though the Aries Sun helps with that. You are a bit at odds with your feelings, because Capricorn Moons like to show them in private, and Aries wants to shout it from the rooftops when in love. The Capricorn Rising is the way others see you, and you come off as reserved. You don't like to waste time on people if you don't think they are worth it. You are also family oriented and like to plan ahead. This causes you frustration with your BF because you like security in your love life. You are sensuous and loving. But you do want commitment and to tell others where this is going.

You are right about your love, his Aquarius Moon and Sag rising do mean he likes freedom. But I like the Cancer Sun and Venus. This sign is a square to your Aries and Capricorn, meaning a challenge, but this can be sexy and exciting in a love relationship. People tend to think planets need to be all in easy aspects in love, but that would get boring. So this is good. Cancers also want security, but in the Sun sign, they get bored easily and Cancer men don't do well in marriages for some reason, many get divorced and have been married two or three times. Maybe too much Yin energy? But the Cancer Venus is romantic and gentle, he is sensitive and caring, nurturing, and probably wants a family some day.

The Aquarius Moon means his emotions change suddenly, and actually since Cancer is ruled by the Moon, Cancers change all the time. The Aquarius in him makes bigger, more sudden and drastic changes, the Cancer, smaller changes, like a few times a week. The Sag rising means he likes the outdoors, and Sag people either appear really chatty or very quiet.He has a high moral code and may love foreign travel or philosophy and higher education. Since he has Cancer in him, I think he's the chatty type. I also like the Sag rising with your Aries Sun.

I don't know your ages or how long you have been together. I understand you would like a bit more of a clue where you stand with him. His signs are contradictory. I think I would continue on, but keep your eyes open, and if he isn't ready to commit within a reasonable length of time, let him go. You know what you want out of life and want to start planning that, and he may be too changeable for you. I can't tell if he's just stalling with you, or if he really isn't ready to settle down. I think he can with the Cancer in him. Just be aware he can change his mind down the road even if you marry him. Don't let him break your heart. Give it some more time, but if you aren't making progress, you may have to walk away. I wish you the best. It's not hopeless, there are good things here. It's a matter of how long you want to put life on hold for him.

Thanks so much for your feedback.

Hi Nikki,

I'm Cancer too, and my first love was a Capricorn as well. I was also young when we met, and saw him on and off for a few years. As I got older, I realized I was achieving more in life than he was, and he had me on a pedestal, and that's not as easy as it sounds. Capricorn is our opposite sign, and most of us fall for our opposite one time or other.

First I will warn you that if Mr. Libra still hasn't kicked the substance abuse problem, he isn't going too. Why set yourself up for that, astrology aside? What you say about the house alignment is true, if you have that it means you have similar feelings and attitudes about the important things in life, and that's positive for any long term relationship.

As you say, Cancer and Libra are squared, but that's not bad in itself, we need challenges or it can be boring in a love affair. People over exaggerate squares. The Taurus Moon means he does want to settle down with someone and is very sensual. Being Libra and having Venus in Libra he really wants to be half of a partnership, Libra rules the marriage house. This bodes well for your Aquarius Moon. Being a Cancer with an Aquarius Moon you change all the time so he won't be bored. You are strongly your own person and nobody can change that.

The Leo and Sag ascendants are also good, both fire signs who want to go out and have fun, but you want nice things in life, and his in Sag means he's more lax about things in general. He likes the outdoors. Your Venus in Gemini means you get bored in a relationship if it isn't exciting enough, or you will have two great loves in your life. You also may have been seeing two people at one time.

I can see why you were reunited with him, you are very compatible from the info you gave me. But I have qualms about the drugs. Can you really talk about it? I think you can communicate well, but in the end it takes strength for him to walk away from drugs, and we can't change somebody, change has to come from him, from within.

People have trouble with unconditional love. Some of them didn't have parents where they always felt love, and some, like us, were hurt by first loves. What's the saying, "the first cut is the deepest?"

I think you will give Libra another try no matter what I say, so do it if you must. Just promise to keep your eyes open and don't let him drag you down, OK?? I am not saying he can't change, he has the potential, I just don't know if he will. Best of luck to you both. Jean

You are smart and precise about what you want, but also witty and fun to be with because of your many interests. The Cancer Moon makes you nurturing and considerate. Libra Rising shows you have ambition (so does Cancer) and you like being half of a partnership in work or love.

The Aries Sun is square to the Cancer and Libra, but this can make an exciting difference between you that keeps life interesting. Her Aquarius Moon means she is distant at times, but it isn't personal, she's like that with everyone. Give her some space and don't get too clingy. Scorpio Rising means she has a strong presence and likes to finish what she starts. She is very sexy. I think the Scorpio in her will go well with the Virgo and Cancer in you, and the rest will keep you interested enough to wonder what happens next. Why not?

That Cancer Moon creativity will help you get ideas for your fiction! I think there is hope for this combination. Cancer and Aries Suns are squared, and this is a challenging aspect, but we need some of that if we don't want to be bored to death in a relationship. Being Cancer, you do need some distance or time to yourself, but you can explain that it's not because you don't want to be with him. An Aries can be emotionally less mature than a Cancer, and he wants to be front and center all the time. But adults need to understand that others have needs too. He may hurt your feelings without meaning to, Aries people just blurt out whatever is on their minds.

Libra and Aquarius Moons are good, they are air signs, representing emotions, so you can easily communicate your feelings to each other. Once again, the Aquarius Moon of yours also needs some distance, and you probably seem disengaged to him at times. His Libra Moon craves relationships, and once he decides it's you, he wants you to be with him every minute. He has to learn you have other obligations. But I think you can work through this issue. Your Cancer and Aquarius both make for a changeable person. But so do his Aries Sun and Aries Ascendant, so you both change on a pretty regular basis. So you should see this in both of yourselves.

I like the Aries and Sag Ascendants. You are both approachable and friendly. He is a sort of "life of the party" kind of guy. You can come off as either talkative or quiet at first, there are two types of Sag people. You are philosophical and take the long view of life, a grounding influence on him. He is a very ambitious person and a born leader. You know what you want, but have a quirky side and may be sort of unconventional, but want security. But that's fine, be yourself.

I don't see any big complications here. You have a Cancer Sun so like to know where you are going, and an ambitious person will be attractive to you. He can find you lovable and quirky. I think this is a positive mix. Best of luck in the relationship, you have what it takes to work it all out. Have fun.

Hi John,

I'm so happy what I wrote was helpful to you. Teaching astrology is always a good refresher for me! The Moon is all about your emotions, so yes, the aspects to the Moon are very important. The aspects to your Sun, Moon and Ascendant are the most important.

Since all your planets are in an astrology sign and house, many of them have aspects to other planets. When I interpret a horoscope, I usually interpret the most important ones, and try to keep it at around 15 aspects or so. I am long winded, and when I interpret a chart I always end up with 20 pages, even when I try to be concise. Astrology is a lot of information, enough to be a life time study.

I've been having a devil of a time trying to remember how to cast a composite chart. I only ever did the one for myself and my late husband, and I have been searching piles of folders of notes. I have a computerized one which agrees with my findings on the one I did myself, but mine is a copy, and I didn't copy the math it originally was cast from. I finally realized about two days ago that it's about the times of both births where I have to start, and I was able to get the degree of Sun for the both of us. But that still makes it hard to find the average point of the midheaven, ascendant and all the other planets and house cusps. I am still working on it.

It's a great thing to have. Because of Prince Harry and Meghan, I wanted to try one, and still can't find any directions. I don't like synergy charts, it's no different than casting charts for both people and just reading, "Well his Moon is in Cancer, so he's very family oriented, and he Moon is in Capricorn, so she's very ambitious." Then you sit and compare each planet to planet, that's what sites do. So they would have opposite Moons, not really a problem, they just go about showing their feelings in a different way.

A true composite is a 3rd chart. It's not the chart of you or the other person. It's the chart of the relationship itself, a 3rd entity. Believe me, it's driving me crazy, though I am closer to recalling how it's done now that I can get a composite sun. When I finally recall how it's done, I'll look you up on this hub, or you can find me at jeanbakula@wordpress.com. I never developed it much, it's mostly a landing site for orders, but I do check it and want to make it different. Maybe more posts, but smaller astrology tidbits.

Thanks for your continued interesting questions.T Keep studying! Take care, Jean

Hi John,

Did you check out the article about houses? It explains more than I can here.

Yes, the degrees matter. But I think newer astrologers get too caught up in them. There are 30 degrees in each astrology sign, 0-29.. They are split into something called decans. So 0 degrees to 9 would be the first decan of let's say Aquarius, 10-19 degrees would be the 2nd decan ,

and 20-29 degrees would be the 3rd decan. In my experience, the degree only matters if it's really close. Let's say a Sun is in 29 degrees of Aquarius. Now, newer astrologers would MOVE the Sun if it was within 3 degrees, and put it in the next house.

I'm a purist, and have a Sun like that in the 8th house. So some would insist on putting it in the 9th house. As my personality goes, it could really be in either one. But the 8th house is correct, and reflects my life experience the most, although many of my interests and love of travel are in the 9th house.

I say stick with the real position. The seconds don't really matter, 1 minute or 60 seconds isn't going to change your life.

Some also think if the planet is in the 1st decan, you don't feel it or exhibit the traits as much, exhibit them more in the 2nd, and early in the 3rd, still like the 2nd, but as it gets farther towards the 29th degree, you take on traits of the next sign. I think it's BS.

I hope that helped and wasn't too confusing. A site that I trust and is pretty good for a computerized site is Cafe Astrology.com. But I'm happy to answer your questions. I have hopeless people who write to me, and I have sophisticated ones who are really trying to learn, and I feel so excited by that! I want to cry when I get a naysayer who still thinks it's all about where your Sun was at birth. I've been studying this since I was 10 yr. old, and still have a lot to learn! Keep going, there are a lot of directions to go in!

Hi John,

The house placement has a HUGE influence over the planets. I preach this until I can't take it anymore. When people give me the trinity or a sun sign, I can't tell much. It takes around 12 hours to cast and interpret an astrology chart, and I charge for it. There are 12 houses that have at least 3 meanings each. I have the link to an article I wrote that explains this: http://hubpages.com/astrology/The-Twelve-Houses-of... The picture is large and you will be able to see some of the house meanings yourself.

The 9th house does rule foreign countries, but in most love relationships it is more likely to mean she may be from another country or will love foreign travel a lot. The house also rules higher education, so she can be a teacher or is well educated or smart. It rules law and philosophy too. So has she been involved in lawsuits or is she a lawyer? Does she read about philosophies often, or read a lot for the love of reading? That would be a more complete look at her Venus. Librans are romantic, and she probably is good looking, needs attention and likes beautiful things.

The 4th house is about home, but also real estate, and your relationships with family. So you may want to putter around the house, or could invest in real estate often. You do love home, but basically having Venus in the 4th isn't about stability (though you know yourself), that would be your Moon sign when we look for what gives us stability. You are more possessive than she is, but that will keep you close, and Libras like to be with a loved one practically every minute anyway. You'll be fine.

I have other articles on Exemplore, explaining Moon signs and Sun Signs. I also cover Venus signs on Letterpile.com, where I made up fictional couples, but made them with the same Venus sign. You can find them there and read Libra and Scorpio to get the idea. Have fun. Jean

Hi LaLee,

You are very welcome! I am always happy to hear a positive outcome. I have a good feeling about you two! Jean

Hello Kyra,

Since the Moon rules emotions, Aquarius can make you seem a bit aloof at times. You may be really close with somebody one day, and forget their name the next. You need freedom in a relationship and like to do things our own way. So a clingy person or someone who is too needy may get annoying.

The Cancer Sun makes you nurturing though, so you may experience that need to have some space, and not tell people. You are basically kind and gentle. The Cancer Mercury means you think with your heart, and the Venus Mercury shows you are a true romantic. Three planets in the same sign is called a stellium in astrology. So you exhibit many Cancer traits. You are tender and part of you does want security, and you are artistic and likely psychic too.

Cancers are as changeable as Aquarians can be erratic, so this can work for you! I actually know many Cancer/Aquarius couples. Both signs get bored easily, and crave change, or can want it suddenly. So it works in an odd sort of way. Cancers need time to themselves, and Aquarius needs to be aloof because they are so interested in learning new things.

The Leo rising is the facade you show, or how those who don't know you well see you. Leo is a warm and outgoing sign, loves to entertain, throw parties, go out a lot. So on the surface you seem more sociable than you are. The messy part is because you do need occasional solitude, and emotionally both the stelllium in Cancer and your emotional nature of Aquarius demands it.

Leos and Cancers hate to say no. But you can try to practice it, I think that's causing emotional confusion and disarray. You want to socialize and have fun, but need "down" time. Work on that, you'll get there. Best Wishes.

Hi La Lee,

That Moon in Aquarius will make him "check out" emotionally at times. I don't know how long you have been together. Your Moon and Venus in Sag should be OK with him not being a clingy kind of person, but it does hurt when it seems like someone isn't listening, or is expressing things in a hurtful way. Your ascendant in Cancer does make you super sensitive, and Scorpio Sun means you are possessive, even though the Sag in you is a help in the relationship. His Sun in Virgo also works well with your Cancer and Scorpio.

His Ascendant and Venus in Leo also bode well for your Sag planets. I think you hit it on the head. You need to decide if you can handle that aloof part of him, because at times when you need him, he may be in his own world. I don't think he intentionally wants to hurt you, it's just how he is. I do believe there is hope. We all go through phases, and maybe the timing is just bad lately. Take some more time and think about it. If he keeps putting you off for a long period and you can't get any answers, then you may have to move on. But not just yet, wait a bit. Keep me posted, we can always do a tarot reading.

Hi Lauren,

Happy you enjoyed the read! Best Wishes, Jean

You really can't unless you have a horoscope cast. People go to astrology sites and cut and paste all the signs their planets are in, but that's not what an astrologer needs, and is only part of the picture. You need the day, month and year of birth, and most importantly the TIME of birth, to get your ascendant or rising sign. Also, the city and country where you were born. I can do it, but can't give a URL here, though there is a way to contact me. A site I trust is CafeAstrology.com, you can learn from that. When I answer questions about planets in signs, it is part of the horoscope. But it leaves out all 12 houses. I have an article about that on Exemplore, and also about Sun signs, moon signs, Mercury and Venus. All that takes time to interpret. Then it matters how far all the planets are from each other. It's a lot more work than people understand. Thanks for inquiring. Take care. Jean

Hi Lauren,

Yes, Cancer is ruled by the Moon, I'm one as well! The Moon travels through all 12 Zodiac signs in about 28+ days, like a menstrual cycle. So it affects us Cancers more than anyone. People around us should expect a change every 2 or 2 1/2 days!

The Aquarius Moon rules your emotions. So even though Cancers like stability, our changeable nature makes us open to Aquarius influences. Both signs are nonconformists, and I know several Cancer/Aquarius couples. So there is no "tension" between your Sun and Moon.

The Ascendant in Gemini again is how others see you, and that's intelligent, lively, someone who likes to go out and learn new things. You probably excel at many things. I think you are tall.

The Venus in Leo means that you can be stubborn in love, but also expect many displays of affection. You want to be treated like a Queen. And why not?

Cancer people are gentle and need a long time to open up to others. The Moon and Ascendant in air signs makes you more outgoing than a Cancer description you might read, and more adventurous. Sometimes the Cancer need for security may clash with your emotional, Aquarius Moon, which wants freedom and novelty. But it's not a bad thing. I hope that helps. Take care, Jean

Thank you for responding and reading my work!

No, everyone's chart is a picture of the sky at their time of birth. There are no "family" influences in it except for one I can think of. When a Scorpio in a family dies, another one is born.

Oppositions or squares like you mention are challenging, but also add excitement to life.

Hi Martin,

The house a planet is in is very important. I answer questions here about planets in astrology signs, but it's about 1/6 the meaning of a whole chart, which takes about 10-12 hrs. to cast and interpret. Aspects are the distance each planet is from the others, and means more than what sign a planet is in. These are the 3 biggest factors when interpreting a chart, and there are more.

I haven't written any articles on these, although my audience is more sophisticated about astrology than they used to be. I had to stop answering people who cut and paste all the planets in the signs when they look up their B-days, because it's so little info in reality, and too many were doing it. I then got a nasty email last week from a girl (I assume a teen, she was so rude) and she ranted how I probably was a fake and only cared about money.

I spent years paying for good astrology books, taking courses and workshops, and I don't think she would have spent that much time on me if I asked for free info (she was on my comments page for weeks getting free answers). It really hurt, as my best friend passed away that week.

Venus in Libra in the 9th house is this--Libra is the home of Venus, so it's a great place. It shows the person loves romance and even working in partnerships. The 9th house represents education, foreign travel and countries and philosophy and religion. So the person would excel in these areas. The Moon in Aquarius is another air sign, also the moon represents emotions. So it means attraction to an intellectual person who likes those topics too. But the 12th house is about secrets, and secret sorrows. So there may be heartache in this relationship, or one of the parties is not telling their true feelings and being secretive, or both are keeping it secret.

Close aspects like a conjunction intensify the Venus in Libra. Let me see if I have an article on this. But as you see, all these factors have to be put together like a puzzle, and it takes time. I'm glad you are learning the right way. I may have an article on this at jeanbakula.wordpress.com. But a site I trust, not for charts, but astrology basics, is CafeAstrology.com. Maybe this should be the next thing I write. Thanks for the question and idea. Best Wishes. Jean

Happy you enjoyed it!

Hi John,

Ok, well first off, squared or opposite moons are not as bad as some people seem to think they are. If we all got along so easily, wouldn't life be a bore after a while? The square is more challenging, but can bring excitement into a relationship. The opposition means both want similar things, but have different ideas about how to achieve them. It's easier than a square. My husband and I had squared Venuses and Moons, and were married for 39 yrs, (he passed 4 yrs. ago) everyone thought we were the perfect couple. His Venus was in Pisces and mine in Gemini, Moons in Capricorn and Aries. I planned and he had no foresight.. I liked to talk things out about our relationship, but he was a total romantic and probably would forgive me anything. It's older astrology books that make these aspects seem so dire.

As far as synastry charts, I think you can get a lot out of them, but I don't like to do them. Basically, event though I can predict issues you will have and easy areas for you, I can't predict a couple will stay together forever or a huge length of time. Sometimes we meet someone and are together for a few months, and it changes us forever, that's our soulmate. It's two Natal birth charts compared.

A composite takes both your Natal charts, and creates a 3rd entity, your relationship. I had ours done a little before we married, and reading it 39 yrs. later, can't believe how accurate it was! I have been considering offering them, but in the beginning of the year I am swamped with people who want Natal charts, they are making resolutions to know themselves better, and want to utilize the knowledge in the chart.

So I am deciding if I want to do composites. That's the better thing. If you want one I can suggest two good astrology sites I even trust, Cafe Astrology and Astrotheme.com. I don't know if they offer them, they will be computer generated and will have jargon you won't get, but what they say about the relationship will be accurate. Otherwise, ask me again in the Spring. I learned how to cast charts when I was 21, and it's been so long I have to recall how to do composites! But people are asking, and I do know how good they are, so once I dig out from my pile now, maybe I will refresh my memory and start doing them again. Take care.

I didn't think the planets were incompatible. Sag people are free spirits. There are the quiet ones, and the ones who never stop talking! Sometimes people really do realize what they had and come back, maybe it will happen.

Yes, I sometimes can feel my husband around. I am not religious and needed an interfaith minister to help with the service when he passed. She was a clairvoyant in my area, and I had taken metaphysical classes at her business, but not with her. Since I write, I wrote his eulogy, and she added a lot to it. She really was good, and at first she knew so much about him, although they never met. A few nights after he passed, I awoke and saw a ball of white light over my head. She said that was his spirit. I had trouble learning to sleep alone. She said he used to sit by me until I did fall asleep. I don't feel him as much, just every now and then. But I believe in reincarnation, and know he's reviewing this life, so I guess he's busy! But she helped me through those first hard months, and I got more clairsentient since then, a big help for when I cast charts.

I never promise a life long union to anyone, even if you are very compatible. If you are twin souls, or soulmates, you would know that immediately. Something he said or did would have triggered that off right away, or at least in a few weeks. The night I met my husband, he told me "I vibrated faster than anyone he ever met." This is a pretty involved metaphysical observation from someone who was 19 at the time. We dated for 5 yrs. and were married for 34 (he passed away, it's been 4 yrs. today, and I didn't even go on a date yet, nobody measures up).. Many of our unmarried at 30 yr. old son's friends thinks he remains so because they all think we had the perfect marriage. It was good, and the planets were good. But when we met we had astrologers casting our charts, and nobody could say more than what they saw as they knew us.

Scorpio and Aquarius are two fixed and stubborn signs, so you will have challenges. But that combo is often together and seems able to overcome them.

Your Venus in Libra, the marriage sign, makes you yearn to always be half of a couple. His Venus in Sag means he needs more freedom, but they are compatible and I like that.

Saturn is a karmic planet, so it's hard for me to know what about you both it affects without a chart. I don't know what houses they are in or what aspects they make to other planets. He is sensible, but you are fair in general matters. Mars in Sag and Scorpio are next to each other, so that's usually good, signs next to each other agree easily. I don't know where his Moon is.

I would maybe suggest that since you are both mature and give each other space this could definitely go somewhere. You should both feel the "soulmate" things. I would think a tarot reading specifically about the relationship would help us see where this is going. You can look me up at jeanbakula@wordpress.com. Astrology tells us a lot, but I never predict forevers. Even a soulmate can be in your life for a short time, but you never forget him/her. You both have lessons to learn from each other, but have been together in other lifetimes, and I don't know if you believe in reincarnation. So there are a lot of metaphysical concepts in your question, and even if I did two charts, I'd never say "forever." I'd go with the tarot reading, but otherwise say give it a shot, it looks good.

Take care,

Jean

I'm glad you enjoyed it! I can't interpret all this without drawing up a horoscope, time doesn't permit me, as I have a large clientele of paying customers. You can find more on jeanbakula@wordpress.com Best Wishes.

It is a tough situation. You have the Scorpio Mars and he has the Taurus one, and actually Taurus is more passive than Scorpio. I think it's good to make yourself less available, and at least you are trying by having one night a week where you can try to show and tell him what you need.

I think that's fine for a bit. But honestly, I wouldn't give it more than a few months. There's somebody else out there who will satisfy your need to have a regular relationship, and will appreciate you more. Open relationships let one person take advantage of the other, as it isn't what you want. I understand there is an attraction, but how would he like it if the shoe was on the other foot? Try for a bit, but if he doesn't change, move one. Best of luck to you!

Hello Daniels,

Well, I have a Gemini Moon and my love of 39 yrs. had a Pisces one, and we got along fine. She is more of a free spirit and may not want to be tied down as much as you do. A Taurus Moon loves relationships and is a little old fashioned, or romantic. The Mercury and Venus are OK in Libra and Scorpio. Signs next to each other usually work out well. Her Mars in Scorpio actually helps more with your Taurus Moon, it's opposite, but that's an attraction. Your Mars in Cancer makes you home loving and possessive, but also loyal and kind.

The biggest issue I see is that in my 40+ yrs. of Astrology, I only saw one couple with the same Sun sign that stayed together. It's strange, but true, and I've worked with thousands of people. They were Capricorns, boring as hell. I am a Cancer Sun and dated another one for a while years ago, but it felt more like we were friends, or like dating yourself. That may be what you are feeling. So maybe you are too much the same, and that's what's nagging at you. Libra is the marriage sign.

I'd rather see you with an earth or water sign sun. I see you as sensitive and wanting to build a life with someone. Maybe she does, but she craves more freedom than you. I hope that helps. If you really try hard and can accept she needs space, I think this could work. The Venus and Mars you have together is good too. But I worry about the same Sun sign thing. Take care.

Hi,

I apologize for being so hard on you. I had a large bunch of questions where people want me to basically do hours of work for free, and I simply can't do it, there aren't enough hours in the day.

Some of their "problems" seem so trivial to me. But yours isn't. I am a bit stumped here though, I must admit. As far as his planets and yours go, there should be more compatibility. I was with my Taurus for 39 years, and they like romance, and are generally faithful. The Venus in Aries man normally likes to show off his girlfriend, and sort of puts her on a pedestal. And in an odd way, he is, when you are the one who he takes to meet the family and friends. It sounds a little like a Madonna/Whore thing. He doesn't want you to be a "hookup", but wants YOU to be the Madonna. I can see how frustrating this is for you. His Scorpio Mars isn't helping here either. But as I said earlier, a few squares don't kill a relationship, sometimes they add to it.

Did you talk to him about how neglected you feel in the sex department? Or won't he discuss it?

I really don't know what to say. I'm sure you are attractive, and it seems you aren't going to get what you need from him. Or even if you do for a while, he may revert to his bad ways, or you will worry he will. That would be stressful.

With your Moon in Gemini and Venus in Aquarius, you may be giving off a more " I don't need anyone vibe" than you think you are. But with the Pisces Sun, you are sympathetic and psychic and gentle in relationships.

What's your Ascendant? Even so, I can't say why people are not meeting your sexual needs. This is a tough one. I do think with the current guy, there is an expiration date. You need someone who makes you happy and fulfilled. And you shouldn't be blaming yourself so much. Maybe the right one hasn't come along yet? Have you had this issue with anyone else (it sounds like yes)?

Maybe you just have a sort of "girl next door" kind of appeal when guys meet you, and have to get past that. I wish I could be more helpful. Keep in touch and let me know how it goes. There are a lot of confusing grand trines and aspects going on right now that are upsetting everyone in different ways. Why don't you try to talk, even if you already have? See if you can make any progress. I can't tell if he wants you to be the "good girl" or if he just wants you to be the cover up for all his hookups. Men, they are so impossible.

I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Just don't keep hitting your head on a brick wall if you can't get through. Try, but move on. Take care.

I'm sorry, but it takes 10-12 hours to cast a horoscope, and I can't interpret all these planet lists people send me without drawing one out.

I can answer that just squared moons or one or two square or opposite aspects don't mean it's bad, we need some challenges in a relationship for it to work.

My husband and I were together for 39 years with squared Moons and Venus.

You seem to think just sex is enough to make a relationship work. It's not. As you pass the years together, you will have money issues, maybe children, you will be sick and have to take care of each other. You may have to take care of your own parents. You will face serious job and career issues. You may not like each other's friends. People you love will die, and eventually, if you are together long enough, one of you will die first. The loneliness is unbearable.

If he is so used to hookups, and your biggest fear is holding his sexual interest, I think both of you are too immature for this to work. He only wants sex, and you think it's all that matters. Grow up first and take some time off from "relationships" like this. I'm not saying this to hurt you, but you have to be more realistic about life.

I answered this and am unsure why it came back. Any planet Pluto aspects is intensified, so if it is near your Moon, you will feel a huge range of emotions. It's hard to say, I wouldn't say it acts like a Moon in Scorpio. People seem to think all kinds of oddball things about Scorpio Moons. It's not all about sex and death if you have only one planet in a sign. I am unsure why you aren't feeling Cancer or Sag, sometimes people have a stellium, or 3-4 planets in another same sign, so that makes a big difference in a horoscope. But I can't tell without drawing one out.

The Scorpio in Pluto is a generational thing, and doesn't mean much at all in an individual's chart. The house it's in and aspects it makes to faster moving planets are what matters.

You have to actually have planets in the astrology sign to feel the effects. You have a lot of fallacies about Astrology.

When Pluto aspects any planet, it's energies are intensified. Since the Moon rules emotions, you will feel all of them more. I am unsure why you don't feel Cancer or Sag. Some people have stelliums, or 3-4 planets in a different sign than the Sun, Moon and Ascendant, and then they would show a lot of traits in whatever sign those planets are in. I really can't know more without casting a chart. I don't know why everyone gets so worked up about a Scorpio Moon. It causes intense emotions, leadership ability, intelligence and the willpower to stay on topic. It's not even about sex or death all that much if you have only one planet there. Jean

It's always the darkest before the dawn too. It hurts, I know. Hang in there.

I also have an opposition of Sun and Moon-Sun in Cancer, Moon in Capricorn. It means we don't always present ourselves as we really are. Our emotions are a bit out of synch with the person we want everyone to know. I think my Moon gets out more to people, but I have a Scorpio Ascendant. Your Libra one is compatible with both signs. It's not a serious thing unless people close to you keep misunderstanding you. I wouldn't worry about it.

I've been telling everyone I can't possibly cast a whole horoscope for free, and to stop emailing a list of planets from a site. No offense, but it takes 10-12 hours for me, and I charge $100.00. The site that you got the planets from will be cheaper, but not as good. If you are serious, details are on jeanbakula@wordpress.com. I understand most people don't realize how much work it is. I can read a few planets and answer what is a simple question like you first asked because of my years casting horoscopes. Take care.

No problem, Mel. Take care.

That's a good mix. The Sun in Taurus is stable and reliable, pleasant and sensual. The Ascendant in Venus is the way others see you, so in Gemini you are more fun loving and intellectual than Taurus, not that Taurus isn't intelligent. They are practical and what they can actually use is important to them. The sign is ruled by Venus, so you are romantic, but more lighthearted than your Taurus Sun would make you. It's an earth sign, so you may enjoy the outdoors and environmental causes could attract you, as the Aquarius in you likes to get you involved in causes.Venus in Gemini likes to chat and is a social butterfly, also smart. You could be in love with two people at the same time, or have two great love affairs in your life. I have seen that pattern with Venus in Gemini often, and even in myself! The Moon in Aquarius means you need freedom and that may clash with your Taurus Sun in some situations. But it grounds you to have the Sun where it is. Both Taurus and Aquarius are fixed signs, so you are stubborn. Taurus is passive/aggressive, Aquarius just does what it wants. There are lots of contradictions in astrology, so the traits depend a lot on the situation and how important it is to you. Best Wishes.

I'm really sorry, but can no longer accommodate people who send me a whole list of planets copied from a site. I do small interpretations for about two planets, but I can't interpret a list like this without drawing out a whole chart, and would need a lot more information about you. If you want an astrology chart, go to jeanbakula@wordpress.com. I charge $100.00. Take care.

Hi Jelena,

It's normal to appear like a Scorpio, that's what the Ascendant does, it's the facade we hid behind. I am a Cancer Sun with Scorpio Rising too! I also have a grown Scorpio sun, he's wonderful and smart, but was hard to raise. They are so intense emotionally they can't even understand themselves until the adult years. I often get told that "you seem like you don't want to be bothered with people: but Cancers are private and so is Scorpio, we need alone time. Both are strong signs, and maybe you give too much of your power to others. My first love was a Capricorn, we have a lot in common. The Aquarius Moon makes you seem aloof. But you aren't concerned with petty things, you have a broader look at the world. All three are signs that you don't want to be surrounded by people all the time, though Cancers are friendly and loyal friends. We need to be careful not to be taken advantage of. Take care, Jean

Yes, the Pisces sun is very romantic and some can be downright doormats, but they are very devoted to loved ones and like to be together often. Taurus is also a bit Jealous, and likes to be possessive. But your Aquarius Moon emotions need some space, and you like time to do stuff on your own. Cancer Suns are clingy, but also have a lot of interests, so if you explain it's not because you don't care, you need "me" time, a Cancer does too, so maybe they will understand that. I know many Cancer/Aquarius couples. Cancer has the Moon in all 12 signs each Month, so they like change. Aquarius change is more dramatic, but something both signs have in common. Virgos want to take care of you. Just humor them. They are witty and restless, something else you find in common with that sign. Try to work with the traits you have in common. With Taurus Rising, you seem more "settled" than you really are. Tell someone if they are smothering you in a nice way. It can work surprisingly well. Take care.

OK. An Aquarius Sun and Taurus Sun is a square, meaning you both want your own way. You have great, unusual ways of seeing the world, and Taurus is gentle and loves the outdoors, a real environmentalist. Taurus people are ruled by Venus and easy to get along with. They are romantic. Your Aquarius Sun is very independent, and so are you. You are aloof at times, but with the Scorpio moon need time to yourself. A Taurus is not as adventurous as you, but the Sun signs will be challenging and fun. They are loyal and usually everyone loves a Taurus. Plus emotionally you understand the Aquarius Moon person, and they understand your Aquarius Sun. Wow, I like that. Libra rising is someone who likes to entertain and have parties, go out, see shows, a social creature. A Sag rising person is interesting to talk too, and likes to get into discussions about education, philosophy and has a big interest in other cultures, probably loving travel. I think you make a good pair. Good luck!

Hello Regina,

Both Cancer and Aquarius are signs of a nonconformist. You won't change if you don't want to, and may enjoy being different from others in some way. Cancers are kind and gentle people, family oriented, but also leaders. Aquarius people are very intelligent, and are changeable, often doing things on a whim. Cancers change a lot because the Moon rules them, so it's a person who is comfortable with change, smart, and likable. Someone who wants to keep learning and growing. Best, Jean

Thanks for your compliments and for reading my work, Maria! Best Wishes, Jean

Mia,

Alexair has more advice for you. Best, Jean Let me know how you are doing.

He sure is heartless and immature. And what's wrong with his family? They should be encouraging him to be responsible. Do you live with your family, and are they accepting of this? Or do you have any help? I'm so sorry.

What does he mean "you will never change?" It takes two to make a child. He is half of the equation. Does he have any normal family members you can talk too? You are not crazy and don't owe anyone an apology.

Mia,

I'm so sorry to hear about this, a man should never abuse a woman, or vice versa. How far along are you? I don't want to sound cold, but are you prochoice or prolife? Only because if it's early, and he already shows he has no interest in this child, it will be a hard road for you. Please don't take offense. Have you met his family or spoken with them. Maybe they will shame him into taking responsibility for his child. I hope it works out. Let me know how you are doing. Love, Jean

Hello Alyssa,

Three years isn't much, but it can be depending on how mature you both are. The are ages where you still have a lot of growing and self discovery going on. But I married the guy I fell for when I was 18 (not until I was 24) and we had a great marriage. His Venus in Gemini make him a flirt, but since his Sun is in Taurus he is faithful and would like to settle down someday. The Mercury in Gemini means he's intelligent, and so does the Aquarius Moon. You are more emotional than him with the Scorpio Sun, Venus and PIsces Moon. Taurus and Scorpio are opposite signs, so that's the attraction. It's not a disaster. He's a little more lighthearted than you are. If he works or goes to college, and seems like he has goals in life, then I say go for it. If he is just drifting through life, I would say no because of the two Gemini planets. But as long as he isn't living a crazy life, there's no reason astrologically that you can't get along. Good luck. We could always do a tarot reading and see what comes up about your relationship, check for me at jeanbakula.wordpress.com. Take care.

I also think once you love someone, you always will, love never dies. I'm Cancer with a Capricorn moon, and I couldn't deal with someone I loved who was in a relationship with me sleeping with other lovers. She is selfish in her way. She's only going to keep hurting you, and you seem so nice. Really, I think it's for the best. Give it time, and you will begin to heal. Jean

Mel, that's a beautiful way to end a relationship if that's the way it has to be. You are the more mature one, and Scorpios mellow out with time. You have to find someone who you trust more. The reason her want of freedom bother you so much is because you don't trust her. Now, that could be the fault of either of you. But I think you did the right thing. You can get through this hard time and will meet someone else when the time is right. It's usually when you aren't looking. Hang in there. Jean

Mel,

It sounds like you did the best you could. Two fixed signs are going to have problems, you are both stubborn, even though Aquarians are "free", notice she still wants her way as well. Also, sometimes the timing is just wrong in a relationship, though I think you said you have broken up and came back together again. My first love always broke up with me when the going wasn't even that tough. He was a few years older than me and I was so crazy about him, I put up with it for a long time, 4 yrs. Finally, I broke up with him, and met the man I dated for 5 years and was married to for 34. He has passed, but I learned what it was like to be truly loved by a mature person. I have a rule I tell anyone who has been through a breakup. If someone will leave you once, that already is the pattern or foundation of the relationship. It will always be that way. I am sorry, I know you are in pain. But your truer love could be right around the corner. And don't worry about hogging up space, I'm here to try to help. Plus, there are lots of Aquarians around who also have planets in more stable signs and can compromise more. There's hope for you yet, my friend. Take care.